JustPearlyThings - Modern Women Make Terrible Bosses

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00:01:29.800 So today we're talking about, we're talking about female bosses. Now I want to preface guys,

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00:04:03.800 producing this myself. Okay. So today we're talking about female bosses. Now I do have a monologue

00:04:10.500 about this, but I want to talk about my personal experience with female bosses. So generally in my

00:04:17.060 life I've worked for mostly men. Um, to be fair, I haven't had a lot of, um, jobs outside of YouTube

00:04:25.920 cause I started my career fairly early, but I worked in a sales for a little bit. That was men

00:04:32.440 copier sales. Women aren't doing that. Um, and then I worked in at a plumbing tech company. It was also

00:04:41.280 owned by a guy, but my experience is more from coaches because for 22 years of my life, I had a

00:04:47.740 lot of coaches and women do are a large percentage of the coaches. And I could say one thing from

00:04:58.220 working with men and women, um, volleyball coaches, I'll say, I would say I had majority women.

00:05:04.300 There's a lot of challenges that came for one bosses that are female or coaches that are female

00:05:10.160 are always involved in the office drama. Um, now obviously this is the team drama, but whenever

00:05:16.980 there was like gossip about one girl, whoring it up, my coaches would find out it's weird behavior,

00:05:23.000 right? What are you worrying about? A kid's sex life? You know, second thing, um,

00:05:30.140 was that, you know, when I was in college, I played and she was a lovely lady, to be honest. I played for

00:05:37.960 this woman. I don't want to say her name, although you guys could probably find her if you really wanted

00:05:42.220 to. Um, but I really liked her as a coach. However, I experienced, when I played for this team, we were

00:05:49.700 really competitive. We were top 20 in all of division three. At one point we were like 14th in

00:05:54.640 the country, really, really competitive team for D three take with a grain of salt. Um, and this coach,

00:06:03.960 whenever we would lose a game, guys, I shit you not, we would sit in the locker room for sometimes up to

00:06:11.360 three hours talking about everything that went wrong. And at one point in the season, I counted how

00:06:22.480 many hours we spend in that locker room and it was damn near a part-time job.

00:06:26.760 Um, the men, when I had male coaches, they would really just focus on what we could improve.

00:06:35.760 The women focused a lot more on the emotions. They would say things like, you know, if this is a

00:06:41.220 mental game and, you know, I played volleyball for 22 years. Yeah, it's somewhat mental, but not really.

00:06:48.980 Um, it's strategy. Um, it's strategy and, um, male coaches tended to understand that. Like one,

00:06:58.520 I had one woman, young woman who went to a college in I think Kentucky and her coach based all of his

00:07:06.440 decisions on numbers. It was really on stats and this young woman, she couldn't really take it. She,

00:07:12.500 you know, stressed her out too much. Um, okay. So Doug says women bosses treat men better. I've never

00:07:21.480 had a bad female boss as a professional, but I've seen women destroy each other. Um, Craig says,

00:07:27.660 I liked the song. Thank you guys on the website. Now we got seven people on the website chat.

00:07:33.380 If you're curious, you go to Pearl daily on the website and you join it. You guys are awesome.

00:07:41.800 Um, you guys are the best chat on YouTube really. Um, okay. So, you know, we always hear about how

00:07:50.780 bad women have it in the modern day. You know, we have the pay gap. We have women aren't safe.

00:07:55.880 Women are oppressed. And, you know, of course they always blame these issues on the men. You know,

00:08:01.260 it's always the men's fault. What about the men though? Um, you know, an example of a place I see this

00:08:08.440 in, even outside of work is whenever women sleep with the boss, it's always the boss's fault

00:08:14.720 and not the young, hot woman. Like for some reason, even in that interaction, it's always the guy.

00:08:23.340 I was even talking to my dad about this the other day. And I'm like, dad,

00:08:27.400 the women are apex predators. And he's like, no, that the boss is in a position of power. And I'm

00:08:32.480 like, really dad, you buy this. I love my dad. My dad's the best, the best guy on the planet,

00:08:40.380 but even him, even him, I'm like, dad, you're falling for this. Gosh. If you look at the

00:08:44.760 mainstream misandrist propaganda, women really can't stand each other. You know, if you ask any

00:08:50.940 woman, your mom, your sister, your female friends, you know, don't female friends really

00:08:55.760 aren't worth it, but you know, maybe one or two, they'll tell you that, you know, the person that

00:09:01.200 has done the worst of the things to them in their lives is another woman. And I could tell you a

00:09:07.960 story about this. So I'll tell you guys a story and maybe I hope she doesn't go off on TikTok again,

00:09:14.380 but I don't care anymore. God, I don't care anymore. So I had an ex, I had a friend that was like

00:09:20.200 friends with me for 22 years, 22 years. And this woman, this is how women use reputation destruction.

00:09:32.020 I'll tell you what. And I have notes on this, but this woman I was friends with for 22 years and I

00:09:40.040 started my show and this, this woman was a liberal, right? And to put it into context, this is a woman

00:09:46.680 that asked me during George Floyd, if I posted a black square. And you know, I'd always liked her.

00:09:57.800 We'd been close since we were young. So I just, I would always put politics aside or, I mean,

00:10:02.900 I've always been a dork. I probably talked about it a little bit, but you know, you, she was just the

00:10:09.360 type you had to be careful what you said around because you know, she was, I mean, one of her friends,

00:10:16.680 said like her other friend couldn't see her kid if she didn't get the COVID shot. I mean, this is

00:10:24.320 madness, right? I don't, but I liked her as a person so much. So I was in this woman's wedding.

00:10:29.380 We were like best friends, besties. And she texts me one day when I'm doing my show and then gets mad

00:10:36.460 at me for stuff I was saying on my show. And essentially what it came down to, she said,

00:10:42.960 say what I want. Don't use words that I don't like on your show where I'm not going to be friends

00:10:50.220 because my daughter, my future daughter might see it one day. And I, you know, I refrain from talking

00:10:55.660 about her because, you know, she's gone on TikTok and she just goes off and I'm like, there she goes.

00:11:01.980 Now, anyways, this was really one of my first experiences where I'm like, wow,

00:11:08.240 women really like to control speech because she could have just shut off my show. But 22 years

00:11:14.620 of friendship, I guess down the drain, you know, my crime was, it was so crazy. I said,

00:11:19.840 men can leave wives that get super fat.

00:11:24.100 Ah, what a time. No, but this was a female friend, 20 years of friendship. And then I just said,

00:11:36.620 okay, you know, I ended it and that was it, you know, but sometimes she like spurgs on the internet,

00:11:42.760 whatever. Um, now this, this is just one example, right? But I think we can all think of, you know,

00:11:49.820 women that have backstabbed each other, you know, a common thing that I've heard is women

00:11:56.120 sleeping with each other's boyfriends, sleeping with each other's husbands. Um, it's always another

00:12:02.420 woman, you know, who is the woman? And, and, oh my gosh, women, when I got into this space,

00:12:10.140 women started treating me like a man. And do you know what?

00:12:14.080 Women have made up so much shit about me, or do you know what they do? They take a small detail

00:12:24.300 and put it completely, they over-exaggerate it to destroy your reputation. I mean, these,

00:12:31.280 you know, maybe I'm not going to get into all of it. I'm not going to get into all of it today.

00:12:37.160 Um, it's always another woman, you know, who's the bad person that makes a bad life decision

00:12:42.540 that wants you to do the same. So you can all be miserable together. You know,

00:12:47.340 when one woman's a whore, she has to get everyone to be a whore. Um, it's always another woman.

00:12:55.180 Women make it more difficult for other women in the workplace. Queen bee syndrome is

00:13:00.480 a term for when women finally make it into management and then make life hell for every

00:13:07.840 other woman under her supervision. And I've seen this in friend groups. Whenever there's a female

00:13:15.360 friend group, every six months, one of the girls gets tired of the other and tries to kick the girl

00:13:20.000 out of the friend group, but it rotates. Then they get less, they bitch about that girl for three months

00:13:25.300 and then they let her back in the friend group. And then it's a different girl's time to get kicked

00:13:29.760 out. There's usually like three or four that are consistent that maybe you're less annoying or

00:13:35.740 for bitchy or I don't know, for whatever reason, they don't kick, get kicked out. But, um,

00:13:42.720 this is female friend groups. Now, female dominated industries are full of drama because 80% of

00:13:51.200 workplace bullying is a woman bullying women. Catty behavior is normal working around other women and

00:14:01.000 women's supervisors are stereotyped for being more emotional, less and less compassionate to female

00:14:07.080 employees and taking out the frustrations in their personal lives around them. That's why today we're

00:14:12.980 going to talk about female bosses. Many women, 40% say they would rather work for a male boss than a

00:14:19.280 female boss. Is there really a patriarchy when almost half of women would rather work for a man than a

00:14:25.820 woman? So there's an article on LinkedIn. And I was looking at this earlier. I was cracking up.

00:14:31.060 God, it was so funny. Oh, let me, let me turn on my camera switcher. Bear with me. And I'm going to

00:14:38.180 take a second to read the chat. I'm going to be doing a call in later. So get ready. Um,

00:14:47.000 women bosses. Oh, wait, I read that. Many women live on drama. It's bizarre. I had to chat with my mom

00:14:53.260 and sister. Life can be good if you let it. We are above ground. Consider adding a business panel

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00:15:06.000 other's growth instead of endless talk of bitches. Let's build and scale together. A business panel.

00:15:14.700 Um, give me ideas, Fizal. I'm not opposed to it. Okay. So we're going to go to camera four.

00:15:21.360 Okay. We spend a lot of time. Um, wait, hold on. The female paradox. Women prefer to work with men.

00:15:29.840 We spend a lot of time talking about, reading about, and writing about the gender diversity,

00:15:37.200 pay equality, and the glass ceiling and lack of women in executive and leadership roles.

00:15:43.500 We hear about how there is a movement and change happening in this area and that women are advancing

00:15:50.420 the ball by leaning in more to accept executive responsibilities. So here's the pressing question

00:15:58.860 I couldn't shake that led me to write this article seeking answers. If there is a huge movement to

00:16:04.420 support and advance professional women, why do both women and men report not only that they prefer male

00:16:10.260 bosses, but that they prefer to work with men in general more than women? What is the real issue

00:16:17.220 of working with women? The female leader paradox. Women say they support female leaders, but they

00:16:23.840 really don't want to work with or for them. How can this be? Can we create more female executives

00:16:33.220 without actually wanting to work for them? Can we support and advocate for the advancement of women

00:16:40.400 and for crushing the glass ceiling without going all in? Who are female leaders supposed to lead

00:16:47.360 when even women prefer to be led by men? Oh my God. That is so funny. Women don't even want to do it.

00:16:57.800 Women are like women in leadership. And then they're like, go work for the women. And they're like,

00:17:02.400 you know what? They did this to me with sports. All the women, all the women said, oh, you know,

00:17:08.940 we want women and we support women's sports. I never saw any of you feminists at my games.

00:17:14.960 I played sports for 22 years. Do you know who is the most supportive of female athletes? The male

00:17:21.380 teams. They always got there early. They all went. To be fair, they're probably trying to get some

00:17:29.660 tail. But hey, you know what? The YouTube video keeps going out. Oh, no.

00:17:41.560 All right. Hold on, guys. Let me. Does this work?

00:17:46.680 No. Black screen. Oh, my God.

00:18:16.680 Okay. I think I got it.

00:18:35.360 Making up for the no black square. Yeah, guys, this, this woman, you know, and I never, you know.

00:18:52.700 I should fire the woman in charge of the camera. What? I'm firing myself.

00:19:06.240 Yeah, let me, let me just fire me, you know. Also, I do apologize for the moving of showtimes.

00:19:14.360 Guys, I'm trying to balance a lot. We're short staffed. I'm doing the best I can. That's all I

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00:20:07.280 good producer, but he's coming back. Okay, so I think we have to ask ourselves, are women

00:20:13.640 sometimes unintentionally keeping women down? I'm not sure if it's the lack of advancement of

00:20:20.500 opportunities, societal norms, built-in expectations, or some sort of professional jealousy or something

00:20:27.420 else. But certainly there are underlying factors to contribute to these statistics and research.

00:20:35.600 According to this Forbes article authored by Matt Simmons, today women occupy just 4% of CEO at

00:20:45.140 Fortune 500 companies and fewer than one in five corporate board seats is held by. With data and a new

00:20:53.360 Gallup poll authored by Lizzie Crocker informs us that 40% of women prefer a male in charge compared to

00:21:00.340 27% who prefer a female boss. This article says that these numbers don't exactly show a groundswell of

00:21:07.440 women adopting Sheryl Sandberg's lean-in attitude, nor have they budged much over a decade. The article

00:21:14.460 authored by Olga Kahazan and featured in The Atlantic reviews a Pew article survey that indicates,

00:21:22.340 in fact, more women said they'd rather work with men than men did. The article goes on to confirm that

00:21:27.600 the dilemma gets worse, not better with younger generations. We have to do more to support

00:21:33.980 professional women. We have to want to work for them. We often have this discussion about breaking

00:21:39.580 the glass ceiling and resolving pay inequalities as if it's a male-driven phenomenon. But clearly it

00:21:46.960 isn't. From what I can tell, it's very much or at least equally a female-driven phenomenon.

00:21:52.140 I pose that until women actually want to work with and for other women, these statistics will not

00:22:00.320 change until women stop viewing leadership as mostly a masculine concept. These stats won't change.

00:22:06.660 Unless women match words to deeds and develop supportive workplace relationships and professional

00:22:12.600 women, these stats will not change until women report at least equal preference for working with

00:22:18.260 and other women, nothing will change. Why? Because of supply and demand. Women increasingly making up

00:22:25.520 more and more of the professional workplace. We have the dominant voice and our voice and actions are

00:22:31.900 sending the message that men should be in charge. So how together, and they said, let's do this on our own

00:22:38.920 girl power. And then feminism always eats itself because the women, they started working for the other

00:22:44.620 women and they thought, I don't know about this. Oh, this is pretty bad. Maybe the men, maybe the men

00:22:51.560 had a, had, had a point, you know. Um, Doug says the average career life of a male CEO is seven to eight

00:22:59.900 years. The average career life of a female CEO is two to three years. Women get to the top and then quit

00:23:06.240 because it's too hard. Fazal says my brother, thank you for your support. Let's meet monthly to add more

00:23:13.680 flavor to the audacity network. We can bring in Glenn share ideas. If we hit a wall, gain insights from

00:23:19.380 Pearl's dad to grow stronger together. You know what? My dad might meet with you guys on the website

00:23:26.900 privately. He's not a public, he's not a public guy. We can do that. We can do that actually.

00:23:34.040 We can totally do that.

00:23:42.120 Fazal, I think I, I think I owe you a meeting. Actually, I just remembered this. I apologize.

00:23:49.060 Okay. Um, number one, some, all right. So she listed some reasons women don't like working for other

00:23:56.240 women. One, get this professional jealousy, women being jealous. Never, never. We're all

00:24:04.020 always happy. Especially when other women get promoted fast beyond us or get her work projects

00:24:11.820 noticed more. Okay. So this is essentially a hotter woman comes into the office. So there's a woman

00:24:18.880 that's in the office. She's used to being the hottest woman. And then a younger, hotter, tighter woman comes

00:24:24.800 in and she makes her life a living hell. It's like the 30 year olds with the 20 year olds. Limited

00:24:31.680 opportunities. Since we are competing for such limited roles, are we intentionally or unintentionally

00:24:37.820 backbiting and sabotaging one another? Because there is not enough for all of us. Different standards for

00:24:45.520 different women. Do women have different standards for women and with children and those without them?

00:24:51.820 How about married versus single women? How do we apply different standards? Discomfort working

00:24:57.780 with smart, beautiful women. History shows that men don't take beautiful women seriously,

00:25:03.240 but is that still the case? Or I think that ugly women have a harder time or are there more,

00:25:10.840 or is now more beautiful women a problem? Are women still viewing the workplace as a dating pool

00:25:16.000 and competing for male attention? Women can't even give it up. When a woman is beautiful, are women the

00:25:25.400 ones questioning her competence and intelligence, hence showing her less respect? The marriage and

00:25:32.600 motherhood factors. Do women look negatively on women who are not married and or mothers? Yes,

00:25:41.240 of course. Balancing politeness with assertiveness. If the woman is polite and friendly, do we view her

00:25:49.640 as too polite and too friendly? And when she is assertive and direct, do we view her as temperamental

00:25:55.000 above herself or even bitchy? I could go on, but the ultimate and final question here is how do we overcome

00:26:02.340 gender biases that not only men have, but also women have against women?

00:26:11.000 There you have it, guys. Isn't that insane? Women don't even want to work with other women.

00:26:18.080 Let me know in the chat. Can you guys go on the website

00:26:20.600 and type in your female boss experience? It'd be very helpful to me. I'm going to try,

00:26:27.520 I think when I share my screen, that's when this goes black. I want to test this. Is my screen

00:26:32.140 black again? If it is. I'll see you in a second. Okay. Next, we have a TikTok of older woman hated

00:26:46.020 this woman in the workplace. Oh my gosh, I am so dumb. This is why it went black. I did not plug in.

00:26:55.380 Oh, that's so embarrassing. Oh, I was just getting better at producing. Oh my gosh.

00:27:09.700 Now it's going to work. What the?

00:27:15.540 Okay. Why is it blocked TikTok?

00:27:17.580 Okay. Hold on. Oh, there we go. I was not prepared. This should work now.

00:27:29.020 The first was to have older women just hate me for existing. We'll talk about...

00:27:33.660 I'm going to go turn this up slightly. Hold on. Hold on.

00:27:37.340 Hold on.

00:27:37.400 It says a good bit of that confusion makes this show more entertaining.

00:28:05.640 beginning. I'll take it. You know what I mean? Okay. We're going to go back to the beginning.

00:28:11.100 What I was not prepared for in the workforce was to have older women just hate me.

00:28:14.460 I turned this up. We'll talk about older men. That's like...

00:28:18.140 Oh my gosh. Okay. Let me... Let me go back.

00:28:21.900 Okay.

00:28:21.960 Let me go back.

00:28:35.640 Okay. Well, hopefully this works.

00:28:43.460 Not prepared for in the workforce was to have older women just hate me for existing. We'll talk about older men. That's like a different line here, but older women hated me for no reason.

00:28:55.180 Uh, we can talk about the narcissistic men on a different time. I'm going to tell you a story about my first full-time job.

00:29:01.640 So I worked for a company that sold medical equipment and I was in sales and marketing and we all kind of had different bosses and we all had, um, it was like kind of like, I don't know, little groups.

00:29:11.900 And so my boss was under this one. My boss was an older lady, maybe in her sixties. And she had worked at this company for 20 years. We all had different ships. So like I could come in at 6am and leave at 3pm. And that's what I did. So I came in at 6am and then she would come in at like a normal time, 8am.

00:29:26.540 And every day she'd come in, she would ask only me what I was doing. So, you know, there's a whole team of like, I don't know, 15 of us. She would say, Chrissy, what have you done? Then she would log into the back end of my computer to see what I had been doing that day.

00:29:39.520 And the thing is, I didn't really realize that I was being like singled out. You know, she got mad at me for taking a lot of water breaks. I was also competing in crossbeds. Like I peed a lot, you know, I get that. Um, so I was naive and I went to HR and I was like, Hey, I just don't think she's treating me fairly. She's like treating me different than everyone else.

00:29:57.680 Now, this company also had someone that was on FMLA leave and also was just like went finished a lawsuit from someone not getting their proper lunch breaks. So I'm assuming they were like really fearful of a lawsuit. I was freshly 21. I don't even like that didn't even come into my brain. Okay.

00:30:15.540 Um, so I just went to them because that's what I thought you were supposed to do. And I was like, Hey, I just think she's like picking on me and I don't really understand it. And it got to a point where like she would call me out in front of everyone. She would talk down to me. But the thing is like my accounts were happy. I was hitting goals. I was doing okay. It's just that I could do the job in less time than everyone else.

00:30:33.540 Yeah. So women, this is a common problem with women. Women don't care about getting things done. They care about looking like they're getting things done. So her problem was that she could work less and get more done and her boss would get mad at her, even though she was getting her stuff done.

00:30:58.720 Now I want to take a moment and say, thank you so much to Fizelle for getting the yearly membership. He got annual on the app. Every time you guys download the app, it ranks us higher in the app store. So I do appreciate you guys going up.

00:31:15.020 Um, also I want to thank Gabe. You're awesome. Thank you to, and I, I want to say thank you to Madam. Thank you to Matthew. Thank you to Mark. This app is going good. This app's going good. Okay. So next we got, um, women.

00:31:45.020 Bosses are less. Oh, wait, hold on. Another tick tock of women talking about how female bosses are the worst. Okay. So let me go here.

00:31:54.340 We often talk about men. Okay. So we often talk about male bosses and how they are the worst. And let me tell you, female bosses are the fucking worst.

00:32:04.760 They are nasty. They're blank cutthroat, blank degrading to other females. They're the worst to deal with. And I'm not saying all of them. Okay.

00:32:16.640 But 90% of the time they are mean ass ish. Okay. And for some reason, they're the most straightforward with their like shitty ways.

00:32:27.180 And I don't know. It's because they're jealous. They feel intimidated or they just hate females. I don't know. Okay.

00:32:35.100 But they always seem to be in a power trip and they always seem to hate the idea of other females being around and trying to like better themselves.

00:32:45.760 And it's, it never makes sense to me. It never makes sense.

00:32:51.260 Like I used to work at this, uh, place in San Antonio and I was supposed to learn from this lady who had been with the company since they started.

00:32:59.740 She was about to retire. You know, she was like the mom of the company because she had been there for so long.

00:33:04.940 And she didn't want to fucking train me. I literally followed this woman around and she would be like, oh no, I'm not going to teach you that. You don't need to know. That's what I'm here for.

00:33:15.420 Okay. But you're going to retire, bitch. You old as fuck. You're going to retire. Um, and she never wanted to train me.

00:33:21.880 So they literally removed me from that and like guided my position into something else because she didn't want to train nobody.

00:33:29.240 She was mean. She was degrading. She was cutthroat. She was fucking nasty for no reason. All I was to her was respectful.

00:33:37.600 We got eight on the website, by the way. Can you guys hear the rain? Is that coming through? It's raining kind of hard out here.

00:33:43.920 And I was excited to learn and I was excited for like my job.

00:33:47.800 It'd be cool to get a 10. Let's get 10 on the website.

00:33:51.060 And she did not want to have none of it. She was on this power trip that she was the only one that knew things and she had been with the company for whatever many years and she was mean.

00:34:01.360 Okay. So yeah, male bosses are horrible and extremely demanding at times, but female bosses, the wrong female bosses, the worst, the worst.

00:34:14.860 And I'm sure there's a woman out there who know the type of bosses I'm talking about that just hate you for no reason.

00:34:21.460 And you're just, they're trying to do your damn job and they just fucking hate your guts and they treat you like crap.

00:34:28.800 I had a couple of coaches that were bullied me. Oh my gosh. Okay. We got another one, another woman complaining about her female boss.

00:34:38.980 Then I think next we'll do a call in. So if you guys have some stories about a terrible female boss, I will put a zoom link in the chat after this.

00:34:49.620 At some point, I will only take it from the website. That day is not today.

00:34:55.460 We're almost to 10 people on the website though. Let's get 10 in the live chat on there. We're at eight now.

00:35:03.660 Learned from working for two very insecure women bullies.

00:35:07.680 I've had two bullies in my life and they were both female bosses.

00:35:11.200 The other side of that, I have had two wonderful, amazing female leaders, one of which is mine right now, and I would do anything for her.

00:35:17.840 An insecure boss is going to constantly be living in fear that you are going to take their job.

00:35:21.700 So they will withhold resources, training, anything from you just to keep you at this level.

00:35:26.500 They do not want to see you succeed, whether it's in that company or elsewhere, and they are going to do everything in their power to keep it that way.

00:35:32.420 They do not respect your time.

00:35:33.580 They will participate in company gossip and likely be the ones that start it in order to break down the team and create some weird divide so that they can be your saving grace and also take the attention away from the fact that they suck.

00:35:44.320 They have an inability of self-awareness or gratitude.

00:35:47.020 They will micromanage to the point that you are no longer empowered to make any decision and you start to second-guess your confidence.

00:35:53.400 You heard it from women, folks.

00:35:59.960 Women got together and they said, let's empower each other.

00:36:09.780 They said, let's fight.

00:36:11.940 Let's crush the patriarchy.

00:36:14.520 Let's do this awesome thing.

00:36:16.520 Let's build companies.

00:36:18.260 And then women worked for other women and said, not like that.

00:36:21.240 No, thank you.

00:36:22.220 They entered a man's world and said, I'm good.

00:36:26.240 Okay, I want to read on the chat, on the website, which we have eight people on.

00:36:31.500 Can we get to ten people?

00:36:33.280 Let's try to get to ten.

00:36:34.300 Anyways.

00:36:35.200 Okay.

00:36:35.960 Zach said, I've had a few female bosses.

00:36:38.120 One in particular would crash at every week or so.

00:36:41.040 Slamming doors, yelling, et cetera.

00:36:43.140 Craig says, practice makes perfect.

00:36:44.900 You will do better next time.

00:36:46.540 I'm an engineer and I've actually had some very good female bosses and colleagues.

00:36:50.420 You know, my brother has similar experiences.

00:36:53.440 Maybe engineers are better.

00:36:55.320 I expect engineering might be somewhat different.

00:36:58.240 Very few women and more data driven.

00:37:00.500 Fizel, it's all good.

00:37:01.380 Life gets hectic.

00:37:02.640 Let's reconnect whenever it works for you.

00:37:06.000 My guy, Fizel.

00:37:07.360 Fizel's funny, actually.

00:37:09.880 He's a funny guy.

00:37:11.000 Okay.

00:37:11.260 I'm going to go start the Zoom.

00:37:13.680 I think that was my last video.

00:37:16.000 I want to know from you, what is your female boss story?

00:37:20.100 So I think I get a little bit better of stories when I allow you guys to not be on camera.

00:37:26.060 So today we're going to do that.

00:37:28.400 So you can join the Zoom, but it's not going to be on camera.

00:37:30.980 I am going to make you listen to another one of my mixtapes while I go figure this out because, you know, I got to plug my mixtapes.

00:37:46.940 We don't party like we used to.

00:37:54.480 We don't party like we used to.

00:37:58.800 Take me back to 1992.

00:38:03.240 Everybody's acting brand new.

00:38:06.360 We're not looking across the room.

00:38:10.220 Everybody is looking down.

00:38:13.600 On their phones, no one's around.

00:38:16.940 Yeah, we used to tear up the town.

00:38:20.920 Now I don't hear a sound.

00:38:26.000 People don't dance because somebody's watching.

00:38:29.980 Drink too much, everybody's talking.

00:38:33.580 We used to rage like there was no stopping.

00:38:37.300 So put your hands up, everybody's walking.

00:38:41.200 Put your phone down and get on the dance floor.

00:38:44.520 Shake that booty like you never did before.

00:38:48.180 Look real silly, yeah, raise your hands.

00:38:51.860 Let's get together and baby just dance.

00:38:55.580 We used to snap a Polaroid.

00:39:11.960 Now the whole night's on record.

00:39:15.340 I used to know who my neighbor was.

00:39:20.080 Now we really don't do that stuff.

00:39:23.700 We used to go out and ding dong ditch.

00:39:26.760 Now that ring cam is the biggest snitch.

00:39:30.940 Now all these young kids do a stream on Twitch.

00:39:35.360 2020s are the biggest glitch.

00:39:37.980 People don't dance because somebody's watching.

00:39:43.820 Drink too much, everybody's talking.

00:39:47.420 We used to rage like there was no stopping.

00:39:51.140 So put your hands up, everybody's walking.

00:39:55.040 Put your phone down and get on the dance floor.

00:39:58.720 Shake that booty like you never did before.

00:40:02.040 Girl, look real silly, yeah, raise your hands.

00:40:05.720 Let's get together and baby just dance.

00:40:13.260 Take a shot, baby, get your move on.

00:40:17.320 Be like Stella and get your move on.

00:40:24.320 Take a shot, baby, get your move on.

00:40:28.380 Be like Stella and get your move on.

00:40:31.040 Hold on, there ain't nothing that you can't do wrong.

00:40:36.740 We don't party like we used to.

00:40:40.820 Take me back to 1992.

00:40:45.880 Everybody's acting brand new.

00:40:48.800 We're not looking across the room.

00:40:54.420 Okay, I have it in Audacity.

00:40:56.540 Look at Rumble.

00:40:57.440 You're just going to have to go to my website.

00:40:59.260 www.theaudacitynetwork.com.

00:41:04.940 It's on the link.

00:41:08.400 And I just put it on the website and YouTube.

00:41:11.300 I'm going to play one more, one more mixtape.

00:41:14.200 I got to do what I got to do.

00:41:16.280 This one, I'm getting produced.

00:41:18.400 I'm going to do one more song while I get this ready.

00:41:31.580 I got to entertain you guys somehow.

00:41:33.240 Or, you know what, I'll play an old video of mine while we're waiting.

00:41:48.580 We could do, this was, we'll play this one.

00:41:58.220 Sleeping around different for men and for women, yes or no?

00:42:00.920 Yeah, men don't have to face the consequences.

00:42:03.740 Yeah, I think the same.

00:42:04.860 I think, yeah, when women do it, it's not really acceptable.

00:42:08.360 But when guys do it, it's fine.

00:42:10.480 I don't know.

00:42:11.220 Oh, for sure.

00:42:12.340 Definitely.

00:42:13.100 It depends.

00:42:13.960 It's not less fun, though.

00:42:15.160 It's not less fun.

00:42:16.620 It's just that women have to face the consequences.

00:42:19.160 Men just get branded as legends.

00:42:22.000 And women judge other women as well for sleeping around, I think.

00:42:26.120 But as you get older...

00:42:27.360 I think people care less nowadays if girls sleep around more.

00:42:32.840 I think when you're younger in school, that's when it's more...

00:42:35.140 Some dudes, especially with the whole Andrew Tate thing,

00:42:37.620 some dudes actually care about body count and shit.

00:42:39.720 That's so tough.

00:42:40.340 Do you think body count matters?

00:42:42.260 Fuck no.

00:42:43.120 In fact, the higher the better.

00:42:44.500 You actually know what you're doing in bed.

00:42:46.220 So I have a question.

00:42:47.040 Would you guys say your body count?

00:42:48.500 No.

00:42:49.020 So if it doesn't matter, why don't people just say it?

00:42:51.420 I don't know.

00:42:51.880 What's your body count?

00:42:52.480 You won't say it.

00:42:53.440 No, do what I'm saying.

00:42:54.600 I'm saying my friends.

00:42:55.660 Yeah, not on YouTube.

00:42:56.540 But it's just interesting because we'll say it doesn't matter.

00:43:00.300 But then it's like, if it doesn't matter, why doesn't everyone just say it?

00:43:02.880 Very intellectual thought.

00:43:04.600 Because honestly, for a guy, I think personally, I wish I was a virgin.

00:43:09.900 I wish I waited until marriage.

00:43:11.060 I think one is too many.

00:43:12.040 I disagree.

00:43:12.700 I wish I did.

00:43:13.780 Yeah, I really...

00:43:14.760 I wish I was a virgin.

00:43:16.120 Yeah.

00:43:16.800 Really?

00:43:17.440 You need to know that the person that you're going to marry is...

00:43:21.820 Yeah, exactly.

00:43:22.620 I feel like you have that sexual chemistry.

00:43:24.760 Sexual chemistry is so important.

00:43:25.960 I feel like if you...

00:43:28.960 Okay, that full video is on www.theaudacitynetwork.com.

00:43:34.720 I kind of regret those street interviews because I could have did not regret, but I just wasted

00:43:41.400 so much time on the moral side of things.

00:43:45.520 And I really regret that time in my career, even though I meant what I said.

00:43:50.240 But the reason I regret it a little bit is because...

00:43:54.520 I could have asked so many more interesting questions.

00:44:01.640 I could have said, okay, what counts as a body to you?

00:44:05.220 If a guy fingers you, is that a body?

00:44:07.720 Do you guys count head?

00:44:09.600 Is that a body count?

00:44:10.660 I think we need to do a show, everybody, where we detail what is body count?

00:44:16.860 What is it?

00:44:17.340 Okay, so Doug is on the line.

00:44:21.160 By the way, I don't, as far as I know.

00:44:23.120 This is struggle producing.

00:44:25.260 So as far as I know, I need you guys to stay muted.

00:44:30.140 I need you guys to stay muted.

00:44:32.720 Shelby, God help me.

00:44:33.860 I don't want to get up.

00:44:35.340 What is it?

00:44:36.020 Please, please, please.

00:44:37.340 Doug, it's on the line.

00:44:39.760 By the way, I don't, as far as I know.

00:44:41.460 This is struggle producing.

00:44:44.080 Oh, my God.

00:44:47.200 Why are you doing this to me?

00:44:50.120 Uh-oh.

00:44:51.300 Shelby, God help me.

00:44:52.440 I don't want to get up.

00:44:54.380 Please, please.

00:44:55.600 Please, please.

00:44:59.920 Oh, my God.

00:45:02.620 Oh, my God.

00:45:11.600 Oh, my God.

00:45:19.700 Um.

00:45:39.040 Oh, my God.

00:45:40.960 Oh, my God.

00:45:41.360 okay i don't know the woman left guys please god please for the love of god i have no producer

00:45:52.860 here i'm doing my best please do not come on the zoom with your mic on please like

00:45:59.620 you see this struggle okay you hear me okay bro yeah doug i can can i think i made you a host

00:46:08.140 so i think you can boot people uh yeah i'll look but yaya's on the phone and seb okay so well first

00:46:17.840 doug can you can you start us off today with your female boss story so tell you the truth since i've

00:46:25.200 become a professional i've never i've had a bad female team lead but never a bad female boss as

00:46:31.360 the one who writes my performance reviews but women treat male employees women supervisors

00:46:38.520 treat male employees better than their female ones 100 i've seen the same female boss be nice to me

00:46:44.700 and then just destroy every other woman in the office what is so what was do you have any what

00:46:51.460 was the story with the person that was your colleague was it like what did they do to make

00:46:58.880 your life so i've seen you know what it is it's because see men we don't go into our jobs trying

00:47:06.660 to be happy or trying to be social or trying to find a passion so when you find women who are trying

00:47:12.560 to be happy at work or find a passion and it clashes and one has authority over the other

00:47:19.160 it's like a powder keg so one of the reasons why i get along with with all my bosses is because

00:47:25.740 my real job i mean it's just a means to an end to me like i i don't think that i'm going to save the

00:47:31.840 world i don't think that i'm special but if you have two women who think that they're special and

00:47:37.240 one has authority over over the other it's going to be chaos so um i've and then also if you're the

00:47:44.460 guy that gets along with your female boss she'll try to get you involved and stuff she'll talk trash

00:47:50.260 about another woman to you and then oh you don't i don't like her do you like her you're supposed to

00:47:56.060 say no but you guys just don't get involved don't get involved in squabbles between women especially

00:48:03.980 supervisors uh and uh subordinates they always just try to get the men involved in their squabbles

00:48:11.500 don't do it don't say anything just listen but don't take a side don't say anything because i've

00:48:19.380 seen women try to make people to take sides in the office i've seen what was the what was the what

00:48:26.040 happened that made them take sides well um

00:48:30.100 was there a fight or something

00:48:37.020 no do we lose him

00:48:41.300 no

00:48:43.660 okay well well we got a second we got some new signups on the website dusty we got a dusty on the

00:48:54.440 website we also got um sean welcome to the site

00:49:02.200 we also got a oh wait for zel so thank you guys guys if we get tennis show we don't even have to do

00:49:12.060 ads i'm talking to some ads people but you know we get tennis show consistently i think doug dropped

00:49:19.520 okay next we got yaya um do you want to unmute yaya

00:49:26.720 no

00:49:32.020 okay well i guess i will

00:49:35.980 you don't have a story well yaya why are you here

00:49:41.240 what are you the zoom was for people that have a story about female bosses

00:49:47.760 i'm not trying to be rude you know go you go on the website go get the app

00:49:52.920 then you can interact with me and i i'll read it but

00:49:56.400 the zoom it's like the second

00:49:59.280 you you could listen

00:50:02.020 yeah that's what youtube's for

00:50:06.660 you know

00:50:08.680 yeah you just go to the website

00:50:11.160 um and then i can read your your chats or whatever but i don't know why you're here

00:50:17.560 okay sub we got sub next you can unmute if you got a female boss story i'd love to hear

00:50:24.820 if you guys could tell me the industry that you're in and like what age maybe this happened to you

00:50:29.820 hey hey pearl i'm back i got booted but but i'll make sure to let you know who's in the chat

00:50:36.740 who's not who's on there how'd you get booted like the wi-fi or what i don't know it's just

00:50:41.700 connected but i'm back so you you said yeah i think you can are you able to bring people up i

00:50:48.320 think you can i made you oh wait no not anymore he probably okay we'll do our best so

00:50:54.120 sub said he needs a second so then um okay so we can go to alexander wesner are you ready

00:51:00.900 he's trying to unmute unmute there we go and area all right yeah i can hear you no one's on camera

00:51:11.180 by the way as far as i know my tech is so you know there's nothing fishy going yeah yeah so what's

00:51:17.880 your female boss story so this would have been a few years ago i was working in uh retail just

00:51:26.000 customer service industry um what would you call it a corner store kind of thing um so i had a female

00:51:33.000 boss i had several over the time and i had obviously female peers i actually found that maybe a male

00:51:42.900 boss would be preferable but if i'm going to have female peers i actually like having a female boss

00:51:48.840 because they actually appreciate somebody who's hard working or follows orders well that kind of

00:51:56.160 thing um i actually had an incident with one of my uh female colleagues where she was doing some

00:52:05.360 dramatic spiel and um i offered her some life advice because she was going through some hard times or

00:52:11.120 whatever come to find out the next day she spent some story about how i'm being degraded

00:52:18.820 and abusive and all these things verbally abusive what was the advice what was the advice what did

00:52:27.880 you say she uh she was some 20 21 year old maybe and she was like trying to adopt her third kid

00:52:37.900 when she could barely handle two or it wasn't adopters fostering so they had all kinds of issues

00:52:43.500 she was going on and on about it um yeah hey guys make sure you mute when you get on i'll call you on

00:52:53.220 one by one but i just want to hear the stories um but keep going to alexander go ahead sure um so

00:52:59.940 effectively so she uh she talked to my boss about it before i got into my shift and then as soon as i

00:53:07.560 came up came into the store my boss is like hey can i talk to you for a second and the three of us

00:53:12.480 went into the office and it was a super awkward pause and then my boss starts relaying to me what

00:53:19.040 this co-worker was saying about me i'm like no no if anything i've been very cordial and i've taught

00:53:26.520 them just about anything they know in the store like it's i'm i'm pretty sure nothing like that happened

00:53:31.420 um and uh effectively my boss took my side because i'd been there longer and just because

00:53:40.340 she knew my character yeah and she could read very clearly between the lines that this was

00:53:46.300 obviously a a move to make drama and a manipulation tactic and she could see that she could understand

00:53:55.460 did you tell her to get rid of the kids was that it was it like maybe don't foster

00:53:59.780 kind of yeah i was like maybe don't keep fostering more oh she had like she was also trying to like

00:54:06.040 foster dogs and stuff at the same time she had like two of them it was a whole thing um why do

00:54:11.720 women get animals they're not ready for my sister did this too she got a horse you know what commitment

00:54:17.160 of horses oh my goodness yeah i love horses but man they are a lot of work you got to be ready for

00:54:22.760 yeah i won't lie it died the other day all right tim make sure please i can't i can't i need you to

00:54:32.080 mute till it's your turn i'm gonna call you up but i gotta i gotta keep the show going okay thank you

00:54:37.620 um i struggle production today but yeah my sister i'll tell you what though this this horse died and

00:54:46.060 my dad was so happy he was so happy this thing died because it was such a like oh my gosh it was

00:54:53.640 so expensive for years you know but uh yeah that basically sums up the story um that that co-worker

00:55:02.100 ended up being fired later on but for different reasons um but looking back on it i wonder whether

00:55:08.080 a male boss is the 30s or 40s might have not been a little bit more sympathetic to her and right

00:55:15.860 taking her words at more face value oh so so you almost are less likely to get a false accusation

00:55:23.980 because women hate other women that's the same yeah they can't stand each other yeah oftentimes yeah

00:55:32.400 sad to say i could see where that would make sense well thanks for the story i appreciate you

00:55:37.680 calling in thank you okay every night okay tim you're next what tim is next okay unmute tim

00:55:48.400 oh can you unmute

00:55:53.780 tim are you there unmute there you are i'm here buddy i'm here hey tim how's it going

00:56:04.780 i'm good how are you doing pearl love your show thanks for watching what do you think of the topic

00:56:12.000 what's your female boss story oh boy i was in the military

00:56:18.600 for 20 years oh no and i

00:56:22.700 okay wait one second do you have my do you have something going in the background

00:56:30.000 do you have my show going in the background tim i think it's echoing like yeah can you pause it hold

00:56:38.720 on yeah hold on okay

00:56:41.300 uh no i don't other than your show

00:56:53.140 can you can you mute for a second okay hold on i want to see something because i hear an echo i think

00:57:02.040 it's you could be someone else but i think yeah i think you got something running

00:57:07.500 okay i'm gonna go to i'm gonna go to a different caller try to get rid of the echo and then we'll bring

00:57:14.780 you back okay tim okay all right so we're gonna go to sub just for a second if tim you can mute

00:57:22.660 yourself for a second we'll come back to you oh wait wait i think it's gone how's that i think you

00:57:30.480 fixed it yeah i think you fixed it okay tell me about the military go ahead okay i had a first class

00:57:39.040 pity officer she was a male female and i was a second class pity officer at the time

00:57:45.040 and she would make my life absolutely miserable

00:57:49.920 how so yeah i'm listening what would she do she would send me out on stupid runs

00:58:01.460 like what we did was we were a trouble desk and somebody would call in and say i got a problem

00:58:10.660 with the refrigerator or something like that and uh instead of going to the house first checking out

00:58:19.620 the situation figuring out what was wrong and then coming back to the warehouse if the refrigerator was

00:58:27.020 bad or something was bad she would tell me to go get the appliance first and then swap it out even if

00:58:36.520 the other appliance was still good come to find out on nine times out of ten all it was was a circuit breaker

00:58:44.860 so i was moving around furniture and appliances and everything else knowing that it might have been a

00:58:55.020 circuit breaker wow did um and god yeah go ahead pro did you ever see i've heard military women are

00:59:07.000 complete whores is that true oh i was in i was in dieva garcia back at that time uh the population on

00:59:21.480 yeva garcia was 100 was i'd say 98 percent men and the only women that were on the island

00:59:29.360 were older officers female officers and whenever there was a ship that would come in

00:59:37.440 well the females that were on that ship would come on uh shore for liberty and leave rich

00:59:48.020 they were hookers no these are military females no i meant they were they're having sex for money is

00:59:57.900 that how they would leave rich oh yeah so they were hookers they were hooking themselves

01:00:04.160 and uh oh my god it was something else

01:00:10.680 and one time one time i want to ask you a question i've always wanted to ask a military

01:00:16.940 person this did you see dealing with female officers that they would emulate the worst part

01:00:24.700 of male leadership trying to be a male in their role as a as a leader in the military

01:00:31.000 because that's what they thought that they should do was that your experience no no i mostly worked

01:00:39.140 under male uh leadership i was mostly in battalions and the only time i was had any type of female

01:00:50.120 leadership was when i was on adack alaska in public works okay but they pretty much were

01:00:59.840 professional you know it was it was just like it was just like the time the only time that that i've seen

01:01:08.980 where women were looking themselves was was the able to see it were they at least hot

01:01:17.280 some weren't but when you've been on an island for for eight and a half months without a single

01:01:27.040 woman on there a number one is a number 10 wow so if you want to bat out of your league go find a

01:01:36.540 boyfriend on that island right if you wanna if you wanna you got eight months to make him fall in love

01:01:46.140 before he finds better options well get this get this one good when i was there they brought up

01:01:53.960 uh we just are almost finishing up with a nine-month deployment and for some reason

01:02:02.540 the upper echelon figure they would bring on miss america and her court

01:02:08.480 and there they had the uh stage it looked like a prison entrance they had chain link fence

01:02:22.540 from one side to the other from the floor all the way to the roof

01:02:26.600 they had two exits or one entrance entrance and one exit and they had vans backed up to those

01:02:36.360 entrances and that's where miss america and her court would exit the van

01:02:43.920 in the stairs go up on stage and underneath chain link fence

01:02:50.000 now later on when uh the uh show was over and all the guys went back home

01:02:59.700 or back to their bunks and everything there's a lot of springs squeaking

01:03:03.740 i've heard the military women get down oh yeah did you ever did you ever date one

01:03:14.700 did you ever like date someone at work uh i mean i started how'd that go it didn't go too well

01:03:23.840 what happened how did it end well have you ever heard that it's your turn that was about it

01:03:35.720 she's not she's not yours but it's your turn where'd she go to like your other colleague

01:03:43.740 oh yeah

01:03:45.340 she she was uh we were dated we dated for a few months and uh i was on duty and i had to come

01:04:03.260 back home to get something real quick and found them in the bedroom and i was like okay

01:04:12.380 have fun that was the last time i've seen her oh so you were dating her and you found her in your

01:04:19.500 bedroom yeah we had well what we used to do is we used to get an apartment like a two-bedroom

01:04:28.780 or you know something like that and have like three guys go in on one apartment to cut down on the rent

01:04:35.880 money and uh yeah she knew when i had duty and so did he and so when i had duty

01:04:48.460 they started doing the nasty and and like i said i had to come back home for something

01:04:55.260 real quick and then caught him and that was the end of that

01:04:59.580 wow were you mad or were you just like i saw this coming

01:05:03.740 um i kind of saw it coming uh but then again i have been single my whole entire life i am now 65 years

01:05:15.300 old and uh for some reason i have always was happy when the relationship was over

01:05:27.100 i truly believe that there are some people that are meant to have partners be single and i think i

01:05:36.300 fall into the category of meant to be single got it so you're kind of relieved you're like i've had

01:05:46.260 enough of this broad oh yeah i've had oh jeez well i've had several women i had a girlfriend sort of

01:05:56.320 uh i'm not going to mention her name but uh we i known her since i was 12 years old and she was 11

01:06:08.860 and she found out where i was and uh i knew she was married and so i was stationed down in san diego

01:06:23.700 and she gave me a call one day and i says well aren't you married and she goes no i'm no longer

01:06:34.020 i'm no longer an item with my with my husband and she asked if she could come down and visit

01:06:39.480 so i says oh sure you're not married sure so for once i'm not the one that had to pay for the plane

01:06:48.700 or the train ticket get her down there she bought it a round trip ticket so she came down and we had

01:06:58.340 some good times and we went to see uh sea world together and a few other amusement parks down in

01:07:05.240 southern california and so it was time for her to go back

01:07:10.240 so i get a letter in the mail that you know saying how what a wonderful time she had and she

01:07:18.940 and and and everything was wonderful and at the bottom of the letter she wrote would you pay for my

01:07:28.300 divorce oh my god so she asked you to pay for her divorce pay for your divorce you said you were

01:07:38.620 already you weren't you weren't married you you split the sheets so now you want me to pay for a

01:07:46.340 divorce i was messing around with a married woman she could have got you killed oh god you know well

01:07:55.700 speaking of you know don't covet thy neighbor's wife type thing so i sinned not knowing it

01:08:04.960 you know and and i'm not super religious but yeah i i kind of try to maintain a

01:08:13.180 a biblical lifestyle i don't mess around you know and uh boy that ticked me off

01:08:22.360 and what else isn't she telling me did you not pay did you not pay for the divorce

01:08:29.140 oh heck no okay what happened next i i i she lied to me you know that's not a good way to start off a

01:08:43.100 relationship you know what else is she not telling you come to find out she's still living with her

01:08:49.740 mother also so if i would have gotten married to her i would not be just marrying her i would

01:08:58.380 i would definitely have a live-in mother-in-law

01:09:01.620 wow and that's not that's not good so little things like that every every time i get into a

01:09:12.460 relationship there's always something that screws up but then again i'm always so glad when it's over

01:09:18.840 well thanks for calling in tim i'm going to move to the next caller but i do appreciate the story

01:09:26.400 that was hilarious so calling calling again will you it was an absolute pleasure talking to you i

01:09:34.460 really enjoy your show and i think you are a very beautiful woman and uh you take care of yourself

01:09:42.940 thanks so much tim calling anytime okay i sure will okay we're gonna go to

01:09:50.540 doug who is next sub

01:09:53.400 also we have another sign up to the website so i wanted to say next yeah so sub why don't you

01:10:02.600 unmute but i'm gonna for before you go i'm gonna read the signups guys we're almost you know it's

01:10:08.400 pretty exciting we are really close to um covering my whole producer costs on the website not that you

01:10:16.080 guys you're like what does that have to do with me fair enough but but thank you to alicia

01:10:23.240 for the sign up thank you to dusty oh i read that one before thank you guys for the signups okay next

01:10:31.660 we got seb i want to hear seb's experience with female bosses feel free to unmute

01:10:37.820 hey how's it going i'm good how are you seb good i hear you're you're from chicago right

01:10:48.220 yeah are you out here too uh i grew up there okay what part um uh you familiar with like the

01:10:57.300 skokines area yeah i know where that's at yeah i grew up in actually it was in morton grove oh nice

01:11:03.900 yeah but i'm out in phoenix now you got away from the cold it's probably smart yeah pretty much

01:11:10.860 everyone everyone that lives here pretty much from michigan wisconsin illinois indiana everyone comes

01:11:18.660 out here so what are your thoughts on the topic female bosses i have uh i have one good story and

01:11:25.560 one bad story okay so uh i used to be a delivery driver for amazon

01:11:33.260 but uh it was uh you know how they have like they're hired but like third party so you don't

01:11:40.120 work directly for amazon for the the drivers are hired by uh by a third party company okay

01:11:48.400 so the first time i worked there well that was back in uh 20 2017

01:11:56.720 and uh we had a real bitch of a boss she um she was divorced twice she was a swinger i found out

01:12:07.220 uh she was just uh like a bitch to everybody always like uh you know being mean like all down down to

01:12:14.700 business and all that crap like she thought she was the shit you know um so a funny story just there

01:12:20.540 was this one guy that started working there on the older gentleman and uh when you when you go into the

01:12:26.940 loading dock where you uh pick up all the packages there was a retired cop that was working in there

01:12:34.600 and um there's like a speed limit i guess you have to come in and she i don't know she like started

01:12:43.100 bitching at him because she saw him driving down the uh into the loading dock and he was going too fast

01:12:49.060 i guess and um she started like chewing him out like hey you gotta slow down or i'm gonna write you up

01:12:55.840 or all that whatever and then the guy's like i'm a retired cop and he like cussed her out like

01:13:01.300 like you know straight up like f you this that he's like i'm a cop you don't know what you're

01:13:06.700 talking about and and he actually like loaded the truck and then he left like he actually walked off

01:13:12.740 the job site so she was she was a big b uh but she uh ended up the the company went under like

01:13:20.860 a little bit after that i quit before then but like i found out through my friends that work there

01:13:26.840 that the company like went under after that wow and then so so i left that company and i actually

01:13:35.180 went back to chicago after that for for about a year and then things didn't work out over there so

01:13:41.700 i came back here and then i found another job with a different company um and uh i also but they were

01:13:50.680 they were a divorced couple that owned the company and uh she was a younger lady they had kids and all

01:13:57.220 that stuff but she was really cool so like she was always understanding she didn't like if you called

01:14:03.500 in sick or whatever then they didn't give you crap or nothing you know and so that's like she was she

01:14:09.140 was completely opposite of the other boss so like i guess it i guess it just depends on how how the

01:14:17.380 person is really so you had one bad experience and one good experience biased i can

01:14:25.240 50 percent's pretty bad success rate

01:14:31.720 yeah but for yeah but most of the the men bosses i had they were all pretty cool

01:14:39.040 yeah oh actually i do have another one oh yeah for a bowling alley

01:14:43.620 this this chick uh she was she was a manager there that hired me i was working there part-time

01:14:51.320 because uh like i have my knee surgery crap going on so um i worked uh at a bowling alley part-time it

01:15:00.580 was a fun job it was an awesome job um and this the the manager that hired me she was like in her 50s

01:15:08.600 short blonde like thin she thought she was like hot shit you know

01:15:13.180 and uh uh when she hired me like they told me what the pay rate was right so i signed the paper

01:15:22.000 whatever they they showed they said how much they're gonna pay me hourly and uh and then when i got my

01:15:28.320 first paycheck they it was a different amount that what i signed up for

01:15:32.340 so she like docked me on my pay i was like whatever she docked you out of your how much was it

01:15:39.040 yeah it was like 50 cents oh okay yeah i was like yeah the agreed amount was you know a certain amount

01:15:49.000 and she bumped it down 50 cents less why would she do like what would that's like was it just a mess

01:15:56.000 with you i have no idea maybe okay i could have said something about it but i was like i don't get

01:16:02.340 crap it's not worth it you know yeah but yeah that she was a big time so we're one for three of good

01:16:09.660 female bosses huh one for three yeah you can't be biased you can't be biased at all okay a little bit

01:16:19.240 yeah what if what if what if my editor called in and kill him

01:16:27.340 i'm just kidding okay sorry god hey uh real quick uh what's the weather like out there right now

01:16:35.220 it was pretty nice today actually it was it's been yeah it's been cold but today was really nice

01:16:41.640 yeah we hit like 90 out here today yeah it was beautiful that i was like 60s maybe 50s

01:16:48.940 did you guys get like a lot of snow this winter not a lot of snow but um no not a lot of snow but

01:16:56.560 it was cold i mean you know how it is it gets so cold here it doesn't even snow did lake michigan

01:17:01.940 freeze up i don't know i didn't go to it i'm i'm i'm too far from the city i'm not really there much

01:17:10.000 oh okay yeah you're like more towards like winnetka area i'm not really gonna put the area on the live

01:17:17.360 oh yeah sorry that's okay well thanks so much for calling in sab i'm gonna move to the next caller

01:17:23.920 okay all right cool cramos you can go ahead unmute um hello can you hear me you know guys are so much

01:17:32.740 better with instructions than women i think we had one woman join and she was the one that didn't

01:17:37.320 muter mike you know it's funny sorry god um which one was it cramos grandma yeah okay what's your

01:17:46.740 female boss story well can you hear me good yeah i can hear you perfect okay fine uh first of all i'm

01:17:56.580 from chile okay so um first of all i want to thank you for your content uh it really helped me um

01:18:09.580 from since three years four years ago because i didn't know that there was um a female understanding

01:18:20.440 so many topics about this campaign and what's underneath and reading between the lines

01:18:29.500 so i appreciate it of course thank you so much for watching thank you uh excuse my english you feel free

01:18:40.240 to correct me okay um my female boss story is very simple years ago i worked in the agriculture

01:18:50.240 ministry in the government and i was part of the publicity and communications department

01:18:59.300 we were four three males and one female and my profession is audiovisual communication

01:19:08.960 and i did many presentations for initiative ideas and my boss

01:19:18.360 told me um told me uh after six months uh uh evelyn was my female equal in the department and our boss

01:19:35.800 female boss uh told me uh you need to let evelyn to do your presentations and i was like um okay

01:19:48.360 why and the answer was like um uh because uh we need to send the message that women are capable

01:20:00.300 wait so they took your presentation many of them sorry i don't mean to laugh but what the hell

01:20:08.920 yeah it was like um tragic comic call

01:20:13.820 tragically comedic yeah uh because i i had to teach evelyn how to um do the presentation about my ideas

01:20:27.720 and wait wait so you would you had to teach her how to do a presentation about your ideas

01:20:36.280 did you did you did you quit no uh because uh guys are so nice they're just like whatever

01:20:43.620 so you did all the work for the presentation and they had to give the presentation away oh my goodness

01:20:51.240 yes um it was like um strange and my feeling uh at the beginning was like uh okay something is going

01:21:02.420 you know because they my boss wants to give the credit to my equal partner in the department

01:21:11.260 and uh i'm not uh pursuing credit in in general in my life so it was like uh we have uh i can hear

01:21:23.240 him doug i can hear him fine can you hear me i can okay on the website i think they can hear him too i

01:21:31.320 think it might be doug i think are you there doug i think it's you

01:21:35.760 was it yeah i because i can hear him fine sorry keep going it's okay i'll mute no worries

01:21:43.760 well anyway uh for me it was like uh okay no um she can have all the credit for my ideas because

01:21:53.320 we did this the agriculture minister minister in chile is built uh by 12 organism different kinds of

01:22:03.580 organism institutions so okay we did this we have to do this presentations with the minister

01:22:11.960 agriculture minister so it was like a very big deal so she was doing the presentations of my ideas

01:22:21.940 because that was my female boss order i don't want to lose i didn't want to lose my job but i was like

01:22:30.960 uh okay there's a higher goal here to benefit uh farmers agriculture family agriculture so i'm not going to

01:22:41.880 stop the information of my ideas just because she was getting the credit but um after

01:22:50.620 uh two months of this practice uh she started like treating me like i was her employee

01:23:00.080 so that's when i start feeling bad because i told my boss okay i'm gonna teach her to do the

01:23:10.620 presentations of my ideas i have no problem but please tell her that stop that she need to stop

01:23:19.560 treating me treating me like i am her employee because she did start you know so she took your ideas and

01:23:27.540 then started bossing you around yeah wow so that was the the point where i told my female boss

01:23:37.540 hey i i i have no problem i have no problem to give her my presentations but uh please tell her to

01:23:47.020 stop bossing me because uh i'm having problem with that because it was this um uh attitude this behavior of

01:23:58.080 hey do this are you ready with this did you done that and i was like uh okay stop so

01:24:04.660 anyway um after that this other boss female of an uh one institution inside the minister told me

01:24:16.480 hey hey be cool uh i know that all these presentations are your ideas um so i told her hey but

01:24:27.540 this evelyn girl she's bossing me around now and that i don't like it so she told me very simple

01:24:35.800 you need to tell the boss the female boss or you can take um a decision so my decision was to quit

01:24:46.160 and i did um i have a lot of contacts in press so i did a very large letter about how my female boss

01:24:59.460 order me to keep my female equal all the credit of my ideas you did a letter to who or many

01:25:09.260 press newsletter did they pick it up did they pick it up some of them wow what what did the company say

01:25:19.100 like when uh i quit i put the letters up and the threat started like uh we're gonna ruin your job

01:25:29.120 you're not gonna have any job again in the government because you're disrespecting the privacy and i was like

01:25:36.420 you know what fuck y'all all the respects sorry but that's okay so the papers picked this up

01:25:44.180 and was the woman did any backlash come to her or no no she was like uh please don't do this why are

01:25:54.380 you doing this and i was like um because you let you were bossing me yeah yeah because in in the in the

01:26:03.420 in the papers in the press papers some of the female bosses of other institutions helped me and

01:26:10.100 uh confirmed my idea you know got it well i'm sorry that happened but that's a very funny story

01:26:19.860 you know yeah yeah thanks thanks so much for sharing i gotta move to the next caller but

01:26:26.180 call in any time all right thank you um i'm gonna read the chat wrote sorry doug did you want to go

01:26:33.940 oh no uh apollo dd you're next okay take yeah i'm gonna read the chat um

01:26:41.780 okay so we got fazelle who said pearl you gotta add the word bitch after ding dong ditch that's my

01:26:49.920 favorite word wait oh from the song now we used to ding now we bitch that's kind of funny okay um i

01:26:59.480 can't copy and paste the link in the website chat it's on there does it not work i look i don't know

01:27:05.720 i put it on there i i'll work next show okay we'll we'll try to figure it out pearl from chaos comes

01:27:13.180 order dusty how about the female bosses with little man syndrome ego val thanks i'm a returning

01:27:19.740 member i'm also we got up to eight at one point in the chat on the website it'd be nice to get double

01:27:25.800 digits today but you know i don't want a different time um okay they're going back and forth i think

01:27:31.900 that's it on the website i'm gonna check in on rumble rassol says what's up and it's a power trip

01:27:37.740 we're at 74 viewers on one rumble i'm trying to build that up so maybe we can get to 100

01:27:44.360 pearl hang in there you rock i couldn't remember how to dual stream on rumble till recently so we just

01:27:51.880 got that back up and going again okay doug who'd you say was next apollo dd okay are you there

01:28:00.560 yeah i'm here oh hey how's it going apollo hi pearl so i just wanted i just wanted to get like

01:28:11.280 your opinion on this so i work with a ton of women and they're all like in a clique i guess you could

01:28:18.940 say and i'm the youngest there so they're all like 30s to like 50s and i'm like 24 so i don't know if

01:28:27.320 that's a factor but i swear anytime i do anything there's this one lady there she's been there for

01:28:33.780 probably i think she told me 30 years anytime i do anything she has to say something and you can

01:28:40.140 never just have a conversation with this lady she has to have a conversation with you and she has to

01:28:45.920 make sure everyone around you can hear what's going on and then she has to like demean you the whole

01:28:51.920 time she's talking to you but if you say anything to her then she acts like the victim like

01:28:57.240 oh my gosh i can't believe she just said that can you believe she just said that to me what's the

01:29:01.620 industry uh it's phones like cell phones like at&t oh okay okay fine oh you don't have to say the

01:29:13.880 company you know it's okay it's all right um and you're the youngest one there by like what a decade

01:29:20.780 um yeah yeah you still got hope in your voice you're cooked sorry

01:29:26.580 do you hear do you hear the pleasantness in her voice doug i mean she's done they'll hear that

01:29:36.700 and beat it out of you

01:29:37.940 they're like a young happy woman let me ruin her

01:29:44.780 can't have that no sorry go ahead go the story i wanted to tell you this was something that

01:29:52.800 happened um so the girl that's like the manager there she's a part of the lgbtq community and i'll

01:30:01.600 just tell you like i come from a more like conservative background so i don't know much

01:30:06.700 about the lgbtq community i've never like grown up with friends with that so i don't know the right

01:30:11.760 terminology and so what happened was um there was a customer there that didn't speak english

01:30:18.200 and i guess she got upset and she got frustrated and she left and the co-worker came up to me and

01:30:24.460 she was complaining that the um person was being rude to her and she said she doesn't even speak

01:30:30.940 english why she needs to go back where she came from and i didn't say anything but i was like okay

01:30:36.380 maybe she was just being prejudiced against you you know for being a dyke being a lesbian

01:30:41.920 and she laughed and agreed with me and then everything continued so i thought nothing happened

01:30:46.880 so i didn't think anything of it an hour later my manager walks through the door and pulls me into

01:30:53.220 the back and she's like visibly upset and this is the other woman she's like shaking while talking

01:30:59.660 me as if her adrenaline's rushing and she's like hey um you're getting written up and you get to go

01:31:06.540 home and i was so confused i'm like why what's going on she's like well you just called so and so

01:31:12.220 a slur in fact it's just as bad as saying the n-word and i'm like what are you talking about

01:31:17.740 what are you even talking about and she's like yeah you called her a dyke you can't say that i'm

01:31:22.120 like i never called her a dyke i was insinuating that somebody was prejudiced against her because of

01:31:28.020 her identity no they're scared and i was consoling her they're scared of the lesbians the one lawsuit

01:31:33.580 they gotta they gotta throw you under the bus oh my god are you so fast are you do you have like a

01:31:40.040 race card or like a no you if they're all women you can't oh you should have pulled that you bit

01:31:44.540 like she's a racist yeah but they didn't even care they didn't even care the only time i've i

01:31:52.500 pulled out the race card is against these wokey woke lgbtht tvs i'm telling you yeah whip it out

01:32:00.120 especially if they're like you know purple haired white liberals oh my god the manager has didn't

01:32:07.860 care yeah tell them say why are you trying to police a a black person or a person of color

01:32:14.380 speech because i hate i hate the race card but i use against wokey woke all the time

01:32:19.160 i was like she was just being racist and you know with my ethnic background i could have been

01:32:27.720 upset about it but i wasn't so like not only that so i'll tell you what else happened so the next day

01:32:33.360 they took me off the schedule so they took me down from five days to three days because she didn't

01:32:37.840 feel safe working around me after me saying that word well that's almost like problem solved then

01:32:45.200 you didn't have to deal with her it's almost a blessing isn't it it's like when women give you

01:32:51.960 this silent treatment you're like wow this is amazing but like can you believe that she doesn't

01:32:58.500 feel safe around me like she physically thinks i'm like dangerous now do you know what i'm really not

01:33:03.800 about pulling the race card i would pull it in this situation and i'm really not for that at all

01:33:10.480 but i would pull it back i would say doug can we we should brainstorm how can she pull the race card

01:33:17.400 next time something like this happens doug i have an expert doug on the line yeah so if you um

01:33:26.120 the worst thing for especially a white liberal is to be called a racist that's what they hate the

01:33:33.780 they hate the most so if you want to stop that conversation even just whip that out say you

01:33:41.000 know what you i feel like you're being racist to me right now you trying to police my experience

01:33:47.240 and police my language i don't really appreciate that very much they'll stop dead in their tracks

01:33:53.520 it doesn't matter what you say once you say that everything stops are the other people white

01:33:58.880 oh please be white yes yes pull it i knew it let me tell you i'm gonna follow so i was i was at

01:34:10.360 an office party no i was um this is way back when i first started in my first career and we had the

01:34:19.860 first christmas party i was at in an actual office i got people gifts and then i i gave this woman to get

01:34:26.660 it was something small and i said merry christmas and she was jewish i didn't know could be if you're

01:34:35.100 not supposed to ask people's religious affiliation right and she had like nothing about her that she

01:34:39.540 was jewish she had the nerve to go to corporate to go to management and say that i offended her because

01:34:47.520 i i said merry christmas because she was jewish oh my god you can't say merry christmas yeah and that

01:34:56.380 was the very first time because we had a mediation meeting they brought me and her and my boss in an

01:35:04.460 office and we had to hash it out oh my god how dare you be nice yeah that was the first time i'd ever

01:35:11.900 told her i was like you know i don't appreciate you policing my language as a black person so i said

01:35:17.080 look give me the gift back because it's going to be this way and petty i'll be petty too and then

01:35:23.840 we worked together for two more years i avoided her like the plague i never said another word to her

01:35:29.660 for two years hold a race card but i think it's time it's time let me ask you a question so i don't

01:35:36.860 know much about the lgbtq community but is that really a bad word the word dyke yeah to them i mean

01:35:43.880 not to me but i'm me yeah not to but to the woke they might i mean that you can't even say retard

01:35:51.880 anymore they take everything they take everything fun away you're better off not knowing so so don't

01:35:59.880 waste your time yeah well thanks so much for calling this show i didn't know women watch so

01:36:07.180 this is very exciting for us here thanks uh we're gonna move on to the next caller but call back any

01:36:14.020 time and keep me posted i want to hear how this goes okay have a great day pearl you too bye

01:36:20.580 hey brian megan i heard brian we got unmute brian brian brian megan okay we'll go on i think james was

01:36:36.180 next is there a james there i don't see him yeah james is there yeah hi hey oh now i see him hey james

01:36:47.000 how's it going how's it going how's it going good i'm a fan of your show thank you so much i appreciate

01:36:53.560 you watching tell me um what's your female boss experience so i i actually got like uh three

01:37:02.700 stories of like uh actually it's funny because it's actually three stories of like one of them

01:37:09.440 i'm a teacher i know i know i know what i'm thinking i know no no i'm kicking you no you're

01:37:16.260 getting kicked out no you're getting kicked out

01:37:21.040 kick him

01:37:24.740 my my my editor guys my editor just called

01:37:30.080 you went under you went under freaking james you didn't think i'd recognize your voice

01:37:36.460 i knew you were gonna recognize me

01:37:40.060 oh my god i can't all right tell me tell me tell me your female i will never say my experience

01:37:48.860 working with you tell me your female boss story go ahead go ahead i actually got three uh female boss

01:37:57.180 stories that are shocking okay go ahead go ahead so the first of all i mean probably you know that

01:38:03.380 i'm from colombia basically yeah and so there i i started um i went to like a man-only school

01:38:11.180 but for some reason uh the kids that were like in in nursery and in first grade of uh elementary school

01:38:21.060 they had like this director who was a woman

01:38:24.680 because even though that it was like a very uh catholic school you know man-only you know for some

01:38:30.820 reason you know they put these women there because they thought you know it would be better for the

01:38:35.260 kids and so the thing is that um sometimes when for example an english teacher would leave

01:38:42.300 then she would take over and she was like very fun with us very like charismatic

01:38:48.180 and she would for example draw like caricatures of us like on the on the boards and stuff like that

01:38:55.380 and so she was like very very funny and like even would make like challenges so

01:39:01.060 whoever had the best grades would go with her like on pizza

01:39:04.740 uh pizza friday for example after school like she would take them to pizza

01:39:09.520 and the thing is that i remember that uh one day we're having like an english class and she's showing

01:39:16.400 like i don't know how else how is it called in english but she's showing like uh on top under inside

01:39:22.240 outside and all of this and anyways like so she starts and she's like okay uh kids it was like a

01:39:28.700 30 kids class classroom and she's like okay kids um everybody take off your shoes and put it on top

01:39:35.440 of the table and you know the 30 kids we take off our shoes and we put it on top of the table and you

01:39:40.760 know everything's fun then she's like okay kids take off your belt and put it inside the drawer and you

01:39:48.080 know we were kids seven years old kids you know all male and we're like okay you know and we we take

01:39:53.320 it off and we put it inside drawers then she says okay kids now take off your shirt and put

01:39:58.680 it inside the backpack and you know we put it inside the backpack some of us i remember you

01:40:03.760 know it was like four of us who actually got like so uncomfortable and i think she kind of notices

01:40:09.520 even she noticed it and she was like okay if you guys don't want to do it like you can just

01:40:14.320 keep sitting down and then she was like all right we're gonna go for the final step kids take off

01:40:20.480 your pants totally and put it next to your chair and you know it was like literally 25 kids

01:40:28.520 inside the the room like what well of course in underwears but you know i remember i was just

01:40:37.620 seven years old and i was like there's something weird about this and you know um anyway so years

01:40:44.340 passed the next year like for some reason she disappeared completely uh out of the school

01:40:50.000 and then like right now um i now it's been i think uh what 11 you know 21 years since that

01:41:00.080 and i've got two friends that confessed to me last year that they got raped by these women

01:41:06.260 at seven so exactly what many of us are thinking that many many of the kids uh that you know went

01:41:15.880 through these women got raped and you know they're not even gonna go forward and speak about it

01:41:20.120 because you know they're like there's no way i'm talking about this you know yeah holy shit

01:41:25.560 then next story to make it quickly i made a i made a like a event company in in florida when

01:41:33.340 like in 2013 and so we would like make private parties or nightclub parties and stuff like that and

01:41:41.600 we would like fill it up we would make like all the marketing stuff the videos and you know i started

01:41:46.840 this company with two girls that were like very hot girls in colombia and so they moved to florida

01:41:53.720 because they were like starting on gainesville or something something like that and anyways we

01:41:59.200 started this company it was just us three and we started making parties it became very popular

01:42:04.640 because these these were like very hot girls and you know they were super popular so they got like

01:42:09.400 every you know hispanic person in florida to go to these parties and then they bring a girl which

01:42:17.980 was my first experience with women working in the marketing sector especially where there are a

01:42:24.680 bunch of women that don't do anything and they just like literally they just get paid for being a

01:42:31.440 marketer or whatever the hell that's called and so in the end so she joins and during the first

01:42:38.240 couple of years like uh everything was fine but sometimes she would say like oh i want this to

01:42:44.520 be that way like out of the sudden she would change like and because she was there in florida like she

01:42:49.480 could like kind of take these decisions and so she started like always like this like just to mention i

01:42:55.180 know this girl from colombia she was like this rich girl with you know like perfect grades beautiful

01:43:01.360 body beautiful face you know all the friends the the boyfriends the the cars all that so

01:43:07.060 she was always like very oh yeah you know the way okay and so to make it short she started like

01:43:15.900 changing everything and after like four years like she nacked me up to the point where i just said to

01:43:21.140 the people that they could keep the company and i left without anything related to the company

01:43:26.360 and basically you know the company for like still makes money like and and it's like um i always

01:43:34.040 look back i don't even regret leaving the company because in the end it was just parties you know in

01:43:38.440 florida of latinos and that's it but i always think of that girl i'm like holy crap like she really got

01:43:44.580 into my into my blood and my nerves like imagine imagine if you married her you know no

01:43:52.260 and the last story the last story is the weirdest oh no hold on my audio just cut hold on yeah

01:44:01.700 wait go back i accidentally unplugged say that one more time your last story yeah i just got the

01:44:06.660 last story just i'm gonna make it make it as short as possible because i gotta finish some stuff right

01:44:10.680 now okay and basically like during some time i moved to to spain and from there i was working uh

01:44:21.080 like in the entertainment sector as well i've always been around like the parties music and

01:44:26.020 that kind of bs sector and so like when i go to spain i start working with these women

01:44:33.180 who is like a manager like an international manager for like artists and stuff like that

01:44:38.580 and like when i start talking with her she tells me that she's married you know she has a family and

01:44:45.500 all of that stuff that's when i met her and i started working with her um remotely and thereafter

01:44:50.820 a year she's like uh i want to kind of adopt you and i want to bring you to south south spain with

01:44:58.760 me so you can work more closely we're gonna have more events you know we're gonna move all around

01:45:04.160 spain and so anyways i moved there and you know for when like my first reaction when i got home is that

01:45:12.380 there was no man in the house when i opened the the the house door after like an uber left me there

01:45:19.040 i i basically see her daughter who was like 16 years old like in in panties you know in the

01:45:25.900 underwear and basically i'm like a little bit shocked and then i go into the room there's these

01:45:31.600 women and i asked her for uh ask her for her husband who supposedly was the guy i was speaking

01:45:39.520 the most in that year and she's like oh no she he he left for for a trip you know it doesn't matter

01:45:45.900 we'll we'll start working some stuff out and that's it so anyways uh i'm working with her there

01:45:52.620 for almost a year hectic year where you know uh i she wouldn't like answer like to my invoices never

01:46:01.540 would pay me on time you know uh even like she was supposed like she would leave for like uh one

01:46:07.440 month season and she wouldn't like pay the electrical bills of the house or water so like literally one

01:46:13.200 day i would be like okay i'm gonna take a shower today because there's no running water in the

01:46:17.260 house literally and anyways like they where it gets weird is that after a year uh i'm working with

01:46:26.700 her i don't know anything about the husband and she just tells me that she broke up with this guy

01:46:32.940 like supposedly eight months ago you know that was like four months after i arrived and i'm like

01:46:38.640 okay anyways and you know she explains me that she's the owner of the house that she has like a

01:46:44.340 lot of money and all of this and that she can work with me you know and do everything perfect and where

01:46:51.100 it gets weird there are many weird stuff where like she even tried to put me with her like 17 years

01:46:56.820 old daughter like she made me sleep in the same bed with her even what was yeah supposedly there was

01:47:03.880 like no room in the house like on the first on the first week like literally she was like oh there

01:47:09.900 are i don't have any rooms and the room that i've got is full of boxes so you gotta sleep here with my

01:47:14.440 with my daughter and i literally i was like okay this is super uncomfortable but anyways i mean i thought

01:47:20.860 it was like separate like a big room with separate beds and when i open the room it's like the daughter

01:47:25.120 is sleeping the bed and i just gotta get inside with her and i'm like there's i literally like

01:47:29.800 they're trying to catch they're trying to like catch a charge holy shit yeah no no it's not in

01:47:35.300 the end like like the the whole story i might tell you like even one day like these women i found out

01:47:41.340 she's associated like with nargs and stuff like that like some crazy stuff but anyways where it gets

01:47:47.720 super weird is that one night um i've got my room and she had like this big mansion and i've got my room

01:47:56.220 and i'm sleeping and one night like i literally just wake up out of the sudden and i've got her

01:48:03.700 literally like trying to get in the bed with me like and she's like trying to explain me that you

01:48:11.980 know this is normal that she started like catching feelings for me and all of that and literally that

01:48:17.340 same night like uh i kind of like was so shocked that i just left the i left the the room and i mean i

01:48:25.420 took like uh i took everything what i could i actually left like a bunch of stuff there because

01:48:29.840 i was like bro i just want to get the hell out of here out of here like for one hour she was trying

01:48:34.040 to explain me like not violent or anything like that but she was like sorry and then she was like

01:48:39.140 no but let's do this and then sorry and let's do that and anyways i get out of the house i i take like

01:48:45.080 a uber to the airport and they're like i waited for the next day and then i i i caught a flight to

01:48:51.500 to london basically wow and that's so then you met me now that you say that the free to one

01:48:57.600 experience i can tell you it might be kind of true you know the what the what the free to one

01:49:03.400 experience oh the three to one three out of four

01:49:05.860 got it well dang i want to call you by your real name but i won't i was about to say it

01:49:15.640 okay well i'm i'm glad you didn't have any other stories chains yeah and there won't be any other

01:49:24.900 better not

01:49:27.540 okay good um sorry dog go ahead we're gonna do brian are you there brian

01:49:38.220 you you got on camera a little bit ago there you are unmute um

01:49:45.420 brian unmute unmute you're still muted you're still muted you are still muted my friend

01:49:57.600 you're on mute all right we'll go to we'll go to julian are you there

01:50:07.600 yeah i'm sure you hear me yeah go ahead yeah sorry um yeah i've had mixed reactions right

01:50:17.600 one of my best bosses was actually one what sorry before before you go what industry are you in

01:50:24.300 just helps me contextualize yeah i've been in a lot of industries so right now i'm in tech before that

01:50:30.820 i was in business observations uh biz devops all right um so right now i'm in it um before

01:50:37.540 i was in business operations and that woman i think she was good because she had spent 20

01:50:42.620 years in the foreign service so she had an accountability mechanism above her so if she failed

01:50:47.900 messed up she'd go to prison right you know you really mess up in foreign service you you can go to

01:50:54.100 jail or prison um my worst boss was also a woman and i you know i'll go to the worst boss and the big

01:51:01.800 thing is she was very invasive in my personal life and the way she did it was by asking questions that

01:51:09.700 i didn't want to answer but then trying to ingratiate herself all the time to try and form this fake

01:51:15.040 relationship and i found this out very this was very early in my career um but she found out that

01:51:22.000 you know uh she wanted to find out about my family find out about who was dating um all these

01:51:27.440 different types of things and when she found out all these things she held them against me because

01:51:31.720 she didn't approve of certain portions of it and that is where what wait how did she okay how did that

01:51:38.300 come up so she asks you like who you're dating and then she says at work like you shouldn't date her

01:51:43.980 or no uh she asks uh so are you taking any time off yeah i'm gonna take time off to spend them with

01:51:51.520 my girlfriend oh who's your girlfriend well girl i've been seeing since i was in college you know

01:51:58.680 we had a good time we've been enjoying each other's company we're gonna go to you know pick strawberries

01:52:04.780 or apples or whatever um but yeah it's gonna be you know long weekend so it'll be a good time and this

01:52:11.060 is me being naive just expecting you know everything's okay approved we're gonna go off in that

01:52:16.120 um and you know she asked she started asking more pointed questions started digging a little bit

01:52:22.500 deeper and you know she found out oh this is my girlfriend big thing that really set it apart

01:52:28.500 why it made it so terrible towards my end of my tenure at the company i was there for about four years

01:52:33.880 um another girl was hired on who she just got along with they were girlfriends almost right and they had

01:52:41.820 their own falling out eventually that girl who was hired on had a crush on me i had no interest in

01:52:49.380 her one it's a co-worker i don't want to mess with the co-worker be honest yeah oh yeah she was fat

01:52:55.700 i knew it yeah i'm like zero zero interest i'm like really zero zero interest man she she she looked

01:53:05.620 like an apple with sticks okay but she she had that she was bad bill she was a badly made woman okay um

01:53:13.200 and she was very aggressive you know she she she sent uh pictures of her naked she sent pictures of her

01:53:21.040 like genitalia up close and she was fat too they weren't even good pictures i know it was this one

01:53:29.640 white or black uh which one i mean both of them were black but yeah okay okay go ahead

01:53:35.560 no um but i just expressed no interest reported it to hr and you know told my boss about it my boss

01:53:43.120 is like sure i'll talk about this after the fact she found out this is when she found out my girlfriend

01:53:48.640 was not black and oh man here we go oh no yeah yeah yeah and she she was not she was very she was very

01:53:57.340 good about letting me or about not letting me know that that was an issue but that became an issue of why

01:54:03.540 well a couple weeks before my annual review came up it went from four stars to all of a sudden you're

01:54:10.840 going to be on performance enhancement oh you know and there's at that point you pretty much need to

01:54:16.760 look for a new job and so i did and went through the pip and got laid off i don't know five weeks later

01:54:25.580 and you know there was nothing i could do about it because you know it turned into i need to check

01:54:29.900 every email you send i need to check every work product you send before you send it to the person

01:54:35.100 you're sending it to it's not you um so it becomes a control situation you know you're going to comply

01:54:41.840 you're going to submit and it wasn't good and it set me back uh you know it turned into good reason why

01:54:51.580 i took a couple months off left the country came back a year later um and i realized one

01:54:59.020 certain certain people are not meant to be in leadership two um if they're in leadership you

01:55:05.820 cannot share your personal information at all like you should have just a standard non

01:55:11.280 non-true story or something you can stick with with parts of the truth right so if you're

01:55:17.640 working for a company that likes families then you're just a family guy right if you're working

01:55:22.520 for a startup you don't have a family and you have to figure out how do you sell yourself because that

01:55:27.720 even your your existence as a person your status romantically that has to be a portion of it and i

01:55:34.040 think women take that into an account a lot more and if you're if you violate their internal rules

01:55:40.740 that are beyond the company's rules you're cooked right so do you find that to be the same with men

01:55:48.700 like men will evaluate you based on like if you're like if you're married or um single guy whatever

01:55:58.380 it's a mixed bag i think i think generally all right so all right america the majority of men

01:56:09.020 that are going to be in hiring manager positions going to be white men about 40 to 60 somewhere in

01:56:15.660 that neighborhood okay most of them are family guys right they they got their wife they got the kids

01:56:19.940 they want to work they want to do their job but then something's going to pop up i think most of

01:56:23.700 those guys just want somebody who can solve the problems they want somebody to take the burden off

01:56:28.160 their hands so they don't really care as much about your romantic status but they do like family

01:56:35.540 guys so that's where it pays to have like a format where you can just lie or you know shape the truth

01:56:44.000 and just say yeah i'm a family guy i want this position right but a lot of those guys also

01:56:49.520 they suffer from a lot of this you know frustration of not being taken fully seriously outside of their

01:56:55.820 job as much as they are on their job and so those guys have a different issue that they're going

01:57:00.800 through yeah okay they're more fair though yeah go ahead go ahead this is a question that's separate

01:57:11.320 from pearl but you know i'm i'm a black professional just like you have you found it in your experience

01:57:19.560 that in an academic and professional setting you're you usually you're the person that treats you the

01:57:26.700 worst or your worst enemy or your arch nemesis is another black person uh all right so i i know

01:57:33.940 what you're getting that all right so i'll tell you this because i'll say it i'll say it most of the

01:57:38.960 time this has nothing to do with pearl this is just dug in pa um most of my professional jobs

01:57:47.220 it's been a black woman that's given me the most hell of work i'll say that as someone that will not

01:57:54.460 help me the what at all i'll be more diplomatic i'll say um the best sorry from a business

01:58:00.420 perspective that the ones who will take you at your your technical skill and knowledge it's going

01:58:07.820 to be white 99 of the time well let's say 90 of the time it's going to be it's going to be like

01:58:13.920 middle-aged white guy who just needs you to help solve their problem so they look good

01:58:17.840 yep god i'm i'm like but it's really like how professional minded are you that's the big thing

01:58:23.620 i'm envisioning my dad right now as you guys are talking like he does not care you could be you could

01:58:29.100 be like a a vegan leftist with three girlfriends and a boyfriend and he will not care if you can

01:58:37.240 make his life easier and save him time he does not care yeah they want to solve problems yeah and like

01:58:44.740 they know i can tell them what they need to hear i can demonstrate what i need to solve

01:58:48.820 what i can alleviate from their burdens and then they pay me my money and i'll get out of their hair

01:58:55.600 and it's the basic thing and and to me you sound like the kind of person like i always say on my

01:59:01.640 channel you know it's not about finding a passion it's not about being happy at work it's about

01:59:08.880 getting the job done and and having a job that gives you dignity respect and the finances to live

01:59:17.360 the life you want on your terms or to support a family if you so choose but one of the reasons why

01:59:22.640 women are so terrible to each other is they bring in all this stuff oh you know we have to all get

01:59:26.680 along together on a personal level we all have to be happy at work we all have to find our passion no we

01:59:32.020 don't oh yeah i don't i don't want i don't want a bagel lunch i don't want a pizza lunch i don't want

01:59:37.500 any other like stress balls i don't want any of that shit if you want to do any of that garbage send

01:59:42.320 it to me in a check that can be counted as a stipend you know internet stipend cell phone stipend

01:59:48.160 something along those lines i don't need to be best friends with the people if i get along with people

01:59:51.880 i work with fantastic but i don't need to get along with you other than how do we solve the problem

01:59:57.960 that we're all tasked with that's that's that's the basic thing yeah a lot more women are not they're

02:00:03.660 not qualified for that and it's you know there are wins who are out there who do that and you don't

02:00:09.060 hear many complaints from or about them but a lot more who get in the positions they want to exercise

02:00:15.000 control they want to get you to comply in certain ways that just don't make any sense for the job

02:00:19.700 i'm coming in here to share this carpet get the job done see the direct deposit and then live my life

02:00:26.140 and if i get along with a couple of people you invite me to your wedding fantastic if you don't

02:00:31.140 fantastic i don't really care about that i want the job i want to get the job done there you go yeah

02:00:37.140 thank you for answering i appreciate it yeah thanks so much for calling in yeah thank you big fan have a

02:00:43.940 good night thanks um that's everybody bro you're good yeah i was about to say i think that's gonna be my

02:00:48.840 last caller anyway um i think let me

02:00:54.080 okay i think that's all i got doug any final thoughts on female bosses um women can't stand

02:01:06.780 each other guys the only time they come together is against the patriarchy and men but other than that

02:01:13.600 they can't stand each other what do you think about long-lasting female friendships like the

02:01:18.780 ones you know because i know some friend groups that have been together for a while what's your

02:01:23.040 thought on those um female friends will last until one of them gets into a social relationship

02:01:29.720 where they get married then it's over yeah or or if any of those women get happy for some reason

02:01:37.720 they find you know this if they're successful in business if they you know if they find some kind

02:01:49.480 of passion or something women can't women can't stand each other guys yeah so that's it well thanks

02:01:55.420 so much doug and thank you everyone for watching if you want go to the audacity network.com and i'm

02:02:01.960 about to read all the final chats of the night let me refresh really quick also thank you to everyone

02:02:06.880 everyone watching on rumble um we're at 99 people on rumble what a day um okay let me go to the bottom

02:02:15.880 um all good there's if you guys want me to read your comment on the website put pearl read um i do want

02:02:25.340 to get to at some point i think it'd be fun to do like site but i gotta get enough first that it makes sense

02:02:32.140 but if you want yearly membership feel free um the every female boss i've had acted more masculine and

02:02:40.200 bossy than any male like they're trying to become some image of a tough guy i was working in general

02:02:45.700 labor and warehouse work that's yankee um okay i think that's everyone thanks so much for watching

02:02:55.100 guys and obviously i'm going to play my mixtape as a way to end the show because well um

02:03:02.900 i yeah because good night girl good night thanks for calling very welcome have a good night you too

02:03:14.820 all right all right i'm gonna go on the live thanks for watching guys

02:03:17.980 you

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02:03:55.620 you

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02:04:10.040 Amen.

JustPearlyThings - February 27, 2025

Modern Women Make Terrible Bosses

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