JustPearlyThings - October 25, 2023


Modern Wives GO BROKE For Beauty


Episode Stats


Length

8 minutes

Words per minute

174.7866

Word count

1,447

Sentence count

85

Harmful content

Misogyny

31

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Hate speech

17

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Summary

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Why do modern wives spend so much money on makeup and other things that don't serve their husbands? Is it because they don't want to spend money on themselves or because they want to be a good mother to their kids?

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 This weekend I spent a lot of time thinking about what true femininity is and I thought about how 0.53
00:00:06.020 you have these women that sell femininity courses and they typically have on a lot of makeup and 1.00
00:00:12.160 maybe they sell courses on makeup, getting your nails done and looking elegant and really there's
00:00:18.940 nothing wrong with that. Image matters, image is important but a lot of times I'll meet these women 1.00
00:00:23.920 and there's not an ounce of femininity in their body and I was trying to understand like why are
00:00:29.060 these women not feminine. I can see that they're not feminine but I can't exactly explain to you why 0.79
00:00:34.500 and I thought about how one of the most feminine women I have ever met in my life really she didn't 1.00
00:00:41.240 have the latest fashion trends and she was overweight. She wasn't what these women sell and I thought to 1.00
00:00:48.140 myself what makes her selfless and the conclusion I came to was when you think about our great
00:00:55.440 grandmothers and our grandmothers they didn't care about the latest fashion trends. They didn't 0.99
00:01:00.940 care about being all polished and proper. What was most important to them was the men in their lives.
00:01:07.880 True and this is what I tweeted, true femininity is actually women serving men. It has nothing to do 0.98
00:01:14.300 with clothes, fashion or having your nails done. If you go get your nails done they are serving you
00:01:20.940 therefore it is not feminine. And my thought process was is all of these girls that are really 0.91
00:01:26.720 into fashion typically live very selfish lives and the things they do are typically for them and
00:01:34.140 therefore it makes them unfeminine. So J.O. responded to this and he said femininity doesn't expand it
00:01:41.280 enhances masculinity. So then I had another tweet. This made some people mad. I said I heard married wives 1.00
00:01:49.180 and mothers are getting Botox. Why? He already married you. What more do you need? Spend that 1.00
00:01:55.260 money on your children. And I thought about the women that invest a lot into their looks. Again it's not 0.98
00:02:00.960 feminine. It's one thing if you are investing into your looks for the man in your life. But men have 0.93
00:02:07.460 overwhelmingly said we do not want this. We do not want Botox. We do not want fake hair extensions.
00:02:15.600 We do not want a ton of makeup. No, no, no. We do not want this. And it really just leads me to the
00:02:23.120 conclusion that really most of these wives that are spending all of this money on their appearance 1.00
00:02:29.960 are doing it for the external validation rather than their husband's validation. Therefore making it
00:02:38.160 not feminine. Women that are getting work done if you polled their husbands. What percent of them would 1.00
00:02:44.320 say yes? I am so happy my wife is putting in injections into her face. The mother of my children. 0.98
00:02:52.240 Yes, I am so happy that the mother of my children is tattooing eyeliner. Yes, I am so excited that the
00:03:01.040 mother of my children spends two hours every day on her makeup. Do men really want this? And the common
00:03:09.120 argument that I hear is yes men want it but they don't know that they want it. And what that tells 0.55
00:03:14.960 me is I get more attention from men when I do these things. And my question is if you're married 0.68
00:03:22.720 why do you need attention and validation from the outside world? Why is your husband's opinion not the
00:03:29.040 most important? It really if you want to belong to a guy the question is what is he like when I wear it?
00:03:35.440 What does he want me to do? And most men look at all of this stuff as an expense. And and I expanded
00:03:42.400 on this in my tweet. I said the wives and mothers that are wasting all of this money on Botox nails 1.00
00:03:47.840 fashion are telling on themselves. It shows their priority themselves their looks attention from men
00:03:54.720 and not what ding ding ding their family. And we have to talk about ideals on this show when we talk to
00:04:00.240 women that are actually the ideals that really are the most selfless feminine women that you have met. 1.00
00:04:06.720 Are they typically women that are worried about the latest fashion trends? They are typically worried 0.99
00:04:11.680 about their children and typically they don't want to spend money on themselves they want to spend money
00:04:17.840 on the children. That is a true feminine women. A woman that puts the family above herself. And what we 1.00
00:04:24.640 have now is a bunch of Kim Kardashian wives that are playing pretend. It's me me me me me. My career 1.00
00:04:31.360 what I want and it doesn't matter what my husband wants and the kids want. And we saw this when Kim
00:04:37.040 Kardashian and Kanye were married. And Kanye repeatedly told Kim that he didn't want her wearing certain
00:04:42.720 types of outfits. And her response is that well I was like this when you married me. And while that is a
00:04:48.720 valid point my question is are we all going to be exactly the same all through marriage? And isn't
00:04:54.320 it your job as a wife to submit to your husband's authority even when he changes directions? And again 0.97
00:05:01.280 it shows the problem with the modern wives. It's a lack of control. They need to be in control of 1.00
00:05:05.920 everything. Everything needs to be the same from the day we get married till the day we die. Otherwise I
00:05:11.520 have been deceived. Now I got a response from Free Ashley. She says women need to work on their appearance 1.00
00:05:17.680 through marriage so their husbands remain attracted to them physically. Also women spend too much money 1.00
00:05:23.040 worrying about their appearance after they are married. Pick one you can't have both. Yes I can
00:05:28.320 and I'm going to tell you how I can. When I say worry about your appearance focusing on fitness and
00:05:34.560 being healthy will actually put you in the top 25 percent of women because 70 percent of women are
00:05:40.400 overweight in the United States. So you actually can't have both. You can focus on your appearance
00:05:46.480 wanting to look good for your husband without spending hundreds of dollars a month on face
00:05:51.520 creams, moisturizers, heavy makeup, and Botox. We don't need this. And typically women that are 1.00
00:05:59.680 heavily invested in their looks are not happy with the option they have. They simply want a better one.
00:06:05.040 I asked my producers to give me an example of a woman in the media that has done a ton of work over 0.99
00:06:09.920 time. Do you see on the left how she almost has this like feminine essence of her? And it's interesting 0.68
00:06:16.960 because even when women age and they get older but they don't get work done, there's something more
00:06:22.080 pure about the way they look. There's something more feminine. And then on the right it's almost like
00:06:27.200 an older woman trying to cosplay as a younger woman. And we can all see it. Maybe it's more visually
00:06:33.120 attractive slightly. But there's a difference between attraction and beauty. And there's something
00:06:39.120 about a woman that has gotten very little work done that just ages, I don't want to say better, 1.00
00:06:44.480 but more gracefully over time. And you start to see these women that are too invested in their looks. 1.00
00:06:51.280 And I think a lot of women have been lied to. And they end up at 50 just looking kind of nutty,
00:06:56.720 looking kind of crazy because eventually the Botox starts to fade. And then when you think about it,
00:07:04.080 how much money did you spend on yourself that you could have really spent on your family? So
00:07:09.760 Monica Crowley, a prominent conservative political commentator and talk show host,
00:07:14.320 has been a fixture in the American media for decades with a career that spans on
00:07:17.920 radio, television, and various political roles. She's gained recognition for her sharp
00:07:22.560 intellect and articulate communication. However, over the years, the topic of Monica Crowley's
00:07:27.440 appearance has become a subject of speculation leading to rumors of plastic surgery. I think it's
00:07:32.320 pretty obvious this chick has said plastic surgery. But it's almost like they switch their faces switch 0.82
00:07:39.280 from beauty to I don't even know what to call it like fake sexy. And it's sad because it's like God
00:07:47.680 gives us this natural beauty and we continue to manipulate what God has given us. I would argue
00:07:55.200 this is a telltale sign of a lack of femininity. Most women that have had heavy work done that are ultra 1.00
00:08:00.960 focused on their appearance are not overly feminine because they are focused on themselves and not their
00:08:07.200 husbands in general.