JustPearlyThings - Modern Women DON’T UNDERSTAND Motherhood

00:00:00.000 glass door i think women like to fantasize a lot oh yeah and think way into the future that's good 1.00

00:00:05.680 because that's how they help men like blossom like that's how women are helpless them in 1.00

00:00:11.760 because men are very like and women are like oh but you could do it this way and this way and

00:00:18.640 like they flower the seeds that make it grow women have to like think outside the box because men are 0.98

00:00:24.160 very a matter of fact which is good and that's why the woman and the man works together yeah it's

00:00:30.800 like that quote that's i think it says something like um behind every great man is an even better

00:00:36.400 woman or something have you heard that one yeah i don't agree oh yeah that that's the most 1.00

00:00:42.000 bullshit quote i don't think it should be even better but i think great women should be there 1.00

00:00:46.320 instead but it kind of oh just the woman that cares yeah yeah just his woman beyond every man 0.99

00:00:52.720 is his woman elon musk needed a woman to get to where he's rich men get to where they're going 0.96

00:00:59.840 regardless of whether or not they have a girl by doing dog eat dog for sure it's like i mean like

00:01:04.640 the guys that are going somewhere they're gonna go somewhere whether or not you're there it's just

00:01:08.320 like women just like to take credit for doing nothing yeah i guess listen i think unless you're 0.91

00:01:15.280 looking at having kids men can just pretty much do anything whereas they don't need emotional support

00:01:22.720 well they do but they don't need it as much as women like i don't think they need it like women 1.00

00:01:29.040 like to talk about stuff more they're with their friends what do you talk about you talk about guys

00:01:32.560 talk about feelings talk about men are just like straight to the point we wiggle around a bit more

00:01:37.680 but it works together i like the chorus

00:01:45.120 i don't know if i agree i'm just like

00:01:49.200 you know what i know i know i'm the worst and they're not even doing it this time you got a whole

00:01:54.640 chorus here oh they always roast me in the comments i'm sitting there laughing because i think normally

00:02:01.120 it's pearl and every woman is doing it i've been trying to get better i've been trying after the

00:02:06.320 bees interview i've been trying she normally sits there going it's like it's a tick i can't 1.00

00:02:13.760 no it's just a thing in it because all the women are doing it one person made a comment and i'm just 1.00

00:02:18.560 saying listen to the choir and the choir said hmm

00:02:24.640 auntie oh what do you think i've never been out of a man that's earned more than me never never

00:02:31.520 and i've respected every single one why do you think that is different than a lot of women nowadays 1.00

00:02:41.440 i'm just old school i just don't really care how much they are because

00:02:44.480 no it didn't really matter because i didn't when i'm out with a man he's a man so i don't

00:02:51.760 i don't pay for anything i'd have to put my hand in my pocket even the man that i've got now

00:02:55.600 still got more than him he's got more i must admit he's got more cash to me i've got more assets than

00:03:03.440 him but no i can't i don't have to put my hand in my pocket for nothing yeah i think as long as i

00:03:10.400 don't have to put my hand in my pocket then yeah what is what is the minimum

00:03:15.120 thousand pound a month i can make it work you know i can pearl oh oh you know i can make it work

00:03:21.520 so if these people that if these women out here are saying oh they need to do this oh the man can't 0.98

00:03:25.040 afford that you know what i mean check yourself and cut back what would you do with a thousand

00:03:28.640 pounds a month how would you split that up i'm just curious i'd go wholesalers yeah i mean it's

00:03:33.840 different because all right then if i had a mortgage in london with a thousand pounds a

00:03:37.840 month i can live in before i was living i couldn't do it on 1500 okay because like 500 is towards the

00:03:44.400 mortgage yeah kids are not expensive it all depends do you know what right it all depends on what you

00:03:49.760 want them to wear but nowadays you'll find that a five pound t-shirt is not going to cost you 50

00:03:55.280 pounds for the kid or because of the name or the stamp on it and that's what brings things up

00:03:59.520 mm-hmm or you know eating out you know you want a burger buy some mincemeat and teach your kids how

00:04:05.040 to make a burger you know no eating out no do you think a thousand pound is covering bills let's do

00:04:13.040 me now wow you know i honestly had the same i had the same thought yo she took me she took me

00:04:21.440 well how much did you say it was 35 pounds it was 30 pounds for the 30 pounds 30 pounds she said

00:04:27.200 a week yeah two people yeah she told me she could get a week's worth of groceries on 30 pounds i 1.00

00:04:31.920 didn't believe her you wouldn't go to the market yeah she took me she took me no we went to a

00:04:36.480 supermarket we didn't even go to a market yeah you can do it you just yeah we'll talk off fresh stuff

00:04:42.800 is this ten yes no it was actually good check out wife school episode two 1.00

00:04:50.880 but yeah i i didn't believe her i was like there is no way there is no way but yeah 30 pounds

00:04:57.200 you have to look for the stickers the clearance stickers we just went there we just we just popped

00:05:04.400 in there and we picked about four things with stickers but everything else wasn't was it was

00:05:08.720 about four things with stickers in the middle of the day yeah no in the evening was it in the evening

00:05:14.720 but it wasn't bad food it really wasn't yeah but you have to even though this month to cover a whole

00:05:22.000 month including toiletries laundry alcohol and everything for the month thousand pound yeah for

00:05:30.640 the month i'm talking about all the alcohol as well well laundry toiletries electric toothbrush

00:05:36.560 everything first and pan didn't that's it

00:05:41.440 i'll watch it yeah i'm gonna watch it i'm sold it's fine i show i show you my tricks yeah i'm so

00:05:47.680 on a few tips i'm so on it do you guys think that corn you know you know what that stands for okay do

00:05:54.480 you guys think that corn is cheating no yes no yes once he does it in front once he watches it in

00:06:02.720 front of me i know he's there watching whatever i think if it's hidden it's cheating if it's like

00:06:07.040 yeah you want to watch it it's like it's like watching another movie i'm watching it though but

00:06:10.720 if it's hidden i think it's cheating because for you to hide it so it must be wrong yeah i agree

00:06:16.640 don't lie about it fine yeah i feel like you can i don't think together

00:06:22.720 no i don't want to do that but do you think it's cheating no i said if

00:06:27.280 no if he has i just feel like he wouldn't want to do it in front of you why not i don't know

00:06:33.280 no don't do it in front of me like i don't no i don't i don't want i don't mean that in front of

00:06:37.040 you i mean like if he's there watching that he knows men have a watching a tv and yeah he's in one

00:06:41.840 room and he's watching it and he coming oh you're watching that rubbish again it's like it's nothing to

00:06:46.400 me but you wouldn't get mad if he's not as long as he's not he's open with it yeah would anyone here

00:06:51.360 be mad if their husband watched or boyfriend watched corn sorry can i just say something it all depends

00:06:56.480 what kind it is if it's that sick perverted kind then yeah oh yeah yeah yeah no that wouldn't be

00:07:00.640 okay if it's like regular normal normal yeah any i'd be upset i don't think i'd be mad i'd be concerned

00:07:07.440 because what is what's what are you seeking from this like variety why do you and so maybe picking

00:07:14.720 up a few tips but then but then again to me that's a concern for me because what variety why do you want

00:07:20.800 variety just try this that's like what men want naturally i'm not saying all men cheat but men

00:07:26.560 naturally want variety you're telling me okay you could take the best man in the world if he had a

00:07:31.440 bus full of models waiting for him every day when he got home every single day begging to sleep with

00:07:36.720 it most of you guys are gonna fail fair enough but i'm i'm putting my self in it if you want variety

00:07:46.160 it's a concern if you if you cannot exercise self-control it's a concern if i am to exercise

00:07:53.440 self-control and you don't give yourself that same parameter it's a concern i'm not saying i'll be angry

00:08:02.240 but if this is something to iron out it's not something that oh this is how you are that's

00:08:07.120 your makeup that's fine because i know what i want and as far as i'm concerned on the foundational

00:08:13.760 like morals principles standards we match and so if we're no longer matching it's an even bigger

00:08:20.160 concern and now we're talking about the longevity of our relationship i don't think it means that you

00:08:24.880 don't match no no but it's because i know what i would like and when you say what you would like

00:08:30.000 what is that i know not to watch that and if if you're telling me these are the reasons why you watch

00:08:36.640 it let's iron out those reasons so you don't have to if you feel like the reason is just

00:08:42.160 i just like yeah and it doesn't mean he's doing it every day or even every week everyone knows why

00:08:46.720 they like it everyone knows why they like what they like no one just likes it and i'm not sure

00:08:51.920 but that's like but that's like a female point of view like to men it's just like a reaction they 1.00

00:08:56.320 don't think that much yeah but then that's not what i then that's that's fine we don't have to

00:09:01.920 like but it's almost like asking men not to be men well no not necessarily because in my experience

00:09:06.000 i have what i have not experienced that do you understand so i can't even speak to it because

00:09:10.720 it's not like i've been with a man that could explain his side of it all i can say is from my

00:09:16.560 wants and if this is how you are that's fine i'm not gonna like say change or it's you're just not for

00:09:24.640 me yeah it sounds like you're not it you haven't created a space where they could even come to tell

00:09:29.760 you that they watch it it sounds like if they do it's in private like they wouldn't even tell you

00:09:34.080 no it's if and this is what i'm saying i wouldn't get angry to me it would be a concern so if you

00:09:40.240 came to me or i caught you i'm not going to be oh no no it's like okay let's sit down and talk about

00:09:45.520 it like why why why why do you feel like you like this or whatever and like if if you're like this is

00:09:52.240 how i am and i can't really explain it or whatever i have the right to say but i don't like this i

00:09:58.160 i don't i don't have to compromise on that so how can i just hang on can i just say something

00:10:02.800 because from what tell me if i'm wrong yeah you're talking about if like now if you found him watching

00:10:10.080 or if he suddenly decided yeah but what i would say yeah and what i think you're saying is that yeah

00:10:18.240 this is you wouldn't be with somebody that does it anyway yeah and then if he happens to be doing it

00:10:23.360 there's a problem yeah and that i feel the same way i mean if i know if i know that my man does it and

00:10:27.520 i'm with him i knew that he'd done it before i got with him but if i'm with a man and then suddenly

00:10:32.000 he starts doing it well what's going on why all of a sudden you start you never showed it and i

00:10:35.920 think that's what you're trying to say because trying to change an individual is futile to me

00:10:41.360 okay especially if you do not see an issue how like i don't have the energy to try and make you see or

00:10:48.560 even see it from my point of view if you don't you don't but i don't have to be i don't have to take it

00:10:55.040 do you understand or or like i do have the choice i can i can just tolerate it like okay this is that

00:11:01.040 i can tolerate it but my point is is then i have a choice but before me making that choice i want to

00:11:07.040 sit down and understand i think if i had a man and he wasn't open about it in the first place and i

00:11:12.160 found him doing it i'd have issues then i'll be angry yeah that's that i'd have issues then but if i knew

00:11:17.120 if he said to me in the beginning that when i thought oh yeah sometimes i watch this i would

00:11:20.560 like okay then when i know you stand to me whether i'll stay with you or not yeah i want to know what

00:11:25.040 i want to know like you know what kind can you imagine you know i've been with you for x amount

00:11:29.200 of years and you're saying i've always watched it and i'm like and i'm now you know i'm out of there

00:11:36.320 but then that's choosing to hide it no yeah but that's right but that's when that's when i may get

00:11:40.320 angry yeah i agree but if it's happening we're gonna talk about it okay i just think a lot of times

00:11:48.320 like from the men's point of view it's like we want them to be exclusive to us which is like

00:11:54.880 compromising on their mating strategy which is to spread their seed but on the same time like when

00:11:59.280 they try to watch and i'm not saying you specifically i don't know your marriage or whatever yeah but

00:12:03.440 like when when you tell them that they can't even watch corn and that's cheating too it's like well what

00:12:07.920 do you want from me what can i do so i just tell them straight whatever they're doing on there i would

00:12:13.040 try it with you yeah i will auntie's ready to meet them in the middle yeah i will try it with

00:12:19.280 you you know i mean like you want to pick up some tips but then i'm gonna watch it let's let's have

00:12:23.040 a go what's another freaky stuff you know i mean don't slap me either yeah

00:12:31.520 i feel like corn has saved a lot of marriages i've had a partner show me something and be like

00:12:37.200 like let's try this really yeah were you down or were you mad she was down she was down i was down

00:12:47.120 but i it wasn't a case where i i didn't know that he wasn't watching it because i knew he watched it

00:12:52.480 or he'd sometimes be like oh look at this like he'd send it to me and be like i don't know how i'd feel

00:12:57.200 if my partner showed me really if he sent you events and let's try this tonight i don't know

00:13:02.240 i feel like i would be like i'm not saying i would be against it but i i don't know i think

00:13:07.280 there's bad i don't know obviously everyone's different but to me for me personally there's

00:13:11.200 boundaries you could be watching it and doing all this but if you're putting more attention on that

00:13:16.160 than me then it's an issue i think that's a bad reminder mine is tell me the first place because

00:13:22.640 if i find it later on we're done it's just a slippery slope yeah yeah just tell me who you are

00:13:27.360 yeah show me introduce me to you and i'll choose if i want to be yeah i'm gonna show you who i am

00:13:34.080 yeah yeah i agree if as long as you're transparent then there's no issue what do you want just let me

00:13:39.600 know no freaky stuff either yeah yeah it's definitely important to ask which kind what to ask which kind

00:13:48.880 yeah which uh because there's different levels and you find that women might accept up might 1.00

00:13:53.440 i accept some levels but then yeah because if you're watching certain stuff i'm just like it's

00:13:59.200 like yeah yeah that's that's who they are as well yeah that's like a sicko who should be in my house

00:14:05.760 your interest i feel like that's a topic of conversation that you talk about no yeah i know 100

00:14:11.040 like i want to know i've never had that conversation though yeah i've never had that conversation with a

00:14:16.560 man i've had it what what they're into yeah not not in corn i'm saying in in general in the bedroom

00:14:24.240 like oh yeah you know what they like and what they don't like i'm up for anything because you're my

00:14:28.400 man in it but no freaky stuff that's different that's not in copying nobody that's me getting

00:14:35.120 freaky there's a big difference yeah okay i'm gonna take a second to read super chats guys um like the video

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00:15:07.520 shapely pearl oh yeah they gave me a good my cartoon has such a good body guys i was like i do not look

00:15:16.000 like that but i will take it she's got bum chest hips and yeah yeah yeah i was i was like thank you 1.00

00:15:25.040 okay um maggie the substitute teacher um 30 for a whole week of groceries um russ thank you for the

00:15:33.440 super chat liberty now cheers to england hello from america question for england what is

00:15:37.360 the definition of liberty and doesn't matter please be specific um james pritt found the woman of my

00:15:43.920 dreams got engaged but bedroom got cold started getting a lot of offers so i broke things off but

00:15:49.920 i didn't think i could trust myself haven't found anything close to that should i have just cheated no

00:15:56.960 he did good he did the right thing i mean because if they're if they're already having issues before

00:16:01.520 they're married it's not gonna be free um okay maggie the substitute tissue teacher new to the show 0.96

00:16:09.120 just saying hello to pearl blessing and auntie jenny appreciate you all um eugene steel i am not

00:16:14.400 considering myself a passport bro but i wouldn't mind traveling to the uk to meet the woman in olive green

00:16:20.400 oh you have a she's single um sentience um men are required to be gentle with women because they're

00:16:32.320 not the same well the oh i think i read this one already okay let me refresh it really quick guys

00:16:37.920 um also guys i think we're gonna do i know i know i announced that i was gonna do our one million party

00:16:44.880 next month i was too ambitious okay i was very ambitious i was like let's do it next month we can

00:16:51.040 do it it's happening in june i think junetown i'm gonna finalize it this week but yeah yeah it's not

00:16:57.120 happening next month sorry guys too much planning yeah underestimated how much work it is yeah i didn't

00:17:03.600 realize how much like it takes to throw an event together and like the tickets and every yeah that was

00:17:09.520 that was my fault um okay i'm trying to think of my next question actually um

00:17:20.560 oh no if they when they get married what kind of wife do they think they're gonna be 1.00

00:17:24.960 oh that's a good question auntie go ahead and start there

00:17:33.360 definitely a calm wife i know that sounds like what is a calm wife but just someone who like 1.00

00:17:38.640 keeps the home peaceful no outside dramas um and just a loving nurturing place like i want like

00:17:50.400 i know in the uk you get like that i think it's like 10 to 12 months or something for your maternity

00:17:55.840 leave i want at least the two the first two and a half years just with my kids at home and i kind

00:18:02.400 of want them close in age and just i know it sounds so like cliche and like the cooking and the cleaning

00:18:09.360 but i just want it to be a place where my man can feel like he can be a man and like he's in his role

00:18:14.480 and he's masculine and i can be in my feminine and just be a mother and a wife there's that's literally

00:18:20.160 what i want what do you think you're gonna get that's what i'm going to get okay yeah but that's what

00:18:27.040 i'm going to get i but i need a man who wants to be a husband and wants to do that role i can't have

00:18:34.480 a man who wants me to also be like so what would your like day-to-day like life look like if you're

00:18:39.920 in that role like what would you be doing right from the time you wake up in the morning with the

00:18:44.080 two kids at six o'clock in the morning what's your day gonna be like well i have my my own daily

00:18:50.480 structures and then that can just put me in the mind frame of doing what i need to do and with kids you

00:18:56.000 know it's never gonna no day is gonna look the same but what do you mean like what does it look

00:19:02.320 like feeding them cooking cleaning like give us your rota yes like all right then you wake up at

00:19:07.680 five o'clock in the morning one baby screaming right you've got to get your husband ready for work

00:19:11.840 you you have a guy across from you makes 250 000 a year he says you know you could be my you could

00:19:16.640 be my housewife what are you going to do for me go cook clean make sure the kids are looked after 1.00

00:19:23.520 and when i say and also make keep myself together and in order to describe your normal day from

00:19:28.320 start to finish okay so i wake up a vj like get stuff out in my journal meditate do my like seven

00:19:38.160 self-care pillars cold shower if that means i gotta wake up at four because the kid wants to scream at

00:19:43.200 five then i gotta do that one two kids one might be on school one might be nursery or two under two i don't

00:19:50.720 know um homeschooled homeschooled until what age me doing it or like someone comes in oh i do you

00:20:01.120 know i've never um actually thought about like what that would look like but i would be happy to

00:20:07.280 i've never thought about what that would look like i've always just kind of had in my head that

00:20:11.280 my kids would be at home until about three four i personally don't want my kids going to nursery at

00:20:16.160 two i know that's like this kind of extended age but i i want to be at home with my kids at two years

00:20:22.000 old so about three four they can like start going to to other people i okay my kids can't be looked

00:20:29.440 after by other people until they can put a sentence together yeah like that that's it until they can

00:20:36.640 understand like their body in terms of like for that age they're not being looked after by anyone and

00:20:43.440 i need a man who gets that who says you know what yeah i agree i i don't want a man to think oh

00:20:49.920 you doing that means you're going to live off of me no i'm doing this because of the nurturing and

00:20:54.480 the foundation i want for my kids and them going into the world if the child is really ill and you

00:20:59.600 go to bed at midnight are you still going to get about four o'clock in the morning to go through your

00:21:03.360 whole yeah i'm just thinking myself you would love to have that couple of hours in the morning to do

00:21:08.640 all of that all of that stuff it just sounds amazing if they're sick if they're sick sorry

00:21:14.320 a bit sorry i mean no i mean because you're going to say you're going to get up at four

00:21:17.200 o'clock in the morning if i had to because um i heard you're doing a lot of talking but i heard

00:21:21.520 you say about your day yet it's been a lot of i don't know i want to i want to say what i want

00:21:27.200 to hear right like you said you get up at four o'clock in the morning you do all of your stuff your for

00:21:32.320 you what time is that finish 45 minutes to an hour all right then so five o'clock we can do that

00:21:40.960 i mean i'm not a mother so i don't exactly know what that looks like but i know that i'm prepared to

00:21:46.480 do whatever it takes to be the mother that i know that i want to be so i i can't how have you how have

00:21:52.240 you prepared what do you mean no i said i i'm prepared to do it okay so like i would have to teach

00:21:58.480 you what do you mean so you i'm saying so then he would have to teach you you're prepared to do it

00:22:04.320 but you're not telling me what it is yeah i i yeah i i don't know exactly i know it takes a lot

00:22:10.480 emotionally mentally physically um and i'm ready to and i'm prepared to go through it i i want to go

00:22:16.960 through it because i want to be a mother have you got nieces and nephews um i do do you babysit a lot

00:22:22.720 not not like that no would you be able to if you could yeah i could it's half term this week

00:22:28.160 try it try it for a day yeah all of them try having them for a day yeah i would i would and

00:22:34.720 let me know how you can i would be down for it let me know how you go i think my my siblings that

00:22:39.760 they they range in a massive range so i want you to have all the ones under five okay and let me know

00:22:47.760 how you get on for a full day no parents involving but in the morning they drop off to the evening

00:22:51.920 bedtime i would love to do that let me know how you get on i'd love to know okay so then we get

00:22:57.760 five a.m so the kids like i don't know how long the day is going to be but i know it's going to be

00:23:02.000 long because yeah because the thing is what he gives up do you know i mean because and then it's like

00:23:08.000 you know finding time to like have your shower and all that and you might not even have time to to do

00:23:12.320 all of that stuff and then to you know have dinner ready for when he gets home like i i know it's going

00:23:18.720 to be stressful i know it's not going to be an easy job like i'm not even gonna pretend like i'm

00:23:23.600 deluded on that but i just can't wait to be in it i think you need to start practicing now that's

00:23:28.400 what i mean yeah it sounds wonderful because i can't wait till we get down to the end so you can

00:23:33.440 hear what it's really like

JustPearlyThings - May 29, 2023

Modern Women DON’T UNDERSTAND Motherhood

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