Never Take Relationship Advice From Girls (here's why...)
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the real problems we have today in marriage and how to deal with them. We also talk about the boredom theory and some of the problems that we have in our own marriages. We also discuss how to cope with a husband who wakes you up early in the morning and wants sex but you don t have enough time to spend with him.
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same point you I was literally you've it struck a chord with me because I've
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just come back from Gambia I was out there doing some charity work and these
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lot have got nothing but I mean yeah and you see what within themselves it's so
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I don't care yeah and I just and I was actually thinking the same thing I was
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thinking if these lot have the same like they're not gonna have the same but like
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emotional side like all the issues that we have because I'm thinking they
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literally are some those survival don't survive they're walking miles to get
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water they're trying to find out with the China ration the rice and this and
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that and I just even the way they are now I see the dynamics between the men and
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the women and they all get along all the children play together and they're
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literally just live in mud house in the middle of a desert that's cold in hot
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mm-hmm and I think I know what nobody in no two humans are gonna get on completely
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fine all the time but I just think about divorce or spin-ups never even they're
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too worried about trying to raise their kids kids don't die yeah because in the
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West we're too we're too sort of fat on when we're too lazy and we're too we're
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too comfortable yep and so now we've got all these other issues these are
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problems that we can worry problems fake problems really we're like oh you know
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what God I'm such a loser I only have an iPhone 13 I live in a privileged society
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that we're not even aware of anymore we're very privileged it's good to go on
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it's good to go out to them federal countries and literally you come back so
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grateful and come back and just think my problems are actually nothing I'm
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bothered because I've got Wi-Fi my Wi-Fi is not working that happened to me when I was I
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have I was lucky enough for that happened to me when I was 15 I went to
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Dwanisburg South Africa my mom helped me raise money to go on this missions trip
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with my church and I went out to like the boonies of I think we were in Krugersdorp
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which is another city in South Africa and I met a lady who had gangrene in her
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leg and we went to her house which was like dirt floor and like tin shack and we
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prayed for her we're like Lord please deliver this woman from her gangrene and then I was
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foolish young boy 15 I was like Lord's gonna cure her right like she's gonna be okay right
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but later they told me like most likely this woman's gonna die and then I went back to my
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area where I lived where I lived on the outskirts of the rich white area and I could go to the school
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I went to Winter Park High School which was like one of the richest high schools in Florida and I would
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see people be like oh you know my dad sucks he bought me a used Honda Civic and I
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wanted a BMW you know this air conditioning sucks it only makes me kind of hot and I
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was like in Africa watching death happen in a hopeless situation perspective your
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perspective is totally changed and I'm so grateful that my mom was able to pay for
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that and that I was able to get that perspective on life because you know in
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the West were so just drunk on the benefits of yeah like the like the quite frankly like
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the the glory of the glory of war for for that our our ancestors won when they you know storm
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Normandy and you know and endured all these attacks from the Japanese and whatnot so I just
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think about everything pulling back to where we are right now I just think that we're our lives
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are so good that we have to make problems yeah when you think about a lot of the
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culture war stuff it's based on that isn't it like a lot of these cultures yes
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would it be a thing so so take it home of you guys the boredom theory is real guys
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I want to read you about this is a column where they answer some of the real problems
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that we have today in marriage okay now I don't want you guys to take this lightly I
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want to pretend like we are answering this woman's question okay dear Jessica my husband wakes me up
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in the middle of the night wanting sex I struggle to fall back asleep afterwards and have told him
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so I wake up very early for work each day so the fact that he continues to awaken me troubles me
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because I am not getting adequate sleep when I bring this up he claims I wake him up and that
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he is trying to satisfy me I feel like he's gaslighting me but he continues to insist it is my doing
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how do I help now I want to first give you guys what this woman said to her now we'll see do women
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give good relationship advice no just okay well no maybe let's let's give her the benefit of the
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doubt yeah she's like it's a waste of time all right look look look it's possible your husband
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is lying to you to justify his habit of of waking you for sex and it's also possible possible you're
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experiencing some form of what what is known as sex somnia get one of those little surveillance cameras
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that recorded movements it hasn't I was gonna say it's not my show I was just gonna say just do it
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I wish I had that problem only because only because the camera is only to do one thing is to underline who
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is the actual culprit because she said that he said it's her she said it's him so you get the camera
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out and you prove who did it but what are you just not what are you just not complain and just do it
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I want to give up I want to give a proper shout out to our friend Allie the real femme sapien she gave
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a really good book that I think a lot of women and men should read it's the proper care and feeding of
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husbands by dr lauren schlesinger has anybody read that book I think you're on commission or
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something I mean have you mentioned I've read a lot um so you know that's a really good book for
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women to understand like what men really want and dr lauren schlesinger she does a really really
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really good job at it but maybe that wouldn't be an issue if she was being fulfilled each time
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sexually she's been woken up and not but you know he's like cheers you know and she's like what
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the hell we just started maybe she said that's keep her awake maybe she said it keeps her awake
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after she never said that it was bad she said like so maybe he's rassing it and then maybe she's
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thinking you know what it's a good session I can go back to sleep there because women