JustPearlyThings - June 27, 2023


@ModernLifeDating The 3 Red Flags In Women


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10 minutes

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2,294

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201

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Misogyny

23

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Toxicity

28

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In this episode, we talk about the red flags you can look out for in a potential partner and how to spot them. We also talk about what to look for and what to avoid when dating someone who is a virgin.

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00:00:00.000 i'm sorry like you cannot it takes two to tangle i won't yeah i will not deal with this like 0.99
00:00:06.240 narrative that oh it's only him that's toxic you're doing toxic shit she just got toxic right 0.95
00:00:12.500 here well because but when you think when you think about it you're supposed to listen to your 0.98
00:00:16.480 man right so like you're supposed like you're not supposed to argue with hey pearl can i ask a
00:00:21.380 question as well didn't she say that because i don't believe that as well anyone when she was
00:00:25.700 speaking about her boyfriend uh about oh yeah it was three years ago then we found out it's a
00:00:30.620 whole different ex now i know i caught that too yeah how many exes were there what's the what's the
00:00:35.500 i caught that too because she was like she was like 22 and then she said oh 18 i was with him for
00:00:41.060 you i was like three years and then now you're 26 it could be it could be a thing she was like she
00:00:45.320 couldn't they could have broken up when she was like well she said it and a half she said it coherent
00:00:48.640 she said it like in one line she didn't mention she didn't say oh that was that ex by the way this
00:00:53.880 other ex she literally just said oh yeah and when i was 23 18 your experience what does that mean
00:00:59.800 when women are like miss whatever the ex what is that what is that well when they miss their ex 1.00
00:01:05.080 no no when they're like the details of the timelines are off like when you're like when
00:01:10.280 your experience what does that typically mean well i think she's lying but i'm asking like why
00:01:17.220 okay you have any so okay it's very simple okay first okay here's a couple red flags i picked
00:01:23.860 up one number one she's a woman no i'm just joking
00:01:36.820 all right based
00:01:40.740 red flag number two that i picked up was
00:01:48.900 Because when I asked her, are you a virgin?
00:01:52.120 She was like, yes.
00:01:55.780 And it's that face you're doing, which is looking like this.
00:01:57.400 The pause.
00:01:58.400 And then number three, okay, you don't have to sit there and think and remember about the truth.
00:02:06.140 You have to remember.
00:02:06.660 The truth just comes up.
00:02:07.980 You're like, oh, yeah, it's just that.
00:02:08.960 That was that.
00:02:09.720 Right?
00:02:10.300 And so when she had to sit back and, like, remember the truth, I was just like, oh, I don't know.
00:02:16.920 And then the inconsistencies in the stories.
00:02:19.360 And then Kit, with the KO punch, was like, wait a minute.
00:02:23.480 Because what we were talking about after this. 1.00
00:02:25.860 And she was like, fuck you and your actor award, motherfuckers. 1.00
00:02:28.660 Did you know she's well? 1.00
00:02:30.360 Did you know she's well?
00:02:31.420 I was just like, do you remember that conversation? 1.00
00:02:34.000 Fuck you, I'm out there. 1.00
00:02:34.900 She was your biggest friend of your biggest enemy in the same hour. 1.00
00:02:37.280 In the same hour.
00:02:38.120 I think when I met her, she said my suit was nice on the balcony.
00:02:42.060 She liked you.
00:02:42.080 She said something.
00:02:43.560 She said something about my suit on the balcony.
00:02:45.640 She was like, yeah, the suit was nice.
00:02:47.040 And then now.
00:02:47.400 Your suit's always coming to this.
00:02:49.480 I'm just curious.
00:02:50.380 In your experience, like, what are they hiding?
00:02:54.360 Like, what is the.
00:02:55.600 Some sort of treachery and deception.
00:02:58.220 Because women are smart enough to know how they're perceived. 1.00
00:03:02.200 Yeah.
00:03:02.420 And they're definitely under.
00:03:03.920 They're definitely know when a camera's on them.
00:03:05.980 Or they're being interrogated by somebody.
00:03:08.340 There's an authority over them.
00:03:10.160 So she's like, oh, wait.
00:03:11.540 I'm definitely a virgin.
00:03:13.640 Did you notice how as well, though, she said, oh, we shouldn't be talking about this.
00:03:16.800 Because I thought, you know, your second point.
00:03:18.740 I thought that the reason she paused was because she didn't.
00:03:21.420 She felt uncomfortable with revealing, like, talking about her sexuality like that on a public forum.
00:03:26.060 But then she then said, oh, yes, I'm a virgin.
00:03:29.280 But we shouldn't be talking about this.
00:03:30.360 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:03:31.080 She was trying to get it off for that.
00:03:32.420 Yeah, yeah.
00:03:32.960 That's what they'll do.
00:03:33.660 They'll bring up a situation.
00:03:35.440 And when you ask the questions they don't like, then they don't want to talk about it.
00:03:38.500 But they always bring it up.
00:03:39.680 They always bring it up first.
00:03:40.720 Yeah.
00:03:40.920 Always.
00:03:41.860 But then that leads on to what we're talking about with how a lot of men will leave their actions.
00:03:45.680 A lot of females will leave their emotions. 1.00
00:03:46.920 I really think that what I saw early on was a gigantic emotional response.
00:03:50.980 A defense mechanism along with a lot of emotions mixed in.
00:03:55.240 Because.
00:03:55.680 Well, and the girl that came on that I actually, like, believe was a virgin.
00:03:59.820 You know, like, she wasn't, like.
00:04:02.300 How was she?
00:04:02.860 Could you just, because I haven't seen that episode in it.
00:04:04.600 So how was she?
00:04:05.700 No, she was great.
00:04:06.820 She was on, yeah, yeah.
00:04:08.760 You believe it, right?
00:04:09.740 Yeah.
00:04:10.000 Was it the one who wore glasses, wore a mask because she didn't want to be on show?
00:04:13.080 I 100% believe she's a virgin.
00:04:16.040 100%.
00:04:16.560 So what were her mannerisms?
00:04:18.200 No, she was just really, she was really, I think she was on Fresh and Fit once, too.
00:04:22.560 Who?
00:04:24.060 Yeah, she was on Fresh and Fit once. 0.97
00:04:25.860 She went super viral on there. 0.55
00:04:27.420 No, she was just a sweetheart. 0.93
00:04:29.040 Like, she was just so sweet.
00:04:30.920 She wasn't defensive at all.
00:04:32.480 And she wouldn't go around, like.
00:04:34.120 I think she was kind of, like, she didn't even want to say that she was a virgin.
00:04:37.100 Do you know what I mean?
00:04:37.540 Like, she wasn't even trying to put it out there like that.
00:04:39.680 And then, like, isn't that the ultimate flex?
00:04:42.160 So, like, yeah, I am a virgin.
00:04:43.560 Like, why would you be hesitant to release that information?
00:04:46.100 But, I mean, all of us here, obviously, we're all non-virgins, right?
00:04:49.140 We're all.
00:04:50.300 No, I decided.
00:04:50.900 You're definitely not a virgin.
00:04:52.000 No, I decided.
00:04:52.780 I decided I'm born again now.
00:04:56.720 You were born again?
00:04:57.560 I was like, I was born again virgin.
00:04:58.840 She got mad when I said that. 0.99
00:05:00.500 I was like, are you a born again virgin? 1.00
00:05:02.020 She's like, don't fucking tell that shit to me. 1.00
00:05:03.760 Yeah, I'm a proud born again virgin. 1.00
00:05:07.760 Hey, it's that easy.
00:05:08.540 It's that easy.
00:05:09.340 It's that easy.
00:05:09.780 I just bought it off of eBay.
00:05:11.100 I love the way MLD's suit always comes into this, though.
00:05:16.940 So, like, if you mean it's your flanker, it's because I love it deep down.
00:05:20.300 Look at it deep down.
00:05:21.400 It's a nice suit.
00:05:23.580 I like it.
00:05:24.240 It's Laurel Piana.
00:05:25.560 All of my suits are Laurel Piana, you know?
00:05:27.700 Think about it all, bro.
00:05:28.740 Like, when a woman's arguing with you, they'll try to get you where it hurts. 1.00
00:05:31.660 Didn't I say that earlier?
00:05:32.660 Don't try to get you where it hurts, bro.
00:05:33.060 I said that earlier.
00:05:34.080 Didn't really?
00:05:34.580 And she was like, when you're logically making a point, she's like, yeah, well, that's why you're 1.00
00:05:38.080 fake teeth in your suit sucking fucking socks, you know? 1.00
00:05:40.940 Oh, yeah, that's a nice suit. 1.00
00:05:42.140 He loves it.
00:05:42.700 Oh, I hate your suit now.
00:05:43.820 Oh, he's got nice teeth.
00:05:44.620 I probably hate his teeth.
00:05:45.420 I like it.
00:05:45.860 It's just her being...
00:05:47.280 I wouldn't want to say it's her being a woman. 0.99
00:05:49.720 It's just her being like... 0.99
00:05:51.320 I wouldn't want to say feminine, but... 1.00
00:05:52.640 Emotional. 0.96
00:05:53.320 Like, liar. 0.91
00:05:53.960 Emotional. 0.94
00:05:54.740 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:05:55.240 She was... 0.97
00:05:55.540 I mean, she was clearly triggered.
00:05:59.140 Clearly triggered.
00:05:59.900 And you don't get triggered by, you know, like, lies, isn't she?
00:06:04.180 You get triggered by when somebody hits the truth.
00:06:06.160 If she said that her body count was full, I wouldn't care.
00:06:09.200 No one else would either.
00:06:10.100 No, no, no.
00:06:10.480 I think it's because, and I'm not saying this is what she was lying about, but I think
00:06:14.500 it's because as a Muslim or someone who wants to be perceived as a Muslim, and this
00:06:19.860 is a public forum, there is a level of appearance and reputation I think she wants to keep. 1.00
00:06:24.480 Over a certain age, people just assume.
00:06:27.600 You know what I mean?
00:06:28.400 I just assume.
00:06:29.540 If you meet a girl that's 25, like, that's 25, you're expecting, even if she... 0.98
00:06:34.180 Whatever religion, you're expecting, she's a virgin.
00:06:36.780 Yeah, and then another...
00:06:37.720 And I wanted to tell her, too, like, for me personally, like, if a girl has Snapchat, 0.99
00:06:42.600 that's a fucking red flag. 0.98
00:06:44.000 Why is that? 1.00
00:06:44.940 That's just a red flag.
00:06:46.080 Like, what are you doing?
00:06:47.640 For me personally, like, you're just on a platform that deletes all evidence.
00:06:54.480 Like, are you kidding me?
00:06:57.680 Like, and then, no, like, come on, you're on, and then, and like, you're not even a social
00:07:01.480 media, is she an influencer? 0.94
00:07:02.540 She have a big channel? 0.94
00:07:03.500 Is she doing something?
00:07:04.440 She did say that she is YouTubing and trying to get back into it, and like, you know, she
00:07:08.540 said she's starting off, like...
00:07:10.320 She's got a platform. 1.00
00:07:10.900 She's got a platform. 1.00
00:07:13.200 I'm to the point, I've been doing these shows for so long.
00:07:16.860 If I tell you something once and you don't listen, I'm just, I'm not dealing with it.
00:07:20.580 We got five likes left to open the chat.
00:07:25.500 Yeah, five likes left to open the chat.
00:07:27.180 I have super chats, though.
00:07:28.900 I'm trying to pull them up.
00:07:30.180 I forgot to pull them up.
00:07:31.100 I really want to vote with the chat.
00:07:32.540 I want chat to ask us.
00:07:33.780 I want to ask chat if they think she's a virgin or not once we open the chat. 0.55
00:07:36.780 Yeah.
00:07:39.480 Okay, supers.
00:07:42.140 I think that whole thing's a contradiction to some degree, though.
00:07:44.360 Like, not even her I'm focusing on.
00:07:46.440 I'm saying, being a Muslim...
00:07:48.260 Okay, let's say...
00:07:48.960 I'm not saying that she's, for a fact, not a virgin.
00:07:51.540 But let's say that she's not a virgin.
00:07:53.640 And she also has to maintain a certain image to society. 0.99
00:07:57.560 Don't you see some type of... 0.98
00:07:58.840 You're taking the piss.
00:08:02.900 But don't you see how that's like... 0.96
00:08:06.680 Isn't that like some type of like...
00:08:08.140 Is there nothing wrong with that?
00:08:09.380 Like, what?
00:08:09.980 So, I'm in a Muslim society now, and I'm not a virgin.
00:08:13.480 I have to appear this way, but I want to live this way.
00:08:16.500 Okay, shall I tell you what it is?
00:08:18.380 Yeah!
00:08:19.260 Yeah, you know what I mean?
00:08:20.040 No, no, no.
00:08:20.620 Not actually what it is.
00:08:22.120 I'm saying, in regards to that, if...
00:08:24.440 Imagine a girl who, for example, let's say she has a heavily promiscuous past. 1.00
00:08:28.340 Yeah.
00:08:28.580 Then she meets a guy, let's say who...
00:08:30.800 He doesn't, because he doesn't move in the streets like that.
00:08:33.400 He's a very good guy.
00:08:34.500 Let's say he's from a Muslim background, right?
00:08:36.300 He's only ever been with maybe one or two girls.
00:08:38.700 Yeah.
00:08:39.060 Right?
00:08:39.840 She doesn't have to tell him about her past.
00:08:41.980 And if she can avoid him finding out about that, right?
00:08:45.300 She's as good as a virgin. 0.99
00:08:46.060 She's as good as a virgin because he will take her as a wife, et cetera, et cetera. 0.96
00:08:50.320 Right?
00:08:50.980 And this is something that definitely, you know, girls have told me of their friends,
00:08:54.740 where they'd been with over 50 to 100 guys.
00:08:58.160 Then a guy they met who was a really good guy, only been with one or two people, good
00:09:01.600 guy, sound, religious background, right?
00:09:03.720 He's none the wiser.
00:09:05.000 And now they're happily married, et cetera.
00:09:06.940 So, obviously, her disclosing any kind of information, right, to the future man, if
00:09:12.640 he stumbled upon this channel, he stumbled upon this episode, he'd be like, what the 0.97
00:09:16.780 fuck is this? 0.99
00:09:17.640 Yeah. 1.00
00:09:18.460 No hymen, no diamond.
00:09:21.260 Which is all fair enough.
00:09:23.500 But, I mean, you've got a sort of thing.
00:09:25.080 If you're going on a podcast where you're going to be talking about dating, you're going to
00:09:28.120 get asked about your-
00:09:29.120 Yeah, like, well, I'm putting things, like, like, they don't say that this is entirely
00:09:33.340 about dating, but this is a very common topic on this show.
00:09:35.780 It's a bit like when straighter, right?
00:09:37.220 Do you know that girl straighter, right, got thrown off the whatever podcast?
00:09:39.720 One of the best of these girls, you know, debate girls. 0.99
00:09:42.880 The one I was on?
00:09:43.920 No, I think it was a different one, but she got thrown off because they asked her if she
00:09:46.840 was a virgin and she wouldn't answer the question.
00:09:48.720 And then in the end, they threw her off the podcast.
00:09:50.420 And people were saying, well, the thing is, like, you knew you were coming onto a dating
00:09:53.440 podcast.
00:09:54.140 You knew you were probably going to get asked that.
00:09:55.800 That's not asking your body care.
00:09:58.160 That's okay.
00:09:58.660 Virgin or not?
00:09:59.880 How old was she? 0.89
00:10:00.720 She's 26.
00:10:02.180 Okay, look, come on.
00:10:03.520 I'm 26.
00:10:04.440 I'm 23.
00:10:06.200 Yeah, no.
00:10:06.760 26.
00:10:07.520 Like, come on.
00:10:08.080 The whole, I mean, all of the symptoms she was emitting were not one of a virgin. 0.89
00:10:18.220 Virgin women are, like, very coy, naive, like, very- 1.00
00:10:23.520 You can sense the purity? 0.99
00:10:24.540 Yeah, they're pure.
00:10:25.300 They're very nice.
00:10:26.880 They haven't been jaded yet.
00:10:28.680 You know what I mean?
00:10:29.200 You know what I mean?
00:10:29.460 I was sensing the trauma of past relationships when I was watching Express.
00:10:33.800 Like, I really pay attention to people's body language and so on and so forth.
00:10:37.680 And within that wasn't just, oh, how dare you?
00:10:41.020 It's, wait, you're trying to tell everyone?
00:10:42.720 That's the energy that I was getting.
00:10:44.020 I was getting the energy of.
00:10:45.100 Wait there.
00:10:45.560 Yo, right now?
00:10:46.540 I mean, when she was speaking to you, that was one.
00:10:48.080 But it was more specific with him as well.
00:10:49.480 I have this-