Pearl Asks The Panel This CRAZY Question
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss monogamy and what it means to be monogamish in the 21st century. We discuss our experiences with monogamy, what monogamy means to us, and how it affects us in the dating world.
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he is awesome he's like he's really help you financially yes like i used to have a job
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and it was like that thing uh they don't make much in brazil my job i do she was like a high-end
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engineer right i did love my job seriously i loved my job but the problem is being inside of my job
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and having to take care of like the house john like the dogs it was like just like too much for
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me why because like i would do everything like kind of and i hate that feeling because it like
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really starts to like uh stress me out so and then he was like dude you can like do these little
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things here and this so because he provides you give back in that way exactly like i understand
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no yeah so it's like it's it's not hard privilege yeah it's not it's not like a hard thing you know
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babe we need that so god forbid he lost his job he's gonna have to get back to monogamy real quick
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but it's like when i first met him to be honest like today we have like all maids we have people
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to walk the dogs we have everything but when i first met him and you have everything that we can
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buy it wouldn't buy and you don't care about so many uh expensive so for us it's easy you know like we
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uh he makes uh some amount that we don't even have time to spend like let's say like that so it's
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easy it's not like oh but like when i first met him like three years ago he wasn't rich he didn't
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have like that much money and he was like he did this stuff like we always try to help and it wasn't
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like les you have to do this you have to do no it was like uh i can do this so you can do that i can do
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this you can do that there was a point that like his company was doing bad and i was like my job and
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i was just thinking dude if it goes bad because like he likes some stuff but i was just saying oh
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am i able to take us with my wage for some time and i was to say okay so i need to work a little bit
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more here so i was willing to do that because like i chose for it's how it's like for his mind you know
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i think his mind is really fascinating for me well i found i found that the girls that say
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like he has to he has to earn my submission or he has to make him a bunch of money they're just
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keeping score yeah like relationships aren't good if you're keeping score of what he's doing for you
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and what you're doing for him yeah should be natural i'm curious from the girls okay would you
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rather date a guy you don't all right this is for a lifetime okay one guy you don't really like
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so i don't know think of the last guy you dated that you just you're kind of into him kind of
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not everyone got someone in their head okay now now come on i mean you're thinking of someone
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or the guy you liked the most so the guy you're the most in love with would do anything got him in
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your head now would you rather share the guy you liked the most ever and this sort of maybe not as
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you know maybe it's not his job to screw other girls but every now and then he's going to get
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some strange but you're the main you're the main or stay with the guy that you eh kind of liked for
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life kind of like kind of like kind of liked can i just say something i won't share the guy that i
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like the most but i'll share the guy that i don't like the most so if i like you that much i want you to
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be mine if i don't like you i'm happy to yeah if you provide for me we have an agreement there you go
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go do whatever you want i don't give two f's okay what about you i mean i'd rather just stay single
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but if i had to pick one it'd probably be the guy that i don't really like because if i really like
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someone i am jealous and i am petty as well and i will do the most if i like you and you're not mine
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do you know what i'm saying so that's my answer okay what about you it's a difficult one because
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if you're living with someone that you don't like you're gonna be very miserable and very unhappy so
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would you rather just build yourself to a confidence where you don't mind and and like i see she's so
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confident and she's happy i would rather be with someone that i love and be happy so but but my do you
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guys think the most men cheat or no yeah yeah depends where you can get him so why would it be
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different with you like in your case it would be like oh my guy won't he's gonna change for me it's
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the same thing it's just the respect you know i definitely it's the respect i salute you and i think
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you're like i can sense you guys are both are great people you know and you're like really subtle
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chore of you who you are and it takes a lot of work to do that but there is also a red line i think
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that just boundaries if you want to create children healthy relationship because it's easier if you
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have to work way harder than i have to work i'm like i know my boundaries he knows his boundaries
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things might slip out of balance we just like forgive forget blah blah work them out but the work
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that you both have to do and maybe you're naturally i can i can sense that you naturally are not jealous
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person you know you're naturally are way more open-minded than a lot of women but she also met
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him doing that yes but i think also in the future when you have kids things might get out of balance
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it's harder work i think you know if you just see relationship traditional relationship the most
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successful relationship was just stay with your woman if you cheated don't ever let her know same if
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she if she i tried that i tried that in the beginning right yeah and there was like times where like
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she came over and like there was like she came over early or maybe not even early but i was like
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sloppy and she like arrived and i was with a girl yeah and it's like giant fight right but we keep we
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keep like the emotional stuff like segmented yeah i got like the love and the affection and stuff just
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with her yeah and that's a lot of work no do you want kids together potentially but we're not sure yet
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are you gonna carry on doing this when you have kids with chat gpt out i don't know about how much
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longer the world will be normal but no i mean we're pretty happy with the three dogs we have it still
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allows flexibility to travel and do all these yeah it's interesting well i'm curious because you guys
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gonna get older there's there is like a reduce of your sexual needs you probably won't even need to have
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as much how old are you guys i'm gonna turn 40 in october yeah but i but i take like supplemental
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testosterone through an endocrinologist i still take like maca and the different libido supplements
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so i still have my point is if that is what brings you fulfillment right right now at this point what
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would bring you fulfillment in the future i don't know i mean like i come from an interesting background
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like the reason why i went and slept with 1600 girls i came from like a pretty verbal abusive childhood
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where like my parents are really nice people but they're always saying like you're gonna be nothing
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you're gonna be a failure you're gonna be this like that and when i like sleep with a new girl
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it makes me like feel like oh i'm not like that yeah i don't know if it's compensating but it's
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it's definitely like you know i wouldn't have gone and done this had i not come from that background
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like people like a lot of like the best ufc fighters they're bullied for instance as a kid and they were
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like i'm gonna become the best fighter in the world so like i think my mom like stripped all the like
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validation for me like routinely over overall the way you come back is to sleep with women to make up for
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that trauma yeah but then what would you all right cool i'm a client i'm a guy i come to you and i say
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to you right i sleep with i don't know eight women a week right i've been doing it for years years years
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but now i'm ready to commit to one woman what advice would you give me if you want to go from from seeing
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a bunch of people just to one because that's obviously helping me that's helping my confidence and
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that's fulfilling so how would you say to me cool stop that stick to one woman and this is how you
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can what why wouldn't i don't i don't ever tell them like you know you should just be doing this
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but you know i don't tell them like any societal narratives i don't tell guys to get a girlfriend
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or wife or bang a bunch of girls or see a bunch of girls on the side asked i want to be with one
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woman how can i go about that would you even give them advice yeah i just want to know lots of
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lots of guys just want girlfriends but but most of them like in practice like once i teach them to be able to
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have a bunch of options and they pick the best one usually and get more serious with that one but
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you know if they had that issue where they were seeing a bunch i would you know they have to like
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realign their internal values and stuff like that i guess but they wouldn't even want to do that i don't
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think do you guys who here out of the women thinks that all men cheat when given the chance you know
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what i would have to say i discovered something new tonight completely because she's stunning gorgeous
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right and a lot of women that get cheated on they would just say i'm the i'm out of shape i'm i'm
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less but it's just i'm realizing your looks and who you are won't stop men cheating and wanting to
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i want to i want to just get this all right you think yes raise your hand if you think yes all men
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cheat when given the chance yeah okay so um three girls i'm just curious so nba players have women
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and i know this um i just interviewed a guy who he has like good friends with a couple professional
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sports players right and he said that on the sidelines these girls that are tens okay nines and
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tens will come to their games and just offer them threesomes and say like we're available and they hunt
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them down and try to get them to cheat on their wives like they i have stuff like that happening
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yeah what do you what do you guys do you think those guys mo that most guys would cheat in that
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situation if he's a man of god then it's very unlikely that's what i was gonna say as well yeah
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that's just a fear of hell right no no it's not it's for your love as many of you know i was just
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