JustPearlyThings - Things Got HEATED with Pearl And THIS Modern Woman

00:00:00.000 um okay i have a question that i was gonna ask um do you think men are the biggest threat to women

00:00:09.920 or the biggest protectors of women protectors i think you know my answer to that

00:00:20.160 i would say protectors because a woman is not going to protect me 1.00

00:00:23.760 no offense but you're you're 20. if we was to have this conversation was he 20 sorry yeah if

00:00:28.880 you was to have this conversation i'm not saying your experiences are irrelevant i'm not i'm just

00:00:34.320 saying i know at 20 i had a completely different mindset to you and once and this is why men

00:00:39.440 but younger women because they're a little bit more naive 1.00

00:00:46.400 easier to manipulate they have to deal with they like you that's trauma

00:00:51.840 i've seen a lot of things i've seen there's enough i've seen a lot of things

00:00:55.120 though that generational trauma no there's statistics why why would a guy want a traumatized

00:00:59.920 wife right why would he pick that why would a woman want an abuser why is your immediate reaction

00:01:06.240 because why are you throwing that out there like no one wants no no one wants a traumatized person

00:01:10.880 i'm not saying a man should the man should sell for that at all but a man's got to step back and

00:01:14.880 realize that he's part of the problem older okay why would a man who has never abused you be part of

00:01:19.600 the problem i'm white i'm part of the problem you're american you're a white woman you're part of the 0.65

00:01:23.680 problem how are you going to sit there what is the problem actually no no no i want you to stand

00:01:29.440 on that what what problem am i a part of do you think that being white and a woman has benefited your

00:01:37.200 life do i think being white and a woman has has has it gone in your favor being a white woman because 0.98

00:01:43.920 i know statistically if i was to go missing tonight on the way home and and you did they're going to be

00:01:48.720 looking for me more than you i know that that's not fair but that is the way it is right and and

00:01:54.960 that that's what baffles me is when we could talk about race we can see it like that but like when

00:02:00.400 we can like i said to you earlier like i'm english i know full well if i'm out and people are slow in

00:02:05.600 the english i ain't got nothing to say what can i say it's true but but you're you're making the

00:02:09.680 assumption that that men are slaughtering women and that's just not the case and even if you're going

00:02:15.680 you're going to talk about me what did i do what do you mean like what did you do what because you're

00:02:21.520 saying you're part of the problem but like how how what we are we are because okay who's who's who's

00:02:28.400 who's gonna be the ones to end racism black people or white people it'd be like me sitting there saying

00:02:33.120 to you you tell your son okay okay but but otherwise they ain't gonna get they ain't gonna get

00:02:37.840 racial abuse you tell you it's on your end that's what it's like saying but if i if i'm not racist

00:02:43.280 how am i part of the problem because you've benefited no i understand what you're saying

00:02:47.520 and i agree like that's like if anything like i i have a whole team in nigeria that works for me

00:02:54.080 and literally i've changed their lives like they live like kings but why did you change their lives

00:02:58.480 is it not because of colonization i wasn't how is it it's not colonization was in nigeria it was because

00:03:04.320 it was because i trained them on how to cut clips and make them i understand what you're saying

00:03:09.920 i helped them get a skill that could make them a lot of but even the way you said it like i made

00:03:14.000 their life there is a bit it was a bit like white complex no it's not white complex but that's the 0.71

00:03:18.160 way it comes across okay it's not it's not what i'm asking you said i'm part of the problem but i

00:03:22.960 but the thing is what problem just like if we're talking about race we're talking about racism okay so

00:03:28.400 the problem but i'm saying if i'm not racist how am i a part of the problem because i would imagine at

00:03:34.400 some pay at some point you've enabled some sort of racism why are you making that assumption because

00:03:39.920 i'm i'm white and i'm aware of that towards me like have you enabled i think i've been in situations

00:03:47.920 where i've heard someone or something being said and i haven't addressed it like i should okay i'll

00:03:53.760 admit that because to me they're a bit thick right they are thick not a bit so i know i'm arguing with

00:03:59.280 stupid do you see what i mean that's their opinion but i appreciate that is the problem because 0.60

00:04:04.320 because i should be more vocal and say hey what the you're talking about instead of just ignoring

00:04:08.800 it but i'm saying if you did that that's a you problem why are you projecting that because i

00:04:15.280 think i think if you're white and you're saying that you've never done that i think you're a bit

00:04:19.040 of a liar if that i've never done what i think if you've been in a situation where you've seen racism

00:04:24.320 where you've heard something and you haven't pulled someone up on it i think you're lying if i saw

00:04:28.400 something racist i would say something but that's the thing i think at some point in your life you

00:04:31.920 probably haven't and that's what i'm trying to say why are you making that assumption when you

00:04:35.040 don't know me why are you making certain assumptions about me when you don't know me i haven't made any

00:04:39.280 assumptions about you traumatized i said older women are traumatized more traumatized than younger women

00:04:48.080 in general i never said anything about you oh oh because i thought earlier there was like a common

00:04:53.840 thing about this sounds like trauma if i said that it sounds like trauma it was based off of things you

00:04:59.920 said i wouldn't make i wouldn't make i wouldn't make an assumption about you that was not based

00:05:05.840 off of things you said yeah should tell you what's hard to listen to though is that is that you will

00:05:10.320 say that about that the trauma or whatnot but if i say to you i i don't think women are safe walking 0.76

00:05:15.760 home late at night or whatnot one first of all you're quick to put it on me and i should move and i

00:05:20.400 should do this and i should do that but at the same time you're not really addressing where i'm coming

00:05:26.080 from because you're quickly saying i'm saying based on the words that come out of your mouth

00:05:34.480 you blame men for things yeah and i say why don't you take accountability and if you are feel unsafe

00:05:40.880 walking home alone why don't why don't you live somewhere else i think because i i believe in taking

00:05:46.720 personal accountability for where your life is and for me um i i don't you you see where i'm at i don't

00:05:54.240 live in the best area but i made sure i lived in a place with security so i could feel safe but you

00:05:59.520 kind of you probably have more choices than me i i don't know but i i'm gonna say i'm but i'm saying

00:06:05.200 i'm saying i can imagine that there is a lot of places to live in in england and you there was not

00:06:12.400 one apartment that you were you had a gun to your head and they said you must live here but that's what

00:06:17.200 happens with the council you you beat what what is the council you don't know what council has no

00:06:22.160 i don't i don't i'm not okay okay social security that's that's fine it's like it's like it's like

00:06:28.960 section eight housing oh it's like government housing yeah government housing yeah okay okay

00:06:34.800 but that's based off of choices that you made to get in that situation but this is this is

00:06:39.600 victim blaming i'm sorry you have no idea it's personal it's personal accountability you're 32

00:06:46.800 it's you're 32. so that means you you've been working since 18. you could have chosen to get

00:06:52.560 married you could have never wanted to get married okay okay but yeah but it's a choice that's the

00:06:57.840 whole point that is the whole point it's not that you're punished but you're making other people

00:07:03.520 pay for your bad decisions the government and people pay taxes into the government if it's the same

00:07:08.720 way it's in the us i don't completely understand section eight but if it's government assistant

00:07:13.440 housing that is you not being financially responsible and you put yourself in that situation

00:07:18.800 but this is what i'm kind of saying i didn't want to say this to you because i knew you would say this

00:07:22.480 and it weren't because i was avoiding responsibility we can have a talk after and talk about my situation

00:07:25.920 that's fine but the problem is you are directing it more at me than anything else i feel like the problem

00:07:31.760 is with what's going on is that you're based in your scenario like just i don't know what's happening

00:07:39.440 in your life or whatever and i respect it but um my joy i don't know just by the little i'm not saying

00:07:48.720 little but there probably was like i don't know how many men you've probably been abused or you know by

00:07:55.040 but you're judging that no but this is what i tried to say earlier i'm not stupid so if i was the

00:08:01.600 only person i've never known to have been followed home or touched i wouldn't have these opinions

00:08:06.480 yeah but no no there's so many men in the world there are so many men in the world there is but

00:08:10.960 you've also got men that are raping killing and graping and killing and not getting the repercussions

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JustPearlyThings - June 09, 2023

Things Got HEATED with Pearl And THIS Modern Woman

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