JustPearlyThings - April 11, 2023


Modern Woman SAYS I PREFER VIRGINS


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10 minutes

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200.06319

Word count

2,111

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

19

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18

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In this episode we discuss monogamy, sex and sexless relationships and why women should not expect monogamy from their partners. We also discuss the difference between a virgin and a virgins and how women should be taught how to have good sex.

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00:00:00.000 question do you think it's fair for women to expect monogamy from men if they gave their 0.99
00:00:04.660 best years to another man who me yeah like it i start andy you want to start he's he's a little
00:00:16.740 nervous no give your best to the one you got and if you can't give him your best and he's going
00:00:23.560 elsewhere then you can't blame him i'm sorry but like i said before no man no man no woman
00:00:29.980 should put up with bad sex and if a man is having bad sex it's the woman's fault it's the woman's 0.99
00:00:36.600 fault because if you get a man a male virgin and a woman he's gonna have bad sex anyway she's gonna 1.00
00:00:43.600 teach him rubbish just to keep him down there but if you get a man who's had lots of sex and a virgin 0.95
00:00:49.240 he's gonna teach everything he knows to make sure that she can perform properly so as far as i'm
00:00:54.260 concerned if you're with somebody and you're not getting good sex from them and i'm talking about 0.72
00:00:59.060 making love because we're in audiences making love making love that's the little christmas
00:01:02.300 birthdays whatever men just want to have sex if the sex ain't good get rid because i'm sorry but
00:01:07.400 there's too many men that they're not having sexless relationships and it's wrong all these feelings
00:01:12.220 about i want their personality i want this and that why doesn't that work the other way you said that the
00:01:16.920 man can teach the virgin woman how to have good sex but why can't the woman who's had a lot of sex 1.00
00:01:22.920 teach the virgin how to have good why is it not well i just i just think if women were lined up for
00:01:27.540 virgins then one out of three men wouldn't be virgins wait say again if women were lined up to 0.98
00:01:33.560 date virgins if that was true then one out of three men wouldn't be virgins
00:01:37.960 okay one out of three men under 30 haven't had sex in the past year or are virgins one out of
00:01:47.840 every three men so like if women wanted virgins they're there but how would you know i still 0.94
00:01:55.980 think and that falls into that confidence she was sorry say that she was talking about earlier with
00:02:01.060 a man approaching you nobody was talking earlier and you mentioned confidence that confidence comes
00:02:05.460 from experience with women over time so that same confident guy you want to approach you he's not
00:02:11.300 going to get that confidence unless he's had that previous experience including sexual
00:02:14.520 so you want this guy with this low body count that's not the same sort of guy confidence like
00:02:21.220 i don't think it's like just related to sex obviously yeah if you had you know multiple
00:02:26.280 women like you had a lot of experience you're probably going to be a tiny bit more confident 1.00
00:02:30.300 but i think like uh you know how do you act in bed is kind of even you know inside you or you have
00:02:36.760 it or not like it's not really about how many the men can bring it out of you a man can bring
00:02:43.680 it out of a woman but how often does a woman bring it out of a man is that because you're 1.00
00:02:47.240 speaking from a woman's perspective so you wouldn't know i'm a woman so i can only speak from
00:02:50.660 i hang around with men so i got male friends most i say 99 percent of my friend are male
00:02:56.460 they're not getting enough sex and they're not getting enough sex how they want it where they want 0.72
00:03:01.800 it whenever they want it and it's the women that are like holding this key to sex like that's why 1.00
00:03:09.040 i can speak from a woman because there's men out there you can as a woman that's had ex-partners
00:03:13.360 you can look at your partners and see where the women have done them wrong you can know because the 1.00
00:03:17.480 women aren't teaching them the women are so quick to open their legs but not their mouth to say 1.00
00:03:20.580 excuse me but mate but what you're doing down there that's wrong fix up or this is how you're
00:03:24.580 supposed to do it but there's too many men there's too many women out there now having bad sex 1.00
00:03:28.900 because an immense previous partner is not teaching him properly
00:03:32.280 interesting that's well i guess i guess as a girl but how do you know it's bad
00:03:37.720 you must have a lot to compare it
00:03:40.020 you know it's bad
00:03:40.720 you know if the man's not rocking and i'm not shivering then maybe she said about the earthquake
00:03:44.520 no i'm saying you have to have a lot to compare it to to know it's bad
00:03:47.160 no you can just know no you can just know how you feel because if you go and you relax yourself
00:03:52.680 and you free up and you trust the man that he knows what you're doing you're gonna have good sex all the time 0.63
00:03:56.820 um okay what you want to answer the question um i mean i personally so like this might sound
00:04:05.120 controversial but i feel it's unrealistic to believe a man should be with one woman 0.74
00:04:10.560 okay so i agree that you know they shouldn't expect it from a man but i feel like everything
00:04:17.740 comes down to control so as a man if you decide you're going to go into a relationship you have to
00:04:23.960 decide to control yourself and choose to be faithful
00:04:27.360 what if your woman's a freak what would that what would that do 1.00
00:04:32.740 she's up for anything with you sexually 0.96
00:04:34.360 that doesn't really
00:04:35.300 doesn't matter
00:04:36.360 you're still gonna go elsewhere
00:04:37.680 if you want to go elsewhere you're gonna go you can have the perfect woman in the world 0.97
00:04:41.360 if you want to cheat you will cheat
00:04:43.900 it doesn't matter there's i do not believe there is anything a woman can do to stop a man from cheating 1.00
00:04:49.860 if he wants to cheat
00:04:50.920 sorry do you agree that not all men cheat
00:04:58.220 hold it down bro do you agree that not all men cheat speak your truth
00:05:03.540 some men don't
00:05:06.260 no i'm saying not all men cheat
00:05:08.260 yeah no that's fine then
00:05:09.740 what one thing i can i add
00:05:12.400 go ahead yeah
00:05:12.860 so one thing i will say is i think men exercise their options
00:05:16.080 and so most men
00:05:18.160 women don't find them attractive and therefore they don't have options to exercise 1.00
00:05:24.300 and therefore they cannot cheat whereas the top percentile of men
00:05:28.420 have options to exercise therefore they can cheat
00:05:32.800 and if the woman that is with them feels a type of way wants to leave
00:05:38.520 he's like okay i'll just add a new girl to the rotation
00:05:42.040 and he's able to get a plethora of girls because he's got the option to exercise his will to cheat
00:05:49.860 yeah that's fine i just i just don't believe that all men cheat
00:05:53.540 there's a minority that don't
00:05:55.300 i agree i think i think you'd agree most do if they can
00:05:58.300 if they could but but most men can't
00:06:02.580 most men should
00:06:03.920 most men can't what most men in relationships can't she
00:06:08.260 um so what about you do you think it's fair that women expect monogamy if they gave their best years to another man
00:06:14.960 uh no um definitely not definitely not
00:06:19.020 and what would you define as a woman's best years go ahead 0.76
00:06:21.760 okay well i would put that into the same sort of especially with that particular male or man
00:06:26.740 usually her child's dad her first love is usually that type of person
00:06:31.540 you know he's usually he's usually got everything else out of her by the time you've come across her
00:06:37.020 whatever the scenario is you are getting the after bits there's going to be memories of him
00:06:41.560 be it in a relationship sexual whatever you know there's going to be especially if they've got a child
00:06:46.880 there's an imprint i've seen it loads of times you know people have broken up they've got with someone else
00:06:51.640 as soon as the kid dad come back in the picture gone they're either sleeping together or they're back
00:06:56.380 together so if a woman's had her best years with another male
00:07:00.000 to me she she's actually his to be perfectly honest and i found a lot of the time that
00:07:05.520 there's that one particular guy
00:07:07.500 is there a certain age that you would say
00:07:10.700 in and around 30 30 ish 30 mid 30s it depends what she's kind of done up to then okay um but
00:07:21.120 to be fair about sort of like the mid 30 ish then by that point it's like yeah
00:07:25.280 what do you think is it fair to expect monogamy if you've given your best years to another man
00:07:30.400 because because it's like if then if men value purity and youth and you don't have that to give
00:07:37.240 to him how can we expect like monogamy when they can't fulfill their mating strategy
00:07:41.180 is this are you speaking like from a new relationship where they've been together for
00:07:47.160 years and now he can cheat because she's given her best like so so what i'm saying is relationships
00:07:51.900 are an exchange and men and women want different things like we want resources um we want a guy
00:07:56.240 that's tall and that can protect us we want resources protection provisioning
00:07:59.980 guys want youth purity peace and so if they can't fulfill their mating strategy which is to get a 0.83
00:08:07.300 girl with low mileage that's young why would we expect them to give to forsake their mating strategy 1.00
00:08:13.840 which is to spread their seed but then so is that isn't that kind of an unfair deal for men
00:08:20.320 so then if if you then why would you stay with that person and cheat if if the person if the woman's 0.88
00:08:28.820 not giving you the youth and whatever whatever why keep her there and cheat on her when you can just
00:08:34.060 leave and be with the youth that you want that's my thing like i don't understand but i'm saying well
00:08:40.580 is it fair that women expect it over a certain age that's the question because you give your best years 1.00
00:08:46.320 to someone else
00:08:47.320 she's talking about going into a new relationship yeah i know but if you're going to a new relationship
00:08:54.560 and say this is the car and the car has been used for the last 15 years we don't have a spider date
00:08:58.980 honestly speaking like who said that we gave our best to someone else i don't even know my maximum or my best
00:09:05.240 probably i never done to to no one my best because i don't know i give honestly i loved someone before
00:09:11.260 i don't know if i get the maximum i can i don't know maybe i'm gonna find tomorrow a man i'm gonna give
00:09:17.000 actually the best of myself who said that i already gave to someone else it's about what they think is the best it's not about you
00:09:22.820 because you're not the one buying so the guy the guys think is the best men yes what they think is the best
00:09:27.720 men from the ages of 20 to 80 all think that girls are the most attractive around 22 to 24
00:09:33.540 okay but like this is a man that cannot stand on his own like honestly because if you honestly think
00:09:40.500 that uh he can't stand on his own yeah because like they actually mind about what other people think
00:09:46.120 because if you're telling me that after like you're shaming men for their standards that's shame
00:09:50.840 it's shame insult guilt need to be right no that's just my point of view i'm saying that i don't have an
00:09:54.660 inspired date that doesn't mean that after because i had six year uh relationship i gave my best to
00:10:01.700 someone no like if a man think this it means that he's not that confident to like get my best
00:10:09.620 because if you are a proper man you're gonna get my best but see that's shame if you're saying like
00:10:14.040 i'm not shaming i'll tell you why because you're saying if you're a real man if you're a proper man
00:10:19.860 then you would think like me but that that's shaming men for what they want it doesn't it doesn't have to
00:10:25.160 think like me i just don't want a man that think in this way just give me alone do you know what i mean
00:10:29.880 i want to amend that it comes with confidence say i'm gonna get the best