In this episode, we talk about what we all bring to the table when it comes to a relationship and what we should be asking for from a partner. We also discuss the importance of being a good parent and how to be a good mother to your children.
00:00:00.000gone high so the same question though like what would you say you bring outside of looks
00:00:06.800outside of looks okay obviously like personality and just morals as well and like ambition worth
00:00:18.040ethic I feel like I'm not really the type to just kind of sit down and just be bummy like I'm always
00:00:23.060trying to like better myself and work harder and stuff like that which I personally feel like is a
00:00:28.100good thing because I want that in a guy too I feel like that's a very attractive thing to like be
00:00:31.860ambitious and then other than that um I can keep I can cook a few bits and bobs nothing too crazy
00:00:38.040um like I said like I can actually drive so I'm not gonna be like oh my guy needs to have a car and I
00:00:43.900can't drive like I actually can't actually have a car um and then I'm very like family oriented I
00:00:48.980have good morals like like I said I feel like personality no I feel like looks as it can only
00:00:53.960get you so far I feel like like your soul like internally you have like you have to check those
00:00:58.820boxes too so I feel like I check those boxes as well okay uh what about you um do you think you're
00:01:04.680above average and what do you bring to an above average man yes I do think I'm above average uh what
00:01:13.280do I bring to the table um I just feel like yeah looks is like one thing it's the surface right
00:01:20.860but I take pride in my appearance so it's not just like makeup and all of like oh getting Botox or
00:01:26.600lip fillers and stuff it's not that I'm talking about facials manicures pedicures like health and
00:01:32.400well-being going to the gym like going to the doctors like these type of things like beyond the
00:01:37.680surface like I actually really take care of myself like moisturizing like I know it sounds like oh I
00:01:43.580just cream my skin but like I take really good pride in that like my skin is really soft so I'm happy
00:01:48.360about that um that's just on the surface but then like in terms of other things like as a woman I
00:01:53.100just feel like I'm very nurturing maybe it's my stuff to do my style sign if you guys believe in
00:01:57.940that stuff or it's just me my just biological makeup but I'm very nurturing um in terms of like my duties
00:02:03.800in the household like cleaning and cooking I will always do for for whatever man that I'm with because
00:02:09.780it just comes naturally to me um in terms of like you do like a hundred percent of the household
00:02:15.080chores yeah yeah yeah yeah well as in usually like well the person with now he does parts as well
00:02:21.080because he likes to be clean as well so that's a good thing but I'm happy to do like 90 percent of
00:02:25.780it I've got this theory like I want tradition to play like 85 90 percent in the relationship but that
00:02:31.160that 15 10 percent is just modern day society we're not in the 1950s anymore things have changed so that
00:02:38.22015 10 means that the man can do the dishwasher sometimes or the woman can like go and work sometimes
00:02:43.540as well like it's okay but I feel like our roles should um overpower the other percentage if you
00:02:50.240get what I'm trying to say um but yeah like I I definitely feel like I bring a lot to the table
00:02:55.040not that my man or anyone I date should ask me what I bring to the table because I think he should just
00:03:00.060I don't like that question from a man but I know what yeah yeah you're a woman yeah of course I'm gonna
00:03:06.920tell you how but like as a man I wouldn't that would be a completely red flag if he's like demanding what
00:03:11.860seeking really yeah like because I just don't yeah no I think men should ask women what they bring I think my
00:03:18.560women should ask men too you might want to not a phrase that you might not phrase it like that I've never
00:03:22.960asked a man what you bring to the what he brings to the table you might not phrase it like that but you
00:03:26.360want to know what his job is you want to know what his relationship with his family like they ask it to you
00:03:30.560they just don't do it that directly typically like guys will ask you questions on dates to like figure out stuff about you but do you think that's
00:03:36.860you think that's because men we can ask men because what we're asking for is more to see like if they
00:03:41.500provide and stuff and that's more like factual like what I do for a job what I earn whereas a woman it's
00:03:45.980more you need to experience her to see if she you can't you can say I'm nurturing but you might not
00:03:51.360but you need to kind of be around her see how she is how see how she talks but yeah adding to like
00:03:55.960you could ask like uh when's the last time you like babysat or watch children like how often do you
00:04:01.680interact with kids that's the way you could tell mmm yeah is that a good indication yeah I think so
00:04:08.220if you want a mother like it would you don't think like doing the thing that you would have to do if
00:04:12.420you're a mom because nurturing goes beyond kids but yeah okay it's I'm just saying that's one way
00:04:17.340yeah yeah but there's like ways you can ask the question yeah yeah yeah fair enough that's fair
00:04:22.620that's fair but I think men should ask more questions to be honest because I think that like a lot of guys
00:04:29.760don't ask the right questions and they get bamboozled later I know but I like the level of
00:04:34.620like mystery that woman carries and I think that's her femininity like you shouldn't I don't think you
00:04:40.400should tell a man a lot especially well if he's your partner of course but when you're first dating
00:04:44.740him I don't think you should tell him a lot because you could tell him the facts of course but don't air
00:04:49.800out your dirty laundry and stuff because you're a woman you're feminine you that mystery that mystique
00:04:55.120is really important I think yeah but you don't okay there's a difference between airing it like
00:04:59.980talking about your ex-boyfriend and answering questions he asks you're like yeah as long as
00:05:04.620the question's appropriate no I think like when guys ask you questions and you don't answer it's
00:05:08.780like not feminine yeah because I think it's like disagree on the question I guess I think it's like
00:05:13.100disagreeable yeah if you're gonna okay let's let's say it like this if a guy said to me what's your
00:05:17.580body count I'm not gonna answer him because I just think that's inappropriate disrespectful
00:05:23.160you think it's disrespectful and actually I don't even want to talk to you anymore so I'm just gonna
00:05:26.860get up and leave you think it's disrespectful absolutely I think I think men should know that
00:05:32.420to be honest um I don't think I think it's disrespectful if it's someone like you don't
00:05:37.280know I mean not disrespect like it's it's private right but it's like if so if he wants to if he's
00:05:41.760taking you seriously and wants to marry you I think it's a valid question I just think it's only valid
00:05:46.020if you've been with someone that he is associated with like friends or family I feel like a guy
00:05:51.340that has no kind of connection to your guy I don't think it actually matters and furthermore you can
00:05:57.360ask the woman at comment however many times what her body count is first of all she's always gonna
00:06:01.720lie even if she doesn't lie how do you know she's telling the truth were you in her body for all the
00:06:06.060years she's been alive never tell on themselves like guys start to count like because you'll be like
00:06:10.820oh that's what guys tell me that the women will tell on themselves later yeah I think most guys like
00:06:15.300don't ask to be fair but I mean when you look at the numbers as a guy I don't know how you wouldn't
00:06:20.820care especially men have so much to lose in divorce um court today it's like if the girl's a virgin on
00:06:26.960her wedding wedding night she has an 80 chance of a happy marriage you know it drops down to if she
00:06:30.940slept with more than five people 20 so if you slept with more than five people your chance of a happy
00:06:36.460marriage in 10 years goes down to 20 and if you slept with more than 10 it's like you're you're probably
00:06:43.140going to be divorced like more likely than not within five years have they said what the reason
00:06:47.980is for that I mean I think it's good I think it's going against nature like throughout all of history
00:06:52.540like when have women been as promiscuous as they are today you don't undo biology just because we
00:06:56.900have birth control now so do you think that's down to because she's experienced so many partners that
00:07:01.840she then doesn't feel fulfilled or do you think it's down to the man finding out and not respecting her
00:07:06.680what do you think it's down to well it's the women leaving so it's not the men like women usually
00:07:10.060leave not men um so I think it's the psychology of choice if you have 10 meals in front of you
00:07:16.620and you pick one you're not as happy but if there's one in front of you you're happy you're just happy
00:07:20.140to be eaten you know what I mean and so I like I think girls start to compare so they'll say like
00:07:24.840the first guy he had this second yeah you're not no it's true no I agree with that I actually agree with
00:07:30.080that yeah and then I think like the the more you've been with it's like the odds are the guy you
00:07:35.000married isn't your favorite and so now you're getting married to your second choice is that good
00:07:39.480and I think we can all like think of a girl that maybe had an ex that she kept going back to or didn't
00:07:44.840get over maybe an ex that you that happened to you you know um I think that's common
00:07:49.480these women start running out of time so they run to their like second or third choice
00:07:53.520true that's what I think anyway you know there's no I hope that never happens to any of us but yeah
00:07:58.660no I mean I mean the data honestly shows that half of us aren't gonna have kids
00:08:02.28050% in here single and childless if you hit 30 and you're still single you're sure if you're if
00:08:08.520you hit 30 you're still single your chance of having a kid drops below 50% so you're actually
00:08:12.600more likely to not have a kid than have one is that just females yeah women I rebuke these stats
00:08:17.640and I um no no it's not like rebuking I think I think it's good for women to know