Things Got HEATED with Pearl And THIS Modern Woman
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss racism in the black community and how it affects the way of thinking of black people and the way we perceive racism in our society. We also discuss the role of race in society and the impact it has had on our perception of race.
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um okay i have a question that i was gonna ask um do you think men are the biggest threat to women
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or the biggest protectors of women protectors i think you know my answer to that
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i would say protectors because a woman is not going to protect me
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no offense but you're you're 20. if we was to have this conversation was he 20 sorry yeah if
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you was to have this conversation i'm not saying your experiences are irrelevant i'm not i'm just
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saying i know at 20 i had a completely different mindset to you and once and this is why men
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but younger women because they're a little bit more naive
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easier to manipulate they have to deal with they like you that's trauma
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i've seen a lot of things i've seen there's enough i've seen a lot of things
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though that generational trauma no there's statistics why why would a guy want a traumatized
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wife right why would he pick that why would a woman want an abuser why is your immediate reaction
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because why are you throwing that out there like no one wants no no one wants a traumatized person
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i'm not saying a man should the man should sell for that at all but a man's got to step back and
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realize that he's part of the problem older okay why would a man who has never abused you be part of
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the problem i'm white i'm part of the problem you're american you're a white woman you're part of the
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problem how are you going to sit there what is the problem actually no no no i want you to stand
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on that what what problem am i a part of do you think that being white and a woman has benefited your
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life do i think being white and a woman has has has it gone in your favor being a white woman because
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i know statistically if i was to go missing tonight on the way home and and you did they're going to be
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looking for me more than you i know that that's not fair but that is the way it is right and and
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that that's what baffles me is when we could talk about race we can see it like that but like when
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we can like i said to you earlier like i'm english i know full well if i'm out and people are slow in
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the english i ain't got nothing to say what can i say it's true but but you're you're making the
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assumption that that men are slaughtering women and that's just not the case and even if you're going
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you're going to talk about me what did i do what do you mean like what did you do what because you're
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saying you're part of the problem but like how how what we are we are because okay who's who's who's
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who's gonna be the ones to end racism black people or white people it'd be like me sitting there saying
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to you you tell your son okay okay but but otherwise they ain't gonna get they ain't gonna get
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racial abuse you tell you it's on your end that's what it's like saying but if i if i'm not racist
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how am i part of the problem because you've benefited no i understand what you're saying
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and i agree like that's like if anything like i i have a whole team in nigeria that works for me
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and literally i've changed their lives like they live like kings but why did you change their lives
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is it not because of colonization i wasn't how is it it's not colonization was in nigeria it was because
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it was because i trained them on how to cut clips and make them i understand what you're saying
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i helped them get a skill that could make them a lot of but even the way you said it like i made
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their life there is a bit it was a bit like white complex no it's not white complex but that's the
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way it comes across okay it's not it's not what i'm asking you said i'm part of the problem but i
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but the thing is what problem just like if we're talking about race we're talking about racism okay so
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the problem but i'm saying if i'm not racist how am i a part of the problem because i would imagine at
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some pay at some point you've enabled some sort of racism why are you making that assumption because
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i'm i'm white and i'm aware of that towards me like have you enabled i think i've been in situations
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where i've heard someone or something being said and i haven't addressed it like i should okay i'll
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admit that because to me they're a bit thick right they are thick not a bit so i know i'm arguing with
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stupid do you see what i mean that's their opinion but i appreciate that is the problem because
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because i should be more vocal and say hey what the you're talking about instead of just ignoring
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it but i'm saying if you did that that's a you problem why are you projecting that because i
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think i think if you're white and you're saying that you've never done that i think you're a bit
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of a liar if that i've never done what i think if you've been in a situation where you've seen racism
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where you've heard something and you haven't pulled someone up on it i think you're lying if i saw
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something racist i would say something but that's the thing i think at some point in your life you
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probably haven't and that's what i'm trying to say why are you making that assumption when you
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don't know me why are you making certain assumptions about me when you don't know me i haven't made any
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assumptions about you traumatized i said older women are traumatized more traumatized than younger women
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in general i never said anything about you oh oh because i thought earlier there was like a common
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thing about this sounds like trauma if i said that it sounds like trauma it was based off of things you
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said i wouldn't make i wouldn't make i wouldn't make an assumption about you that was not based
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off of things you said yeah should tell you what's hard to listen to though is that is that you will
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say that about that the trauma or whatnot but if i say to you i i don't think women are safe walking
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home late at night or whatnot one first of all you're quick to put it on me and i should move and i
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should do this and i should do that but at the same time you're not really addressing where i'm coming
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from because you're quickly saying i'm saying based on the words that come out of your mouth
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you blame men for things yeah and i say why don't you take accountability and if you are feel unsafe
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walking home alone why don't why don't you live somewhere else i think because i i believe in taking
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personal accountability for where your life is and for me um i i don't you you see where i'm at i don't
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live in the best area but i made sure i lived in a place with security so i could feel safe but you
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kind of you probably have more choices than me i i don't know but i i'm gonna say i'm but i'm saying
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i'm saying i can imagine that there is a lot of places to live in in england and you there was not
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one apartment that you were you had a gun to your head and they said you must live here but that's what
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happens with the council you you beat what what is the council you don't know what council has no
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i don't i don't i'm not okay okay social security that's that's fine it's like it's like it's like
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section eight housing oh it's like government housing yeah government housing yeah okay okay
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but that's based off of choices that you made to get in that situation but this is this is
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victim blaming i'm sorry you have no idea it's personal it's personal accountability you're 32
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it's you're 32. so that means you you've been working since 18. you could have chosen to get
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married you could have never wanted to get married okay okay but yeah but it's a choice that's the
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whole point that is the whole point it's not that you're punished but you're making other people
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pay for your bad decisions the government and people pay taxes into the government if it's the same
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way it's in the us i don't completely understand section eight but if it's government assistant
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housing that is you not being financially responsible and you put yourself in that situation
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but this is what i'm kind of saying i didn't want to say this to you because i knew you would say this
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and it weren't because i was avoiding responsibility we can have a talk after and talk about my situation
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that's fine but the problem is you are directing it more at me than anything else i feel like the problem
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is with what's going on is that you're based in your scenario like just i don't know what's happening
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in your life or whatever and i respect it but um my joy i don't know just by the little i'm not saying
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little but there probably was like i don't know how many men you've probably been abused or you know by
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but you're judging that no but this is what i tried to say earlier i'm not stupid so if i was the
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only person i've never known to have been followed home or touched i wouldn't have these opinions
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yeah but no no there's so many men in the world there are so many men in the world there is but
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you've also got men that are raping killing and graping and killing and not getting the repercussions
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as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this
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