JustPearlyThings - August 12, 2023


Modern Woman DESCRIBES Her Dream Man


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Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

188.04344

Word count

1,795

Sentence count

34

Harmful content

Misogyny

11

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Toxicity

2

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Hate speech

5

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Summary

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In this episode, we talk about what we look for in a guy on social media profiles, what we're looking for, and what we don't want to see on a guy's profile. We also discuss what we do and don't care about when it comes to sex.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 So when you guys are looking at a social media profile
00:00:03.920 I know some of you are in relationships, but just like think back to when you were single and you got you looked at a profile
00:00:09.740 And you have to decide whether you would respond or not. What would you look at?
00:00:12.860 I look at the fashion and what he's wearing
00:00:16.200 Okay, so fashion. Yeah. Are you trying to see how tall he is? Is that a big thing for you?
00:00:20.380 I mean everyone wants someone over six foot, but I've been with guys that are smaller than that
00:00:24.860 So it doesn't really bother me too too much to be fair
00:00:27.440 But yeah, definitely fashion style what they do
00:00:31.000 Okay, pick up on personality. Okay
00:00:34.200 Also guys if you want anyone to rate your Instagrams put it in the chat and we'll see what they think of it
00:00:42.380 Okay, so fashion
00:00:44.380 You said you want to see what he does. Yeah, what else anything else is that not if you travel stuff like that and just traveling helped in
00:00:52.680 Well, it just shows that he probably was spontaneous and that's an adventure
00:00:56.420 Yeah, he got money
00:01:00.980 Um, okay god, I think for me, um, of course. Yeah, we we want to look what we want to see what he looks like
00:01:07.300 So I just want to see if I like his face, you know
00:01:10.980 Um his build I am looking at fashion. I'm looking at things. That's like
00:01:15.220 Like is he posing with his like with his top out? Like is he trying to show off the packs?
00:01:19.780 Like I'm trying to see if he's trying to flaunt all of that because I'm attracted to a dude that's confident
00:01:25.140 But I also don't want someone that's like cocky or that like likes to put that on display
00:01:30.420 So if you see like a shirtless picture is that a turn on or turn off?
00:01:33.780 It's it depends on like most of the time it's a turn off
00:01:36.820 But it also depends on like how he's posing like sometimes you can just see some guys on their profile
00:01:41.220 And they're like giving you the eyes like smiles and they're like doing the most and I feel like that's low-key a bit of a turn off for me
00:01:47.780 Okay, um, but yeah, i'm looking at like
00:01:50.500 Like his friends if he's posted any pictures of his like mom if like like what he does
00:01:57.140 um
00:01:58.180 Yeah, i'm just kind of looking at all of that. I don't know if that makes sense, but yeah
00:02:03.300 What about you?
00:02:05.780 I think
00:02:06.900 For me, it's just like if they post their interest. I don't
00:02:10.820 It more depends on the message for me rather than the profile because the profile is fake anyway
00:02:14.340 Like everyone's instagram is just a fake version of themselves. So
00:02:17.780 It it would catch my eye if they have something that they're really passionate and interested in that they post about
00:02:24.660 That might entice me more to reply, but I think it more depends on
00:02:28.580 The message for me what type of message would be a good message to send you if it can make me laugh or something funny
00:02:34.820 Something funny. Yeah, or something that would make me think like if they said something really interesting
00:02:40.420 No, don't in that is though
00:02:44.260 The standards are rough because it's like I don't know what you find funny
00:02:47.620 You're not funny
00:02:49.620 But that's kind of my point like it's it's it's instagram like it's it's all a fake world anyway
00:02:54.660 So you might as well just give it a go and you know, you never know go have that universal riz
00:03:01.620 What about you two um good first message to send you to be fair
00:03:06.100 It depends whether they're good-looking or not if i'll reply like the message could just be hey
00:03:10.260 And if he's good-looking i'll entertain it a little bit, but if the conversation just dead, then it just spoils it
00:03:15.060 Yeah, for me like
00:03:18.020 In the past i've had guys that will like talk about my body
00:03:21.940 Or anything like that and I don't want to feel like i'm being sexually objectified in any way
00:03:26.500 So if he comes in straight off the bat like oh like and starts talking about my body
00:03:30.580 I'm gonna ignore that i'm not going to give that any energy
00:03:33.060 I'm, not too fuzzy, but just saying hey like how are you and just starting up a conversation because i'm a human being
00:03:39.540 So it's like respect me talk to me like i'm a human being. I don't want you to on instagram
00:03:44.740 You know, I don't really
00:03:46.980 Post pictures that are like
00:03:50.580 Sexually like provocative or anything like that too tough
00:03:54.020 I can but like i try not to do that too often can we see it?
00:04:05.220 Yeah, i want to see if we could can we look at your yeah, yeah, that's fine, uh, it's tashana talks so t-a-s-h-a-u-n-a talks
00:04:15.140 Because i was kind of wanted to see i want to get the guys feedback and like what they would think of you without meeting you okay
00:04:20.180 Um, did you get that blessing?
00:04:26.420 Okay
00:04:29.140 So you said it just matters how good looking he is yeah first message for you as long as it's not sexual
00:04:36.260 Yeah, just like say hey like what's up that's fine. Did you have something you had to say?
00:04:40.180 Yeah, i'm the same like if it's sexual i won't respond whatsoever. Yeah
00:04:45.380 Have you guys found that that if you send like a sexual message first, it's like a lower response rate
00:04:50.180 No, sorry, can you?
00:04:52.900 I think i think i think um
00:04:56.260 Oh, yeah tashana talks uh t-a-s-h-a-u-n-a
00:05:00.900 T-a-l-k-s all one word 0.81
00:05:07.940 Yeah, the hey hi, how are you doing never works
00:05:13.620 You get left unread most times you gotta just you gotta just start a conversation you know
00:05:18.980 I mean like people the great thing about instagram, which is better. I think than um text and grabbing a number remember four people used to be a bit
00:05:26.340 Annoyed if you know you go to talk to a girl and she gives you like her socials 1.00
00:05:31.140 But the great thing about that is she posts on there every day
00:05:34.660 So there's something that you can kind of connect on at some point
00:05:37.220 Do you know I mean wait for that moment where you can kind of connect on something and then just talk normally
00:05:40.900 You know, I mean don't put someone on a pedestal in the moment that you've done that
00:05:43.220 Yeah, the game, but were you guys saying that if you send a sexual message you you're more likely to get a response?
00:05:48.740 Like a woodshot? Are you talking about like a nude?
00:05:51.700 Obviously don't go don't go don't go 10 out of 10 out of the gate
00:05:56.340 I meant like about her like complimenting her body or something like that 0.99
00:06:00.180 I mean there's certain there's certain profiles that that works with in the same profiles that I wouldn't
00:06:04.580 Yeah, because it's with from a guy's perspective not to speak generally for everyone, but it's one of those ones because you guys said
00:06:10.020 I
00:06:10.180 If you listen, why blah blah blah and if he if he looks like he treats me nice and all over for guys is do you think she will respond?
00:06:20.260 Yeah, all right, so we want to hear from the guys. Oh, yeah, I'll put me on blast
00:06:26.020 Yeah, so what are we
00:06:28.020 Well, we're getting from here traveling traveling
00:06:30.820 I went to disneyland it was so fun
00:06:32.820 No commentary
00:06:34.820 You can give it later. I just want to see without without knowing her
00:06:37.540 Okay, so I'm not seeing too much like skin out. Yeah, I haven't seen any football posing with a bet. Yeah. Yeah, so she's a respectable girl 0.68
00:06:45.540 She's
00:06:47.700 She's chilling. Um, I don't really think this is a page where she's like looking for
00:06:52.740 Mandem's attention. Yeah, she's just kind of just enjoying life. She's I used to work around there. She is
00:07:02.820 Okay, no artsy vibe there as well
00:07:04.980 Yeah, I wouldn't get a message her because she could be a quick one type of message if I was to see this instagram 1.00
00:07:11.780 Yeah, this is a honest individual who is showing you situations and I like that in her life
00:07:17.780 That first one that first one that first one's like don't look at me, but look at me with the whole jacket
00:07:22.500 What's your instagram he's gonna pull it up it's ashton maria
00:07:33.780 Is there a difference?
00:07:43.860 We have one girl on this show we we did a show today called wife or cat lady 0.60
00:07:48.340 Were you yeah?
00:07:50.260 Yeah, you come on the show and we had we had one percent men so that all these men were verified millionaires and they all had to
00:07:57.220 Decide if the women coming in were wife wifey or cat ladies, you know 1.00
00:08:01.140 And this one girl that came in 0.99
00:08:04.980 It was like her boobs were like ow. It was like a see-through like top on instagram 0.99
00:08:09.540 Yeah, and I was trying to tell her I'm like, I don't know if that's like what the the millionaire maybe like the millionaire like ballers 1.00
00:08:15.060 Maybe that's a different group, but like I'm like, I don't know about the millionaire like
00:08:19.940 Businessmen, you know
00:08:22.180 Yeah, she didn't get it
00:08:24.180 Yeah, well she's very she's very beautiful see she didn't need to do that 0.99
00:08:31.220 No, that's what I was telling her cuz I was like I was like I probably would have put her top like 10 20 percent of beauty
00:08:35.940 She's so beautiful. And I was just like, why would you put that?
00:08:40.420 I was like that's like being born 610. Yeah, and not playing basketball
00:08:44.500 Like how would you do that?
00:08:48.500 And bowling as a sport
00:08:51.700 That's that's that's interesting. She needs more people around. I just said tell her that she's attractive in the face 1.00
00:08:56.740 Yeah, I told her she could come back
00:08:59.380 If she deleted three of these pictures on instagram
00:09:02.980 I need some improvement here
00:09:06.900 You should have gone percentage rather than number three percent and she'd have to delete like eight pictures
00:09:10.500 She was very attached to the instagram. Okay, she was a very nice girl, but I was like you're very attached to the insta
00:09:19.540 She she's comparing herself to whoever she idolizes on there. So she might see some woman that all comes down to self-confidence 1.00
00:09:25.780 No, but there might be a woman that she finds. She might look at Carly and think raw if I was if I was like 0.98
00:09:30.740 If I was into girls, I'm on that 1.00