JustPearlyThings - Modern Woman Is Caught Lying In 4k

00:00:00.000 have you been to therapy yeah is it is it a male or a female therapist it's a male

00:00:06.040 oh wow yeah no luck he's amazing no honestly he would no he's he's so he's so sad about it

00:00:15.100 i'm still yeah but how do you turn that off like i feel like you need acceptance first you need to

00:00:21.780 accept that it's happening i have accepted it i have accepted it it's just because i'm speaking

00:00:26.040 about it on a public public do you still like look up his social media stuff i tell you from the day

00:00:31.600 that i broke up with him i've never stalked him i'm too proud i would never do that are you still

00:00:35.720 having counseling i don't want to answer that okay but you're right there is more work to be done i'm

00:00:43.100 aware of that it's just because for me to come on a public platform and speak about it it's like quite

00:00:47.920 raw for me still do you know what it is sometimes when you're not ready yourself the universe just

00:00:52.980 keeps giving you the same person in different forms that's so true you're attracting the same 0.98

00:00:57.380 kind to yourself so you need to be alone and happy within yourself and then something that you

00:01:05.380 obviously think is for you and good for you will come but you're not ready so that's why the world

00:01:11.240 isn't bringing you someone i don't think right now your subconscious is just is saying actually i need

00:01:16.400 to be back in something i need to have that no because i wasn't even looking for that i do i love

00:01:21.520 being single and i really love him i am i said her subconscious no because i wasn't looking for

00:01:27.580 him i was walking down the street minding my own business meet you at the bar because i enjoyed his

00:01:32.100 company i'm in australia you're just contradicting yourself like how did you know his company by him

00:01:38.040 just saying hi though do you know what i mean because i felt good in his presence and i'm in a

00:01:42.680 new city across in the night you know that that feeling that you felt that safe feeling yeah did you

00:01:47.920 have that with this the last person who was your friend and you just had that feeling and you was

00:01:51.300 like oh i like this yeah yeah so you haven't actually gotten over that yeah no you're right

00:01:56.620 that that that same feeling that same kick that you got from the last one you're getting from this

00:02:01.300 you know what it sounds like you're addicted to that feeling yeah yeah you know what you're probably

00:02:05.440 right can i ask you can choose not to answer yeah you're quite personal but before both of these

00:02:11.260 have you suffered with stuff within yourself and then you're kind of using these yeah to patch that

00:02:17.600 up yeah okay probably most likely but that's the first step is acknowledgement yeah

00:02:24.320 okay where where were we in the room with the money question okay go ahead if my man was making um

00:02:36.260 less than me um yeah yeah significantly less than i was earning more he would still be my man probably

00:02:45.460 it doesn't really matter to me i love the person for the person if it stopped me from doing things

00:02:51.380 and living the life that i wanted to live then i'm not with the right person if i love someone i love

00:02:56.660 them for them i'm not really materialistic about stuff like that is there a minimum what figure yeah i mean

00:03:02.740 because let's be honest let's be honest if he's unemployed if he's unemployed for two years you're out

00:03:09.220 yeah probably and i hope you would be yeah if he's unemployed for two years i'm out so so there has to be like a minimum what would you

00:03:15.940 roughly say it is i couldn't i don't know what people earn and not shift work i couldn't tell you

00:03:21.940 how much you'd like him to bring him a week or a month not shift work like what would you like him to bring him a month yeah in a month

00:03:28.340 two grand three grand four grand remember you you listen if he says quit whatever the amount that

00:03:36.820 sustains us to like be happy but i don't need like big flashy things to be happy would you be happy living

00:03:42.180 in the caravan i guess what about what about the box on the corner over here there's someone there's

00:03:50.980 there's like a couple people in these boxes over there but you're down there ain't it yeah there's

00:03:56.260 a homeless shelter down the road they got this box out in the roads i've seen it i don't think i could

00:04:01.460 but money doesn't determine like the person for me if that makes sense i don't know if that answers

00:04:08.020 your question and no it doesn't no there's no minimum like come on no minimum i don't know if

00:04:15.700 think about that i don't know what people earn for you what like to to have all your necessities met

00:04:22.340 do you live on what we're looking at do you live on your own yeah i live on my own okay so you know

00:04:26.500 what it takes to sustain yeah do you want him to be a provider basically because if you do you know

00:04:32.980 you have to know your minimum surely surely unless you don't mind providing for yourself then it doesn't

00:04:39.060 matter at all yeah can we not come together was that not an option i thought he's earning less

00:04:46.420 than me yeah so i i'm i'm saying at what point do you respect his decision making so like if he said

00:04:53.860 quit your job tomorrow i have a plan i'll listen but if he's a bum and hasn't worked in two years why 0.89

00:04:58.340 the hell would you do that yeah i would definitely not listen so so there's a minimum point right yeah

00:05:03.460 there's a minimum point where and it doesn't have to be exact you know just just a rough figure where

00:05:08.020 you would listen to what he says i want to see i couldn't tell you i couldn't tell you i forgot

00:05:16.340 okay what about 30 30 000 pounds would you listen is that the minimum people earn in the just go off

00:05:23.620 like what it takes to sustain yourself and then could you live on a thousand pound a month if he's

00:05:28.580 bringing in like between three and four thousand three and four thousand i think yeah that's fine a

00:05:33.860 year no a month oh yeah that's nice that's fine it's more than nice for some people i like it yeah

00:05:40.500 okay um what about you would you date a guy that makes less than you i would date a guy that um

00:05:47.220 yeah i would but he would have to be able to like pay the bills and what's your what's your minimum um

00:05:54.180 i would say four grand because that's like enough to like pay bills rent or mortgage

00:06:00.180 um carnet that sort of stuff okay what about you um i think i would respect him um

00:06:13.700 i don't believe you why don't you believe me

00:06:20.660 um oh gosh i don't what's your minimum okay my minimum i'll be comfortable with let's say 3k a month i

00:06:29.860 think that's okay okay to bring in um i think it's all down to i don't know if it kind of relates

00:06:36.020 to the question that you're asking i think it's just all down to ambition if he's a bum no she said

00:06:40.580 no no that's what he's gonna this is this is the problem with women she said that's he's gonna 0.71

00:06:45.700 he's gonna be a high earner one day no he's not

00:06:47.620 oh no he's got potential why would you go for me this situation there is no potential here

00:06:53.940 he goes to job he's happy at his job he loves it he loves it it doesn't mean he's lazy maybe he's

00:06:59.860 like a i don't know do police officers yeah postman do police officers a manager at mcdonald's and he

00:07:05.460 loves working at tisco yeah yeah oh god i mean i worked at mcdonald's it's all right i worked at

00:07:11.460 tisco i think my approach generally is a job is a job as long as it's making you comfortable then

00:07:17.780 i will respect that full stop yeah i think that's just it oh yeah but i mean in terms of like respect

00:07:22.900 i mean if we're living together and we have a family and i meant to like respect all your decision

00:07:27.700 making if you're not earning at least to cover what it takes i mean it's like okay if you're dating a

00:07:34.260 guy that makes 250 000 a year pounds or whatever it is here um if he says quit it's when i go yeah

00:07:43.780 that's so much funny it's when like when do you want me to but at some point like it switches to

00:07:48.740 where you give him more control because if a bum tells you to do that you're not going to do it yeah 1.00

00:07:54.180 if it hasn't worked in two years he says quit you're like what i think we can all agree on that

00:08:00.340 which we all agree on but like i'm just asking roughly around what point is it

00:08:04.100 that you respect his decision making yeah four grand a month like roughly four grand a month okay

00:08:09.220 that's a good question these are things that you wouldn't even ask yourself oh yes i'm actually

00:08:15.220 kind of glad that i'm here and you're doing this i mean if you want to get married you kind of have

00:08:18.180 to do the math yeah it depends like because it also depends how many kids you want yeah so like

00:08:22.340 how much does each kid cost yeah you need to think about these things while entering a relationship

00:08:26.980 especially if you're going to merge into one i feel like women do don't they yeah like i see

00:08:32.260 even on first dates exactly like what would our wedding look like yeah what area are we going

00:08:38.340 to move to and the man is just right there looking at the state yeah but we're five years into it

00:08:43.780 he's like oh today's a nice day she's like we could have two kids

00:08:49.860 the white picket fence is there yeah are you thinking about that

JustPearlyThings - May 29, 2023

Modern Woman Is Caught Lying In 4k

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