JustPearlyThings - Modern Women DESCRIBES her IDEAL PARTNER

00:00:00.000 right it's it's supposed to be a partnership and different individuals can work out how that works

00:00:05.200 if it's like okay look babe you're really good with money i'm kind of reckless with spending it

00:00:09.680 you handle the saving or investing or whatever or it could be you know what i'm the one who knows

00:00:14.640 how to invest and save and whatever like i'll handle the majority of that as long as it works

00:00:19.920 as a unit and you know i i think and i understand people wanting to be independent independent

00:00:26.160 independent but i think that mindset can be quite dangerous for relationships when you're not

00:00:30.880 willing to entrust the other person it's it's a partnership right you can entrust that person and

00:00:35.840 say you know what you're good at handling that you handle this i'm good at handling this i've got this

00:00:40.320 you don't need to worry about it you don't need to be working in isolation all the time i think

00:00:45.040 it's good for every adult male female whatever i think it's good for every adult to be competent

00:00:49.760 to have general competencies so that if you're single or if something goes wrong or whatever

00:00:54.480 you're not totally you're not you're not useless right i think everybody should know how to cook

00:00:59.120 basic food right i don't think it's just you know a woman should know how to cook a mansion i think 1.00

00:01:03.200 if you are a grown man and you're 35 years old and you don't know how to boil rice or cook a basic

00:01:07.760 meal i'm like bro like come on man right you should know how to load load you should know how to load

00:01:13.440 load the washing you should know how to do some some basic tasks everyone should know how to make money

00:01:18.400 right at least on a basic level some people are going to be better at it than others but

00:01:22.080 you should have a skill you should have a couple monetizable skills that okay even if you're not

00:01:28.560 right like i'm not i'm not married yet but when i am like my wife is absolutely not going to have to

00:01:33.040 work right not a paid job per se right she's going to be doing some type of work she can have a typical

00:01:38.640 job if she wants to she won't have to um but i would like to marry someone who i know is is competent 0.98

00:01:45.120 so that god forbid something happens to me or whatever like my kids are not gonna starve and be destitute

00:01:50.480 um but yeah i just think it's about finding that finding that balance and that those complementary

00:01:57.840 aspects and i think that when people partner up and and do that well then the whole the whole thing

00:02:03.440 just functions and it's good and you can just trust the other person and then you're not worried about

00:02:07.920 this isn't this is my money that's your money and then it gets kind of weird and you're keeping score

00:02:11.920 i think we live in an age now where men don't want to accept that women are competent and because

00:02:20.880 back in the days it worked you go to work i cook i clean i take care of the kids but now women are 1.00

00:02:26.880 working so don't come home and tell me to cook and clean because we've just come from the same 0.94

00:02:31.440 shit well well i think i think i i think you'll you'll just the truth is you'll have to find uh 0.94

00:02:38.080 you know a man who is who who accepts that right but the the problem is the type of man who will 0.95

00:02:47.760 fully accept what you just said there i imagine is not the type of man you'd be attracted to

00:02:53.120 but but you see what i mean so i think i think that's one that's one of the conflicts with like

00:02:58.800 there's a lot of bums that are okay they're totally fine yeah like there's a they like it 0.99

00:03:04.720 you could date a bum but that's the like that's the message we keep passing on to men that as soon 0.99

00:03:10.640 as you're alpha and you're confident you have to see a woman as less than you or you have no

00:03:16.320 no that's the that's the message we keep passing on you can be strong okay okay i need you i need

00:03:23.760 you i need you i'm just gonna i'm gonna i'm gonna cut you yeah who who says that no you said the past 0.81

00:03:28.720 message we're passing on to men who says that no but saying things like well no like let me say

00:03:34.480 answer your question so he literally just said i imagine a man that's okay with that you're not

00:03:40.000 going to be attracted to right because because he's not going to be in his masculine energy

00:03:45.040 a masculine man would not is is not going to be drawn to that so that's the problem it's not about

00:03:55.760 me i'm attracted to you well i'm just i'm saying no you can you can be how you want i'm not i'm not

00:04:00.400 telling you what to do or how to behave or whatever i'm just telling you real talk as a man um you know

00:04:06.640 you can you can have a certain attitude or a belief system or whatever i'm just saying

00:04:10.880 a guy who like there there are guys who would just be like yeah cool like you know you do that

00:04:15.280 whatever but the type those those type of guys tend to be more you know weak frame not so much in their

00:04:21.920 masculine energy not particularly ambitious and so on like why would why would a guy that makes a lot

00:04:26.320 of money go to his girl for financial decisions like why would he do that when he could just not

00:04:32.480 when there's a million he has a lot of money as well but again like but your money doesn't matter to a

00:04:37.280 guy it's like nothing it's like it's like like imagine when a guy tells us oh i have a cool shoe

00:04:41.360 collection you're like ah cool but you don't really care it's the same thing and so you can come in and

00:04:46.080 like say oh i have money too he says okay don't care so it's like and then i know but then why would

00:04:51.760 right but i'm saying i'm saying no women care we care about money let's not cap women come on come 1.00

00:04:55.840 on like you're not you're not trying to date a bum you know you know like but but a guy will 0.94

00:05:01.280 like a guy will see a girl at tesco and say if she's hot enough cool yeah yes and similarly she 1.00

00:05:07.520 could be the freaking ceo of a company but if she's not hot yeah as nice feminine traits then you're not 1.00

00:05:13.280 interested are you are you lining up to date oprah no no she's not even lining up to date yeah excuse 0.94

00:05:20.880 me oprah is beautiful you know the the truth is and look and we all know this men and women are not

00:05:27.120 attracted to the identical same things yeah we we we know this and and there's no amount of social

00:05:32.480 engineering that is going to that that's going to just change that right i'm sure look every short guy

00:05:39.360 would love to somehow manipulate society and culture and biology to make women more attracted 1.00

00:05:46.080 to very short guys right but it's just it's not reality so if you're a short dude you just have to

00:05:51.040 accept look this is my i can't change this right but there's lots of other things that i can do there's

00:05:55.680 ways that i can improve myself and compensate and still be an attractive and and confident and

00:06:01.120 competent man but you just have to accept that given reality as a male there are certain things that

00:06:06.720 men are generally attracted to in women and some people may not like that it may trigger them

00:06:11.520 right yeah here's one that you can't change age that's not that's not changeable right but so if

00:06:17.040 a man says that a man if a man if a woman says that she prefers taller guys which literally every

00:06:22.080 woman does no one takes offense to that if a man says if a guy is 35 and he's like yeah i prefer 0.78

00:06:27.920 dating younger women oh my right he's suddenly some despite the fact that every man all throughout

00:06:33.520 history whatever yeah can i just say something sorry finish what you were saying and then i can

00:06:40.640 pretty much made my point so go ahead okay is sort of going off off the bat bat of that as well is

00:06:46.400 that actually when you are and this is only something that i've come to like realize in the last

00:06:52.320 i'd say sort of six months that actually being older like no matter how much i've tried to run away

00:06:57.360 from it try to change it looks wise all those things to be like this is bad you know why can't i

00:07:03.600 just be 26 again 25 again all that is actually it's actually really powerful being in that space and

00:07:11.840 feeling that way because that way i can in a female way keep leveling up keep you know keep on top of 1.00

00:07:20.960 trying to stay in shape trying to stay healthy um keeping my womanhood as much as i possibly can you

00:07:30.160 know i know you probably can't imagine this right now because you're 26 but when you're 10 12 years

00:07:37.440 older than that it takes a lot of work to i don't know to still feel useful to still feel youthful and

00:07:49.040 useful in a way to um my partner to blend into society because you when you're when you're 26 you

00:07:58.720 kind of get a lot more on your plate in your life than you do when you're 36 as a woman as a woman

00:08:05.520 they're not as a guy but as a woman things completely change like when you were 22 i bet

00:08:11.760 things were very different to what they are now at 26 there's all those jumps i don't know if you

00:08:18.000 you've had that realization but it will help you to like keep leveling up as a woman like guys they 0.93

00:08:24.080 focus on fitness and money and whatever it may be to level themselves up but for me you know yes

00:08:31.760 it's exhausting yes it costs money but it keeps me healthier and in a better balance as a woman

00:08:38.880 within myself even though i might be doing it more for my boyfriend it's actually

00:08:44.320 rubbing off on me shouldn't that be a human being thing because i want to look good yeah i do but i

00:08:51.360 expect my man to look good and this is why i won't go for a sugar daddy i don't care how much money you

00:08:55.920 have i'm not attracted to you a lot of women would because like you said idris elba is beautiful

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JustPearlyThings - June 07, 2023

Modern Women DESCRIBES her IDEAL PARTNER

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