JustPearlyThings - July 22, 2023


Modern Woman CHEATS In All Her Relationships


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Length

10 minutes

Words per minute

206.688

Word count

2,153

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

15

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Hate speech

8

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Summary

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In this episode we talk about cheating and how to cheat in relationships. We speak to a man who has cheated multiple times in his past relationships and how he copes with cheating and what he would do if he cheats again.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 i'm curious being the most swiped man on tinder like how many matches do you get a day uh well
00:00:06.480 um well back in the day yeah i was probably getting i don't know it's not matches it's
00:00:12.700 swipes so i've got 14 000 swipes wow a day yeah wow but i think i i think there's a bit of
00:00:20.120 statistics to it right i believe because i've done a bit of tv growing up i had that face i
00:00:25.280 was quite recognizable and for modeling i was like going through all the towns so i was quite
00:00:30.340 you know small towns and that stuff every day you're hitting the market yeah yeah so i was that
00:00:35.820 little loop i was that gap in the market and i was getting swiped but not matches it was just so i'm
00:00:40.600 curious if you met up with a girl yeah and like hooked up with her whatever what percent of the
00:00:45.780 time would she want to date you and what percent of the time oh i dated three of the girls from tinder 0.93
00:00:49.940 i'm asking like what percent like if you hooked up with a girl what percent of the time like would
00:01:01.120 girls ever be okay with it just being a casual thing or would they ever i would always cut the 1.00
00:01:05.940 line so i i just enjoyed going out in a bar like every country i went to if i was working in say
00:01:12.220 spain i'd go like on tinder plus yeah move my passport there before i got there and make a friend a week
00:01:17.860 before i was there so like i just done that all the time it was nice for me to like make friends
00:01:22.320 all over the world yeah and i didn't see it as oh i want to sleep with that person i just thought
00:01:26.120 how many friends can i make okay i just had that mindset but i'm asking if you ended up hooking up
00:01:31.260 with a girl what percent of the time would she want to date you would it be always what happened three 0.95
00:01:35.400 times oh you oh only three yeah okay but you wanted more times and i did but they didn't
00:01:42.260 it actually only happened three times oh and like they're all over the press and stuff so
00:01:46.720 oh so most of the time they didn't want anything serious yeah they probably had a boyfriend you 0.67
00:01:50.940 know i mean 66 percent of people on tinder are in a relationship so when you do statistics it makes
00:01:56.340 sense okay yeah yeah so i've got yeah so it wasn't even like people directly cheating on me every time
00:02:02.660 it was like them cheating on someone else can you imagine oh my gosh i've had a whole 360
00:02:08.800 a spider's web oh my gosh literally okay have you ever cheated i did and um thank you wait thank
00:02:16.660 you for being honest i'm not clapping for the cheating guys just the honesty i know they're
00:02:24.600 gonna clip that i like that and honestly gets you a long way and i personally believe that everybody
00:02:30.160 cheats they just don't admit and nowadays when you know that the guy doesn't want to hear that or
00:02:36.240 he doesn't just want to know he does they don't want to know yeah you just say no i didn't so like
00:02:41.600 people don't admit so how who who did you cheat on how long were you with them all of my relationships
00:02:48.420 oh all of them yeah okay how do you typically cheat uh when i'm emotionally gone when i'm uh okay for
00:02:56.420 example my last one my last relationship um i was honest and i said look if you do this i'm gone
00:03:04.560 i'm gonna cheat he just did it and i did it and i and i i never i never lied i never lied what did 0.60
00:03:11.180 he do um okay basically i was not happy with the thing that he's going um away with his friends
00:03:18.780 holidays with his friends all the time because we all know what is gonna happen there and okay if
00:03:23.940 you're not enough with that life then okay i just go my way oh so so you cheated because he went on a
00:03:30.980 boy's trip yeah multiple times so when i asked about cheating i was asking like what way did you
00:03:36.820 meet the guy you cheat with cheat with was it an ex was it someone you knew before or was it someone
00:03:41.640 you met that was new the one i cheated with yeah uh it was just after my ex no no i'm saying how did
00:03:49.880 you meet the guy how did you meet the guy um probably out oh okay so you would go out on the
00:03:56.560 yeah go out it's easy nowadays for women to cheat come on 1.00
00:04:00.060 what i'm curious about more is is there ever was it ever like one guy you would cheat with like
00:04:12.120 every relationship you'd maybe go back to a guy to cheat with no because obviously i'm not from here
00:04:18.020 so back back home there was someone else it's like big gap between the years and um yeah i just
00:04:25.200 believe everybody cheats and mostly women and i truly believe that we just we just better we just 0.71
00:04:32.580 better with like like it's easy it's it's it's easy to find find out when a guy cheats they don't know
00:04:39.360 how to hide they don't really know how to hide but girls girls they're just gonna like play with your 1.00
00:04:45.760 emotions they're just gonna come back like nothing happens how would you how would you hide it me
00:04:51.020 personally i never hide it
00:04:52.400 how do you think that girls typically hide it like i said emotionally like they're just gonna 1.00
00:05:07.980 come back nothing happens we're good you know you're not gonna find anything on her phone so if you if you
00:05:14.220 had a brother if you had a brother i have a brother yeah okay and he thought his girl was cheating on 1.00
00:05:19.060 him how would you say like how could he know if she was cheating
00:05:22.180 i don't know i don't know it's just i it's very it's very difficult to find out when a woman cheats 0.85
00:05:31.820 that's why all of them they say i don't i never did because it's very difficult to find when a woman 1.00
00:05:37.280 how many girls in here were capping when they said they didn't cheat most of them 1.00
00:05:41.240 yeah no that's not true they're never gonna say they're never gonna say they're never gonna admit
00:05:47.540 think about that
00:05:48.840 no seriously but they will sew it they will sew it so for example if a woman cheat on the man 0.86
00:05:55.580 there are some signs that you can understand okay all i'm trying all i'm trying to say like
00:06:00.620 woman knows that guys they don't even want to know if you cheated or no they don't care i want to 1.00
00:06:06.500 know guys they don't want to know i don't want to be detective stephanie like don't don't tell me
00:06:10.940 yeah so if you know already like if you know he doesn't want to know or just play cool and you'll
00:06:16.860 be good what type of man wouldn't like to know that tell me one type of man because i know many
00:06:21.680 they just don't want to know i don't know what type can you name and shame them
00:06:25.380 so you said you said there are ways to know how do you know if your girl's cheating she's changing 0.88
00:06:31.800 a little bit the behavior she start maybe putting the weight on you who are you talking to yeah
00:06:37.480 same thing i'm like trying to put it on you
00:06:39.880 if she starts getting like guys just as bad if not worse yeah excuse me even worse yeah guys maybe
00:06:47.720 they don't even care you know or they are not good enough to to to hide it also women become more 1.00
00:06:53.020 secretive start spending more time out maybe going out with your friends the phone doesn't
00:06:57.600 work never happened to me personally that that much but i can i can see it in other people like
00:07:03.160 how it's happening and you know when you are on the third person you can easily understand and you
00:07:08.460 say mate come on can you like understand that something you're the third person i mean from the
00:07:15.560 outside you say you say come on you don't see that and usually men do not see that because they
00:07:20.820 are blind by like love or something i don't know what so you're the third person and you
00:07:25.400 as a friend
00:07:26.120 okay have you cheated yeah i did but in my defense in my defense straight after i kissed the guy i broke
00:07:35.080 up i ended my relationship straight away so you and i think i kind of like i already knew that i had
00:07:40.440 to break and my relationship for months i just didn't know how i just moved to the country
00:07:44.020 he didn't have how many years were you with him uh nearly five five years but already for at least
00:07:49.000 a half a year i knew it was about six months i i hear this a lot and it was it was like literally
00:07:53.660 like the relationship wasn't good there was no love anymore there wasn't attraction anymore
00:07:58.180 what wasn't good about it if it was just the the love was gone okay i mean it was still love as in
00:08:05.100 like would you would you say it was boring uh yeah and i think i think there were more like
00:08:09.320 differences in he was he was ready to proper settle down right and you i wasn't i didn't lose
00:08:15.040 i still had my wild hairs i i didn't have my time by myself but i think for me it was like for months
00:08:19.860 i i knew i had to break up i just didn't know how i just moved to a new country i didn't have family
00:08:24.800 here i didn't have friends and he moved with you yeah okay so he moved did he move because of you
00:08:29.720 or no no no together together together okay so and then i think i met someone in in the gym who was
00:08:35.940 in a similar situation like benefit for years no i don't know um and we just like we were training
00:08:44.920 together and then we started to talk and like we're in the same situation like hey we're both in a
00:08:48.320 relationship but we actually want to step out of it but we don't know how so we just actually kind of
00:08:52.240 like had the conversation it was kind of like a like nice to talk to someone about it and then i
00:08:57.780 go sorry did you date him no we didn't date we were just like talking like often after the gym
00:09:02.400 we're just talking and then in one night
00:09:05.940 we ended up having a kiss but then straight away i can't remember if it was that same night or the
00:09:10.000 next day i ended did you guys ever hook up or no after that after i the gym guy after i broke up
00:09:15.780 after i ended the relationship yeah that's what you guys did he didn't become your boyfriend or
00:09:19.340 anything no no no no can i ask why you got bored like with the other person and you start looking
00:09:23.600 to someone else i wasn't bored i was just like the the love was gone the attraction was gone the
00:09:29.360 sexual attraction was gone and if i'm not sexually attracted to you what's your love language
00:09:33.420 like do you think i appreciate the honesty but i just just questioned do you think it's fair to say
00:09:38.380 that women look for a replacement guy before the relationship's over i don't think i was looking
00:09:43.260 for i don't i don't i wasn't looking for i need you to stop talking when she's talking
00:09:47.420 go ahead i'm a teacher
00:09:49.800 um i don't want i don't think i was looking for a replacement not at all i think i was more looking
00:09:56.380 for i needed a push to actually end the relationship because i didn't feel like it was fair to him
00:10:01.480 did you do you feel like you cheated to like end the relationship almost almost for me to just kind
00:10:06.140 of get a kick under my ass like dude come on you need to break up because it's not fair to him 1.00
00:10:09.540 because i did i still care about him every so often i still talk to him he's like happily like
00:10:14.340 with in a relationship now the first girl after me he's still with he has two kids and i'm really
00:10:18.700 happy for him and because she she was what what he needed he wanted to be in a you know settle down