JustPearlyThings - March 27, 2023


Modern Women Don't RESPECT Lesser Earning Men @destiny


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9 minutes

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222.95203

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2,014

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00:00:00.000 we're gonna i'm gonna i'm gonna try to go on to the next topic yeah what are we uh yeah um okay
00:00:05.280 so i was gonna live are we still alive yeah we're alive that was amazing got a lot of good clips out
00:00:11.920 of that one oh my god that's gonna be on worldstar hip-hop this is too much
00:00:22.400 yeah blessings telling that you guys to yeah yeah
00:00:27.440 you don't you know the crazy destiny the crazy thing is i've never had a kick out i have never
00:00:34.080 i've never i've made it a whole year almost i've never had anyone walk out you brought that miami
00:00:38.400 energy back i know i was like what the hell oh my gosh is london the miami of europe no no
00:00:47.280 no um okay who okay okay
00:00:56.560 i just feel like this is such a lame question to follow that i was gonna say can women respect a
00:01:01.840 man that they make more money then do you guys think i think it bring when it comes down to
00:01:08.400 actual household because i know what you guys you guys like to have like um subservience and
00:01:13.520 dominance kind of um dynamics i think that gets very hard when there's an obvious breadwinner and
00:01:19.520 i feel like realistically whoever's making the most money ought to they it will just naturally
00:01:27.440 but sometimes you don't have to say you know like i've been that person that's earned the most money
00:01:31.280 and it's about you respecting that person not to throw it in their face either and it's about there's
00:01:36.320 certain things that you don't even have to spell out like i'm on 55k and you're on 25k
00:01:42.480 it's just like okay well what we'll do for the household builds we'll go halves but i've got the
00:01:46.080 holidays and i've got the do you know what i mean i think you can respect but it's a choice it makes
00:01:51.040 more sense when you're more impoverished so when there's someone that's obviously like you are
00:01:55.920 dependent on them for rent and food that's when the dynamics you can't really have that dominant
00:01:59.840 that's the problem yeah it's the impoverished bit i think for a lot of these things is my wait my
00:02:04.160 mic's on right yeah okay sorry i think for a lot of these things i think it actually depends on how
00:02:07.760 the man carries himself right i think that if you are so like there's i think there's a similar
00:02:12.160 question in terms of like can a woman be with like a below average height male right there's a guy who
00:02:17.040 might be 5'9 who carries himself normally and there might be a guy who's like 5'9 who acts like he's very
00:02:22.000 short all the time and i don't think people won't like that guy but not because he's short because he
00:02:26.000 thinks he's short same thing with like in a household if the man is making less money as long as the guy is
00:02:29.840 contributing well to the household and he's not like being weird about it or being like moody about it
00:02:33.920 i think it could probably would you would you agree that it's more of the exception rather than
00:02:37.040 the rule are you asking me if i believe if numbers are real and they exist or of course it's the
00:02:41.840 exception generally men are more than women right now so generally yeah no no because i agree with
00:02:46.000 you because i have a lot of tall friends like super tall like i i'm not i'm not in agreement
00:02:50.800 in terms of i'm gonna say oh lord i want to bring culture back in here okay black caribbean culture
00:02:57.360 no no no no no i'm gonna tell you the average man versus the average black woman right now
00:03:06.560 the black woman is earning more is that in the caribbean or is that in london or what i'm gonna
00:03:11.600 talk about london caribbean okay i can't talk about america i can only talk about where we are now
00:03:16.720 because what you were saying about the is it at the average yeah i hardly meet men that earn more than me
00:03:22.880 yeah actually i'm sorry i gotta be i'm just let me qualify everything anything i'm saying anything
00:03:27.360 i don't even mess with you like 419 business here your money is not legit man so do you do you feel
00:03:32.160 like you couldn't submit to a guy that makes more than you or less but less than you sorry less than
00:03:36.320 you oh yeah i could but again it's how he carries himself do you know i mean i really think it's about
00:03:40.800 how you carry yeah and if you you you it's not even about position because it's about money and when
00:03:46.320 you get into the relationship i think what's mine is yours and what's yours is mine maybe i'm wrong
00:03:50.960 but it's one pot now no and we're all just yeah that's when i first heard this conversation i was
00:03:56.800 always confused because i'm like don't you guys have a joint bank account doesn't it go into one
00:04:00.080 well that would be ideal right yeah that's what i would think that's right but apparently people
00:04:03.600 have joined and then they have yeah that's what i found out later but like when growing up everyone
00:04:07.760 i knew always just had a joint bank account does that mean you've got one foot out the door then
00:04:12.720 i'm wondering in those relationships where you have the joint but you also got your little side monies
00:04:16.960 mm-hmm are you really fully yeah are you fully invested in your relationship yeah or is that
00:04:22.080 your money for a rainy day like for example i've been told you have the joint for all your main bills
00:04:26.400 but then i have my money to do my hair to do my nails to do my you know whatever but why can't i take
00:04:32.560 that from the main pot i think you just like pay bills pay each other that's what i do like like i tend
00:04:39.120 to pay a little bit more rent because i outer my partner so she'll just send me like i think our rent's
00:04:43.200 like five grand she'll send me like one or two thousand dollars depending on what our agreement
00:04:46.160 is and then we'll just pay rent like that and then everybody keeps their own money and they do their
00:04:48.640 own thing but if you want to do like a vacation or special thing then depending on who's got the
00:04:51.760 most money who earns more again it's you should it should be a team you like you want to do things
00:04:56.240 together so like that's what i would think like wasn't it but why wouldn't you just have one bank
00:05:00.000 account if the problem the problem with one bank account is what you have to be really careful about
00:05:03.600 is it's easy to lose track of spending and the last thing you want is for money to get in the way
00:05:08.640 like easier to track it yeah well it's just like it's a thing where like nobody might mean anything
00:05:13.040 bad but maybe oh maybe i'll i'll be certain i'll say the woman maybe the woman loses track of how
00:05:17.440 much like hair nails mani-pedi costs whatever and then all of a sudden the guy goes to check his bank
00:05:21.440 and he's like what the hell i'm missing like you know five hundred dollars like what's going on here
00:05:26.160 and the woman's not even thinking like oh i'm spending all this money she's like oh i got you know this
00:05:29.360 much here i'll spend it yeah and i think that's the thing you got to be careful of i think joint bank
00:05:33.040 accounts can work you gotta be really really careful tracking like the spending so somebody doesn't like
00:05:36.640 build resentment i think you might as well just not do it you think i i mean i personally i don't
00:05:42.960 think i just think it sounds like too much of a cluster yeah yeah you wouldn't do it in your
00:05:46.800 relationship no really why not because of what you just said i don't want that confusion man yeah
00:05:52.720 like come on man like my balance just decreasing because of her nails backs like it's the collective
00:05:59.440 balance decreasing huh it's the collective balance no but like it still doesn't work i just think it's
00:06:05.120 confusion we'd have to keep receipts track of everything like nah i think if both parties are
00:06:10.560 making a lot of money i think it's okay because you guys are rich or whatever but when you're like
00:06:13.760 paycheck man if you're like you know three or four days out from payday and your account is broke and
00:06:19.200 you want to go out and get you know just like some kind of food and then you go and check in the last
00:06:22.800 four charges where something your girl did yeah you're i don't care what kind of man you are you're
00:06:26.160 gonna be pissed off even if even if you spent more you're gonna be pissed off because you're gonna see
00:06:29.200 it's gonna be tense it's gonna be tense yeah who do you guys think benefited more from the women's
00:06:34.480 sexual liberation movement or the sexual liberation movement i would say men men and it's annoying
00:06:41.360 because in any scenario men still always benefit even before women got their sexual liberation men still
00:06:47.680 benefited now they've got their sexual liberation men are still benefiting why do you think so i mean
00:06:53.600 why do you think men benefit i'm just curious the reason i think men benefit is because now men don't
00:06:59.440 have to do a lot now to get sex so literally go on a dating app a woman's coming even now women don't
00:07:07.120 even get their ubers paid anymore they'll be like i'll drive to you because i need some d now what it's
00:07:13.040 done now is creating unrealistic expectations for relationships so now as a woman you want a man to
00:07:19.040 wine and dine you and 69 you but i feel like now it's like men don't need to do that anymore because
00:07:28.560 you can just get sex somewhere else is that because i'm liberated or because the the traditional values
00:07:34.400 have gone i think liberation in the promiscuity manner that's what i'm i'm speaking upon obviously
00:07:40.960 like i'm i would say to a to an extent i'm sexually liberated because of the fact that i i feel like i can
00:07:47.760 have sex with whoever i want but this is a person that i want to be with it's not just somebody that
00:07:53.280 i saw on the street and because he's fine i'm gonna let him put something inside me no it's because i
00:07:57.920 respect this man i want to see a future with him you know it's somebody i actually see myself with but i
00:08:03.520 think a lot of women now it's just i'm horny you know what let me give it to any man and i feel like
00:08:09.040 that is they don't give it to just any man bruv a lot of women oh say i called you bruv all right i
00:08:13.840 apologize all right bro you're gonna come hurt me now sorry how many bodies have you got i'm gonna watch
00:08:23.280 my back now because i called you bruv do you know what i mean but i think like a lot of times like
00:08:27.680 you're saying yeah you're liberated and all this but it's not like women are not just going around
00:08:32.160 throwing it to just any guy out there because there's loads of guys that are not getting any box
00:08:36.720 and you don't always forget that every single time you have these conversations
00:08:40.480 i hate this point no but it's true because you don't even register those guys because
00:08:44.320 yeah we always quote the 40 of men that are not getting sex right yeah you don't care about
00:08:49.200 them in that category i'm really sorry but society already helps you