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00:00:00.000 there's no men that are lined up to date oprah

00:00:02.220 no no even if she was single like there's men margot robbie is married but she's heavily desired 1.00

00:00:11.180 like um zendaya is dating the tom holland dude but she she's beautiful there's men that want 1.00

00:00:16.680 to date her yeah but it's nothing to do with their money it's everything to do with the way

00:00:19.880 they look if she's if she's hot and she has money they're like okay cool but but it's not like

00:00:25.740 they're attracted to you for your money you know i'm not that wasn't what i was saying either like

00:00:30.120 i mean i'm obviously like there's it's multi-dimensional like there are a lot of things

00:00:33.600 that go into attraction like but again i'm used to have this conversation of women expect or want 0.89

00:00:39.300 men to make a certain amount of money and then you said the percentile of like what the those

00:00:43.680 owners would be and i maintain what i said earlier in that there is a specific demographic of young

00:00:50.940 people professionals who are taking what each their partner brings to the table into account

00:00:57.540 outside of sexual attraction so but the the issue wait the issue is that when you the the more a

00:01:05.840 woman makes and and i'm in this category too like the more a woman makes the more likely we are to be 0.98

00:01:10.580 single no and that's true like i i'm not arguing that either i know that i know that's like that's

00:01:15.180 true like i i didn't think about that like myself like how far do i want to go in my career

00:01:19.760 because the further i go in my firm the least the less yeah which is sad like i mean that's like

00:01:25.540 the less likely a man will want to be with me yeah because because i like that's just like i'm

00:01:30.940 literally like pricing myself out as i continue to grow up because because our our pool gets smaller

00:01:37.240 and smaller and those men i think about that yeah yeah i do and those men want younger hotter tighter

00:01:42.540 no i mean like that's it's true yeah i mean it's it's true it's not fun like i i i wish like they

00:01:51.320 cared but they don't no yeah i mean that's just an unfortunate scenario go ahead i'm sorry so some

00:01:56.900 decisions in my mind isn't stacking up right you're having conversations with uh your peers guys

00:02:01.740 friends all in the same sort of social circle same financial bracket yeah um you guys are talking about

00:02:06.680 how to come together um i'm i'm making an assumption heterosexually yeah um but at the

00:02:13.740 same time in the very beginning we said what would it take for you to move in with a man and you and

00:02:18.440 you were pretty much like i would rather run away so on one hand you'd rather be over here but on the

00:02:24.320 other hand you're talking in your social circles about how to come together no that's not what i said

00:02:30.260 so when we talked about what what are the two the two extreme options would i rather move in would

00:02:36.180 i'd be rather be financially dependent on someone and and move in with a man or what i live with a

00:02:41.720 roommate and i chose living with a roommate because i wouldn't want that type of strain to be in my

00:02:47.040 relationship however i am heterosexual i want i might i want to get married i want to have children

00:02:52.540 like that doesn't those two things would you depend on a man like once you have kids

00:02:56.400 a hundred percent and i would hope he would depend on me that's what a marriage is you're depending

00:03:00.740 on each other i know i mean like financially yes okay so you'd be okay with depending on a man

00:03:05.300 after you're married after he's my husband after he's your husband and i would hope that he would

00:03:08.560 also depend like that's you depend on each other i agree i agree yeah yeah okay yeah that was clear

00:03:13.960 thank you um yeah i don't think you guys answered um the you ever dumped a girl because of financial

00:03:21.900 like bad spending habits um so i'm gonna say this in a christian perspective because i'm i was raised

00:03:29.460 as a christian so um i never actually dated uh so this girl is the first time that i'm going into a

00:03:40.840 relationship and i'm still a virgin and i'm a virgin because yes i'm a virgin because i have to be a

00:03:47.440 virgin because in this day and age i'm telling in this day and age i can't be near any woman who 0.99

00:03:54.940 like i'm not saying this is this is like the general of women who are like this but um they have 0.98

00:04:04.260 their expectations too high and i i just don't want to mess with with with that and uh the other

00:04:12.360 the other thing i would say is um uh what i was about to say yeah yeah so in terms of like spending

00:04:22.660 habits um i never had really to worry about that but if if i let's in a hypothetical um uh scenario

00:04:35.460 uh if she had this spending habits of like going to designers shops and buying jewelry here and then

00:04:45.060 or like you know like not having a um a goal in life in like i wouldn't invest in this this and such

00:04:55.060 instead of she she's going to invest in something that it's like you said it's not going to last that

00:05:00.000 long so why would i go through that hassle so i prefer to be a virgin and wait to to be with a

00:05:07.760 woman that actually respects my decision it respects um that um being financially responsible

00:05:17.820 it's it's a duty for for both yeah that's it all right um just to clarify you were asking about

00:05:25.800 if females have like a bad spending if you've ever dated a girl with bad spending habits and that 1.00

00:05:30.460 was a red flag oh yeah 100 and um there was this one girl i was with and sorry i remember this one

00:05:37.300 day where she really wanted to buy uh she wanted me to buy her timberlands in it and i i was working 0.88

00:05:43.760 a normal job when i was making like 500 a month or whatever in it so i couldn't really afford it you

00:05:47.760 feel me but she made such a big deal out of it and from that moment on i realized there's a major

00:05:54.560 red flag you feel me i was like 16 or whatever it's like the entitlement yeah it's like why are

00:05:59.820 you expecting that we're both broke why are you expecting me to buy your timberlands do you know

00:06:05.540 how expensive timberlands are now it's like we have the same job yeah but here's the thing and ladies

00:06:12.820 i don't think many women these days understand right if you are a submissive sorry submissive 1.00

00:06:20.500 feminine woman who is friendly right and pure you have so much power and i think that is the only time 1.00

00:06:29.300 as a woman you can kind of ask a man to be fully like you know provide for you and all of that 0.95

00:06:36.060 because the power of being feminine and being submissive is a whole different level you feel me

00:06:42.500 like if i'm with a girl and she wants to go out with her friends and she's telling me

00:06:46.660 oh yeah i want to wear this dress i know it shows my boobies and all of that but i just feel

00:06:51.700 confident in it that's a red flag for me you feel me like you are my girl why are you showing your

00:06:57.800 boobies has that happened to you it's happened to me in the past but i can tell you right now with my

00:07:02.780 girl right now it's not been a problem it's like it might trigger some people but she asked me if it's

00:07:08.200 okay for her to wear ripped jeans you feel me like and it's a whole different type of relationship 0.96

00:07:13.400 and i'm telling you mandem all you simps out there because i gotta tell you there's a simple

00:07:17.900 epidemic right now and i think it's because mandem are so desperate right now mandem

00:07:21.960 stop selling yourselves in it like don't let yourself do the maddest for these hoes because 1.00

00:07:28.580 at the end of the day there are some good women out there who are going to respect you 1.00

00:07:32.440 actually let me not even lie to you you gotta fix on yourself in it go to the gym make some money and

00:07:37.780 all of that in it but there are some women out there but these western countries america 1.00

00:07:43.520 london and all that social media messed up all of that you feel me like there's a lot of entitled

00:07:49.320 women out there i'm not trying to get cancelled or anything but i'm gonna leave it at that

00:07:52.960 can i just add to your point i just think you know when going into a relationship it's a partnership

00:07:59.900 there has to be give and take reciprocated energy reciprocated ways of thinking if your man has

00:08:06.360 vision i don't want a partnership okay you don't want a partnership equal partnership

00:08:11.380 i didn't say i didn't say equal i said partnership and you know sometimes that's what a partnership

00:08:18.200 is it's 50 partners are 50 50. no sometimes your relationship you could be 80 your partner could

00:08:23.960 be 20 you know sometimes it's 50 50 50 sometimes it's 45 you know in reality social media i agree

00:08:33.000 has messed up a lot of things for you guys there's a lot of pressure on men to it to be financially

00:08:39.400 basically invincible as i say optimus prime when it comes to money yeah and you know ladies we do have 0.85

00:08:48.760 to look at the men that try for us the men that really fight for us and push for us you know the

00:08:54.760 simps are there you know there's a lot of simps in the comment section what can i say they're everywhere but

00:09:00.520 it's an epidemic it's an epidemic with an epidemic there's always a cure you we have to look at the

00:09:06.360 cure for these problems we have to represent the the cure for the issue so we have to have good

00:09:12.680 relationships we have to create those things to change the environment that we live in um and just

00:09:17.960 to sorry to be all philosophical about it but in reality nothing's perfect so you know everybody has

00:09:24.360 their own experience and we should you know enjoy our experience as many of you know i was just banned

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JustPearlyThings - December 28, 2022

Modern Women Wants This

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