JustPearlyThings - November 12, 2023


Deluded Modern Contradicts Herself


Episode Stats


Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

209.20299

Word count

2,008

Sentence count

2

Harmful content

Misogyny

22

sentences flagged

Toxicity

5

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Hate speech

6

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Summary

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In this episode, we talk about the perils of social media and the impact it can have on a marriage. We also discuss the difference between being a wife and being a mother and how women sexualize themselves and sexualize their husbands.

Transcript

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Hate speech classifications generated with facebook/roberta-hate-speech-dynabench-r4-target .
00:00:00.000 i have a question for you do would it be wrong for your husband to like that picture hell yeah
00:00:11.680 so would it be wrong for another woman's has another woman's husband to like that picture
00:00:15.280 with you then because you're just doing it for yourself to show your figure so i mean that's a
00:00:19.760 no i've completely just contradicted myself like completely i don't see a problem with
00:00:24.000 her posting that but at the same time of course not there's boundaries you can still look at a
00:00:28.000 picture you don't have to press like you don't have to message her you don't have to post it
00:00:33.040 you don't no you don't you don't have to like to follow her like like see what you like follow what
00:00:38.720 you don't if you don't want to see that don't follow it exactly if you don't like it so yun
00:00:42.640 so if you post so if you post that and then other men like you're married and you post that other
00:00:47.040 men like it and your husband's like hey take it down or like other men liking a photo you're like
00:00:50.160 sorry no it's for me i do it for myself are you gonna tell that to your husband no no if i'm
00:00:55.520 i'm going to be honest i would probably go do you know what i respect that because if you did that
00:00:58.740 and i wanted you to take it down i would expect you to take it down i would but you see this is
00:01:04.000 the problem i have with this logic because it's like do you have to wait for someone to tell you
00:01:09.280 they don't like something for you to know that something's inappropriate within the bounds of
00:01:13.360 a relationship sometimes yeah because yeah sometimes we have to but shouldn't there be
00:01:18.000 shouldn't there be and this is why we say not when she's a wife right because early in the 0.99
00:01:21.900 relationships women will intentionally test the man's boundaries yeah but i'm talking about a 1.00
00:01:26.600 husband and a wife if you've gotten to that stage shouldn't you already know certain basic boundaries
00:01:34.240 that you shouldn't cross and this is the question she says she's posting it for herself women need 0.95
00:01:37.940 to stop saying that crap you're not posting nothing for yourself because if you're if it was for 0.98
00:01:42.520 yourself you wouldn't post it you can't stay in your phone you post it because you think you 0.99
00:01:47.380 personally look good and you genuinely do want to share it to the world for yourself you're posting
00:01:51.000 for the world wait wait wait i have a question why can't why can't you just look good for your
00:01:54.740 husband why do you need to look good for everyone else i'm not a wife um it's it's it's we're making
00:02:02.900 you one it is it is it is it is it is it is it is it is it is it is it is it is it is it is it is
00:02:07.580 it is validation i understand it's marketing right 100 100 100 i i literally uh show skin build views
00:02:15.900 and then i drop a track and then i've got loads of views that's what i mean wonderful i love that i
00:02:20.700 love what you just said because you literally a couple of minutes ago said that men sexualize
00:02:25.340 women but you are sexualizing yourself to sell records because i know men men will buy into that 1.00
00:02:30.620 exactly so many women know that so women sexualize themselves women do that because of men 1.00
00:02:36.540 no women sexualize i'll tell you why i'll tell you why that that is wrong because i know that i can 1.00
00:02:43.660 make money by going to the bank to rob the bank but that doesn't mean i'm going to do it but that's
00:02:47.420 hell of a legal like let's that's no legal or not apart from legal or not before legality comes in
00:02:55.980 if i go to the bank if i go to someone's house before the police or legality comes in the person
00:03:00.540 is obliged to defend themselves so before legality comes in i know that if i go to another man's house
00:03:05.100 to try to rob him he's probably going to kill me so that puts me in line women know that they 1.00
00:03:10.620 can sexualize themselves and get um things from that what does it mean they should do it that's 0.94
00:03:16.780 the question no it's a choice we have choice so you can't blame men and say men sexualize women
00:03:22.380 when women readily treat themselves it's not yeah 100 it's not a blame listen this is this is gaslighting 1.00
00:03:28.380 let me let me actually i have a question why why on earth you never give sympathy to drug dealers
00:03:36.140 would they sell drugs because they can but yet when women choose to do sex work or only fans or 1.00
00:03:42.140 sexualize themselves for money we want to give sympathy to the women somehow there's always going 1.00
00:03:46.860 to be buyers there's always going to be dealers you manipulate men into doing the thing that you
00:03:51.100 know they're going to do if you manipulate them and then you blame them for being manipulated
00:03:54.380 yeah basically that's gaslighting so thanks for that so the next woman so the next so i don't write
00:04:00.220 the rules so the next woman we have here this one is going to be i think i think it's going to be 1.00
00:04:05.900 50 50 50. i said inappropriate for a wife and a mother but maybe you'll disagree let's pull up the
00:04:13.100 next one thank you um now there's pros and cons of this right she does have the kid there so she is
00:04:21.740 showing i do have a child but i almost think that makes it worse you're doing a thirst trap with your
00:04:29.100 kid i think i think the the sexiness is when you're wearing underwear on the internet i think it's
00:04:43.100 inappropriate for a wife and a mother yeah um raise your hand i know this is going to be a controversial
00:04:49.180 one if you agree with me wait wait if it's lingerie no if it's inappropriate this picture i think is
00:04:56.540 inappropriate for a wife and a mother i would say inappropriate no what okay now i'm in the
00:05:01.420 minority so i want to hear a swimwear okay what other options wait hold on hold on what other options
00:05:06.380 are there what is she supposed to wear she's supposed to wear like something i got you you know covered
00:05:10.620 up because i've noticed i've not seen that a one piece i've not seen that in ages it's not
00:05:15.020 fashion it's not fashion it's not fashion they don't wear it stop it and also when i look at
00:05:19.820 when i look at that picture i don't i'm not sexualizing that picture imagine imagine a one
00:05:24.540 piece a one piece i like that show it's a good show so she needs to cover her belly so she needs to cover 1.00
00:05:30.220 her belly why does she need to cover that stomach wait wait wait okay why are we laughing at the thought
00:05:34.620 of a one piece because that is a one piece what's the difference what's the difference i don't know
00:05:39.420 what one piece why are you trying to make your woman look ugly on the ground i i wasn't trying to 1.00
00:05:43.580 make her look ugly but i do think you have a duty to your family to dress modest so she gotta wear 0.65
00:05:49.820 a one piece is only gonna cover her belly exactly there's only it's not gonna do it's not gonna do 0.91
00:05:54.540 much you said what else could she wear because now you guys were all acting like there was nothing else
00:06:00.140 she could wear oh and then question number two is why do you have to post it that's the question
00:06:16.140 because the reality is it's so funny how we're all focusing on what she's actually wearing other than
00:06:21.980 no one says she can't wear that but why is she posting the picture of how we're in is there a
00:06:27.340 pool next to because the perception is a funny thing perception is a funny thing there could be
00:06:31.020 a pool next to it she could be going swimming no my point is my point is that she's on holiday
00:06:35.820 how do we have to post no even if it's not holiday does she have to post the pictures of her on holiday
00:06:45.580 because she can wear it wherever she is because obviously she has to wear a swimsuit to go in the 1.00
00:06:49.980 pool obviously but why is that the picture she chooses to put in all the pictures she took on her
00:06:54.380 holiday why is it that one where she's naked that she chooses to put on the internet actually
00:06:59.580 actually even further the reason i saw this picture was i pointed out some girl because i've 0.86
00:07:05.180 been doing this fun thing on twitter where i judge appropriate or inappropriate they should they should
00:07:09.420 thank you really yeah yeah yeah and yeah everyone gets mad i'm like you don't have to listen to my
00:07:16.060 opinion it's just my opinion anyway so this woman decides to i said inappropriate to one chick she 1.00
00:07:23.020 starts tweeting at me your selfie to show me i'm like and i'm going to say inappropriate yeah
00:07:28.940 there's a much bigger problem with what she's posting as well and this is one of the reasons why
00:07:32.940 many women are choosing not to have children is they believe that after they have children they're 1.00
00:07:37.340 expected to have these gorgeous bodies they're expected to look like 20 year olds and when people
00:07:41.820 post things like this they're giving people the impression well i can't do that after i give birth
00:07:46.140 i can't you know my body's not going to look like that i'm not going to have kids they get
00:07:50.460 terrified of it and there needs to be a frame shift in how motherhood is done and after you 0.74
00:07:55.740 give birth after you have kids you're not expected to look like a 20 year old anymore so the most
00:08:00.140 damaging she's trying to look like a 20 year old at all i think she was she's genuinely she's well
00:08:03.980 she's trying she's trying wouldn't you be inspired if you saw a woman that's had a kid and she looks 0.52
00:08:10.060 great wouldn't you be inspired to want to look like that that's my only i only wonder sometimes i wonder
00:08:15.260 because when i when i some guys i follow them they look they have great bodies and i get inspired by that
00:08:19.660 you know and they've gone for a lot of things so a mother she's had a baby and then she's she's not 0.99
00:08:23.980 she's not just thin right like i've had i've had three kids all right i'm not i'm not huge right
00:08:28.380 but i'm not sexualizing myself and that's what she's doing she's posing wearing a bikini 1.00
00:08:33.260 she has her breasts out it is a sexualized image of herself 1.00
00:08:37.260 it's the pose if a guy was standing there with his kid i have loads of pictures with my mom
00:08:45.340 and um aunties where they're in obviously bikinis at the beach yeah but it's in a photo and and it's
00:08:50.620 not online yeah that's a different generation yes it's a different generation what i'm trying to say
00:08:55.980 is that we're trying to basically bring the old school ways of how modesty used to be into a new
00:08:59.900 age i think this woman is from the same generation though yeah so your point doesn't stand wait i
00:09:05.500 haven't finished okay sorry i just personally feel like what is the guy in the green suit thing oh
00:09:14.780 sorry i just personally feel like we live in 2023 this is made to seem normal to just take a picture
00:09:20.220 of yourself and post online get loads of likes it's nothing at all i mean no cause no react cause no
00:09:25.660 reaction one thing i've noticed this is how people live these days