JustPearlyThings - June 08, 2023


Modern Women Like to FEEL Entitled @AuntyJenny


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In this episode we talk about Jeff Bezos cheating on his wife and why she stayed with him. We also talk about why a woman should have left her first husband after he cheated on her and what she should have done about it.

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00:00:00.000 Oh, do you everyone know who Jeff Bezos is?
00:00:02.000 Auntie, you don't?
00:00:04.000 Amazon girl.
00:00:06.000 So he's one of the richest
00:00:08.000 He's one of the richest men on the planet.
00:00:12.000 And so about a couple years ago, it came out that he was cheating on his wife at the time.
00:00:19.000 And his wife was there from the beginning.
00:00:21.000 So they've been together, I don't know, like 20 years, something like that.
00:00:24.000 And she divorced him, took half the money, and got remarried. 0.55
00:00:30.000 And at the time, everyone was saying, oh, it was so sweet.
00:00:32.000 She married a teacher.
00:00:34.000 And it all seemed like, you know, she got the fairytale ending.
00:00:36.000 However, she is now divorcing her second husband.
00:00:41.000 So, knowing that women typically don't do well 0.99
00:00:47.000 when they date someone that's like less than their ex in their head,
00:00:51.000 should she have stayed with Jeff, knowing that she can't do better?
00:00:56.000 I guess she wouldn't have known.
00:00:58.000 What?
00:01:00.000 Bill Gates, didn't he get divorced as well?
00:01:02.000 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:01:03.000 I guess she wouldn't have known she can't do better until she knows that she can't do better.
00:01:07.000 She's like in her 40s. 0.99
00:01:08.000 Yeah, but you don't know.
00:01:09.000 Because you know what?
00:01:10.000 A billionaire?
00:01:11.000 We know people think, you know, the grass is greener.
00:01:13.000 And if you're in that circle, like, you're, I guess you're, what you're, like, the people you're, you've got accessible to, you know, are different.
00:01:21.000 You're in a different ballgame.
00:01:22.000 Like, you know, if you date a celebrity, I am now in this world, I've got access to have a bitterness, I guess.
00:01:27.000 So she wouldn't have known she couldn't do better when she's already in that world.
00:01:31.000 A teacher?
00:01:32.000 A bit.
00:01:33.000 I mean, well, she knows that now.
00:01:35.000 But she probably thought the teacher won't cheat on her. 1.00
00:01:37.000 So she probably thought it's better for her to date.
00:01:39.000 So why did they, why did they split up?
00:01:41.000 Because he cheated.
00:01:42.000 Is that it?
00:01:43.000 No, I don't know why.
00:01:44.000 No, them two.
00:01:45.000 Because he cheated.
00:01:46.000 He cheated.
00:01:47.000 And that's why she left him?
00:01:48.000 Yeah, yeah.
00:01:49.000 False.
00:01:50.000 Because she wanted half of his fortune.
00:01:51.000 Well, why?
00:01:52.000 But she's incentivized to. 1.00
00:01:53.000 She became the richest woman in the world just for divorcing him.
00:01:55.000 But wait.
00:01:56.000 Why is that such a bad thing?
00:01:57.000 Wait, wait, guys.
00:01:58.000 One at a time.
00:01:59.000 One at a time.
00:02:00.000 Auntie, go ahead. 1.00
00:02:01.000 He cheated.
00:02:02.000 Did they say that he was cheating?
00:02:04.000 He stepped out.
00:02:05.000 How do you know? 0.93
00:02:06.000 Maybe she won't give him no sex. 0.99
00:02:08.000 But she could have forgiven him. 0.66
00:02:09.000 Talk about it.
00:02:10.000 Look how long they've been together.
00:02:11.000 They've been together long. 1.00
00:02:12.000 No, but you were saying that if a woman stays, she's stupid then. 1.00
00:02:15.000 So if she stayed with him after he cheated, would she not be stupid? 1.00
00:02:19.000 And look what she done. 1.00
00:02:20.000 And look what she done. 1.00
00:02:21.000 Made more of a fool of herself. 1.00
00:02:22.000 She might as well stay there and work it out. 1.00
00:02:24.000 Auntie didn't say you're stupid. 1.00
00:02:26.000 She says the girls are stupid when they get back with the guy and then complain about 1.00
00:02:30.000 him cheating. 1.00
00:02:31.000 So like you make his life a living hell.
00:02:33.000 You chose to get back with him.
00:02:35.000 Maybe she couldn't forgive him and then put it back.
00:02:38.000 Yeah, maybe she couldn't forgive him.
00:02:39.000 She couldn't let go, yeah.
00:02:40.000 So she has to leave.
00:02:41.000 Maybe she's just thinking about the money she would get if she divorced him.
00:02:43.000 That she could start again.
00:02:44.000 I think that.
00:02:45.000 But she should have gone and find another billionaire to match her money then. 0.99
00:02:48.000 I do think he was wrong though.
00:02:50.000 Because I do believe that if a woman was there from the start, then you owe her that level
00:02:55.000 of loyalty for helping you get to the position that you got to. 1.00
00:02:57.000 I only believe that if he remarries or finds a new woman, then he just do the fuck you like 0.99
00:03:02.000 because she's buying into a lifestyle that she could never have. 1.00
00:03:05.000 She just got lucky.
00:03:06.000 I don't want to know if she gets divorced. 1.00
00:03:07.000 Has she got to give the teacher half?
00:03:08.000 Nah, of course not.
00:03:09.000 She'll be smart to do a prenup. 1.00
00:03:10.000 Just joking.
00:03:11.000 Yeah, sure.
00:03:12.000 I hope she did a prenup. 0.62
00:03:13.000 Well, she didn't smart enough to not. 0.99
00:03:14.000 Why do you hope she did a prenup? 0.85
00:03:15.000 So it's nice for her to take that, but it's not nice for someone to do it to her.
00:03:19.000 Yeah, because the teacher didn't help her from the beginning, did he?
00:03:22.000 Exactly.
00:03:23.000 She didn't get that money from the beginning. 0.58
00:03:26.000 Yeah, she helped her husband in the first marriage.
00:03:28.000 But that's why she got what she got.
00:03:29.000 But she didn't like... 0.93
00:03:31.000 She didn't build Amazon. 1.00
00:03:32.000 Yeah, yeah.
00:03:33.000 She didn't make the money. 0.99
00:03:34.000 She took care of the family.
00:03:35.000 She did her part.
00:03:36.000 Yeah, but is that, come on, half his fortune?
00:03:38.000 You're telling me if it was her, she could have built Amazon by herself?
00:03:41.000 No.
00:03:42.000 She didn't do that. 0.99
00:03:43.000 No, but that was their partnership, right?
00:03:44.000 Yeah.
00:03:45.000 That was what they worked together.
00:03:46.000 It's like men, when they used to pay off the mortgage, when women then divorced, they were entitled 0.97
00:03:51.000 to half, only because they couldn't earn.
00:03:53.000 Exactly.
00:03:54.000 I held it down for you to be able to build that fortune.
00:03:56.000 You know, the thing is, right?
00:03:57.000 So, why are you entitled to his money?
00:03:58.000 Like, that's so much...
00:03:59.000 Like, I'm just thinking from the man's point of view, like, if I'm building this business,
00:04:03.000 right, and I have a boyfriend or a husband, right, why would he leave and get half if I
00:04:09.000 built it?
00:04:10.000 So, why do women feel entitled? 1.00
00:04:12.000 Because with them, yeah, say they've got children.
00:04:15.000 He obviously had to work, like, tirelessly to build Amazon, right?
00:04:18.000 She was probably... 0.93
00:04:19.000 I don't know the situation, I don't know the story, but let's just say she was at home.
00:04:23.000 She held down the home for him to be able to build that.
00:04:27.000 I definitely deserve that.
00:04:28.000 It's not worth half of Amazon.
00:04:30.000 It is.
00:04:31.000 Billions of dollars?
00:04:32.000 To raise two kids?
00:04:33.000 Oh, come on. 0.87
00:04:34.000 I know something.
00:04:35.000 I grew up with nannies. 0.66
00:04:36.000 I grew up with nannies. 1.00
00:04:37.000 That shit's like $12 an hour. 1.00
00:04:39.000 Stop it. 1.00
00:04:40.000 Stop it.
00:04:41.000 Exactly.
00:04:42.000 You grew up with nannies, but not...
00:04:43.000 See, I don't know if they had nannies or whatever, but a woman staying at home to take 1.00
00:04:47.000 it's hard work.
00:04:48.000 That's why you had nannies. 1.00
00:04:49.000 Billions of dollars?
00:04:50.000 Billions of dollars?
00:04:51.000 You know, the thing is, right, is that she got half his money, but I would like to
00:04:58.000 see what he does with his half, because Amazon's still going to stay there. 1.00
00:05:02.000 I bet he still makes more money than she does with hers.
00:05:05.000 I bet sooner or later, she's got no money and he's still building on his.
00:05:09.000 She wants to give her money away. 1.00
00:05:11.000 That'd be cool.
00:05:12.000 Then she shouldn't have taken it in the first place.
00:05:13.000 Why?
00:05:14.000 Why should she not take it in the first place?
00:05:16.000 Why take it in the first place if you're not going to want it?
00:05:18.000 No, that's different.
00:05:19.000 I can take money from you and then give it to whoever I want to give it and spend it however
00:05:22.000 I want to spend it, but I'm not going to decline the money because I'm going to give it away.
00:05:25.000 I'd like to see her give it all away.
00:05:26.000 I don't think she should have got the money in the first place. 0.99
00:05:28.000 Can I say, I think Jeff Bezos doesn't give a fuck. 0.99
00:05:33.000 How about that? 0.99
00:05:34.000 Because simply because that's his ex-wife and she got half the money, but he's got his money and he knows he's going to make more.
00:05:42.000 That's not right to say. 0.99
00:05:43.000 He don't give a fuck because it's Jeff Bezos. 0.99
00:05:45.000 The average man has to give a fuck because that's his livelihood done. 0.99
00:05:49.000 I get you, but in context of the situation, I don't think Jeff Bezos, he doesn't care because at the end of the day. 1.00
00:05:58.000 Maybe she's miserable.
00:05:59.000 What about this?
00:06:00.000 What about this?
00:06:01.000 Would you rather you lose your money, yeah?
00:06:04.000 And you don't have to deal with that woman that's weighing you down for the rest of your life and you can make some more money and be happy and content.
00:06:11.000 I agree with you.
00:06:12.000 He's so rich.
00:06:13.000 I doubt he cares.
00:06:14.000 He's so rich.
00:06:15.000 But the point is like, why do as women we feel entitled to a man's money because you helped raise the kids? 0.97
00:06:21.000 No, but that's a law in the States, right?
00:06:22.000 This doesn't apply like in most other countries.
00:06:24.000 Okay, but we're not.
00:06:25.000 We're in the UK.
00:06:26.000 Yeah, even in the UK, women don't naturally. 1.00
00:06:28.000 That's not true.
00:06:29.000 I'll be honest.
00:06:30.000 In the UK.
00:06:31.000 That's not true.
00:06:32.000 That's not true.
00:06:33.000 Even, I don't necessarily know what it is for divorce, but from, I've heard a lot of like, I get DMs from people constantly and I've gotten horror stories from men in the UK.
00:06:42.000 And I do street interviews, horror stories of child support.
00:06:45.000 So it's, it's no different.
00:06:47.000 And you're in the West.
00:06:48.000 We're not talking about global.
00:06:49.000 If I have to give up my career for you to build something and then you cheat on me and we have to get divorced, big man, give me my money.
00:06:57.000 And that's how the courts see it.
00:07:00.000 And you're leaving because you feel like a ways.
00:07:02.000 No, no, no.
00:07:03.000 But that's how the courts see it.
00:07:04.000 The courts see it as it's fair for a woman to get this. 1.00
00:07:06.000 Like we're saying about the West.
00:07:07.000 The reason that this is a law is because the courts have decided, not women, that it's fair for women, especially where they couldn't maybe have an income back in the day. 1.00
00:07:14.000 The courts favour the women. 0.98
00:07:15.000 No, it's not that they favour.
00:07:16.000 No, no, no, no.
00:07:17.000 It's fair.
00:07:18.000 But the context is the court is a business.
00:07:20.000 It makes money.
00:07:21.000 Men pay into the court system. 0.89
00:07:23.000 I've said this before.
00:07:24.000 And then women claim legal aid, which is taxpayers money, which men are the taxpayers because they're working. 1.00
00:07:30.000 Right.
00:07:31.000 Then what happens is, is basically women get half of the man's money because he's working. 1.00
00:07:37.000 He has to pay the legal fees.
00:07:39.000 He has to pay child support, which also goes to the woman. 0.56
00:07:42.000 And then there's a level of entitlement that women think that they're entitled to it. 1.00
00:07:48.000 Why?
00:07:49.000 Your children, his children are entitled to it because they're the children, but you as a woman are not. 1.00
00:07:53.000 Yeah.
00:07:54.000 And again, coming back to the cultural differences, me, myself, in my faith, when you get married, the woman has a dowry and that's the only thing she's entitled to. 0.99
00:08:04.000 When she's married to the man, he pays for her upkeep and her life of what she had.
00:08:08.000 So if she started off as a millionaire's daughter, he needs to provide that lifestyle. 0.82
00:08:11.000 If she started off as on $10 a month, that's the minimum he has to offer. 0.75
00:08:15.000 When they get divorced, she's not entitled to any of his money or assets while she's working in the marriage.
00:08:21.000 She's her money is her money. 0.99
00:08:23.000 His money is their money, if that makes sense.
00:08:25.000 When they now divorce, she doesn't take any of his money or assets.
00:08:29.000 And if they have children, he has to pay responsibility for his children and his assets get divided to his children.
00:08:35.000 Nothing to her.
00:08:36.000 So naturally, I come from a thing where we have like a prenup, let's say.
00:08:40.000 Because a woman can't marry as a gold digger. 1.00
00:08:44.000 This country, this or these concepts have come from where courts have decided it's fair for women to get this much because when they're left, they're left with nothing. 1.00
00:08:52.000 Yeah, but it's called business because men pay into. 0.52
00:08:56.000 Listen, have you ever been to court?
00:08:58.000 Have you ever actually had to pay?
00:09:00.000 If you realize the amount that people have to pay, for example, with children, there's a lot of money that goes into the court system.
00:09:10.000 This isn't a recent, this is a recent rule.
00:09:13.000 This wasn't around 200 years ago.
00:09:14.000 What?
00:09:15.000 Men and women dividing their assets when they divorce.
00:09:18.000 They won't get into divorce.
00:09:19.000 There's also nothing stopping women from working today. 1.00
00:09:23.000 Exactly.
00:09:24.000 But the courts do take that into consideration.
00:09:26.000 I'll put it like this.
00:09:27.000 When women say they're a single mother. 1.00
00:09:29.000 Yeah.
00:09:30.000 They're not a single mother.
00:09:32.000 They're a woman with children. 0.99
00:09:34.000 Yeah.
00:09:35.000 And then they become available if they want to.
00:09:37.000 Right.
00:09:38.000 If a man is, if a man wants to look after his kids and you are separated, you're not a single mother.
00:09:45.000 She's a single woman.
00:09:46.000 Yeah.
00:09:47.000 And she's a single woman.
00:09:48.000 But in the court, she'll say, I'm a single mother.
00:09:50.000 I need the money to look after the kids, blah, blah, blah.
00:09:53.000 Right.
00:09:54.000 And she has control of how the money is spent so she can spend it on what she wants. 1.00
00:09:59.000 And she's incentivized to not let the man see the kids. 1.00
00:10:02.000 Like she's literally paid to because she gets more child support if the father doesn't see the kids. 1.00
00:10:07.000 Yeah.
00:10:08.000 And I think that's toxic women who put themselves before their children, which is not. 1.00
00:10:11.000 But it's business.
00:10:12.000 Yeah. But again, a woman has to look at herself and say, what if, like you said, it's about her children from then.
00:10:17.000 If she then thinks about herself, that's her as a woman.
00:10:20.000 Okay.
00:10:21.000 But I can flip it back to the earlier conversation when we were saying about the whole dynamic that we were talking about, where it was I, I, I, I, I.
00:10:28.000 And that comes into play because the woman is not thinking about the children. 0.99
00:10:32.000 She's thinking about herself, how she feels at that given time.
00:10:36.000 No, no.
00:10:37.000 Based, no, no, real.
00:10:38.000 But based on looking through the phone, getting angry, all these feelings, what's happened, the projections that have happened, the lack of, no, emotional management.
00:10:48.000 And then when you're in, no, no, no.
00:10:50.000 When you're in the courthouse, remember, you have to provide evidence in court for why you want to see your children.
00:10:57.000 Right. If a woman says, this is, I don't want my partner or ex to see my kids because he's abusive, he's toxic.
00:11:03.000 He sent me these messages on social media.
00:11:05.000 He did this, this and this and screenshots were given to the court.
00:11:09.000 She could put in an injunction without that, just that evidence alone.
00:11:13.000 Now that man has to pay to get the injunctions removed, prove his innocence, then pay to see his kids and pay, pay for his children, even though he's not seeing them.
00:11:23.000 Okay.
00:11:24.000 So then he's financially drained.
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