JustPearlyThings - November 13, 2023


Panel TRASH Modern Women for Abusing Men Domestically


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47 minutes

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204.38663

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9,710

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00:00:00.000 it's it's like cool to be a victim i went through it and i think maybe because time has passed like
00:00:07.920 you said you you are now you are now able to vent about what happened but maybe when you're going
00:00:15.920 through that and i'll say as someone who did go through that in two relationships there was no
00:00:21.200 way i could speak about it because to me no one would believe me to me i just had a baby with him
00:00:26.960 and you know you you've given this this guy a son and it made your bed yeah and to society especially
00:00:33.520 to like latin american cultures portuguese okay uh you have to you have to like even though as
00:00:41.120 stupid as it sounds okay you've had a child with someone okay make it look like you're doing well
00:00:46.160 in life so you don't want to come out and say you know what i am being abused i am being mentally
00:00:52.480 being abused i have to say mentally because it wasn't physical with this one right
00:00:55.600 um so what happened the second time can i ask what happened the second time uh the second time
00:01:00.320 was um it became physical but with this one it was both so i have to say that i was also i got i also
00:01:08.960 got physical with him and there was a time that there was a time there was a time my headbutted him
00:01:13.920 so hard in the mouth and he had a bustlet for a whole week did he call the police on you no no he didn't
00:01:19.360 because he would always say i'll never call the police on you because that's not me i'm a man and i'll
00:01:23.600 take it and in my and in my head auntie jenny i was like i'm i'm a piece of because even though he's
00:01:31.200 tall and he's bigger than me i still hit him and i have no right to do that so i am abusing him
00:01:36.400 even though he did that so it was just like you say it was it was it was an absolutely toxic
00:01:40.960 relationship but now when i look back at it i'm like i i don't blame him i don't see him any i don't
00:01:46.880 see him any less because i was just as bad as him like we were just as we were just as bad as each other
00:01:51.920 i respect that you can admit that yeah yeah i think it's definitely a lot of um strength it
00:01:56.880 takes to come and kind of own up to your part in negative experiences i've noticed a lot of people
00:02:02.240 who say these kind of things have this idea that like they're never they never had anything to do
00:02:05.680 with it right i couldn't have solved my own problem for this that this that this that but they can come
00:02:09.920 out and and tell the whole world about it but when you ask them what did you do in the time i know
00:02:14.560 people who are like staunch feminists and they're still dating guys and being abused and telling me about
00:02:18.320 like it's some like oh i'm a victim i was like oh you've been reading all these like margot atwood
00:02:21.920 books for time you still didn't know when you were being punched in the face that you should maybe
00:02:24.960 leave and you can't you can't like you can't just be like i i hold the l you know i stayed in a bad
00:02:30.560 situation too long i should have moved but you rarely get that it's normally everyone else's fault
00:02:35.040 so i respect i respect your admittance thank you accountability is important in a relationship
00:02:40.000 i guess everyone looking at of course it's who does more than the other but accountability is
00:02:44.880 important i guess can't just say right i'm listening to you the young lady in the middle
00:02:53.440 have you had any counseling or anything like that for what you've been through i uh with my first
00:03:00.400 relationship no the whole thing because as far as i'm concerned i'm looking at you and it's still raw
00:03:04.400 i have to say i have to say i am uh i am like a feisty little something um but yes i have i have
00:03:15.040 had counseling and i'm and i'm still having it okay on on my anger and my um and my explosiveness
00:03:21.760 which has calmed down a lot um but do you mean a lot relationship wise or no i'm just glad that you're
00:03:27.600 getting some kind of help i uh a hands up for that i like i like that because you can tell in your face
00:03:32.960 that the way you're talking about it like it happened yesterday and it still has that same effect on you
00:03:38.240 that's why i just thought you look you look traumatized oh wow i didn't see that at all but
00:03:43.920 don't forget i've been abused i've been abused as well and i can see why when she was talking it was like
00:03:48.800 she was reliving it it was like me mine's all gone do you know i mean i just packed that away long time
00:03:53.360 ago got rid of it had counseling and sorted it out but for her to me it was raw i expected her to
00:03:59.040 burst out crying like to relive it all over again that's what i picked up from her that's why i asked
00:04:03.840 and the fact that it's still ongoing that council is still ongoing i got listen i'm not that good
00:04:07.920 in the backs of people's heads so maybe that's it you're right no i i am taking i am still taking
00:04:13.280 counseling like in the relationship i am now it's very healthy though there are some things that that
00:04:18.400 don't go right you know my the partner i have now he's like very smart and he tries to like
00:04:22.960 outsmart me sometimes and i don't want him to outsmart me but i recognize that he is smarter than
00:04:26.560 me so we have like we we clash sometimes um so for that reason i do take counseling but the counseling
00:04:33.360 i have taken before has absolutely helped me control my anger because i would be one that if someone was
00:04:39.040 beeping at me in the car i would come out and punch them i'll be on one whereas now whereas now yeah
00:04:46.880 whereas now i i am not that person like let's say road rage has calmed down but i i can't say that
00:04:54.000 i'm perfect no yes like yes i do take counseling and and i love it yeah and he he he the other day
00:05:00.160 he was like here's here's 80 pounds for your counseling like a colombian lady back home and
00:05:04.480 then he he's like i support that because we are going to do anything that that means for our
00:05:10.240 relationship to be healthy we do we have to invest and put some money down hey ho why not but i'm i'm
00:05:15.920 i'm all for that i'm not going to say okay i took some counseling and i'm fine now no like i'm yeah
00:05:20.560 i have a question so you said like you're the kind of person that something happens you get out of
00:05:24.960 your car and you're ready to get into an altercation right you used to be i literally i did yeah do you
00:05:30.320 think that played any part in like your past relationships because i could imagine at one
00:05:33.920 point that would that would affect of course because even though you're in a relationship it gets to a
00:05:38.080 point where when you're arguing with him you forget he's your boyfriend and the way you're seeing is
00:05:42.720 oh you're squaring up to me so i'm going to square up to you this relationship and laughing goes out
00:05:47.520 the window uh he's trying to prove a point but no this is the point that i think um so so yeah it
00:05:53.840 absolutely it absolutely does go out the window and then all this the way i was brought up like in
00:05:58.480 school i was in a school where i'd like loads of fights went on and and and i was always involved i
00:06:04.000 got bullied in like year seven year eight and then in year nine i was like you know this is not
00:06:07.280 happening and then i became i just like um developed like this shield i'm gonna say and then
00:06:15.200 of course i i reflect that in my relationships but so with the baby dad it was horrible it was like that
00:06:21.280 then with the next partner i had he was he was lovely i'm not gonna say he wasn't but there was
00:06:25.520 physical violence involved from him or both from both from both so in the relationship i am now
00:06:32.720 that doesn't happen and here i am i'm like okay i need therapy and i'm taking it and you know this
00:06:39.920 i'm going to do my absolute best and whatever it takes to make this one work why because i have a
00:06:44.800 man that sees me the same way he knows my past he knows all the madness he even knows i've got a
00:06:50.240 criminal record he knows that and he record yeah and he accepts me and he accepts me for that and he's
00:06:57.040 like you know i'm going to work with you because i believe that that you can be this good person
00:07:01.040 and he knows that that deep down i am and i and i you know i just want the best for both of us so
00:07:06.240 all this all this bs that went on in the past relationships i'm like okay that that that and
00:07:10.880 that that's not happening again you're showing that do you feel like because you're a woman um
00:07:17.120 when it comes to like physical abuse that you get away with it more a hundred percent a hundred percent
00:07:22.800 and we should we should test men respect 100 we do that because i'm i'm i consider myself a very
00:07:30.080 feminine woman so if i have a guy that gets into a relationship with me i need to know you are that
00:07:37.760 man that's gonna like hold me down because we do need that we do need that um assurance yeah we we do
00:07:44.480 need that i'm gonna hold you down uh you're too feisty let me hold you down girl because you ain't going
00:07:49.040 no way you know every now and then i'm going to tell you what's what and we like that but when we
00:07:52.880 get a guy that doesn't do that let me test you and if one once twice three times and then we just take
00:08:00.240 you guys i'm not going to say for granted but we we we about with you you know i think i i like i like
00:08:08.240 what you're saying because i think it shows that like you you're aware of being a flawed person and
00:08:13.760 it's a it's a it's a it's a way of speaking i i almost never hear i'm generally shocked you say
00:08:17.760 a fraud person yeah like like you're you're a flawed like you're you know you're cool with saying
00:08:22.720 listen i can be very physically kind of domineering i can be aggressive have you noticed when you hear
00:08:27.920 people talk about these kind of women talk about these kind they never say anything that you know
00:08:31.920 anything is on their part then the idea is that they're perfect human beings no no no not you but
00:08:38.640 i'm saying like in general it's always that the man's the bad guy they're the victim can i can i
00:08:42.560 just ask a question with all your experiences has it made you fear men has it made me fear men
00:08:50.880 yeah do you fear men no okay she's aggressive b i don't i don't fear men you know you gave me a
00:08:59.760 different type of confidence and it's the thing where i know that if i know that if i'm going to
00:09:04.960 fight a man he will he will me up but i'm still gonna give you my all you know yeah but i know
00:09:14.320 that biologically i can't take on a man if i was to go and fight my boyfriend he'll pin me down and box
00:09:19.840 me and knock me out but i and i kind of thankful for that because i now i don't like i don't see
00:09:28.240 myself being like like a little squirrel and scared to speak no i don't see myself doing that so
00:09:33.440 in a way it's good but sometimes i go overboard and then i just take it too far and then you know
00:09:37.840 like all these problems i've had in the past okay that is good can i just say something i also don't
00:09:44.960 fear men because of my situation because i feel like when you when you've already gone through so
00:09:49.600 much like crazy stuff you look at it now and you've gone over it you're now it's normal it's nothing
00:09:55.120 so like i said i wouldn't girls you don't need to fear men obviously they are physically more
00:10:01.600 they're stronger than you but what i always say is if someone if a man was coming coming to hit me
00:10:05.840 i wouldn't even hit him back to show him like i want to hit you back if he hits me i'll just use
00:10:10.080 my my fluidity to fall a little bit more and find ways to squirrel my way out of it you just don't
00:10:15.600 be afraid just be smart i fear women more than i fear men me too i i i think women are much scarier
00:10:22.320 yeah man absolutely that's why why are you looking at me like i'm crazy no you're not crazy i do i
00:10:28.000 do i do i do street interviews all the time i've only been i'm like attacked or like had someone
00:10:33.280 try to attack me and it's always been a woman oh wow yeah like i had a girl they were like holding
00:10:38.400 her back she was trying to she was trying to throw a punch at me and like they were holding her back
00:10:42.880 so she wouldn't yeah she knocked the mic on my out of my hand what did you say to her
00:10:47.840 did you report her no they took it down off of youtube somehow she got it taken down but it's
00:10:52.640 on jesse praise's channel what did you tell her did you report it sorry that you experienced that
00:10:57.920 but what did you do well well so well she is so okay okay this is what happened i was i was doing
00:11:05.040 street interviews and basically like what what set her off was we were talking about how you're not
00:11:11.200 entitled to safety and i feel like as women like it it's not smart to walk they always use the example
00:11:18.560 like well i can't walk home alone at night and i'm like well neither can men like why are you walking
00:11:23.280 home alone at night that sounds like a stupid idea down a dark alley like why on earth like would you do
00:11:31.440 that like i wouldn't do it as a dude either and so i just said like why are you entitled to security
00:11:38.160 and safety like no one's ever had security and safety in all of history ever but you deserve it
00:11:43.680 why and it'd be nice it would be it'd be a perk but like you want to live in a big city that you chose
00:11:51.600 to anyway so this is why she got mad and so then she's like you effing slag and i didn't know what
00:11:57.280 slag meant oh i didn't know what that meant but i knew i was being insulted i was like this is british
00:12:02.400 she's like you're a slag i'll have you you slag and like yeah and then she like knocks the mic out
00:12:09.120 of my hand she's coming at me my friend jesse's like pulling her away so because i brought a guy so
00:12:13.840 like you know it's smart yeah and um yeah i did you know i called her a whale but like what i said was a
00:12:21.040 fact she was a well though okay yeah i mean like she was she was a heavyweight mind you though she was
00:12:27.600 she was drunk as well she was integrated out late at night and drunk yeah but i'm like
00:12:34.160 then that's that's where the whales started yeah imagine though boys fighting a lot as well girl
00:12:38.400 on girl boy on boy i feel like the people feel like it's okay because it's same same gender so it's
00:12:43.920 not as bad yeah that's why sport is divided in sexes yeah i don't think that's it's not good for
00:12:50.480 anybody but why like okay if you went up to dwayne the rock johnson and you started something with him
00:12:55.840 and you got hit back no one would really feel bad for you yeah why do we feel bad for women if you
00:13:01.120 hit him and you start something and you get hit back you started it yeah whoever started it you
00:13:05.840 started it that's your blame absolutely yeah i mean you never get first you're never meant to eat
00:13:11.040 first my mom taught me that in school never hit first but if they hit you hit double yes but never
00:13:19.280 never hit first i'm always for the policy of equality so uh if a woman hits me then you've
00:13:26.240 just signed a consent form to be hit back that's how my son was raised yeah i have i have no kind of i
00:13:34.160 don't believe equality in that i'm i'm curious from the men from your experience do you think men are
00:13:39.600 abused more or women are abused more just from personal experience not social media not like
00:13:45.440 just from people you know personally that you would believe and trust in my opinion um i think it's
00:13:51.760 50 50 you know i'm saying i can't just say yeah women abuse more than ladies there's a lot of men
00:13:57.520 out there don't um say nothing so i say 50 50 you know i'm saying uh i would say well let's put it this
00:14:04.000 way i know about three or four men who've been you know supposedly being abused and some one one or two
00:14:09.920 of them was really really bad and i've known a couple of i've known like one of the girls i've
00:14:14.560 seen like six months ago was really badly abused like was anorexic because of it xyz um personally i i
00:14:21.600 view it more as like a character like you have to be a certain kind of person it's always it's always
00:14:26.320 people who just like have have like let they get into relationships too young they build their
00:14:33.520 personality by being codependent on someone else it's always those kind of the guys who get abused
00:14:38.000 are very like low-key emotional dudes because they'll be telling us somebody like bro you're like six
00:14:43.680 two bro like what you like why can't like you know and he's like no i've got some deep feeling so
00:14:47.840 it's a certain kind of person in my experience i haven't thought about it in terms of like gender
00:14:52.160 i think don't you think it's like oh i'm sorry i'm gonna say i'm gonna say you know like you know
00:14:58.160 like with the mandem just because they're mandem it doesn't mean they they don't go into a relationship
00:15:04.320 and they fall in love and you know all this happens but i think it's so hard to say who's who's more
00:15:10.560 because the men don't speak up like we're like we're speaking here that's the annoying part as well
00:15:14.800 you know the men don't speak up because they don't want that sometimes they're even afraid to say okay
00:15:18.640 babe i love you bye they're afraid to say i love you but to their girlfriends so imagine speaking
00:15:24.160 about oh she she she hits me at home she scratches my face she tears up my clothes or you know something
00:15:30.640 but you know what it is you know something right it all depends because if a man slapped a woman
00:15:39.280 straight away that's abuse right but how many women out there and they're slapping the men regularly but
00:15:48.720 nobody's seen it as abuse but if it was the other way around because i'm sure that somewhere
00:15:54.800 everybody knows someone who like a woman say oh you know i slapped him in his face he was
00:15:59.440 falling i slapped him in his face or i whacked him around the head or it's always something just like
00:16:04.320 it's nothing when it comes to men but if but only because maybe because she's a woman and it's weak so
00:16:09.840 the way it sounds like oh i just slapped him but if it was a man now saying oh i just slapped her
00:16:16.000 because he's a man and everyone's thinking about the force behind it and i and i believe that when
00:16:22.720 it comes to abuse there's more men out there being abused but because they might say oh it's a slap
00:16:28.640 or she's on her period or you know i mean oh she's got trauma they don't they don't ever report it
00:16:34.000 because they just seen it as a slap i think if a man just gives a woman a slap now
00:16:41.600 because of the slap on the sides of his hand i don't know because of the strength
00:16:45.200 everybody's gonna see as some major abuse i think i think men don't my honest opinions i think from
00:16:50.640 my experience people i've seen in this situation men don't report it because and you can hate me if
00:16:55.840 you want for saying this they know it's weak in it like like you you fully know that this is pathetic
00:17:01.200 in it like you're literally getting abused by some by some five foot two latino thing and and you you
00:17:07.600 caught feelings you caught feelings so deep that you can't leave and now you're really hurt and in six
00:17:12.080 months you're going to be posting edgy facebook posts about you know love and whatever listen they
00:17:16.000 know it's weak and that's why they don't really come up which is why i say i think it's a character
00:17:20.320 thing the donnies i know who have this experience they're always like the west like it's like you
00:17:25.280 can see it i've had guys say to me like um oh you know i'm in an abusive relationship but i can't
00:17:30.960 leave i just like i can't override my emotions my dad's the same you know sometimes with the women
00:17:36.560 in our families in our genes like they just push it too far but you know the men in our family just
00:17:41.200 like we just can't leave we just fall really deeply in love with xyz and i looked at him i felt really
00:17:45.600 sorry for him because he was he was a good looking guy he was from like yorkshire somewhere like that
00:17:49.120 some village and you know i kind of got it but it's a character in it and these there are people
00:17:54.400 who haven't learned emotional resilience the people who haven't learned independence and they just they
00:17:58.800 just give up any any kind of semblance of self-respect you know and decide that i'm not even gonna fight
00:18:04.560 that but i'll just follow my feelings you see me it's everywhere around it's not the it's not weak
00:18:08.480 men it's a strong man that the women are like you know i want to slap in the men like you know what if i
00:18:13.920 if i slap her back i want to knock her the hell out so i'm just gonna walk away from you
00:18:17.920 do you know what i mean and i don't see any to me it's never it's never been a a weak man
00:18:23.120 it's always been a strong a strong man that does what and that got slapped like if the woman's
00:18:28.160 having to argue and the man goes like i'm not meant to look at the woman and say do you know what
00:18:31.360 it depends on what if i if i slap you back now i'm gonna put myself in prison and i'm gonna put
00:18:37.840 you in hospitals you know i'm gonna do i'm gonna go for a walk and i know men that do that i also know a
00:18:43.440 man who the woman slapped him so he slapped her back and he spent the night in the police station
00:18:51.280 yeah it depends on what you mean by strong i've noticed it's mostly the kind of women who do that
00:18:56.720 tend to target a certain kind of guy like they can they can tell who the wet guy is going to catch
00:19:01.840 feelings hard it's going to be in it because there's a certain mandem like it never happens to people
00:19:06.080 like me it's not even close because it's not even like something that even passes but there's it's the
00:19:11.440 that's why i said the guys who deal with this they always and they deal with it multiple times
00:19:15.200 it's always like you go from this serious relationship and then this other girls now
00:19:18.080 really mean oh that's different that's different that's different that's the same i agree it's always
00:19:22.960 repeat though like it's never just like one girl and then that was it if it's repeated well he's
00:19:27.360 got issues and i would say the same thing if it was a woman and it got repeated do you guys think
00:19:32.560 um that if a man um is being abused and ends up committing suicide over it do you think that the
00:19:38.720 woman is responsible and should be held responsible in court 100 percent only if it's only if he
00:19:44.880 reported it exactly because now is now how do you hold the woman accountable for that that's just the
00:19:50.800 issue unless if he dies before he reported it like say like she slapped him or she was she was hurting
00:19:58.160 him and then she stabbed him and went for her artery so it's obvious that she killed him that way
00:20:03.120 well yeah sue her but if it was something like she kept on abusing him and then he killed himself
00:20:09.120 but he never reported it i would say the same thing for a woman it's sad but if you reported it if you
00:20:14.080 didn't report it it's just gonna go down as you commit suicide no but it's easier for society to go
00:20:18.800 investigate the man than the woman yeah that's what that's what i'm saying so let's take do you guys
00:20:24.640 remember when that only fans model killed her boyfriend yes remember from florida the one in the
00:20:29.920 elevator that he was beating him yeah the nigerian guy yeah hey blessing can you google um can't the
00:20:36.240 only fans model florida google um elevator footage and see if you can find it i want to show you
00:20:42.320 guys that is what auntie's talking about no i don't know anything about okay what you said just now
00:20:47.920 you will see it in the video so i'll tell you basically um there was a guy that was dating um he's a very
00:20:53.600 good-looking rich um nigerian guy i think he's nigerian yes um dating an only fans model she was
00:20:59.840 blonde she's very pretty um and basically it came out that like the couple was arguing a lot
00:21:07.200 and in the building like there were times when he had been sleeping in the hallway and he he turned
00:21:11.760 up dead basically she called the cops and he'd been stabbed i want to say yeah and um she actually
00:21:18.720 didn't even get arrested for it even though there were multiple people that said that she had been
00:21:24.400 abusing him and she actually was out partying like a day later she was seen at a bar she's been out of
00:21:29.520 jail for months i think they're pressing charges now and i think she's in jail now but she she was
00:21:36.080 literally out and about for months that's different because there's the family says isn't there no the
00:21:40.640 the police i want to say so i'd expect something if there's witnesses that are willing to stand up and
00:21:45.600 say yeah this happened then yeah they should do well yeah so let me put it on the yeah put it on the
00:21:50.320 screen and he was nigerian he was nigerian and she was hitting him and he's that sense of entitlement
00:21:59.120 i don't know so you're telling me this brother had money the washed out one i don't know he's a big
00:22:03.520 guy he's got he's got a big beard but then this is where we black women now cannot feel for you
00:22:08.080 because we say look at what you can't pick do you understand like unfortunately i'm so sorry because
00:22:13.520 then you don't they don't if they don't value you you know what right strong women get abused weak
00:22:17.360 women get abused and just goes to show strong men get abused and because and but the way you sounded
00:22:24.480 just now if i was a man and i heard the way you said that was a big tall nigerian man getting
00:22:29.840 abused i won't say nothing because the way that you said about him being abused it was all right until
00:22:35.040 you found out he was nigerian he had money and he was six foot whatever tall and then all of a sudden
00:22:40.240 you changed yeah but if i said but if i said if he was five foot tall right a regular nine to five
00:22:47.840 man would you have that same impression now you would have said he was weak but he's nigerian and
00:22:52.320 they're not supposed to do this extra week i also think that if if she wasn't i'm sorry i think if
00:22:58.080 she wasn't caucasian she he wouldn't have taken it exactly yeah because in america if now she reports
00:23:06.960 him yeah he is screwed that has to be an element and i i understood from sources that he also tried
00:23:14.800 to leave her he wouldn't she wouldn't let him leave her so probably that's how it what do you mean
00:23:20.080 how can she stop him from leaving her because because watch the video and i will tell you i've never heard of this
00:23:42.560 wow he doesn't want to hurt her
00:23:51.040 he doesn't
00:23:57.760 oh that's upsetting oh you should have given her one slap to reset her brain
00:24:03.280 literally that's the only time but he's probably restating his boundaries right now
00:24:10.560 what does she kill him in any does she kill him in any video no she kills him in the house
00:24:14.640 but this is like evidence surely they should have arrested her after seeing the evidence
00:24:18.800 this is actually let me google it that evidence came out listen honey oh i i get triggered by being
00:24:24.240 punched like that's my boundary can you please respect my boundary no how about oh sorry oh no no i
00:24:30.560 said i understand but this is where now circumstantial factors come come in you understand he's a nigerian
00:24:36.640 guy he's in america black lives matter why she's he's dating a caucasian woman he he knows that if he
00:24:42.960 hits her back he's gonna get down for it you understand that is where now the old circumstantial
00:24:48.320 uh things happen but she's the one abusing him and she's been abusing him because because she thought
00:24:54.480 she was like you cannot hit me you understand that's what she's going with she's like you cannot
00:24:59.760 hit me you can do nothing to me and i'll even call police on top of you on top of that you understand
00:25:05.200 that's what she's thinking there when i saw that all i was thinking is to all the men out there that
00:25:09.920 being beat by women if there's a camera knock her to hell out because i effie knew that there was a
00:25:16.000 camera there and after all that resisting one bit slapping she would have been down and as far as i'm
00:25:21.120 concerned it's all on camera so i can understand now why people would do things in front of cameras
00:25:27.920 why they want cameras up to protect themselves because as far as i'm concerned if you're getting
00:25:32.000 abused and you're worried about how it's gonna see because there's enough cameras i know it's america in
00:25:36.640 the uk everywhere you go you're covered by a camera you can't go nowhere without covering so as far as i'm
00:25:41.760 concerned if somebody slaps you and it's on the camera slap her back but make sure you give it hard so
00:25:45.920 when you slap her break her neck or drop her on the floor you know i i would say this goes back
00:26:03.600 to the equity not equality like i said i would say the same way that goes for guns and it goes for a
00:26:09.200 man if that is happening what you do you get up and you leave as a man you're strong enough to either
00:26:14.640 restrain her or to run away from her because you're a lot faster knock that out knock that
00:26:19.280 bitch out just say like this when it's done you run knock that i swear to god if my brother was being
00:26:26.240 hit like that from a bit i swear to god knock that out i swear to jesus the moment she lifts her hand
00:26:31.680 and hits you just run or just constraint you can hold the hands like this and be like
00:26:35.040 if it's on camera if it's on camera that is hitting my brother like that no knock her out
00:26:40.640 no i would name the punch i have no sympathy i don't care if you have to reconstruct your whole
00:26:45.200 goddamn face i don't you shouldn't hit you shouldn't hit first you're not a child you're a grown woman
00:26:51.760 if you were a grown it's one it's one because one hit from a man can knock her on she'll die no but
00:26:56.480 why does he have to be considered for her after she's earned it and i'm an equal opportunity fighter
00:27:01.760 no no and this is what i said equity like a man this is let's not forget the fact that a man is
00:27:06.640 way way physically stronger than a woman that's why we weren't supposed to wait wait wait wait listen
00:27:13.520 i get that i get that but this is what i'm just about to say if that is the case i think it's
00:27:17.840 incredibly extremely irresponsible to tell somebody to do something like hit her back that's just as
00:27:22.880 hard because hey hey hey i did not say hit her back i said knock that out let me tell you you know
00:27:31.040 like do you know don't put the wrong words in her mouth listen listen i'll tell you an example i'll
00:27:34.400 tell you an example she knows what she said no no i'll give you an example yeah um this has happened
00:27:41.760 to a like couple of guys that i know where they get into a fight and then they knock the guy this is
00:27:48.560 knocking a guy out that's already been in fight so he's more conditioned for these things he knocks
00:27:52.080 him out and actually he gave him a brain hemorrhage and he died the guy that he punched now i'm going to
00:27:57.360 tell you if you're telling somebody to knock her out somebody that's already not even conditioned
00:28:01.920 to fight she's only fighting you because she feels like she can't because you're supposed to handle
00:28:06.480 listen do not knock people out what you do it's not it's not you don't it doesn't make that first
00:28:13.440 what if that first punch knocked me out what if that first punch give me a concussion which one
00:28:17.920 if she was the man i'm the man i'm the i'm the woman the one man okay loose you're the man i now hit
00:28:23.200 you because i you can't hit me bam what if that first hit give you a concussion give a concussion
00:28:28.720 cool so why does he only have to count for me because oh if he knicks me back no bro you hit
00:28:34.400 so what you wanted to land only because you didn't land that as hard enough that's your business you
00:28:39.360 wanted to land it you didn't land well you landed it so for me who hit first don't hit first be
00:28:44.240 expected to hit back because it's instinct when someone comes for you what do you say i'll come for
00:28:49.200 you back i'll come for you back everybody does that you're gonna go from the back see nigerians
00:28:53.120 understand this intrinsically in it so don't go and beat anybody you cannot be if you cannot fight
00:28:58.640 them don't fight in the first place you don't have to knock her out you know your size don't go
00:29:06.080 why do we always take away the consequence for women like why do we like because this is what
00:29:10.960 you're doing you're saying the normal consequence if you if girl girl boy boy is if you hit someone
00:29:18.320 even if they're stronger than you you will get hit back you will probably be knocked out but when
00:29:23.200 it's boy girl for some reason we get a pass why it's the same way that you wouldn't put a woman and
00:29:28.560 a man in a boxing ring sports are segregated okay but if the woman signed up if the woman said put me
00:29:36.240 in this boxing ring i would let her go if she said if she said i am signing up volunteering to go box
00:29:42.560 let the bitch go right if she's playing boxing with the dude you get hit back i'll give you i'll give
00:29:48.480 you another example because what we saw no more examples let me tell you what you saw was shocking
00:29:55.200 if you want you can go and search for a lot of these like nfl players and baseball players and a
00:29:59.360 lot of these men that have abused their women left right and center and see what abuse from a man looks
00:30:03.360 like versus abuse from a woman strength levels are totally different that's why it's not great to say that
00:30:08.560 no stop it my love what what about those couples that the woman is bigger than the man well what
00:30:13.920 about those couples where the woman is bigger than the man the man likes big women it's fine
00:30:19.200 she likes them small it's fine yeah strong thank you and she feels that she can drag him like he's
00:30:24.240 one of her kids and i say the same thing that i said boys if you're stronger restrainer and then walk
00:30:29.760 away girls or boys if you're not stronger bloody protect yourself and run from the situation
00:30:35.200 as much as possible i'm not gonna lie we need to write we need to write a protocol for this we
00:30:39.040 need to write knock that bitch out knock that bitch out don't do it because the universe will get you
00:30:45.680 back let's just say oh when the woman was hitting the man you didn't say oh we why is it that if he
00:30:54.800 has to hit her back he has to restrain her why can't she restrain herself why is it the man why is
00:31:02.000 why is he gotta take her slap but she can't take his slap i don't care whether the slap is bigger
00:31:08.960 no that's what i'm saying listen right i had when my son was growing up in the neighborhood everybody
00:31:14.720 would raise their children do not hit girls there was a particular girl that used to go around
00:31:22.480 and play on the boys friends with them she would always hit them and i remember coming home one day
00:31:27.600 and there was a big crowd outside where i lived and i said what's going on and i could see everybody
00:31:33.280 rushing out oh it's your son it's your son it's just something he's fighting a girl and i thought
00:31:36.960 my son fighting a girl run downstairs like a mad woman run downstairs i was like hang on a minute
00:31:41.440 started pulling off people off my son pulling them off i said who hit who first they said she hit him
00:31:47.280 i said anybody touch my son i'm gonna break your arms i said i because oh but auntie jen he's hitting
00:31:55.040 a girl i said you already told me that she hit him first listen right i said son go get her chase her
00:32:04.560 all in somebody's house and the mother the woman in the house said oh but jennifer she's a girl i said
00:32:08.800 ready did she hit your son no move yourself she hit my son my son turned around and the slap that she
00:32:14.960 gave him he gave her one my son does kickboxing i didn't give a one slap to five of hers and you
00:32:22.000 know something when the boys come and say but aunt jen aunt jen and when i educated him do you know
00:32:27.440 what next time i saw that girl she had some um she had plaster on her foot she messed with the wrong
00:32:34.080 boys and the boys from then on she never ever hit another boy again you know why because she learned
00:32:39.920 then that it changed now you hit somebody they're gonna hit you back because after that she tried
00:32:49.200 taking me on she hit me she's just a man she hit me you know something right police came for me right
00:32:59.920 police came for me no i didn't hit her tell a lie because she was bigger than me she had my hands and
00:33:04.880 i headbutted her and she dropped that's why she felt she said to me um and what happened i said well
00:33:10.080 think about it why didn't i slap her because she's bigger than look at the size of her to me and i
00:33:14.320 headbutted i know what happened her mom turned around and said whatever archie jenny danced to my
00:33:19.280 daughter i agree with her i stand by her because her mom knew her mom knew where do you live and the
00:33:26.400 police took her where were these kids that are bigger than you this was in this was in east ham i knew him
00:33:32.880 i don't believe i think you live in harlem and you're pretending they know me as auntie jenny there
00:33:38.880 and i can back up anything i'll say anything i'll say because everybody knows beverly can you can you
00:33:43.600 bring that girl back on a show if you're out there beverly if you're out there beverly let me know
00:33:50.720 i'm going to take a second to read super chats um again don't shoot the messengers
00:33:55.360 okay guys um thank you so much for the super chats as you know we're trying to save for an 8k camera
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00:34:08.480 really helps us with the studio updates um on top of that guys make sure you like the video um there's
00:34:13.760 over 2 500 of you in here watching live so let's get to at least a thousand likes i really think we
00:34:20.800 should get to 2 000 a like is free you don't have to donate anything to just like the video it is
00:34:25.680 the number one metric that youtube uses to push out these streams um for the purpose of today just
00:34:31.520 because there are a lot of super chats we are going to stay ten dollars or more um sorry we just we
00:34:37.680 can't get through all of them the super chats just start to get really long so we're going to do ten
00:34:41.920 dollars or more okay john the baptist stay in your lane as a woman john the baptist the lady in the
00:34:49.360 blue doesn't want her man to hit her back stay in your lane in if you place as a woman um pearl
00:34:56.000 10 seconds after i tried to send you um one star star i got a call on my cell learn um the best way
00:35:05.520 to deal with hypocrites is with the best way to deal with hypocrites within the gender is for the
00:35:10.800 majority to openly call them out our sons and daughters will inherit their view the views we leave them
00:35:15.440 um the arm star the armstrong phil m clan 150 super chat girl girl um i'm sending this in hopes of
00:35:27.840 seeing a video of the dietitian introducing pearl to different foods we're gonna have to do a special
00:35:34.000 addition i'm gonna try it what is it called okra okra soup okra soup i'm ready
00:35:39.600 i'm ready um girl in this in the striped blue girl in the look at the girl in the striped black she is
00:35:49.520 an example of maturity responsibility and being self-aware of her actions and making the necessary
00:35:54.880 changes to her character pijero amardustic there's a huge difference between a woman who challenges a
00:36:01.440 man versus a woman who encourages a man it's both feminine energy see sir dak the abusers of my
00:36:07.680 daughters had a prior record just saying um it's not the man's job to hold a grown women accountable
00:36:13.600 your parents should have made you accountable stop asking men to hold you down um drew beats the moment
00:36:20.240 a woman realizes you're not the type of men to abuse her that same woman will start emotionally
00:36:25.280 abusing the man men get emotionally abused on a huge scale equal to woman's physical abuse john
00:36:31.680 the baptist i am a victim my ears have been graped with excuse and people who refuse to be accountable
00:36:37.840 for poor behavior another a hundred dollar super chat um worst counselor to a girl ever modern women
00:36:45.760 i paid over fifty thousand dollars to get my oldest a male therapist years in court she's been with
00:36:51.040 him for two years she loves his guidance um john green i want to say that i love auntie and protect
00:36:57.440 pearl at all costs need more women like both of y'all see sir doc the next um lesbian born manufactured
00:37:03.760 since birth kenny stacks he should have spent that fake chain money on braces jason argon that's like my
00:37:11.200 car needing to be fixed but i go online and tell everyone my car is broken and i still don't want to fix it
00:37:16.800 why would i go online i'll just fix it i'm numbers guy zero if we were neighbors and my flat was robbed
00:37:22.720 the night after yours was robbed and i found out you didn't call the cops you're a low quality human
00:37:27.600 period t interesting how everyone wants to go to heaven but nobody wants to die every choice you
00:37:33.440 make has consequences understand it reflect it adapt it love to this channel um see surdact pearl is the
00:37:40.000 effin joan of arc for the 21st century i will show you your work to my three daughters keep fighting
00:37:46.000 joan you see it um uh see surdact again pearl
00:37:53.200 a aga um i don't know what you're trying to spell here pearl a a-o-g um then you put an at sign is
00:38:02.640 stealing from you you're close pua um mr freeze didn't the girl in the blue just talk about respecting
00:38:09.040 elders she keeps cutting off auntie lives in a non-existent world oj didn't do it get him auntie
00:38:15.120 doug mpa the blue power ranger is going to make the whole show about her just like last time pearl
00:38:19.920 please don't let her hold the whole whole show hostage again our pain there is no such thing as
00:38:25.600 toxic maxi masculinity there are toxic people men and women it's a character issue i wrote a piece
00:38:30.960 on it pearl i would love for you to read it men get emotional emotional and physical abused all the time
00:38:37.360 and men will never say anything because most of the time other people will never believe us or tell
00:38:41.920 us to put up with it um numbers guy the idea that women were ever at the bottom of society is complete
00:38:48.960 bs children have always been at the bottom of society until the government inverted then men took
00:38:54.240 the baton even in eastern cultures and then that's all of the super chat so guys make sure you like the
00:39:00.560 video i want to see how many likes we're at 958 likes okay we we got to get to a thousand likes
00:39:05.840 like this is a like is free i am so tired of y'all i see the analytics and it's over half of you that
00:39:12.480 watch you're not even subscribed and you know i can get over and not subscribe but you should at least
00:39:17.360 hit the like button it takes you two seconds just hit it hit it right now okay um so my next video i'm
00:39:26.720 going to have us react to is um another narrative that i see common commonly in society um and this
00:39:36.720 was by a conservative pundit and political commentator who does do any of you guys know who tommy lauren is
00:39:45.680 shut up you don't know tommy lauren the woman the the fox the blonde garden yeah the blonde
00:39:50.560 she's a blonde um lady who works for fox news um so recently she has had a new narrative about men
00:39:59.520 and it's interesting because girls seem to switch um to really like how do i put it they they view
00:40:07.840 men in a positive light until the age of about 30 when their standards get higher
00:40:14.720 um and so let's just let's just play the clip blessing
00:40:20.560 you know because i was on your podcast talking about my little psa to men where people say i was
00:40:33.200 trashing men there's a big difference andrew tate actually trashes women i don't trash men
00:40:38.080 i trash men that i think are soft that i think are pathetic that i think are little boys and i think
00:40:44.480 that there is an epidemic i will call it a pandemic the real pandemic is soft men in this country and i know
00:40:50.320 that you agree with me in a lot of ways but i'll tell you this there are so many women out there
00:40:53.920 who are successful who can't find anybody out there because successful men want the 25 year olds who
00:40:59.920 just want to be on instagram and post their purses and their yachts and this and that so i think we
00:41:05.200 have a scarcity of real men and i don't know how we change that we start spanking kids again we start
00:41:13.040 holding people accountable we start letting people lose we start like taking away the first place trophies
00:41:19.440 from everybody on the team you know we go back to the old traditional values where you know you you
00:41:26.080 raised a man i don't even know if that would solve it though at this point it would if everyone did it
00:41:31.120 society has gotten so entitled and everybody is such a victim and all you know it's when they say the
00:41:37.520 meek will inherit the earth the meek are inheriting the earth but not in the way that it's biblical in
00:41:43.120 the way that we we'd like to see it it's not the underdog rising up okay so my question is
00:41:51.920 do you think that men are weaker in 2022 100 yes in what way though i think there's something still
00:42:01.360 playing blessing okay from from what i think i'm going to compare the men i see now to what my dad was
00:42:12.880 now my dad took it overboard he was he was over like masculine over misogynist if that's the word um
00:42:23.200 whereas now i'll talk about the physical side but this is not the important side i'm just saying
00:42:29.040 like now i'm a dancer i've been a dancer for a few years now i see dancers putting on uh like makeup
00:42:41.440 and just none of it nothing wrong with that absolutely nothing wrong with that but
00:42:45.520 it's it's a feminine trait right so it it also comes into like the personality side
00:42:52.080 where the men i see now are not as tough as probably my dad was he was he was he was proper like
00:43:01.040 i run the house i don't cook the woman cooks um this is my role this is the woman's role whereas
00:43:07.440 now it's all it's all very mixed um so i'm just curious why is that misogynist you said misogynistic
00:43:17.040 what why is what like your dad like why why do you use that word uh because he was he was he was um
00:43:23.840 he never cooked a meal in his house not when he was with my mom or with my stepmom
00:43:29.520 he would say that certain things are for her to do and not for him to do anything that was to do
00:43:34.400 with like the cars and fixing or diy he would do it that's not misogynist that sounds perfect
00:43:39.360 that sounds perfect yeah like if i could if i just gotta cook he's fixing everything yeah he
00:43:46.400 would do all like the hard labor stuff whereas she would do like all the and that sounds good for
00:43:51.840 women and i would think that is where exactly i think men are not many more they don't do they
00:43:56.400 don't do that they don't do that anymore yeah they'll look at me and tell me what do you bring to the
00:44:00.080 table ask them do you can you fix anything like do you know how to fix anything can you fix the toilet
00:44:04.640 can you fix the car can you change your tire do you know how to do that most men don't know how to do
00:44:08.000 that i i like some men some men i like those chains i like those i want i like sticking to
00:44:13.200 part of it and i feel like you can still be a feminist and have no you can still be a feminist
00:44:18.240 and have traditional roles yeah but have a home yeah but the problem is like you guys aren't young
00:44:22.480 virgins so you're that's like demanding traditional outcomes when you're not traditional women
00:44:29.840 like if you're a traditional woman you'd be a young virgin like i don't understand yeah yeah like like
00:44:36.400 okay so you're you're describing things you're saying to the men like you're not traditional
00:44:41.680 men and i i agree but we're not traditional women we're not 22 you're 21 year old virgins they value
00:44:49.200 purity in youth the average age of first marriage in the uk is 31 that that's not pure or youthful how
00:44:54.560 many bodies you got by 31. oh okay loads yeah that's what i mean if you look at your mom and dad
00:45:00.080 if you look at your mom and dad if you look at your mom and dad yeah no 100 it won't be like that but
00:45:03.840 if you look at your mom and dad how many partners did they have before they just got together i don't
00:45:07.440 think we're not exactly but i just think i don't think that and we're over we're overweight too that's
00:45:13.280 other thing yeah i don't think men are getting weak i don't think men are getting weaker i just think that
00:45:18.560 society wants them what society wants us to believe it and because nowadays everything's
00:45:26.640 too instant like you were saying about oh men fix the car men do this men do that nowadays your car
00:45:33.600 breaks down they make a phone call it gets fixed yeah i mean we as women we can we can do that you
00:45:39.040 know there are some women like i can fix my car i can i can put a light bulb up i can i can put a table
00:45:44.160 from ikea i've got a certificate in car maintenance though but i'm not doing it i do the pink jobs and
00:45:48.720 he does but do you know what i say i i still like obviously we are not going to be virgins at this
00:45:52.720 age of course not yeah but um i i do like the fact that my partner when something breaks in the house
00:45:59.040 i love seeing him take take out his tools and doing that yeah and then oh baby let me make your
00:46:03.520 sandwich while you do that i like that i still like that obviously it's not going to be i'm not i'm not
00:46:08.880 the 30 year old virgin hell no no and and i i agree with you like i think it's attractive but it's
00:46:15.120 just like we're asking for traditional outcomes but we're not traditional women oh no not at all
00:46:20.080 we're not no also i'd like to point out like the fact that i think paul pointed out as well that you
00:46:24.880 used the word misogyny which is a negative word and i think what you explained was your dad just
00:46:29.040 having roles in the house and relationship and i think i think that's a pertinent thing to notice that
00:46:34.320 that that misogyny is like a disdain for women yeah don't forget there's one of those
00:46:39.520 keywords the one they've been those new words that they use i'm writing them down i've been
00:46:43.600 writing them down i don't know if you want something in a minute all this all these words
00:46:47.120 keep on coming out and everybody's using it yeah say something yeah oh is it i want to
00:46:51.600 front cataract is it a cataract or whatever it is they're going to front you off i heard no i
00:46:55.520 agree i agree when you say the word misogyny is not it's not good but the reason why i say it is
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