Pear EXPOSED Their Hypocrisy
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about inter gender dynamics and how to deal with the pressures of being a woman in a relationship with a man who has a rough patch. Is it time to leave a relationship if he doesn t work enough, is it time for him to leave his wife if she gets fat, and should he leave if she becomes fat?
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i take you for my lawfully wedded husband to have him to hold for better for worse for richer
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for poorer and sickness and health till death do us part if you believe in leaving the second
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there's a rough patch you might get married it's like a relationship at that point oh that bible
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but the whole point is like if if you believe in divorce then why get married there's no point
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just be in a relationship because you're not a wife i mean you're you're getting married and then
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you think oh i'm gonna divorce one day that's why i don't have some prenups though because it's like
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well i don't think anyone wants to get divorced when they get married they think it's forever but
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i think things happen yeah and you have to be realistic that but that's i'm not saying that
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maybe you marry someone and in the beginning it's all good and then suddenly when you get married
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he might lose his money and then leave him no i don't agree with that but i feel like yeah i feel
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like you should still stay with that person but if there's no progress there's no sign of him you
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know working hard or trying or trying to get back to that level that he was at before then you know
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it's time to call it this is what this is one more time one more time for better or for worse
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for richer for poorer yeah in sickness and in health until death do us anyways that's it
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this is what rollo tomassi the the author of the rational mail who talks a lot about this kind of
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these kind of intergender dynamics he talks about the burden of performance on men and that's exactly
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what you're talking about then there's always this there's this burden of performance on men it's like
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okay well he could have a rough patch but if he doesn't shape up after two years you know she's
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going to be like thinking well hang on what's going on which is i understand why you would say that but
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that is contrary to what pearl read out because the agreement is for better or worse for sicker and
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poorer because it could be he's got some underlying issue like he's got maybe some underlying like
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like depression or something like that that he's trying to deal with some trauma and he's not working
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he's not pushing himself to the degree because of that but you know the the woman who disregards that
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could just say well sod it you know i'm going to go for steve over here because he's making six
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figures so i have a question so the same way you believe that um if he's not making more money or
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working or whatever you should leave should he leave her if she gets fat wow i mean
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same energy same energy if that's the standard he went for yeah yeah why not it just depends if
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you're if you're gonna flip it i'm looking i'm just asking yes um i think he's he's allowed to
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to bring it up yeah for sure i think no no out out oh well you're gonna give her some chance you know
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to get in the gym she got like three months six months no well no because she's not gonna leave
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him like if the woman is like in that situation she's not we're not saying the woman's just gonna go
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right oh you're not working for three months off i go like it's not gonna happen like that she's
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obviously gonna stick it out she's gonna try and help especially if you've got kids it's different
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like she may not be able to go back to work they may have to find alternative ways of surviving i
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don't know it's very difficult but she's not going to leave straight away it's it's you know over a few
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years three four years maybe i don't know um and in the same yeah same energy for for the man as well
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if the woman's completely let herself go and you know she's not taking care of herself forget the man
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it's not even good for you as a woman forget him like it's about you like you want to be able to
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look yourself in the mirror and feel confident and happy and you know comfortable in your skin so
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go out and do something about it so i yeah but he have to make sure you you get like some compliments
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about it you know so he can make you feel better but are you gonna give him the same compliments
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if he has no job oh yeah yeah you know what i mean but i think it works i have a question do you
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i'm gonna help him do you genuinely think most women nicely ask or do you think most women nag
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what's just nag about yeah okay yes baby i'm so happy you didn't do that thing i asked you to do
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last week yeah very happy i mean that's the woman condition yeah should be away but the female
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condition is very different to a man as well like we we do like to no offense but pick at things yeah
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whereas a man will be very much more upfront about it and if they have an issue with something
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most of the time most of the time not all men i i know not all men are quite as straightforward as
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that but most men will just say it as it is whereas women will sugarcoat things i'm not gonna
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i'm kind of i'm gonna be straightforward me it makes it more complicated so if you can't take it
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don't give it no my opinion on it is oh so um i actually haven't seen this response video to me
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i was sent it so let's um i don't want to show the original tiktok you know what okay i do want to
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can you click my original tiktok i sent tiktok awry this week oh my gosh awry um what oh yeah but
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okay are you gonna show it okay i'll look it i know i had something on my shirt i'd like to say
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thank you i don't know i don't know how to curl my hair my friend does
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have you naturally straight hair no i just that's the only thing i know how to do
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i don't know how to do anything else fair enough you do you you do you um okay wait go ahead
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so i sent the internet awry with this amok i've done that a lot this week okay
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scroll it up oh we can't hear it so a lot of the wives are triggered on this app saying i'm young
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inexperienced don't know what i'm talking about but i listen to what the men say every single day
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through consultations through what i do for work youtube videos made about you guys
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don't shoot the messenger i'm just letting you know a lot of you are shitty wives sorry okay this
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is the wrong one i thought it was a different one okay my the one i'm talking about because i was
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responding to the other one i just said okay look if you don't clean you don't cook and you don't
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have sex with him what does he get out of that that's a shitty wife and you leave and take half
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that's a shitty like it's like ouch i mean you've got you've got a point first what does he get out
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it's a basic principle of marriage this is what i said i said nothing you're a shitty wife
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okay good start if you get fat oh god you're not loyal because you know 70 to 80 percent of women in
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the u.s are overweight 70 80 so yeah so so that's one two we're not loyal we leave 70 to 80 percent of
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the time on top of that um one out of four marriages is sexless so and i i can't imagine most women
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really have their original recipes really cater to men support them so it's like can we really say
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we're doing a good job as a group i'm including myself in this right but i'm just saying as a group
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can we say we're we're offering a lot do you know i feel like a lot of it comes down to the fact that
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marriage is now a nearly a political statement it's nothing to do with the religion aspect of it
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i'm not religious myself but i come from a very religious background i'm born and raised in northern
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ireland very religious and all the basis of marriage is like the core elements of it you take religion out
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of that yeah marriage is nothing but a statement yeah she's right no you're right because it's the
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because religion has become you know watered down and fewer people are religion religious today and
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also societal constraints but the societal constraints came out of religion didn't they
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you know the whole reason that it was so um frowned upon for people to be divorced and certainly for
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women to be divorced in the past was because of the religious aspects to it we'll take out the religion
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and suddenly it's like well what is the incentive do you know i mean there is no incentive
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and that's the that's the problem with the marriage contract now i also think that's quite
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sad because i feel like marriage has lost its meaning like let's not forget marriage is a
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beautiful thing it's a sacred thing but that's only that's only if you're religious that's the
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issue that that is coming up at the minute i think they come at the marriage but you're
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i understand what you're saying like in some people can just be in relationships and not get
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married but you're forgetting that you don't actually get that security the type of security that you
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get when you're married but the man doesn't get the security because seven percent of the women
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leave i would say yeah and it's women's it's women's fault we don't get security okay we wanted to work
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we said send us to work and then we go to work and now the wages are cut in half for everyone when
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you got double the amount of employees it's our own fault and then women women who's in charge of sex
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right so women said i you know what i used to require marriage to have sex with me
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now we don't do that so it's our own fault it broke down because of women
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