JustPearlyThings - November 16, 2023


Modern Woman Admits This Shocking Truth


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In this episode, we discuss what would disqualify a woman from being a housewife in the modern era. What would make a woman a good housewife and what would make her a bad housewife? We also talk about what deal breakers a woman can have in a husband.

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00:00:00.000 What disqualifies you from being a housewife? 1.00
00:00:05.220 She belonged to the streets.
00:00:08.400 I'm going to go first, OnlyFans.
00:00:10.880 I would say once you put your butthole on the internet, I'm sorry.
00:00:15.580 Why it was butthole?
00:00:17.020 I mean, I just, you know, that's, you know.
00:00:20.600 But you don't have to show your butthole on OnlyFans.
00:00:23.140 You can show your toes.
00:00:25.120 Yeah, I think all of that will disqualify you from high-value men.
00:00:30.120 Yeah, definitely.
00:00:31.240 Yeah, okay, what do you think?
00:00:32.840 Name something.
00:00:35.820 Me?
00:00:36.380 Yeah, you.
00:00:36.800 We're going in the circle, yeah.
00:00:38.180 Oh, okay.
00:00:39.280 From not being a wife.
00:00:40.860 Housewife. 0.88
00:00:41.580 A housewife. 0.61
00:00:43.220 If you're not ready for it, it's not your bag.
00:00:46.540 No, no, no.
00:00:47.380 I'm saying, like, what would disqualify the woman? 0.99
00:00:50.060 So, like, the woman comes to him and says,
00:00:52.220 Oh, I want to be your housewife. 0.98
00:00:53.780 I want to be your housewife. 0.99
00:00:55.000 What would disqualify her?
00:00:59.100 Unions.
00:01:00.000 I'm joking, I'm joking, I'm joking.
00:01:03.040 Hyde's feet.
00:01:05.420 It's true.
00:01:07.980 She can't cook. 1.00
00:01:09.180 I don't know.
00:01:10.020 I was going to say that.
00:01:11.120 But she was saying that she can, like, have a maid to cook for her.
00:01:15.800 She's like, who needs to cook? 1.00
00:01:17.680 She's going to have a maid. 1.00
00:01:18.860 I just saw that in your face.
00:01:20.260 I mean, is that really, like, I don't think that's, like, a deal breaker.
00:01:25.240 Yeah.
00:01:25.500 I knew it.
00:01:26.340 I just got back from Nigeria.
00:01:27.500 My mind is blown.
00:01:28.260 Because Nigerian men pay for their women. 1.00
00:01:30.380 You don't pay for anything when you're in Nigeria.
00:01:32.140 Yeah.
00:01:32.640 They're a whole different level.
00:01:33.960 She's like, yeah.
00:01:38.060 All right.
00:01:38.840 So, give me a deal breaker then.
00:01:41.360 Give me one.
00:01:42.800 There's nothing a chick can do. 1.00
00:01:44.640 Nothing.
00:01:45.580 Okay.
00:01:46.100 If she's a corn star. 0.99
00:01:47.880 Okay.
00:01:50.400 Thank you for remembering that.
00:01:52.120 Thank you.
00:01:52.580 Go ahead.
00:01:53.220 Remember the highlight of my day.
00:01:56.760 What would disqualify you?
00:01:59.120 Bad money management.
00:02:00.880 Overspending.
00:02:01.840 Yeah.
00:02:02.420 He's going to be really rich.
00:02:03.800 No, no, no.
00:02:04.280 You got to.
00:02:04.660 You can't.
00:02:04.880 You still got to, like.
00:02:06.680 We need life next month as well.
00:02:10.280 Exactly.
00:02:11.680 Overspending.
00:02:12.260 Yeah.
00:02:12.720 Okay.
00:02:13.220 Go ahead.
00:02:14.140 If she's a cheater. 0.66
00:02:16.380 Cheater.
00:02:17.480 Or a lesbian. 0.97
00:02:20.080 Men like lesbian. 1.00
00:02:21.680 That could be an advantage.
00:02:23.160 They like that.
00:02:24.340 I know people that love that situation.
00:02:26.840 That when they have freedoms.
00:02:28.500 I don't know.
00:02:29.000 I think there's someone for everyone.
00:02:30.820 You know, all those things there listed.
00:02:32.740 I think someone was still.
00:02:33.400 Well, there's only housewife positions for 10% of women. 1.00
00:02:36.940 Okay.
00:02:37.840 Infertile.
00:02:39.140 Ooh.
00:02:40.400 You say that?
00:02:41.640 Yeah.
00:02:42.460 Okay.
00:02:43.280 I'll go with that.
00:02:44.240 I would agree with that.
00:02:45.200 Yeah.
00:02:45.480 But unfortunately.
00:02:46.400 But.
00:02:46.900 Yeah.
00:02:47.800 So.
00:02:48.380 So by that logic.
00:02:49.360 Over a certain age.
00:02:50.860 Over say.
00:02:51.400 I'm just saying infertile.
00:02:52.700 Somebody else can add that in.
00:02:54.860 What if they are infertile. 0.85
00:02:56.740 But hope to.
00:02:57.980 Like.
00:02:58.320 Have other treatments.
00:02:59.140 To have children.
00:03:00.420 Or even adopt.
00:03:01.000 It depends if he's patient.
00:03:02.680 For that.
00:03:03.400 You know.
00:03:03.660 But Pearl is saying like.
00:03:04.700 If they're like premenopausal.
00:03:06.180 Yeah.
00:03:06.640 Well.
00:03:07.160 Well.
00:03:07.480 I'm.
00:03:07.800 Well.
00:03:07.920 Partially.
00:03:08.880 Somebody can say age.
00:03:10.080 Yeah.
00:03:10.320 Well.
00:03:10.520 Because I'm saying also.
00:03:12.700 I mean.
00:03:13.300 Why would a man choose that if he didn't have to? 0.53
00:03:15.640 Yeah.
00:03:16.040 Like.
00:03:16.160 This is a guy with all the choice.
00:03:18.380 Yeah.
00:03:18.480 Um.
00:03:19.080 Okay.
00:03:19.440 So.
00:03:20.240 Sticking at high value men.
00:03:21.800 Yeah.
00:03:22.020 Disqualifying a housewife for a high value man.
00:03:24.380 Okay.
00:03:24.960 Yeah.
00:03:25.480 I mean.
00:03:26.160 I feel like I spoke to.
00:03:28.080 Randomly two men recently.
00:03:29.680 That were saying that they.
00:03:30.840 Went through the whole IVF thing with.
00:03:32.920 Their women. 0.73
00:03:33.300 I don't know how high value they were.
00:03:35.060 But they weren't low value.
00:03:36.280 So.
00:03:36.720 I don't know.
00:03:36.980 I do think some men consider that.
00:03:38.320 But again.
00:03:38.840 I'm sorry.
00:03:39.280 Were they successful?
00:03:40.420 I do believe they were successful.
00:03:41.800 Yeah.
00:03:41.940 You do believe or you know?
00:03:43.120 Yeah.
00:03:43.260 I don't know.
00:03:43.740 That's why I said.
00:03:44.140 I don't know they were high value.
00:03:45.060 But they were absolutely not low value.
00:03:46.880 But they were.
00:03:47.160 But don't you think.
00:03:48.340 Medium value.
00:03:49.160 Don't you think they probably found out.
00:03:51.420 That she couldn't have kids.
00:03:52.780 Specifically.
00:03:53.320 He told me his whole life story on this flight.
00:03:55.400 And it was like.
00:03:56.180 No.
00:03:56.340 What I'm saying is.
00:03:56.980 They knew before.
00:03:57.780 That she was going to have trouble.
00:03:59.220 Having children.
00:03:59.980 They decided to get married.
00:04:00.960 And it was an issue.
00:04:01.560 He really got into it on that flight.
00:04:02.540 Yeah.
00:04:04.040 Stop talking to me.
00:04:04.920 But he was adorable.
00:04:06.160 But yeah.
00:04:07.500 Did you?
00:04:08.660 Did I what?
00:04:09.440 Unit.
00:04:09.880 Mile high.
00:04:11.620 You know what I mean.
00:04:12.940 You know what it's.
00:04:13.880 It's like you have three times.
00:04:15.660 No.
00:04:15.940 No I did not anything.
00:04:19.740 Where were we in the circle?
00:04:23.800 Did you go?
00:04:24.620 Sheree.
00:04:25.000 Did you go?
00:04:25.340 I just took Miss Ling's answer for the infertility. 0.99
00:04:30.280 Because I guess.
00:04:32.020 For a high value man.
00:04:33.240 If he's trying to expand.
00:04:35.780 On his offspring.
00:04:37.780 If his.
00:04:39.780 Whatever.
00:04:40.780 Expand his name.
00:04:41.620 There with his.
00:04:42.480 Yeah.
00:04:42.760 Legacy.
00:04:43.720 The legacy.
00:04:45.420 They want to pass it down.
00:04:46.840 Yeah.
00:04:47.060 Over what age are you disqualified from being a housewife? 1.00
00:04:50.100 I don't know.
00:04:50.720 Because this is the thing.
00:04:51.520 I just think.
00:04:52.460 It's such a broad vague question.
00:04:54.720 Because.
00:04:55.740 Guys.
00:04:56.140 So in general.
00:04:57.160 In general.
00:04:57.480 For men.
00:04:58.120 There's going to be exceptions to every rule.
00:05:00.600 So we're just talking in general.
00:05:02.340 We're not talking about.
00:05:03.860 The one chick there. 1.00
00:05:05.220 But like.
00:05:05.620 By.
00:05:05.980 By and large.
00:05:07.260 By the rule.
00:05:08.180 Over what age are women disqualified from being a housewife? 1.00
00:05:11.540 30.
00:05:12.600 Do you think?
00:05:13.160 No.
00:05:13.680 I think so.
00:05:14.040 Because what if you marry a man? 0.50
00:05:16.280 She's an honest one.
00:05:19.120 And you could be in your 40s.
00:05:20.460 You're still a young thing to him.
00:05:21.700 And he's the high value guy as well, right?
00:05:24.020 I know.
00:05:24.180 But you've probably already been a housewife once or twice prior to that.
00:05:27.140 And why do you want to have a baby for a 60 year old?
00:05:28.540 But by 60.
00:05:29.980 The baby's going to look old.
00:05:30.720 He's probably married.
00:05:32.200 He probably is.
00:05:32.660 So he's like high value by like 40 surely.
00:05:35.020 He's divorced.
00:05:35.740 And he's looking for a new beans.
00:05:38.120 A new beans.
00:05:39.000 And then.
00:05:39.340 And then you're like.
00:05:40.720 Divorce.
00:05:41.040 And you're a young thing to him.
00:05:42.820 Because you're like in your 40s.
00:05:44.460 And you look good for your age.
00:05:45.820 You're better than him.
00:05:46.500 And you're still fertile.
00:05:47.180 And you're still fertile.
00:05:47.220 You know what percent chance you have of a man marrying over the age of 35 if he hasn't already?
00:05:55.520 0.3%.
00:05:56.840 15% chance he marries.
00:06:00.400 Oh, yeah.
00:06:01.200 And before Troy.
00:06:02.340 So there's still 15% charge.
00:06:04.580 No.
00:06:06.680 What about before then?
00:06:08.560 These statistics are based on people that are actually being honest.
00:06:13.060 Like what are these numbers?
00:06:15.280 It's just like.
00:06:15.920 And it's in the UK as well.
00:06:17.620 Because.
00:06:17.640 Yeah.
00:06:18.200 The UK and US are pretty similar.
00:06:21.640 So I mean sometimes there's a little differentiation.
00:06:24.200 It's what people report.
00:06:25.600 Is it not like the actual registry?
00:06:27.180 Can't they just look that stuff up?
00:06:28.620 Yeah.
00:06:29.200 Yeah.
00:06:29.720 Yeah.
00:06:29.900 So it's pretty.
00:06:30.700 No chance of us getting husbands in. 1.00
00:06:32.080 What is it below 35 though?
00:06:35.080 I don't know off the top of my head.
00:06:36.580 I just know that one.
00:06:37.360 Nigeria.
00:06:38.020 Honestly.
00:06:38.680 Girls.
00:06:40.300 You get married tomorrow in Nigeria.
00:06:41.900 What about you?
00:06:42.640 Not being attentive.
00:06:45.140 Okay.
00:06:45.580 Not being attentive.
00:06:47.300 Go ahead.
00:06:47.820 Super revolting personal hygiene. 0.80
00:06:50.360 Okay.
00:06:51.000 Smelly.
00:06:51.360 I'm going to go for something so obvious.
00:06:55.200 Being selfish.
00:06:56.560 Selfish.
00:06:57.140 Okay.
00:06:59.240 I'd say a liar.
00:07:02.240 Selfish.
00:07:04.720 Liar.
00:07:05.720 There's some basic ones I'm surprised no one's getting.
00:07:08.380 Let's see if you get it.
00:07:11.360 What do we have got?
00:07:12.460 No pressure.
00:07:13.200 No pressure.
00:07:15.020 Sorry.
00:07:15.560 I wasn't ready.
00:07:16.820 Being a hoe. 1.00
00:07:17.580 I didn't know when you were going to say that.
00:07:20.860 She didn't have to say that.
00:07:22.520 Oh my gosh.
00:07:23.340 These hoes ain't no. 1.00
00:07:24.680 You can't turn a hoe into a house. 1.00
00:07:26.400 These hoes ain't no. 1.00
00:07:27.880 A hoe is her favourite word. 1.00
00:07:29.140 Kanye tried.
00:07:30.400 He tried it bad.
00:07:32.140 He did what he did.
00:07:33.560 Yeah.
00:07:34.020 That was deja vu.
00:07:35.040 Okay.
00:07:35.460 Okay.
00:07:35.720 I want to see.
00:07:36.240 You have to get it, Troy.
00:07:37.760 Well, I don't know.
00:07:39.260 BPD, I think.
00:07:40.540 Personality disorders.
00:07:42.560 Because otherwise you end up with Amber Heard.
00:07:44.240 Right?
00:07:44.420 Yeah, right.
00:07:44.900 Oh my God.
00:07:45.160 So like addictions you could probably put under the sun.
00:07:47.580 The same thing.
00:07:48.140 Drug addict.
00:07:48.880 If she's like.
00:07:49.840 Well, if she's a drug addict or she's an alcoholic. 0.93
00:07:51.620 That's going to be problematic if she's using. 1.00
00:07:53.320 Awkward.
00:07:53.760 And if she's got.
00:07:56.920 And if she's got that kind of personality disorder.
00:08:00.180 I mean, if you could identify it before.
00:08:01.820 She's definitely not in the field for being a housewife. 1.00
00:08:05.140 Okay.
00:08:05.580 So I'm going to add some of mine.
00:08:07.900 Yes.
00:08:08.460 Enlighten us.
00:08:09.060 Yeah.
00:08:09.360 Yeah.
00:08:09.620 So number one, you can't be fat.
00:08:11.980 Yeah.
00:08:12.500 Yeah.
00:08:12.720 That's why you will not get in the door.
00:08:15.980 Literally.
00:08:16.220 What's considered fat?
00:08:18.820 With a high value man.
00:08:19.540 Okay.
00:08:20.400 So is UK 10 and over?
00:08:22.380 I would say look up your BMI.
00:08:25.740 And if it's over, that's rule of thumb.
00:08:28.640 I know there's exceptions.
00:08:31.060 Right?
00:08:31.180 I know there's the women that have the very shapely whatever. 1.00
00:08:35.060 Because I thought we were talking pH fat.
00:08:37.280 Yeah.
00:08:37.460 I was like, yeah, well, fat.
00:08:38.280 But yeah, there's none of this like thick where it's like the girls pretend they're thin. 1.00
00:08:45.900 Yeah.
00:08:46.280 But they're really fat.
00:08:47.780 I think you need to ask an Nigerian producer.
00:08:49.660 Is there a producer there?
00:08:50.500 Because he, I'm sure, what's your preference?
00:08:53.580 We're all skinny to you, aren't we?
00:08:55.460 Yeah.
00:08:56.100 We're all skinny to you.
00:08:56.680 I mean, the biggest girl here is like a gelatine. 1.00
00:09:03.140 I mean, Pearl and I argue about this all the time.
00:09:05.820 This is the thing.
00:09:06.720 So this is, it's like when the doctor goes, you're a beast and you're like, huh?
00:09:10.180 Yeah.
00:09:11.280 But, but, but, but, but it does, but it's still, but still no fat thing still though.
00:09:16.160 What is fat in your perception?
00:09:17.580 Fat is fat, isn't it?
00:09:18.640 Like a man bee.
00:09:20.160 What size?
00:09:20.700 Yeah, but what size?
00:09:21.840 Is that, it's that, it's that size.
00:09:23.440 It's like, it's, it's like.
00:09:24.440 I think if you're fat, you know you're fat.
00:09:25.740 Yeah.
00:09:26.300 It's like.
00:09:26.860 I think his fat and your fat is very different.
00:09:28.980 Are you talking about?
00:09:29.440 I think so.
00:09:30.340 Pearl's fat and his Nigerian standard fat.
00:09:33.440 Yeah, we like curvy women. 1.00
00:09:34.760 Yeah.
00:09:36.080 Yeah, but it's curvy. 0.93
00:09:37.260 But you think it's a small waist though, don't you?
00:09:39.580 Yeah.
00:09:39.960 There's European fat, there's Jamaican fat, and there's African fat. 0.93
00:09:43.960 African fat. 0.80
00:09:45.500 They're all different things.
00:09:46.760 Men do like a bit of meat on them now. 1.00
00:09:50.760 Look at, look at, I'm not even disputing that men like curvy women.
00:09:54.760 I'm saying they don't like fat women. 1.00
00:09:56.400 Some men like skinny women. 0.99
00:09:58.320 My friend is really, really skinny, and like when we're out, certain men just gravitate
00:10:03.220 towards her because she's cute, and she's like a twig. 1.00
00:10:06.240 That sounds childlike.
00:10:07.620 Some men love twiggy women. 1.00
00:10:09.140 They're like, oh, she's so heroin-looking. 0.58
00:10:10.400 Yeah, I'm sorry.
00:10:10.840 Yeah, I'm into that.
00:10:11.620 I'm into the heroin cheat thing.
00:10:14.940 You don't like the Kate Moss back in the day.
00:10:17.900 We call her Marga.
00:10:18.840 You're like Marga again. 0.83
00:10:19.520 Okay, number two that disqualifies you from being a housewife, a child, another man's 0.99
00:10:26.040 child.
00:10:26.980 Yeah.
00:10:27.460 Now, I know Sierra pulled it off, but do you look like Sierra?
00:10:33.180 Probably not, right?
00:10:34.720 Yes, we do.
00:10:36.220 I look better than Sierra.
00:10:37.940 I look like Miss Lynn.
00:10:39.160 You know, I can't.
00:10:40.240 Sierra, but...
00:10:41.160 All right, so I would say a child in general disqualifies you from being a housewife.
00:10:50.120 Not even.
00:10:51.760 It will definitely impact it somewhat.
00:10:55.220 I don't think that a guy will completely dismiss you for it, but it will impact it somewhat
00:11:00.440 because they know that's an additional person they have to provide for.
00:11:05.400 It's baggage.
00:11:06.000 Then they've got your child's...
00:11:09.060 Attitude.
00:11:09.860 Yeah.
00:11:13.120 What percent of single mothers remarry? 1.00
00:11:17.140 If they want to.
00:11:18.220 Six percent.
00:11:19.480 Wow.
00:11:20.880 Higher than that slightly.
00:11:22.020 Sixteen.
00:11:22.920 What?
00:11:23.400 Sixteen.
00:11:23.920 No, because...
00:11:25.140 Okay, off the top of my head, I know what it roughly was.
00:11:28.600 It was between like ten and like eight, like seventeen percent.
00:11:32.480 It was somewhere between there.
00:11:33.980 Twenty-two percent of single mothers get a guy to live with them. 1.00
00:11:37.720 So, overwhelmingly, sixty percent, roughly, of single mothers do never...
00:11:42.320 Get a guy to live with me now.
00:11:44.400 Give me one hour.
00:11:45.820 Look it, look it.
00:11:50.140 I don't...
00:11:50.820 I don't...
00:11:51.820 I don't know.
00:11:53.160 There's a couple waiting outside.
00:11:56.540 There's a couple in here right now.
00:11:57.460 I would change statistics right now.
00:11:59.500 Look it.
00:12:00.500 I don't know what to tell you.
00:12:01.940 Actually, let's FaceTime him.
00:12:02.620 But also, I would say that some housewife, right? 1.00
00:12:05.620 So, this is like housewife status. 0.96
00:12:07.640 This is the best of the best women.
00:12:09.460 But I would say some women that have kids, because I know that if I had kids, I would be 1.00
00:12:13.660 very reluctant to just pick up with any man.
00:12:15.640 So, maybe some women, for the sake of their kids, they don't want to expose them to certain 1.00
00:12:19.920 people.
00:12:20.260 So, they're just like, for now, I'm just going to be single and not have another man in my
00:12:24.420 household.
00:12:24.700 I think that's admirable, actually.
00:12:27.200 I think it's better for the kids.
00:12:28.640 But I think that affects the statistic, definitely.
00:12:30.840 Because I know that there will be women that will think... 0.99
00:12:32.920 I disagree.
00:12:33.900 I disagree.
00:12:34.660 I think we're being a little soft on the single ones.
00:12:37.520 I'm a single.
00:12:38.080 I think most women... 1.00
00:12:39.080 We said high-value men housewives. 0.86
00:12:41.080 I think it's the other way around.
00:12:42.620 I think a lot of women would immediately start looking for another man to replace. 1.00
00:12:47.000 No.
00:12:47.420 No way.
00:12:48.860 My son has his dad.
00:12:51.240 No way.
00:12:52.180 We're not talking about...
00:12:54.040 See, the thing about women is you guys always think that your situation is what goes around 1.00
00:12:59.340 in society.
00:13:00.540 But if you look at society and look at what actually happens...
00:13:03.120 I'm a single woman.
00:13:03.720 There are a lot of irresponsible women out there. 1.00
00:13:06.080 Yeah.
00:13:06.440 And that's the fact.
00:13:06.980 Yeah, but I do feel like when you have a child, like that child has some...
00:13:11.080 come first.
00:13:11.700 So you have to be very careful who you bring around your child.
00:13:14.360 And I know that would definitely, you know, affect my decision.
00:13:17.820 I totally agree with you, but I don't think most single mothers are responsible.