Modern Woman BLAMES MEN for CHEATING!
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss cheating in relationships, sexual cheating and why women cheat. Is cheating worse than sexual cheating? Is it worse than emotional cheating? What does it mean when a woman cheats and the man finds out and what does he do about it?
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When we spoke about cheating we mentioned that men and women cheat at
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similar rates but then what's worse like who's who's worse for cheating is it
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man or woman? You see I I think emotional cheating I feel like for me
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that's whoever said you should get money for feel like it's true I've watched
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your thing everyone says I feel like I feel like emotional cheating is worse to
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me because I feel like you are more invested your emotions you're spending
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time with her you're just sexual cheating oh sexual cheating yeah I'm not gonna
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be like you boys take the cup for that let's not do that you think it's worse
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from like like what's worse I feel like in this day and age I feel like people
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are on par I feel like men and women are on par I don't know do you think do you
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think you think cheating is the same men for women and men and for women oh no
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as in okay I think everyone's cheating the same however in society I feel like
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it's worse what's more damage into relationship I think a man a man would
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leave like Jada Wader and what's his name baby whatever his name is because of a
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text back and at the end of the day when you bruise a man's ego even if that's the
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love of his life he's leaving because all the man them are laughing at him let's
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tell the truth that's true I think I think I'll stay I think men have more to
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but I do think it's damaging when the man cheats and the woman finds out because
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then he starts assuming she's gonna do it and then I think I do I think so a man
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can a man can cheat get away with it if nobody knows a woman can cheat and she's
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done if a man cheats and the woman knows and stays and stays he's going he can't
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deal with the fact that she stayed with him so he starts manipulating blaming her
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for the cheating saying it's her fault whereas is actually your nature you cheat
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because you want to be helpful maybe I mean I mean in most circumstances it
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there's a reason there's always a reason but there's times where the man he just
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gets women so question would you guys be willing to share a guy and if he would
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you guys be willing to share a guy if he checked off all your boxes and he took
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care of the bills if I wasn't Christian yeah I was just gonna say that if I was not
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Christian yeah yeah but I'm gonna lie my morals and values and my beliefs
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mm-hmm are you guys virgins I cannot do that are you guys virgins but it's just
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like it's almost like picking and choosing right when Christianity benefits
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you no but I feel like that's all religion no one's perfect and you can't
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like yeah I know but to say like like this sexual thing like I'm not saying
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you're saying it's okay but I'm saying like I could do this one but he
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couldn't do that like it's just women oftentimes pick the double standards
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that like benefit them and not the ones that don't so wait the question is
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would you stay with yeah and you and the reason you said no is you said because
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you're a Christian so I said if that's true are you a virgin because like why
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would he marry you if you're not a virgin aren't you both getting a bad deal do
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you guys actually marry for virginity is that a thing no but if like
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religiously religiously so I'm saying like he's getting a bad deal because I'm
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assuming right I just assume over certain age girls aren't virgins right and so he's
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getting a bad deal so like in that case you'd get the benefit but you wouldn't
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get any cost I mean as a typical woman my thought process is how does it benefit me
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so I came from a family where my mom my grandfather had two wives they all lived
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in the house together and the children everyone stayed in the house and
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everyone gets along really yeah back home in Nigeria okay and I could see how it
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benefited them for that time I'm just like my question that is how would that
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well yeah because I mean okay you said you have kids right I have one you have one
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kid and how old are you I'm 34 so would you would you say that over a certain age
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you got a lower quality of guy interested maybe I don't want to say I'm not trying to
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disrespect I know I know I know I know what you mean like so I'm saying in this case you have you
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have a man now what I would admit to is I do attract a lot of married men okay yeah I'll admit
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to that I do attract married men whether I entertain it or not yeah it's a question what I'm saying so
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in this case he would check all your boxes because I'm sure it's a life-changing like yeah like he's
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taking care of the bills you don't you can't you can get that trainer because you don't got to work
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anymore do you know what let me let me be real let me have a think if if he came to me and said
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you know what this is what I'm about give me the option to think about it I don't know what I'd say
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if I liked him I might think about it okay but if I didn't like him now and he's coming with I'll be
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like who the hell are you to give me those scenarios I think I'm selfish I don't know if selfish is the
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word I just feel like everyone deserves somebody for themselves I feel like why can't like he have
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someone for himself I don't think anyone deserves anything I think if you're a shitty person you
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don't deserve love fair enough but I think I'm not that shitty so I just think I think men cheat
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anyway so I think that's behind my footprint is like if they're doing it anyway if you've come to
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me and said this is how you move um I feel like I appreciate the fact that you're telling me I don't
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think I could do it I would love to okay question would you do it would you do it at 35 with a kid
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no what if what if what if okay I don't know right now I don't think I could just because I just feel
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like I would just want to be loved and loved loved by one person and I would want to give that to him
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all your bills are being taken care of but the bills might not matter yeah necessarily yeah each
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individual realistically most people it will but say all your boxes are ticked everything whatever that
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is to you everything's ticked but you've got one I think one box would be that like I would want you
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that's what I'm saying call it selfish I would want you for myself and then I know me I'm just gonna
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get jealous I'm just gonna be upset so there's no point okay so by this logic do you guys believe
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that sex is a duty yes yes 100% yeah yes do you guys believe a man has a right to cheat if you say
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no to sex no right okay so if he says I want to have sex you say no he says okay so if you're not
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gonna have sex with me I'll find someone who will consistently if he's saying it with that vim then
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I respect it because he's telling me what he's gonna do but if it's like he's just gone to cheat
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and he's come back and he's like oh you didn't want to have sex with me so I did this I'll be like
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that's disrespectful do you just want a yes or no or are you on your period maybe you've had a like
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like are there things because women that don't give sex I think that's very mad because
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if a girl is continually sexless does he have a right to cheat he would yeah but there's a reason
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for everything if you're in a relationship or marriage and you're not happy or fulfilled or
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you're not fulfilling your partner there's a reason people don't just do things for no reason
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yeah okay but the reason typically is that she didn't marry the guy she wanted she needed kids
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then she should so yeah but does he have a right no but I'm saying she doesn't she knows she can't do
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better she knows time's running out she's she's around 30 right time's ticking she wants kids
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she she marries the first guy she can find if she's smart if she's smart she knows he's doing it anyway
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but he he doesn't know because a lot of times this isn't the guys that can cheat he doesn't know that
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she's marrying her second choice the same way will didn't know there were some warning signs but
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yeah yeah she cried on the wedding day on the wedding day yeah yeah yeah you know what he's
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not a great example a lot a lot of guys don't know they're a girl's second choice but if you're her
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friend you you know you're like you guys know your girl's dating a guy she doesn't really want
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yeah you know and those are the guys that don't get the sex and then the girls are come back
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heartbroken when he or you know now they're mad when he cheats but like she wasn't sleeping with him
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to begin with i just feel like people should have conversations and then you should walk away
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rather than cheat just end it like but women fall in love with what they hear
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last men fall in love with what they see what they see it's hard to have that conversation
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but then have a like for me it's just the logic have a conversation
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so i agree with you but put yourself in their shoes okay so so so you let's say you're married
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to a girl again you don't know that you were her second choice she stops sleeping with you after
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she gets what she wants the kids now what could you do you could leave but you put your kid at
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every statistical disadvantage you possibly could like they're more likely to go to prison they're
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more likely to run away they're more likely to fail out of school every statistical disadvantage you
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could put your kid at that that's your choice option two is to divorce her and she you're she's
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entitled to child support she can get collect alimony and in the u.s like she can literally take half