JustPearlyThings - May 24, 2023


O F Model Call Herself a 10


Episode Stats

Length

16 minutes

Words per Minute

206.26952

Word Count

3,369

Sentence Count

4

Misogynist Sentences

18

Hate Speech Sentences

9


Summary

In this episode, we discuss the beauty standards in the dating world, beauty standards, and what it means to be "average" when it comes to beauty standards. We also discuss our personal experiences with beauty standards and how they affect us and how we view them.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 yeah oh well there it is okay cool we have a question here from stifler ask the ladies to
00:00:07.680 rate their looks on a scale of one to ten okay we can do that go ahead what about you I think
00:00:12.900 like a seven and a half eight okay I think I'm attending the Midwest have you scoot into the
00:00:20.160 table depends on the city in LA the number goes down let's say you're in like a international
00:00:32.220 hub somewhere yeah I mean okay okay like like LA for example I went on a good day a solid like a
00:00:41.760 strong eight okay I would call myself a ten but that's because I'm no matter who it is like
00:00:50.100 no one's ever gonna think I'm the prettiest girl or like there's not ever there's always gonna be
00:00:54.520 somebody that thinks I'm ugly so I'm just gonna call myself a ten and be happy with that I like
00:01:00.440 that you know what I mean well not everybody likes me not everybody has to okay we'll let everybody
00:01:04.640 answer go ahead I'd give myself an eight if I was down south or in the Midwest I'd be Beyonce but
00:01:11.260 here in LA you feel me it really just depends on what part of well we're in Santa Barbara but I'm
00:01:16.080 from LA I'm from the hood so in the hood I'm definitely a ten you feel me but when you go to
00:01:21.040 Beverly Hills stuff like that you you fat you got a belly a little fupa then yeah your number go way
00:01:26.000 down so Beverly Hills versus the hood you know let me know more to love baby more to love um I would
00:01:34.540 rate myself like a seven or an eight okay I'd probably give myself a 6.5 or a seven I think it depends on
00:01:43.420 the city and state to like in Florida maybe like a seven but here in California maybe like a 6.5
00:01:48.460 yeah I think I'm six 6.5 I think that's about accurate
00:01:52.700 that's kind of changing my mind I think he has a low ball in but I was gonna say like a like a
00:01:58.780 seven or eight but I'm gonna go with the eight I say five I think I'm an average chick
00:02:04.720 oh not pretty no what that doesn't mean I don't think there's anything wrong with average
00:02:09.440 we're talking about looks alone looks alone I mean I think like there's nothing wrong with being
00:02:15.800 average I think if you take 10 girls at the table like half of us probably are average yeah I think
00:02:21.220 no one wants to be like honest with me isn't just because you're not saying you're 10 doesn't mean
00:02:24.300 you're not confident either there's a difference between realistic and just not confident I agree
00:02:28.960 completely yeah I just I don't know why like we live in this society where average is seen as a
00:02:33.380 bad thing like most people are average not everyone can be like if you think about if you're an eight
00:02:38.060 that means you're in the top 20 percent of beauty you should have had top 20 percent of beauty results
00:02:42.100 so that means um I don't know modeling contracts I don't know you know um eligible top 20 percent 10
00:02:48.680 percent men in your dms or um I don't know but not not just like like serious taking you seriously
00:02:54.760 but go ahead there's also been beauty studies um they've done where they've like had eight faces
00:02:59.980 lined up of different like kinds of beauty supermodel beauty with the chiseled features
00:03:03.780 and like you know what people actually find most beautiful is most familiar so it's like more the
00:03:08.780 girl next door look that was actually rated the most beautiful or even like somebody like I've noticed
00:03:14.260 like the more that I've been around couples um people tend to date people that we kind of resemble
00:03:21.520 them or someone that they love like their mom or something I don't know why that is again it's
00:03:27.600 probably the familiarity thing that she just pointed out but I've I've I've continued to notice more and
00:03:32.580 more since being in LA that a lot of people tend to date people that kind of look a little bit like
00:03:37.920 them so it doesn't mean that necessarily like it's the beauty standard it's just beauty beauty in each
00:03:43.560 beauty I'd like to say that beauty is not subjective it's objective there's been many studies like people
00:03:48.740 tend to find the same things attractive like people might have like certain types where it differs
00:03:52.820 a little bit but in general like it's not subjective it's yeah and every man woman in
00:03:57.140 between is someone's type at the time not oh true yeah I think it's a question
00:04:01.920 because I didn't want to get lip fillers until like like three years ago when it became popular to have
00:04:07.060 big lips and as someone like yeah and I was bullied for my big lips growing up until it became like
00:04:12.820 people were getting lip injections but I like that's why I call myself I'm not going to hold on
00:04:18.760 base what I think of myself on what anybody else thinks of me I look in the mirror every day and
00:04:22.700 I like what I see yeah but that's so but it's true I like what I see in the mirror so in my mind
00:04:29.220 okay then I okay in my mind I'm not saying that you have to see me in my mind in my mind in my mind
00:04:35.540 I'm a millionaire in my mind I'm a millionaire and a PhD in my mind and I feel like that so
00:04:41.940 therefore I am that's just because you like what you see in the mirror also that doesn't mean that
00:04:48.320 you're a 10 a 10 is saying you are absolutely perfect so you're saying you don't have any acne
00:04:52.080 your hair is perfect every single day like you're in the best shape of your life you're saying you
00:04:55.720 have absolutely nothing that you think you can improve on yourself I'm not saying that but I'm
00:04:59.600 saying that I would consider myself a 10 I don't know what other people would call me
00:05:03.240 I think maybe you're thinking of different categories because objectively the golden ratio
00:05:06.600 is a measure a measure of facial symmetry and it is objective you can look at someone's face and
00:05:12.020 see how closely they match and so I think when a lot of people say it what they're talking about
00:05:15.800 is this is how I measure up to this ideal standard of beauty though I do think yeah you're right over
00:05:20.720 time or whoever said that over time society does value different aspects of women's beauty as time
00:05:26.680 changes yeah remember women make 70 to 80 percent of consumer buying decisions so all the media is
00:05:39.500 marketed towards women it's not for men what men what men likes really has not changed
00:05:44.420 natural more natural you see but I said earlier like it really does depend on the country and it
00:05:49.800 does depend on where you're living because it's a lot different in America than it is in Israel I
00:05:53.760 lived in Israel for over four years and the beauty standards there while completely different
00:05:59.900 when I got back here when I got back here I went and I wanted a nose job right away as soon as I got
00:06:08.860 back I went and got Botox I went and got lip filler I didn't feel beautiful here by beauty standards at
00:06:15.320 all but when I lived in Israel I was very confident and I felt great because there they don't care about
00:06:20.520 those beauty standards right they don't care about them they've done studies on this like with men all
00:06:28.320 over the world I mean I lived there first I mean I've lived okay I've lived in Germany I've lived all
00:06:33.060 over the world too so we could go back and forth in the I lived game but in general men tend to find
00:06:38.280 the same things attractive I don't believe that's true at all but okay well but what do you think
00:06:42.840 I find attractive um and I mean fit feminine friendly in general um symmetrical face I mean
00:06:49.740 I think you kind of know it when you see it if we're being honest so supposedly like um you know
00:06:54.280 biologically like where the men are attracted to like a woman that looks like she's capable of
00:06:59.500 bearing a child so like yeah to me that's the only way that we can say what we know men like hair
00:07:04.400 all different between what men like yeah it's not it's not that one thing like oh if you have a
00:07:09.440 small nose every man is gonna like you men in general aren't that picky and also I don't like
00:07:14.080 supermodels some men like the BBL big booty latinas like everyone has a different type so you can't
00:07:19.860 just put men into like a certain category I mean men really aren't that picky they swipe right on
00:07:24.560 dating apps like 50 percent of the time but again men just really are not picky on who they fuck but
00:07:29.660 they're picky on who they want to call their girlfriend yeah and another thing is is you can
00:07:34.680 be you can be the complete you can be the complete and total package and get delivered to the wrong
00:07:39.180 house I'm just saying you can be you can be what somebody is dying and praying for and not get
00:07:44.120 the choosers so then you pick the wrong house no I'm saying no I'm saying I'm saying you can walk
00:07:50.040 into a room and be attend to somebody in that room but go up to the wrong guy I mean not really not
00:07:57.100 okay I'll give let's let's do it let's do a different example is Lizzo gonna be a 10 anywhere
00:08:02.340 no Lizzo if she goes to Japan that's exactly what I'm that's exactly what I'm saying no no but she's
00:08:08.520 not gonna be a 10 anywhere I mean we could argue that maybe like you know I'm confused what the hell
00:08:13.060 we're arguing actually well yeah she will be a 10 somewhere like I said in the hood she's just like
00:08:19.860 every woman they have they could be the exact perfect package for the perfect person right but that's
00:08:25.620 exactly what I'm trying to say Lizzo if you want to use her as an example she's a beautiful woman
00:08:30.240 right right I think what she's getting at is that I mean I have common sides I think that's where you
00:08:36.760 get in I think that's where you get it wrong sometimes I don't understand why everyone can
00:08:41.060 we have to we have to generalize in order to have conversations sometimes we know we have to
00:08:46.560 otherwise if we're gonna have a conversation about every single exception but we're gonna be
00:08:50.540 here all day if I said you guys look like Lizzo would you take it as a compliment her face and her
00:09:07.580 confidence and the way that she carries herself hell yeah I can find beauty in every single woman
00:09:13.760 though like that's just me I think what Pearl was trying to get at is that it's okay to be normal
00:09:19.400 it's okay not to be a 10 out of 10 in society's standards everybody is told nowadays that they're
00:09:24.140 special and that you're a 10 you're a 10 no let's be for real we have to be honest with ourselves we go
00:09:28.600 out into the world I'm gonna go out somewhere somebody doesn't like black girls guess what I'm
00:09:31.460 gonna have to do except that people don't like black girls I'm gonna go out there and change the
00:09:34.960 world's opinion no that doesn't make that doesn't change how you feel about yourself yeah but I mean
00:09:38.740 I feel about myself because I'm going off of society's standards what I look like I feel that
00:09:43.160 way but she's saying the question was to rate our looks not ourselves there's a big difference
00:09:47.680 okay but come on even if we're gonna go off personality what we all have perfect 10 no no I'm
00:09:55.120 saying like there's no areas for improvement in your personality no I mean it is when you're saying
00:10:00.940 you're a 10 if you're including because you said I said I said if we were telling even if we were
00:10:10.260 going personality that's what I said that's true yeah but I think that we're having a little bit
00:10:14.360 of confusion about objectively there is an objective beauty standard you can look at a woman and there
00:10:19.000 are different across races across ethnicities across all different types of things there are women who
00:10:24.040 are objectively beautiful when they walk in a room you know that's a 10 you know it you know it when
00:10:28.320 you see it but there is relative beauty like like like you were saying it depends on where you are
00:10:34.780 and you may have somebody who for that for that culture for that area that's a 10 and it looks
00:10:39.860 different than the objective 10 that all most people if you have a room full of a thousand people
00:10:43.840 from all over the world they know when somebody walks in that's a 10 objectively because you can see
00:10:48.780 it's the facial symmetry it's just the math and our brains comprehend it as beauty 100 and if you bring
00:10:53.380 somebody with blue eyes somewhere where it's probably not predominantly not blue eyes they're
00:10:57.860 immediately going to get like a double look or be held to like oh wow that's beautiful because
00:11:03.380 it's not seen as often or whatever the case may be I'm not just I'm just saying blue eyes because I
00:11:07.960 that's what I have so I'm not going to critique somebody else's look but yeah well I don't
00:11:12.460 understand is who is the shot caller that said oh this is the perfect structured face this is what
00:11:17.800 beauty is it's just society who has the right to say that you're right who are you bringing up the golden ratio
00:11:23.880 it's just math it is and you know another thing is ridiculous to me is that okay this is what a 30
00:11:30.680 year old should look like this is what you should look like when you're 20 this is what
00:11:33.520 I have a question I have a question how tall are you how tall are you five seven okay would you date a guy
00:11:39.540 that's five foot I have really oh plenty of times five foot seven inches yeah no look where I come
00:11:58.260 from look you you just blessed and at my age you just blessed to get somebody that you feel me wants
00:12:03.420 to show you some love honey and show you a good time honey so you got to go along with it baby if
00:12:09.380 it's if it's your you feel me your type then it's your type height shouldn't matter you know what I
00:12:13.600 mean yeah I don't I think that's shallow to be honest to to put somebody down just based off their
00:12:18.220 women women do though if you look at the filters on dating apps though like most like the most common
00:12:22.760 filter is six foot and up and most women have that filter on if they can I have a question I feel
00:12:27.020 like most men like shorter women as well they do yeah that's my problem five two is like this they want
00:12:32.100 a little tiny so for those of you who are working in the adult industry I'm curious what you think
00:12:49.260 your life will look like about 10 to 15 years in the future like what do you picture where do you
00:12:53.940 picture your careers going I mean I've definitely been thinking about that a lot since I got pregnant
00:12:59.680 and also before as well um that's also why I kind of stepped out of the corn industry itself
00:13:08.500 because I was realizing that you know at least with OnlyFans yes they can screenshot yes they can
00:13:13.080 screen record everything and it can be put out on Reddit or whatever but that I'm on the hub
00:13:19.380 anyone can look me up and now it kind of sucks like looking back on it I don't regret my decisions
00:13:27.760 because they got me to where I am today and the person that I am today and I will always be thankful
00:13:31.820 for that um but I do wish I went ahead and did my research before and did things a lot differently
00:13:39.280 than I did um but I wonder did you know before you started so this is something so I'm a career coach
00:13:47.820 and I help people find jobs without buying college degrees so I help people get into tech and different
00:13:52.080 industries blue collar doesn't really matter whatever people want to do I'll help them figure out how to do it
00:13:55.880 and so I'm curious about if if it's common knowledge that if you do that kind of work later on down the
00:14:02.680 line it may show up and an employer may choose not to hire you and they're legally allowed to do so
00:14:07.080 and how have you like planned for that on down the line I went ahead I went ahead Kiana still is my real
00:14:12.760 name but I changed the spelling of it I use a fake last name legally you changed it no okay so if I walk
00:14:18.860 into a job they you can't correlate Kiana Kumani with my real name um what if they start like making
00:14:26.200 technology to like find your face well they already have I mean if they already have them they already
00:14:30.660 have but honestly after the work that I've done I don't see myself going back to a nine to five
00:14:35.380 um I do want to go to college and I do want to get my nursing degree because I do want to go and be a
00:14:42.700 traveling nurse and help out in different countries and I don't think it really matters when you're
00:14:46.200 going to be a nurse if you've done corn I don't see that as an issue because I'm I want to help
00:14:53.580 well a lot of employers a lot of employers do and it will impact your prospects and if that if that is
00:14:59.000 the case then that is the case but right now I'm trying to stack my money as much as possible and
00:15:03.100 again invest in Airbnb properties that's wise of you yeah yeah and do as much as possible I don't want
00:15:08.420 to waste my money on stupid stuff yeah I think it's dumb that a lot of women in the industry get into
00:15:14.980 the industry and they are so they have never had that much money before so they go and buy
00:15:20.440 designer purses designer shoes they waste all they waste yeah they waste all their money they spend it
00:15:26.720 and they don't learn how to do their tax forms they don't learn how they don't learn how to write off
00:15:30.900 things that they're paying for on a daily basis to keep up with their own their own like look like
00:15:36.400 when you're when you're an OF model I can write off these nails every time I get them done I can write
00:15:40.500 everything else do you own taxes or do you have CPAs I do my own I've I've because I did my business
00:15:47.700 degree I actually like took courses and shit like that and I actually really really enjoy doing that
00:15:52.000 I want to help more people do that when it comes to OF um but no I definitely have a plan for after
00:15:58.200 I'm done with the industry that I'm in right now did you did you start in OnlyFans because you
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