JustPearlyThings - Modern Woman Is In For A Rude Awakening

00:00:00.000 kids um okay or would you if you found a guy tomorrow that you really liked would you have

00:00:05.500 kids like you're ready to go me yeah but i got a boyfriend okay so would you if he said tomorrow

00:00:11.300 i'm ready to get married and have kids yeah like right now so let's start i mean i would try and

00:00:16.540 negotiate and try and get him to extend this but i mean if he's like dead on it yeah yes yeah so no

00:00:24.880 i mean i wouldn't be happy i wouldn't be happy about it but so just say no because no guy's

00:00:31.560 gonna want to like force you to have his child you know what yeah but it's like what you said i feel

00:00:35.660 like because every other box is ticked i feel secure i feel like you'll be a good dad um you're

00:00:42.420 in a good position we can financially handle it like what it's fine i just feel like me it's the

00:00:48.360 only part is the selfish aspect of me not wanting to have kids it's because i feel like i just want

00:00:51.840 to live my life that's the only element 25. what age would you want to have children um i'm gonna

00:00:57.820 i'm gonna rethink it around 28. do you feel like you're not ready to have children yet

00:01:02.200 i don't feel ready no but like you said i probably am if it if it happened are you more of like sorry

00:01:09.080 are you more of like a career person that's your focus i am quite career driven yes what do you think

00:01:14.860 like will make you happier in the future your career or like having children

00:01:18.040 i think having kids and a family and a husband oh yeah 100 over the career 100 and i want to be a

00:01:26.020 housewife for a period of my life as well yeah so i'm curious so i'm curious like why why not go for

00:01:30.860 that first then because women in my industry the time is ticking what's your industry media and 1.00

00:01:38.280 presenting so i can't i don't know i got a lady that was 55 like 50 000 subs in three months oh yeah 1.00

00:01:45.260 auntie yeah yeah no it's true and maybe it's society pushing its own standards on me maybe

00:01:52.200 and it's scaring me yeah i admit to it it scares me being young and beautiful there is an advantage

00:01:56.800 yeah i'm not i'm not going to deny that yeah it's not like you can't have a media career it's true

00:02:01.400 it's true but i feel like i still got a bit of time to play with currently for the kids for the kids

00:02:06.440 we're running out of time with the kids we are how many how many kids do you want about maybe just

00:02:12.880 one oh you just want one kid maybe one or two one or two two two two two two two okay yeah i guess i

00:02:21.080 guess not too many not too many yeah just don't don't play with fire it's true do fertility tests 0.96

00:02:27.440 work and stuff like do they really show you how yeah i think so well isn't that something we can

00:02:32.540 actively practice then what fertility tests yeah to see how fertile we are yeah i just i just know

00:02:38.160 yeah yeah yeah i know because i want to do one i know girls that got to like 28 and then they like

00:02:43.080 they couldn't have kids so this is why i'm going to do it like i said especially like have you have

00:02:47.300 you been on birth control at all no okay no that's good yeah that's one of the reasons why i came off

00:02:52.400 birth control because of the fertility i just said okay i just said have you ever been on birth

00:02:56.860 control and you said no and then you said that's fine no no no no as in i haven't been on it for a

00:03:00.700 very long time so that's one of the reasons like as in ages so yeah um do you feel like you're above

00:03:09.260 average and what do you bring to an above average woman oh see i think it's like super arrogant to 0.97

00:03:14.920 say but you know for like the to the average male in 2023 it's not hard to be above average

00:03:21.120 like if you break it to categories like physically spiritually career-wise friendship relationship

00:03:26.060 with family i feel like physically um i train every day so in that sense i feel like i'm above

00:03:32.020 average um you said the statistic earlier about being over six foot luckily i'm six one so that's

00:03:37.120 another thing above average um in terms of career like i've had a mad career i've achieved a lot i've

00:03:42.020 got a degree for my mom in case anything else failed um i've achieved all my goals i set out in

00:03:47.540 the modeling world um oh you're a model yeah model one actor so i've achieved it took me like six

00:03:52.260 years to achieve all of them goals what did you do for the for the goals and modeling so like for

00:03:57.060 example like when i was 24 i used to stand in at birmingham city center and look at a billboard

00:04:00.980 and before i ever did a photo shoot my whole life and say one day i'm gonna be on there then it'd be

00:04:04.280 like international bookings then it'll be stores in london then it'll be certain brands i'd want to

00:04:08.840 shoot for this and that and then yeah i did them all and they were all very like clearly written out

00:04:13.780 next to my bed i take them all off as i go along yeah and then um showed so much gratitude along the way

00:04:18.780 as well so it's just like because you know when you come from nothing like when you have something

00:04:22.080 it's like it's like the best feeling ever so yeah in that sense i feel like i do in terms of

00:04:25.740 like spiritually i've been on my spiritual journey found peace within myself i've revisited old stuff

00:04:30.420 um my communications a1 in relationships things like this so i think i bring a lot and the question

00:04:36.260 you asked earlier about when i'm like when i speak to a female i ask them questions and i say 0.99

00:04:40.720 like what do you bring to the table because i'm bringing xyz um but yeah now now i'm like i've kind of

00:04:46.120 like um bulletproof my philosophies in in regards to what i want in a relationship so i very much know

00:04:52.500 if this person's going to be the one for me i feel like that's the stage of my night that's funny

00:04:56.780 like everything you said was like results oriented so you said you're above average in looks but if

00:05:02.160 you model your top 20 percent of looks roughly because you wouldn't get a modeling contract if

00:05:06.360 you weren't yeah i think that's like um is it subjective and it's what society dictates as well

00:05:11.080 what's like no no like if you look at dating app data people tend to find the same types of people

00:05:17.540 attractive but there's some people that would like hate tattoos or some people that hate i mean there's

00:05:21.660 like a little bit of subjectivity to it but not really like a lot no okay yeah but yeah and that's

00:05:29.320 and then when you say like um i had this in my career like you listed the accomplishment yeah yeah

00:05:33.560 no it's just interesting because when men answer they usually answer more like results where it's like

00:05:37.460 girls it's more like feelings yeah yeah i feel i feel that i definitely feel that yeah you didn't

00:05:43.840 like that no i'm saying i totally agree okay um do you think you're above average and what do you

00:05:49.740 bring to an above average guy i think i am an average girl as you said tori it's a bit silly if we

00:05:54.780 if we don't grow there's always time to grow there's always space for knowledge um i grew up in a very

00:06:01.680 religious household so for me it is quite naturally to submit once you understand how things go

00:06:07.180 it's not a bad thing like it's not negative it's not toxic if anything i feel like in this society

00:06:14.460 this this modern world do you know how powerful you are as a woman to submit you in this world you 0.99

00:06:20.660 can be an animal if you want to you have the freedom to say i'm a i'm a slug and yet you choose

00:06:26.280 to submit for your man i find that very powerful and there's nothing wrong with that i feel like it

00:06:30.560 makes sense there's balance in the house he knows what to do you know what to do and it just brings

00:06:34.780 nurture as well and you taught me that as well oh thank you but i did grow up in a kind of house

00:06:41.200 okay so you have um a model of like a that's that's that's something guys look for your family

00:06:47.100 background for sure with my family i'm not allowed to move out until i get married really yeah i there's

00:06:53.380 a line that i can't i've heard i've heard guys say that's like a green flag where it's like yeah if

00:06:57.760 she still lives with her parents that's good i've heard guys say like if she like they look at your

00:07:02.320 family background to see if your mom submitted to your dad yeah i'm actually 25 if it gets like

00:07:07.720 late i'll have a phone call like where are you what time you're coming me too yes i live in my

00:07:13.240 family too when i was younger i didn't like it at all but now that i'm 25 i appreciate it so much

00:07:18.500 because i've avoided so much i've avoided so much it's amazing yeah so thank you my brother thank you

00:07:23.820 mom thank you everyone honestly okay do you have anything else you want to add to it so you live at

00:07:28.720 home you know you've seen a successful relationship uh what else um you know to cook

00:07:34.220 i i i've i've got forced to learn how to cook i got forced to learn how to kind of hated it but now

00:07:39.560 i'm so thankful thankful honestly what types of food do you like to cook so i love arab food so

00:07:45.760 for me it's all about the rice and the chicken and the sauce

00:07:48.860 so

JustPearlyThings - August 24, 2023

Modern Woman Is In For A Rude Awakening

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