JustPearlyThings - July 08, 2023


Only Fans Mom Utters The Most Hypocritical Statement


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10 minutes

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2,092

Sentence count

215

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12

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In this episode, we discuss the dangers of online only fans and how they can affect our children. We also discuss the benefits of being an online only fan and how it can affect your kids in the long-term.

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00:00:00.000 Have you guys thought about, like, what effects that would have on when you guys have kids?
00:00:05.640 I have got kids.
00:00:06.660 Okay.
00:00:07.260 I've got three.
00:00:08.140 How old are they?
00:00:09.240 17, 14, and five.
00:00:11.460 Okay.
00:00:11.820 And they're cool with it?
00:00:13.200 Yeah.
00:00:14.020 They wasn't at first.
00:00:15.880 I've been doing it for two years.
00:00:17.720 But now my job gives them opportunities that I wouldn't be able to give them before.
00:00:23.920 I was literally using food banks with my children when I had my other job.
00:00:28.120 And that was a respected job.
00:00:30.840 I was still spending time away from home, like, working, and still coming home and not having enough money to, like, support them.
00:00:38.480 Now I'm home all of the time.
00:00:40.600 They get all of my attention.
00:00:42.100 And I'm still able to provide and pay for things that I wouldn't be able to do.
00:00:48.000 Like, just, like, an example is, like, swimming lessons for my daughter.
00:00:50.840 I would never, ever have been able to afford swimming lessons.
00:00:53.760 Something so basic and simple that's going to help her in the long run.
00:00:57.520 And I wouldn't have been able to do that before without anyone.
00:01:00.360 What do you tell them when they say, Mummy, what do you do for work?
00:01:02.500 They know what I do for work.
00:01:03.440 Well, obviously, the youngest doesn't know what I do for work.
00:01:05.680 But the two older ones do know what I do for work.
00:01:07.840 Do any of their mates at school subscribe?
00:01:11.300 Obviously not.
00:01:12.220 Under age.
00:01:13.080 Yeah, under 18.
00:01:14.700 That's not going to stop anyone from going on the internet.
00:01:16.900 Well, yeah, it does.
00:01:17.780 Because there's a paywall for a reason.
00:01:19.380 Like, it's to stop, like, under 18s getting access to it.
00:01:23.740 Yeah, that'll work.
00:01:24.680 That'll work.
00:01:25.100 Yeah, that doesn't actually stop me.
00:01:29.940 That'll work, yeah.
00:01:31.280 I guarantee.
00:01:31.940 You can't be naive.
00:01:32.980 Come on.
00:01:33.540 What did your son say when you first did it?
00:01:36.100 Not a lot, really.
00:01:37.620 He just accepts that that's where the money comes from.
00:01:40.480 And he's got a lifestyle that he's happy with.
00:01:43.520 Do you think that's going to set him back a little bit?
00:01:45.180 Because he just thinks that's a good way to make money?
00:01:48.540 So my daughter's 17.
00:01:50.660 So my oldest is 17.
00:01:51.940 She's a girl, like, she would never, ever do OnlyFans.
00:01:57.140 She's not that kind of person. 0.93
00:01:58.500 She's really shy and reserved.
00:02:00.460 But she's, like, she's happier now that I do OnlyFans.
00:02:06.280 Would you be okay with her doing it?
00:02:10.160 I literally would support her in anything she wanted to do.
00:02:13.180 Or, like, encourage it.
00:02:14.560 I wouldn't encourage it.
00:02:15.620 I wouldn't encourage anybody to do OnlyFans.
00:02:17.580 Why not?
00:02:18.500 Just because it's hard work.
00:02:21.180 You do have the negative stuff.
00:02:22.600 I'm not naive.
00:02:23.540 I don't think that OnlyFans is, like, the be-all and end-all and is amazing.
00:02:28.400 So if you said this is a good route to go down or a bad route, would you say it's bad?
00:02:32.960 It depends on which way you look at it.
00:02:35.620 It is a bad route to go down.
00:02:36.840 It depends.
00:02:37.480 It depends.
00:02:38.140 Like, if you're going to get, like, $130 a month, then I don't see the point in doing OnlyFans.
00:02:44.040 So it's a good route if you make enough money?
00:02:46.320 I would say so, yeah.
00:02:47.600 Because I don't think, like, money should have any bearing on values.
00:02:50.940 Unfortunately, it does, though.
00:02:52.580 No, I disagree.
00:02:53.800 I don't think it does.
00:02:54.980 Money literally makes the world go round.
00:02:56.820 No, I think there's either things you would do for money or things you wouldn't.
00:03:00.100 Like, I'll give you a different example.
00:03:01.900 Like, murder.
00:03:02.600 Could you murder someone if they pay you enough money?
00:03:04.720 Yes.
00:03:06.340 Murder is a lot of money.
00:03:07.540 It's a lot of money.
00:03:09.900 The difference is I'm not hurting anybody.
00:03:14.680 Can I tell you something?
00:03:15.240 Murder is obviously hurting someone.
00:03:17.100 Your reputation will, in fact, it will hurt your family someday.
00:03:22.120 It won't.
00:03:22.640 There's always, there's always...
00:03:23.860 What if your daughter's to get bullied because her mum chose that route? 1.00
00:03:27.140 Then we need to sort the bullies out.
00:03:28.520 No, I'll move out our country and live in a mansion somewhere else.
00:03:30.960 We need to sort the bullies out.
00:03:31.580 Like, if you think it's okay for bullies to bully people because of something that...
00:03:35.080 I don't think it's okay.
00:03:36.120 I just know that's an outcome.
00:03:37.900 It's a possibility that will happen.
00:03:39.000 And then, okay, you've got to get a mansion.
00:03:41.020 But that's to Pearl's point.
00:03:42.440 Not everything is about money.
00:03:43.860 Not everything is so material.
00:03:45.300 You've got to have something fulfilling in your life.
00:03:47.080 And to teach your kids that, hey, it's okay, you can, if all goes to shit, just jump on
00:03:51.940 OnlyFans and sell your body, you know? 1.00
00:03:54.220 I don't think that's a really good way to...
00:03:55.940 I'm not a parent, so I can't really go out and say it, but I think that's a healthy way
00:03:59.660 to bring up your child.
00:04:00.620 I feel like I'm in a position where I'm able to support my daughter to not do OnlyFans.
00:04:07.560 I've got enough money to be able to set her up her own business so she can be a business 1.00
00:04:11.400 woman and not work for anybody else and slave away and get minimum wage for nothing. 1.00
00:04:15.360 And you don't have to answer this if you don't want, but where's the dad?
00:04:20.120 The dad's an arsehole.
00:04:22.460 Can we get a pulp pill?
00:04:24.240 Where are the fathers for all the OnlyFans girls?
00:04:28.300 So when I was with him, I wasn't even allowed Facebook.
00:04:32.420 I wasn't allowed any social media whatsoever.
00:04:34.320 He was really controlling.
00:04:35.620 It was an abusive relationship.
00:04:37.540 No social media?
00:04:39.240 No social media.
00:04:40.060 That's reasonable.
00:04:41.200 I wasn't even allowed to wear my hair down.
00:04:43.840 That's how controlling he was.
00:04:45.360 I wasn't allowed to shower without his permission.
00:04:48.300 My mum didn't give me a phone until I was in year nine.
00:04:51.740 I had it really hard.
00:04:53.300 You know, jeez.
00:04:54.560 I hate my mum for that. 1.00
00:04:55.740 I just want to point something out.
00:04:56.860 I think it's a dangerous society we live in when parents allow kids to set the standard
00:05:03.400 for their morality.
00:05:04.340 I think it's a parent's duty to set the standard for what morality is going to be in their household
00:05:09.280 and should not depend on what their children feel about it.
00:05:12.080 Exactly.
00:05:13.000 You see, you see, the thing is, I don't, I, obviously, I don't disagree with OnlyFans.
00:05:17.860 So if she wanted to go and do OnlyFans, I would 100% support her.
00:05:22.700 I would not.
00:05:23.300 But I just, it seems like you, but you wouldn't encourage it though.
00:05:26.420 No, I wouldn't encourage her.
00:05:27.400 I would encourage her to take other routes.
00:05:29.240 I wouldn't also encourage her to go and get a job at McDonald's because I don't want her 1.00
00:05:33.020 to do that either.
00:05:33.840 So it works both ways.
00:05:37.860 Jeez.
00:05:38.980 How would kids feel if you had no money in the household?
00:05:42.480 Partner was a bum.
00:05:43.600 You were a bum.
00:05:44.080 That's exactly how it is.
00:05:45.400 But you had nice tits to get out. 1.00
00:05:46.900 So, like, I mean, you haven't been into like, like, I don't know, I used to travel a lot
00:05:53.420 when I was younger and it was shocking to me how like in third world countries, like 1.00
00:05:57.180 they would be so happy.
00:05:58.700 Like there's some of the happiest.
00:05:59.780 I'm sorry, but I was not happy when I was poor and neither were my children.
00:06:02.800 Well, I know, but it's funny.
00:06:04.540 It's in the West though.
00:06:05.640 It's like in the West, we're really unhappy.
00:06:07.240 But third world countries have no more crime and violence everywhere. 0.71
00:06:09.980 What do you mean?
00:06:11.240 Third world countries.
00:06:12.220 Well, I mean, I'm talking about, so I went to, the country I'm talking about was India.
00:06:16.140 And when I went to India, that's the most poverty I've ever seen in my life.
00:06:18.960 Like that's the lowest like standard of living.
00:06:20.920 And I, I mean, it's both, right?
00:06:22.880 There's a range, but in some of the parts we were in.
00:06:25.140 And to me, it was just like shocking how like they were really, really happy, even though
00:06:29.360 they had nothing.
00:06:30.500 And there's extreme high grape over there?
00:06:32.340 The thing with that is, I'm not, I'm not saying, I'm not saying it's like all sunshine
00:06:38.060 and rainbows.
00:06:38.940 I'm just saying, I don't, I don't think money is the only thing that dictates happiness.
00:06:42.360 Not in that country, it doesn't.
00:06:44.080 But in this country, it does.
00:06:45.520 And in most countries, it does.
00:06:47.280 Money is like the factor that runs the world.
00:06:50.340 Like that's, it's sad, but it's true.
00:06:52.700 Money makes me happy.
00:06:53.920 That's literally how it is.
00:06:55.260 Like you get more opportunities, the more money you've got.
00:06:58.000 And you get a better quality of life, the more money you've got in this country.
00:07:01.680 That's, that's just how it is.
00:07:03.140 I mean, I guess, I really think quality of life depends on your family more than anything.
00:07:09.860 What if you didn't have family?
00:07:11.140 I don't have parents.
00:07:12.760 Well, I mean.
00:07:13.480 I'm saying a real big pattern here, though.
00:07:15.900 I think the goal should be to have, you know, to like bring kids up into parent household.
00:07:20.080 No, no, my parents do it.
00:07:21.300 So like it's different for me.
00:07:22.420 But I'm not talking about you.
00:07:24.320 I'm just talking about in general.
00:07:25.800 I, no offense.
00:07:26.920 I just don't think that's like the norm to have, you know.
00:07:30.740 I, I agree with you with that.
00:07:32.960 I think obviously the, the two parent household, it is important.
00:07:37.660 I think having a good upbringing.
00:07:40.960 However, what, so your, your house, obviously I've seen your content.
00:07:45.340 I know the way it works.
00:07:46.280 Because your stance is that obviously the, are you thinking that both parents should work
00:07:53.000 or just the, the father should work?
00:07:55.120 Because you grew up with your dad, well, your mom was working with your dad, but then your
00:07:59.640 dad did most of the stuff.
00:08:00.800 Yeah.
00:08:01.620 You know, they, I mean, they worked together.
00:08:03.560 My mom was going to be a teacher. 0.99
00:08:04.800 She quit that too.
00:08:05.640 Like they did a business together.
00:08:07.600 So yeah.
00:08:08.680 That was really nice.
00:08:09.720 Yeah.
00:08:09.920 But yeah.
00:08:11.380 What's, what's my stance?
00:08:12.340 I mean, I think the more time parents can spend with their kids, the better.
00:08:16.940 Exactly.
00:08:17.460 That, that's my stance.
00:08:18.380 So then like with people like Kimmy, who's got kids, she can spend all the time in the 0.60
00:08:22.380 world with her kids and obviously still do what she does. 1.00
00:08:26.460 Yeah.
00:08:26.620 But I would just think like the better outcome is to get married and stay married.
00:08:30.420 Yeah.
00:08:30.760 Right.
00:08:31.080 That doesn't always work though.
00:08:32.280 And I, I would personally, my, my situation, their father has a more of a negative effect
00:08:38.940 on them than us both being together and 100%.
00:08:42.520 And the kids would say that too.
00:08:44.340 Are the kids better off with you guys together?
00:08:47.260 Definitely not.
00:08:48.680 The kids, the kids witnessed some horrible, horrible things that nobody should witness.
00:08:52.760 And they, they are loads, a million times better off now that I'm a single parent.
00:08:58.680 That's one thing I would ask you though.
00:08:59.860 What do you think about like couples therapy?
00:09:02.000 Like, do you think that's a good thing?
00:09:03.620 Like if there is like issues going on with like to keep the parents together, if it was
00:09:08.220 a last resort, would you, would you, would you think that couples therapy is a good thing
00:09:13.000 to make the parents stay together for the kids?
00:09:15.140 Well, I think if you get a good therapist potentially, but I think 90% plus of therapists
00:09:21.000 are insane and crazy. 0.81
00:09:23.000 I'm not saying there's no validity in the profession there is, but I've, I was in school for psychology.
00:09:30.640 Yeah.
00:09:31.480 Wait, if you think that they're not, well, I'll tell you, I was in it because I just wanted
00:09:35.340 a visa, so I just was like, this seems like an easy degree.
00:09:40.120 So I'm going to pick this one.
00:09:41.260 Most people do it because it's easy.
00:09:42.540 Yeah.
00:09:43.000 Yeah.
00:09:43.240 No, but that's not good.
00:09:44.320 These are the therapists of the future.
00:09:46.180 And I noticed all the girls in the program were crazy. 1.00
00:09:48.360 Did you do it in the U.S. or the U.K.?
00:09:49.960 The U.K., but I noticed that you were going to go in and pay nine grand a year to be a
00:09:53.660 Well, I had a, I had a sports scholarship here.
00:09:56.320 So it was, it was, you looked like you played netball.
00:09:58.900 Volleyball.
00:09:59.440 Volleyball.
00:09:59.720 But, but in the U.S., in the U.S., I noticed like a similar thing.
00:10:03.780 I was like, these are the therapists of America.