JustPearlyThings - Modern Woman Compares Herself to Rihanna

00:00:00.000 If the men you wanted wanted you you would be in a relationship with them. Not necessarily. It's like it's like women 1.00

00:00:06.200 We don't none of us. We don't settle. How do you know that it's the men though?

00:00:10.220 Like maybe I just don't want anyone. Maybe no one's like living up to the plate. Okay. So so

00:00:16.240 Okay, well, I just think of this there's one of you and there's the whole population of men

00:00:23.920 Sorry to say but the UK is mid

00:00:26.800 No, but I think it's also social media. I think people nowadays they meet someone and then they you know

00:00:34.380 He can be

00:00:35.380 If you're into men like he can be you know the whole package but because of socials

00:00:41.360 You're like, oh, but he's but he's but he's but so I feel like a lot of people struggle to actually like

00:00:47.720 Build something with someone because they're always thinking there might be something better out there

00:00:51.960 No, it's because like we're all chasing after the same men women only swipe right and dating apps five percent of the time

00:00:59.540 What do we do?

00:01:01.540 We only we only that's the number one way people are meeting dating apps nowadays. We only swipe which ones I'm gonna download them

00:01:07.540 It's true. It's true. We only swipe right five percent of the time most women rate eighty percent of men is unattractive not just okay 0.96

00:01:20.300 now

00:01:22.300 I've had I've had hinged before and I think I find one match

00:01:27.440 Yeah, and so so to me it's treacherous out there

00:01:34.320 That's the whole population of men so it it says if you're single over a certain age you're probably too picky

00:01:40.440 Yeah, I mean, that's what I mean. It's like, but that's a choice. It's a choice to be picky. Yeah

00:01:46.780 Is it though?

00:01:47.780 It's cool

00:01:48.780 I don't know about our life

00:01:49.780 I don't know about our life

00:01:50.780 No, it's because of my family left six foot men

00:01:53.780 Let's see. Okay. What percent of men do you think are six foot? 0.99

00:01:56.780 They're not

00:01:57.780 I mean, it's a very low percentage

00:01:59.780 It depends on what you're asking

00:02:01.780 I think a lot

00:02:02.780 No, 15%

00:02:04.780 It's a very low percentage

00:02:05.780 I'm not gonna lie

00:02:06.780 I'm 5'10

00:02:08.780 Do you know how many men are taller than me?

00:02:09.780 Do you know how many men are taller than me?

00:02:11.780 Not a lot

00:02:12.780 Not a lot

00:02:13.780 As a tall girl

00:02:14.780 As a tall babe

00:02:15.780 I'm a tall girl now

00:02:17.780 The men that are over six foot tall

00:02:20.780 See, she has a choice to humble her preference 0.94

00:02:22.780 Whoa! 0.71

00:02:23.780 Do you get it?

00:02:24.780 No, no, no, no, but she knows she's tall 0.85

00:02:26.780 She's above average for women 1.00

00:02:28.780 So she has a choice to humble her preference 0.81

00:02:30.780 Me now, I'm actually the average woman higher

00:02:33.780 So I don't see why I should humble my preference

00:02:35.780 Wait, wait, wait

00:02:36.780 What was the percentage?

00:02:37.780 What is your 15%?

00:02:38.780 Okay

00:02:39.780 I think a lot of people are lying about their six foot though

00:02:41.780 Wait, wait, wait

00:02:42.780 No, they do lie

00:02:43.780 They'd be lying

00:02:44.780 The whole point I'm making is women would rather die alone

00:02:47.780 than get a guy on their level

00:02:48.780 Die alone

00:02:49.780 Yeah, but that's my female nature 1.00

00:02:51.780 Your level, because again, your level is what you can get to commit to you

00:02:54.780 That's your level

00:02:55.780 It's not what you can sleep with

00:02:56.780 That's your level

00:02:57.780 That's your level

00:02:58.780 That's your level

00:02:59.780 To be fair

00:03:00.780 If you say my ex-boyfriend was ugly or medium ugly

00:03:02.780 No, no, no, that's your level

00:03:03.780 Yeah, you still chose him

00:03:04.780 That's your level

00:03:05.780 I've definitely dimmed my light a couple times

00:03:07.780 and it still ended the same way

00:03:08.780 That's true

00:03:09.780 Wonder

00:03:10.780 What do you mean, dimmed your light?

00:03:11.780 I've dated a little bit

00:03:13.780 They're out

00:03:14.780 I'm well out their league

00:03:15.780 Facts

00:03:16.780 100%

00:03:17.780 No, your league is what you date

00:03:18.780 It's facts

00:03:19.780 No

00:03:20.780 No, no, no, no

00:03:21.780 I agree with her

00:03:22.780 Sometimes you just give

00:03:23.780 You give the ugly guy a chance.

00:03:26.540 And they're normally worse.

00:03:28.180 Guys, guys, guys, guys, guys.

00:03:29.820 Look at it.

00:03:30.520 Are they artsy?

00:03:31.300 They're normally worse.

00:03:32.380 That's just, that's just.

00:03:34.340 Ugly ones are the worst.

00:03:35.580 Sometimes they do a little one-two joke.

00:03:38.120 Guys, guys, guys, guys.

00:03:40.060 They're worse.

00:03:41.200 We are talking all the way to each other.

00:03:42.800 One conversation.

00:03:44.020 Sometimes they have a little one-two joke and they're funny and you fall for it and you're

00:03:47.960 like, oh, you know what?

00:03:49.020 Okay, so if he's funny, that puts him in the top percentage of guys at school.

00:03:53.780 That's something.

00:03:54.720 Like the whole point, if you date him, that's the best option you had at the time.

00:03:59.020 You wouldn't, you wouldn't date someone and think, oh, I should be bored.

00:04:01.480 Sometimes you're just trying to do something different.

00:04:03.480 No, you're trying something different.

00:04:05.400 That's what it is.

00:04:06.280 You're trying something different.

00:04:07.400 You're tired.

00:04:07.880 And then the norm of the worst.

00:04:09.180 Sometimes it's fixing up.

00:04:09.840 I think, oh, I've banged the world in me.

00:04:11.640 I have.

00:04:12.080 Now, let me start acting up now.

00:04:14.720 Look at my babes now. 1.00

00:04:15.820 Look, she's at my league, but that's what it is. 0.87

00:04:18.180 I'm going to start acting up.

00:04:19.040 Okay, but you guys, like, I'm just being honest.

00:04:20.740 Y'all sound delusional as hell.

00:04:22.340 It's not.

00:04:22.900 It's not delusional as hell.

00:04:24.480 It's not.

00:04:25.420 It's the way you're not.

00:04:26.200 Look at, look at, look at.

00:04:26.900 My, my, my, my, my, my, my, no, no.

00:04:29.460 It's not delusional.

00:04:30.520 Your exes are your level.

00:04:32.120 My exes are my level.

00:04:33.640 No, no, no, no.

00:04:33.700 I get, I get that, but sometimes.

00:04:36.020 Okay, okay, that's like me saying, that's like, wait, wait.

00:04:37.640 That's like me saying, I'm a millionaire, but I don't have the proof.

00:04:41.320 I don't have the money.

00:04:42.640 I have the proof.

00:04:43.020 I don't have the money.

00:04:43.840 I don't have the money in my life.

00:04:44.280 It's like your one, no, no, no.

00:04:45.900 No, no, no, the only thing that counts, the only thing that counts is a ring.

00:04:50.140 If you don't have a ring, like, it doesn't count.

00:04:52.420 No.

00:04:52.920 Maybe, maybe I'll give you like a 10 year relationship or something. 0.52

00:04:56.360 Like, yeah, you know, I'll give you maybe that.

00:04:58.120 I do think if you think you're above someone league-wise, you still chose that yourself.

00:05:04.320 Yeah, but you've not chose that, like, because you think that's like you're dating and you're laying.

00:05:09.700 Basically, you've done that for a reason.

00:05:11.080 Yeah, but why do you look?

00:05:11.660 Because you've done that because the ones you normally go for, it's not working.

00:05:14.920 People in your league are not working.

00:05:16.300 So let me downgrade.

00:05:17.280 No, okay, okay.

00:05:17.900 Let me downgrade to see if they're better, and they're not.

00:05:20.060 You're a league.

00:05:20.660 Okay, this is what happens.

00:05:22.300 This is what happens.

00:05:23.100 A girl that's a six will date an eight, and he doesn't treat her well because, shit, you're shooting 1.00

00:05:27.560 out of your league.

00:05:29.000 That's out of your league.

00:05:30.560 Yeah, but wait, wait, wait, wait, no, no, no, no, wait, wait, wait, wait.

00:05:34.620 A guy who's a eight wouldn't date a six girl. 0.83

00:05:37.360 Hey, hey, stop, stop, stop, stop, stop, stop, stop, stop.

00:05:41.500 Aints date sixes all the goddamn time. 1.00

00:05:43.120 No, they don't.

00:05:43.980 All the goddamn time.

00:05:46.060 Guys, when we talk-

00:05:46.840 Guys, guys, guys, guys.

00:05:48.180 If I'm a 10 and I'm a six, they're going to choose a six over me.

00:05:50.540 Guys, guys, guys, guys, guys, guys.

00:05:53.020 And aints date sixes all the time. 1.00

00:05:55.760 Men sweat bread on dating.

00:05:57.140 I can pull the data for you menswear brand on dating apps 45% of the time

00:06:01.160 all the women are cool all the women saying yeah that they're dating below 0.95

00:06:07.960 why are the men that you want not committing to my level and I'm now

00:06:23.600 matching you you're gonna take offense excuse I'm now I'm pie you want to be

00:06:28.220 some next big man you me me my baby so now you want someone who's below me who 1.00

00:06:35.240 can be like yes babe no babe yes babe yes babe I've always said date in your lane

00:06:51.920 right I've always said this I agree in daily lane which is what you can get to

00:06:55.520 commit to you no I know what if what if your exes said that about you what are

00:07:02.300 you guys this is delusion no it's not delusion because your delusion is different

00:07:12.380 to my life so why you are not me you are delusion or maybe answer answer what why

00:07:20.680 are these men that you're supposedly in your league why they're not committing

00:07:23.860 to you no why am I not committing to me and not me committing to them yeah that's

00:07:29.500 what I was gonna say but also it's not them committing to me because they want me

00:07:32.560 the main control commitment that's no no hey hey hey hey hey stop stop if you do

00:07:40.560 that one more time we're gonna sub you out you cannot be over talking the host I

00:07:43.660 mean cannot you cannot be over talking people here um can I say something I feel like when

00:07:54.980 we talk about this thing yeah I feel like a lot of girls nothing against no one when

00:08:01.120 I hear you talk about league I feel like it's all based on looks but for me personally yeah

00:08:04.980 I'd rather date a guy that's maybe less attractive but he's super sweet you know he has his morals in

00:08:11.480 place he has goals for himself he he's good for his family like I'd rather have that than a 10

00:08:17.720 that has six women on the side or whatever he's doing that's what I meant by it

00:08:22.420 wait wait go I agree with what you're saying which is why I disagree with what you're saying about

00:08:28.700 my exes they have to have been in my league because the person they tried to make out they were 1.00

00:08:33.520 because the reason why they're not in my league isn't just because their their looks is based on

00:08:38.160 things like morals and the person they painted themselves out to be was a man of their word and

00:08:42.720 I've got to know them and I realized they weren't a man of their word I then realized you're not in

00:08:46.380 my league so therefore what you said is cap because with the men I've met they made them themselves out

00:08:51.620 like yeah they were if your league is what you can get to commit to you if the man that you can get

00:08:56.440 to commit to you you feel like are below your league you're delusional yeah the man the man

00:09:00.560 just because you sleep up doesn't mean they'll commit to you but you can't tell the delusional

00:09:06.140 though because it's delusion it's not because everyone's different everyone's different you

00:09:10.320 don't know everyone's situation so I was actually engaged about to get married and I called it off

00:09:14.940 so I wasn't delusional so I was with someone for six years about to get married wedding paid

00:09:20.020 of everything yeah that's your level because he committed to you yeah yeah yeah I get that what

00:09:25.720 you mean committed because he's the one who obviously proposed the men proposed because

00:09:28.300 they committed yeah that's your level I've had people want to do that and I'm like no because

00:09:31.880 you're not my guy you're not and if he committed to you that's your level that's clearly not I'm

00:09:37.480 saying no because you're not that guy I'm still waiting for an answer to why these men that you're

00:09:43.180 supposedly on the level that you're on and not commit I didn't say I was on a level I'm saying you got

00:09:47.260 it within your lane no you say you did you said you delete you you dated below no I didn't say I

00:09:51.760 did I said people date below just because they want to try something different all right so why

00:09:56.320 did the people that are dating below why why can't you get them in on their level because the ones

00:10:00.020 they're trying to be on their level with is not working for them so you think so you think you're

00:10:04.300 telling me every single girl you've dated it's always been the same no but I'm not saying I'm just

00:10:08.380 going off what you said no and I'm telling you what I've said I have a question I have a question

00:10:15.580 okay simple what how would you know what your level is if it's if it's not the guy committing

00:10:20.800 to you because if it's not the guy committing to you what would you go off of what else would you

00:10:26.680 go off of the guys you're sleeping I like your pictures on Instagram someone who is in my league

00:10:31.780 personally would be someone that even if things didn't work out because of chemistry because of

00:10:35.680 maybe small things that we're not into I can still look at and say you know I respect him yeah

00:10:39.460 Eve and he has the same mutual respect for me and I say he's on my level so okay I have a question

00:10:44.680 did he commit yes okay so again it goes back to your level is what you can get to commit to you

00:10:50.020 but you said that men that are that are tens sometimes or eight sometimes date sixes so that

00:10:56.920 means the six is not how can that work if women are hypergamous women date up women I know what I 1.00

00:11:05.200 think that's the actual I think that's the literal opposite opposite I'm pretty sure men date up women 1.00

00:11:10.000 date down there's I have a question just just raise of hands do you guys want someone that makes more or

00:11:17.920 less money than you I'm not bothered more I'm okay okay okay if you had to pick more or less like raise

00:11:23.260 your hand if it's more raise your hand if it's more raise your hand if you prefer someone that

00:11:27.760 makes less I'm not prefer okay okay what would your preference be I didn't say you wouldn't go down

00:11:51.160 I'm saying what would your preference would you want do you guys want someone taller or shorter

00:11:55.600 taller do you want someone stronger than you or skinnier than you oh I like a skinny man

00:12:01.180 hands up if you prefer guys skinnier than you you prefer I used to no no no hands up hands up I'm on the

00:12:11.140 okay okay okay hands up if you prefer guys must more muscular than you this is the point this is the

00:12:25.720 point we date up when I'm talking about when I'm talking about specifically dating up I'm talking

00:12:30.820 about looks specifically only men like let's look at like just let's base it on celebrities for example

00:12:37.420 okay celebrity men they date up they date pretty little things that are pretty skinny

00:12:46.300 celebrity celebrity celebrities are the like that that's Hollywood okay but let's let's look at the

00:12:55.360 everyday okay wait wait let's let's let's stop stop interrupting me okay let's look at the everyday

00:13:02.740 person the everyday person on a dating app men swipe right 45% of the time women swipe right 5% on the

00:13:11.440 time dating apps we would agree is mostly about looks right mostly look so who is the pickier sex

00:13:17.560 the women okay can I say something though I don't want to answer um just like from perspective at the

00:13:25.800 minute I go to a lot of events okay every event I go to probably 90% of the women are beautiful pretty 1.00

00:13:33.640 they've got something big bum nice lips the percentage of men 1.00

00:13:38.000 that are attractive at these events compared to the percentage of women 0.98

00:13:43.640 I mean I'm talking for my whole friendship group there might be like a couple of guys in there that

00:13:51.640 oh you're sweet okay I'm just I'm just I just want to do an experiment here just an experiment

00:13:56.960 I want everyone to rate themselves one to ten

00:13:59.320 to be fair to be fair I'm gonna start I give myself a five go ahead wow go ahead I think it's

00:14:08.920 time for subs I would say like a seven seven okay good like a good eight eight okay yeah I'd say that

00:14:17.920 an eight because I'll put some weight on eight okay ten ten okay yeah oh sorry go ahead men two men two oh uh nine with a trim

00:14:26.920 nine with a seven without a trim seven without a trim okay seven point five seven point five

00:14:31.600 five and a half five and a half six okay humble seven okay strong eight with a trim okay okay so all right all right all right all right all right outside of me

00:14:43.920 everyone here rated themselves that's a girl above average do you think women looks only yes so what's the average

00:14:50.920 oh no okay

00:14:53.920 yeah same sorry okay all right all right looks looks got you so I think you understood the question yeah right

00:15:02.240 okay yeah yeah okay I don't know I just feel like everyone's got preferences okay it's awkward okay

00:15:07.920 okay well what would you do it depends what day it is today I'm like okay

00:15:14.920 I need some volume but

00:15:20.920 I'll go down lower a second personality makes it better okay seven you said seven okay go ahead I'm sticking with my answer okay

00:15:29.920 yeah okay did anyone switch it

00:15:36.920 why don't we go through this again I'm gonna switch it I'm gonna bring it down to a six I think a six okay

00:15:42.920 you're pretty very

00:15:44.920 she's not gonna have no baggage either

00:15:48.920 my point is outside of me no one rated themselves as average from the women and most people are average

00:15:54.920 I mean I what if you think average that's absolutely fine but I know but the point is like women tend to overrate themselves 1.00

00:16:09.920 generally

00:16:11.920 I feel like if girls ain't got confidence it makes it makes a lot of issues within the scent and the relationship so if you ain't got confidence 0.99

00:16:16.920 in life you suffer in life if you do not think how do you suffer how do you suffer

00:16:21.920 how do you suffer the second thing a woman can wear is that confidence 1.00

00:16:24.920 let's bring up from the patriarchy

00:16:26.920 no but how do you suffer

00:16:27.920 it's from sucks from succeeding in school as a child to like jobs to like doing anything

00:16:32.920 to be successful you know you need to rate yourself bro bro bro

00:16:35.920 you need to know to come on this platform and hold a mic in front of yourself you have to have a level of confidence

00:16:39.920 you've got to look in your mirror and believe in your soul

00:16:41.920 I agree with you I think confidence is important if if you have like the stuff to back it up

00:16:51.920 so so if you're gonna come on a podcast and you can't talk it doesn't matter how confident you are

00:16:55.920 you still can't talk if you're gonna rate yourself a 10 and you're not a 10 like it doesn't make you a 10

00:16:59.920 and that's fine and that's why I said that's fine if you think you're average because there's some people that are average

00:17:04.920 but you see me

00:17:11.920 no no no no wait wait wait wait because obviously you know me personally

00:17:14.920 but I'm just saying that in a room full of people that don't know me

00:17:17.920 I'm not gonna water down how I feel when I'm by myself

00:17:20.920 let me ask you a question let me ask you a question

00:17:22.920 I do agree that there's some people are average

00:17:24.920 okay let me ask you a question what celebrity do you think is a 10?

00:17:27.920 I'll be honest with you

00:17:29.920 give me one slip please please don't make this complicated

00:17:31.920 I'm not going to make it complicated but I'm not going to lie to you

00:17:34.920 I know you answer the questions and I'm here to answer

00:17:36.920 but I can't I'm not a celebrity I'm not a fan of celebrities

00:17:40.920 okay you know what let me ask someone else

00:17:44.920 can someone raise your hand if you can give me give me a okay

00:17:47.920 Rihanna Rihanna do you feel like you're as pretty as Rihanna

00:17:50.920 do I think as pretty as Rihanna?

00:17:52.920 I wouldn't compare myself to Rihanna

00:17:54.920 why?

00:17:57.920 you gotta be objective

00:17:59.920 why wouldn't you compare yourself to Rihanna?

00:18:01.920 because I just wouldn't

00:18:03.920 I don't look at other girls and compare myself

00:18:05.920 okay

00:18:06.920 that's just something I don't do

00:18:08.920 I find it really strange what other people do

00:18:10.920 we're talking very very like vapid

00:18:13.920 very very like looks based only

00:18:15.920 do you know what I mean?

00:18:16.920 yeah looks based only

00:18:17.920 if you're gonna be fucking like 0.97

00:18:19.920 conceit

00:18:21.920 do you know what I mean?

00:18:23.920 compare yourself to Rihanna

00:18:24.920 look at Rihanna and then look at you

00:18:25.920 and then be like

00:18:26.920 you know what?

00:18:27.920 let's say who's Penga

00:18:29.920 why wouldn't you compare yourself to Rihanna?

00:18:31.920 I don't do that

00:18:32.920 because I'm not Rihanna

00:18:33.920 but on the basis of this conversation

00:18:34.920 just give us a comparison please

00:18:36.920 if I had to compare myself to Rihanna

00:18:37.920 if you lot force me to look at Rihanna

00:18:39.920 I'm forcing you

00:18:40.920 hold a picture next to Rihanna

00:18:41.920 and say who's prettier

00:18:42.920 I wouldn't say she's prettier than me

00:18:44.920 and I'm being honest

00:18:45.920 and that's words

00:18:46.920 stick to your words

00:18:47.920 and I'm not even saying that just to be difficult

00:18:49.920 like I don't want to be difficult

00:18:51.920 that's fair enough

00:18:52.920 but that's actually how I feel

00:18:53.920 I'm living my truth

00:18:54.920 if you ask me to compare myself to her

00:18:57.920 I'm crawling back in the uterus now

00:18:59.920 I take my life back

00:19:02.920 because she's sexy 1.00

00:19:05.920 but then that's why

00:19:06.920 before we were saying that

00:19:07.920 some women are delusional 1.00

00:19:09.920 I'm not saying that you're not pretty

00:19:15.920 but I'm saying that to say that

00:19:17.920 to say that Rihanna's not pretty than you

00:19:18.920 I never said that

00:19:19.920 what did you say?

00:19:20.920 what did you say?

00:19:21.920 sorry sorry sorry

00:19:22.920 what did you say?

00:19:23.920 I said I wouldn't compare myself

00:19:24.920 I never said Rihanna is not pretty

00:19:25.920 oh she's not pretty than me

00:19:26.920 I would never say that

00:19:27.920 I just can't compare myself

00:19:29.920 and you said if you had to

00:19:31.920 but if you had to

00:19:32.920 no but if you had to

00:19:33.920 if I had to

00:19:34.920 you did

00:19:35.920 you did

00:19:36.920 you did

00:19:37.920 exactly so that's what I'm saying

00:19:38.920 if I had to I wouldn't say she's pretty 0.99

00:19:39.920 exactly so that's why I'm saying

00:19:40.920 but that's why

00:19:41.920 wait wait wait wait

00:19:42.920 but that's why I'm saying

00:19:43.920 that before

00:19:44.920 we were saying that

00:19:45.920 some of the women

00:19:46.920 are a little bit delusional

00:19:47.920 that's fine

00:19:48.920 people are delusional

00:19:49.920 people are just banned on TikTok

00:19:51.920 and we are demonetised on a daily basis

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JustPearlyThings - March 27, 2023

Modern Woman Compares Herself to Rihanna

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