JustPearlyThings - Modern Society Is Bad

00:00:00.000 imagine you had a man who was home seven nights a week he was always home i'm talking about like 0.99

00:00:03.420 an hour like during his work lunch you don't even notice then would you even give a shit about 0.94

00:00:08.580 monogamy if you had all of his time effectively would you really care i still would care because

00:00:13.620 i i feel like it's still just an hour a day and we're not it's not really quality time i feel i

00:00:18.060 really have been in so many different situations again the trainer in austin to the nba player

00:00:22.660 baby daddy like i i have seen all of that stuff and it's just my personal experience and perspective

00:00:27.860 to where i want someone that sees the value in the grand canyon i want somebody who i understand

00:00:32.300 okay so so that's a good point and that's just ask the first question i'm gonna ask the second

00:00:35.480 question the realization you've come to is an interesting one it is something that happens

00:00:41.180 especially to to females as they mature don't you think it's strange or why do you think that

00:00:46.480 zero women on earth choose those kind of men who they perhaps have slightly lower status but 0.81

00:00:52.280 are more likely to be uh loyal to them and be monogamous etc in the modern world because like

00:00:57.160 the world's changed why do you think zero women choose them when they're at the peak of their 1.00

00:01:01.240 choices so when a woman is 19 and she can go anywhere she wants every man wants her she's can 1.00

00:01:07.000 go on any y'all in miami she can get flown out to dubai when she has all the choices in the world

00:01:11.640 why is she completely uninterested in those kind of men and then when she gets to a certain age of

00:01:16.700 maturity and all there's a whole new generation of girls who have all the choices then they sit 1.00

00:01:20.940 there and go you know what i deserve monogamy and data and they all of a sudden want to grow up 0.64

00:01:26.240 and mature why don't does why does no woman decide that when she actually is at her most valuable i i

00:01:30.700 feel like for like i said i don't like to speak for all women i just speak for myself but i know for me

00:01:34.740 that i was looking for a man for a lifestyle something that i was not able to do individually

00:01:39.660 by myself so that's why it's like well yeah i want to be able to do this do that i want to go for

00:01:43.860 the football player that was just on gq and in reality now i realize well okay there's a lot that

00:01:48.460 comes with that i can make my own money i don't necessarily need that type of guy for the happiness

00:01:53.460 that i'm looking for again seeing value in the grand canyon is a lot different than like okay

00:01:57.860 here's money for this here's allowance for that and that's the same thing as you asking why a man

00:02:02.840 that is 20 21 23 is not a top g like a 30 40 year old man the point your age actually dictates your

00:02:09.460 sort of maturity to a large extent well i'm arguing the point the point i'm trying to make is that what 0.96

00:02:13.960 i actually think happens especially in the modern world because the modern world's all fucked up and 0.62

00:02:18.660 nothing's the way it's supposed to be the traditional life path of a female is she's 17 1.00

00:02:23.520 she's 18 she's 19 and her value is massively inflated and i don't blame her of course it's 0.97

00:02:29.060 massively inflated imagine being 19 years old have achieved exactly fucking zero in your life 0.76

00:02:33.800 knowing nothing you put makeup on and and sports stars billionaires actors the most important famous 0.58

00:02:41.440 people on the planet the richest men on the planet are begging for your attention the ego you're going 0.98

00:02:45.960 to develop let's all be honest right the ego you're going to develop is gonna be monumental 0.98

00:02:49.160 fucking mental i'm special i'm so gorgeous all this bullshit right and then what happens as they 0.99

00:02:53.940 grow older as new generations come along because the truth is most women are are at their peak 1.00

00:02:59.360 attraction let's say in their early 20s as they grow older what they what women become is far more 0.93

00:03:04.620 fearful of competition this is why you'll see a woman who's a bit older go oh you know i really want 0.99

00:03:08.560 monogamy today what she's scared of is her dude getting a 21 year old that's what she's fucking scared of 1.00

00:03:12.520 she may not know it she may not say it but basically that's what the truth is because she knows a 0.96

00:03:16.920 21 year old is gonna be more desirable higher status more fertile that's what she's scared of 1.00

00:03:21.520 cheating is bad when you're 30 or 27 so no but i'm not it's not about that i'm telling you the the 0.99

00:03:26.520 the shift in the female mentality because when a female is 20 she doesn't give a fuck about 1.00

00:03:31.360 any of this she doesn't want to find a nice man now she's trying to like you're saying chasing a 1.00

00:03:35.200 lifestyle chasing mr promiscuous chasing mr famous doesn't give a shit until she starts getting 0.99

00:03:39.780 scared oh shit oh my my age begins with three now and then they change their mentality changes 1.00

00:03:45.620 it's a fear element that's the reality and it's a biological fear element i'll give you an example 0.99

00:03:49.680 of it you know what's amazing about humans we are still very primal if when when men like these two

00:03:56.000 and me when we walk through the mall people just move it's like you can sense when you can sense when

00:04:02.020 the big animals turn up right it's something amazing about humans if you have a very attractive 45 year

00:04:07.340 old woman she's gorgeous but a gorgeous 19 year old walks in look at that 45 year old woman's face 1.00

00:04:12.520 she's furious she fucking hates her she just doesn't like her for no reason because women understand 1.00

00:04:18.260 unfortunate unfortunately but you're innately your age is a massive indicator in your value 0.99

00:04:22.800 in an inverse way to men men are more valuable as we get older every man every woman knows that

00:04:28.020 every woman will sit here and go yeah i know a man who's older than me of course but if i say it

00:04:31.720 the other way around i'm misogynistic it's just the reality of the world so so then we have to go

00:04:35.180 into the other point the point is this when you were at your peak value you had zero interest

00:04:40.440 in monogamy but then you find a man who's 35 at his peak value he's finally struggled and worked

00:04:46.940 because when he was 19 no girl spoke to him when he was 23 he was broke when he was 24 he had no life 0.82

00:04:52.100 experience when he was 25 he couldn't fuck when he was 20 whatever he finally gets to the point where 0.96

00:04:56.880 he's now at his peak value him at 35 is you when you were 19 and then you're sitting there saying to 0.99

00:05:02.580 him no you should be a monogamy it's like well you fucking weren't you did whatever you wanted 0.99

00:05:07.740 in your peak now i'm finally got there and i had to work for my shit god gave you god and l'oreal gave 0.99

00:05:13.600 you you i had to fucking struggle i had to go through hell to get on this yacht you got on the yacht with 0.99

00:05:18.340 an instagram dm i had to buy it and now you're telling me i need to fucking settle down and behave 1.00

00:05:23.100 and grow up fuck you it's bullshit you're assuming that the journey is a man that starts with nothing 1.00

00:05:28.620 to something because there's a lot of men that have exactly the journey of every man on earth 1.00

00:05:32.340 we are born without value do you ah so there's there's specificity in that because that's not

00:05:38.200 how it should be for everybody and that's not how it is for everybody and not for every woman either 0.99

00:05:42.360 as well may i just say can ask britney something please um you know like oh then you've learned in

00:05:48.180 the past and now you want to find someone to settle down with hindsight now would you have

00:05:54.060 reversed it and like started young looking for someone to settle down with looking for those

00:05:57.920 values that now you know i'm talking about with hindsight okay well i've i actually from 18 to 22

00:06:04.240 i was in a relationship i've always actually been a lover girl despite what i put out online for you

00:06:09.360 know i've never seen you online yeah that's fine well that's even better um i have always wanted

00:06:14.840 one person and i feel like i was so delusional in thinking that oh i'm i'm like you said like i

00:06:21.260 have value i'm beautiful i'm this i'm at my peak like why wouldn't you want to be with me so

00:06:24.660 going into these relationships or just like p i'm sorry just people my goal was always to get

00:06:30.340 commitment like i'm giving you my time i'm pouring into you because i want commitment and

00:06:34.780 the reality is i'd never had i'd never really understood my value so i was going through guys

00:06:40.020 giving up sex doing this and it didn't make sense so i believe in like i stay on everything

00:06:44.620 i do like i i don't i don't do apology tours it is what it is and i think that's where i feel like

00:06:50.380 when it when i talk about women being delusional and all these other things it is true because what 1.00

00:06:54.060 you have to understand is that there are repercussions to your decisions which is fine

00:06:56.980 so then you're talking about okay well i want this type of guy i want this that and that you're talking

00:07:00.780 about maybe monogamy that's three to five percent of animals are monogamous i think that's what it is

00:07:04.180 right so the your window is really really small for what you're looking for and even to go on to the

00:07:09.720 point you said where you were talking about it's like a subconscious fear

00:07:12.040 i think it's like for me i feel like if it was more of a fear i would have just stayed in my

00:07:16.100 situation like it wouldn't have made sense like i mean that was my first kid i thought i waited and

00:07:19.920 did it right i left because i believe that there's something else on my heart when it comes to love

00:07:24.740 and i'm just gonna have to trust that and if that means being alone having a dog i have to take that

00:07:29.260 chance because the bentley the ring the house and still getting again deceived right disrespected 0.99

00:07:36.360 because deceit is disrespect right so i just i cannot settle for that i can't suck a dick and 0.99

00:07:42.940 shut up and that is where a lot of people don't like my views and what i represent because it is 0.98

00:07:48.200 something new i don't know how it's gonna fucking end i don't know what's gonna happen would you tell 0.99

00:07:52.480 you're 17 if you had to like what would you tell your 17 year old self knowing what you know now 0.89

00:07:58.200 looking back and you had to meet yourself at 17 what would you tell your what would you tell

00:08:03.220 yourself like lock it down and wait for the right man don't have sex what would you tell your 17 0.89

00:08:07.720 year old self that the answers aren't outside of you because i feel like i'd always look for

00:08:15.560 men to answer all my questions that i've ever had i thought when i had a man it would complete me

00:08:20.080 complete me and i feel like too um especially with like my dad not being in my life you look for

00:08:25.080 somebody to guide me like so that's where for me i put too much value in someone else having the

00:08:31.600 answers for me so that's why i'm really big on accountability so i i would just tell myself like

00:08:36.480 to be patient to take your time because i was always quick oh let's try to get in a relationship

00:08:40.520 like we weren't even compatible there's a lot of just not compatible factors so i feel like for me

00:08:46.400 it would be to slow down and to really get to know people instead of just blindly banking on potential

00:08:52.500 that most likely will never be tapped into or selling myself short because there's a fear of well 0.99

00:08:56.800 i don't know this could be the best that i could get i might as well just suck up shut up and suck a 0.99

00:09:00.260 and that's what that's what i meant about about women nowadays because exactly what you'd be 1.00

00:09:05.640 telling your 17 year old self is what happened back in the day so when i'm repeating these things

00:09:11.020 i'm going oh you're old-fashioned but it seems like women do what they like and then they hit a 1.00

00:09:16.560 certain age and say oh well i've got to settle but it's not settling you're just getting whatever

00:09:20.600 you can you know or whatever you deserve you know because if you think back now you'd be telling

00:09:25.600 people now rather than say that auntie's old-fashioned or auntie don't know what she's

00:09:29.560 talking about look what she'd be telling her 17 year old self which ain't nothing that i already said

00:09:33.980 yeah because really and truly let me finish let me finish because what i've always said and you can

00:09:39.520 check i'm an older version of you so where you've been i've already been an upper comeback so that's why

00:09:46.780 i asked you what would you tell your 17 year old self because me telling you is i'm telling my 30

00:09:52.560 year old self do you understand where i'm coming from so it's not that i'm old-fashioned it's just

00:09:56.860 that women hit a certain age and then realize oh my god it wasn't that old-fashioned you know it 0.95

00:10:02.720 works because it does but there's no point in waiting till you're a certain age to start thinking

00:10:09.120 about it you know even if you're like you hold your own accountability so it's like if you meet

00:10:14.340 somebody and they were like 17 18 and you saw the match in a certain way they asked you for advice

00:10:18.080 you won't say do as i do you say listen this is what happened to me and this is what i thought and

00:10:22.280 what i recommend you do is blah blah blah am i right or am i wrong if they ask you for your advice

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JustPearlyThings - December 28, 2022

Modern Society Is Bad

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