Modern Women LOVE Toxic RELATIONSHIPS
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about toxic relationships and how to deal with them. We discuss the toxic things we have done and the toxic people we have met in our relationships and what we would do if we found ourselves in a toxic one. We also talk about the most toxic thing we have ever done and how we dealt with it.
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so i i have a question have you ever been in a toxic relationship yes or no yeah and if yes
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what is the most toxic thing he or she did and what is the most toxic thing you did
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and yeah so yeah so um why don't you start eddie um toxic relationship yeah yeah i've been the one
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nothing it was all her it was mostly her store i'll be real yeah it was mostly her store nothing
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it doesn't take two to tango i seriously i think probably the most toxic thing i did was i checked
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the phone once that's probably the most toxic thing that i did so um i also have a whiteboard
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for this part of the okay where i'm gonna write things on the whiteboard and we get to decide
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as a group toxic or not and then the most toxic thing she told me because she told me that there
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was like a scale of toxicity of crazy that she did like psycho that she did and she was the least
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psycho thing she did was that she used to message me to ask if i was at home and then she would drive
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past my window to check if i was actually in wow mad yeah actually that's the least of what she used to
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to be yeah yeah yeah she's got time i don't know she used to she used to go up to girls that i knew
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and be like just know that um i know you you're in the same class as eddie this is at uni i know you're
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in the same class as eddie just just wanting to let you know that i know that she needs to get an sia
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badge she'd walk past girls do that she's wasted she's wasted she's wasted
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am i six call her but yeah mad oh what am i going to put on the board so wait what did you do that
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was toxic that's what i said i checked the phone okay fine okay i'm trying to think i'm in my rolodex
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you said in a relationship in a relationship mad listen speak your mind man is checking the phone
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in a relationship toxic very hundred percent i want to do hands so if yes it's toxic raise your hand
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exactly when you when you when you seek you shall find in it but the only reason i did it
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it's because she used to love doing it yeah so then so then she used to love doing it so one time
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i said let me check your phone and she got bare defensive oh so i was like hmm something's fishy
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and then when i preed it my heart sank bruv for real i my immune system shut down i got covid
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before even called it happened yeah what'd you what'd you find the maddest texas the maddest
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texas during the matting pictures just the whole do you know what most of all you just find bare lies
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you just find bare lies saying you're in certain places when you're not and you're with certain
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people and you're not it was long still okay what about driving did you say she drove by so she said
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the least toxic thing the thing she could tell me the most sorry the least psycho thing she did that
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she could tell me about no is that she would text me to check whether i was in and then she would
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drive past my window to check if that my light was on if i was actually there bruh that's what i said
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she got time okay raise your hands is checking to see where they are toxic
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i'll put i know this was a close one but i'll put toxic i'm not gonna lie i went with many a friend
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back in the day to do checks i remember walking into connell in tottenham in connell college using like a
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guide you know like id to go and check for my friend to see if he was really there doing his
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was he no that's crazy i wouldn't do it on on someone i was seeing but i helped my friend out
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we were like 16. i just want to say i don't have the capacity cheats okay what what about you have
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you ever been in a toxic relationship and if so what was the most toxic thing you both did okay so
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yeah of course like because i think everyone said yes um most toxic thing i probably did in that
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relationship was i mean at that time i was it was many years ago and i was using a lot of coke and
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different drugs and things like that and i was basically convincing her to sell for me which was
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hey hey ride or die i'm not i'm not gonna lie i wasn't expected that all right you know what toxic
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or not toxic you know i don't think that's toxic i don't think that's toxic okay you know you could
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say you could say you could say you could say hey hey we could phrase it the right way helping with
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a business yeah that's literally what i was thinking she's supporting her man probably made it sound more
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coercive than it was like when i was out of town she would when i was out of town she would do it for me
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she was more than willing but i was still using her for that shut up that's not toxic that's not
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toxic i don't think that's toxic well we're gonna raise hands anyway that's not about me
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all right all right having your girl sell drugs for you raise your hand
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toxic she agreed she wanted to make money did she want to make money and did it all go to her
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your girl's a hustler bro i took the risk of sourcing it
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did she did she say i don't know about this did you like you know no no there was no coercion
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there was no okay okay okay all right all right we're trying this again we're trying to look at
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that in two different ways all right we're guys guys we're trying this again raise your hand if
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that's toxic i'm gonna put a like all right i'm a hustler i'm a hustler homie i'm gonna say i'm gonna
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say no she's an entrepreneur that's it bro if i were you we kindled with her she's a she was a real one
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she was a keeper bro we haven't got on to why she was toxic yet all right this is evidence she
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probably rubbed your money or something i did something many years ago that they've got nothing
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else for all right so so what'd you say um i would say yes evidence but the thing she did that was
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toxic was she she didn't take responsibility for her emotions but what she would do is when she would
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get upset she would do everything she could to try and make me lose my temper so she would like shout
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and scream at my face and if i went i'm not having an argument and try and walked away
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she would like follow me out into the street and like grab hold of me screaming and shouting the
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road down trying to make out like you know you fucked up bro you meant to choke her and say bend over
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and that will calm her down straight yeah choke and say babe shut up and then give her a little bit
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of wood and see she don't say baby i love you baby i'm sorry i said that
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okay so making him lose his temper yeah yeah yeah i'm just gonna put talk yeah yeah yeah okay so so what
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he lied he lied he lied to be fair he lied about his name
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making him making him babysit while i went to go cheek with my sugar daddy
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so so no women scare me man i had the reason to be scared this is why i'm scared this dude was a
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whole different someone with a fake passport okay okay and a baby and a baby in ghana
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that was compensation what you still did was worse yo yo well you said you cheated is worse
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she was young she was young i was young i don't give a
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like i mean you knew what you're doing like honestly when you're over like 17 you know it's 16.
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he's a big woman i mean i denied it at first and you lied because he owned up to his life
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because think about it wasn't just another guy it was a sugar daddy yeah man was funding the thing
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so he's not only getting the tuntun he's paying for the tuntun
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he's having no ashes honestly i feel like i feel like 19 i'm thinking like we're talking to women
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from the 1920s they'll be like oh you're you're you're dude at a family crosstown mine had three
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but we used protection i didn't violate there was always protection
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i don't need the details you did you did the crime b you're guilty guilty
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you know what here hold on i'm gonna i'm gonna put a red flag
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yeah yeah i'm sorry i'm gonna i'm gonna put i can't even think of anything now
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anyone that was thinking to start in the dms cancel the mission
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i don't i was in a relationship i want to be honest there's not an excuse you could say an
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excuse i had checked out you can how old was the sugar i just i can't it it was a daddy
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information is classic no he was like 12 years older than me okay okay okay 15.
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yeah you know i'm gonna i'm gonna draw you two i was in pain
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i was in pain i'm gonna draw the ladies of the show why not the men
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i actually just kept quiet like now i'm like no no i respect the honesty but i'm terrified
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i've got a green flag yeah yeah yeah you're the married one she's trying to find a husband at
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24. you did it properly i feel bad there's no halves go all in i went to i went to therapy for
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three years i have to yeah i have been to therapy since oh oh you went to therapy okay hold on hold
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hold on hold on you can't pretend to be okay i want to pretend to be okay okay i want perfection
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i'm trying to be my best let's take off one let's take it take off one yeah just one well can i say
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what he did today go ahead go ahead what'd he do what'd he do monitoring spirits he there was one
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time like basically he used to eavesdrop on my conversations he this is before i cheated on him
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right so paranoid about me yes because some guys when you get with them the nice guy the one that
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doesn't get the girls they can't believe they've got you so they become your surveillance and this is
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where he wasn't my type i said you know what i want the nice guy but the nice guy couldn't believe
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he won what is your time oh but see that's what they say i was dating bad boys i had daddy issues
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so he was the guy he was the guy that was quiet he was respectful he was kind he was calm but he
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couldn't believe in himself that he actually got me but then he started being extra with monitoring
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my phone checking my phone to the point where i went out one time to use the payphone to have a
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private conversation with my girlfriend and i turned around and this dude is standing by the
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glass fan i was like with that breathing in the window but this is why they say you can't this is
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why they say you can't date a girl after she's dated bad guys because she'll cheat on the nice guy with
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the bad boy no but look what he was doing yeah i mean it doesn't it doesn't matter it doesn't matter what
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he was doing like he lied about his whole life i mean i understand the leave but if you choose to
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cheat your cheater i mean yeah it's like and i understand like i'm not saying you enjoyed it
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i'm not i'm not saying you will be forever but like there's you can't not take accountability and
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say i was young she cheated and she enjoyed it as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we
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