Modern Women Are Not Teachable
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about the importance of education and why it's not just for the elite, but also for the average college student. We discuss the benefits of a good education, how to become a better teacher, and how to be more coachable and manageable.
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in my family now i don't know this is just i would just say where i'm from
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they won't date like the women can't be dumb of course so and a lot of times like my brother
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wouldn't date girls because they were education majors and he felt like a lot of the education
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majors were dumb because it's an easy one yeah and and there's certain like majors that even from
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the women are a bit looked down upon and it's not to say there aren't smart teachers but there's
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actually a study and you know um teachers have a standard deviation lower iq than the rest of the
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population actually yeah this is thomas sowell's book the decline in dogma of american education
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if anyone's wondering where to find that stat it's somewhere in the book um i can't tell the page
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yeah so um okay so much for the substitute teacher i know it's fine it's fine but um so like my there
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would just be certain things my brothers like would not date yeah and it's like if you're gonna do if
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you're gonna have no education or career it's not a bad thing but you have to have like skills to back
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it up and it's very important to the men like they don't want a dumb woman raising their kids no absolutely
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not i mean i agree you need to be informed you don't have to know everything about everything
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but i think one thing that would serve like if you are um a little bit underperforming academically
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and we know men don't care about our degrees and all that but if you do need to pick an area of study
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study what he does be able to communicate in his language let's say i'm with somebody who's into real
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estate i know nothing about real estate i have a chemistry degree i'm like a you know tech and and
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um stem person but i try to at least understand you know buying a property and hiring a team and doing
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that kind of work that's not my natural area but it shows um a dedication to kind of get on his program
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and at least be useful to him because that's the language that he speaks and that's the world where
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he lives and breathes um do not be a beautiful majestic creature whale tendencies yeah um they
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want to go with a fitness routine because they also look at like your eating habits yeah so a guy might
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see that you're thin when you're young but if you're eating all this stuff they kind of think this might
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not be this much longer so guys look at like your fitness routine yeah um good with kids of course
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um knows how to cook having your own recipes as a bonus i forgot to put on here ability to learn
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i actually think that or not ability to follow like coachable coachable and manageable is huge because
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like guys will overlook a lot if they feel like they can train you and that you're willing to be
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trained so maybe you can't cook but you're willing to learn it's like a medal i had my brother say like
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it was absolutely horrible the meal she cooked but i was just it was so i was so like it was so sweet of
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her to like learn this recipe or whatever absolutely and that one ties back to what you had about not being
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a majestic creature because i don't want to blow past that because i struggle with you know um making
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healthy choices all the time i know a big part of it was the stress from you know working the way that
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i was working but i take full responsibility for what i put in my mouth but to your point
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men really love when you try even if you're not there yet you know we talked in the beginning about
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i've lost a lot of weight but i have a ways to go and i get so much credit for basically doing what
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i say i'm going to do and every day making incremental progress um so yeah that goes along
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with that fitness routine and um you know being coachable and teachable you may not get it right
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but if you're making a good faith effort that goes a long way with men i'll tell you my brother's engaged
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and the girl he's engaged too she's an engineer so she's smart she makes a lot of money doing that
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um and she went to culinary school for fun that's a dream of mine she's like there's nothing i mean
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she's talked to maybe i'll open a restaurant or something i don't know but i was like she literally
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just went to culinary school just to cook for him yeah i mean for me in the way that i was raised my mom
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is a retired hi mom home science teacher formerly home economics so we talked about this yesterday i just
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thought it was normal but it's okay if you didn't grow up cooking and doing laundry and cleaning
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the house you can learn it and it's one of those things like i never understood it but you eat every
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day so why wouldn't you cook every day but i know that's me but at least trying and making some
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shortcuts where you need to i think it goes a long way it's it's a way that we show love that's what we've
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done for hundreds of years thousands of years could you talk about okay because this confuses me okay
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oh my gosh this confuses me femininity because a lot of times when women use it it's so broad
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and there's never any real concrete like definition of it and that that i've seen and then i see all
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these femininity coaches that just say get in your feminine energy and i'm just thinking what the heck
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does that mean and i sort of understand what they're saying but a lot of times the way it translates to me
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just the way i think is a lot of them doing nothing and then saying they did something ooh so it's like
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a lot of women will like that coach femininity will be these masculine women that are clearly masculine
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like i can see it like i'm talking to you i'm talking it'll be like these girls will come on the show
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they don't cook they don't do any of the tradition but they're just in their feminine energy
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and they might say that they cook but you can just tell when a woman talks about cooking
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if she actually cooks because a girl that actually cooks will give you more detail
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and like a girl that doesn't will say like like very broad oh i cook this or maybe like some recipe
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she's seen her mom cook you can just tell so like what is femininity how do you improve it
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yeah what what actually is femininity and what are the like how specifically do you improve it you
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know this one it's interesting that you say that we actually talked about this on my last wives club
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episode that's the other channel that i have but femininity is one of those things where
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there is a dictionary definition and i looked it up but it's also one of those things it's a little bit
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elusive because it's hard to define but you know it when you see it right however there are a lot of
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buzzwords going on right now we have that soft life era but it's not something that you put on
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it's who you are especially when you're tested so you remember when we talked about like i know that
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i struggle sometimes with tough topics and so i have to remove myself get it together and come back
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because i don't want to have you know an emotional response those are the times when you have an
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opportunity to be you know masculine and you choose not to consistently so for me that's so good
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who you are when you're tested okay right so when the kids are hungry and they're pulling at your
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skirt and they're like mommy can we eat f them kids is probably not the most feminine response right so
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you know we can work on that but yes it's it's a buzzword that you know if people say but they don't do
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then they're not feminine because if you're truly feminine i don't have to tell you that i'm feminine you
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would pick up on that right so to me and the dictionary definition is something about having
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the qualities or the characteristics of a woman and when we had our last episode on the wives club i said
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you know for me i really have been intentional about studying men because i am a boy mom you grew up
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between brothers watching how they act and doing the opposite so if they come into a room and they're all
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loud i bring my volume down i slow down and i'm mindful of my gestures if they take up a lot of
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space if they're just like heavy you know stomping around then i'm like oh okay um and it is something
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that i had to learn and we talked about this a little bit yesterday with co-ed schools and just kind
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of like being around boys or any environment that you're in you're going to pick up on that whether it's
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the corporate or whether it's girlfriends that you know are a little bit messy or whatnot so to answer
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your question so that i clearly communicate you know being feminine is the opposite of a man and i
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know things have gotten blended but i also believe being feminine is being consistent and being feminine is
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um you know like i said when you're tested when it's difficult but you still maintain so how do you
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improve on that um you seek it out and you get coaching and you act on that coaching like i shared
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with you i learned that i used to have really masculine gestures i was a little bit all over the place so
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you'll see me kind of put my hands down and clasp them together because i'm being mindful of okay i want
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to be a little bit more um delicate and refined um i notice when i get loud i'll catch myself and i'll
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lower my volume these are just things that i've had to work on for other people and i'm not joking it
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could be swearing for you swearing wasn't an issue for me but being loud was um it could be uh being
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gracious and generous to people like i smile a lot and i'm pleasant it might be an area that someone else
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has to work on because they want to say you know what them kids or whatever so being mindful finding
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out the areas where you're lacking because there are different ways to be feminine um there are
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different types of it um these are all things that i've studied again for me it's an area that i could
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kind of nerd out in but i think what you said about taking one thing at a time just knowing it kevin
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always used to say self-awareness right not saying i'm a 10. i'm average i know that so i try to really
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overperform in other areas and so you know a little bit long-winded answer but i would just like to
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encourage anyone that you can definitely get better if it's something that's important to you and
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femininity is what men respond to because they don't want somebody that reminds them of themselves
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