JustPearlyThings - Modern Woman Claimed to be a FIXER

00:00:00.000 coming up next what's one skill that a girl would have to have or like trait what yeah for a man 1.00

00:00:07.040 that was like what would he value do you know what today's is i'm just gonna say being be his

00:00:11.540 mother be his mother that's what men just get rid of this book listen okay this is the most 0.99

00:00:18.440 delusional shit i've ever heard in my life you are describing a child there's also the undertone 0.99

00:00:22.920 of disrespect to say to a man that you're going to be his mother i think it's that where you see 0.99

00:00:27.140 like the modern feminism that ego coming yeah that like you look at she's definitely because if you 1.00

00:00:31.780 want to play the mother then you must on some level look at him as your son right which is

00:00:34.560 disrespectful i just think i'm a fix i naturally like to tend to people and tend to people's

00:00:40.100 emotions and i like to know that you're all all right and that's just naturally who i am if i

00:00:43.840 can't fix you but if you keep giving me problems i'll try and fix and fix and fix and fix and fix

00:00:50.080 and fix and if i can't fix can i have an example of a problem

00:00:54.260 um i just you kept saying and fix and fix i thought there's like this would be easy 0.99

00:00:59.440 well the first problem is coming home and crying to you in the first fucking place 0.98

00:01:06.740 what the hell what the hell are you gonna do about it right not crying like that but i'm an emotional 0.99

00:01:11.340 outlet a man's job is to be the mountain that a woman's emotional waves crash into if he needs you 0.70

00:01:16.800 to be strong enough to go to work the next day you need to find a new man or find a man in general

00:01:20.500 today's topic is modern women should stay if high value men cheat so there was a certain footballer 0.85

00:01:30.060 that is in the news and he's in the news because his wife divorced him for cheating

00:01:34.840 however all of the money was in his mom's name

00:01:41.960 so in hindsight being 2020 knowing that he was taking fully 100 taking care of her should she have

00:01:52.460 stayed

00:01:52.880 why don't we start with the couch um and then we'll get we'll get the women's opinions and 1.00

00:02:01.760 then we'll get the men's so start here i don't know i think i think it's all about the principle

00:02:07.100 i get that it's like 2023 i get that i don't know we're we're moving towards more liberal times

00:02:15.860 you've got to do what you've got to do but i just feel like

00:02:19.240 oh i just if it was me i wouldn't want to know things like that i wouldn't i wouldn't want to know

00:02:25.060 that it was coming i don't know i feel like i need a yes or no i need a yes or no are you are you

00:02:31.380 team stay or team go i think go go yeah it's not very manly and i go it's not manly to cheat

00:02:38.780 no i guess you don't think it's manly to sleep with multiple women it's like a masculine trait 0.98

00:02:46.280 i guess so i you know the more i hear it the more i feel like you know what i'm gonna have to accept

00:02:52.420 that if i want a high value man if yeah if i want a man they're gonna exercise the options

00:02:58.640 how do i feel about that i don't know but it just i guess it seems like the reality that we live in

00:03:05.840 so i don't know it's hard do you think she should date a footballer and expect him to be faithful

00:03:12.740 is that a good bet

00:03:13.640 do you know what do you know what i think this might be my idea of a high value man i don't know

00:03:24.000 about everyone else's opinion but my idea of a high value man is that you have to be

00:03:30.160 so certain in yourself and closed off because i don't consider high value if everybody else can have

00:03:37.920 you because why would you want something that everybody else can have that's not special

00:03:42.800 do you know what i mean do you see what i mean so then why do women keep sleeping with them 1.00

00:03:47.280 if if women in general sleeping with them knowing that he's a cheater a serial cheater

00:03:53.440 do you think do you think women sleep with drake and are worried about his monogamy

00:03:57.280 do you think drake has a shortage of women no absolutely not i don't i think he's got a whole 0.99

00:04:02.400 reel of girls that he could just call up and be like yo you're trying to slide or what do you know 1.00

00:04:06.880 what i mean so so would you say in general high value men do tend to cheat and women don't care

00:04:13.600 i think it comes down to the type of guy that person is if you're that guy saying yeah i'm

00:04:19.200 i'm high valued i'm high valued are you though are you yes usually if they're rich enough and famous

00:04:28.480 enough and successful enough yeah that's when you decide is high value meaning your success what you

00:04:33.600 can provide who you can protect what you can do for your family what car you drive what house you live

00:04:37.440 in or is high valued the way you're raised the work the morals your mum brought you up in i would

00:04:43.200 say it's the the men that are the men that women pick yeah it's the market it's demand and supply

00:04:48.400 isn't it you know you've got to look at what what is the market demand if everybody if all these women 1.00

00:04:52.400 want to sleep with drake then regardless of what we may think of that that that demand would indicate

00:04:56.720 that drake is high value spoiler alert i'm a sex worker so that means i get paid to have men that 0.96

00:05:04.960 cheat on their wives or oh wow or their girlfriends and i get them every single day most of the time

00:05:13.040 like they do it with a sex worker because they feel like there's no there's no strings attached to it

00:05:19.840 and they're a lot most of the time like i don't even see like the whatsapp picture on their number

00:05:28.080 because they have a wife and kids but then when they come to you and then they feel like too like

00:05:33.440 um comfortable enough they're gonna tell you even like the story of their life

00:05:36.960 and most of the time like there's like a very lonely man inside of a marriage

00:05:46.560 i'm not saying like cheating it's a good thing because it's not i've been in a relationship and

00:05:52.080 i've been cheated as well what even though i'm a sex worker and even like my my job has been used

00:05:59.040 against me from my exes like i was like oh yeah you shouldn't be caring because you're a sex worker

00:06:06.960 so that's why i'm cheating or that's why i'm having like a free time around do you think that's

00:06:14.880 unfair um i mean it's unfair from my point of view yes because as i said as i said it's my job and like

00:06:26.080 if i go into a relationship to get to know someone new i always like a disclaimer i'm this this is me

00:06:34.400 so you let them know up front yeah always but you're still having sex at work yeah but like

00:06:40.960 that's my job yeah but it doesn't take away that you're sleeping with other people

00:06:45.200 yeah but i get paid no so i had um a question more about the the men that cheat on their wives 0.99

00:06:51.280 yeah but that's why would you would you say those men um would you are they like what percent would

00:06:58.160 you say are in like sexless marriages out of every like maybe like around a 75 percent really yes

00:07:04.560 three out of four because like most of the time is like oh we've got kids and after the third kids

00:07:11.520 like um there was the sparkle wasn't there anymore and then she stopped sleeping with him or it's mutual

00:07:18.960 it's mutual most of the time then like in most of cases like uh it's a her not feeling comfortable

00:07:27.760 with herself enough to go to the men most of the time as well because like they get you know like

00:07:34.480 i think like the self-esteem of a woman depends as well i've got on the environment you've got at home 0.78

00:07:40.880 like uh yeah i need to love myself to love someone else but like if as well like the the men with uh with

00:07:47.600 whom i'm living with doesn't make me feel love i agree with that i think that's my team go i think

00:07:54.960 i'm team go because i think as a woman if you can sense that your man isn't being faithful

00:08:01.520 no matter how much self-love we give ourselves it we automatically think what's wrong with me

00:08:07.360 why am i not good enough what do i what does she have that i don't this this this all these thoughts

00:08:12.240 run through our brain and that knocks your confidence so obviously like you can't be

00:08:17.360 in a happy home and a happy environment no matter what your husband brings to the table

00:08:21.920 that does something to a person mentally and that's why i'm just team go sorry yeah what about you

00:08:28.960 i mean i agree with rue um in terms of like a high value man i think it depends of what you call like

00:08:38.080 class that as because if you're going around saying i'm a high value man are you really if you're just

00:08:42.320 going around doing anything that you would want to do i feel like yeah they still are they still

00:08:47.520 are high value men no they still are yeah but so i feel like so you say are you really and the answer

00:08:52.320 is yes they still are but who says this the women by picking them through sex i get that sometimes women 1.00

00:09:01.040 don't extremely clear i just don't so i would say like if drake went out and said i'm a high value

00:09:10.320 man i would say yes he is because he has a plethora of women but then it goes back to what you deem a 1.00

00:09:18.240 high valued man yeah but you're you're just trying to shift the definition of high value man aren't you

00:09:23.360 you're trying to make it more cuddly and friendly like oh he's a really nice guy he's like super honorable

00:09:27.840 and blah blah blah but but the truth of the matter is like like as paul said i mean if the market is

00:09:31.760 selecting for guys like that like drake that that indicates that he's high value okay in the definition

00:09:38.160 that's most commonly accepted okay so if you revert it back to like say say you have a daughter right

00:09:45.360 she turns 18 she comes to you and says dad listen i've started dating this guy things happen you he's

00:09:51.920 dating whoever he's sleeping with whoever would you deem him a high value fan i wouldn't be happy

00:09:59.600 i'm sure i wouldn't i should i'm sure i wouldn't be happy about that in that scenario but that doesn't

00:10:03.520 that doesn't detract from the fact that in terms of societally that dude is still going to be if he

00:10:08.560 was drake or somebody like that he's still going to be regarded generally as high value i mean my

00:10:12.640 feelings as the father would not really undermine that if my daughter came home with drake or i don't know 0.99

00:10:19.840 that's so that's so what i wish i could hear him like or was dating a footballer i would say what

00:10:26.800 did you expect like it's like you see them in the media they all cheat usually yeah um typically when

00:10:33.840 men can cheat they do and um i don't know why you would expect a man that has beautiful women thrown at 0.81

00:10:41.680 him every single day to be faithful and if you don't want that why would you pick footballer

00:10:45.360 i understand that why would you pick that i do agree with that but i think it's more of the fact

00:10:50.880 that if you're choosing to marry someone if you know that you want to be living a certain life

00:10:55.760 why would you accept and like be like closed off but you're not actually closed off what do you mean

00:11:01.520 like if you're going to choose to marry someone as a footballer if you're going to marry someone

00:11:05.440 don't marry them if you know that you want to live a different life no now they call themselves

00:11:08.960 polyamorous yeah but i would say don't marry the men that are most likely to cheat if you don't want to 0.94

00:11:13.440 be cheated on okay so why pick them how value men don't have to be polyamorous if you switch it

00:11:19.120 round right and exactly and say okay the woman the woman is sleeping with so many different men she's 1.00

00:11:27.280 a whore would that man exactly she's not high value she's a horse she's a slut why is it why is it called 1.00

00:11:35.760 why is it called high value if like if you're sleeping with loads of different women then your values aren't 1.00

00:11:41.920 actually high well in my book it's like values it's valuable it's valuable yeah it's valuable it's

00:11:48.960 not high value it's valuable it's valuable but even you know like um high value men so it's like okay

00:11:55.520 women want to sleep with high value men and whatever whatever this high value in this society is i'll give 1.00

00:12:01.440 you i'll give you the definition really quick okay so and this is from kevin samuels this was his

00:12:07.600 definition so you know it's going to be different based on who you talk to i would say it's the women 1.00

00:12:12.720 or the men that women pick but 10k a month other men must accept you as high value you have to have

00:12:17.760 a network of high value men you have to be visibility linked and level and you have to be useful to others

00:12:22.240 in the group okay so that's that's what sorry go ahead finish okay cool so i'm not gonna even say high

00:12:28.560 value when i'm saying this but if you're a woman and you know that the man is sleeping with um lots of 0.52

00:12:33.840 women and he's got a lot of money more time that girl getting into that relationship is not looking 1.00

00:12:38.880 for relations she's look also looking for something out of it because if you know the man's gonna be 0.96

00:12:42.960 sleeping with multiple women and he's got money you'll be having sex with him maybe for the money 1.00

00:12:48.080 that's why when they get kids and they feel secure and it's like we've got a family you're saying a lot 0.88

00:12:52.960 of them feel lonely because they're not having sex with them anymore because you're gonna stay and 0.93

00:12:56.560 you're still gonna give me money you're still gonna bring your high value and you can have sex with other 1.00

00:12:59.920 women and i don't care because i don't actually love you so that's why i feel these high value 0.85

00:13:05.920 i'd like to make an argument the men that sleep with you are not high value they're just rich 0.99

00:13:10.000 well because a high value man can go out and get it his damn self you gotta pay you well like 0.93

00:13:14.560 if i'm being fair i pay my bills with their money like like a high value man trips over women yeah they 0.96

00:13:21.040 don't they don't have to do on the side so why does a high value man need so many women to feel high 1.00

00:13:26.720 value because that's how men are they don't do it because it makes them feel better see people get

00:13:30.080 this up they try to guilt men and say oh you're insecure one second they say oh you're insecure 0.99

00:13:35.520 you got to sleep with all these women to get validation bullshit men like to 0.98

00:13:38.400 let's let's yeah we all know let's call space yeah it's not like because what women try to do is they 1.00

00:13:43.520 try to guilt a man into acting a right way like oh i would this girl it's not guilty i wouldn't pick

00:13:49.920 and i completely understand that but but my argument to that is if you were head over heels in love

00:13:54.240 and you had genuine desire for that man as bad as it might hurt you you would stay and so would

00:13:59.440 everybody on that couch and that is true because when you're actually in a situation because as much

00:14:03.680 as you hate him for doing it you know deep down if you were dating some slump he would do it if he 0.97

00:14:08.800 could and women misinterpret the inability to get a woman for loyalty and it's bullshit so let's call 0.94

00:14:15.120 a spade a spade it's true yeah i don't i don't think i would mistake the inability i think they're 0.94

00:14:20.000 gonna of course absolutely no it's a test they're like oh a good man would do this and this and if

00:14:25.680 the dude's a enough to give into it then they got him but the truth is right after that they get

00:14:30.640 enough of him after a few years of marriage they end up texting a high value man behind her back 1.00

00:14:36.960 or his back or if they're south america they just go to some like um my religion for example they do

00:14:42.960 something called um sweetening of the person um so i'm south american obviously i'm from venezuela and my

00:14:49.680 religion is umbanda kimbanda yoruba which is a uh flange of the spiritualistic beliefs and stuff like

00:14:57.680 that so like i am from the famous religion of macumbas and i had and i had so many women coming to me 1.00

00:15:06.640 because i read tarot cards i read tarots and everything and i've had oh yeah no my my husband

00:15:13.760 he's cheating on me i'm what i want to do like uh that um spell or don't get hard anymore or i'm

00:15:20.640 going to do like the they put a spell on him because he cheated there's some women that they 1.00

00:15:27.120 don't use judgment because like i am completely against it yeah but the crazy thing half of those

00:15:32.960 women have open instagram accounts with thought pictures on them the same women that complain about 1.00

00:15:37.360 being cheated on get attention from men all the time i know so it's like a lot of times like women will 0.99

00:15:42.400 act like we're so much better than men because you know they cheated maybe we didn't in a relationship

00:15:46.560 but a lot of times we cheat in a different way we cheat by getting attention from men but the get

00:15:50.400 out clause is always it was it physical or not right the get out clause is always well yeah but she 1.00

00:15:55.280 didn't do anything physically he did but i agree with you i just i don't think it matters no i don't

00:15:59.280 think it matters either but i'm just saying society that's that's their get out clauses you ever

00:16:02.800 look at hayley beaver's instagram account this is hayley beaver this woman bagged the guy that every girl 1.00

00:16:08.400 want who like come on who had a crush on justin and they're teenagers yeah that was not my type

00:16:13.360 if it wasn't if it wasn't you if it wasn't look i'm tall so it wasn't me but i knew half the girls 0.90

00:16:19.680 she got him and look at her instagram account it's literally ass picture butt picture lingerie picture 0.95

00:16:25.200 and this is the woman that got the man that everybody wants but hayley beaver and justin's

00:16:30.000 relation that was completely formulated like if you see the clips on youtube and the crazy sightings that

00:16:35.680 they were together they were never like five meters away from each other for throughout the

00:16:39.600 whole childhood but i think going back to this picture thing on instagram if you're a genuinely

00:16:45.280 pretty girl and you give off those nice vibes you are going to get those attention from those males 1.00

00:16:51.280 but it's your choice whether you feed it or not yeah true that's it that's feeding it and then you're

00:16:57.280 part of the problem because you fed it they shouldn't feel comfortable enough to even do that with you

00:17:03.520 yeah but isn't it feeding it to post those pictures and to have an open instagram account

00:17:08.400 where any man can message you agreed but you can go down the path of saying i'm posting this to feel

00:17:14.320 good to do good for me he's talking those girls to feel good i argue 0.57

00:17:23.040 it's empowering him you know i argue that that's justin's fault not her fault because if he had

00:17:28.240 his frame correctly in his house that should would not happen what what she wouldn't disrespect him 0.77

00:17:33.520 like that if he called for more from her so it's justin beaver's fault not hers you think it's a

00:17:37.920 disrespect damn right i think it's disrespect i don't think he knows how to manage his girl 0.84

00:17:42.560 you know and create leadership in the household there's no way a man should allow that and if 0.94

00:17:48.160 he does he just doesn't care about that maybe he's secure enough no i think i think he's

00:17:53.760 no i don't think it's a security thing i think it's lack of consciousness i don't think he

00:17:57.040 understands what's going on to be fair though i agree with that i think i think men should

00:18:01.440 provide and protect i don't know what what did you want to say um so you don't think there's like

00:18:06.400 secure relationships posting them type of things talking to your talking to your back so you don't

00:18:10.720 think there's like secure relationships posting them things and feeling confident about each other

00:18:14.800 it's not about security it's just about why would you let your girl have a straight up 0.99

00:18:19.440 marketing billboard of her ass on the internet what the fuck yeah it's absolute 1.00

00:18:24.320 and if he had the right frame with her and she was truly in love with him she would happy to take 1.00

00:18:28.240 that shit down yeah that is true and most men don't see that me and pearl were talking earlier 0.97

00:18:32.960 about a relationship the guy said that everything was good for the first seven years and it's those 0.99

00:18:37.840 little things right there that that man didn't see because he's like oh well she slept with another 1.00

00:18:42.640 dude well there was also the girl's trip there was also the post on instagram there was also

00:18:47.360 the call from her high school boyfriend that she got in the middle of the night no bro she's been

00:18:52.160 telling you the whole time your frame's off then you got cheated on because she doesn't respect you 0.99

00:18:57.680 wait what do you mean girl's trip like she went on a girl's trip to vegas yeah that's not something

00:19:03.680 you'd allow no no if your girl's in love with you and truly in love with you she doesn't even want to go 0.89

00:19:08.240 on a girl's trip why okay so posting pictures as a woman online i can't do that but you can go and 1.00

00:19:15.360 sleep with multiple women because you're high value you don't have to stay i'll replace you 1.00

00:19:21.680 you don't have to do it you don't have to call yourself high value man i i'm not this first of

00:19:27.280 all i hate alpha beta high value all that any man that's really about his business does not go by that

00:19:33.520 and i i personally will never call myself high value i think it's cringy as what i will say is and i

00:19:40.000 respect your opinion and you're actually saying something that is good in this right moment

00:19:44.960 because like at least you're not defining yourself something you're not yeah no

00:19:55.200 all right so but but what i am saying is is regardless of how how you place me in the world 0.98

00:20:01.040 i would say this about myself or any other person that has a girl that he cares about if her ass and 0.99

00:20:07.040 titties are on the internet that is an active billboard of marketing to get attention from 0.99

00:20:11.760 other men and possibly through hypergamy transition away from you to someone else and if she truly 0.56

00:20:17.200 loves you she will take that down and when you think about it as well it's the first time really

00:20:21.120 in human history that this has happened on such a scale isn't it if you think about women even a few

00:20:26.640 well 20 15 20 years ago when was it there were no women who were who were putting themselves publicly in 0.95

00:20:33.600 that manner aside possibly from celebrities which is a slightly different case but now everyone's

00:20:38.400 got an instagram account it's really unprecedented in human history isn't that what it's it's all

00:20:43.840 about these days though it's dealing with reality as it is it's we live in a day and age where

00:20:49.840 women can make money off of being on social media um you know taking provocative pictures and stuff like 1.00

00:20:56.560 that and where you know it's desirable for men to like have loads of women chasing after them 1.00

00:21:02.960 isn't that it's not it's not like yeah but it's like do you want to deal with those women 1.00

00:21:08.080 as a guy like why would you want to deal with a girl that's in the club every weekend 0.98

00:21:11.840 why would you why would you want to deal with a girl that wants to do girls trips while she's in 1.00

00:21:15.040 a relationship yeah i think girls trips is okay like definitely go with your girls have a good time

00:21:21.280 that's not saying that you have to be out in the club sleeping with whoever yeah that's true for me 0.99

00:21:26.480 in if i was in a relationship you would not catch one photo of me with my bum out tits out nothing 1.00

00:21:33.600 like that that that's foul to me like i don't like that as a woman and like i know us girls like 0.98

00:21:40.640 we've seen things and been like she has a boyfriend though you know she has a boyfriend

00:21:44.800 she has a man though you know it's not right and girls encourage each other to cheat on those trips 1.00

00:21:50.560 yeah you know you're smiling because you're thinking of something i can see it it's funny

00:21:55.520 because i really think it depends on your friendships that's why when you get into a

00:21:58.640 relationship it's so important to look at who are these like who are these man's friends and

00:22:04.240 who are my friends that when i have when i get married i hope that my husband he also has friends

00:22:10.320 that are married and you know don't want to cheat on their wives because show me your friends and i'll

00:22:14.560 show you who you are there's no man that doesn't want there's no man that doesn't want to cheat on his

00:22:18.160 wife um i i don't believe that fact i'm going to find a high value godly man that is what i'm going

00:22:23.600 to find

00:22:34.800 i'm not talking about a man that just goes to church i'm talking about a man that has a relationship

00:22:39.360 with god there's a big difference and i will find no i don't want a priest because there's a lot of

00:22:43.920 priests that don't have a relationship with god they just want to make money from but the key word is

00:22:47.360 you said want every man wants to cheat that's like asking a man not to be a man every guy okay

00:22:51.840 then do you then what he says every every man when they see a hot girl wants to her come on come on 1.00

00:22:57.840 natural instinct yeah but the that love is supposed to take over it's about loving too you know you

00:23:03.920 gotta love your girl yeah you might have the desire but it's about exactly going out there to do it

00:23:08.320 exactly right and when a woman loves a man she doesn't even see other men that i say true right yeah okay i'm

00:23:13.360 not done though because a man yeah can love his wife with all his heart and want nothing more than

00:23:21.520 be a good father a protector tuck his children in hold his wife at night but if you think that he

00:23:28.000 doesn't want to get on the side you have lost your mind but why does that side like where what is the

00:23:33.200 root of that it's how men are it's primal it's truly like if i could snap my fingers right now and make

00:23:39.120 that feeling go away i think i'd be worth 10x what i'm worth and i would do the deal i would pay a

00:23:45.120 million dollars to make that thought that was what i was going to ask next like high value men

00:23:49.280 isn't it harder for you to be high value and have sex with so many like women because where's the 0.97

00:23:53.520 time for that what you don't understand a real high value man doesn't have to chase women women chase 0.99

00:23:56.560 him yeah exactly i know that which is the problem right isn't it because even if you want to be a

00:24:01.040 good man it's in your face you see like i don't look i'm not trying to be disrespectful to you

00:24:06.640 guys i'm just so it's down to the discipline then it's down to the discipline of the man it's in

00:24:11.680 your face every day but at the same time even though it's even though it's hard it's still a 0.77

00:24:16.160 thing where okay cool am i gonna do it am i gonna have the discipline not to have sex with this 0.91

00:24:20.560 person let me tell you let me tell you what happens to a man i do want to answer your question

00:24:24.960 because i think it's important i want to finish this though everything that drives a man to get out

00:24:30.560 of bed and work his ass off is generally around the thought of sex just so you know men build 0.59

00:24:36.800 then invent build and maintain society in pursuit of women okay and a man works his whole life

00:24:42.960 to get his self in a certain place financially physically all these things the man he becomes

00:24:48.000 and then at the end of that you tell him you get one woman forever he would tell you to off

00:24:52.720 it is very very hard that's why i know and the missing a real high value man will tell

00:24:59.040 his girl what's up instead of lie like a coward but that's right that's why i feel like the missing

00:25:03.520 piece is actually god because you say that high value man will do all these things for sex but 0.95

00:25:08.880 a high value man of god he will be doing all these things because he wants to put first god first in

00:25:13.040 his decision clear so low value men will do it too what's the question yeah but who wants a low value

00:25:18.320 man exactly but but here's and that's a great point if if you have two men you can pick two men a low

00:25:26.080 value man that's going to cheat and a high value man is going to cheat which one are you going to pick 0.99

00:25:29.040 because they both will cheat on your ass it's better to be single than to be like cheated or 0.99

00:25:33.520 then you're avoiding the question which one which one would i pick yeah one is going to give you a 0.99

00:25:38.720 better life children love you be there for you i don't i wouldn't i don't want to pick oh you don't

00:25:44.160 want to i don't want to pick i'd rather be single so you're diverting with no kids yeah i'm diverting the

00:25:48.880 question i don't want to pick i believe yeah at the end of the day i don't believe every man

00:25:55.920 cheats well every man doesn't cheat but every every man has the propensity or the desire to

00:26:01.040 for variety definitely and that's what i went to loyalty versus ability yeah i rather loyalty than 0.94

00:26:06.640 love at the end of the day but i know how men are that's bullshit at the end of the day it's not 0.83

00:26:12.000 bullshit you're telling me i rather loyalty than love any day of the week any day of the month 0.91

00:26:16.800 and whenever loyalty than love what i'm lying oh my god okay so you would you would date jonah hill 1.00

00:26:25.840 the guy that looks like jonah hill he's loyal my preference you know how i know she's full of 0.98

00:26:31.760 shit he's loyal every girl on this couch has a host of men in their instagram inbox right now that would 0.99

00:26:36.720 marry them tomorrow and be loyal forever they don't want those men do you have men in your inbox of course 1.00

00:26:41.840 everyone does every one of those men i'm not denying every single girl wants a certain type of man 0.96

00:26:46.960 but at the end of the day that's he's not gonna i have a question out of the girls who here have 1.00

00:26:52.000 who's been in a situationship before i've been in one so one everyone yeah okay so what were you what

00:26:57.520 were you doing then yeah it's ridiculous he wasn't loyal to you that's love of a loyalty do you know what

00:27:05.360 when you are really invested in someone and you want to put that time in

00:27:09.760 i completely think that everybody else is blacked out to me it doesn't matter what else you bring 0.98

00:27:15.520 it doesn't matter if i'm channeling for that guy this guy x could come with a gazillion cars a gazillion

00:27:22.240 houses this and that i don't care i do not care because i want that one there and that's the reality

00:27:28.800 and that's the same reason you won't leave them that's the reality of it but but i could be dating a 0.97

00:27:33.760 high value man who has everything in the world if you cheat on me you're a bum to me sorry have you 0.84

00:27:40.640 ever stayed with someone who cheated no never no so i have a question um so you said something about uh

00:27:46.720 yeah you said honesty right so clearly honesty is not the primary the key kind of characteristic

00:27:53.600 because you've all got dms right so you can all find an honest a loyal man sorry so many dms sorry

00:28:00.480 i don't believe you can find a man like that in games in dms like so you're telling me loyalty is

00:28:05.760 your number one characteristic i feel like in my personal wait i have a question he's five two but

00:28:12.560 loyal yeah i feel like loyalty is the most important okay so height comes before loyalty there we go

00:28:19.680 now we're getting to the truth in it like i'm five nine i think women sometimes work like the other 1.00

00:28:24.320 way around they'll tell you the least important stuff he's he's he's broke he has no job and won't

00:28:28.800 get a job but he's loyal to you matter as well but at the end of the day in a real relationship

00:28:33.360 i'm asking what you he's broke but no job but he's loyal yeah of course i'm saying i'm sorry i'm 1.00

00:28:39.600 staying to be honest i would stay if i knew he's a girl she's so full of shit she's so full of shit 1.00

00:28:44.400 all you want but at the end of the day loyalty over anything but it's so funny it's hard to find 1.00

00:28:49.040 a broke man that won't cheat exactly i feel like broke men are the ones that cheat the most because

00:28:52.960 they have the most time exactly exactly do you realize one out of three men are either virgins or

00:28:59.840 haven't had sex in the past year do you realize that you find 80 of men is unattractive not okay 0.63

00:29:05.360 not average you look at 80 of men and you deem them unattractive yeah just you know we only swipe 0.97

00:29:09.920 right on dating apps five percent of the time so why do women say men are trash because we're all

00:29:13.760 sleeping with the same ones so whether you know it or not so whether you know it or not you're doing 1.00

00:29:22.000 it i feel like at the end of the day women scream men are trash men are trash men are trash but they 0.99

00:29:32.400 go for the same type of men they don't learn and i have my own values i have my own principles but at 0.99

00:29:38.320 the end of the day in a generalized form women go through the same type of men and they want to be

00:29:43.440 screaming odd this this and that but that's the type of man that you go through in the first place like

00:29:49.200 you can't really complain what kind of what kind of men do you go to though you haven't answered my

00:29:52.320 question what's the number one what's the number one characteristic so you said loyalty which is cap

00:29:57.200 so let's let's move that to the side so we know height is also important we know success is important

00:30:02.480 you know their lifestyle is important i just want how do you screen all these instagram dms i just want

00:30:07.360 a genuine person at the end of the day a genuine person who's five two what if he's really awkward

00:30:14.160 obviously there's obviously at the end of the day he's loyal he's loyal but he's really awkward he

00:30:20.400 can barely make eye contact with you but there's genuine standards for each person there's just i

00:30:26.000 need i need a yes or no i need a yes or no very awkward very awkward can barely maintain eye contact

00:30:31.760 with you but he's loyal yes or no no i want someone that can but i thought the loyalty that was the most

00:30:37.520 important but there's things isn't the only thing yeah there's things obviously a lot of things that

00:30:42.880 come over yeah but to be fair you did say they said what's your most important thing and you said

00:30:46.480 loyalty because it is but but clearly it's not though is it it's the whole relationship of just the

00:30:50.480 loyalty that's the thing there's a lot of factors in relationship but there's a lot of factors that

00:30:54.960 come first yeah before loyalty anyway my opinion i think like no one is loyal anymore because like most of

00:31:00.640 the time i have clients that where they that they are like oh yeah no my wife doesn't need to know and 1.00

00:31:04.800 i'm like do you really think your wife is doing something else in this moment like

00:31:08.080 do you think she's at home waiting for you um no she's probably getting someone else on a dating 1.00

00:31:14.160 website to do the same but like the only thing she's doing it for free you're paying women always 1.00

00:31:22.240 women always know that we always feel when something is off it's definitely it's a thousand 0.95

00:31:28.640 percent true so no so do you think do you think like so we're talking about long-term relationships

00:31:34.160 at one point do you think that a woman's needs from a man say attention intimacy consistent for

00:31:40.160 like 50 years you're talking about loyalty right it's the worst thing to get cheated on do you ever

00:31:43.760 think there's limitations to that do you ever think there's only so much time a man can give you his

00:31:47.760 full attention time love intimacy and you expect him to be monogamous do you think you're annoying

00:31:54.560 sometimes or that can fade sometimes i don't know if i can speak on my side like for example like my

00:32:00.000 grandfather he's uh he was because he's not here anymore and um he was a really really big man back

00:32:06.800 in venezuela a really well-known one and very important but like at the end of the day he's being loyal

00:32:13.120 loyal at the front on paper to my grandmother but then like at some point when one of my uncles died

00:32:21.120 he showed up to the to the funeral saying like oh you know guys i've got in total 27 kids from

00:32:27.760 different women but he's always been like true to his kids like he's always been maintaining them he's

00:32:33.120 never let them like being without anything they everyone has asked for something and he was there

00:32:40.240 working hard on it and giving it well that great man that is great man that is the old style archetype of

00:32:45.760 the holy body you met isn't it yeah i have a question um do you guys think that most men

00:32:51.440 would cheat if given the chance so if let's say a very very attractive like margot robbie is who i think 0.98

00:32:58.400 of um i can't think of her name but a margot robbie level girl came up to him and said i'll have sex 0.96

00:33:08.320 with you right now right here most men would say yes of course yeah yeah yeah there's a bear in the 0.92

00:33:13.040 woods yeah so so is it better to accept men as they are or try to change them into what we want

00:33:20.240 them to be you can't change a man yeah he's gonna be who he shows who he is but you guys when we're

00:33:25.680 having this conversation the way you're talking it's like you're trying to change how men are no i feel

00:33:29.840 like a man will change for you if he wants to change yeah wait wait can i say something to you

00:33:35.520 definitely be committed to you exactly your man has a problem that he's suffering with but he finds

00:33:43.360 this girl he's gonna think oh my gosh i need to change this girl i want this girl in my life i'm

00:33:48.080 gonna change for her but i'm gonna stop that what i'm doing on this side and i'm this is all i'm

00:33:51.920 gonna think about so everything that i do from now is gonna be for that girl and that is the dream that

00:33:56.320 disney soldier yeah i'm just i'm a lover girl that's what you know i'm a lover girl completely

00:34:04.320 you know but call me naive but that's what i would like to think you know but the only thing women 1.00

00:34:10.240 want when it comes down to it the only thing we ask for is just to be protected and that's it

00:34:16.640 if you can't protect us and you can't provide and high security yeah add that emotional stability

00:34:24.320 for us we're not bothered protection from war i need to know that if i'm out you know and i come

00:34:31.280 into a problem i know that it doesn't matter how i act because i know that i'm going to be safe

00:34:35.760 because i've got my man there so i know that he's going to be able to solve whatever situation happens

00:34:41.360 with me i need to know that i can come home from work for a bad day and say babe listen and just reel it

00:34:46.720 off and i can have that emotional stability with him of course she wants him to stay loyal she's still

00:34:51.520 working you know the truth is you're capping and you've not run into it yet you're too young but

00:34:59.600 in about 10 years she's gonna be a ride or die and helping get threesomes i'm telling you it's gonna 1.00

00:35:03.120 happen they exist so why are you acting like it's a fairy tale yeah they do exist you know no okay

00:35:17.760 do are do they exist fine yes there's occasional men that make a lot of money and don't cheat

00:35:25.440 but most of y'all aren't going to get them

00:35:34.560 so for the average woman okay 0.50

00:35:39.200 is it better to accept men as they are or change them into what we want them to be

00:35:44.000 just don't change them find your own no no but we remember we we just established the majority

00:35:49.680 the majority will not end up with these magical men that make a lot of money have women chasing

00:35:54.720 them and then choose not to cheat most women aren't going to end up with a guy like that okay

00:35:58.640 pearl let me ask you a question do you think that if you're deemed more like an attractive female you 1.00

00:36:06.240 run into these problems more do i think that attractive women run into cheating more all these 1.00

00:36:12.880 all every problem that we've just discussed do you think that would happen more as for an attractive

00:36:18.240 female or as just someone that's just stated yeah you know you buying average i the reason i the reason

00:36:25.360 i would guess it happens to attractive women more is because attractive women get to deal with the 1.00

00:36:29.520 types of men that most women want more seriously where like the lower the lower women like unless they 1.00

00:36:36.080 have a really good personality like usually they're just side chicks yeah no i agree with that also

00:36:40.080 that's really the problem you're running into is because you've not run into a one percent man yet

00:36:43.600 because if drake did that to you you'd stay with drake

00:36:45.600 you might not like and you'd hop up and down and scream especially if he was emotionally there

00:36:49.760 for you and y'all were like best friends and like really really partners you wouldn't leave drake get 0.96

00:36:53.680 the fuck out of here nah you see me right that's different now because because it's drake do you 0.98

00:36:58.320 know what it is now the problem is is that you're dating a bomb and you feel like the the trade-off 1.00

00:37:04.640 is sexual exclusivity so when you find out he's cheating on you that's the one thing he was supposed 1.00

00:37:09.520 to give up for y'all's relationship for you to be with him now you find out his broke bum ass is 1.00

00:37:14.320 cheating on you on top of that then you're pissed if men want an untouchable woman you have to be 1.00

00:37:22.720 untouchable yourself what do you know i don't want to hear what do you mean men want an untouchable 0.97

00:37:27.360 women most women have been touched by many men

00:37:31.440 no men just want someone that doesn't look touchable 0.98

00:37:39.760 like fine i can deal with a past but don't look like you have a past that's all i'm asking

00:37:45.040 why would you want that why would you want to be with a girl that you know that so everybody else 0.93

00:37:49.360 because they can hide it what are you talking about in the relationship he's got she's got to be

00:37:54.400 faithful in the relationship yeah untouched but like your your past as well like i don't know

00:38:02.320 men don't want women with a past okay i agree agreed but women want men with a past 0.99

00:38:07.760 so disagreed okay i have a question i have a question i have a question i don't think it's

00:38:11.440 that disagree would you would you date would you date a virgin would you date a virgin that's a

00:38:15.520 question no no why not why not but you said why no there's a difference between a virgin and an 0.99

00:38:22.480 absolute man there's a difference there's like a reason but if the man knows that you don't want a

00:38:27.760 manhole he will just lie about his body count of course yeah but let's be clear about the guy that 0.99

00:38:32.720 that's barely not a virgin it's not because he doesn't want to be a man whore it's because he cannot 0.99

00:38:38.080 achieve such status so why would you want to so you'd want to be with the guy that could get other 0.97

00:38:43.520 women because women don't want men that other women don't want yeah so any guy that you deem 0.91

00:38:49.200 as high value whatever your criteria is necessarily going to be a guy who has had a past who has had

00:38:54.880 other women because otherwise hell of a past exactly because otherwise his value is not gonna is not

00:38:59.840 gonna mean anything but as a woman you find that out about the guy you're interested in

00:39:04.880 it changes nothing no the first thing that pop will pop into a woman's head is so what's so special 0.96

00:39:10.960 about me then what's so special what like the girls who the girls who sleep with leonardo dicaprio 0.96

00:39:15.200 probably nothing yeah they're silly they're all silly i don't stand with those girls at all because 0.97

00:39:19.840 i think they're all silly you know so when he's got headphones on he's listening to music and she's 0.99

00:39:23.440 riding him and he's just like looking at his watch this is what you said you said what's so special 0.91

00:39:28.560 about me most women aren't special well that's down to your personal opinion no i'm like seriously

00:39:34.320 what what do women bring in 2022 that is special nothing do most women have a cookbook no or do 1.00

00:39:40.800 most women really know how to cater to a man no are most women virgins on their wedding day no so 1.00

00:39:46.560 what do most women bring in 2022 that is special but why is it all about what we can offer why is it

00:39:52.480 always about what we can bring okay because because because when when you're talking when

00:39:57.360 you're trying to sell a car if you're trying to get married right and please i'm not saying that

00:40:00.880 women are cars it's just an analogy but but if you're trying to sell a car you have to study the 1.00

00:40:06.640 buyer and figure out what the buyers want and that's what men want and that's how it all became like a

00:40:13.280 competition between men and women between everyone and because like oh i need to show off that i know how

00:40:19.520 how to do this and i need to show off how i need i can do that but better you don't you don't think

00:40:24.640 that if you're trying to get married you should demonstrate that you have wife skills of course 1.00

00:40:29.760 like who has them at the end of the day not everyone not many women in 2022 no but you know what 1.00

00:40:35.200 though have you ever read the book uh why do men love bitches oh yeah that was written by a single 1.00

00:40:40.480 author that is still saying these books are such a red if i i i met with someone and i saw that book

00:40:47.440 in the house and i just cut it off i was like you are long that book is on my bedside table that was

00:40:53.280 my bible a few years ago right next to her astrology set you have been misled my dear but you said you've

00:41:00.400 never been in a relationship so it doesn't work no that's i've been in a relationship that was me i've been

00:41:04.800 in a relationship no it was pretty teeth i've been in a relationship but like no like if you're not

00:41:12.400 showing me how you can protect me and how you can provide for me i'm not cooking you a meal

00:41:16.160 get lost on her takeaway but why would you be with that guy in the first place well fairs but

00:41:26.080 but you know like for example to one of my exes once i and he's um he was like a slightly recent

00:41:31.680 relationship and um i was like you know i prepared like his favorite dishes because i know how to cook

00:41:39.280 because unfortunately my grandmother taught me how to do it how you say unfortunately because then

00:41:44.240 like uh yeah no i know for my friends is good but like for then someone else who's not appreciating it

00:41:49.360 like uh why is it gonna be good well why are you picking guys that don't appreciate it because then i

00:41:53.760 found out like later on that he wasn't really appreciating it like and and you know like i found out

00:41:58.960 that he cheated on me and like because i got messages everywhere of people telling me because

00:42:03.920 like you know seems like sometimes people has to come to you and tell you what and where like he's

00:42:08.640 people making mistakes pause for a second how did he not appreciate it no he did because like he was

00:42:13.840 like oh my god this is one of my favorite dishes that you can make and i was like all right so then

00:42:18.320 then tell me like what have you done today and he lied and i was like so why would you lie to me

00:42:24.640 when you asking me to be honest to you and i'm like because you can't handle the truth i can trust me

00:42:30.800 i have i've been through so many things and uh he thought in his head that i wasn't enough strong

00:42:37.520 enough to handle that fear but you left him because of that issue yeah because like so you weren't

00:42:42.880 strong enough to handle that issue because like i don't know you know what like um yeah um i call 0.86

00:42:47.680 bullshit but why would she stay women make up reasons they leave men when they just fall out of love with 1.00

00:42:52.320 them yeah so if you're really in love with them you wouldn't have left them and yeah but like you 1.00

00:42:57.120 know and by the way cooking's overrated men don't care about that anymore no i'm not no i'm gonna tell

00:43:01.120 you i have uber eats i i do care but i'll tell you i don't think it's like people are like it's like

00:43:06.720 some special thing yeah i think it's it's like a it's like a normal thing that would endear you to

00:43:11.200 a man right yeah but like for example if i cook you a meal you owe me a relationship now you owe me like

00:43:16.720 for example that's like a nice thing to do for someone right you know what they say i love you

00:43:21.840 but i love myself more so that's why i leave yeah and because um you know and i admit and i admit i'm

00:43:29.280 still in love with that man he's the love of my life but like what you left him yeah because i love

00:43:34.560 myself no because i love my i love myself more did he did he leave because he cheated would you say

00:43:39.680 would you say that's selfish it's valuing him i have a question wouldn't you say that's selfish

00:43:45.760 to love yourself more no because like uh you you need you know like everyone says like you need to

00:43:51.760 love yourself before you love someone else no everyone doesn't say that women say that i don't 0.99

00:43:56.160 know i've never heard a man say that no i'm saying single single women say that that you need to love 1.00

00:44:03.840 yourself before a relationship but if you want to start a family what do you have to love more of the

00:44:07.200 family your kids yeah yeah you're right the family the kids and so it's like if you're already just

00:44:12.560 demonstrating before you're even with a guy that you need to love yourself more than the relationship

00:44:17.200 then it's like yeah because like you know because your kids are going to be forever in love with him

00:44:21.600 yeah but like you should call him on the show live i'm just trying to get around the idea that you said

00:44:28.320 you you love this guy and he didn't tell you something he was dishonest to you but you could handle

00:44:33.760 the truth but you you fell out over this issue even though you just admitted you love it so you

00:44:37.680 know like you've shown that he should have lied to you yeah but like if you admit something i can

00:44:42.320 deal with that but if you're telling me no i've been doing this instead of that and then i know what

00:44:48.240 you've done like surely now is when you actually build the trust by showing you can handle the truth

00:44:52.240 right saying hey you don't need to lie to me anymore we can this is where you get to negotiate and

00:44:56.640 compromise right i mean i don't lie if valuing yourself meant like no if valuing them meant

00:45:06.800 disrespecting yourself would you still carry on doing it do you think that's what it is because 0.99

00:45:11.520 we live in a world full of girls that put their ass and titties on the internet every day from i am 1.00

00:45:15.360 the first one yeah yeah so what you're saying is absolute you weren't in love with that man you value 1.00

00:45:20.880 yourself you're a sex worker let's call it straight no but like uh oh i value myself i leave you for

00:45:25.600 cheating you're a sex worker and i will admit i stopped doing it while i was with him because he 0.95

00:45:30.320 asked you and i tried too but then i went back to it because because i can't get enough of it and i don't 0.98

00:45:35.680 mean it to disrespect you but you can't get enough of it oh yeah no so work yeah in a professional sense

00:45:42.160 or like yeah it's fulfilling literally yeah every every hole you need to get back with this guy

00:45:49.920 that that guy really changed but another another strand of this though is is is what is perhaps

00:45:55.760 what justin often talks about which is that um if he was genuinely high value he would have been up

00:46:00.480 front with you at the beginning because you're saying that he lied about it or he he concealed it

00:46:04.080 whereas actually if he'd have said up front listen you know you're my main girl but

00:46:07.680 guess what yeah from my point of view i will be i was like you know if you were telling me from the

00:46:15.360 beginning like oh look i want to do this yeah but and not use my job against me i could have thought

00:46:21.760 about it because otherwise i mean like and you know what like we can be polyamorous everyone is doing

00:46:27.440 it let's try i think maybe that's what we need to start respecting a little bit more as opposed to

00:46:34.080 loyalty it's just the honesty the honesty yeah exactly you know yeah and i don't like to have

00:46:40.400 someone else to come and tell me look here's but here's the truth though because if a man came to you

00:46:44.720 and you truly loved him and he set you down got everything out the way and you were knee to knee

00:46:48.720 and he looked you dead in the eyes to say listen i really care about you obviously i'm gonna see other

00:46:53.040 women there's no way i'll ever have feelings for them i'm gonna take care of you completely i want to be 1.00

00:46:56.720 the man that makes your dreams come true let's go to the dark side of the moon no i'm gonna be the rock

00:47:01.120 that your emotional waves crash into i am there for you i am in love with you let's have kids 0.99

00:47:05.200 i'm gonna have sex with women every now and then she that girl's delusional she doesn't know 1.00

00:47:09.920 and and he tells you the truth instead of being a coward see the problem is you don't like a man 1.00

00:47:15.200 that's going to be a coward and lie behind your back because he's too much of a to tell

00:47:18.880 you the truth you know the truth you know the truth from the jump that every man wants to do it 0.92

00:47:23.120 it's the respect of sitting you down and telling you the truth furthermore most often when a woman truly 0.96

00:47:28.320 truly loves a man she does not want to sleep with other men at all it's not this oh you get to do

00:47:33.920 it i want to do it too because she's so in love with a man she just wants to be with a man so in

00:47:40.240 that in that way i really respect what you said because it is true in a lot of women when a man has

00:47:45.920 the balls to actually tell the truth will in fact stay because they know they can go get with the next 0.95

00:47:50.320 guy live a shittier life and then get lied to from a coward i think it comes from the idea and this 0.99

00:47:55.840 might be controversial but it's the idea that you know this is life's not fair this is how it is 0.70

00:48:04.160 men are men i don't know that's just how i feel if you're going to be men men and men that's how

00:48:10.240 they're going to be so if you if you if you're man enough to say look this is this is this is the

00:48:14.960 truth this is what you're going to have to deal with i love you but this is what it is i would take

00:48:20.160 that any day over well the issue is it's a marketplace isn't it you know and it's very

00:48:24.240 unromantic and it's very sounds very crude to say but the reality is that dating sex relationships it's

00:48:29.280 a big marketplace out there right so the guy who is high value who has options is good is going to

00:48:35.360 exercise those options in most cases right now every guy wants to would like to have multiple women 0.97

00:48:42.000 not every guy's going to be capable of achieving that so you're going to get some guys who are sort of

00:48:45.280 lower down in the hierarchy right you could date them or you could marry them and they would probably

00:48:50.240 be you go to the trans girl okay one thing i think people keep on missing with this is that maybe you're

00:48:56.160 not really even messing with the high quality people maybe it's just a lot of mediocre but good looking

00:49:00.640 people who have convinced themselves that they're worthy of the ultimate commitment and love and

00:49:05.120 attention from each other when you are you're all as mediocre as each other right so if you're dating

00:49:09.440 athletes and rappers who are known for being promiscuous they're not particularly men of high stature in

00:49:14.240 terms of character and you're in a short skirt at an after party you're not particularly wife material

00:49:19.840 right then so why why do we kind of convince ourselves that we don't need to compromise and

00:49:25.920 work for what we want because i think men understand that you have to work to get the the woman like the

00:49:31.680 one but i never hear women talk about all the things they need to do to qualify for the man they 1.00

00:49:36.640 actually want it seems like you don't want to compromise he wants he must be faithful he must have

00:49:40.960 this he must have that he must be loyal or most of the time they say it when you're not around there

00:49:46.000 most of the time they can say it when you're when a man is not around there we don't have to

00:49:50.080 explicitly state to you you know that's something we do in ourselves and with our girls and out of

00:49:55.440 curiosity what do you what do you think that men want me personally 0.95

00:50:00.560 i think men want an outlet an emotional outlet when they come home you know and when they've had

00:50:11.920 a shitty day and whatever i think they want an emotional outlet i think they want someone that they

00:50:18.080 can like it's it's difficult you need to burn that book burn that book on your bedside

00:50:25.200 can you can you listen i need you five things five things that i think that you think that

00:50:33.040 no i'm gonna have you do it and then i'm gonna have alex do it so i'm gonna pick two yeah so

00:50:37.280 an emotional outlet what else emotional outlet loving i think they want a mother

00:50:47.520 you want a mother i think they want 1.00

00:50:56.080 i do i will go as far and stay say stability i think they do want stability i i know they do silly

00:51:04.400 things but i do deep down believe he wants stability somewhere what's what's one skill that a girl 0.88

00:51:10.560 would have to have or like trait watching it for yeah for a man that like what would he value

00:51:18.080 don't say ironing do you know what today's days i'm just gonna say it being be his mother be his

00:51:23.280 mother that's what men just get rid of this book listen okay this is the most delusional i've ever

00:51:30.160 heard in my life you were describing a child i think she's describing a child i think there's

00:51:36.080 also the undertone of disrespect to say to a man that you're going to be his mother i think it's

00:51:41.920 that where you see like the modern feminism that ego come in yeah that like you look at she's 1.00

00:51:46.560 definitely because if you want to play the mother then you must on some level look at him as your

00:51:49.600 son right which is disrespectful to do you date men that are children no but you just said

00:51:55.840 i think i think i think she's dated italians i think that a lot of men do have some really deep

00:52:05.280 rooted issues that stem from the family environment and where they've grown up and who's been around

00:52:10.880 and who if they've had a father figure if they've had a mother figure i think a lot of issues that

00:52:14.720 they deal with in their present modern day relationships does stem from that the type of

00:52:19.280 men you've dated no i'm not saying that but i'm just saying i'm asking you from seeing my girls and how

00:52:24.720 i've seen other people's and other people's relationships so what about the men you've dated

00:52:28.480 so they don't have those issues so i'm asking about you in my past yeah but that's something

00:52:34.080 that i've recognized like my mom um she's a lawyer and she deals a lot with like narcissistic relationships 1.00

00:52:40.880 and stuff so i've learned how to kind of navigate through that so why do you why do you think you

00:52:46.000 attract those men do you know what i'll tell you why i attract those men because i'm a fixer that's what

00:52:53.200 type of person i am i like to fix people and you've got that motherly you've got that motherly

00:52:58.000 yorkshire accent as well haven't you all right all right all right all right have a have a have

00:53:02.320 an odd parts on like don't worry about it so so it's it's there's nothing of it's it's just that

00:53:07.760 you're a fixer i just think i'm a fix i naturally like to tend to people and tend to people's emotions

00:53:13.280 and i like to know that you're all all right and that's just naturally who i am if i can't fix you

00:53:17.840 but if you keep giving me problems i'll try and fix and fix and fix and fix and fix

00:53:23.600 and if i can't fix can i have an example of a problem um let me think let me think

00:53:34.080 i just you kept saying in fix and fix i thought there's like this would be easy

00:53:37.040 you know i'm back in my brain well the first problem is coming home and crying to you in the

00:53:43.520 first place what the hell are you gonna do about it not crying like that but i mean emotional outlet a

00:53:49.600 man's job is to be the mountain that a woman's emotional waves crash into if he needs you to be 1.00

00:53:54.800 strong enough to go to work the next day you need to find a new man or find a man in general but then

00:53:58.640 that bleeds into toxic masculinity doesn't it does it a man has emotions himself okay cool so how

00:54:06.800 about he keeps them to himself and maybe talks to his colleagues at work about fixing the problem 0.99

00:54:10.560 not coming home like a little bitch to his wife if he can't make her feel safe truly feel safe you 0.99

00:54:15.920 think him coming home and telling you about his problems at work is gonna make you feel safe and 0.99

00:54:19.840 protected you're gonna feel safe and protected i see what he's supposed to be the hero he's supposed to 1.00

00:54:25.120 have charge of the situation coming home and crying to you like a little bitch is gonna do nothing 1.00

00:54:28.560 but dry your pussy up i'm telling you right now you're wrong not crying yeah crying so to his mother 1.00

00:54:34.320 i think a man has to be comfortable enough to be able to tell me if he's not comfortable 1.00

00:54:37.760 enjoy your cats i'm not saying that i'm not saying that you don't have i'm not saying that you don't

00:54:42.240 tell me but i'm just saying that i want you to know that you can talk to me but it's a double it's like

00:54:49.120 a double-edged sword because you also said that you're mothering him and that you keep having to fix

00:54:53.360 these problems so why would he bring the problems to you because you're the same a man should never 0.98

00:54:59.200 bring his problems no but i'm saying based on your that's what you said you said you kept having to

00:55:03.040 fix the problem and fix and fix and fix no i'm saying like within me like if i can't feel like

00:55:08.960 you don't have a problem and maybe that is the man i attract i don't know but like i i that's who i

00:55:14.400 naturally am i'm a fixer like if i can see a problem i'll just try and try and chip away at it

00:55:20.880 chip away until i get to the root of it and then it's sorted see i i personally i interpret what

00:55:27.120 you say with like such an undertone of disrespect because to fix someone you must think that they

00:55:31.600 are broken on some level and to to think of yourself as their mother you must think of them

00:55:35.440 as a son i i feel like i hear a lot of undertones of like i don't really rate this guy and he's kind

00:55:41.120 of my project when i look at him as like something that i kind of add new bits onto a garage workshop and

00:55:46.960 then i i think women a lot a lot of the time use that as a defense mechanism because when they break 1.00

00:55:50.480 up they say oh he had all these issues you know he couldn't do anything he was always crying xyz

00:55:55.840 i think if you're going to support someone you have to respect them and if you respect them you

00:56:00.160 wouldn't you wouldn't say i think an old school woman wouldn't say oh i'm always fixing my husband's

00:56:04.240 issues yeah i mean he cries to me at night i'm definitely his like mother figure you would never

00:56:10.080 say that because you'd respect him as a man completely if you were such a high-value man then you wouldn't

00:56:13.920 even have to have those problems to fix exactly everyone everyone has problems everyone's had

00:56:19.360 problems that's how they picture of course but then you saying that you can't come home and like

00:56:23.120 if you came back to your girl and saying oh babe there's up and there's up and there's that you're 0.98

00:56:27.120 automatically a bitch like everybody has problems yeah but i was saying that based on what you said 1.00

00:56:32.560 because you said that you kept having to fix these problems that's what you said no that's what so so 0.99

00:56:38.480 i'm saying based on that why would a guy bring you his problems if you you you said yourself you don't

00:56:43.680 like that you keep being a fixer no i'm not saying that i don't like being a fixer i'm just saying

00:56:49.120 that's who i naturally i'm like that's the energy i vibrate is i'm just a fixer like but that's not

00:56:57.200 even like in relationships that's like every part of my life that's my friendship like if if i'm having

00:57:03.600 an argument with one of my girls and her kind of vibe is like okay i need to step back and shut myself

00:57:10.000 out of this i don't work like that i'm like come on bro we need to try this we need to fix this

00:57:15.600 i'm gonna give you some advice real quick and i hope you don't take this disrespectfully i think 0.98

00:57:19.840 you should burn whatever that book why men love bitches but burn that on a bonfire and read a book 1.00

00:57:25.920 about divine feminine etc because i think you have a naturally strong feminine energy but what's going 0.99

00:57:30.720 to happen is you're going to get used up you're going to go to the club and give all these feminine 1.00

00:57:34.000 energies to guys who go to the club every day and run through girls and after you finish using that up

00:57:38.880 you're going to convince yourself that men are trash men ain't and that you need to change and

00:57:43.680 you're going to adapt more and more toxic behaviors until at 28 none of no trace of the woman the woman 0.88

00:57:50.000 right here who says she's a fixer exists because you've been used up and disrespected for about five

00:57:54.160 six years so i would say work on your strengths and develop that feminine energy 1.00

JustPearlyThings - July 15, 2023

Modern Woman Claimed to be a FIXER

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