JustPearlyThings - October 13, 2023


Modern Women ALWAYS Have Backup Men For Relationships


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11 minutes

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205.9634

Word count

2,367

Sentence count

250

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Misogyny

36

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Toxicity

33

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Hate speech

17

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Have you ever had a backup plan in a relationship? Do you have a guy friend? Have you ever been in a situation where you didn't know what to do with a guy you were interested in but didn't have the balls to go out with someone new? Are you looking for a new guy to take care of you while you figure out who you really want to be with?

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00:00:00.000 I feel like social media has a lot to do with that, too, because there's always, like, somebody on the back burner or someone we've been eyeing or somebody else who we know we could get somebody together.
00:00:07.680 Some of us have been liking your pictures for the last two years and just waiting for their chance.
00:00:11.580 Yeah, it's so easy to just get on a dating app and find a replacement.
00:00:14.360 That's the outlier. That's the guy friend that none of you want to be with, but he's a nice guy, and he's the guy waiting on the outside, the guy that's liking all your pictures.
00:00:22.820 Hey, oh, but he's my guy friend.
00:00:23.880 That's a nice guy.
00:00:24.460 Oh, that's not my guy friend.
00:00:25.680 I don't even follow him.
00:00:26.720 I don't think he's a nice guy.
00:00:28.640 Guys, guys, guys, guys, ever question, ever question.
00:00:32.380 Raise of hands.
00:00:33.260 Who here has been in a relationship and had a backup plan?
00:00:37.340 Raise your hand.
00:00:38.600 Just ever in general?
00:00:39.700 Ever, ever.
00:00:40.980 My relationships last, like, three months, though.
00:00:43.420 I've never gotten into a relationship thinking that it was going to end.
00:00:48.980 So I've never had a backup plan, but when I found out that they did something, I could have either chose to leave it or chose to get back,
00:00:56.280 and that's the only kind of backup plan that I've had, and never initially, because I don't do that.
00:01:00.460 Have you ever dated a guy friend?
00:01:02.780 No.
00:01:03.000 Yeah, I have.
00:01:03.700 Yeah?
00:01:04.160 Yeah?
00:01:04.780 I've never dated a guy friend.
00:01:05.840 If you're a friend in my eyes.
00:01:07.480 I did, yeah.
00:01:07.780 If you're a friend for life.
00:01:08.920 And I didn't want to.
00:01:10.180 It was a shock.
00:01:10.340 It got snuck into me because my best friend had just committed suicide.
00:01:14.380 Yeah, it's all right.
00:01:15.380 Yeah.
00:01:15.920 My best friend had just committed suicide, so I felt, like, very, like, vulnerable, and that's how my best guy friend got to sneak in there.
00:01:22.840 Okay.
00:01:23.280 Well, that's not, that's not, that's not a guy friend, though.
00:01:25.760 My guy friend?
00:01:26.320 Hold on.
00:01:27.340 Wait, wait, wait.
00:01:28.220 Hold on.
00:01:28.800 Let me tell you.
00:01:29.480 We'll talk about a guy friend.
00:01:30.260 Hold on.
00:01:30.740 That's not a guy friend.
00:01:31.100 Well, if I knew him four years and we didn't do anything, and then, like, when my friend passed away and he was being there for me, then he kind of...
00:01:37.440 But when that guy...
00:01:39.060 You know what?
00:01:39.440 He was always thinking about that in the back of his mind, though.
00:01:40.660 Wait, wait, you...
00:01:41.600 But he was my friend for four years.
00:01:43.240 He doesn't discredit the friendship.
00:01:44.680 He never got to touch me.
00:01:44.840 Do you know why, do you know why they're guy friends?
00:01:46.940 I think that if you're going to be a guy friend, you put them on.
00:01:49.180 Hey, no, no.
00:01:50.020 Do you know why they're guy friends?
00:01:51.100 We never went on a...
00:01:51.900 Yeah, they were waiting for the chance.
00:01:52.900 Okay, they're probably waiting for the chance, but we never went on a date.
00:01:55.540 They never touched me.
00:01:56.420 I have a story.
00:01:56.740 I never slept with them.
00:01:57.540 Because you told them they're their guy friends.
00:01:59.640 I did.
00:02:00.240 Yeah.
00:02:00.960 That's the only reason.
00:02:02.000 She gets it.
00:02:02.620 I see the nod.
00:02:03.780 They're always waiting.
00:02:04.560 And so as a guy, if I'm dating a gal, I got five guy friends, I'm like, I put the brakes
00:02:10.000 on.
00:02:10.520 I'm like, wait a minute.
00:02:11.600 You got a bunch of guys on set.
00:02:12.960 So women, pretty women always have a backup plan. 1.00
00:02:15.880 Pretty women are never single. 1.00
00:02:17.820 Women nowadays, it used to be. 1.00
00:02:19.480 Nowadays, women always... 1.00
00:02:21.080 If I looked at your IGs and your inbox, your DMs, you got backup plans.
00:02:26.400 You just don't know it.
00:02:27.260 But you know you have backup plans.
00:02:29.180 You know what I'm saying?
00:02:30.460 They just don't know.
00:02:31.480 Tell this out.
00:02:32.180 Most men, they don't get DMs from chicks.
00:02:35.080 Right.
00:02:36.140 Hold on.
00:02:36.800 What? 0.99
00:02:37.160 Because I've been checking my ex-boyfriend's fucking phone, and it'd be all kind of DMs. 0.99
00:02:41.480 That's because some of my friends is in their DMs, too. 0.99
00:02:44.360 But you hear what I'm saying?
00:02:45.540 You hear what I'm saying?
00:02:46.360 Like, you guys get body part pics.
00:02:49.900 You know what I get?
00:02:50.580 It's a joke.
00:02:51.180 It's a joke. 0.99
00:02:52.080 I make fun of cats, so I get pussy pics all the time. 0.99
00:02:54.940 I get cats, but it's cats. 0.86
00:02:57.620 So I get people sending me cat jokes because I made a joke about single women.
00:03:01.920 Angel numbers, horoscopes, and cats in box wine. 1.00
00:03:04.940 I think they're so unattractive when men send dick pics. 1.00
00:03:08.040 Yeah. 1.00
00:03:08.380 We don't like this.
00:03:09.220 Oh, my gosh.
00:03:09.820 We hate it.
00:03:10.680 But that's your backup plan.
00:03:11.880 I don't even like when they send me a shirtless pic.
00:03:12.680 Can I just say this for anybody who's listening? 1.00
00:03:15.420 Like, girls only like dick pics when we ask for that dick. 1.00
00:03:18.800 If you ever send an unsolicited dick, there's no woman. 1.00
00:03:22.620 Like, I don't want to say no woman ever. 0.99
00:03:24.420 I'm going to say 10% because I'm 10% of weirdos.
00:03:27.400 They're like, oh, my God. 1.00
00:03:28.740 Thank you for that dick pic. 1.00
00:03:30.380 Yay! 1.00
00:03:30.780 Well, yeah, the thing about it, if you send a random dick pic to us, it's very perverted. 0.99
00:03:35.980 It doesn't seem attractive. 0.99
00:03:37.340 Okay, now you know how men think. 1.00
00:03:39.520 Men are fun football, food, and fucking. 1.00
00:03:43.240 We're simple. 1.00
00:03:44.180 Yeah.
00:03:44.440 We're simple creatures of habit, right?
00:03:46.040 Men are always looking at women as a sexual object. 0.94
00:03:49.380 That's why she said the perfect body. 0.98
00:03:50.820 Right?
00:03:51.200 That's why she said that.
00:03:52.320 Guys don't care about your degree.
00:03:54.200 Right.
00:03:54.360 Guys don't care about your money.
00:03:55.320 Now, if they're simping and they're like, ooh, she's going to be my sugar mama. 0.94
00:03:59.320 But guys, first look at the woman. 1.00
00:04:01.460 She's hot. 1.00
00:04:01.900 Whatever's in the desire of the guy, sexually what he likes, and he's going to look at her.
00:04:07.020 Now, looks is also objective.
00:04:09.000 There's objective truth to that, what beauty is, but not subjective, but objective.
00:04:13.100 So guys are like, okay, we think with our testosterone, we were put here to breed, procreate.
00:04:19.680 Women look at a guy and they go for the resources, not money. 1.00
00:04:22.880 When I say resources, you're going to have children.
00:04:24.740 You want the best outcome and probability for your family to have longevity.
00:04:29.320 So you're not going to date no scrub, scrub, right?
00:04:33.540 That's not your deal.
00:04:34.060 Or you're not going to have a relationship with someone or continue a relationship, especially
00:04:38.060 when you're looking to have those things with a person.
00:04:39.900 Right.
00:04:39.920 And you date at your level and above.
00:04:42.380 You always date at your level and above, right?
00:04:44.460 No.
00:04:44.880 No.
00:04:45.440 So Sione can get at your level above.
00:04:47.280 No, not with her.
00:04:48.700 So here's the challenge.
00:04:50.520 Here's the challenge.
00:04:51.500 Inherently.
00:04:52.900 Inherently.
00:04:53.520 Okay.
00:04:53.820 And again, I'm going to go back to my data.
00:04:56.100 Okay.
00:04:56.600 Dr. David Buss has a book called The Evolution of Desire.
00:04:59.820 Five years of interviewing 10,000 people all over the world, different religions, ethnic
00:05:04.440 backgrounds, whatever.
00:05:05.700 And the number one response that women look for in a man was resources. 1.00
00:05:10.980 So that's their level and above, right?
00:05:13.600 Because what happens biologically, you're looking for somebody better than you want a man that's 0.99
00:05:18.260 a hero, right?
00:05:18.820 You want a guy that's successful doing what he's doing.
00:05:20.980 When you date down, what happens?
00:05:22.560 You lose respect for that individual.
00:05:24.340 You're going 50-50.
00:05:25.160 I totally agree.
00:05:26.300 Okay.
00:05:26.860 Look at J-Lo.
00:05:27.940 Remember when she dated her...
00:05:28.980 Well, J-Lo's got a bad record as it is.
00:05:30.720 Right.
00:05:30.940 But she dated her dancer. 1.00
00:05:32.060 I'm like, that ain't going to work.
00:05:33.480 He's...
00:05:33.840 She's paying for everything. 0.95
00:05:34.820 Yes.
00:05:35.140 Yeah.
00:05:35.840 Right?
00:05:36.440 And if I dated...
00:05:37.280 If I worked...
00:05:38.520 No pun intended, because I can't say UPS.
00:05:40.820 Those guys make $170 now.
00:05:42.060 Right.
00:05:42.220 We're like, we're like, we're going to be...
00:05:44.820 UPS, daddy! 1.00
00:05:45.560 If all the women are going to be like outside with a tray of cookies, like, when UPS comes... 1.00
00:05:51.220 Hey! 0.99
00:05:53.000 When you drive...
00:05:54.320 This is guys.
00:05:55.400 This is guys' mentality to a point.
00:05:57.280 When I was young, you're driving up to the...
00:05:59.100 In Seattle, the latte stands.
00:06:00.860 We call them bikini baristas. 1.00
00:06:02.540 And all the stands in Seattle have the girls with the bikinis on, the lingerie. 1.00
00:06:06.960 Yeah.
00:06:07.200 I would drive up, and I'd see a dude, and I would just keep going.
00:06:11.300 Why?
00:06:11.760 I didn't go there for the coffee.
00:06:13.640 Right. 0.99
00:06:14.040 I went there for the boobs. 1.00
00:06:15.460 Right. 0.97
00:06:15.880 The coconuts.
00:06:16.900 The coconuts with the pasties.
00:06:18.560 So, you know, and I...
00:06:19.740 Oh, I want to go to Dutch Brothers and have a swirl latte, double frappuccino latte with
00:06:25.560 a twist, pumpkin spice.
00:06:27.180 I'm like, okay.
00:06:28.540 Is she hot? 1.00
00:06:30.480 Starbucks girls aren't hot. 1.00
00:06:32.040 They're wokies, right? 1.00
00:06:33.440 First of all, I've been there for a wokeness for seven years.
00:06:35.880 A wokeness.
00:06:36.600 We're not giving the wokeness. 1.00
00:06:37.740 You are the exception not to rule.
00:06:40.100 I know, I know.
00:06:40.720 You're not playing with us.
00:06:41.560 I didn't have to say it.
00:06:42.520 They're wokeness. 0.96
00:06:43.380 They're socialists.
00:06:44.300 You know what's crazy?
00:06:45.280 I was thinking about this. 1.00
00:06:46.500 As women, we don't realize, as a group, how much we suck. 1.00
00:06:50.260 I think that women suck as a group nowadays, compared from a historical point of view. 1.00
00:06:56.620 Because nowadays, a hundred years ago, a guy would have got a virgin. 1.00
00:07:00.660 She would have been in shape.
00:07:02.880 She would have had the mentality of, she has to serve him. 0.71
00:07:07.020 So she was helping on the farm.
00:07:09.340 She had five plus children.
00:07:12.200 Nowadays, it's like 90% of us are on birth control.
00:07:15.100 70% of us are overweight.
00:07:16.520 We don't get married until we're like 31.
00:07:20.880 So as a group, unfortunately, we're just not doing that well.
00:07:25.420 From a historical point of view, we all would have been thrown out a hundred years ago.
00:07:28.680 We even had to learn instruments to play for when our husbands, like friends, came over.
00:07:33.900 We had these cookbooks from scratch.
00:07:36.380 And your husband could actually take you to jail for nagging.
00:07:40.200 If you were nagging too much, you could be prosecuted.
00:07:44.280 That's somebody in Dubai?
00:07:46.260 But on the other hand, you could prosecute your husband for not paying bills.
00:07:52.460 That really happened.
00:07:53.000 Yeah, so back then, you would have been like 21.
00:07:58.960 You would have been a virgin.
00:07:59.980 You would have gotten married.
00:08:01.000 You would have been raised to be a wife. 0.63
00:08:02.620 But nowadays, we have all this, like, programming that basically tells us to do it on your own.
00:08:08.380 And it produces bad wives. 1.00
00:08:09.900 Go ahead.
00:08:10.280 I was going to ask you.
00:08:11.220 So you know how much has changed for as far as what women used to offer men as a wife?
00:08:15.960 But it's changed the same way for us as far as what men have to offer as a husband.
00:08:20.780 So I disagree.
00:08:22.820 You don't have a bunch of high values.
00:08:23.920 I disagree.
00:08:24.860 You do.
00:08:25.500 I disagree.
00:08:26.200 You do.
00:08:26.800 I disagree.
00:08:27.520 You know why you don't see them?
00:08:28.680 Because you don't know what they're looking for.
00:08:29.840 So the issue. 0.99
00:08:30.640 You don't know what fucking. 0.99
00:08:31.960 Okay, so I'll tell you, I'll tell you, I'll tell you why I disagree. 1.00
00:08:36.980 Okay, shh.
00:08:37.820 I'll tell you why I disagree.
00:08:39.700 Because typically, like, what do women typically bring to the table? 1.00
00:08:43.560 Like, like, from a marriage contract.
00:08:45.500 You're usually, you're supposed to traditionally be a virgin.
00:08:47.780 You're supposed to traditionally be able to cook, clean.
00:08:50.580 You're supposed to traditionally have a lot of children, right?
00:08:53.740 I can do that.
00:08:54.340 How old are you?
00:08:56.320 I'm 28.
00:08:57.040 Not really.
00:08:58.120 But I can.
00:08:58.640 I can.
00:08:59.180 I mean, I have my career.
00:09:00.600 My sister does that. 1.00
00:09:01.580 We got twins here yesterday.
00:09:02.680 She's 39.
00:09:04.240 My grandma had 13 children.
00:09:06.680 You can't have 13 kids.
00:09:08.060 Why do you have 13 kids?
00:09:09.000 My grandma has 17.
00:09:09.300 Who wants that? 1.00
00:09:09.960 I don't want that.
00:09:11.840 Okay.
00:09:12.380 Not this is not.
00:09:13.020 Three for now.
00:09:13.780 Oh, my God.
00:09:15.220 For you, right?
00:09:16.260 But I'm saying from a historical point of view, if a guy wanted to get 10 kids from a chick,
00:09:20.160 it wouldn't be that hard to do it that's damn near impossible unless he has multiple baby
00:09:25.120 mamas today do you do okay just question do any of you want to have 10 kids hell no but okay okay 1.00
00:09:29.900 thank you thank you okay wait wait wait now from the men's point of view from the men's point of
00:09:36.040 view they still offer like they still offer protection and provisioning because we live
00:09:43.000 in a society where men will protect us you can walk alone at night in a major city and men you're
00:09:49.880 not even married and men will still protect you you can call the police you can we have the military
00:09:55.840 protecting us so they're still protecting us they can buy a gun and protect you provisioning you know
00:10:02.140 women are a net tax loss meaning we spend more than we make that's so yeah so so we already get we even 1.00
00:10:08.980 get provisioning just from men as a whole from the society we have all these jobs we're either
00:10:13.140 monetizing beauty or we're working for a man that employs us so we're getting protection and
00:10:18.360 provisioning even without a husband but if you go to a husband men still make more they spend less
00:10:24.620 they're better with money so you still get provisioning and protection they're still
00:10:29.020 stronger than us and if they're if they're not you know super strong they can go buy a gun i think in
00:10:33.680 vegas right they can't hear him so so i think so wait from the exchange point of view okay we're not
00:10:41.340 bringing purity we're not bringing youth and we're not even in shape where the men are still giving a
00:10:47.760 bare minimum protection and provisioning your argument is so flawed because back in the day
00:10:52.840 100 years ago people were farming they needed to have kids to put them to work and most of them some
00:10:57.060 of them didn't even survive so they needed to have 10 just to hope five of them were gonna live
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