JustPearlyThings - June 28, 2023


Pearl's CRAZIEST First Date EVER


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

189.27794

Word Count

1,710

Sentence Count

160

Misogynist Sentences

9

Hate Speech Sentences

8


Summary

In this episode, we talk about why men lie about their intentions on a first date, and why women lie about theirs. We also talk about what it's like to be a virgin in the modern dating world, and how to deal with it.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Can I respond to that? I think there's two points here.
00:00:02.760 I think one, I think you're right. I think they do lie, or rather perhaps by omission, about intention.
00:00:09.760 But having said that, I never get into the conversation on the first day,
00:00:14.760 and I would advise any clients I have as well not to get into the conversation of,
00:00:18.840 so, what are your intentions?
00:00:20.160 I hate when they ask that on daily.
00:00:22.160 It's not transactional.
00:00:23.160 It's too transactional. It's a very normy way of going about it.
00:00:27.440 I was offered marriage recently on a first date.
00:00:30.640 Woo!
00:00:31.640 Yeah!
00:00:32.640 Swap on.
00:00:33.640 Yeah, buddy.
00:00:34.640 Yeah, I wouldn't recommend guys do that, though.
00:00:37.640 Was he Muslim?
00:00:39.640 No.
00:00:40.640 No?
00:00:41.640 Yeah, no.
00:00:42.640 She's touching her hair, you know.
00:00:43.640 I thought it was going to be like a normal date, and then it was, yeah, he was like ready to get married.
00:00:53.240 I was like, oh, wow.
00:00:54.240 He's seen your bread-eating skills.
00:00:56.640 No.
00:00:57.640 No.
00:00:58.640 No.
00:00:59.640 No.
00:01:00.640 You know what's weird?
00:01:01.640 It's like weird going on a date with someone that knows everything about you.
00:01:05.640 Oh, yeah.
00:01:06.640 It's so charming.
00:01:07.640 It's not even, okay.
00:01:08.640 It wouldn't even be bad if it could be equal.
00:01:10.640 Because he's a YouTube fan?
00:01:11.640 Yeah, no, no.
00:01:12.640 Because imagine, imagine, okay.
00:01:13.840 If you go on a date with me, but I can also look up everything about you online, then it's equal.
00:01:18.840 Yeah.
00:01:19.840 Then it's equal.
00:01:20.840 We're on equal playing fields.
00:01:21.840 Yeah.
00:01:22.840 And then I'm like telling a story, and I'm like, oh, he's heard this on my podcast.
00:01:25.840 But what happened?
00:01:26.840 That is so cool.
00:01:28.840 That is so cool.
00:01:29.840 Definitely, I'd say, intention.
00:01:31.840 Wait, you say intention, but okay, Troy, what do you think?
00:01:34.840 Yeah, go on.
00:01:35.840 I think he's right.
00:01:36.840 I think...
00:01:37.840 Wait, Kit, what do you think?
00:01:38.840 Yeah, intention, for sure.
00:01:39.840 Yeah, I would say sexual performance slash intention.
00:01:41.840 But after you said intention, I was like, no, no, no.
00:01:43.840 Because I've lied about intention plenty of times on dates.
00:01:46.840 I think it's, yeah, no, 100%.
00:01:48.840 But it's about how it's conveyed.
00:01:50.840 Because I tend to finesse it a bit on these days.
00:01:53.840 So I'm not sitting down on the date, and I'm not saying, so, tell me.
00:01:56.840 What are your, you know, where do you see yourself in five years' time?
00:01:59.840 And all of that.
00:02:00.840 Because that is a bit normy.
00:02:01.840 It's a little bit, it's not very sexy.
00:02:03.840 You know, you want to keep your cards close to your chest.
00:02:05.840 You want to hold some things back and stuff.
00:02:07.840 However, can I say hand on heart that I haven't been into date situations,
00:02:10.840 and given the impression that maybe I'm looking for a little bit more than perhaps I am.
00:02:15.840 You know, I can't say that hand on heart.
00:02:18.840 Hold on, guys, I need to read Super Chats.
00:02:20.840 I meant to do this.
00:02:21.840 Read them, read them, read them.
00:02:22.840 Go for it, go for it.
00:02:23.840 Okay, guys, guys.
00:02:24.840 20 bucks and up, we read.
00:02:25.840 So, Zoo nushed something.
00:02:28.840 She was lying.
00:02:29.840 They also believed that she also was lying.
00:02:32.840 Some of these, I don't know the conversions, so you might just get lucky.
00:02:37.840 Rambe, Somalis don't move like that.
00:02:39.840 We don't claim her.
00:02:41.840 Inconsistent story, starting to get defensive.
00:02:45.840 Personal attack, she seems like a narcissist.
00:02:47.840 I questioned her motives being on the show.
00:02:51.840 Alright, Rambe, Somali, lost in London.
00:02:56.840 Tell her needs to, what's Dakin, Alice?
00:03:00.840 I don't know what that is.
00:03:01.840 Oh, you know what that, I don't know what that means.
00:03:05.840 L3 prank, he insulted Hindu for views.
00:03:09.840 Oh, I think, did Andrew Tate insult Hindu for views?
00:03:13.840 I don't know anything about that.
00:03:15.840 I think L3 means H3, H3.
00:03:18.840 They call him L3.
00:03:20.840 Then you need views.
00:03:21.840 Yeah, whatever.
00:03:22.840 Reaction channels are the epitome of amateur commentators criticizing Christian Rinaldo.
00:03:29.840 They're spectators, not players.
00:03:30.840 They've just never tasted the sand of the arena.
00:03:33.840 Shout out to John, MLD, for changing lives.
00:03:36.840 And then let me refresh it really quick to make sure I don't miss any...
00:03:41.840 No, that's it.
00:03:42.840 Okay.
00:03:43.840 Well, David Bond is watching.
00:03:44.840 Guys, I've got a question for all three of you.
00:03:46.840 How do you think life would've win if you were honest with your intentions during dating all the time?
00:03:51.840 Terrible.
00:03:52.840 I am honest.
00:03:53.840 Can I genuinely be a virgin then?
00:03:56.840 All you guys won't cook, you know?
00:03:58.840 I'm honest.
00:03:59.840 Actually, we had a conversation.
00:04:01.840 Like, we talked about, you know, Mango and physical escapades.
00:04:09.840 I'm straight up with that.
00:04:11.840 And I've had girls accept that.
00:04:14.840 But have you always been straight up?
00:04:16.840 You've been a liar before.
00:04:18.840 I'm not saying sometimes.
00:04:19.840 I'm saying 100% from childhood.
00:04:21.840 I'm talking about before you could even become the person you are now with the experience you have now.
00:04:26.840 I'm saying from birth, you've always been honest about dating from the get-go.
00:04:31.840 Yo.
00:04:32.840 No.
00:04:33.840 No.
00:04:34.840 I don't think it's a realistic question because I don't think anybody would know.
00:04:37.840 But that's a good question.
00:04:39.840 Ken, you don't lie anymore.
00:04:42.840 Yeah.
00:04:43.840 That's right.
00:04:44.840 You can still have the same...
00:04:46.840 Okay, cool, cool.
00:04:47.840 You can still have the same game that you've got.
00:04:49.840 You can still have the same type of...
00:04:51.840 You can still make a woman feel nice when you're speaking to them.
00:04:53.840 All you have to do is just be honest in every single day.
00:04:55.840 I'll answer that.
00:04:56.840 I'll answer that.
00:04:57.840 I think that if I were to have been more honest about everything from the get-go, I think
00:05:05.840 I would be way more confident than I am now.
00:05:08.840 You think?
00:05:09.840 Yeah, because the thing is this, right?
00:05:11.840 When I was dating those three main girls and I was juggling five, and I was directly honest
00:05:18.840 with all of them, I would go to bed and be like, damn, I'm a fucking man.
00:05:23.840 Like these bitches know the truth and they keep coming back for more.
00:05:28.840 But the thing is, it is a short lived victory because eventually, because every girl nowadays,
00:05:34.840 right?
00:05:35.840 They just think so highly of themselves and their ego can't handle the fact of truth and reality
00:05:44.840 when that one girl's not good enough for you as a man.
00:05:49.840 You know?
00:05:50.840 I think that really messes with them.
00:05:52.840 I think it's very difficult to be entirely honest because as a guy, maybe as a woman as
00:05:57.840 well, I think as a guy, you know, we are programmed to want variety, right?
00:06:01.840 And to have that conversation with somebody that you're in love with and she's deeply
00:06:05.840 in love with you is a very difficult conversation to have.
00:06:09.840 To sit down and say, oh, babe, this is so perfect.
00:06:11.840 Look at the sunset.
00:06:12.840 Oh, it's such a beautiful evening over London.
00:06:14.840 Do you know what?
00:06:15.840 You know, I can't offend the other girls.
00:06:16.840 If another shorty will pass now, I probably would.
00:06:20.840 So I think this is what I've said from the get go in a sense of, okay, that you are who
00:06:26.840 I am truly investing in and who I'm taking seriously.
00:06:30.840 Right.
00:06:31.840 And that this isn't saying that I am definitely going to go out there, be like trying to have
00:06:35.840 such different girls, but it, but it may happen where I do that.
00:06:40.840 Now, if that's not for you, that's okay.
00:06:41.840 We don't have to get into this, but then leave it and say it's up to you.
00:06:45.840 I think, yeah, no, that's a, that's a good way of doing it.
00:06:47.840 I think that sort of monogamous relationships though, there's a sort of almost like a shared
00:06:51.840 fantasy that both parties enter into of like, that's true.
00:06:54.840 I don't look at anybody else.
00:06:55.840 And she's like, I don't look at anybody else.
00:06:57.840 And it's this kind of shared fancy, which everyone's sort of intellectually knows is
00:07:01.840 not true.
00:07:02.840 Right.
00:07:03.840 But you have to sort of pretend in order to, to, to maintain the status quo.
00:07:06.840 You know what I'm saying?
00:07:07.840 Right, right, right.
00:07:08.840 For sure.
00:07:09.840 For sure.
00:07:10.840 I think, I don't know.
00:07:11.840 I think.
00:07:12.840 I don't want to sit down with my girl.
00:07:13.840 I don't want to sit.
00:07:14.840 Well.
00:07:15.840 Well, okay.
00:07:16.840 So like, okay.
00:07:17.840 It's like, for example, so like that, you know, my girl now, right.
00:07:19.840 We went to see Chris.
00:07:20.840 Which one?
00:07:21.840 Nah, stop it.
00:07:22.840 We got to give him another actor of the year.
00:07:35.840 Do you remember that conversation we were having on the balcony?
00:07:37.840 I don't understand.
00:07:38.840 I'm being consistent at the atmosphere.
00:07:39.840 Don't say that by me.
00:07:40.840 I'm a virgin.
00:07:41.840 Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait,
00:07:47.840 Troi, tell me about the conversation.
00:07:48.840 Hey, guys, remember I said I will sip in my tea.
00:07:50.840 and guys remember i said i will sip in my tea
00:07:55.080 that's what i was doing
00:07:56.420 she knows the deal but like his phone's blown up right now we went to we went to watch chris brown
00:08:04.220 right we wanted to watch chris brown and like obviously chris brown pulls girls on stage all
00:08:09.180 the time right and i'll be honest this sounds cringes fuck that's i know she's amazing i was
00:08:12.700 like look babe if he if he pulls you up that's chris brown like cool do your thing i get it
00:08:18.500 whatever right and she was like babe i would never do that to you that's a good girl that's
00:08:22.500 what that's a good girl like i wouldn't want to do that anyway even though he's like my favorite
00:08:26.080 artist that's a good girl you see little things like that that's a solid even if let's say notice
00:08:33.360 but let's say her body count was 25 or something madness not even close but i'm saying let's
00:08:38.340 pretend yeah just hearing that element there of her saying but babes i wouldn't even go on stage
00:08:42.780 because i respect you and man values that up here yeah yeah yeah absolutely a lot of women
00:08:48.560 aren't taught this they keep thinking that oh wait okay big breasts big ass look innocent that's
00:08:53.620 what and and and and if anything outside of that yeah they'll attack you for it and it's like
00:08:57.280 if they really understood the diameters of how deep it is i don't think they'll go for certain