Women Will NEVER UNDERSTAND This Male Struggle
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about the issue of single fathers and their role in the custody battle for their kids. We discuss the differences between single father homes and single mother homes in the UK and the US as well as how single fathers are treated in the courts and how they are treated by the legal system.
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and and so it's like guys don't want to spend hundreds of thousands of dollars to not get
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their kid the deadbeat dad thing it's a myth i really don't believe it but you're talking like
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about someone that has money right many guys don't have money at all right so it's not just
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financial and that's why a lot of the men that don't have money don't fight because they don't
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want to spend hundreds of thousands of dollars just to not get their kids lawyers will advise
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them against it and another thing i want to add because you asked something a question yeah is
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depends who is the woman for example and why is there isn't we we get divorced who is the woman
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and then i will also decide if i want to fight or not because as a father which i'm not but thinking
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i would like the best for the kid yeah so if the mother was capable and it was potentially my fault
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or some careful but she's still capable of being a mother i wouldn't really fight you know
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makes sense it's hard work it's hard work looking after kids but if she was a good woman then you
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would let the kids stay with her i would in any case let the kids stay with you unless it's a really
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good reason not to well and the point is they don't have a choice women get custody 90 percent of the
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time they do not have a choice so unless the woman's bad right like it has bad sort of intentions or
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doesn't always neglect you need to prove it i'm saying i'm saying it doesn't really matter because
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the courts are so one-sided like like a girl so if you're in a relationship with a guy and you make
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one phone call you can get him kicked out of the house for a year before you go to trial then you
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go to trial and what they'll tell you is oh why haven't you been in the kid's life for a year
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and the problem is she can get a restraining order so if she tries to if he tries to see the kid
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he gets arrested and then he gets punished in court they're like why haven't you been in the
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kid's life and if they're like working now if they're not even working and they're spending time
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with the kids you'd be called a bitch by not working it's it's so funny because we want men
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that protect and provide and then if they do it they're punished in court it's like they can't win
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that is true it's very high they'll say oh he spent more she spent more time with the kid but if
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they cared about the kid why wouldn't they go off through out off of the statistics that single
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father homes go far far fair better than single mother homes men really really suffer you know in
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these situations and women don't really understand it but they have really difficult time I'm not
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saying from experience but from what I see is like women have a lot of control nowadays it's western
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society when it comes to this matter and in the UK you get a free lawyer if you accuse a guy of
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abuse if he's been arrested you get a free lawyer so women have like incentive to accuse men of abuse
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and you can kind of see what's real and what's not by looking at who's who has pressed criminal charges
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and it's less than 10 percent the lawyer still works for the government he doesn't privately work for you
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unless you pay him what the lawyer works like he's a solicitor he's a public defender yeah like they say
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in the states he doesn't work for you in your favor so he'll go based off jurors based off and the other
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issue too is their number one client is from the women's shelters so if they if they win too many cases
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for the men it kind of backfires because then they don't get clients from the women's shelters
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it's like a whole money it's really crazy I'm doing a whole documentary on it it's so insane
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in comparison to like UK and US I mean it's or just in general like nation like well I'm focusing
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more on the UK because it's like it's it's definitely I would say worse here across the board but
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the US it kind of depends on the state you're in um and I've heard Ireland is like worse than here
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but yeah I'm doing it mostly in the UK with a couple stories from the US um I forgot what question
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we were even asking it's about cheating oh I remember um so you what no no it was the cheating
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I think if uh if you don't sleep with your husband oh yeah yeah yes that's the one so so what you you
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agreed with me right that if a girl gets cheated on because she doesn't have any reason yeah like if
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she doesn't have any reason and she doesn't offer to her husband yeah what the husband needs as well
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what would be a good reason for a woman not to sleep with her husband
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what would be a good reason for a woman not to sleep with her husband that she just gave her birth
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she doesn't love him anymore that's a good reason that is a good reason oh if she doesn't love him
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anymore well then she shouldn't be with him right yeah no she should but we don't know why she's
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isn't that a bit subjective like wouldn't you say feelings change every day yes you could hate
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someone one day love them the next so then then should we not should we deny a guy's sex based on
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our feelings if they change every day you think that's fair should he protect us if when he feels like
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it why so quiet i don't know i'm just asking i think fundamentally he should protect us like and
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we but like i said it goes back to like your your one your your communion you're together right
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so like you gotta give and take i just think the feelings don't matter at all no i mean if you're
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really like you know having a bad day and all he wants is like to canoodle like you might just be
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like dude seriously yeah i mean once in a while guys are understanding yeah you know but for like
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months on end or for like years no that's just not right there's guys that haven't been like had sex
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in like years in marriage yeah no no no that's not true right guys are pretty simple they're food
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banging it's true it's true that's all you need what about you um i don't know why someone would
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want to have sex with someone that doesn't really want to have sex with them so i think if
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i think if the answer is no then that's that debate there can you cheat then if she says no
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i think he can ask for permission to cheat could he just do it he shouldn't just do it oh i don't
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know i'm not an expert on that maybe if the girl's not having sex for such a long time maybe she's
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cheating as well how long can a girl not sleep with her husband before she's deemed a bad wife
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wow depends what is normal to have how no no no i'm just saying in general how long three months
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three months is bad wife what if there's still a show involved three months there's still there's
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still some sort of exhibition amongst partners but it's not full intercourse and you just show for
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each other a show wow like this just be naked it could be naked it could be okay okay we're
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we're just talking about sex i'm not i'd say that um three months in a active relationship is
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probably quite a long time to go without okay so without a valid reason like a baby or something
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okay and so then he can cheat no no he has to have a conversation but i'm not an expert on it so
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no you don't have to be an expert it's just opinions it's just an opinion show you know i can't speak
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from experience so then i feel a bit funny about saying okay okay that's all right what about you
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should can a guy cheat if his wife won't sleep with him i don't think anybody should cheat
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male or female wife or husband if they can't sleep with each other whether it's from physical
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deformity or whatever it is okay communicate it and if not then just split how how long can a woman
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not sleep with her husband till she's a bad wife eternity forever eternity so she's a
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good wife still if she doesn't sleep with him for a year
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other way around she's a bad wife if she doesn't sleep with him for a year yeah okay so so if it's
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a month is she a bad wife no we no she feels a certain type of way she's on her period maybe
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it could be many things one month three months is she a bad wife six months ten months a year but
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at least communicate tell me why okay and then she says i don't want to
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tell me why you don't exactly again why there has to be some sort of reason even if you tell me okay
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i don't feel it it's a reason but if you tell me i don't know that's literally not a reason