JustPearlyThings - April 15, 2023


Modern Women Deny their Men S3x


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10 minutes

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2,106

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156

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In this episode, we talk about the impact of sex on men's mental health. Is sex a need or a want? How does sex affect men and how does porn affect sex? Is porn a good or bad thing for men?

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00:00:00.000 Do you guys think that sex is a need that men can't live without?
00:00:05.140 Definitely.
00:00:05.800 I think men use to answer that.
00:00:07.080 I think men, yeah, the men use to answer that.
00:00:09.060 Sex is a need that men can't live without. 0.68
00:00:11.640 It depends on what you mean, though.
00:00:13.700 What's the time period?
00:00:14.720 I mean, men clearly live without sex and they're just living on corn. 0.98
00:00:19.580 What do you think would happen if there wasn't corn?
00:00:22.420 I think society would be very violent, wouldn't it?
00:00:26.260 I think if you get a lot of men, you say in the animal kingdom, isn't it?
00:00:29.720 It's the same sort of thing, isn't it?
00:00:30.840 You get one alpha male that's got all the females and the others are always fighting them for position, willing to fight to the death. 0.62
00:00:36.820 I think you'd get quite a violent society.
00:00:38.400 And that's one of the reasons why monogamy came about was to stop that. 0.81
00:00:41.920 Because if you have men that are not having sex and they're not getting that frustration, I guess, out, they're going to take it out in society.
00:00:47.420 I think if you took away corn away from men, I think men's mental health would suffer tremendously, probably more so than women. 0.96
00:00:53.740 So is corn a net positive or a net negative?
00:00:56.640 It depends on how you see it.
00:00:59.160 I think it can be a negative because it creates like a false, like a fantasy.
00:01:06.200 And so when, you know, you do go out with guys, they might be like, they might be more forward with sex or certain things because they've seen certain things.
00:01:16.200 They might have that expectation.
00:01:17.500 So I feel like sometimes it can be quite pressuring and it can, I think sometimes as well, that corn is sometimes like devaluing women.
00:01:30.680 I don't know.
00:01:31.280 Like it's kind of, it doesn't, it doesn't make sex feel special.
00:01:35.220 Yeah.
00:01:36.160 I don't think it makes it more, like you were saying earlier, like the intimacy just creates a fantasy.
00:01:40.600 See, sometimes I could see where corn is a net negative for guys in an individual level.
00:01:49.000 But I'm just going to play devil's advocate here.
00:01:52.800 I also think it's helped a lot of guys stay faithful in sexless marriages.
00:01:57.100 I was going to say that.
00:01:58.120 I was going to say that.
00:01:59.060 Yeah, 100%.
00:01:59.760 It's so true. 0.84
00:02:01.060 I think there's a place for it because imagine you're one of these guys and your wife has had a kid or two kids or whatever.
00:02:06.080 She's just dealing with life.
00:02:07.480 And I personally, I'm a believer in marriage.
00:02:09.340 I mean, we're getting married soon, right?
00:02:10.600 I believe in marriage, right?
00:02:12.180 I believe if that can keep you going through that period, it's better to engage in that than to actually cheat.
00:02:19.520 Cheat, yeah.
00:02:20.060 And you're going to risk a hell of a lot.
00:02:21.600 And I think corn from that point of view is good.
00:02:23.900 But I think too much of it, like anything, is the issue.
00:02:26.520 There's also an issue where guys don't want to go out and do anything because they're so addicted to corn.
00:02:30.060 Yeah, they're addicted to it.
00:02:31.320 It stops them being about their purpose.
00:02:33.440 They've got these unrealistic views of women. 1.00
00:02:35.460 And for some men, especially men that are more prone to that, it might make them even more violent because they go out and demand it of women.
00:02:42.920 And some men do it by force.
00:02:44.160 I mean, most sexual assault is men, are the perpetrators of it.
00:02:47.400 And I think how much is corn to blame for that?
00:02:50.220 And I think it's tapping into some ancient biological processes of men.
00:02:53.120 You think corn increases sexual assault?
00:02:54.740 I think it, I don't see why it would not because if men are frustrated at home and all they know is just being online, at some point you might want the real thing.
00:03:03.520 Really?
00:03:03.900 I would think it would do, I don't know, but I would think it would do the opposite because like it gives them a release instead of going out.
00:03:10.180 But you've seen some issues where men have actually assorted women where they've had this addiction and they want to play out in real life.
00:03:17.220 You see that often, you know, it's a fantasy and they want to play out in real life and they go by the point of...
00:03:22.180 I haven't seen one.
00:03:23.180 Was there something in the news or...
00:03:24.960 I've never seen that.
00:03:25.840 Wasn't that a policeman that actually got done for that, addicted to that?
00:03:28.760 The one that Sarah Edvard... 0.79
00:03:30.180 I also had that.
00:03:31.000 I think, yeah, he had a porn addiction, did he not?
00:03:34.240 The one that actually dragged the woman off the streets and clapped him.
00:03:37.440 I think he had an addiction with porn, if I'm not...
00:03:39.400 Porn, please, please.
00:03:41.340 Sorry, with porn because, you know, and it's natural, isn't it?
00:03:45.780 If that's all you know is the virtual version of something, at some point it's quite easy to spill over into wanting a real version of it.
00:03:51.820 Do you think it's the same thing with video games?
00:03:53.700 Like men that play video games are going to be more violent?
00:03:56.620 Because I'm pretty sure the evidence was the opposite with that.
00:03:58.760 I definitely don't play video games.
00:04:01.040 I agree with...
00:04:01.780 I think that is true as well because, for example, I don't know about...
00:04:06.540 Not really in the UK, but I heard about a lot of school shootings with, like, young people in America.
00:04:13.200 Like, it's always to do with guns and always to do with, yeah, like, those kind of, like, video games.
00:04:18.640 So I think that definitely has an impact as well.
00:04:21.180 But then that's, like, everything has an impact with social media and with technology
00:04:25.920 because even what we see online might change the way that we move or we look.
00:04:31.580 So everything does, I think.
00:04:33.540 But I think it's only going to amplify what's already there.
00:04:36.060 What's already there, yeah.
00:04:37.700 So if you're someone that's that way inclined, then, yeah, it might amplify.
00:04:40.120 But I think for most people, playing video games is a way to safely indulge in your fantasies.
00:04:45.000 In the same way, corn would be.
00:04:46.100 Yeah, exactly.
00:04:46.980 With corn, like, you know, like that statistic you cited, it's almost one in three guys.
00:04:51.020 So it's getting, like, really high.
00:04:52.080 And I think it's, like, still upward trending, right?
00:04:54.420 So who knows where that's going to end.
00:04:56.040 But when a guy can just, you know, again, safely, like, go watch corn and deal with that desire
00:05:01.460 and not have to put himself out there and not get his ego bruised or not face, you know,
00:05:05.200 potential legal consequences or anything like that.
00:05:07.420 Plus, most guys have no idea what to do anyways, right?
00:05:10.500 And what I've noticed with so many of my clients is guys genuinely will put in time and effort,
00:05:14.980 in some cases money, with a lot of these companies that are supposed to help them,
00:05:18.520 and they still fail.
00:05:20.420 And then they're like, well, what now?
00:05:22.300 Isn't it meant to, like, rewire your brain chemistry or something, though?
00:05:25.980 Like, I just don't feel, I don't see a world where it is a good thing, I can't lie.
00:05:29.660 I don't think it's a good thing, though.
00:05:30.100 It's not do or die.
00:05:31.160 You will survive without it.
00:05:32.540 I don't think it's a good thing.
00:05:34.700 But I wonder if men, like, the bottom, because they say that in societies that have a large group of sexless men,
00:05:43.840 those men become violent.
00:05:44.920 And so I wonder if corn helps deter men from being violent because then they have access to sexuality in a way.
00:05:54.460 These men, they need God.
00:05:55.740 That's what they need.
00:05:56.340 Oh, amen.
00:05:57.260 Amen to that.
00:05:58.260 That's what they need.
00:05:59.260 I think it just, I don't know.
00:06:02.020 I just feel like the way that sex is now is not the same.
00:06:07.320 Like, people, it's just not, like, about love and intimacy.
00:06:13.560 It's just not about that.
00:06:14.920 It's just about getting your nut in, like.
00:06:18.080 Well, that's why my question was, is sex a need that men can't live without long term?
00:06:23.820 Anyways.
00:06:24.720 I feel like it is.
00:06:25.580 I would say so.
00:06:26.320 It depends on the generation.
00:06:28.380 No, okay.
00:06:28.920 I'm not a man regardless of the generation.
00:06:30.660 No, because it can be somewhat, no, that's not true.
00:06:33.980 Because there's some men, like, I have a great granddad, yeah?
00:06:38.580 And he didn't have no kids.
00:06:41.620 He had a partner for a while.
00:06:43.340 But then he went to the war and he just traveled around the world.
00:06:46.800 And that was his focus.
00:06:47.960 That was his purpose.
00:06:49.240 So I think sometimes they can shift their purpose.
00:06:51.960 I don't think they need sex.
00:06:52.200 Yeah, I think some men are capable of a lot more restraint when it comes to sex.
00:06:55.580 I was about to say, they can.
00:06:56.840 It's just that people don't have the mental toughness anymore.
00:06:59.080 It's like, everything's easy, so you can.
00:07:00.940 Who doesn't have the mental toughness?
00:07:02.680 Men or women? 0.78
00:07:03.480 Are one in three women under 30 virgins?
00:07:05.500 I think, no, both genders don't have the mental toughness anymore right now. 1.00
00:07:10.000 What were you going to say?
00:07:10.980 I was going to say, with your scenario, with your granddad, that could just be, like,
00:07:14.840 is that out of choice or is it not out of choice?
00:07:17.100 Do you know what I mean?
00:07:18.100 I want to say a joke, though.
00:07:19.560 I just kind of, like.
00:07:20.500 Do you know that TikTok one is, like, really, I need to, I need to think about it before
00:07:30.040 I can actually say, are you sure he's straight?
00:07:33.060 That's what I want to say.
00:07:34.300 He's definitely straight, but he's, like, but he was all into, like, the, like, wildlife,
00:07:40.720 going for walks, like, I don't know.
00:07:43.200 He was just out here living, making memories, but maybe that's his age,
00:07:47.160 because he was, like, 90-something, I don't know, towards the end, but he wasn't focused
00:07:53.240 on that.
00:07:53.960 Men can't ultimately be fulfilled. 0.79
00:07:55.840 Like, I don't, like, just, like, live without it.
00:07:57.280 I mean, it sounds like, you know, would the guy kill himself or something like that, but
00:07:59.560 I don't think they can ultimately be fulfilled, because I've had lots of clients where they
00:08:03.000 have every area of life handled.
00:08:04.860 I'm sure you've seen this a lot of times.
00:08:06.360 If they don't have the girl, that's, like, life isn't complete.
00:08:10.100 They're not fulfilled.
00:08:10.860 They're not ultimately happy.
00:08:12.120 Even if they've got the money, the body, like, everything, they could have everything going
00:08:15.440 on, but without that partner by their side, they're not ultimately fulfilled.
00:08:17.840 He had a companion for years, but he never, like, it wasn't that kind of relationship.
00:08:24.160 It was just, like, a companion.
00:08:25.920 So, I think that can be fulfilled with that loneliness, not necessarily, like, a sexual
00:08:31.080 drive.
00:08:31.960 That can just be, yeah.
00:08:33.840 Men are not emotional.
00:08:35.020 You think about...
00:08:36.120 Oh, here we go.
00:08:36.960 Men are not emotional.
00:08:38.480 So, they can, they, I don't think they can't go without sex, but they don't need that romance.
00:08:43.200 They don't need that affection.
00:08:44.560 They don't need, like, we do, so, if they want to do whatever they're doing in the bedroom,
00:08:49.440 watching whatever they want to watch, then they're happy with it.
00:08:52.700 I think...
00:08:53.740 I think corn is a really...
00:08:55.880 Actually, I think it's kind of healthy, because I believe, like, all men, they need sex. 0.99
00:09:01.380 Yeah, I agree.
00:09:02.920 It's, like, a thing that they need, you know?
00:09:04.880 Mm-hmm.
00:09:05.420 And, like, it's good that they at least have corn, you know?
00:09:09.800 At least they have that thing that's, like, oh, cool.
00:09:12.000 So, and it's, like, what he does in private, at least, like, oh, he really is, I think it's
00:09:16.340 something natural.
00:09:17.820 I think it shouldn't be, like, something that has to be banned, or, oh, look what these girls 1.00
00:09:22.140 are doing here.
00:09:23.100 Like, okay, they chose to do that.
00:09:25.520 They chose to work like that.
00:09:27.380 So, that's their problems, you know?
00:09:28.980 Don't look down on that.
00:09:29.980 Yeah, but they're, like, oh, because there's type of corn that's like this.
00:09:33.940 There's type of corn that's like that.
00:09:36.280 They have all these types, because they have, like, a public for all these types.
00:09:40.160 So, otherwise, they wouldn't exist.
00:09:41.420 Yeah.
00:09:41.980 So, I think it's, like, it's, like, a necessity for them.
00:09:44.980 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok, and we are demonetized on a daily basis on
00:09:51.460 this platform.
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