Pearl CONFRONTS Lying Boss Babe
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Summary
In this episode, I sit down with my best friend and college sweetheart to talk about dating in Miami, what it's like dating in public, and what it means to be a woman here in Miami. We talk about our experiences in Miami and what we think about the dating scene here.
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The clear majority of the women here have had at least one celebrity slide into their DMs in Miami, right?
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So what does that say for the average dude in the street who's working in public?
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I think especially in Miami, I think that there's this thing that everybody thinks they're the main character.
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And so it's like everyone is too good for everyone.
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And so instead of getting to know somebody and being like, oh, this is another human being.
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And let me find out about this person and maybe we have something to connect on.
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Everybody wants to be like, you know what I mean?
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And girls will go on our podcast and say they will never sit in a Toyota.
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So what industries do women typically date here?
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I'm still trying to figure that out because I just came out of a seven-year relationship.
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So it's not like I'm out there looking for someone.
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I see that a lot of girls here in Miami are dating YouTubers, podcasters, guys that own luxury companies.
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All these guys fuck you and then let you go back into the wild.
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They fuck you and then let you go right back out.
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That's why I say a woman should figure out what she wants in life and get her own money.
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Because when you have your own money, you don't pick a man based off what he provides for you.
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For me, it's someone that mutual respect, open communication, loyalty, honesty.
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It's just like having each other's back, knowing that, hey, this is your journey in life.
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So I think relationships are about family and duty.
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That's what I think the goal of relationships are.
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So I think the question when you say a backup plan, you know, I think like what is your goal?
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Right now, I would be to find a partner that I feel is like the other half of me, someone
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that because my last partner, he hindered me a lot in life.
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I would be a lot for even though I'm really good for 29.
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Like, Oh, I'd be at the office and he'd pop up to the office and start drama at the office
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and try and get like, and you were just a perfect angel.
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You never had any, I came from a very small town.
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I came from a, it doesn't, it doesn't, it doesn't matter.
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If you let me listen, very strong family values.
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I, when I first came to Miami, I didn't know what dating was.
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I thought that when you asked a girl to be on a relationship, you guys were together.
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I didn't realize dating is dating multiple people.
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No, I'm the, what makes me perfect is that I never did anything to upset him.
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I've never heard somebody just claim to be perfect.
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What did I do to make me unper, what's not, what's not making me perfect?
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I don't know your relationship, but for someone.
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Tell me things that I can do that would make me not.
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What she's trying to say is that she didn't do anything outwardly.
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But that can, you can be oblivious to your own faults.
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If he, if I was such a bad partner, why is the one that.
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Nobody's saying, nobody's saying you were a bad partner.
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So you're not perfect and you'll never be a perfect partner.
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I'm saying I was in a, in my, in my relationship, my partner boasted about me to people.
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I mean, Kim Kardashian got showed off three times.
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Yeah, but it wasn't, it wasn't about Michael Flander.
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Yeah, it was, yeah, it was, it was more about my books.
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The fact that we were business partners, we were 50, 50 business partners.
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We literally built and destroyed and rebuilt houses together.
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If he did not like men, we would still be together today.
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But then if y'all was so perfect, why couldn't you look past the fact that he was alive?
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Because I don't want to be with a man that's with other men.
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But then that means you wasn't as perfect as you may claim to be.
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So if you are in a loving relationship and correct me, I could be wrong.
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But if you're in a loving relationship, you, and you love this man, you guys are perfect.
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Then you will stay with them with their faults.
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Did he, did he, was it the point that he would have said, okay, listen, I, maybe I am bisexual,
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So was it, he wanted, he would want to carry on seeing.
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You just said that you've been with how many men?
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My first one, my first, first one was a high school relationship.
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My mom took me from my high school when I was 17.
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Oh, cause I wasn't trying to be in, um, like a long-term relationship.
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So you're telling me you were out here fucking seven other guys or six other guys.
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Um, and you're Miss Tanya and none of you wanted to make.
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You also said that you, you said that you were, you didn't know what dating and being
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You were dating them and they don't, you know, was it exclusive?
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Um, I was only exclusive with the very first, the first three I was exclusive with.
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In the last year I've been dating, but I haven't been dating for a relationship.
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I don't want to, I haven't been wanting a relationship.
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So when I was dating, it was just for me needing the physical attention, like the physical
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Even, even, even when women are independent, they still need men.
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I, I, I, I, no, I just, I say it, but I say, I say the truth.
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I just think, no, it's, you, you, you, people are, look, I mean, people, I think people
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are right to sort of, it is a bit cat to sort of imply that you're perfect in a relationship.
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Because nobody's perfect, you, you probably didn't step out with it.
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Like, the last, the last five, I have not tried to, um, I have not tried to, um, I have not
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It was purely like, I enjoy having time with you.
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So you're telling me that 40, 50, 60 year olds are not getting married right now?
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If you, if you hit 30 and you're still single, you're more likely to not reproduce than
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Okay, well, if you don't, if you don't want to have kids, that's fine.
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But I'm saying it's more likely that you will, especially if you hit 35 and you're not
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married, it's like a 15% chance you'll ever marry.
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You know, I would argue there are some women that are too damaged to be completed by marriage.
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Not saying that's you, but I don't, but you know, I do think for most women, I mean, if
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you look at antidepressant usage for women over the age of 45, when they're single and
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So yeah, I would say for most women, they do feel incomplete without a man.
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Um, I feel very complete on my own and I will be part of the-
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Are we, are we, can I ask a question for the rest of this?
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Are we going to always argue the exception or we're going to talk to the generality?
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Like me specifically, that's why we're talking about me.
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Just because it gets really confusing because when we sit here and we say, I, I, I, I, I,
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They did, they did a study and they said that by 2030, most women are going to have animals.
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They're not even going to want kids anymore.
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like they're all your animals hey even the rate of depression is higher than it's ever been the
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rate of i was thinking about single mothers i think women should be banned from owning pets
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thank you yeah yeah and i have a dog i get to keep i get except for me thank you
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okay but why do you say that though oh because there's a couple trends that i see that are quite
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weird are these these women doing with their dogs i've i've said this i said that i've heard of this
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this is weird that's some weird we gotta stop oh it's a thing there's some incel accounts on uh
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there's some incel accounts on twitter who are going about that saying you see men are so despised
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by women they'd rather their dogs yeah whether it's true or not i don't know yeah no no no there
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is some there's some girls that have gone to like gotten in trouble for it it's like a thing