JustPearlyThings - Modern Woman Without a FATHER FIGURE

00:00:00.000 learned from the show yesterday I think it was that statistic I can't

00:00:05.640 remember which one it was now so so much use but definitely I think it was like

00:00:12.420 the oh the percentage of men that are over six foot tall is only 15% it kind

00:00:18.180 of be shocking it kind of makes sense though when you think about it like 0.96

00:00:21.760 because women are always saying like men are trash yeah and all that you know it's 1.00

00:00:24.780 like oh they always think they're dogs yeah we're the ones yeah it was also good 0.98

00:00:34.080 to hear other people's views like a few a few things did actually change my

00:00:38.160 perspective on things men are actually simple creatures I was saying this

00:00:42.840 earlier they don't need a lot what do you think of blessing when he like came in

00:00:46.980 and was like asking the questions what do you guys think no I think it was good to

00:00:51.000 have a men's perspective I actually do because we didn't have any of them

00:00:53.940 obviously there was no men on the panel and it's good to hear from the actual

00:00:58.560 male point of view I understood his perspective but I don't necessarily

00:01:02.640 fully agree with it what do you not agree with I don't agree with the fact

00:01:06.840 that if I have something to say I should be like just I get the submissive part but

00:01:11.840 I just don't think it's like right for me not to have a voice or not to have a

00:01:15.820 say yeah but it's understandable I understand but you know I do think though I

00:01:20.280 think the point he was trying to get across is yeah if you're with someone and

00:01:23.640 your mouth you guys have the same views you're not going to really disagree or

00:01:26.760 are you you should right there's not going to be much disagreement there

00:01:30.900 because if you disagree on everything or your question everything then you guys

00:01:33.300 aren't really compatible I was curious what was it like growing up in a multi 0.99

00:01:37.860 like were your parents religious or they weren't religious my mom was religious my

00:01:41.940 dad was kind of religious I mean he wasn't really yeah he was he was just

00:01:46.060 like open the Quran close it because just give them a background your your mom is

00:01:50.120 what and your dad is what so my mom's Nigerian and my dad is from Iran so he

00:01:54.600 grew up as a Muslim and a bit spiritual as well and my mom grew up as a Christian and

00:01:58.980 spiritual as well so they had like yeah both of those but my mom has always been

00:02:03.560 really open-minded to other religions so has my dad and that's why I feel like they

00:02:07.260 that was already yeah that was already I couldn't an open gate for them to mmm

00:02:13.140 get to know each other I moved around a lot countries wise so I was born in

00:02:18.900 Germany oh yeah but I also lived in Nigeria and that was a complete switch of

00:02:33.180 like scenario and environment and it was just you looked in Nigeria for eight

00:02:37.440 years wow so how old were you when you moved I'm I was eight years old and I

00:02:42.240 left when I was 14 do you think that was good for you as a kid no no very

00:02:48.640 traumatic yeah extremely just chaos but I don't blame anyone for that I feel like

00:02:55.540 I just need to learn and grow yeah I guess because you're moving around so

00:02:59.020 much you have to like leave all your friends and when you're younger you're

00:03:01.080 not you have to like readapt and like build new friends then you meet your

00:03:04.240 complete different country you kind of lose those connections exactly so it's like

00:03:08.320 starting fresh each time it's a lot when you're younger because you obviously

00:03:11.080 when your friends mean so much to me you know yeah when you're older you can kind of

00:03:13.600 pick up a name exactly 14 where'd you go from 14 here I'm here yeah wow she lived in three

00:03:20.500 wow that is so insane how many siblings did you have three sisters was it easier because you

00:03:27.340 have the sisters at least oh they made they made life so much easier okay keeping up with the

00:03:34.780 Kardashian was like a religious thing for us like every I think Saturday or Friday or whatever it

00:03:40.480 was we would like come together as a family and watch it together just for the sake of like having

00:03:44.740 that family time not even paying attention to what was watching just having that closeness was very

00:03:49.840 important so I can't imagine doing that as like an only child or like two kids like at least I came

00:03:56.560 from a big family I had nine siblings total so it's a lot of us but I'm like I can't imagine three

00:04:01.240 countries yeah no siblings yes that would be crazy it's a huge culture shock as well mm-hmm and I'm a

00:04:07.180 very big family person out of all of my sisters my mom I'm the biggest like I'm the most attached to

00:04:13.180 my family and so what country was your favorite to live in Germany cuz I don't remember yeah and I

00:04:22.780 still had my dad around there but as we moved to Nigeria things just got absolutely just horrible what your

00:04:30.280 dad wasn't around in Nigeria he he did come but he was like in and out of prison he was just like

00:04:35.440 affiliated with gang your dad yeah oh my god is he still right where's he now oh you don't know he

00:04:45.820 just vanished disappeared off the face of the air literally yeah crazy do you think that's affected

00:04:51.460 like your dating and relationships and your ability to like understand them it's affected

00:04:56.440 everything I know to be humane mm-hmm because I I I always try to put myself in people's position and

00:05:08.380 just like see things from people's point of view obviously with my mom I grew up very much with her

00:05:15.880 like from what I remember it was all my mom my mom was my dad my mom was my mom my mom was my grandpa my

00:05:20.860 grandma so she filled in that role but emotionally I don't think she was there a lot it was more like

00:05:26.680 work keep the kids safe work keep the kids safe because just listening to your stories I kind of

00:05:32.620 sense that maybe there wasn't a dad in the picture just like when you're describing your ex I'm like

00:05:37.660 I definitely think having a father figure that present has a huge impact on the type of men you

00:05:49.360 go for 100% especially when you see how your dad treats your mom yeah has a huge impact on how what

00:05:57.700 you accept in the dating because you're especially you you're naturally very feminine like because 1.00

00:06:04.720 some girls come on and they like act like dudes but you're not like that you act like pretty feminine 1.00

00:06:08.740 and that's because I've not had a voice for so long yeah I was I was so quiet I was anxious I was scared of

00:06:16.260 everything and anything because of how much trauma I had been through in my life so I felt like everywhere I

00:06:21.580 went was like a danger zone like I have to be on God come in thank you the screen recording isn't the

00:06:44.640 audio like the audio is picking us up but we can't do the screen yeah like when we play the video we can't

00:06:50.140 hear it in the headphones yeah they had a crazy life girl

00:07:07.100 I didn't have so long I couldn't end it

00:07:09.520 uh blessing I was going to be

00:07:13.840 wait let me hear it now oh I can hear it now what did I have to do

00:07:18.040 yeah it's still a thumbnail from yesterday could you make it something else

00:07:22.000 I told him I'm just running it up I didn't know what is happening because my dad didn't want to go

00:07:25.300 I'm sorry

00:07:25.960 yeah it's crazy it's live I don't know what you are

00:07:29.960 you could've taught me when I was coming in

00:07:31.360 you could've looked too

00:07:31.960 I knocked

00:07:32.960 really

00:07:33.960 you have been knocking

00:07:34.960 but you could've looked

00:07:35.960 I have to go back now I'm older

00:07:36.500 you could always look it's

00:07:37.960 yeah

00:07:38.460 it was the best trip ever

00:07:38.960 I laughed

00:07:39.460 could you while you're here could you switch the thumbnail

00:07:41.960 I'm just pulling it when you've been on

00:07:42.960 really can we

00:07:44.260 Yeah, it's still a thumbnail from yesterday.

00:07:46.260 Could you make it something else?

00:07:50.260 Fine, fine. I told Chris.

00:07:52.260 I told Chris.

00:07:54.260 He got kicked out of school that I knew because he chased the boy around school with a stick on fire.

00:07:58.260 Okay, that's fine.

00:08:00.260 And they were like, oh, this is a new holiday.

00:08:02.260 Just text me and I'll tell him to go.

00:08:04.260 Oh, yeah.

00:08:06.260 Are you going to take both of them?

00:08:08.260 Yeah, he got sent to Nigeria so he's been on holiday.

00:08:10.260 They left him now.

00:08:12.260 Yeah, of course.

00:08:14.260 I'll take one of you. Who wants to stay?

00:08:16.260 I don't mind. I mean, I'll go because you guys have had more of a conversation.

00:08:20.260 Okay, might as well finish it off.

00:08:22.260 Yeah, shall I be?

00:08:24.260 Bye, guys.

00:08:26.260 Bye.

00:08:28.260 I think I should put them back.

00:08:30.260 I have a question.

00:08:32.260 What's up?

00:08:34.260 Why do you make these so long?

00:08:36.260 Oh, well, because...

00:08:38.260 And what was it, the greens?

00:08:40.260 That's what I was thinking.

00:08:42.260 I was like, she actually is very pretty.

00:08:44.260 And actually, I was like, I think men would actually like her.

00:08:48.260 But I'm like, why do you market?

00:08:50.260 Like, this is like horror nails.

00:08:52.260 Like, why is this?

00:08:53.260 This is like bad advertising.

00:08:55.260 Well, I don't get my nails done very often.

00:08:57.260 And I was, I went to Germany recently to visit my sister.

00:09:00.260 And so I was like, you know what?

00:09:02.260 It's like, you can do it like here.

00:09:04.260 My answer is the exact same thing.

00:09:06.260 Not my real dad, but yeah.

00:09:08.260 And it's like the eye, the green.

00:09:10.260 You came in today, you looked like a different person.

00:09:12.260 I was like, what the?

00:09:14.260 Why did she do this? 1.00

00:09:16.260 I'm a comedian.

00:09:18.260 Actually, I love it.

00:09:19.260 I love it.

00:09:20.260 I love to just, I don't know.

00:09:22.260 Don't expect anything from me.

00:09:23.260 Don't expect it.

00:09:24.260 What do you mean?

00:09:25.260 I'll be spontaneous, like I'm very...

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JustPearlyThings - March 16, 2023

Modern Woman Without a FATHER FIGURE

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