JustPearlyThings - April 11, 2023


Modern Woman BLAMES MEN for CHEATING!

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
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Jada Waiter
She SCHOOLED This Modern Woman@MelanieKing1 Housewife are in HIGH DEMAND

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Length

8 minutes

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218.24

Word count

1,881

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Harmful content

Misogyny

13

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Toxicity

9

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Hate speech

15

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss cheating in relationships, sexual cheating and why women cheat. Is cheating worse than sexual cheating? Is it worse than emotional cheating? What does it mean when a woman cheats and the man finds out and what does he do about it?

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00:00:00.000 When we spoke about cheating we mentioned that men and women cheat at 0.75
00:00:04.280 similar rates but then what's worse like who's who's worse for cheating is it
00:00:08.520 man or woman? You see I I think emotional cheating I feel like for me
00:00:14.760 that's whoever said you should get money for feel like it's true I've watched
00:00:17.760 your thing everyone says I feel like I feel like emotional cheating is worse to
00:00:21.360 me because I feel like you are more invested your emotions you're spending 0.83
00:00:25.680 time with her you're just sexual cheating oh sexual cheating yeah I'm not gonna 0.86
00:00:29.820 be like you boys take the cup for that let's not do that you think it's worse 0.97
00:00:33.580 from like like what's worse I feel like in this day and age I feel like people
00:00:37.680 are on par I feel like men and women are on par I don't know do you think do you
00:00:42.420 think you think cheating is the same men for women and men and for women oh no
00:00:45.780 as in okay I think everyone's cheating the same however in society I feel like
00:00:50.460 it's worse what's more damage into relationship I think a man a man would 0.96
00:00:57.060 leave like Jada Wader and what's his name baby whatever his name is because of a
00:01:01.660 text back and at the end of the day when you bruise a man's ego even if that's the
00:01:05.100 love of his life he's leaving because all the man them are laughing at him let's
00:01:07.960 tell the truth that's true I think I think I'll stay I think men have more to 0.97
00:01:11.820 but I do think it's damaging when the man cheats and the woman finds out because
00:01:16.440 then he starts assuming she's gonna do it and then I think I do I think so a man
00:01:22.060 can a man can cheat get away with it if nobody knows a woman can cheat and she's 0.67
00:01:28.440 done if a man cheats and the woman knows and stays and stays he's going he can't
00:01:35.160 deal with the fact that she stayed with him so he starts manipulating blaming her
00:01:39.540 for the cheating saying it's her fault whereas is actually your nature you cheat
00:01:43.160 because you want to be helpful maybe I mean I mean in most circumstances it
00:01:47.940 there's a reason there's always a reason but there's times where the man he just
00:01:52.140 gets women so question would you guys be willing to share a guy and if he would
00:01:59.640 you guys be willing to share a guy if he checked off all your boxes and he took
00:02:03.300 care of the bills if I wasn't Christian yeah I was just gonna say that if I was not
00:02:08.300 Christian yeah yeah but I'm gonna lie my morals and values and my beliefs 1.00
00:02:12.440 mm-hmm are you guys virgins I cannot do that are you guys virgins but it's just
00:02:23.240 like it's almost like picking and choosing right when Christianity benefits 0.85
00:02:26.460 you no but I feel like that's all religion no one's perfect and you can't 0.92
00:02:30.200 like yeah I know but to say like like this sexual thing like I'm not saying
00:02:34.880 you're saying it's okay but I'm saying like I could do this one but he
00:02:38.240 couldn't do that like it's just women oftentimes pick the double standards 1.00
00:02:41.540 that like benefit them and not the ones that don't so wait the question is
00:02:44.560 would you stay with yeah and you and the reason you said no is you said because
00:02:48.920 you're a Christian so I said if that's true are you a virgin because like why 1.00
00:02:52.640 would he marry you if you're not a virgin aren't you both getting a bad deal do 0.80
00:02:55.820 you guys actually marry for virginity is that a thing no but if like 1.00
00:02:59.120 religiously religiously so I'm saying like he's getting a bad deal because I'm
00:03:03.200 assuming right I just assume over certain age girls aren't virgins right and so he's 0.99
00:03:08.180 getting a bad deal so like in that case you'd get the benefit but you wouldn't
00:03:12.020 get any cost I mean as a typical woman my thought process is how does it benefit me
00:03:18.620 so I came from a family where my mom my grandfather had two wives they all lived
00:03:24.800 in the house together and the children everyone stayed in the house and
00:03:28.040 everyone gets along really yeah back home in Nigeria okay and I could see how it 1.00
00:03:34.100 benefited them for that time I'm just like my question that is how would that
00:03:38.860 benefit me now
00:03:39.700 well yeah because I mean okay you said you have kids right I have one you have one
00:03:46.640 kid and how old are you I'm 34 so would you would you say that over a certain age
00:03:51.920 you got a lower quality of guy interested maybe I don't want to say I'm not trying to
00:03:56.020 disrespect I know I know I know I know what you mean like so I'm saying in this case you have you
00:04:01.940 have a man now what I would admit to is I do attract a lot of married men okay yeah I'll admit
00:04:07.720 to that I do attract married men whether I entertain it or not yeah it's a question what I'm saying so
00:04:13.720 in this case he would check all your boxes because I'm sure it's a life-changing like yeah like he's
00:04:18.540 taking care of the bills you don't you can't you can get that trainer because you don't got to work
00:04:22.840 anymore do you know what let me let me be real let me have a think if if he came to me and said
00:04:27.600 you know what this is what I'm about give me the option to think about it I don't know what I'd say
00:04:32.660 if I liked him I might think about it okay but if I didn't like him now and he's coming with I'll be
00:04:37.100 like who the hell are you to give me those scenarios I think I'm selfish I don't know if selfish is the
00:04:42.600 word I just feel like everyone deserves somebody for themselves I feel like why can't like he have 0.99
00:04:48.320 someone for himself I don't think anyone deserves anything I think if you're a shitty person you
00:04:52.800 don't deserve love fair enough but I think I'm not that shitty so I just think I think men cheat
00:04:59.500 anyway so I think that's behind my footprint is like if they're doing it anyway if you've come to
00:05:03.560 me and said this is how you move um I feel like I appreciate the fact that you're telling me I don't
00:05:08.260 think I could do it I would love to okay question would you do it would you do it at 35 with a kid
00:05:13.720 no what if what if what if okay I don't know right now I don't think I could just because I just feel
00:05:21.460 like I would just want to be loved and loved loved by one person and I would want to give that to him
00:05:26.600 all your bills are being taken care of but the bills might not matter yeah necessarily yeah each
00:05:31.180 individual realistically most people it will but say all your boxes are ticked everything whatever that
00:05:36.060 is to you everything's ticked but you've got one I think one box would be that like I would want you
00:05:42.520 that's what I'm saying call it selfish I would want you for myself and then I know me I'm just gonna
00:05:47.140 get jealous I'm just gonna be upset so there's no point okay so by this logic do you guys believe
00:05:51.480 that sex is a duty yes yes 100% yeah yes do you guys believe a man has a right to cheat if you say
00:05:57.060 no to sex no right okay so if he says I want to have sex you say no he says okay so if you're not 0.84
00:06:07.900 gonna have sex with me I'll find someone who will consistently if he's saying it with that vim then
00:06:12.700 I respect it because he's telling me what he's gonna do but if it's like he's just gone to cheat 0.98
00:06:16.360 and he's come back and he's like oh you didn't want to have sex with me so I did this I'll be like 0.69
00:06:19.820 that's disrespectful do you just want a yes or no or are you on your period maybe you've had a like 0.86
00:06:24.140 like are there things because women that don't give sex I think that's very mad because 1.00
00:06:28.580 if a girl is continually sexless does he have a right to cheat he would yeah but there's a reason 1.00
00:06:34.120 for everything if you're in a relationship or marriage and you're not happy or fulfilled or
00:06:38.960 you're not fulfilling your partner there's a reason people don't just do things for no reason
00:06:42.380 yeah okay but the reason typically is that she didn't marry the guy she wanted she needed kids 1.00
00:06:47.020 then she should so yeah but does he have a right no but I'm saying she doesn't she knows she can't do
00:06:51.820 better she knows time's running out she's she's around 30 right time's ticking she wants kids 1.00
00:06:56.140 she she marries the first guy she can find if she's smart if she's smart she knows he's doing it anyway 1.00
00:07:01.340 but he he doesn't know because a lot of times this isn't the guys that can cheat he doesn't know that
00:07:07.720 she's marrying her second choice the same way will didn't know there were some warning signs but
00:07:12.780 yeah yeah she cried on the wedding day on the wedding day yeah yeah yeah you know what he's
00:07:19.200 not a great example a lot a lot of guys don't know they're a girl's second choice but if you're her
00:07:24.500 friend you you know you're like you guys know your girl's dating a guy she doesn't really want
00:07:29.420 yeah you know and those are the guys that don't get the sex and then the girls are come back 1.00
00:07:34.640 heartbroken when he or you know now they're mad when he cheats but like she wasn't sleeping with him
00:07:39.040 to begin with i just feel like people should have conversations and then you should walk away
00:07:43.640 rather than cheat just end it like but women fall in love with what they hear 1.00
00:07:47.640 last men fall in love with what they see what they see it's hard to have that conversation
00:07:50.760 but then have a like for me it's just the logic have a conversation
00:07:54.040 so i agree with you but put yourself in their shoes okay so so so you let's say you're married
00:08:02.960 to a girl again you don't know that you were her second choice she stops sleeping with you after 1.00
00:08:08.660 she gets what she wants the kids now what could you do you could leave but you put your kid at
00:08:13.520 every statistical disadvantage you possibly could like they're more likely to go to prison they're
00:08:18.700 more likely to run away they're more likely to fail out of school every statistical disadvantage you
00:08:22.620 could put your kid at that that's your choice option two is to divorce her and she you're she's 1.00
00:08:29.420 entitled to child support she can get collect alimony and in the u.s like she can literally take half 0.99
00:08:35.140 your shit all right 1.00
00:08:37.060 all right 1.00
00:08:37.080 all right