Modern Women Try To AVOID accountability On This Topic
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the role of fathers in raising their children and the role they play in raising a child. We discuss the different types of fathers and the roles we should play in providing for their children. We also discuss the difference between single fathers and part-time fathers and what it means to be a "deadbeat" father.
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you click it's very easy to say oh he's a deadbeat but nobody understand the side the side of his
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story because you know what do you actually mean by dead dead as in as in like you're not present
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you're not doing anything you you know you let go of your child and you don't want nothing to
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do with the child but you know a lot of the time it's a lot harder to be involved when you're so
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pushed out yeah you know but some sometimes you have part-time dads that sometimes see you they
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will come and see you every now and again when they're free when they're available you've got
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some dads that literally live their life they've separated from the partner in their family and
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they're going out and they're living their best life and big up all the single moms by the way
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because that is a very big down because it was your life choice and you shouldn't have did that
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you should have stayed with the father you could be no no no no no because some men will walk out
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on their women and the women will be on their knees begging them to stay and they will not it's the
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exception um and plus like those women half the time they pick men that have impregnated like three
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girls and you're like what of course he's gonna like what did you expect it's not always the case
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it's i would say it's more often the case than not and plus women women leave more um statistically
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yeah but there is those men that like will be happy to have that woman there and happy to like use them
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to stay at the house etc and then expect to see three people at the same time so obviously the woman's
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gonna get that's the man that you chose yeah i blame that on the woman because why do we blame
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so much on the women no like this is i don't get it yeah it's not it's not even a blame thing it's
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like you go through a process before you actually get a guy no but what is that what is this like
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we're blaming the women for a lot of things that actually some men are heavily responsible for
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because we're kings man okay um which which part which part is mad you don't think you're so if
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you have a child aren't you responsible for picking the father isn't that your fault facts
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we agreed we agreed the women are in control of sex right yeah right women are correct
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if you're not in a relationship and you're single and you're you you want to find someone to have
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sex it's easier for a woman to go out and find that in a relationship it's a partnership okay you're
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both responsible so another question who knows who knows so i have a question i have a question who who
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knows when you're ovulating does he know when you're ovulating or do you know when you're ovulating
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i mean are you not talking about this right right are you not talking about it as a partnership as a
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team though no i i think it depends i need you to ask them just just in general do do men know
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if the women are ovulating or do women know if the men are ovulating let's just which one who knows more
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some women don't okay can we talk about in general general general in general okay the women come on come
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come on my friends if we talk about in general of the the women that i'm around we know and we
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talk about that with the people that we are also we can use protection anyway let's continue let's
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continue so so so let's let's continue um do do we know if we're on birth control or do the men know if
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we're on birth control yeah we know okay if i was a man i wouldn't be sleeping with someone without
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protection ever yeah okay so so do do we get to choose if we get an abortion or do the men get
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to choose if we get an abortion oh that depends though that really does depend they should the
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men shouldn't be sleeping with someone without protection we can get to the men okay we can get
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to them later can we just get to the women first okay on the women though it depends whether you were
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tricked because yes if you if that man is obviously not going to be good to you it i do personally think
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it is stupid to have a child well sorry that's a bit i'm just asking about the choice like do the
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men get a choice and if we get an abortion or not i'm asking about the choice uh it depends so
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okay how does the man get any say does he get to um because it could be a thing where they can
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manipulate the woman and say look i don't want to be i don't want to be a father if you don't they
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could convince her but at the end of the day who gets to pick the men or the women of course it's the
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woman okay so that's my point so okay so now who gets to pick if we get an iud or not who gets to
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pick if we take a plan b or not so if we get to do all this picking don't you think we should take
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more of the responsibility like it's more on us since because when we have sex right we know if
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they're wearing a condom or not but the men don't know if we're on birth control or not so we're the
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only one we know if we're ovulating or not where the men don't know if we're ovulating or not so
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we're the one with all the information where the men don't always have all the information men know
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that women do baby traps sometimes so just use protection like i feel like it's a shared
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responsibility i would say it's more on the women for picking who you have a child with
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do you know what i i i like this because i have daughters so i i'm trying to i'm learning all of
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this so you know you're right i feel like you're really right because at the end of the day to
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communicate with whoever they're dealing with that was yeah i know but like you said it is the woman
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like let's be respectful here but like at the end of the day it is the woman's control to have
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something grow in her in a way you know if you want to have a baby you can be like oh i'm having a
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baby with or without you that's my decision not yours you know the man is not ready but then you
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still make the choice you know if you know you're gonna have unprotected sex you should prepare for
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that made the decision no but if you go in and have unprotected sex you're both
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consenting adults you you have brain cells you know what can happen some women don't think like
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that though yeah but that's the thing but women are 100 in control of who's born yeah men are just
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in control of who they have sex with but women are 100 in control of who gets born i agree that they
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shouldn't they it's true no it's true i'm sorry so much going on in my head i'm not saying it out loud
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what if you don't believe in abortion my question is then why are you having unprotected sex with men who
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shouldn't be fathers yeah that's my question that is that is a good point i do agree with you but
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what if what if they've um made you think that they're a good guy and this hasn't actually happened
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to me but but that's the woman's judgment though in a way what if they've made you think that okay
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i guess i can't i'm sorry baby should be like step 10 all right yeah you should be married first so
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like it's like what were you doing you should a baby first we're not in the 50s girl what i did
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you would 50s girl making a baby no as in marriage first and then you don't think you should get
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married before you have a kid times have changed okay well times have changed i would prefer to go that
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do you know what i'll be honest with you yeah i think it is better to get married and have children
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reason why is because there's more stability yeah there's more like okay we put each other first
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we are loyal to each other first and we've made something signed and sealed we can now you know
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conquer life you know the whole having babies out of wedlock always seems to be the reason why a
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lot of relationships fail and that's and that's that's you know i'm not going to say it's facts
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but i'm saying that's my opinion but for me it's a thing where you know if you're married you already
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built already a foundation of of how you're going to raise your child and your child's going to look
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at you too and be like okay well you look on my my example of how i should you know live my life and
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meet somebody and and kind of do the same thing i hope we're talking about what can be changed because
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this generation right now is that's another topic if you're fortunate enough to find someone
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yeah you can marry and settle down with and do all that then good for you i don't think it's that hard
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to be honest really yeah teach me i think well i think i think a lot of women i love the way you
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speak it's just it's not that deep yeah yeah it's not that deep now don't get me wrong don't get me
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wrong um it is hard to find a guy that meets all of your requirements as a woman i will say we're
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all pretty picky high standards yeah yeah in general let's just let's just call a spade a spade here
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women are picky men are not as picky and i do think it is hard for women to find a guy that meets all
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their requirements but okay so if a guy if if you're saying okay i can't find a guy that meets my
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requirements well it's maybe you're not good enough so you should probably try to be better
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um or or maybe lower the requirements and get a guy that's on your level i would say those are you
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know if nobody's buying you got to figure out what's the problem yeah and either fix the problem
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or lower what you want lower your price there's also a lot of women that go for guys that are
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emotionally unavailable and that's out of their league and they stick with i think it's out of
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their league yeah that's what i think i think when they say emotionally unavailable it just means he
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doesn't like me that much she's only there for his looks yeah more yeah so like she's a five a six
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maybe a seven going for a nine or a ten and he's emotionally unavailable because he doesn't like her
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and he just won one thing there's some guys though if they've experienced trauma they've got trust
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issues like really deep trauma or trust issues they the women could be anything and actually
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they still wouldn't be able to maintain it because they would purposely be avoiding or their
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subconscious would because they're afraid of abandonment and stuff like that i do think women
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sometimes pick men that aren't husbands yeah and then get surprised when they don't act like husbands
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when he wasn't that's very true husband he doesn't want to be married i don't know why we're surprised
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that it's it's like it's like you can't pick a you can't take a wild animal and be and and and expect
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it to be a pet like you know i'm saying it's gonna be wild it's gonna have this nature do you know
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i'm saying it's gonna come out with this randomness as women we're all screwing the same guys yeah yeah
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yeah fun fact yeah yeah as women just as a group we're all screwing the same men but isn't that the
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same with men though yeah yeah men screwing the same women um probably not because i'll take anyone
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more like not really because they don't need to have women women typically go for 20 of men
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typically what do you mean what do you mean so um women if we list our requirements i've done we can
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even do the delusion calculator it's a lot of fun it's a delusion yeah yeah yeah do you want to see
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delusional do you want to see this let's see let's have a little let's have a little