JustPearlyThings - July 24, 2023


Modern Woman Gets Hit With A Reality Check


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Length

11 minutes

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170.06725

Word count

1,956

Sentence count

224

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Misogyny

35

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Hate speech

23

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What does a woman over 40 years old bring to a man that a 20 year old woman can t? What does she bring that a woman under 30 years old can t bring? We discuss this and much more in this episode.

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00:00:00.000 What are women over 30's reputation that are still single, good or bad? 1.00
00:00:05.200 Oh, the reputation defines them as a person, right?
00:00:08.740 Oh, right.
00:00:09.740 Well, I don't agree.
00:00:11.140 Yeah.
00:00:11.620 You don't think we can make generalities based on a reputation?
00:00:16.200 No.
00:00:16.920 No.
00:00:17.660 We can make no conclusions.
00:00:18.400 I know some men that don't give a crap.
00:00:20.360 Yeah, right.
00:00:20.800 We're talking about women. 1.00
00:00:22.320 We're talking about women. 1.00
00:00:23.020 But if you think we're talking about women, all right, I understand that.
00:00:27.200 Well, why are we talking, what is it?
00:00:30.320 Is it for the men that we're talking about this world?
00:00:33.320 Right, but I'm saying if she's 40, what is she going to bring to a guy who wants a new wife and a family? 1.00
00:00:39.440 More sexual experience?
00:00:40.900 She'll probably be a better lover. 1.00
00:00:43.040 Do men want wives with more sexual experience? 0.97
00:00:46.400 No.
00:00:46.560 Some do.
00:00:47.260 I think the more interesting ones do.
00:00:48.360 No.
00:00:49.240 I don't think so.
00:00:50.560 Maybe he does it.
00:00:51.800 Maybe you all do it.
00:00:53.080 You're more likely to get divorced the more sexual experience you have.
00:00:56.420 It's actually true.
00:00:57.420 Yeah.
00:00:57.780 Well, maybe that's because you won't settle for less.
00:01:00.320 Right, but what is settle?
00:01:02.400 Well, settling is when you're in a marriage that isn't perhaps perfect and you want to go out and explore what else is available.
00:01:07.100 Right, that's the problem.
00:01:08.800 Yeah, because women think they deserve more than they do. 1.00
00:01:12.280 Yeah.
00:01:13.240 Is one perspective.
00:01:14.800 Well, I mean, if you could get it, you would get it, right?
00:01:18.100 So if she hasn't gotten it, how does she deserve something she can't get?
00:01:21.900 Oh, I think she just has to keep looking.
00:01:23.680 Just keep shagging. 0.98
00:01:26.080 You'll get there.
00:01:27.360 He's out there.
00:01:28.080 No, but seriously, a guy that wants a wife, what is he going to get out of a woman that is 40 years old? 0.97
00:01:36.620 It's geriatric pregnancy. 0.73
00:01:38.060 She can't bring him kids. 0.77
00:01:39.280 How is that equally?
00:01:41.400 I mean, I know you don't want kids, but I think.
00:01:43.520 I've got a child.
00:01:44.080 Okay.
00:01:44.860 I know you don't want a lot of kids.
00:01:47.400 Right, right.
00:01:49.280 Are you planning children?
00:01:50.240 What?
00:01:50.660 Are you planning children?
00:01:52.120 Every day of my life.
00:01:53.720 Yeah, yeah.
00:01:55.720 So the question is, what does a 40-year-old woman bring that a 20-year-old can't? 1.00
00:02:01.780 So men don't care about sexual experience.
00:02:04.080 Okay, well, better conversation, more life experience, more money, potentially, better career, more education.
00:02:08.640 Do men care about your career and education? 0.70
00:02:11.140 Oh, I hope so.
00:02:11.840 Yeah, again, the interesting ones would, I'm sure.
00:02:14.740 So the interesting men care about your career.
00:02:17.520 What is a career to a guy that has one?
00:02:19.860 It's more like the broke men care about your career.
00:02:23.420 I think it would be more important to a man with a career because then you'd have something to talk about and points you can relate to each other.
00:02:29.720 You're nodding.
00:02:30.560 You think that's true?
00:02:31.560 No, yeah, it's very true.
00:02:32.960 It's not true.
00:02:33.780 Maybe not in your world, love.
00:02:35.180 But there is a lot of things going on that you might not have experienced to really be able to comment on.
00:02:43.700 Okay, then why do the richest men not care about a woman's career? 0.83
00:02:48.500 Why do they go for young, attractive women? 1.00
00:02:50.660 Why do they go for models? 0.99
00:02:51.820 The more naive ones.
00:02:52.880 The more, why do you think they're naive?
00:02:55.660 There's a lot of them that are naive.
00:02:57.120 Some of them don't even know what they want.
00:02:58.360 They just see what's on social media, what's out on, you know, on the internet.
00:03:03.000 All the flash, the bling.
00:03:04.820 Give me the car.
00:03:05.840 Give me the clothes.
00:03:07.640 Give me the jewels.
00:03:09.020 That's what a lot of young girls are like. 1.00
00:03:10.820 How is that different from the older women? 1.00
00:03:13.700 The older women are doing the same thing. 0.99
00:03:15.020 No, but some women grow out of it and they realize that there's more about a man than just his money. 0.99
00:03:21.120 You can be stable if you're on the same level.
00:03:23.640 That's nice.
00:03:24.380 You know, have your money, but all of the extra stuff.
00:03:27.200 Oh, do you want me to finish?
00:03:28.860 Yeah.
00:03:29.340 Yeah.
00:03:30.240 So all the extra stuff, it's been there, done that.
00:03:33.660 When you grow up, you grow out of it.
00:03:35.040 Then you start more focusing on the man's mentality, their mental health, how to become better, not be a nuisance.
00:03:43.780 Kind of become a team.
00:03:45.420 You then start becoming best friends.
00:03:47.740 It's not really about the jewels and all the extra stuff.
00:03:50.940 Like, that's a young mentality.
00:03:53.200 That's fine.
00:03:53.680 But why do a lot of them still end up single?
00:03:56.580 With all the knowledge they have about men and how to be better, they still end up single.
00:04:01.660 I don't know, boy.
00:04:02.260 I've got married parents.
00:04:03.460 They've been together from 20 to now, and they're 57.
00:04:07.260 So I don't know.
00:04:07.980 Maybe I haven't experienced.
00:04:09.400 No, I'm not talking about them.
00:04:10.460 We're talking about this generation of women that are single. 0.99
00:04:12.900 I can't say.
00:04:14.660 I don't know.
00:04:15.900 I don't know.
00:04:16.620 Yeah.
00:04:16.880 Why are they less married than ever?
00:04:19.400 Can't say.
00:04:20.860 We don't know.
00:04:22.080 Okay.
00:04:22.640 So if the data shows that men don't like women the older they get, what does that mean?
00:04:31.360 Who's the data?
00:04:32.120 I don't think.
00:04:33.340 Every dating app data that you can possibly take.
00:04:35.940 Dating apps.
00:04:37.580 Even if you have men pick women by scent, they still pick the younger women. 1.00
00:04:43.780 Yeah.
00:04:44.180 They literally don't even have to see the women. 0.94
00:04:46.040 They smell it.
00:04:46.580 Trying to keep themselves young.
00:04:47.760 No.
00:04:48.140 I mean, there's biological reasons why we do the things we do.
00:04:51.640 And men are attracted to purity.
00:04:53.340 They're attracted to youth.
00:04:55.260 Because historically, they had to reproduce.
00:04:57.460 And you're more likely to be able to reproduce more children with a younger woman. 1.00
00:05:01.880 But you can't just undo biology the same way you like taller men because they can protect
00:05:05.580 you.
00:05:05.760 The same way you like muscles because they can protect you.
00:05:07.680 The same reason women like rich men because they want resources. 1.00
00:05:10.740 Men are attracted to purity.
00:05:11.820 They're attracted to youth.
00:05:12.740 Are we talking about men over 50?
00:05:15.320 How old are we even talking about?
00:05:16.700 We're talking about older men like younger women. 0.87
00:05:19.300 Okay.
00:05:19.660 And that's over what age?
00:05:21.260 All ages.
00:05:22.240 Okay.
00:05:22.600 Just a second.
00:05:22.900 I mean, the dating app is between 18 and 80.
00:05:27.900 You know what age they ranked the most attractive from 18 to 80, all of them?
00:05:32.860 22.
00:05:34.180 I've had some apps go as long as 18.
00:05:37.020 Where men or women, it doesn't peak till 50.
00:05:40.840 So really and truly, men are just looking for the looks.
00:05:45.040 It starts with looks.
00:05:46.340 Yeah.
00:05:47.520 And everything else.
00:05:48.960 I know some girls that just don't lift a finger. 1.00
00:05:51.920 And they get it.
00:05:52.880 Oh, they don't even need a personality.
00:05:54.860 Some men like that.
00:05:55.900 Well, I think that's the whole point.
00:05:58.280 Is that like that's all women bring in 2023. 1.00
00:06:00.240 The majority of us haven't been raised to be wives.
00:06:05.260 Do you think that's untrue?
00:06:09.900 This day and age, anything below 25, they have been struggling.
00:06:16.060 Women. 0.81
00:06:16.920 Okay.
00:06:18.100 Not all of them.
00:06:20.140 But there is a lot that have been struggling.
00:06:24.480 Guidance-wise.
00:06:26.420 Yeah.
00:06:27.280 Yeah, because we got, I think the women between like. 1.00
00:06:29.900 They're more free spirit.
00:06:31.920 Is that, is that good for society?
00:06:35.680 Both ways.
00:06:37.800 Huh?
00:06:38.380 Both ways.
00:06:39.420 It's good both ways.
00:06:40.700 It's good.
00:06:41.920 And it's a bit bad.
00:06:43.720 Okay.
00:06:43.860 So it's like, you can't take.
00:06:46.140 I mean.
00:06:49.340 To be honest, everyone's expectations and that.
00:06:51.820 It's different.
00:06:53.280 But a lot of young girls haven't been really taught about respecting themselves.
00:07:00.780 You know, they don't, they're not being told how to conduct themselves.
00:07:06.720 But then we all get our moments.
00:07:09.500 I'm not going to say I'm some special.
00:07:12.760 We've all had our moments, but I feel like it's all to do with the maturity.
00:07:16.100 But I do believe that it works good and bad for like that free spirit.
00:07:22.580 So maybe if they want an older guy, an older man might not like that free spirit too much
00:07:28.960 because they kind of want, depending on the guy.
00:07:31.680 Sorry.
00:07:31.900 I know you don't like that word.
00:07:32.960 But they might want a bit more of a submissive girl. 1.00
00:07:37.120 Okay.
00:07:38.200 Some of the younger girls.
00:07:39.340 Do you think older women are more submissive? 1.00
00:07:41.960 Some.
00:07:43.700 Some.
00:07:44.860 Are people more likely to change when they're older or younger?
00:07:49.640 Older.
00:07:51.500 Come on.
00:07:52.820 What?
00:07:53.960 All right.
00:07:54.740 If a guy, if a guy's been committing crimes until 18, is he more likely to stop if he stops
00:07:59.700 at 18 or if he stops at 35?
00:08:03.340 He's been doing it for 15 years or he's been doing it for two years.
00:08:07.220 They don't stop guys.
00:08:08.720 Guys don't ever change.
00:08:11.540 Do you think women change? 1.00
00:08:14.200 Yes.
00:08:15.900 I do.
00:08:17.520 Maybe I'm just talking on my behalf.
00:08:19.320 If there's others that don't, then I can't say, no, you don't.
00:08:22.940 It's not my place to say that.
00:08:25.280 But I do know of everyone around me that they've changed from in their early 20s to their mid-30s,
00:08:32.880 late-30s.
00:08:33.700 You're a woman and you don't, you don't, you don't. 1.00
00:08:37.440 Okay.
00:08:38.020 Let's put it like this.
00:08:38.720 You're so sure that guys don't change and you're not a guy.
00:08:41.940 But for a woman, you have a completely different view on it.
00:08:45.040 How does that compute?
00:08:46.200 You're so right.
00:08:47.440 I'm so sorry.
00:08:48.320 Apologies.
00:08:49.560 Some guys.
00:08:50.160 What makes a woman valuable? 1.00
00:08:58.040 Me?
00:08:58.440 Um, gosh, well, everything I've said, really, I think being helpful and respectful of men.
00:09:05.880 I'll go along with that.
00:09:08.320 And having their own ambitions as well and being able to make their own money.
00:09:11.300 Okay.
00:09:12.020 Money, being helpful.
00:09:14.880 Okay.
00:09:15.700 Go ahead.
00:09:16.580 What makes a woman valuable? 1.00
00:09:17.880 Yes.
00:09:20.160 Why do I feel like I'm going to repeat myself?
00:09:25.900 Oh, yeah.
00:09:26.420 I have to repeat myself.
00:09:27.460 Okay.
00:09:27.620 Um, right.
00:09:32.460 Judging on male friends of mine, what they've said, what they find is valuable in a woman 0.91
00:09:38.120 is the biggest word.
00:09:40.980 It's to stay and ride with them.
00:09:44.120 Okay.
00:09:44.600 Loyalty.
00:09:45.040 Which is, yeah, it's a loyalty thing.
00:09:48.020 Even though a lot of women wouldn't agree with it, it's something that men tend to really
00:09:55.180 love.
00:09:55.720 It's a loyalty thing.
00:09:56.920 They want to know that that woman is just you. 1.00
00:09:58.780 They want to know that that woman is the only one.
00:10:02.080 You're the only one as a man that's going with this woman, basically. 0.70
00:10:05.740 I'm not going to go into too much details.
00:10:07.800 Okay.
00:10:07.960 That is something that I've heard from a lot of men, that they do like the loyalty.
00:10:15.540 Obviously, you know, the same old cook and all that kind of stuff.
00:10:20.260 But then again, I've also heard, which I kind of understand to a certain extent, that
00:10:25.420 when you're doing all that wifey, wifey stuff, it's great.
00:10:29.820 They know that you're home, but it gets boring for some men.
00:10:36.060 That's why some men go and cheat. 0.50
00:10:37.960 Because they want someone that's not doing the everyday stuff that is going on at home.
00:10:42.340 I don't agree with it, but it's just something that I have basically heard of.
00:10:50.760 And it's a lot, a lot of men say that.
00:10:54.480 Okay, that they want to cheat?
00:10:56.340 No, that it's just like it's boring, you know, with all these things that we as women 0.99
00:11:01.520 feel that is valuable to a man.
00:11:03.820 We, we think what we think, but men won't think the way we think, you know? 0.91
00:11:10.180 Well, you know why it gets boring for them.
00:11:12.820 Have you ever heard the phrase, you can't compete with noob, you know?
00:11:17.880 It's because men crave sexual variety.
00:11:19.840 In order to pass on their genes, they had to, you know, how did Ganges Khan like get two 1.00
00:11:24.000 out of every a hundred people, you like screwed everybody. 0.74
00:11:26.660 It was the best way to procreate.
00:11:28.080 Thank you.
00:11:29.040 Thank you.