JustPearlyThings - Modern Women Reveal How Much Their Submission Costs

00:00:00.000 believe that i agree and so like women own too far to consume a debt i'm gonna blame it on sheen 0.98

00:00:06.560 okay like she needs to chill out so i have a question for the women how much does your 1.00

00:00:14.220 submission cost oh what do you mean like okay so when i i use this example when i say submission

00:00:22.560 so he says babe trust me quit your job no i think if i pick someone to spend the rest of my life with

00:00:32.980 okay and i've i i gained that much trust for them i think i would be able to do it 15 000 pounds a

00:00:39.300 year is what he makes no okay 20 000 pounds a year i don't think it's even there's there's a there's

00:00:47.260 that means there is a price there is a price for me like it's emotional security you know i really

00:00:53.800 need that more okay so emotional security but he earns 30k no

00:01:01.900 you can you can you can you can he said trust me no i'm not trusting nothing okay okay okay

00:01:13.740 a man can just like up and leave you like no that's not that's not true though um women leave 1.00

00:01:18.600 70 to 80 percent of the time 90 percent of their college educated like men really don't leave

00:01:23.260 because i mean we're literally paid to leave true facts okay so i don't know i don't know all right

00:01:29.240 let's look 40 40 i think it's got to be fairly a fairly good sum okay 50 000 pounds 60 000 pounds

00:01:39.120 right so i can't work at all like can i have a little side hustle no no that's not the point

00:01:44.980 like you you i didn't tell you what he's gonna have you do right maybe you work for him i don't

00:01:49.260 know he just okay he just says quit your job yeah trust me okay i think 50 000 i have a plan

00:01:55.720 i think 50 000 50 000 yeah so if a guy's making this is me

00:01:59.500 this is a lot of trust here

00:02:03.520 i'll say i'll say 50 i think i will feel safe enough to like what what percent of men do you

00:02:17.780 think make 50 000 like six percent no it's gonna be higher surely is that quite high it's not high

00:02:25.220 but it's higher than that must be like 50 actually i don't know i would have thought it'd be quite

00:02:29.320 fairly high i think the higher end in the uk is the average income in the uk i think is between

00:02:35.900 24 and 28 000 a year that's the average so 40 percent of men 10 make about 70k yeah and that's

00:02:42.820 the higher end so that's that would be higher value in yeah so maybe it's like 15 i'm looking

00:02:48.940 it says it says six percent of the uk population earn more than fifty thousand dollars oh my god

00:02:55.640 it says i mean it might be different in london but it says six percent of the uk population earn

00:03:10.380 more than fifty thousand pounds a year it only matter in london because like five percent of

00:03:14.480 that is in london yeah yeah right in this room let me let me do london so everyone go around say

00:03:20.980 what your submission costs i'm gonna look it up oh my god be honest as well um

00:03:28.660 he will need to earn a hundred and something k and and i know it sounds like a wild number

00:03:38.020 but the only reason why i'm saying that is i'm thinking about what i know costs are right now

00:03:43.660 and i'm thinking if he could earn that and even whatever he's got planned doesn't necessarily

00:03:50.120 go to plan i know we're still okay so yeah okay what do you think um i think for me like you would

00:03:57.940 have to um i don't know like probably like over 100k like and i would have to get money sent to my

00:04:04.520 bank account like every month like i would have to be getting paid like i know you're asking questions

00:04:10.160 can i just ask a question so if he gave you 500 pounds a month 500 okay so i had this conversation

00:04:16.300 with someone right he's paying for everything okay you have no bills okay you have no nothing

00:04:22.000 your phone bill every electricity everything and he gives you 500 pounds to spend on whatever you want

00:04:28.280 every month is that enough how much is he making that's not your business yes what your business

00:04:34.060 no no no i don't think a woman needs to know how much a man earns because we like to spend their 1.00

00:04:37.920 money for them before they've made it so i don't think we need to that's why she's smiling she's

00:04:42.040 like yeah yeah i'm gonna get that money but but your bills are paid like so what you used to spend on

00:04:48.600 by yourself or bills you used to you don't need to pay for that anymore you've now got 500 pounds to

00:04:53.220 do your nails anything you want to do your profit 500 pounds is that okay i mean if that's all he can

00:05:00.460 give that's all he's chosen to give he's not about he's just chosen to give you 500 okay i have so many

00:05:08.840 questions but i mean like it's black and white that's the minimum like sorry if that's like all

00:05:14.720 he can give then of course like i'm more than happy to accept that because us women with our words that's

00:05:19.660 it's not about whether it's all he can give he has chosen to give you 500 all your bills are paid

00:05:25.600 it's not about chosen or all he can afford it's not about what he can afford he said you are getting

00:05:30.780 500 pounds wouldn't you say that's nice of him that is nice of him but you're not happy about it

00:05:37.020 but like i want to know more context about the situation like what's there to know

00:05:41.540 sorry can i ask you a follow-up on that the whole thing of you whether you're satisfied of 500 pounds

00:05:47.980 if that was all he could give it sounds like you'd be okay yeah if he could give you 5 000 it sounds

00:05:53.360 like you'd be pissed um but you chose the 500 i would like the thing is as well like i would look

00:06:02.540 at my own circumstance as well like how much do i actually need you know like do i need more than

00:06:07.660 500 because if i do then i would have to have you don't need you don't in terms of everything is

00:06:11.860 paid for everything's paid for this is just this is what would you need it for this is your play

00:06:15.280 money this is your play money this is monopoly money lashes nails yeah of course i'll be fine with

00:06:21.400 500 of course okay but why was it so hard for you to because like i don't know like for me i just

00:06:27.660 feel like if he's earning like a lot of money and we're a partnership like we're building you know

00:06:33.240 things together family together a house together then why would he want to limit me like i would

00:06:39.360 like if if it was the other way around i would always give more i would always i'm just about to

00:06:45.740 say like why do you you part of you guys building a house together and whatever has not got anything

00:06:50.220 to do with you financially your part is keeping the home safe and secure so so long as that's our

00:06:56.480 agreement between us then yeah but as soon as so baby as soon as you stop working and stuff

00:07:02.720 financial is not part of your your your you are yeah true do you get what i'm saying so why is it

00:07:09.400 i just feel like us women like i'm i as well i'm trying to unlearn a lot of bad habits or and i

00:07:15.120 think it's because we've been given so much power in terms of the jobs that we have access to so

00:07:19.660 sometimes the jobs we have we bring that mentality home and how we communicate with men and all of 0.94

00:07:25.200 that you have to remember they're paying you so they deal with our bullshit but a man has chosen to 0.94

00:07:30.040 marry you so i don't have to deal with this even though i've asked you to marry me i i decided to ask 0.95

00:07:37.940 you i didn't have to ask you the maddest thing about that is that you will go into work every

00:07:43.080 day even though you hate your job and you won't talk back to your boss and in that same scenario

00:07:48.140 that we just painted where your man's giving you free money etc you're still going to come back to

00:07:51.300 your man and try and cause trouble at home that makes zero sense to me see in that in that situation

00:07:58.420 my my um one little thing that i would say is that it's not the 500 that is an issue for me

00:08:08.460 it's um the trust i feel like the trust should go both ways so for me for me you capping me at 500

00:08:17.600 it's kind of like one i'm a dependent you don't really trust your children with money like that

00:08:22.500 so you're it's almost like i'm a dependent i'm a child um and secondly for me as i said i feel like

00:08:30.420 if you just if your car's just staying just like babe like do the shopping or whatever you should

00:08:34.820 trust me yeah as your wife that i'm not going to be reckless with your money but it's for me i don't

00:08:40.160 know maybe it's a me problem how it would make me feel yeah not necessarily that it's the cat but

00:08:47.580 how it would make me feel but also like but you also don't you also don't know why he's doing it

00:08:52.680 like like saving for a house or something but the whole point of submission is like you trust him

00:08:59.240 yeah that's why nations right yeah but that's why i said it might be a me problem that how how

00:09:04.440 it makes me feel i don't think it's a thing where like i don't disagree with what you're saying

00:09:07.720 but i think we're all very like intelligent adults yeah and we just quoted a stat that women

00:09:12.640 own two thirds of consumer debt women make all the i think women are children actually 1.00

00:09:17.300 if we know the facts as to how women make consumer decisions then again and you trust your man 1.00

00:09:32.020 doesn't it just doesn't it make sense that you know if left your own devices over time

00:09:36.500 you'll become frivolous with that money yeah detrimental to the situation i think it may be

00:09:41.140 different it may be subjective because i handle all the bills and stuff in my house not that i pay for it

00:09:46.940 but my husband i think i'm better with in terms of organization i don't know i don't think i'm

00:09:52.340 the exception i think that might be a quality of a wife no i think like a lot of girls are better 1.00

00:09:57.560 at like accounting and organization we have like a whole spreadsheet you know i mean we have the

00:10:02.760 incomings and i'm much more better with budgeting and all that stuff yeah but i think men like just

00:10:07.040 don't make impulse decisions as much like we'll see like a cute outfit we'll be like buy it don't even

00:10:12.840 look at the price yeah yeah i think i'm more like i was just banned on tiktok and we are demonetized on

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JustPearlyThings - April 09, 2023

Modern Women Reveal How Much Their Submission Costs

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