JustPearlyThings - July 22, 2023


Modern Woman Claims That Her CRUSH Cheated On Her


Episode Stats

Length

10 minutes

Words per Minute

179.59906

Word Count

1,962

Sentence Count

1

Misogynist Sentences

3

Hate Speech Sentences

1


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 who cheats more men or women so obviously the opening question has got to be have you ever
00:00:06.980 cheated starting here go around in the second row i have never cheated i have been cheated on
00:00:12.520 once that i'm aware of and how did you how did you find out um looking through his phone actually
00:00:18.860 what okay so what apps did you go to um literally just whatsapp and um and also he had like some
00:00:26.740 dating apps as well okay which were live and the conversations there was it your first time
00:00:31.820 looking or had you looked before it was my first time looking i already felt yeah but i'd already
00:00:36.820 felt there was something i already felt there was something not quite right that's why i looked how
00:00:43.120 long were you guys dating before you looked uh before i looked probably about three years you
00:00:47.540 never looked in his phone once no because i trusted him until a point that i didn't and then i was
00:00:52.840 right and what what made you think he was cheating just he changed the sort of mannerisms the way we
00:00:59.580 were together like it was just different was he treating you better or worse um i was getting lots
00:01:04.840 of presents and he was very wealthy so win-win maybe i don't know but um but it was it was weird there
00:01:14.020 was definitely things lacking like emotionally and stuff but but yeah he was definitely and did you
00:01:18.420 did you stay with him or did you go um i stayed for a bit because he was like i'm sorry i'm sorry
00:01:25.300 there and he was like all about you know making everything work and fixing it and it's like okay
00:01:30.220 i'll give you a chance okay but i think deep down i was like i can't it doesn't it's broken
00:01:35.220 if he was making less money would you have left quicker oh my god
00:01:42.100 i mean i mean you know you're the best though you know you're the best
00:01:53.060 i just we're all about honesty on this show probably you know because once it's broken it's broken
00:02:00.500 i have a question i have a question if he was making more would you have stayed longer
00:02:04.580 i mean uh no i think no there came it came a point where i was like no i'm done you know what
00:02:11.460 i mean and like money what was that point no no because because because it i i think when the trust
00:02:17.860 is broken the trust is broken so like although i'm like yeah we can make it work and he was really
00:02:22.420 trying like really trying i was just like i can't get that it's done you know once it you're just like
00:02:27.620 i can't and you and once that trust is broken then i think it's really hard for a relationship to
00:02:32.580 to refund but yeah but i think because we spent so long together and we were good for so long and
00:02:38.100 he was willing to own up to it and rectify it and blah blah blah i was like okay let's try but
00:02:44.020 realistically it's very rare that that works so i have a question if you were single the rest of your
00:02:49.060 life would you have wished you worked it out with him um no because he's not the one the one he's not
00:02:55.460 the one i don't believe in the one i believe i believe i believe that i believe there is one but
00:03:00.260 i think if i think when i was in love with him i probably would have said that but i'm not in love
00:03:04.980 with him and that is way gone that that emotion that emotional draw or tie so i think nah so second
00:03:12.260 question you so you've never cheated physically never have you ever have you ever flirted with another
00:03:16.980 guy it depends what you mean by flirting i'm quite flirtatious it's just because of some of the stuff
00:03:21.860 that i work that i do but um but never with intent so you never wanted it to go anywhere no did you
00:03:29.300 have guy friends at all when you were in that relationship yeah i still have a lot of guy friends
00:03:33.300 okay one of my best is over there okay okay um what about what about messages did you ever respond
00:03:42.580 to messages from other guys no no messages i i shut it down i'm i'm very honest
00:03:47.300 shut it down maybe like flirting some guy friends but nothing physical nothing no yeah i'm very fussy
00:03:55.300 i don't i i really if i like someone that's the only person i i want to be with in that okay what about
00:04:01.540 when women do cheat are they cheating to leave typically do you think oh i think some women uh cheat
00:04:08.820 i think they kind of cheat for a one-upmanship rather than so you did it so i can do it you know what
00:04:13.940 i mean whereas um i think that there is an element that it's you know escapism and they and they want
00:04:19.940 out of what they're in but i think it's that kind of one-upmanship how do you know how do you know
00:04:26.820 well just because i have a lot of girlfriends i have a lot of guy friends i've never cheated just
00:04:32.420 going out there you've never cheated but you know women who've cheated back yeah yeah okay and is that
00:04:37.700 usually does it work out for them very very rare okay have you ever cheated no okay have you ever
00:04:48.980 been cheated on no okay have you ever cheated i've never cheated um i've experienced someone being
00:04:55.700 unfaithful to me but we're not even together in the first place so i don't think it counts as cheating
00:05:00.900 so you weren't so how is he unfaithful if you weren't together um i just we were doing very
00:05:06.660 official things okay so the sex you guys were having sex and then he was we didn't have like a proper
00:05:18.260 talk okay then i just energetically felt like he was with someone else so then i don't know i i don't
00:05:26.020 know if it counts as cheating what do you think if if you never really establish something but but
00:05:30.900 then you kind of have no i don't think it counts i mean do you guys raise your hand does that count
00:05:37.380 as cheating i would say yeah i think she says yeah i'm on the end oh three you think yes yeah if you're
00:05:44.900 if you're not together you think it counts as cheating but what is together yeah yeah what does
00:05:50.340 it mean girlfriend like what do you say yeah he was consistently asking me out to be official
00:05:56.660 actually i was kind of you know for me it's about action so instead of saying yes i can be a girlfriend
00:06:03.540 i have to receive girlfriend treatment and and see your consistency first okay so so he failed basically
00:06:13.380 maybe maybe he took it as a no and then was starting to move on
00:06:16.420 you know what i mean yeah like if like it's like if you asked a guy to be your boyfriend or like
00:06:22.740 if you it's going somewhere and he says no wouldn't you move on but i was taking my time to decide
00:06:28.340 well yeah i mean maybe he was doing the same thing yeah okay what about you have have you cheated
00:06:33.540 kind of how would you say kind of well i was living with my boyfriend i hope he's not watching you
00:06:51.060 and it was like a work thing it was proximity it was just some kissing and a bit of a fumble
00:06:56.740 in my lunch break in your lunch break okay i gotta i gotta be honest i gotta wait i gotta be honest
00:07:05.860 this is a yes how is this a maybe kind of kind of you know
00:07:16.740 okay okay but what if he only kissed another chick would that be cheating
00:07:22.340 yes i don't know it didn't happen so i don't know how i feel about it or felt about it okay and
00:07:29.780 did you tell him or no no did he ever he knows now i mean i'm assuming it didn't work out
00:07:37.940 no but he's still one of my good friends okay in your back pocket
00:07:44.100 have you ever cheated i have cheated yeah i was bad tell me i appreciate the honest the men
00:07:53.620 are much more likely to tell you you know what i mean i mean i can't lie i can't lie okay so so um
00:07:59.780 how did you cheat oh well the first time she probably she cheated on me then i just went nuts
00:08:07.540 okay so how did you find out she was cheating email i checked her email she was emailing
00:08:12.820 love fucking letters oh i can't believe it not even instagram email email who is she emailing very
00:08:18.820 professional i cannot who is who is she emailing she's probably gonna watch this so i can't like
00:08:27.140 yeah i knew her password oh that's okay it's all right be honest be honest so so you caught her
00:08:33.780 emailing who is she emailing just some dude like on holiday she like met him on holiday and she was
00:08:40.500 emailing yeah and so how did you who did you cheat with to get back oh not not my best friend but
00:08:48.500 like loads loads oh loads absolutely like dating apps anyone personal like close to her
00:08:57.700 no no no no no no but she knew them yeah some of them yeah
00:09:02.100 yeah i'm not like that did you did she know yeah laura's seen a lot yeah i've seen i've seen
00:09:08.980 it together yeah what did you say when he was cheating did you support him were you like she
00:09:13.620 kind of deserves it no i like i like clean breaks i'm all about clean breaks that's true i should have
00:09:19.700 clean baked it yeah but i didn't yeah he really didn't i did eventually are you guys still oh no we are
00:09:27.380 friends yeah yeah we are friends and we're actually laughing about it over dinner the other week yeah
00:09:31.220 yeah okay other months rather would you ever get back with her or no no no no too far gone no it's all
00:09:38.740 good and how how did you hide it from her i didn't actually didn't like no oh you didn't hide it at all
00:09:46.980 just done it like yeah i did what i did and did she leave when she i mean no i left it was actually me
00:09:53.380 like yeah yeah yeah yeah did she find out no she thought i was this angel like she's the best but
00:10:00.340 she thought i was a proper angel like yeah and when i was about to tell her over dinner like everything
00:10:05.460 that happened like she was like alps don't tell me don't tell me like i look at you as a like as an
00:10:11.380 angel so i was like all right finally tell you i'll tell everyone else so how many girls was it
00:10:16.900 uh it was a lot like like 20 20 maybe oh it's funny i thought you're gonna say 50 that's actually
00:10:25.460 i don't know i don't know i don't know i don't know i don't know i don't know i was working in clubs
00:10:36.340 in your experience if a girl finds out about another if a girl finds out about other women does she stay or go
00:10:43.460 typically um it depends stay stay i don't know maybe they stayed for some reason yeah yeah they do i can
00:10:52.580 vouch for that yeah i can vouch for that yeah