JustPearlyThings - June 08, 2023


Modern Women LOVE Toxic RELATIONSHIPS

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Modern Women Are RESPONSIBLE For BETA Men Things Got HEATED with Pearl And THIS Modern Woman

Episode Stats


Length

13 minutes

Words per minute

167.89

Word count

2,288

Sentence count

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Harmful content

Misogyny

20

sentences flagged

Toxicity

3

sentences flagged

Hate speech

4

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Summary

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In this episode, we talk about toxic relationships and how to deal with them. We discuss the toxic things we have done and the toxic people we have met in our relationships and what we would do if we found ourselves in a toxic one. We also talk about the most toxic thing we have ever done and how we dealt with it.

Transcript

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Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
Toxicity classifications generated with s-nlp/roberta_toxicity_classifier .
Hate speech classifications generated with facebook/roberta-hate-speech-dynabench-r4-target .
Hosts, guests, and mentioned names generated with spaCy (en_core_web_sm), reconciled against Wikidata.
00:00:00.000 so i i have a question have you ever been in a toxic relationship yes or no yeah and if yes
00:00:08.080 what is the most toxic thing he or she did and what is the most toxic thing you did
00:00:13.200 and yeah so yeah so um why don't you start eddie um toxic relationship yeah yeah i've been the one
00:00:23.040 what's the most toxic thing that i did
00:00:25.760 nothing it was all her it was mostly her store i'll be real yeah it was mostly her store nothing
00:00:37.440 it doesn't take two to tango i seriously i think probably the most toxic thing i did was i checked
00:00:42.240 the phone once that's probably the most toxic thing that i did so um i also have a whiteboard
00:00:48.720 for this part of the okay where i'm gonna write things on the whiteboard and we get to decide
00:00:53.680 as a group toxic or not and then the most toxic thing she told me because she told me that there
00:01:01.520 was like a scale of toxicity of crazy that she did like psycho that she did and she was the least 1.00
00:01:06.400 psycho thing she did was that she used to message me to ask if i was at home and then she would drive 1.00
00:01:11.200 past my window to check if i was actually in wow mad yeah actually that's the least of what she used to 0.99
00:01:15.440 to be yeah yeah yeah she's got time i don't know she used to she used to go up to girls that i knew 0.98
00:01:21.760 and be like just know that um i know you you're in the same class as eddie this is at uni i know you're
00:01:27.440 in the same class as eddie just just wanting to let you know that i know that she needs to get an sia
00:01:31.680 badge she'd walk past girls do that she's wasted she's wasted she's wasted 1.00
00:01:37.280 am i six call her but yeah mad oh what am i going to put on the board so wait what did you do that
00:01:42.640 was toxic that's what i said i checked the phone okay fine okay i'm trying to think i'm in my rolodex
00:01:50.000 you said in a relationship in a relationship mad listen speak your mind man is checking the phone
00:02:02.640 in a relationship toxic very hundred percent i want to do hands so if yes it's toxic raise your hand
00:02:11.680 in a phone okay you're looking for trouble
00:02:14.960 exactly when you when you when you seek you shall find in it but the only reason i did it
00:02:20.880 it's because she used to love doing it yeah so then so then she used to love doing it so one time
00:02:26.880 i said let me check your phone and she got bare defensive oh so i was like hmm something's fishy
00:02:34.720 and then when i preed it my heart sank bruv for real i my immune system shut down i got covid
00:02:40.480 before even called it happened yeah what'd you what'd you find the maddest texas the maddest
00:02:47.440 texas during the matting pictures just the whole do you know what most of all you just find bare lies
00:02:55.760 you just find bare lies saying you're in certain places when you're not and you're with certain
00:02:59.360 people and you're not it was long still okay what about driving did you say she drove by so she said
00:03:06.240 the least toxic thing the thing she could tell me the most sorry the least psycho thing she did that 1.00
00:03:10.880 she could tell me about no is that she would text me to check whether i was in and then she would 0.83
00:03:15.280 drive past my window to check if that my light was on if i was actually there bruh that's what i said
00:03:20.320 she got time okay raise your hands is checking to see where they are toxic 1.00
00:03:31.520 i'll put i know this was a close one but i'll put toxic i'm not gonna lie i went with many a friend
00:03:37.200 back in the day to do checks i remember walking into connell in tottenham in connell college using like a
00:03:45.520 guide you know like id to go and check for my friend to see if he was really there doing his
00:03:55.600 was he no that's crazy i wouldn't do it on on someone i was seeing but i helped my friend out
00:04:05.040 we were like 16. i just want to say i don't have the capacity cheats okay what what about you have
00:04:11.200 you ever been in a toxic relationship and if so what was the most toxic thing you both did okay so
00:04:17.360 yeah of course like because i think everyone said yes um most toxic thing i probably did in that
00:04:23.280 relationship was i mean at that time i was it was many years ago and i was using a lot of coke and
00:04:33.200 different drugs and things like that and i was basically convincing her to sell for me which was 1.00
00:04:40.160 hey hey ride or die i'm not i'm not gonna lie i wasn't expected that all right you know what toxic
00:04:48.480 or not toxic you know i don't think that's toxic i don't think that's toxic okay you know you could
00:04:54.080 say you could say you could say you could say hey hey we could phrase it the right way helping with
00:04:58.560 a business yeah that's literally what i was thinking she's supporting her man probably made it sound more 0.54
00:05:03.680 coercive than it was like when i was out of town she would when i was out of town she would do it for me 1.00
00:05:09.760 she was more than willing but i was still using her for that shut up that's not toxic that's not 1.00
00:05:15.280 toxic i don't think that's toxic well we're gonna raise hands anyway that's not about me
00:05:24.320 that's called joint enterprise
00:05:25.920 all right all right having your girl sell drugs for you raise your hand 1.00
00:05:31.440 toxic she agreed she wanted to make money did she want to make money and did it all go to her
00:05:36.720 your girl's a hustler bro i took the risk of sourcing it 1.00
00:05:40.480 did she did she say i don't know about this did you like you know no no there was no coercion
00:05:45.600 there was no okay okay okay all right all right we're trying this again we're trying to look at
00:05:51.920 that in two different ways all right we're guys guys we're trying this again raise your hand if
00:05:54.880 that's toxic i'm gonna put a like all right i'm a hustler i'm a hustler homie i'm gonna say i'm gonna 0.63
00:06:03.840 say no she's an entrepreneur that's it bro if i were you we kindled with her she's a she was a real one
00:06:11.840 she was a keeper bro we haven't got on to why she was toxic yet all right this is evidence she
00:06:17.200 probably rubbed your money or something i did something many years ago that they've got nothing
00:06:22.720 else for all right so so what'd you say um i would say yes evidence but the thing she did that was 1.00
00:06:28.800 toxic was she she didn't take responsibility for her emotions but what she would do is when she would
00:06:33.840 get upset she would do everything she could to try and make me lose my temper so she would like shout 1.00
00:06:38.640 and scream at my face and if i went i'm not having an argument and try and walked away
00:06:41.840 she would like follow me out into the street and like grab hold of me screaming and shouting the 1.00
00:06:46.000 road down trying to make out like you know you fucked up bro you meant to choke her and say bend over 1.00
00:06:50.640 and that will calm her down straight yeah choke and say babe shut up and then give her a little bit 1.00
00:06:56.640 of wood and see she don't say baby i love you baby i'm sorry i said that
00:07:02.640 okay so making him lose his temper yeah yeah yeah i'm just gonna put talk yeah yeah yeah okay so so what
00:07:32.400 about what about you no bro say with chest
00:07:41.600 come on
00:07:44.560 he lied he lied he lied to be fair he lied about his name
00:07:49.520 making him making him babysit while i went to go cheek with my sugar daddy
00:07:58.720 i need to take another second of a kobe test
00:08:01.920 i think my immune system's playing up
00:08:09.120 so so no women scare me man i had the reason to be scared this is why i'm scared this dude was a
00:08:15.280 whole different someone with a fake passport okay okay and a baby and a baby in ghana
00:08:24.080 so
00:08:24.480 that was compensation what you still did was worse yo yo well you said you cheated is worse
00:08:31.680 she was young she was young i was young i don't give a
00:08:34.400 like i mean you knew what you're doing like honestly when you're over like 17 you know it's 16.
00:08:48.000 he's a big woman i mean i denied it at first and you lied because he owned up to his life
00:08:56.560 i owned up eventually
00:09:01.440 but thugs don't cry 0.52
00:09:05.840 i'm gonna just put talks
00:09:08.880 because think about it wasn't just another guy it was a sugar daddy yeah man was funding the thing
00:09:14.400 so he's not only getting the tuntun he's paying for the tuntun
00:09:16.800 he's having no ashes honestly i feel like i feel like 19 i'm thinking like we're talking to women
00:09:22.800 from the 1920s they'll be like oh you're you're you're dude at a family crosstown mine had three
00:09:30.000 but we used protection i didn't violate there was always protection
00:09:34.880 i don't need the details you did you did the crime b you're guilty guilty
00:09:40.720 you know what here hold on i'm gonna i'm gonna put a red flag
00:09:43.600 if you're speaking that's what they're saying
00:09:49.680 yeah yeah i'm sorry i'm gonna i'm gonna put i can't even think of anything now
00:09:53.920 anyone that was thinking to start in the dms cancel the mission
00:09:57.520 mission
00:09:58.160 yeah that was a long time ago
00:10:05.120 i'm backing you here people
00:10:06.080 i don't i was in a relationship i want to be honest there's not an excuse you could say an
00:10:11.760 excuse i had checked out you can how old was the sugar i just i can't it it was a daddy
00:10:18.400 information is classic no he was like 12 years older than me okay okay okay 15.
00:10:24.640 okay okay hold on hold on hold on one second
00:10:34.960 you've got more red flags than a golf course
00:10:41.760 yeah you know i'm gonna i'm gonna draw you two i was in pain
00:10:44.720 i was in pain i'm gonna draw the ladies of the show why not the men
00:10:50.800 i actually just kept quiet like now i'm like no no i respect the honesty but i'm terrified
00:10:56.880 i've got a green flag yeah yeah yeah you're the married one she's trying to find a husband at 1.00
00:11:02.160 24. you did it properly i feel bad there's no halves go all in i went to i went to therapy for
00:11:08.320 three years i have to yeah i have been to therapy since oh oh you went to therapy okay hold on hold
00:11:13.520 hold on hold on you can't pretend to be okay i want to pretend to be okay okay i want perfection
00:11:32.000 i'm trying to be my best let's take off one let's take it take off one yeah just one well can i say
00:11:38.960 what he did today go ahead go ahead what'd he do what'd he do monitoring spirits he there was one
00:11:46.880 time like basically he used to eavesdrop on my conversations he this is before i cheated on him
00:11:52.240 right so paranoid about me yes because some guys when you get with them the nice guy the one that
00:11:58.080 doesn't get the girls they can't believe they've got you so they become your surveillance and this is
00:12:04.560 where he wasn't my type i said you know what i want the nice guy but the nice guy couldn't believe
00:12:09.760 he won what is your time oh but see that's what they say i was dating bad boys i had daddy issues
00:12:15.840 so he was the guy he was the guy that was quiet he was respectful he was kind he was calm but he
00:12:22.000 couldn't believe in himself that he actually got me but then he started being extra with monitoring
00:12:27.280 my phone checking my phone to the point where i went out one time to use the payphone to have a
00:12:31.840 private conversation with my girlfriend and i turned around and this dude is standing by the
00:12:37.840 glass fan i was like with that breathing in the window but this is why they say you can't this is
00:12:43.840 why they say you can't date a girl after she's dated bad guys because she'll cheat on the nice guy with
00:12:48.800 the bad boy no but look what he was doing yeah i mean it doesn't it doesn't matter it doesn't matter what
00:12:54.400 he was doing like he lied about his whole life i mean i understand the leave but if you choose to
00:13:00.160 cheat your cheater i mean yeah it's like and i understand like i'm not saying you enjoyed it
00:13:04.800 i'm not i'm not saying you will be forever but like there's you can't not take accountability and
00:13:09.040 say i was young she cheated and she enjoyed it as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we
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