Modern Woman Is In For A Rude Awakening
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Summary
In this episode, I'm joined by my good friend and former model friend, to talk about fertility, fertility tests, fertility problems and what it means to be a woman in today's society. We talk about what it's like being a female in the industry, fertility issues and the pressures society puts on women to have kids.
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kids um okay or would you if you found a guy tomorrow that you really liked would you have
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kids like you're ready to go me yeah but i got a boyfriend okay so would you if he said tomorrow
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i'm ready to get married and have kids yeah like right now so let's start i mean i would try and
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negotiate and try and get him to extend this but i mean if he's like dead on it yeah yes yeah so no
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i mean i wouldn't be happy i wouldn't be happy about it but so just say no because no guy's
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gonna want to like force you to have his child you know what yeah but it's like what you said i feel
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like because every other box is ticked i feel secure i feel like you'll be a good dad um you're
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in a good position we can financially handle it like what it's fine i just feel like me it's the
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only part is the selfish aspect of me not wanting to have kids it's because i feel like i just want
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to live my life that's the only element 25. what age would you want to have children um i'm gonna
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i'm gonna rethink it around 28. do you feel like you're not ready to have children yet
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i don't feel ready no but like you said i probably am if it if it happened are you more of like sorry
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are you more of like a career person that's your focus i am quite career driven yes what do you think
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like will make you happier in the future your career or like having children
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i think having kids and a family and a husband oh yeah 100 over the career 100 and i want to be a
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housewife for a period of my life as well yeah so i'm curious so i'm curious like why why not go for
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that first then because women in my industry the time is ticking what's your industry media and
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presenting so i can't i don't know i got a lady that was 55 like 50 000 subs in three months oh yeah
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auntie yeah yeah no it's true and maybe it's society pushing its own standards on me maybe
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and it's scaring me yeah i admit to it it scares me being young and beautiful there is an advantage
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yeah i'm not i'm not going to deny that yeah it's not like you can't have a media career it's true
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it's true but i feel like i still got a bit of time to play with currently for the kids for the kids
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we're running out of time with the kids we are how many how many kids do you want about maybe just
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one oh you just want one kid maybe one or two one or two two two two two two two okay yeah i guess i
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guess not too many not too many yeah just don't don't play with fire it's true do fertility tests
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work and stuff like do they really show you how yeah i think so well isn't that something we can
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actively practice then what fertility tests yeah to see how fertile we are yeah i just i just know
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yeah yeah yeah i know because i want to do one i know girls that got to like 28 and then they like
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they couldn't have kids so this is why i'm going to do it like i said especially like have you have
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you been on birth control at all no okay no that's good yeah that's one of the reasons why i came off
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birth control because of the fertility i just said okay i just said have you ever been on birth
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control and you said no and then you said that's fine no no no no as in i haven't been on it for a
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very long time so that's one of the reasons like as in ages so yeah um do you feel like you're above
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average and what do you bring to an above average woman oh see i think it's like super arrogant to
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say but you know for like the to the average male in 2023 it's not hard to be above average
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like if you break it to categories like physically spiritually career-wise friendship relationship
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with family i feel like physically um i train every day so in that sense i feel like i'm above
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average um you said the statistic earlier about being over six foot luckily i'm six one so that's
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another thing above average um in terms of career like i've had a mad career i've achieved a lot i've
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got a degree for my mom in case anything else failed um i've achieved all my goals i set out in
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the modeling world um oh you're a model yeah model one actor so i've achieved it took me like six
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years to achieve all of them goals what did you do for the for the goals and modeling so like for
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example like when i was 24 i used to stand in at birmingham city center and look at a billboard
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and before i ever did a photo shoot my whole life and say one day i'm gonna be on there then it'd be
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like international bookings then it'll be stores in london then it'll be certain brands i'd want to
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shoot for this and that and then yeah i did them all and they were all very like clearly written out
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next to my bed i take them all off as i go along yeah and then um showed so much gratitude along the way
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as well so it's just like because you know when you come from nothing like when you have something
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it's like it's like the best feeling ever so yeah in that sense i feel like i do in terms of
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like spiritually i've been on my spiritual journey found peace within myself i've revisited old stuff
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um my communications a1 in relationships things like this so i think i bring a lot and the question
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you asked earlier about when i'm like when i speak to a female i ask them questions and i say
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like what do you bring to the table because i'm bringing xyz um but yeah now now i'm like i've kind of
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like um bulletproof my philosophies in in regards to what i want in a relationship so i very much know
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if this person's going to be the one for me i feel like that's the stage of my night that's funny
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like everything you said was like results oriented so you said you're above average in looks but if
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you model your top 20 percent of looks roughly because you wouldn't get a modeling contract if
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you weren't yeah i think that's like um is it subjective and it's what society dictates as well
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what's like no no like if you look at dating app data people tend to find the same types of people
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attractive but there's some people that would like hate tattoos or some people that hate i mean there's
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like a little bit of subjectivity to it but not really like a lot no okay yeah but yeah and that's
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and then when you say like um i had this in my career like you listed the accomplishment yeah yeah
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no it's just interesting because when men answer they usually answer more like results where it's like
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girls it's more like feelings yeah yeah i feel i feel that i definitely feel that yeah you didn't
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like that no i'm saying i totally agree okay um do you think you're above average and what do you
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bring to an above average guy i think i am an average girl as you said tori it's a bit silly if we
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if we don't grow there's always time to grow there's always space for knowledge um i grew up in a very
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religious household so for me it is quite naturally to submit once you understand how things go
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it's not a bad thing like it's not negative it's not toxic if anything i feel like in this society
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this this modern world do you know how powerful you are as a woman to submit you in this world you
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can be an animal if you want to you have the freedom to say i'm a i'm a slug and yet you choose
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to submit for your man i find that very powerful and there's nothing wrong with that i feel like it
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makes sense there's balance in the house he knows what to do you know what to do and it just brings
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nurture as well and you taught me that as well oh thank you but i did grow up in a kind of house
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okay so you have um a model of like a that's that's that's something guys look for your family
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background for sure with my family i'm not allowed to move out until i get married really yeah i there's
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a line that i can't i've heard i've heard guys say that's like a green flag where it's like yeah if
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she still lives with her parents that's good i've heard guys say like if she like they look at your
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family background to see if your mom submitted to your dad yeah i'm actually 25 if it gets like
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late i'll have a phone call like where are you what time you're coming me too yes i live in my
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family too when i was younger i didn't like it at all but now that i'm 25 i appreciate it so much
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because i've avoided so much i've avoided so much it's amazing yeah so thank you my brother thank you
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mom thank you everyone honestly okay do you have anything else you want to add to it so you live at
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home you know you've seen a successful relationship uh what else um you know to cook
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i i i've i've got forced to learn how to cook i got forced to learn how to kind of hated it but now
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i'm so thankful thankful honestly what types of food do you like to cook so i love arab food so
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for me it's all about the rice and the chicken and the sauce