Modern Woman Without a FATHER FIGURE
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Summary
In this episode, we are joined by one of our good friends, Kayode, as she talks about her life growing up in a multi-cultural family and how she dealt with the trauma of moving around the world as a child.
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learned from the show yesterday I think it was that statistic I can't
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remember which one it was now so so much use but definitely I think it was like
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the oh the percentage of men that are over six foot tall is only 15% it kind
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of be shocking it kind of makes sense though when you think about it like
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because women are always saying like men are trash yeah and all that you know it's
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like oh they always think they're dogs yeah we're the ones yeah it was also good
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to hear other people's views like a few a few things did actually change my
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perspective on things men are actually simple creatures I was saying this
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earlier they don't need a lot what do you think of blessing when he like came in
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and was like asking the questions what do you guys think no I think it was good to
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have a men's perspective I actually do because we didn't have any of them
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obviously there was no men on the panel and it's good to hear from the actual
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male point of view I understood his perspective but I don't necessarily
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fully agree with it what do you not agree with I don't agree with the fact
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that if I have something to say I should be like just I get the submissive part but
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I just don't think it's like right for me not to have a voice or not to have a
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say yeah but it's understandable I understand but you know I do think though I
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think the point he was trying to get across is yeah if you're with someone and
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your mouth you guys have the same views you're not going to really disagree or
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are you you should right there's not going to be much disagreement there
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because if you disagree on everything or your question everything then you guys
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aren't really compatible I was curious what was it like growing up in a multi
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like were your parents religious or they weren't religious my mom was religious my
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dad was kind of religious I mean he wasn't really yeah he was he was just
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like open the Quran close it because just give them a background your your mom is
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what and your dad is what so my mom's Nigerian and my dad is from Iran so he
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grew up as a Muslim and a bit spiritual as well and my mom grew up as a Christian and
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spiritual as well so they had like yeah both of those but my mom has always been
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really open-minded to other religions so has my dad and that's why I feel like they
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that was already yeah that was already I couldn't an open gate for them to mmm
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get to know each other I moved around a lot countries wise so I was born in
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Germany oh yeah but I also lived in Nigeria and that was a complete switch of
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like scenario and environment and it was just you looked in Nigeria for eight
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years wow so how old were you when you moved I'm I was eight years old and I
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left when I was 14 do you think that was good for you as a kid no no very
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traumatic yeah extremely just chaos but I don't blame anyone for that I feel like
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I just need to learn and grow yeah I guess because you're moving around so
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much you have to like leave all your friends and when you're younger you're
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not you have to like readapt and like build new friends then you meet your
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complete different country you kind of lose those connections exactly so it's like
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starting fresh each time it's a lot when you're younger because you obviously
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when your friends mean so much to me you know yeah when you're older you can kind of
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pick up a name exactly 14 where'd you go from 14 here I'm here yeah wow she lived in three
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wow that is so insane how many siblings did you have three sisters was it easier because you
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have the sisters at least oh they made they made life so much easier okay keeping up with the
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Kardashian was like a religious thing for us like every I think Saturday or Friday or whatever it
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was we would like come together as a family and watch it together just for the sake of like having
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that family time not even paying attention to what was watching just having that closeness was very
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important so I can't imagine doing that as like an only child or like two kids like at least I came
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from a big family I had nine siblings total so it's a lot of us but I'm like I can't imagine three
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countries yeah no siblings yes that would be crazy it's a huge culture shock as well mm-hmm and I'm a
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very big family person out of all of my sisters my mom I'm the biggest like I'm the most attached to
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my family and so what country was your favorite to live in Germany cuz I don't remember yeah and I
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still had my dad around there but as we moved to Nigeria things just got absolutely just horrible what your
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dad wasn't around in Nigeria he he did come but he was like in and out of prison he was just like
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affiliated with gang your dad yeah oh my god is he still right where's he now oh you don't know he
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just vanished disappeared off the face of the air literally yeah crazy do you think that's affected
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like your dating and relationships and your ability to like understand them it's affected
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everything I know to be humane mm-hmm because I I I always try to put myself in people's position and
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just like see things from people's point of view obviously with my mom I grew up very much with her
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like from what I remember it was all my mom my mom was my dad my mom was my mom my mom was my grandpa my
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grandma so she filled in that role but emotionally I don't think she was there a lot it was more like
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work keep the kids safe work keep the kids safe because just listening to your stories I kind of
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sense that maybe there wasn't a dad in the picture just like when you're describing your ex I'm like
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I definitely think having a father figure that present has a huge impact on the type of men you
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go for 100% especially when you see how your dad treats your mom yeah has a huge impact on how what
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you accept in the dating because you're especially you you're naturally very feminine like because
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some girls come on and they like act like dudes but you're not like that you act like pretty feminine
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and that's because I've not had a voice for so long yeah I was I was so quiet I was anxious I was scared of
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everything and anything because of how much trauma I had been through in my life so I felt like everywhere I
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went was like a danger zone like I have to be on God come in thank you the screen recording isn't the
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audio like the audio is picking us up but we can't do the screen yeah like when we play the video we can't
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hear it in the headphones yeah they had a crazy life girl
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wait let me hear it now oh I can hear it now what did I have to do
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yeah it's still a thumbnail from yesterday could you make it something else
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I told him I'm just running it up I didn't know what is happening because my dad didn't want to go
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yeah it's crazy it's live I don't know what you are
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could you while you're here could you switch the thumbnail
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He got kicked out of school that I knew because he chased the boy around school with a stick on fire.
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Yeah, he got sent to Nigeria so he's been on holiday.
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I don't mind. I mean, I'll go because you guys have had more of a conversation.
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And actually, I was like, I think men would actually like her.
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And I was, I went to Germany recently to visit my sister.
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You came in today, you looked like a different person.
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