JustPearlyThings - May 22, 2023


Modern Women DON'T THINK Things THROUGH


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Length

12 minutes

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218.4796

Word count

2,828

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

35

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Hate speech

8

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In this episode, we discuss the age difference between a bus driver and an average woman and the difference between the two. We also talk about entitlement and what it means to be a woman in the modern era and why it's a bad thing.

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00:00:00.000 it's all right cool but actually i know that if i go for a 30 year old woman they're gonna be 1.00
00:00:07.200 stuck in their ways if you both smoke i've got a 20 year old woman there 30 year old woman there 1.00
00:00:12.160 both of you smoke i can actually probably change a 20 year old woman but a 30 year old i don't
00:00:17.200 think there's gonna be much two are supposed to become one flesh anyways right so and that's like
00:00:23.040 that's how they used to view it i think they were one yeah i think the main question here is if she 0.78
00:00:28.320 was today a bus driver will the relationship work no one won't work because he's not providing for
00:00:34.000 her he's not being the superior person in the relationship so what's the point of her going
00:00:39.120 for a bus driver what for the sake of saying she has babies i think she knows it's just not going 0.99
00:00:43.520 to work like a bus driver probably doesn't know as much as her probably hasn't had as much experience
00:00:48.320 as her they probably do not have the same thing in common in terms of media success does she have she 0.96
00:00:52.400 talks for a living yeah but she probably has experience of like she's probably in big rooms 1.00
00:00:56.800 with people they have like really serious conversations she probably can't have them
00:01:00.320 conversations with a bus driver so i think the reason why she's saying that is because she knows
00:01:04.400 with a bus driver the relationship is just not going to work i'm sure you can agree that a man's
00:01:08.640 role is to provide right so if you can't provide the relationship is just it's not going to work i think
00:01:13.120 his role is to provide if you're a traditional woman if you deserve to be provided for so what is 0.97
00:01:19.120 a traditional woman could be like state like what what is that i think i think you can in general 1.00
00:01:24.800 like what our great grandmothers were our grandmothers like virgin more so yeah i mean i i really don't
00:01:33.520 think they exist anymore to be honest but like virgin um usually like submissive to their husband cooks 0.98
00:01:41.600 cleans no good with children has experience with children knows sewing isn't like i think we know in general
00:01:48.080 what a traditional woman is like we're not we're not dumb you know so um i i think it's entitled
00:01:55.120 to ask for something you don't deserve and that's why i think this is crazy because she's asking for
00:01:59.680 something she doesn't deserve she's asking for traditional treatment when she doesn't deserve it 0.97
00:02:03.360 i think that's a bit harsh to say that she's entitled only because obviously when you compare
00:02:08.880 it to like traditional women the grandmothers and stuff like that they didn't have an option to 1.00
00:02:13.280 become a tv presenter their whole life goal was to be a housewife and raise kids like women have 1.00
00:02:18.480 been able to work since like the 20s no but this is what i'm saying is that like work and tv presenters
00:02:23.120 two different things like this woman is on tv every day she's having fun she's living her dream she's 0.79
00:02:26.720 kicking back like i personally if i'm on tv having fun i don't really know if at 39 i'd want to come back
00:02:32.640 to a however year old bus driver but he's probably riding his bus and he's going to be so happy to see
00:02:38.000 you know his pretty wife on the tv and he comes home and he sees her as well i feel like this is
00:02:43.120 what's better a bus driver or air air like like to breathe um what like nothing no no yeah so you
00:02:52.480 come home right and you lay in bed and there's air but no that's different and there's or or there's
00:02:59.120 a bus driver or the equivalent of an average job because she's an average chick but that's what i'm 1.00
00:03:04.000 saying he's irking me like if like if he's getting on my nerves i'd rather air but i feel like bus
00:03:10.960 drivers work long hours anyway so 90 of the time it's probably going to be air in that bed but i
00:03:15.760 just feel like it's harsh for her to be entitled just because men like so she's 40 right what does
00:03:21.120 life look like for her at 60 70 like we're supposed to live to be 90 years old what is she going to do
00:03:28.080 the last 40 years of her life her looks are gone so tv's over i don't know but she's invisible 0.51
00:03:32.640 she doesn't she's invisible to men because like men aren't really checking for women over the age 0.84
00:03:37.040 of like 45 50 you know 50 if you're lucky um so now what does the second half of her life look like
00:03:44.080 the thing is is obviously personally like i don't know but obviously she says she just doesn't want
00:03:49.120 to spend it with a bus driver so if that's what sis doesn't want then that's what sis doesn't want 1.00
00:03:53.280 and maybe like who knows maybe that debate actually sparked up and woke up a bus driver and he's thinking
00:04:00.080 do you know what i'm really gonna work harder or maybe do you know what they're like it she's 40
00:04:04.800 i can't really i'm gonna keep driving my bus like but my point my point isn't even really her like i
00:04:09.440 don't i don't really give a about this girl right my point is like average women still feel entitled to 1.00
00:04:14.800 above average men and we're so delusional to think that we are going to get them when what does she
00:04:20.480 bring to the table as a 39 year old news presenter so would you say the bus driver's above average and
00:04:25.600 she's average no i'm saying she's average um maybe even below average at 40 as into what she
00:04:32.720 can bring to a guy and a bus driver is an average man so they're like equals kind of yeah and she 0.98
00:04:38.240 thinks she's above it so what about men in going on so paul would you um marry a cleaner yeah you would
00:04:46.560 do you guys think you guys would have a lot in common you know what's funny i actually want to date
00:04:52.080 someone i like prefer it when we have nothing in common so how would the relationship survive
00:04:57.600 like what would you guys discuss if you guys i don't i don't really think you need to talk yeah
00:05:03.520 so then that'll basically be like dating yeah exactly no i feel like you should talk to
00:05:08.560 i was thinking about this the other day i was like do you men really want to listen to us talk
00:05:12.400 absolutely you gotta have deep conversations you have to relate talk to my friends no you just never
00:05:18.560 talk i think it's very attractive when um you're with a partner and they've got something that can
00:05:23.520 educate you yeah yeah yeah it's gonna be like your best friend yeah no i think girls talk they don't 0.97
00:05:28.400 want to hear oh do you remember what my friend they don't want to hear that but if it's something
00:05:32.160 learning and knowledgeable thank you um yeah absolutely that's that's that's what they i think
00:05:38.080 i'm saying like what's the news reporter gonna learn from a bus driver but when you think about
00:05:45.680 it is like when you just look at it she obviously she reports the news like in general she just comes
00:05:50.480 across she might know a lot more but obviously he might end up learning way more from her because
00:05:55.920 obviously she reports the news exactly but it's kind of vice versa but at the same time he's probably
00:06:02.720 going to learn more from her than she will from him so it's like in that sense she kind of is valid
00:06:07.200 to like you know maybe she wants to like learn from her partner like maybe that's why she doesn't
00:06:12.160 want a bus driver i feel like she could date a lawyer or she could date a shopkeeper or she could date a 0.99
00:06:16.880 teacher but a bus driver like let's be real like there's actual levels to things in this life and i
00:06:22.160 feel like that's they would have absolutely nothing in common and i'm not even judging it due to his
00:06:26.400 pockets i'm judging it as the actual like the compatibility what are they going to talk about what
00:06:30.960 they're going to discuss what they're going to have in common i feel like in that aspect she's allowed to
00:06:35.040 say that this is not going to work and she's better off dating air than dating someone that she 0.97
00:06:40.080 in history people didn't have anything in common like historic like having similar hobbies to a
00:06:45.200 guy that's a new thing no you have to have something okay okay hunter gatherer what what did they have
00:06:50.320 in common survival survival that's what they had in common okay even on the farm like they did different
00:06:58.240 roles like having similar interests is a new thing farming was what they had in common no but i'm saying they
00:07:04.000 both did different roles on the farm like they didn't do the same things like the woman was more 0.99
00:07:08.320 in the house the guy was more in the field but managing that whole property that that was what
00:07:12.000 they had right they had the family in common and so you would still have the family in common in this
00:07:16.560 situation but we're talking a lot about like traditional women but i just want to understand like 0.98
00:07:21.040 you guys's thoughts on traditional men and how common that is these days do you feel like it's common
00:07:26.000 as well that do men play their part do they play their position i think that there's more traditional men
00:07:31.280 than traditional women but okay and then can we just go over what a traditional man is just in brief
00:07:36.240 just um i would say a guy that wants to protect and provide um i think i've been researching more about
00:07:41.600 like guys providing um and i don't know what what fifty to sixty thousand dollars is in the uk
00:07:47.840 but you can actually live off of a lot of fifty to sixty thousand that's about what like 40k
00:07:53.280 yeah so on 40k um you can feed roughly a family of four or five if you if you do it right
00:08:00.560 in london you might have to go to the suburbs yeah that's what i'm saying like you can homeschool the
00:08:06.560 kids if you want and you go out into the suburbs and he commutes to work you can do it people just
00:08:11.280 don't want to the thing is most guys naturally wants to be providers and protectors but most women 0.52
00:08:17.920 set standards that are way too high for most men to meet that's the issue can you give us an example
00:08:23.600 of a standard that's high too high okay can i can i give you one yeah if you want to have your nails
00:08:28.640 done the rest of your life yes and you want makeup the rest of your life would could you go without
00:08:33.920 that expense for a family of course for a family a lot of women won't i've heard your perspective on 1.00
00:08:41.040 the makeup thing a lot of a lot of women like won't go down in lifestyle for a family i would do that 1.00
00:08:46.000 for my family but no you you might you might but i'm saying like a lot of women won't because i was 0.99
00:08:50.320 speaking to a woman who raised like four or five kids on like 40 to 50k and she was like giving
00:08:54.880 examples of jobs you can go for and i can't remember it exactly but she was giving examples
00:08:59.920 like for women of jobs you can go for and like places you can find those men and like how you can
00:09:03.920 do it and she's like you only like when you go down to one income it's less money and if you
00:09:08.640 homeschool the kids it's less money if you grow your own food it's the funny less money but like most
00:09:12.800 people refuse to do that no that's interesting but even on the thing about maintaining like
00:09:17.840 appearances and stuff makeup nails like for me personally like i believe in enhancing what you
00:09:24.560 naturally have so yeah i've got makeup on i actually don't wear that much makeup i don't have eyelashes
00:09:29.440 on i wear mascara these are my these are my real nails no no no i'm just saying as an example of the
00:09:34.160 fact that i take time to actually look after my natural qualities so if i did need to like come off it
00:09:40.160 i can not wear makeup tomorrow and i couldn't get my nails on tomorrow and if all the shops ended and
00:09:43.920 everything all this started i could survive and look good naturally i take care of myself like i i
00:09:49.040 look after myself so that's what i think women need to concentrate on more than just adding on 1.00
00:09:54.720 women make 80 of consumer buying decisions like women are bad with money 1.00
00:09:59.440 bad like think about it metal that means men only spend 20 percent of like what is because of the 0.56
00:10:04.160 appearances right no i think it's because women we're more impulsive i think we just make more 0.99
00:10:09.360 emotional decisions yeah probably i think when it comes to maintenance and things i think every
00:10:14.320 woman should look after themselves i think the mistake that us females make is we spend too much 1.00
00:10:18.720 money looking after themselves like there's so many ways to look nice and do it on a budget
00:10:23.040 like for example with me i've always been a girly girl i've always loved fashion and when i got like
00:10:27.040 my first few jobs i used to spend so much money on clothes and would have nothing left then i decided
00:10:32.080 let me just be a fashion influencer and i haven't spent money on clothes in like the last three years
00:10:36.560 so there's and even as well sometimes i resell those clothes so there's smart ways to look good
00:10:40.960 but actually do it on a budget so for all the girls watching this i strongly encourage you to not fall
00:10:45.680 into that pressure or feeling like you have to spend thousands every month just to look good because
00:10:49.920 you really don't the woman i spoke to said she spent i think it was less than a hundred a year on clothes
00:10:55.520 for five kids because they would do resales and hand-me-downs on her kids that takes a lot of time and 1.00
00:11:01.920 patience i guess correct but like most women don't want to do it yeah less than a hundred 1.00
00:11:07.200 pounds it's important for men though as well do you think yeah i do actually important i do not as
00:11:11.840 important not as important i feel like hygiene is definitely important because no one wants a smelly 0.65
00:11:17.280 man but the reason why is not important because for women that's not what we look for i feel like our 0.99
00:11:22.480 main priority is someone that can protect and provide not someone that's going to be aesthetically
00:11:27.120 pleasing to us and that's the problem of society today men care more about gucci than actually going
00:11:31.920 out and having an lv belt yeah men care more about gucci and having an lv belt and looking nice than
00:11:38.640 actually you know going out and having a job again the numbers just don't support you because men aren't
00:11:43.360 really spending money like that i think modern men especially men in my generation no i'm telling you
00:11:49.520 if you look at the numbers of like the money spent it's not it's women that are spending money it's not 1.00
00:11:54.480 men there might be like exceptions but again you probably you guys don't see 80 percent of men
00:11:59.840 like they're invisible to you you don't notice the guy at tesco you don't notice the guy and and i'm
00:12:05.120 like i'm i'm saying like for most of it you find 80 percent of men is unattractive well statistics
00:12:10.080 don't lie so i can't even argue with that yeah no i think it's important for a man to take care of
00:12:14.000 himself but just to answer your question like if you're talking like getting like facials or just
00:12:17.840 skincare skincare is so important like across the board i think we all need to take that seriously men
00:12:23.920 manicures pedicules that's great do that i'm gonna read super chats do you get manicures wait wait
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