@ModernLifeDating Admits This On The Show
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Summary
In this episode, the lads discuss honesty in the dating world and how important it is to have a woman that tells you the truth about her sexual past and how to deal with a woman who lies to you about it.
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it's worse what would you say is worse a woman that says her body counts 15 and lies about it
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or a woman that says her body counts 20 and tells you the truth truth every time oh the truth yeah
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exactly what kids are saying truth every time because you know i think you know you know i
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think it's a factor yeah i think in regards to women and men yeah we can all women can say oh
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i want a guy that's you know six six figures uh strong masculine da da da da guys can be like i
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want a woman that's feminine but i do believe that some areas you can increase the percentage enough
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yeah that some other areas don't become as important well you know let's say but yeah for
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example yeah i think if a woman's femininity yeah and a woman's honesty and a woman's like roles of
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how to be a good wife or a good girlfriend or something are just up the charts all the time
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i really think there's plenty of guys not most but plenty of guys that will be like you know what yeah
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she is there about that but she's no i do love it all like she makes me feel like that's like a man
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i'll add on to that i i recently met a girl in miami when i was on one of these podcasts and we had
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just gotten into the conversation talking about exes and past because she knows what i do for a living
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and she we talked about whatever and she was very open with me and like you know it was like some
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people would consider a high body count but she was also stunningly gorgeous honest with me successful
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like successful i don't care about a woman's money and shit but the fact that she was successful
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lets me know that she has a fucking brain yeah and she was physically fit and she was just such
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like she's so gorgeous and like a great communicator i was just like damn bro i like
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fucking like this girl you know what i mean like you can overlook that's it but the thing is the
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number one thing guys look for in a relationship i think women look for this too is somebody you can
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trust yeah somebody you can call if there's trouble out there and then if you if the thing is this
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because it's not about sex it's not about luck it's not about money it's all that it's about
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damn like if the shit goes down yeah your woman is number two in your life like you like she like
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your your your business your cause your duty is number one and and number two is the woman like
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can i rely on you can i call you three o'clock in the morning if i've been falsely accused and i need
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bail money you know what i mean you know what john as well like i think and tell me what you think
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but you know you said about when when a girl's lied to you about her sexual past that less that
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level of disgust right yeah i think a massive part of that is because a man's worst fear of raising
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kids that aren't his yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah oh yeah yeah worst fear right raising a child that
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isn't his so and oh at the time that that would happen is when uh is when a woman lies about her
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sexual past because she says you're the father and you're actually not the father no that's the
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that's disgusting that's the psychological underpinning isn't it yeah yeah i think that's
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one of the elements of it though i think there's there's like there's that as well that yo father
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but i think there's that there's just that hefty element of wait there so let me get this straight
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yeah you with your chest were willing to say oh wait there he hasn't clucked on yet ah yeah
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so how long can i play this game for because you have to remember that there's a difference between
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if a woman lies to you for two seconds like let's say what happened there that's okay she lied to us
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but we're not going to feel like idiots but then let's say that we go three years it's not just
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about if she tells you the truth at the end of the fears you have to think what else did she lie
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about what else is there and then it becomes again she sustained that character throughout the three
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years it becomes a thing of like it becomes a thing of like your own imagination is the measurement
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because at least okay cool let's say you say to someone this girl's got a body count of 30.
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a lot quite a lot of people could be like oh wait there that's too high um others could be like you
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know what yeah that's fine for me i'm calm with that number yeah but when it's a game of imagination
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yes when you can't that's now a thing of my number is 70 so i'm thinking it could be 70.
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no and then that's that's what happened to me so then in addition to that after i found out the
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truth through a number of inconsistencies because i'm smart like i made a multi-million dollar business
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like i'm not lying from a hoe i could figure that shit out yeah like so you know i i how did it take a
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year of that dude dude i'm not gonna lie because i was too busy i was just too busy that was the
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time i was dating three girls oh and then oh you can't even my daughter no actually the reality i was
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dating five but i was only taking three seriously but you know that that that and then life is my life
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it was a hoe face but no i want to add on to that real quick it's just that when when you spot that
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one lie then the relationship is tainted because she's like she's like oh you know i gotta work
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late but she's sucking some dick you know even though she does have to work late and it just
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with your head but on both sides too for the men do men don't mention lie women should lie because
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it with your head and you're just like you can't even focus on the person in front of you you can't
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focus on your duty your business your fitness whatever the case may be you're even in the
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relationship with her because she's gonna start to say you have to remember that a woman's emotions
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play vital factors towards the the overall the reality yes overall the relationship so it's like
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if she's seeing that you're disgusted in her yeah that's gonna play a role yeah if she's seeing
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that oh wait you don't want to touch me no more you don't want to hold me you don't want to be
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intimate with me in any type of way that now is going to affect what she now does and you see
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some females yeah out of insecurity could just be like okay i need to feel love right now let me
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just go to my ex yeah i need to feel like i need to go let me let me and most women cheat with an
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axe yeah so yeah so that's that's i'd like i'd like is there is that is that could i just make one
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other thing though is there is there the possibility that like it's more about not lying than it is about
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how much you reveal yes because because it's not like we're giving the impression like on the first or
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second day you're going to be sitting down going right well my body count is yeah 100 yeah like we i i
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wouldn't expect her and i wouldn't ask exactly yeah yeah i wouldn't even you know what is your
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what is your number what's your body like i wouldn't get into that conversation however
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what you want to avoid is somebody who's actively lying about it you know if you meet a woman and
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she's like oh yeah you know because the trust is damaged the trust like the backbone of all relationships
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friendships business love it is all trust and the number one way to damage trust is with a lie
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and you know you don't you know when you said revealing yeah like for example i feel like we're
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all the same where we're on the face first date we'd never say to a woman first thing what's your
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body count yeah i don't think that's a thing that would all say however in regards to the revealing
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thing we are we're all intelligent males females we're all intelligent creatures i'm going to be able
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to see what you're not saying i'm going to be able to see what you're not putting forward i'm going to
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be able to see when you're kind of skipping around we were able to do with her within the space of two
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two minutes yeah so it's like in a relationship over the space of a year i'm gonna like why didn't
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you tell me that you you did do a gangbang why did you why why did you tell me that oh wait you're
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still friends with your ex and i had to find out because i saw a notification button on your phone
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why did like why didn't you tell me about the pakaki party it's like i feel like i feel like a woman
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not saying something is as bad as them saying something if it is a lie i'm trying it's called lying by
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admission isn't it i'm trying to find the stat but it's like i think 50 of men will ask your body
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count well that's a lot i just don't think you should ask i personally yeah i don't know it's just
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no because i'm saying we all want to know that don't get i don't want to find the stat don't get
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interested we all want to know but we're not all one i wouldn't want to ask i don't ask but you
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know you don't want to say why well kit wanted to ask a question to the panel well it kind of
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shift gears but i wanted to ask what do you think is something men lie about in the beginning what's
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the equivalent that men would like our intention money yeah actually i'll tell you a story i'll
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tell you a story of a guy that came on the show you know he was talking about um his business right
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and then um he was like saying he makes six figures from it and like grabs like oh cool like i just
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i'm just like i just believe people but i have uh producers that maybe sense cat more than more than
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i do yeah we looked up the business it was dissolved oh yeah i would say we looked up the
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actual business i would say i think the majority guys a lot well they i think they insinuate
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about sexual performance oh yeah yeah i like they don't they're like oh girl i'm gonna
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the shit out of you not like that but i think they like gas it up to me they gas it about i don't know
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what because i don't like i'm so successful now like i'm so terrified when i go on these new dates
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yeah i lead with all my shitty points yeah i'm like i have anger problems
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i should do that i'll be like i'll go through your phone
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you know i think men lie about like most commonly in society though i think most men
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lie about their intention of because we're talking about first uh yeah yeah yeah
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we're not talking about yeah yeah yeah that's good that's good the first intention the reason why is
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because all of us as men let us be honest anytime you see a female you're attracted to that you would
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you want you want to have sex with her now don't get twisted you can have you can have sexual restraint
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or you could be in a relationship where you don't even desire anyone else anymore but i'm talking about
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you first see the woman that you actually like there's going to be a sexual arousal to some degree
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like to some degree at least you may also be stimulated by her mental her mentality so and so forth
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but there's a oh if she said would you like to have sex right now and she's the girl that i like
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would i say no to that not a lot of men will say no but the thing is that if you go to a first
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date and a woman says what is your intention with me now you three are dating coaches right
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you've gone you've been on many many many many dates are you telling me that every
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you guys have been on many many dates yeah so you're telling me that let's say you've dated 50 between
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all of you guys you're telling me each time you wanted to know about her mentality you wanted to
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know about copy i'll be honest and you guys tell me that straight away i'll be honest with you i used
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to be if a girl was attractive if she was hot yeah like yeah i would but hold on but now but but i
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think when you've got when you've had enough experience with women to a certain degree you
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realize even if it's just a casual thing you are still spending time with them yeah you're still
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investing time yeah so even if i'm even if i was only in a place where i'm looking for something
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casual it's still important to me to like who she is as a person the point i'm making though is that
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it's not that i'm coming from a casual perspective i'm coming from a first intrusive thought of when
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you see them the first thought of because you have to remember yeah from a prime you don't know if you
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want something serious because you don't know exactly but you're still attracted so because you're still
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attracted you're going to have the the thing that's great that's that's the fuel that's making you
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gravitate towards what's the what's the question i'm saying yeah that like what's the most common
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thing that guys will lie about on their first date now the intention could be i think it is intention
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like a guy's like a right she's like oh yeah i'm looking for a relationship like i'm definitely
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so honest whenever any okay cool men that go on these these these these pornography sites these these
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talk to these women so and so forth you really think that they're not going it without with a sexual
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not motive but a sexual fueling beforehand before they even get to that scenario