JustPearlyThings - March 27, 2023


Modern Woman Compares Herself to Rihanna


Episode Stats

Length

20 minutes

Words per Minute

189.48103

Word Count

3,802

Sentence Count

95

Misogynist Sentences

27

Hate Speech Sentences

12


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 If the men you wanted wanted you you would be in a relationship with them. Not necessarily. It's like it's like women
00:00:06.200 We don't none of us. We don't settle. How do you know that it's the men though?
00:00:10.220 Like maybe I just don't want anyone. Maybe no one's like living up to the plate. Okay. So so
00:00:16.240 Okay, well, I just think of this there's one of you and there's the whole population of men
00:00:23.920 Sorry to say but the UK is mid
00:00:26.800 No, but I think it's also social media. I think people nowadays they meet someone and then they you know
00:00:34.380 He can be
00:00:35.380 If you're into men like he can be you know the whole package but because of socials
00:00:41.360 You're like, oh, but he's but he's but he's but so I feel like a lot of people struggle to actually like
00:00:47.720 Build something with someone because they're always thinking there might be something better out there
00:00:51.960 No, it's because like we're all chasing after the same men women only swipe right and dating apps five percent of the time
00:00:59.540 What do we do?
00:01:01.540 We only we only that's the number one way people are meeting dating apps nowadays. We only swipe which ones I'm gonna download them
00:01:07.540 It's true. It's true. We only swipe right five percent of the time most women rate eighty percent of men is unattractive not just okay
00:01:20.300 now
00:01:22.300 I've had I've had hinged before and I think I find one match
00:01:27.440 Yeah, and so so to me it's treacherous out there
00:01:34.320 That's the whole population of men so it it says if you're single over a certain age you're probably too picky
00:01:40.440 Yeah, I mean, that's what I mean. It's like, but that's a choice. It's a choice to be picky. Yeah
00:01:46.780 Is it though?
00:01:47.780 It's cool
00:01:48.780 I don't know about our life
00:01:49.780 I don't know about our life
00:01:50.780 No, it's because of my family left six foot men
00:01:53.780 Let's see. Okay. What percent of men do you think are six foot?
00:01:56.780 They're not
00:01:57.780 I mean, it's a very low percentage
00:01:59.780 It depends on what you're asking
00:02:01.780 I think a lot
00:02:02.780 No, 15%
00:02:04.780 It's a very low percentage
00:02:05.780 I'm not gonna lie
00:02:06.780 I'm 5'10
00:02:08.780 Do you know how many men are taller than me?
00:02:09.780 Do you know how many men are taller than me?
00:02:11.780 Not a lot
00:02:12.780 Not a lot
00:02:13.780 As a tall girl
00:02:14.780 As a tall babe
00:02:15.780 I'm a tall girl now
00:02:17.780 The men that are over six foot tall
00:02:20.780 See, she has a choice to humble her preference
00:02:22.780 Whoa!
00:02:23.780 Do you get it?
00:02:24.780 No, no, no, no, but she knows she's tall
00:02:26.780 She's above average for women
00:02:28.780 So she has a choice to humble her preference
00:02:30.780 Me now, I'm actually the average woman higher
00:02:33.780 So I don't see why I should humble my preference
00:02:35.780 Wait, wait, wait
00:02:36.780 What was the percentage?
00:02:37.780 What is your 15%?
00:02:38.780 Okay
00:02:39.780 I think a lot of people are lying about their six foot though
00:02:41.780 Wait, wait, wait
00:02:42.780 No, they do lie
00:02:43.780 They'd be lying
00:02:44.780 The whole point I'm making is women would rather die alone
00:02:47.780 than get a guy on their level
00:02:48.780 Die alone
00:02:49.780 Yeah, but that's my female nature
00:02:51.780 Your level, because again, your level is what you can get to commit to you
00:02:54.780 That's your level
00:02:55.780 It's not what you can sleep with
00:02:56.780 That's your level
00:02:57.780 That's your level
00:02:58.780 That's your level
00:02:59.780 To be fair
00:03:00.780 If you say my ex-boyfriend was ugly or medium ugly
00:03:02.780 No, no, no, that's your level
00:03:03.780 Yeah, you still chose him
00:03:04.780 That's your level
00:03:05.780 I've definitely dimmed my light a couple times
00:03:07.780 and it still ended the same way
00:03:08.780 That's true
00:03:09.780 Wonder
00:03:10.780 What do you mean, dimmed your light?
00:03:11.780 I've dated a little bit
00:03:13.780 They're out
00:03:14.780 I'm well out their league
00:03:15.780 Facts
00:03:16.780 100%
00:03:17.780 No, your league is what you date
00:03:18.780 It's facts
00:03:19.780 No
00:03:20.780 No, no, no, no
00:03:21.780 I agree with her
00:03:22.780 Sometimes you just give
00:03:23.780 You give the ugly guy a chance.
00:03:26.540 And they're normally worse.
00:03:28.180 Guys, guys, guys, guys, guys.
00:03:29.820 Look at it.
00:03:30.520 Are they artsy?
00:03:31.300 They're normally worse.
00:03:32.380 That's just, that's just.
00:03:34.340 Ugly ones are the worst.
00:03:35.580 Sometimes they do a little one-two joke.
00:03:38.120 Guys, guys, guys, guys.
00:03:40.060 They're worse.
00:03:41.200 We are talking all the way to each other.
00:03:42.800 One conversation.
00:03:44.020 Sometimes they have a little one-two joke and they're funny and you fall for it and you're
00:03:47.960 like, oh, you know what?
00:03:49.020 Okay, so if he's funny, that puts him in the top percentage of guys at school.
00:03:53.780 That's something.
00:03:54.720 Like the whole point, if you date him, that's the best option you had at the time.
00:03:59.020 You wouldn't, you wouldn't date someone and think, oh, I should be bored.
00:04:01.480 Sometimes you're just trying to do something different.
00:04:03.480 No, you're trying something different.
00:04:05.400 That's what it is.
00:04:06.280 You're trying something different.
00:04:07.400 You're tired.
00:04:07.880 And then the norm of the worst.
00:04:09.180 Sometimes it's fixing up.
00:04:09.840 I think, oh, I've banged the world in me.
00:04:11.640 I have.
00:04:12.080 Now, let me start acting up now.
00:04:14.720 Look at my babes now.
00:04:15.820 Look, she's at my league, but that's what it is.
00:04:18.180 I'm going to start acting up.
00:04:19.040 Okay, but you guys, like, I'm just being honest.
00:04:20.740 Y'all sound delusional as hell.
00:04:22.340 It's not.
00:04:22.900 It's not delusional as hell.
00:04:24.480 It's not.
00:04:25.420 It's the way you're not.
00:04:26.200 Look at, look at, look at.
00:04:26.900 My, my, my, my, my, my, my, no, no.
00:04:29.460 It's not delusional.
00:04:30.520 Your exes are your level.
00:04:32.120 My exes are my level.
00:04:33.640 No, no, no, no.
00:04:33.700 I get, I get that, but sometimes.
00:04:36.020 Okay, okay, that's like me saying, that's like, wait, wait.
00:04:37.640 That's like me saying, I'm a millionaire, but I don't have the proof.
00:04:41.320 I don't have the money.
00:04:42.640 I have the proof.
00:04:43.020 I don't have the money.
00:04:43.840 I don't have the money in my life.
00:04:44.280 It's like your one, no, no, no.
00:04:45.900 No, no, no, the only thing that counts, the only thing that counts is a ring.
00:04:50.140 If you don't have a ring, like, it doesn't count.
00:04:52.420 No.
00:04:52.920 Maybe, maybe I'll give you like a 10 year relationship or something.
00:04:56.360 Like, yeah, you know, I'll give you maybe that.
00:04:58.120 I do think if you think you're above someone league-wise, you still chose that yourself.
00:05:04.320 Yeah, but you've not chose that, like, because you think that's like you're dating and you're laying.
00:05:09.700 Basically, you've done that for a reason.
00:05:11.080 Yeah, but why do you look?
00:05:11.660 Because you've done that because the ones you normally go for, it's not working.
00:05:14.920 People in your league are not working.
00:05:16.300 So let me downgrade.
00:05:17.280 No, okay, okay.
00:05:17.900 Let me downgrade to see if they're better, and they're not.
00:05:20.060 You're a league.
00:05:20.660 Okay, this is what happens.
00:05:22.300 This is what happens.
00:05:23.100 A girl that's a six will date an eight, and he doesn't treat her well because, shit, you're shooting
00:05:27.560 out of your league.
00:05:29.000 That's out of your league.
00:05:30.560 Yeah, but wait, wait, wait, wait, no, no, no, no, wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:05:34.620 A guy who's a eight wouldn't date a six girl.
00:05:37.360 Hey, hey, stop, stop, stop, stop, stop, stop, stop, stop.
00:05:41.500 Aints date sixes all the goddamn time.
00:05:43.120 No, they don't.
00:05:43.980 All the goddamn time.
00:05:46.060 Guys, when we talk-
00:05:46.840 Guys, guys, guys, guys.
00:05:48.180 If I'm a 10 and I'm a six, they're going to choose a six over me.
00:05:50.540 Guys, guys, guys, guys, guys, guys.
00:05:53.020 And aints date sixes all the time.
00:05:55.760 Men sweat bread on dating.
00:05:57.140 I can pull the data for you menswear brand on dating apps 45% of the time
00:06:01.160 all the women are cool all the women saying yeah that they're dating below
00:06:07.960 why are the men that you want not committing to my level and I'm now
00:06:23.600 matching you you're gonna take offense excuse I'm now I'm pie you want to be
00:06:28.220 some next big man you me me my baby so now you want someone who's below me who
00:06:35.240 can be like yes babe no babe yes babe yes babe I've always said date in your lane
00:06:51.920 right I've always said this I agree in daily lane which is what you can get to
00:06:55.520 commit to you no I know what if what if your exes said that about you what are
00:07:02.300 you guys this is delusion no it's not delusion because your delusion is different
00:07:12.380 to my life so why you are not me you are delusion or maybe answer answer what why
00:07:20.680 are these men that you're supposedly in your league why they're not committing
00:07:23.860 to you no why am I not committing to me and not me committing to them yeah that's
00:07:29.500 what I was gonna say but also it's not them committing to me because they want me
00:07:32.560 the main control commitment that's no no hey hey hey hey hey stop stop if you do
00:07:40.560 that one more time we're gonna sub you out you cannot be over talking the host I
00:07:43.660 mean cannot you cannot be over talking people here um can I say something I feel like when
00:07:54.980 we talk about this thing yeah I feel like a lot of girls nothing against no one when
00:08:01.120 I hear you talk about league I feel like it's all based on looks but for me personally yeah
00:08:04.980 I'd rather date a guy that's maybe less attractive but he's super sweet you know he has his morals in
00:08:11.480 place he has goals for himself he he's good for his family like I'd rather have that than a 10
00:08:17.720 that has six women on the side or whatever he's doing that's what I meant by it
00:08:22.420 wait wait go I agree with what you're saying which is why I disagree with what you're saying about
00:08:28.700 my exes they have to have been in my league because the person they tried to make out they were
00:08:33.520 because the reason why they're not in my league isn't just because their their looks is based on
00:08:38.160 things like morals and the person they painted themselves out to be was a man of their word and
00:08:42.720 I've got to know them and I realized they weren't a man of their word I then realized you're not in
00:08:46.380 my league so therefore what you said is cap because with the men I've met they made them themselves out
00:08:51.620 like yeah they were if your league is what you can get to commit to you if the man that you can get
00:08:56.440 to commit to you you feel like are below your league you're delusional yeah the man the man
00:09:00.560 just because you sleep up doesn't mean they'll commit to you but you can't tell the delusional
00:09:06.140 though because it's delusion it's not because everyone's different everyone's different you
00:09:10.320 don't know everyone's situation so I was actually engaged about to get married and I called it off
00:09:14.940 so I wasn't delusional so I was with someone for six years about to get married wedding paid
00:09:20.020 of everything yeah that's your level because he committed to you yeah yeah yeah I get that what
00:09:25.720 you mean committed because he's the one who obviously proposed the men proposed because
00:09:28.300 they committed yeah that's your level I've had people want to do that and I'm like no because
00:09:31.880 you're not my guy you're not and if he committed to you that's your level that's clearly not I'm
00:09:37.480 saying no because you're not that guy I'm still waiting for an answer to why these men that you're
00:09:43.180 supposedly on the level that you're on and not commit I didn't say I was on a level I'm saying you got
00:09:47.260 it within your lane no you say you did you said you delete you you dated below no I didn't say I
00:09:51.760 did I said people date below just because they want to try something different all right so why
00:09:56.320 did the people that are dating below why why can't you get them in on their level because the ones
00:10:00.020 they're trying to be on their level with is not working for them so you think so you think you're
00:10:04.300 telling me every single girl you've dated it's always been the same no but I'm not saying I'm just
00:10:08.380 going off what you said no and I'm telling you what I've said I have a question I have a question
00:10:15.580 okay simple what how would you know what your level is if it's if it's not the guy committing
00:10:20.800 to you because if it's not the guy committing to you what would you go off of what else would you
00:10:26.680 go off of the guys you're sleeping I like your pictures on Instagram someone who is in my league
00:10:31.780 personally would be someone that even if things didn't work out because of chemistry because of
00:10:35.680 maybe small things that we're not into I can still look at and say you know I respect him yeah
00:10:39.460 Eve and he has the same mutual respect for me and I say he's on my level so okay I have a question
00:10:44.680 did he commit yes okay so again it goes back to your level is what you can get to commit to you
00:10:50.020 but you said that men that are that are tens sometimes or eight sometimes date sixes so that
00:10:56.920 means the six is not how can that work if women are hypergamous women date up women I know what I
00:11:05.200 think that's the actual I think that's the literal opposite opposite I'm pretty sure men date up women
00:11:10.000 date down there's I have a question just just raise of hands do you guys want someone that makes more or
00:11:17.920 less money than you I'm not bothered more I'm okay okay okay if you had to pick more or less like raise
00:11:23.260 your hand if it's more raise your hand if it's more raise your hand if you prefer someone that
00:11:27.760 makes less I'm not prefer okay okay what would your preference be I didn't say you wouldn't go down
00:11:51.160 I'm saying what would your preference would you want do you guys want someone taller or shorter
00:11:55.600 taller do you want someone stronger than you or skinnier than you oh I like a skinny man
00:12:01.180 hands up if you prefer guys skinnier than you you prefer I used to no no no hands up hands up I'm on the
00:12:11.140 okay okay okay hands up if you prefer guys must more muscular than you this is the point this is the
00:12:25.720 point we date up when I'm talking about when I'm talking about specifically dating up I'm talking
00:12:30.820 about looks specifically only men like let's look at like just let's base it on celebrities for example
00:12:37.420 okay celebrity men they date up they date pretty little things that are pretty skinny
00:12:46.300 celebrity celebrity celebrities are the like that that's Hollywood okay but let's let's look at the
00:12:55.360 everyday okay wait wait let's let's let's stop stop interrupting me okay let's look at the everyday
00:13:02.740 person the everyday person on a dating app men swipe right 45% of the time women swipe right 5% on the
00:13:11.440 time dating apps we would agree is mostly about looks right mostly look so who is the pickier sex
00:13:17.560 the women okay can I say something though I don't want to answer um just like from perspective at the
00:13:25.800 minute I go to a lot of events okay every event I go to probably 90% of the women are beautiful pretty
00:13:33.640 they've got something big bum nice lips the percentage of men
00:13:38.000 that are attractive at these events compared to the percentage of women
00:13:43.640 I mean I'm talking for my whole friendship group there might be like a couple of guys in there that
00:13:51.640 oh you're sweet okay I'm just I'm just I just want to do an experiment here just an experiment
00:13:56.960 I want everyone to rate themselves one to ten
00:13:59.320 to be fair to be fair I'm gonna start I give myself a five go ahead wow go ahead I think it's
00:14:08.920 time for subs I would say like a seven seven okay good like a good eight eight okay yeah I'd say that
00:14:17.920 an eight because I'll put some weight on eight okay ten ten okay yeah oh sorry go ahead men two men two oh uh nine with a trim
00:14:26.920 nine with a seven without a trim seven without a trim okay seven point five seven point five
00:14:31.600 five and a half five and a half six okay humble seven okay strong eight with a trim okay okay so all right all right all right all right all right outside of me
00:14:43.920 everyone here rated themselves that's a girl above average do you think women looks only yes so what's the average
00:14:50.920 oh no okay
00:14:53.920 yeah same sorry okay all right all right looks looks got you so I think you understood the question yeah right
00:15:02.240 okay yeah yeah okay I don't know I just feel like everyone's got preferences okay it's awkward okay
00:15:07.920 okay well what would you do it depends what day it is today I'm like okay
00:15:14.920 I need some volume but
00:15:20.920 I'll go down lower a second personality makes it better okay seven you said seven okay go ahead I'm sticking with my answer okay
00:15:29.920 yeah okay did anyone switch it
00:15:36.920 why don't we go through this again I'm gonna switch it I'm gonna bring it down to a six I think a six okay
00:15:42.920 you're pretty very
00:15:44.920 she's not gonna have no baggage either
00:15:48.920 my point is outside of me no one rated themselves as average from the women and most people are average
00:15:54.920 I mean I what if you think average that's absolutely fine but I know but the point is like women tend to overrate themselves
00:16:09.920 generally
00:16:11.920 I feel like if girls ain't got confidence it makes it makes a lot of issues within the scent and the relationship so if you ain't got confidence
00:16:16.920 in life you suffer in life if you do not think how do you suffer how do you suffer
00:16:21.920 how do you suffer the second thing a woman can wear is that confidence
00:16:24.920 let's bring up from the patriarchy
00:16:26.920 no but how do you suffer
00:16:27.920 it's from sucks from succeeding in school as a child to like jobs to like doing anything
00:16:32.920 to be successful you know you need to rate yourself bro bro bro
00:16:35.920 you need to know to come on this platform and hold a mic in front of yourself you have to have a level of confidence
00:16:39.920 you've got to look in your mirror and believe in your soul
00:16:41.920 I agree with you I think confidence is important if if you have like the stuff to back it up
00:16:51.920 so so if you're gonna come on a podcast and you can't talk it doesn't matter how confident you are
00:16:55.920 you still can't talk if you're gonna rate yourself a 10 and you're not a 10 like it doesn't make you a 10
00:16:59.920 and that's fine and that's why I said that's fine if you think you're average because there's some people that are average
00:17:04.920 but you see me
00:17:11.920 no no no no wait wait wait wait because obviously you know me personally
00:17:14.920 but I'm just saying that in a room full of people that don't know me
00:17:17.920 I'm not gonna water down how I feel when I'm by myself
00:17:20.920 let me ask you a question let me ask you a question
00:17:22.920 I do agree that there's some people are average
00:17:24.920 okay let me ask you a question what celebrity do you think is a 10?
00:17:27.920 I'll be honest with you
00:17:29.920 give me one slip please please don't make this complicated
00:17:31.920 I'm not going to make it complicated but I'm not going to lie to you
00:17:34.920 I know you answer the questions and I'm here to answer
00:17:36.920 but I can't I'm not a celebrity I'm not a fan of celebrities
00:17:40.920 okay you know what let me ask someone else
00:17:44.920 can someone raise your hand if you can give me give me a okay
00:17:47.920 Rihanna Rihanna do you feel like you're as pretty as Rihanna
00:17:50.920 do I think as pretty as Rihanna?
00:17:52.920 I wouldn't compare myself to Rihanna
00:17:54.920 why?
00:17:57.920 you gotta be objective
00:17:59.920 why wouldn't you compare yourself to Rihanna?
00:18:01.920 because I just wouldn't
00:18:03.920 I don't look at other girls and compare myself
00:18:05.920 okay
00:18:06.920 that's just something I don't do
00:18:08.920 I find it really strange what other people do
00:18:10.920 we're talking very very like vapid
00:18:13.920 very very like looks based only
00:18:15.920 do you know what I mean?
00:18:16.920 yeah looks based only
00:18:17.920 if you're gonna be fucking like
00:18:19.920 conceit
00:18:21.920 do you know what I mean?
00:18:23.920 compare yourself to Rihanna
00:18:24.920 look at Rihanna and then look at you
00:18:25.920 and then be like
00:18:26.920 you know what?
00:18:27.920 let's say who's Penga
00:18:29.920 why wouldn't you compare yourself to Rihanna?
00:18:31.920 I don't do that
00:18:32.920 because I'm not Rihanna
00:18:33.920 but on the basis of this conversation
00:18:34.920 just give us a comparison please
00:18:36.920 if I had to compare myself to Rihanna
00:18:37.920 if you lot force me to look at Rihanna
00:18:39.920 I'm forcing you
00:18:40.920 hold a picture next to Rihanna
00:18:41.920 and say who's prettier
00:18:42.920 I wouldn't say she's prettier than me
00:18:44.920 and I'm being honest
00:18:45.920 and that's words
00:18:46.920 stick to your words
00:18:47.920 and I'm not even saying that just to be difficult
00:18:49.920 like I don't want to be difficult
00:18:51.920 that's fair enough
00:18:52.920 but that's actually how I feel
00:18:53.920 I'm living my truth
00:18:54.920 if you ask me to compare myself to her
00:18:57.920 I'm crawling back in the uterus now
00:18:59.920 I take my life back
00:19:02.920 because she's sexy
00:19:05.920 but then that's why
00:19:06.920 before we were saying that
00:19:07.920 some women are delusional
00:19:09.920 I'm not saying that you're not pretty
00:19:15.920 but I'm saying that to say that
00:19:17.920 to say that Rihanna's not pretty than you
00:19:18.920 I never said that
00:19:19.920 what did you say?
00:19:20.920 what did you say?
00:19:21.920 sorry sorry sorry
00:19:22.920 what did you say?
00:19:23.920 I said I wouldn't compare myself
00:19:24.920 I never said Rihanna is not pretty
00:19:25.920 oh she's not pretty than me
00:19:26.920 I would never say that
00:19:27.920 I just can't compare myself
00:19:29.920 and you said if you had to
00:19:31.920 but if you had to
00:19:32.920 no but if you had to
00:19:33.920 if I had to
00:19:34.920 you did
00:19:35.920 you did
00:19:36.920 you did
00:19:37.920 exactly so that's what I'm saying
00:19:38.920 if I had to I wouldn't say she's pretty
00:19:39.920 exactly so that's why I'm saying
00:19:40.920 but that's why
00:19:41.920 wait wait wait wait
00:19:42.920 but that's why I'm saying
00:19:43.920 that before
00:19:44.920 we were saying that
00:19:45.920 some of the women
00:19:46.920 are a little bit delusional
00:19:47.920 that's fine
00:19:48.920 people are delusional
00:19:49.920 people are just banned on TikTok
00:19:51.920 and we are demonetised on a daily basis
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