Men Need Time Alone From Modern Women
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1 hour and 58 minutes
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Summary
On this episode of the WDFA podcast, I talk about my new song Fallen in Love in the Dark, and how it came to be. I also talk about the struggles of self-produced music, and why it s important to have someone in the studio with you to help you get your stuff together.
Transcript
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As you guys know, I am self-producing today, so you're going to have to give me like five
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I don't have anyone else in the studio, so I'm trying to, you know, I always get comments
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from people saying, Pearl, Pearl, Pearl, you need to be better, get your stuff together.
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You know, I totally welcome you to do all this yourself in the most respectful way possible.
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So it looks like this is not, some of these are not working.
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I think my rumble's working now, but I don't think the other ones are.
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I also need to hear from you guys if the, I need to hear if the audio is okay.
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Again, I need you guys to bear with me, you know, uh, cave view on website.
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So let me, let me see how the Twitter is doing.
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And so whether you like it or not, I am going to be showing you my music.
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You guys are like, Pearl, if you were a man, you'd be able to do this better.
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So, I wrote a song called Fallen in Love in the Dark.
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But my world's been so much better with you in it.
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The world's been telling us that we ain't it.
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All right. Did you guys like my mixtape? I want to get that one produced. So, you know,
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they're like every girl just becomes a, okay, let's see. Did it work on the website?
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All right. Let's see. Am I live streaming now? Oh, yay. It's going. I think it's finally going.
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Yes. Yes. I think anyways. Yes. Yes. I have succeeded.
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Oh my goodness. You don't know the toil that I've been through. And now, um, oh my gosh.
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I'm triple streaming Twitter. I haven't gotten to work yet, but now I got rumble. I got YouTube.
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I'm switching my camera. I'm playing my mixtape. What a time. Oh my goodness. I might force you guys
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to listen to one more song. Anyways, I might, do I force it? Let me see. Was this one?
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No. Okay. I'll torture you tomorrow with another mixtape tomorrow. So, oh my gosh. I was just
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getting so frustrated. I'm so happy. All right. So I did promise you guys something. So to start
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the show, I'm going to read the people that signed up. And I did promise that once I got 10 signups,
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I would give the Rolo tee. So today I'm talking about my internet lore. Now, many times, you know,
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people have talked shit about me over the years and I really haven't ever responded.
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Um, I mean, now Rolo Tomasi is a phenomenal author. I love his work. And when I read his work a couple
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of years ago, and I only talk about this publicly because my brother said I could, but I have a
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brother that committed suicide or not, sorry, I didn't commit suicide, attempted suicide like years ago.
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So I know it doesn't, I'm, I don't sound that torn up now. It was very sad at the time, but you know,
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this was a very long time ago. So we've kind of moved on to, you know, and when I read Rolo Tomasi's
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book, um, a couple of years ago now, it really made a lot of stuff like make sense. You know, um,
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alpha widow was something that I'd seen something that I'd experienced. And, um,
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that was one of the first videos I saw of Rolo's and really when I got into the space,
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And, um, unfortunately he did not accept my friendship. Now, before I get into it, I want
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to read all of the people that signed up last show that are allowing me to talk about this internet
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lore. Now I will give you guys tea because remember, whenever I bring up someone else's name,
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it gives them the ability to create drama out of this, react to it. Like God only knows what this
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man's going to do. I mean, he's done whole spurging sessions on me. So I try to keep other people's
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name out of my mouth, but I will do it when I am paid. Yup. Yes, I will. Um, Shailen,
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thank you for signing up yearly membership, Matthew, another yearly membership, um, Sneed monthly
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membership, um, another yearly membership from past Pashel. I think, um, this is on the last 14
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hours to 21 hours ago, another one from Eric. And that's perfect. Once we get to, you know, at some
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point we won't even have to do commercials, even though this is our sponsor second link. I'm going to
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talk about it later. I do like them. So this isn't even, uh, this isn't even like, um, a forced
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sponsor, but at some point, if we get enough memberships, I don't even have to do commercials
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and I can do a super full, uh, I can even have a whole production team in here, but who needs,
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you know, what do we need? Anyways, um, lady bird, another monthly membership, Eric, another monthly
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member or monthly membership, Robert, another monthly membership, Marquise 10 or a monthly
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membership, Ivan, another monthly membership. So again, the ideal, um, trying to think of our show
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costs. Okay. So it's tough to say because the monthly memberships and yearly are different because
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the yearly, but roughly we get 10 signups to show in six months, my costs are covered and
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I can move out. I've have a lot of guilt in my life. I'm going to be honest. My, my haters
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will, um, use this against me. I don't really enjoy, um, my dad, he's helping me out. He built
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me a studio because I can't afford two rents right now, um, to do the show. And I have all
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this very high production, amazing equipment, but YouTube demonetized me. Right. So it, you
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know, now I'm home, feel like a loser a little bit. I won't lie to you. Um, so, you know, essentially
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I'm unemployable, although I, maybe I haven't tried hard enough, but I really do believe that
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I'm meant to work in media. Um, it's something that I know a lot of women quit to be content
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creators, but I have a little bit of success, you know, where it actually worked out for
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me. Um, and I just believe, you know, this is something I'm meant to do. And I really want
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to make a non-gynocentric media company. That's my goal. And I really want to bring back nineties
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humor. I'd love to bring back Weinstein. Now I'd love to, I, I know I can't, but I want
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to give an opportunity to some of these guys that, you know, got opportunities taken away
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for no reason. Um, and I really believe that I can make this app very cool. I know there's
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been some issues and I do apologize. We're understaffed. Um, but it's getting better. Um, I'm
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recently this week, we're having someone put thumbnails on all of the, um, content on the
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website. And hopefully in the next month we can re-upload all of my old content. On top
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of that, the documentary, the, we just hired a new team. I don't want to talk about my old
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team. I made some mistakes in the past year. I'll just say this. I had to find a new one.
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Um, you know, I feel like sometimes I start these shows just telling you guys about my
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L's. I don't know, but I'm not, you know, this is what it is. Oh, we got another monthly
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membership. Thank you. Oh, Steve. He said, um, he donated on the website. Rolo secretly
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loves you. You're rare. You know, it just is what it is. Now I will give you guys the tea
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on Rolo. I'll give you my side of that story because it just, he has been talking shit for
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years saying I'm a terrible person. And I just want to know what was my crime? Now I could
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be a better person. I won't lie to you guys. You know, maybe there's like a level of good
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people. And I definitely would not put myself at the top. You know, I've done some embarrassing
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things in my life. I really have. Just is what it is. Um, okay. But I think I read everybody
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who signed up. I'm going to give a zoom link to my friend, Glenn, who is also
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Let me send this to Glenn. Which one was Glenn's number? Let me text him. So it's at the,
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at the top. So, okay. So the one thing you learn in life is you shouldn't meet your heroes.
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And I think I learned this in media because when I joined, um, what I loved about red pill
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content and reading red. Now, let me go further back. What is the red pill? Now what the red
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pill is, is a collections of men's experiences online. So essentially men got together to solve
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a problem. And this was on anonymous forums like back in the day. So, and there were some prominent
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writers during this. And one of them was Rolo Tomasi. Now what Rolo Tomasi did was took all of
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the experiences of men in the forums. And he also, um, and he also had his original ideas and he wrote a
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book. And Rolo, I gotta say he, he is amazing work. And when I got into media, all, I wanted nothing
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more than to meet and interview him. I loved him and I loved Kevin Samuels. I loved them. I thought
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they were so amazing and so much so, but Rolo just was a little bit apprehensive with me. Now I have to
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say this could have been, there was someone behind the scenes. I had a falling out with very early on,
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and I'm going to, by the way, I'm giving you what I remember. Some of this has been some time since
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it happened. So I'm just like, some of this was three, four years ago. I'm remembering this to the
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best of my ability. Now this girl and I had a falling out, but do you know what's crazy? We worked
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it out behind the scenes and it never became public and never became a big deal. We moved on. So maybe
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this was why he was apprehensive. I also had, um, I'm going to talk about this. Um, when I went on
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fresh and fit the first time, like four years ago, I really had me and Myron had an argument or not an
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argument, but he, the long story short, there was a miscommunication and I talked about this.
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Like he yelled at me in front of like all these people. It was really embarrassing. Um, because
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it was like a miscommunication at the time. And I decided to talk about it on the internet and this
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was just not smart. I ended up taking it down because I was, so I can understand where like
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the apprehension came about me. Now this is like five years ago for you. I don't remember.
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And me and Myron worked that out also behind the scenes where Myron, I like sing his praises now
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because in all honesty, say what you want about those guys, but they're one of the few
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that I feel like I'm burying myself now. Whatever. I don't care. I got nothing to lose anymore.
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I don't care. Um, so, you know, Myron, so maybe this was why, I don't know, but Rolo,
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I think I put on a pedestal a little bit. I loved Rolo. I loved him. I thought he was so smart.
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I thought his book was amazing. It made my brother's attempted suicide make sense because
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I was really mad at my brother for a while about it. And it just, I was like, oh, that's why he tried
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it. Um, it made that make sense. It made like, you know, a failed relationships that I'd had before
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makes it all just like made sense. And I was like, wow, I want to interview him. Now I take this to
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the point where I actually, um, scheduled an interview with him and he ends up like I move.
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I, by the way, at the time I'm full-time playing volleyball and doing the media stuff. And I missed
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a volleyball game to interview this guy. I spent probably two grand extending my trip,
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moving my flights just to interview him. I was so excited. And he cancels on me that week
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because he claimed he had COVID. Now I don't know if he had COVID or didn't,
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but I'll tell you what, I was really disappointed. And I saw him on a show like six days later. So
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I thought after COVID you were supposed to, I don't know. I thought like, you know, I think he just
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didn't like me. Um, I think from the beginning, maybe it was something I did early on, um, that
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set him off. Maybe it was because in the beginning there was some red pill ideas that triggered me.
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Maybe that's what set him off. Um, but I just think from the beginning, he just did not like me.
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I don't know why I feel like I'm a brat. I feel like I'm a joy to be around, but you know,
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and he would just be on these streams. He'd call me autistic, which, you know, they kind of stopped
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calling everybody that I know I'm a bit dorky. Okay. But have you met real autistic kids? Like
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it's a little bit. Okay. Now, anyways, he would call me an idiot, which, okay. I could be smarter,
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but it's like Rolo, what are you? And I think his issue was, I think for my knowledge on the topic
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at the time, I just got a little bit too famous too fast where, you know, I start getting invited
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on shows. He's not invited on where, you know, he's been doing it 20 years. And in my head at the
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time, I felt like, well, who cares who's saying it? Let's get the message out there. Now I could see
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in hindsight where maybe I could have done a better job on certain shows or I could, you know,
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I could have articulated things better. But Rolo, I don't know, like I've had media, like
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people I know in the industry talk about why he's not like more famous, but he just doesn't have the
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most mass appeal, likable, you know, personality. I don't think that's what he's in it for.
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Um, because even to this day, I still like the guy, you know, I really do. Um, but I can't,
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this is a one-sided liking. So I guess I got to hate him now. Anyways, long story short,
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I ended up getting very famous and I have like 20 employees. And when I'm doing collaborations at the
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time, um, guys, I would have like three collaborations in a day. A lot of people don't
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believe me when I said that I didn't know who Nick was, but I didn't have, um, a media company
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or a team behind me. Most people are owned by someone. If you look into them, I was independent
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completely. And I have no idea how this didn't like show by the people I had on. I saw a clip of Nick
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talking about race mixing and that's why everyone was criticizing me. Cause I had him to talk about
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the J topic, you know? Um, but I had him on to talk about race mixing and while he was there,
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he obviously, you know, spoke about it. And, um, now anyways, before he comes on, I say to Rolo,
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Hey, can I invite on other content creators? Now I'm telling you, this was stupid, but in my head,
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I don't like, it did not take me near as long as these other people to build my brand and become
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a big, well-known person. And I think because of that, I didn't really have the caution that other
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people had, I was like, who cares? Let's have everyone on freedom of speech, baby, you know?
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And so all I did, he had a tweet about vasectomies. And so what I did was when I asked him if I could
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bring on content creators, I think he thought I was, it was just going to be people in the space
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or something. He didn't specify. I don't think it's a big deal. So I, I send the link and I don't
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know who's going to say yes, but at the time I sent the link, um, to this live stream about this.
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He had a tweet about a vasectomy and how the quickest way to be a high value man is to like
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get a vasectomy. He didn't say it was the best way or the only way, but you got to admit that does,
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if we followed family court, if we're being objective here, that prevents a lot of problems.
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Now, anyways, um, Rolo ends up, um, going on the stream and I'm just letting anyone on
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that was talking about his tweet on the timeline. So these were agreeers, disagreeers. And I thought
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we could all have a nice conversation and come to a conclusion. And, um, by the way, I did invite
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his friends too. I invited like Bryson Gray, cause you know, all the Bible thumpers were very upset
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about this tweet. So Bryson Gray comes on and he's Bible thumped in. Now Nick F also came on and he's
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Bible thumping. I also invited Myron, but Myron couldn't come. We'd squashed our beef at that point.
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Um, I'd also invited, um, um, I also invited who else, who else did I invite? I invited MLD. He was in
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Japan. Sergio came on. Yeah. Sergio. I don't remember. This was so long ago now. Like he was
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a year and a half ago now, Glenn. Yeah. It's been actually almost two years now.
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Frickin two years ago. So two years, like in March. Yeah. Guys, by the way, this is a butchered
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story. This is what I remember. I am not going back and getting every receipt. I don't care enough
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about this anyway. So then the way he took it was that I was trying to attach Nick to him,
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I think. And this was an ambush, even though on the stream, I was on his side. I was defending him
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and I, I don't, maybe I didn't moderate it well enough. Like I think Bryson was kind of talking
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over him and Oh, reclaim your throne was on there. Who's more red pill, you know? So my,
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this, my intention was to have a good conversation where we could hash out this debate in real time
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on X. Now I could see why he would take that as an ambush. I really could. And there's no excuse.
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I made a mistake. I wish I didn't do that. I apologized immediately. I pulled the stream.
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I said, sorry, you know, I was so apologetic. I was like, Oh, and I don't, yeah. And to this day,
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so then after that, he has blacklisted everybody that's associated with me. Everybody I am talking
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about, um, I don't, you know, I don't know if I want to say their names. Cause I'm not trying to
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bring anyone else into this, but I have one person. Well, yeah, that's what I was going to say. Glenn's
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one of them. And, um, this is the thing. All I wanted to do was work with this guy. That was it.
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All I wanted was him to be. I am. And the other thing that happened was I asked him to mentor me.
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I really wanted him to be my mentor. And then he screenshotted it and put it on Twitter.
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And I was like, and he, he was saying that, I don't know, I didn't want to do the work or I
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didn't want to. And I'm like, I don't know. I like, I have a guitar teacher, you know, I like having
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mentors. I just, why would I not have someone mentor me? That's like better than me. You know,
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I thought I, I, to this day recommend his book, you know, it made a lot of things in my life make sense.
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So Glenn, I have Glenn on the phone and Glenn is another person. He was one of the, I can count
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three people that were blacklisted and by blacklisted. And I think he picks and chooses because
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I work with Myron still and Myron still streams with him. So maybe it's just like smaller people.
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He blacklists. I don't know. But I was very hurt by the way. I did a reaction early on when the first
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video, he started like talking trash about me and I was devastated. I was like, I was like, this is my
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hero. And then he just, you know, shit on me. And then he just calls me fat on Twitter and which is
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fine. I call a lot of women fat. So it's, it's totally okay. Um, you're forgetting about that
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entire summer. Like, remember the entire summer after the whole tweet thing, like I'm working
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behind the scenes. Cause I was working as Rose producer and you were coming to Vegas and we were
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trying to sit, get a sit down between the two of you. Remember that? And you're like, yeah, I'll meet
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with him off the record. You know, we could squash this stuff and you're like, see what he says. And
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then I'm coming to him with it. And he's like, keep on wanting like, yeah, I want $10,000 or whatever.
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I forgot about the picture thing. Oh yeah. Oh my gosh. I forgot. Holy crap. Okay. So this is what
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happens. This, this was another part. See, I forget about all this because guys, I didn't,
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maybe I, I don't remember talking about this publicly. I don't think I have. Um, but at this
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point I don't care. So what happened with, um, Brittany Venti. So Brittany Venti is a girl
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who has just been attacking me for years. Um, she has made videos criticizing the way I smile,
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criticizing the way I dress. Like, you know, she's, she made a rumor about me
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that I dated a homeless guy. He was not okay. I don't know if homeless is staying in five-star
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hotels. Do you know what I mean? Like technically, but I think that's kind of, you know, offensive
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to people that are actually homeless, right? When it's off of like a technicality, like you
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don't have an apartment lease, but you're staying in hotel, whatever. I don't want to talk about
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that, but I hate this woman because I mean, she's just, you know, she's gone after my mother,
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gone after all this bullshit. Now, mind you, I met another woman who also was not a fan of her,
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who had a very similar experience. Cause that's kind of what Brittany does. She just does take
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down videos, whatever. And, um, ends up, what ends up happening is this girl tells me that Brittany
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vent, he has nudes on the internet. Now what these women do is after like things get leaked or bad
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things happen, what they do is they make a fake story and like pretend it was all fake. And that's
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how they like make a smoke screen around something that really happened. Now it's tough because some
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internet rumors are actually fake and they aren't real, but you kind of just have to use your
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discernment. And, um, so remember, so Rolo had gotten an anonymous, um, an example where this
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happened to Brittany before Rolo had gotten an email or something. I don't know exactly what,
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but he got wind that Lauren Southern had an abortion of destiny's baby. And essentially Brittany
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Venti comes in and makes a smoke. Do you want me to chime in on this part? Yeah, go ahead.
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Cause I got like, so Rolo received an email, um, from allegedly from, uh, Lauren Southern's husband
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out of the country asking for a lawyer to, you know, that he could point to him to help him out
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because he was going through some stuff. And during that there was allegedly, um, another email came
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from, uh, this guy or this person that worked at this OBGYN clinic that saw Lauren Southern allegedly go
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in there to get up, you know, um, pregnancy test. And basically he took that and then the rumor of
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her and destiny together, um, and put the timeline together like, Oh, well, this makes sense.
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This is who's, so he kind of ran with that story. And what did I say to you, Glenn? Did I say
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it sounds credible that Lauren was pregnant or if her and destiny were just hooking up,
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but that's confirmed now that that happened. And, um, so Brittany Venti, in order to like
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stop Rolo in his tracks, pretended to send him an abortion document. Now I said that there's no way
00:38:37.760
this is real to Glenn at the time. And I guess Rolo still went public and he, and she ended up
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making him look kind of dumb cause he just believed this random email. Um, but it was true, right? It
00:38:53.520
actually was true, but that's how they like divert from their craziness. Does that make sense guys?
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Like some, they'll do something crazy or like something that makes them look bad. And then in
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order to fake it later, what they'll do is they'll, they'll leak something that makes it look like
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everything's fake, but it wasn't fake. It was real, but they go to extreme lengths to make you believe
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everything was fake. Did I explain that right, Glenn? I, let's see if you can, you cut out a little
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bit, but go ahead. Um, you missed the part that we're like, you know, what? Uh, Brittany Venti's
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fake news. Okay. Thank you. Well, no, the nudes I'm going to talk about next, but I'm saying the
00:39:37.120
abortion part that's done, right? So like there wasn't even, yeah. So allegedly she had, um, a
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miscarriage or abortion. And we assumed that that was Rola took it as that was destiny's love child
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that either. She, um, was pregnant, that she was pregnant and the baby was born and we didn't know
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where the baby is or that she had an abortion because there's no baby present. Um, and she
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aborted destiny's baby. It's one, it was one of the two theories that he had, but he believed that the,
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um, the, the OBGYN, uh, paperwork that he had was authentic.
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Yeah. And he was going to like destiny challenged him and like bet him $10,000 that he can't prove
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it. And when we went to no jumper, destiny was that no jumper that day as well. So Rolo brought
00:40:36.120
this paperwork with him, uh, in case he was going to run into destiny and thinking that, you know,
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by whipping it out, that destiny would be able to, you know, have to admit to it.
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And in my head, in my head, I just thought there's no way that there's someone that's going to risk
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their job for some internet clout. I mean, and I just didn't think it would happen. Like she could
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sue so big time. You told me to tell him not to run with it. I said, I said, tell him not to run
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with that. Did he listen? No, he ran with it. So even when he's talking shit about me,
00:41:14.940
from my perspective, I'm still looking out for his best interest. So what happens is
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now Brittany Venti on top of this, try like, she's done a diversion thing to, um, divert from the fact
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that she has a nudes on the internet. They, these are her nudes. Everybody knows they're her nudes,
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but you know, she, she's, she, her face isn't in it. So everybody, what happened is I guess on 4chan,
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um, they would tell women tits or get the F out. And I guess she chose tits. So, uh, you know,
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so at some point, just, just, just for her, you know, for her sake, they're a nice pair of titties.
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I'm not going to lie. Like they're proportionate, you know, they're nice. Yeah. I mean, look,
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a nice pair of boobs. Congratulations lady. Um, now somebody sent me this nude and I send it to Glenn
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and it's on the internet. You can Google it. It's, it's really not hard to find. And then Rolo is,
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what did he do? He like screenshotted that and was like, tell the daily wire that, um, Pearl's trying
00:42:33.340
to like solicit under, I forgot what the hell he accused me of. What he did was, um, you sent me,
00:42:40.460
he sent me them and I was like, Oh shit. I was like, man, it doesn't show her face though. So,
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you know, I don't think we can roll with that, you know? Cause it's like, and you didn't say like,
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Hey, you know, use this or anything. You're like, look what I found. Right. Like. Yeah. Cause
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if you find some internet gossip about your arch nemesis, you're going to send it to your pals.
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Like what the hell? Yeah. So, so I'm like, I showed it to him. I sent it to him. I said,
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look, I was like, you know, um, this looks like, you know, her, but it doesn't like,
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we don't see her face in it. So be careful. You know, like I wouldn't, you know, just wouldn't
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roll with it. And he's like, where'd you get it from? Well, I don't lie. I said, Pearl sent it to
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me, you know, like she, she knew that we were going through the shit with, with Brittany. Cause
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Brittany accused Rolo of asking for her nudes and her underage nudes at that in an email.
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Yeah. Because again, Brittany's trying to divert from the fact that she has nudes on the internet
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like that. She, they're on the internet. They are real. I know multiple people in conservative
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media who know that they are real and she's going to make some hit piece now trying to pretend
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that they are not real. They're real. Um, she was probably, yeah. And Rolo said that, um, you
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tried to give underage nudes to me to him. Right. And before I even like checked it, like the age
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on or the date on the picture that she took, cause she wrote the date that this, uh, the titties
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were allegedly uploaded. Right. And then I looked at that date plus her birthday. And then I'm like,
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oh, so this chicken, this picture is 19, 20 years old. So they're not underage nudes. And I tell that
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to Rolo. So he already knew, but he decided to spin it as you're trying to solicit underage nudes
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to me through him. And then he starts telling everybody I work for the daily wire, because at
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one point I had a consultant who worked for the daily wire, but this was his side business
00:45:02.220
consulting and he quit like four years ago. Now it would be like hiring an editor as a contractor
00:45:10.540
that like, imagine if, um, my editor in his free time contracted, did contract edit work on the
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weekends. I mean, it's not really the, and if I did work for them, I mean, I would, I wouldn't have
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a problem saying it, but he ended up getting community noted anyway. So that's the, um, I think
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that's all the tea, you know, and then, oh, and then he fired Glenn. No, you're missing one part.
00:45:42.220
What did I forget? It's, it's been so long. When we went to, when we went to daily wire,
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right. Um, remember he, uh, James Sexton, he tried to say like the whole James Sexton thing.
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Cause the member originally the panel was going to be four red pillars. Oh my gosh. Then do you know
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what's crazy? He accused me of trying to get Rolo off the panel when I suggested him to be on it to
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begin with? I was supposed to have a one-on-one interview. Nobody else was invited. And I said,
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and I knew everyone in the RP was going to complain and say, Pearl shouldn't get this collab. So I'm
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like, Hey, let me try to get someone else in the door. I, I also agree. There's a lot of great men
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in the space that I respect a lot. Let's bring like, I don't have a problem filming with anybody.
00:46:37.520
Let's bring them. And then, um, I forgot how he got some screenshot and was trying to spin it.
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Like I was trying to not let him in or, um, I don't know what he was trying to do.
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No, what he was trying to say was that you were trying to use him to get to James Sexton,
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to get James Sexton on the show with you. And then you had them, uh, cancel Rolo off. Um,
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as you know, as soon as James Sexton would confirm or something like that.
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I don't remember. I mean, I, it was bullshit from my point of view. What happened was
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I on the phone, I wish I had it in writing, but I don't. My assistant at the time,
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she doesn't work for me anymore, but she could confirm it. I said, my assistant's the one that
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sets everything up. And I said, why don't you see if we can bring these other people in the door?
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And for whatever reason, um, at one point Sexton was going to go, maybe Rolo sabotage. He probably
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did. I don't care. Um, it ended up being a one-on-one with Michael Knowles. Um, I enjoyed myself.
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I had a good time and I left. He can say what he wants, but really this guy for years,
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this is why you shouldn't meet your heroes because this guy for years, all I wanted was his friendship
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and like to interview him and just, I mean, even like Glenn could attest. I didn't even really,
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I mean, I would get frustrated because I was sick of him like spreading lies about me,
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but I really never attacked his character. I can't even say, I understand why he was mad.
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The Nick thing, um, wasn't my smartest move. Um, I could see why early on that disagreement with
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Myron maybe would make people skeptical of me. I, you know, that's, that's fine. Um,
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Um, yeah, but that's Emma says, let's just get, let's get back down to brass taxes. The real
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problem is jealousy. Okay. He believes he shouldn't be where you are. He believes that he put in the
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work, you know, for 20 years that he should have the recognition, the 2 million subs that you have.
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That's, that's really what it is. Sorry to say, but that's, that's what it is. Yeah. And it's really
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not fair to some extent. I mean, as you guys know, I've admitted this as a woman, it's just easier in
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media. Like I don't, you know, um, I could see why it would be frustrating for him, but I, you know,
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I can't, if he doesn't like my show, he doesn't really have to watch it. It's totally fine.
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Um, and then I just wish he would flattered. He should be flattered. I just, that you acknowledge
00:49:36.380
his work thing. Whenever you reference someone, you never, then they still get mad that you don't
00:49:40.980
reference them enough. I've come to this problem with like three different people where it's like,
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you'll reference their ideas, but then no, then they'll be like, Oh, I need more references. And
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you're like, okay, I'll give you more. And then it just never ends. It never does end. Um,
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I just wish he would stop. Um, I don't know, making, I understand his position,
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but I just wish he'd stop making stuff up about me. That's just not true. And I wish he wouldn't
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have, you know, cut off Glenn and these other people that, uh, uh, just for working with me.
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I think that it's a little sad, but you know, I appreciate you, Glenn here. Good friend. You're
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really nice. Yeah. You're a really good friend of mine. Oh, and he also wouldn't come to the
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fundraiser I did for, I was raising, I was raising money for his friend, um, Thor for, um, cause
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Thor had brain cancer or has brain cancer. And I was raising money. Here's the thing.
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Here's the thing about that. What did we raise? Like $12,000?
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You got 20, you helped like, you had, you got like 12 or $15,000 donated. Yeah. Just you alone.
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And here's the other thing. Like we had everybody almost on rule zero come to your live stream to
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help raise the funds for Thor. It was like, yo, let's, can we just like put everything aside?
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Can we just put everything down and like all the beef, whatever we have a friend here that is,
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has a, has a very, you know, dangerous and, you know, um, you know, problem here with the brain
00:51:20.400
tumor. And, you know, we're trying to collectively raise the funds needed so that his family could be
00:51:28.840
at peace and rest knowing that everything's financially covered. But, you know, while he's
00:51:34.520
in, um, recovering this and instead of being able to put the, you know, the, the swords down,
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he's like, fuck it. No, I'm going to do it by myself. I'm going to do some other fundraiser for
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him. Guess what? That never happened. Never, never to this day. It's been over a year. He's never
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followed through with that fundraiser that he was supposed to help him with. So yeah, it's just a
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bunch of bullshit. And I, if I remember it right, he was telling people not to come to the fundraiser
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for his friends. Can't, did he do, was it my, I can't remember. This was so long ago.
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This was a year ago we were talking about right now, but he was a year ago. He was telling people
00:52:17.520
not to go to the fundraiser, wasn't he? Yeah. Yeah. So he was telling people not to go
00:52:22.280
to a fundraiser for his friends. Can't anyway. So that's, that's the beef. That's the lore.
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I think that's pretty much it. Um, I understand why he doesn't really like me. I can understand
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him not wanting to work with me. I wish he would stop punishing other people that don't agree with
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him. Um, that's really my two cents. Do you have anything else, Glenn? Um, no, no, I think you,
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I think it was about time that you actually, cause I've been trying to get you to do this for a while
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now. Um, and I, I'm glad that you did it because people needed to hear your side of the story.
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Everybody knows there's three sides of the story, right? There's his side, there's your side. And
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then there's the truth. Um, I just encourage people to like examine the individual's character.
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Um, when you, when you, when you, when you listen to this stuff, because people's character does,
00:53:20.600
you know, uh, reveal a lot about this, you know, the individual. And again, I admire Rolo's work.
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I enjoyed working for him. I'm sorry that he decided he wanted to put me in a position to try to pick
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between my friends or working with him. Everybody knows that I will pick my people every day. Um,
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monies, I don't do this for money. I don't do this for anything other than, you know, my people are my
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people and I'm not going to be bought and paid for, you know? Um, and, uh, that's what it is. And,
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you know, I think, um, when you look at this, his work is great. He's a great writer. He did an
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amazing job with his books, but the man himself, I have an issue with, you know, he may not be the,
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the most smartest person for all in the world. Cause I'm far from hell is not,
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but your character and the way you treat people, it does matter. It leaves a better impact overall.
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And that means more than honestly, whatever words people could put on a page.
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Yeah. And my offer is still open to him for friendship and reconciliation. Um, I am,
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Oh, that's gone after this. Now, you know, that shit is over. I mean, I think it was gone before,
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but you know, all I can do is give my side and that's really all I got. Um, you, anything else?
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Nope. Nope. Have a good show, sis. Um, we're almost at Thor's house right now. So, um, I'm going to,
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I'll watch on the, on the live. Sure. Sure. Thank you. Bye. We also got another sign up from Paul.
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So, yeah, I mean, that's, that's the lore. I said I would do it and I will give you lore
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on other people too. No, you know, um, Dane says he cannot defeat you on substance. So he goes with
00:55:32.380
low social shaming insults and peer pressure, which is feminine. A lot of these guys in the space are like
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that, you know, not really. Most of them are really good people. To be honest, I've met a lot
00:55:43.280
of really great guys in the space, but yeah, he might be your hero, but like many men in the space,
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he's feminine. He's thinking and behavior is feminine, but he just speaks against women.
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He's not intrinsically a masculine thinker. Steve said he's jealousy or success acting like a three or
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four. Anna says, Rolo needs to embrace change. He laid a lot of foundation for the red pill,
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but you bring something new to it. There's room for both of you.
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Faisal, Rolo is an old effing fart. Just forget about him. Nothing in the world is better than
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a pair of stiff nipples. Pearl, don't waste time thinking of this fool. Well, I already did. You
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know, I was very, this was something that upset me for a long time. Now I'm over it,
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but he made himself look ridiculous. Yeah, he did. Um, Steve on the abortion thing. Yeah.
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Rolo is a bit 304-ish. Um, perhaps he's scared cause he's getting old, old. Faisal said,
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what's wrong with being homeless. I became homeless when, while my ex B got crazy. Yeah. And
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do you know what the thing was behind that situation was all it was, was a paperwork issue.
00:56:47.540
It wasn't like they make it seem like I got them off the side of the street and I'm not trying to
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spend a lot of time talking about an ax of mine. I mean, this was so long ago, but God, the internet
00:56:59.460
just never forgets. Um, Faisal, I always wanted to read Rolo Tomasi's The Rational Male. Now he,
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that he didn't accept your friendship, it's business competition. He sees himself as an OG
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while you and Tate are trending in the red pill market. Well, you know, I'd still recommend his
00:57:17.460
book. I think asking someone to mentor you shows a lot of humility and respect. He should have been
00:57:23.340
flattered. That's what I was hoping, but you know, it is what it is. Um, he seems to have faded from
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the view recently. I haven't heard much about him. He's the center of attention issue. The air
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force dude is cool. Um, I think Rolo demands too much credit. He doesn't appreciate new people
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adding to the space sugar. Um, and by the way, if you want your thing read, you just go to the
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website. We were on both app stores. It would be super great if we could get 10 signups today for
00:57:55.060
yearly memberships, but you know, you guys are so nice. I'm always flattered that we get any
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masculine operates based on principles. A lot of these guys in the space are feminine. Okay.
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Okay. Um, all right, but let's get to today's topic. Let me, let me, I got to switch one thing on the
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settings. So for a second, I'm going to make you guys listen to my mixtape again. Sorry. I,
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like the mixtapes. I don't care. Um, you know, I got to go fix something. Do you guys want to hear
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the country? I'll, I'll play you. So this is, I want to make this a little faster, but this is my,
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we don't party like we used to song. And I wrote this about how I've really, my whole life
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parties, everyone's recording and on their phones and stuff. And I kind of wish I was alive in 1992
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before it, but I was born in 96. We don't party like we used to. Take me back to 1992.
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Everybody's acting brand new. We're not looking across the room. Everybody is looking down
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on their phones. No one's around. Yeah. We used to tear up the town. Now I don't hear a sound.
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People don't dance. Somebody's watching drink too much. Everybody's talking. We used to rage like
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there was no stopping. So put your hands up. Everybody's walking. Put your phone down and
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get on the dance floor. Shake that booty like you never did before. Look real steely. Yeah. Raise your
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hands. Let's get together. Baby, just dance.
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We used to snap a Polaroid. Now the whole night's on record. I used to know who my neighbor was.
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Now we really don't do that stuff. We used to go out and ding dong ditch. Now that ring cam is the
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biggest snitch. Now all these young kids do is stream on Twitch. 2020s are the biggest glitch.
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People don't dance. People don't dance because somebody's watching. Drink too much. Everybody's
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talking. We used to rage like there was no stopping. So put your hands up. Everybody's walking.
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Put your phone down and get on the dance floor. Shake that booty like you never raised your hands.
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Let's get together, baby. Just dance. Take a shot, baby. Get your move on. Be like Stella and get your groove on.
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Take a shot, baby. Get your move on. Be like Stella and get your groove on. There ain't nothing that you can do.
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We don't party like we used to. Take me back to 1992. Everybody's acting brand new. We're not looking
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across the room. Okay. Yeah, I will make you guys listen to my mixtape. Okay, Dane says in 96,
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I was 25 married and I had two kids. I thought I was so smart and I was genuinely in love with a beautiful
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midget. Don't gasp. Don't gasp me up. Don't do it. Also, guys, I am begging my dad. My dad is a
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superhero. He is the smartest person I've ever met in my life. You guys don't even know what you're
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missing by not knowing my father. He's so cool. And he built like he's just coolest guy ever.
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And I've been begging him to do a he hates media, would love to get a show once a month where he
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gives his thoughts and everything that's going on in the world. And I want to put it just on the
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website because he doesn't want to be like public, public, you know, or even audio only if you would
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buy it or if you would sign up if he did that. Remember, he's a guy who had 10 kids.
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He's a bajillionaire. Not really, but like he did really well in business. And I even want my dad
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to write a book. He's so cool. So anyways. Pearl's dad is amazing. I met him in person.
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He's everything Pearl says he is. That's Doug. He did meet my dad. Pearl, you were two years old when
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Stella got her groove back. Did you write all of this? I wrote the lyrics and then I hired a production
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guy. Get him on the show. He would never, but I think we could do it on the website.
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Pearl, you need to play the song with you and Bryson Gray, the one we did. And I had my guy work on
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next show. I'll do that as my intro. Okay. We're going to get into the actual topic today. Hold on.
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I'm kind of hot. I know you guys are thinking, Pearl, this is a mess. Look, this just is what it is.
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Okay. So, all right. So recently we talked about women not having hobbies and not liking video games.
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And again, you know, these shows really make me think about the differences between men and women
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and how they like to spend their free time. Many of men's hobbies can be done alone and not in the
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physical presence of others. You know, fishing, video games, and other activities that can be
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enjoyed alone or with another person. You know, most female activities usually involve a social setting
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with others requiring talking and adherence of social rules. You know, in the context of a
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relationship, men tend to have more introverted tendencies, wanting to have alone time or just
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spending time with their significant other, where women tend to be more extroverted, wanting to spend
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time with their friends, you know, wanting to go to social gatherings and activities, you know, like
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wine dates, coffee activities, festivals, et cetera. And the difference can cause friction in a
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relationship because women want to go out. They want to be around people where men, they just want
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to stay home. We know the trope that after a long week at work, men just want to play football, watch
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video games while his girlfriend or wife wants to drag him to a bunch of stuff he doesn't care about.
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And if he decides not to go, he has hell to pay and she will hold it against him for a long time.
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She might even talk to her friends negatively about the man. So why do men tend to be more, to need
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more alone time to recover and women want to be around people? The concept is a social battery. A social
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battery is a term for how much energy someone has for socializing. It can be depleted by social
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interactions and recharged by restorative activities. Extroverts get their energy from social
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interactions where, where, when their battery is low, they will choose to spend time with others
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to recharge. Introverts expend energy from social interactions. They feel low in energy and they will
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choose to spend time alone. Unfortunately for guys, modern women always perceive that their way is the
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correct way in a relationship, leading to women constantly trying to make the men do things
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he doesn't want to do and attacking the men for his hobbies and not giving him any alone time.
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Studies have shown that men need alone time. You've heard stories of men who get home from work and sit
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in their cars for 15 minutes to an hour to recharge. And the man that stops by the bar to get a beer
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before he goes home to see his family. Because conversations about norms in society and relationships
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have been controlled by women, there's a general lack of understanding as to why men need their alone time.
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Just to unwind after a long day to restore their social battery.
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So we're going to watch a video for us talking about, um, the real reason men need their alone
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time. So cam four, tell me if this is going becomes harder when we don't have this natural stimulation.
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It's like it used to be hard for me to listen to my wife. I learned listening to a woman
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stimulates this hormone. All you have to do is don't fix it. That's what we always want to do. We want to stop.
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Stop the problem. Solve the problem. Because when you're a man, if you can solve a problem, dopamine goes up.
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That's for a man. When a woman, when she feels someone hears and cares about me and I'm not alone,
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not only does oxytocin get produced, but dopamine gets produced. Women, that's right. And we get sleepy
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because oxy's so much about them. And so what a man has to do if he's married, you have to compensate
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for that. You have to have ways to raise your testosterone. So how do you rebuild testosterone
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if you're a man? Again, men don't know this. And so what happens is even, even before all these new
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challenges came about, there were rituals and relationships. At the end of the day, men would just
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sit around with men and women would be with all the women and the men would relax and the women
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would stay busy. And you go, now today women are going, well, that's unfair. You should be busy
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like me and doing all these things. But we've never been that way. And there's a reason we're that way
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and nobody understands it. The reason for that is men need to make at least 10 times more testosterone.
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Most men, 40 times more testosterone than the average woman. Women need at least 10 times more
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estrogen or 40 times more than men. So you've got this, this complementariness. Now I certainly
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have estrogen, certainly a woman has testosterone. But if I'm a man, I'm working hard, I'm facing
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challenges to keep my stress from building up. I have to use up my testosterone. I'm solving
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problems. Solving problems is, is using up testosterone. At the end of the day, I've run out.
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How do I rebuild my testosterone? The way you build, rebuild your testosterone is to forget
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Okay. So we have them talking about how, from a scientific perspective, men just have different
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needs socially than women. Now, next we're going to talk about a social battery and what it is. So
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the term social battery describes the amount of energy a person has for socializing. People with a full
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social battery have plenty of energy for social interactions, whereas those with a low social
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battery may feel that it needs recharging. The concept of a social battery is a metaphor helping
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people describe how socializing affects them. The size of a social battery varies among individuals
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and different people prefer different activities to recharge. Some people, such as extroverts, get their
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energy from social interactions. Therefore, when they feel low in energy, they may choose to spend time
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with others. In contrast, introverts expend energy during social interactions. They may need to
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recharge by spending time alone. Other people who may need to do this include autistic people and
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people with social anxiety. The social battery is not a medical concept, but it is a popular and
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convenient way for people to explain how social activities affect them. Read on to learn more about
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social battery. The social battery is a metaphor for explaining how much energy a person has for
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socializing. A small or short-lasting social battery means that a person has less energy for socializing
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overall. It may be that they find socializing tiring, stressful, or overstimulating. As a small social
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battery drains quickly, these people need to recharge more often. A larger or longer-lasting social battery
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suggests that a person has a lot of energy for socializing. It may take a long time for them
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to feel tired, so they do not need to recharge that frequently. In fact, they may get energy from
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socializing. Many things can affect how a person's social battery lasts. A long person's social battery
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lasts, including their personality, the type of social interaction, the quality or ease of the
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interaction, external stressors, internal stressors, and anxiety. Introversion and extroversion are
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measures of how people respond to external stimuli, including social interaction. Extroverts tend to
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focus on the external world, gaining energy from social interactions. Introverts are more focused on
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internal factors and may find social interactions draining. Using the social battery concept, extroverts
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have longer social batteries and a lower tolerance for spending time alone. In contrast, introverts have a
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shorter social battery, but still solitary or quiet activities energizing. It is important to note that
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introverts can still enjoy socializing and find it fun. The fact that a social interaction use up their
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energy does not indicate shyness or lack of social skills, just a particular type of temperament.
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What depletes someone's energy depends on their personality and how they experience social
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interactions. A very extroverted person may not feel as though their social battery ever drains. For those
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who eventually find socializing tiring, the following may have an effect. The people they socialize with,
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the type of interactions, the size of a group, the duration, the power imbalances, or the stress.
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Um, signs of having low energy for socializing include being weary, stressed, or burned out home,
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um, or the desire or the need to do something quiet, such as reading or watching a film.
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Signs of having a smaller social battery include feeling the need for a lot of quiet time, um, the
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tendency to focus on the inner world, getting frustrated or tired by social situations, and feeling
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overwhelmed by crowds. How to recharge the social battery. And talking about a video of a woman
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talking about how men deal with stress differently. Men and women deal with stress very differently.
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Women typically feel better after talking through her problems, while men typically feel better after
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some alone time. And here's why. Men need 30 times more testosterone level than women to be highly
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functioning. So imagine him as a smartphone. In the beginning of the day, his battery is at 100%,
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and as he experiences stress, he burns through his testosterone. So by the end of the day,
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his battery is pretty low. One way that men recharges their testosterone level is by doing
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something simple and mindless. You guessed it, playing games and watching TV. He is temporarily
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switching off so that he can plug in and recharge his battery. So ladies, it's important to not take
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his alone time personally, because 99% of the time, it's got nothing to do with you. They just have a
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biological need to switch off and rebuild their testosterone to a much higher level than women.
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We got the next one, which is a man outlining why he needs his alone time.
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The third thing men want but don't ask for is time alone. Men need time to be alone and reflect on
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their lives and thoughts. This time allows them to gain a sense of control and clarity in their lives
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and recharge their mental and emotional energy. It can also help them to feel more connected to
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themselves and their goals. From a psychological perspective, this need for time alone is important
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to men as they often strive for autonomy and self-sufficiency. This time alone can also help
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them to differentiate their own thoughts and feelings from those of others, enabling them
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to better regulate their emotions. Three other examples of this could be number one, encouraging
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him to set aside a few hours each week to focus on personal projects. Number two, suggesting he take
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a day to go out on a solo trip in nature to refresh himself. Or number three, finding activities,
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Okay. What do we got next? Women says men need their cave time. Let men have their cave time.
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This might seem like I'm an advocate for men, but this is for purely selfish reasons. So ladies,
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listen up. And need their cave time just as much as we need our me time and self-care time.
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When we give them the space they need for themselves, they come back to us more loving
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and nurturing. Time is like their charging port. And that time of independence actually produces
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a hormone, testosterone. How much testosterone in a woman can stress her out? But men need that
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replenish for them to de-stress. If we don't press him while he's in that state, he'll recharge
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faster and come back to us faster. And we need to not take it so personally. It's not like he doesn't
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want to spend time with you. But it's his own body telling him that he's out of balance and he needs
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to regain that balance. Sometimes it can be difficult for us to understand the importance
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of cave time. But maybe that's because we don't understand the value of me time for ourselves.
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So that's why I always say self-love first and then we can get back to loving each other.
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Okay. So next. Okay. So today we're going to do a call in show.
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If God is willing and this equipment succeeds, God, please let this work. I, I beg you.
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I know it's my own fault. Um, my producer's out of town for another week. God, please, God,
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please let this work. So the questions are going to be, and I'm going to tweet this too.
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Um, I'm going to tweet this on Twitter. So people doing a call in show on YouTube for these questions.
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next I'm going to go get the zoom link and I'm going to force you
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Oh wait, not that one. That one wasn't too good.
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Okay. I'm going to fix it. Now I need to go get the zoom.
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I've been shaking every day since I had to leave.
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It's not what I wanted, but you're no good for me.
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But it's 2am, and I'm missing you, and I find myself calling you, saying,
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babe, come over. Let's do this over. Come beat my shoulder to cry on.
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Life really ain't been the same since you've been gone.
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Cause your addictive side effects include missing you.
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Loss of appetite, sleepless nights, and trust issues.
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I'm a love addict. This feeling is fatal, mentally unstable.
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You're in bed with someone else, saying you miss me.
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And I'm crying on the bathroom floor, wishing I didn't leave.
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This love is expired, but I still desire a refill.
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Loss of appetite, sleepless nights, and trust issues.
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It's been three years now, and I'm married with a diamond ring.
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You're with some random girl, but still in love with me.
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I wonder, are you the one who is supposed to be next to me?
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With a warning label, you should have come with a warning label.
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All right, we don't need to, you can keep your opinions to yourself.
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With a warning label, you should have come with a warning label, you should have come with a warning label.
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I'm trying to get to the live stream on the website.
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I did write this, but I want to redo it because I don't know.
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It's just a little bit too much AI or I wasn't, I'm a better singer now.
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Okay, so now I'm going to join on my laptop, but I need to turn the sound off.
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I'm going to try something to see if I can control it from my laptop and I don't have to get up.
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I want it to be muted, but whatever I'll do when I get in.