JustPearlyThings - June 16, 2023


Modern Women Are Selfish Wives

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Adele Mary J. Blige Bill Gates Jeff Bezos
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Length

8 minutes

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224.21

Word count

1,917

Sentence count

206

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Misogyny

20

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Toxicity

14

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9

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In this episode, we talk about why men are afraid of divorce, why women are scared of it, and why men should be afraid of it too. We also talk about the benefits and disadvantages of being a single parent vs being a married parent.

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00:00:00.000 Like, you know, sorry, so let me get it this straight.
00:00:02.880 Basically, all men are now scared of marriage because you have to share half with a woman. 0.85
00:00:07.400 No, not share half.
00:00:08.580 It's when you divorce.
00:00:09.780 Give half.
00:00:10.720 The reason I'm going to start reluctant to get married today.
00:00:12.720 Yeah, but if you're so hopeful about the marriage, why do you think about divorce?
00:00:15.320 Because you have to be logical.
00:00:17.960 Because the women are. 1.00
00:00:19.580 Because women divorce 80% of the time. 1.00
00:00:22.720 One of the number one reasons is financial.
00:00:25.360 You know, and there's also great incentive for women to falsely accuse men of abuse in this country.
00:00:30.000 Because they offer them free lawyers.
00:00:31.380 And it's really common.
00:00:32.580 They also only get access to their kid maybe 20% of the time.
00:00:36.820 So I think what's more scary actually to men is not being able to see their children.
00:00:41.120 I think that is absolutely something they should be afraid of.
00:00:43.520 And economically speaking too, so divorce, when you are subsidizing divorce, right?
00:00:50.200 Anything the government subsidizes, it grows.
00:00:53.560 And that's why right now, in the UK, the United States, Australia, Canada, right?
00:01:00.860 Single mother households are growing.
00:01:03.340 Because there is a financial incentive. 1.00
00:01:06.280 If I could marry a good looking woman who is rich as fuck, and I could trick her in like three to five years and divorce her, 1.00
00:01:12.740 and take half of her millions, there would be guys out there that would do that. 1.00
00:01:17.080 It's happened.
00:01:17.420 It's just on the other side, the shoe's on the other foot in this situation.
00:01:20.940 There needs to be greater safeguards against that.
00:01:22.900 The other problem is, you're kind of, it's almost like going into a casino and betting on 50-50, isn't it?
00:01:27.500 Like, is this woman, and I guess you could say the other way for argument's sake, but as a guy's perspective,
00:01:33.560 is this woman going to, she's made this promise to me, we're going to be together and this is going to be it.
00:01:37.860 But how do I know that in 10, 15 years down the line, she's not going to be thinking,
00:01:41.760 well, actually, do you know what, I'm kind of not really feeling it anymore,
00:01:44.380 and my friends say I can do better, and I deserve to, you know, it's, you know, one life, I've only got one life. 0.99
00:01:49.820 Women get divorced over stupid reasons. 1.00
00:01:51.260 Yeah. 1.00
00:01:51.580 Over stupid reasons. 1.00
00:01:52.600 If you can dump somebody and get a fat payout, like, you know how much, you know how many guys would be so happy if they're... 1.00
00:02:00.780 We have a generation of just like selfish wives, because they think about their feelings before their kids. 1.00
00:02:05.580 It's not about you, it's about the children.
00:02:06.840 A word that gets banded around a lot is happiness in marriage.
00:02:11.900 And I say to people, why did you get married for happy, like, who said that marriage will bring happiness?
00:02:18.500 What's that got to do?
00:02:19.240 Endure.
00:02:19.800 So then, no, it's not one of the reasons why people stayed together for 20, 25 years for a lifetime.
00:02:25.600 Don't you say, I stayed with him because I was consistently happy?
00:02:28.960 You'd never hear that.
00:02:30.020 Well, that's the problem.
00:02:31.320 Life is ups and downs, isn't it?
00:02:32.760 It's a modern misconception.
00:02:34.800 Yeah, you're going to get good bits, you're going to get bad bits.
00:02:36.640 And the problem is that they want to be happy the whole time.
00:02:39.020 And to answer, like, why would guys be afraid of divorce?
00:02:42.460 Like, on top of that, so literally a girl can make one phone call and get a restraining order on a guy and kick him out of a house that he pays for. 0.95
00:02:49.840 And now he's paid.
00:02:50.460 So then he, this is, like, to the average guy, he's paying for a mortgage on a house that he's not even living in.
00:02:56.660 It takes him, like, six months to a year a lot of times to even get to go to court.
00:03:00.240 Yeah.
00:03:00.660 And so now he hasn't seen his kid as a year.
00:03:03.360 On top of that, during that time, she can also, with no evidence, put him on child support.
00:03:06.680 So now he's on child support.
00:03:08.500 And he can't, he's paying a mortgage on a house that wasn't his.
00:03:11.200 But you're talking about rotten apples.
00:03:13.420 No, no, no.
00:03:15.200 You're talking about rotten apples.
00:03:17.280 No, it's a lot more so.
00:03:18.680 I could see how on the outside looking and you might think that.
00:03:21.320 Because I'm, probably because I've never been married.
00:03:23.620 And you know you're kind of killing my dream.
00:03:26.900 Imagine, imagine, like, would you agree that, like, women can be spiteful? 1.00
00:03:31.360 Of course.
00:03:32.260 And, like, you are the worst version of yourself when you feel really wronged by a guy.
00:03:36.520 Right?
00:03:37.160 Every girl.
00:03:38.180 Like, if she feels really wronged by a guy, like, she does crazy things sometimes.
00:03:42.120 Women's going, didn't it? 1.00
00:03:42.860 Like, why do you hear girls say, oh, he made me crazy?
00:03:46.080 Right?
00:03:46.420 Well, I wouldn't say that.
00:03:47.580 I'm not talking about you, though.
00:03:48.840 I'm talking about women. 1.00
00:03:49.800 And so it's like, you're giving women a ton of power when they're the worst version of themselves. 0.99
00:03:56.820 And a lot of women, like, do it. 1.00
00:03:59.620 Yeah, like, think about this, too.
00:04:01.080 Like, let's say you're, let's say you and I are married, right?
00:04:04.220 And you really love me.
00:04:04.960 Oh, hello.
00:04:05.520 And then.
00:04:06.020 Wait a second.
00:04:06.600 Where's my ring?
00:04:08.340 Just bear with me on this one, okay?
00:04:10.100 This is the first marriage in life.
00:04:11.680 So let's just say you're married to a guy, right?
00:04:14.040 Yeah.
00:04:14.560 And then you catch him cheating.
00:04:17.960 And then he says, well, I'm cheating because of you.
00:04:20.820 And then he divorces you.
00:04:22.340 And then you've got to pay for his mortgage.
00:04:24.480 And you have to give him monthly alimony payments and child support payments while you're watching him with his new wife.
00:04:30.340 New girl side piece on Instagram.
00:04:32.560 Okay, is he carrying my child?
00:04:33.560 Just listen.
00:04:34.160 Because if he is, I'll pay for him.
00:04:35.860 Let me finish this.
00:04:37.460 Just calm down.
00:04:38.920 What I'm trying to say is, like, imagine, and then you have to watch on Instagram every day, him with the new girl.
00:04:43.860 And you know you're financing their trips to Italy and them having a good time, their relationship photos and all that.
00:04:50.560 Yeah.
00:04:50.800 Is that fair?
00:04:51.560 Yes.
00:04:51.900 But did he carry my child?
00:04:53.260 Did he carry it for nine months?
00:04:54.400 These women are so entitled, man. 0.98
00:04:55.760 So, no.
00:04:56.320 It's not about entitlement, guys.
00:04:58.040 It's not about entitlement.
00:04:59.260 I promise you.
00:05:00.340 Why should he have to look after your child?
00:05:01.980 What do you mean after your child?
00:05:03.300 It's your child as well.
00:05:04.480 If you've been there.
00:05:05.420 So, when you have your child, you look after him or her.
00:05:07.520 And when I look after him, I look after him or her.
00:05:09.140 Why should I have to pay for you to look after your own child? 1.00
00:05:11.160 You don't pay me when I have my child. 0.73
00:05:12.700 So, why should I have to pay you?
00:05:13.660 It's entitlement.
00:05:14.260 Are we in the same relationship or are we in different ones?
00:05:17.640 No, I'm saying when we split up.
00:05:19.400 This is not about when we're together.
00:05:20.600 This is not about when we're split up.
00:05:21.640 Ah, okay, okay.
00:05:22.200 He's talking about, say, if you split up, for example, and he's been caught cheating.
00:05:26.400 And then imagine now you're having to pay for your ex-partner.
00:05:30.020 You've split up.
00:05:30.920 Okay, okay, I get it now.
00:05:32.020 You're out of the house.
00:05:32.040 Now he's got his new side piece in the house.
00:05:33.780 You have to pay for this.
00:05:35.460 He's going to have to.
00:05:36.500 I've got two cases.
00:05:37.860 That's what I'm saying.
00:05:38.400 How many times have you dated a guy and then you were stalking him?
00:05:44.020 And then you saw the new girl he's with and you just made me so angry.
00:05:47.220 I don't stalk them.
00:05:47.980 Usually they stalk me.
00:05:52.200 Guys, I've got two case studies to basically explain why, to give an answer to this.
00:05:59.420 Mary J. Blige and Adele.
00:06:01.860 The reason I bring these two women up are these are two women who got divorced and took the 1.00
00:06:06.580 male's perspective of having to pay their partners half rather than men paying them.
00:06:11.120 What happened? 0.99
00:06:12.560 The entire internet called both those ex-husbands pussies, clout chases, money hungry. 0.99
00:06:19.860 They said they were only after Adele for her money. 1.00
00:06:21.840 Women do that all the time. 1.00
00:06:23.860 The most famous, the most richest woman in the world is only rich because she's divorced 1.00
00:06:28.200 Bill Gates.
00:06:29.680 Do you understand?
00:06:32.420 Jeff Bezos or was it $30 billion?
00:06:35.980 She doesn't even know how to write code. 1.00
00:06:38.920 You know what's crazy though?
00:06:40.100 I actually think it affects average guys.
00:06:42.320 I feel like billionaires, they always recover.
00:06:45.140 They're fine.
00:06:46.180 Yeah, they're okay.
00:06:47.000 No, but it's the average guy.
00:06:48.680 It burned me.
00:06:49.600 Even if it was a few million, I just don't like the thought of my ex living in a house
00:06:55.460 with a new man that I paid for.
00:06:57.840 Living in your house.
00:06:58.860 No, no, no.
00:06:59.460 My husband paid for the house and he's driving the car.
00:07:01.260 I paid for it.
00:07:01.860 Oh, I've heard that a few times.
00:07:03.540 I'm with you.
00:07:04.340 I think it like from the documentary I've been doing, it's like it seems to affect average
00:07:08.880 guys the most because it's always like they worked for 20 years.
00:07:12.000 They're not the type of guys that are going to be able to like build that up or like make
00:07:15.300 another million or whatever.
00:07:16.600 So it like it wrecks them.
00:07:17.800 A lot of guys commit suicide in the process.
00:07:19.680 It's really sad.
00:07:21.300 Yeah.
00:07:21.840 Yeah.
00:07:22.160 And I always find as well, like in relationships when they break up, like this is what I said
00:07:26.840 when I find women so entitled. 0.90
00:07:28.120 For example, I've got a friend now, a best friend.
00:07:29.820 He's going through, he's engaged, but he's going through a breakup.
00:07:33.280 And for some reason, unbeknownst to me, I don't know why he put his, missus, his name
00:07:37.060 on the house.
00:07:37.760 Now they're going for a breakup.
00:07:38.520 She never put nothing into the house.
00:07:39.720 And I know all her friends are like, you deserve off that house.
00:07:42.160 Because she's entitled to it. 1.00
00:07:42.900 Because like an idiot, you deserve off that house. 1.00
00:07:45.280 This, this, and this. 1.00
00:07:45.880 Bearing in mind, he's the best father ever.
00:07:47.680 He goes to work, gets up, he doesn't pay for everything.
00:07:49.820 She pays for nothing. 1.00
00:07:50.880 All she does is go out.
00:07:52.000 All of, now she's going to get half of that and she feels entitled to it.
00:07:54.440 And there's going to be nothing in society.
00:07:56.200 There's nothing wrong with it.
00:07:56.940 Oh, they spilt, she deserves off. 1.00
00:07:58.040 See me.
00:07:58.840 Even if I meet somebody and I've got nothing, I still don't believe she deserves half.
00:08:02.360 Even if we build it together.
00:08:03.320 Because it's my company that I've built.
00:08:05.360 I'd have made it with or without you.
00:08:06.800 For example, me boxing.
00:08:08.840 I'm going to box regardless of if I met you or not.
00:08:11.160 You definitely deserve something.
00:08:12.260 If we've built, come from nothing and I've built something with you, you definitely deserve
00:08:15.900 something 100%.
00:08:16.720 We don't deserve half because you wasn't with me taking punches in the gym.
00:08:19.280 Because you weren't with me shooting in the gym.
00:08:22.700 And on the flip side, if I was with a woman and she made way more millions and I was together
00:08:28.280 from nothing, she made millions.
00:08:29.260 I don't, that's not my money, that's your money.
00:08:31.380 I'm not, I would never, as a man I couldn't.