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In this episode, we are joined by a very special guest, Zoe. Zoe is a dating coach who has been in the dating game for a long time. She has also been a part of a viral dating video that went viral on TikTok, where she gave dating advice that no one wants to hear but you need to hear.
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somebody single oh she's gone i had a question for her oh well um okay we're gonna go around
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the table on this actually we're not gonna go around the table on this um zoe you had a viral
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video recently on tiktok uh where you were giving some dating advice what was the title of the video
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uh the very first one yeah it was like dating advice that no one wants to hear what was it
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common sense dating advice that you don't want to hear but you need to hear right okay we were
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gonna pull it up and watch it but unfortunately we can't so um i hate hearing myself speak sometimes
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so uh what i don't know if you've committed it to memory but what were the tips that you offered in
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that first uh video i think the very first one if someone wants to pull it up we can just because
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like i've already made like six of them we we can't um so i would say the very first one was
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if let's see like don't complain about cheating if you're willing to stick around for it you either
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shut up and move on and learn how to work through it or leave um i'm trying to think of a based yeah
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what does that mean face it just means like good is okay i'm new to the lingo i'm like what but i
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think the one that pisses most people off is that i said men have it harder in life especially financially
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but i was talking about dating in dating a hundred percent i feel like men and yes i know like my um
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um what i compared it to i was like you know like men can't just sit here and bust their coochie open
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on of for 10 grand a month was a little biased because it's literally my life but um yeah i don't
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you want to go into that why i think that men well first we will go into that how about we go around
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the table so who has it harder when it comes to dating men or women go ahead i think it definitely
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i think men okay i think it depends on your standards but in general in general men i think
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it's a lot of pressure i think men 100 percent oh that's so funny that everyone's saying this now
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because the girlies in the comment were calling me pick nisha spring to sprinkle the dating specific
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dating yeah specific to dating men yeah i feel like a lot of things in life men have it harder
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yeah no into the mic i think we both equally have it hard men and women both well i don't know if
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it's equally have it hard i think women have certain difficulties that perhaps men don't have but
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of course and men have difficulties that women don't have yeah exactly i think generally speaking men
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have a definitely a harder time with dating um what about you what do you think yeah i would say that men
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have a pretty rough time if you if it like like you have these guys in your comments asking if
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they're being overlooked because they're blue-collar and now it becomes this issue where and you you
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talk about this and and actually you do too brian but a very small pool of men are the ones that get
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all of the attention even though there are lots of good hard-working men who would love to find somebody
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good and and have a relationship but because women are the gatekeepers of sex they have to compete
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and it's difficult and it can be really discouraging and extremely lonely and that's why like after it
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took me about a week to make a response video to all the girlies in my comments being like pick me
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pick me because i really i had to sit down with a few of my girlfriends just to make sure that like
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maybe my comment was a little like fucked up maybe i should like do some self-introspection which is
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everything that i preach and then i came down to it as i do feel like in society especially when it comes
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to dating we hold the power we hold the yes or the no's right they don't really have much say anymore
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which i mean that's just the way the world works around it right now but i don't feel like we give
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men enough compassion for the hardships that they face like we love men conditionally i don't i mean
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in my relationship now is the first relationship i've actually practiced loving somebody unconditionally
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so like when it comes to like money and when it comes to like dick size all this kind of
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shit that we're so like i don't love you unless you have this yeah what about us and i feel like a lot
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of women take this and they're like okay cool you want this out of a man but i i do not feel that
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the question would you bring to the table is a bad question to ask because if all you can bring me is
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that you have a fat ass and you have a pretty face and you can good that's gonna get the man but like
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how are you gonna keep him that's the reason why i don't i don't care about the oh she's just a porn
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star and only fans girl no i'm smart as and half of the men that can get that have gotten to know me
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can all say the same thing like holy you smart as hell like why are you doing important i'm like well
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because i'm capitalizing off the market okay i'm using my look to capitalize but i feel like a lot
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of women that i meet which is the reason why 90 of my friends are guys and i know it sound i know
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this is like feeding into more of the pick me thing but no i feel like men keep hold me accountable
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i don't feel like a lot of women hold themselves accountable and especially so we're like always
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preaching these standards and i i'll say the same thing for men i don't i don't do leftist i don't
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do right i'm literally my shit is middle ground because i feel like women preach these crazy
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standards that they can't even upkeep themselves men preach these crazy standards and like you know
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like the whole men want a traditional wife but they're not traditional men 100 but i feel like
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women are taken like we know when a man says oh i don't want a girl with a high body count we're like
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that man's trash he's shit no that's just his fucking preference but then i feel like when women say
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um like oh you know i want i want a man to make this this amount of money it's not coming from a place
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of like she knows who she is she's she's coming from a place of like what society is sort of what
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they should want victor underscore in men and men are just precious hold on just a sec hey look it's
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pearl i like pearl i just got here thanks for the awesome content one more time it's a really nice vibe
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to enjoy a coffee to and fire up the business much love brie and panel brie huh i feel like something in
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that thank you victor in that same vein it's like it's never our fault when things go wrong and that's
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something that i see a lot when women talk about different aspects of life it's never if you pick
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if you pick shitty guys it's never your fault if you if you go into too much student debt it's never
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your fault right if you don't negotiate well when you're trying to get a job it's never your fault
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and that really hurts women because it doesn't actually empower us to take any sort of agency over
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our own lives and actually make decisions and be responsible for our own actions but men have to do that
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because if they do not they are not attractive partners and that's really an unfair standard
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that our society has particularly in the u.s i think that that's a real problem yeah yeah
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i mean that's just my sentiment about it you know what i was thinking about which is crazy
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if you're a one percent guy like top one percent let's just say height money looks whatever you can't
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expect a virgin like you can't or you can you can't if you're a top one yeah like they don't expect it
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i'm not saying they don't want it but they don't expect it oh a top guy yeah doesn't expect a virgin
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yeah and that's like that's just kind of speaks to the dating pool for like men today you can get
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like to the top like one percent of men and you don't expect a virgin elaborate on that i mean like
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what what do men look for typically historically purity youth right and attractiveness obviously pretty
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in shape and so it's like you have a guy that can get to like the pinnacle of what women want like
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you know tall muscles money whatever and like those guys don't expect a virgin because like
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the quality of women has just gone down today like the average partner count is like what
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i mean they say like between five and eight um and like you know that after like five to seven
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partners your chance of a happy marriage drops to like 20 percent in 10 years roughly
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why though yeah if you're i mean why does body count matter so much i mean i mean you're gonna
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find different studies that i do think that part of the reason that your chance of having marriage go
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down is because you have more experience and you know what you want all right and a lot of people
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settle in marriage and relationships you know about it like oh i mean i just want to i just want to ask
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like how is it working like how how is women having more partners working in society is it doing is it
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leading us to having more fulfilling long happy relationships or not because 100 years ago we're
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getting the relationships we're talking about people so 100 100 100 100 100 100 100 100 100 years ago
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only 15 of women admitted to premarital sex 85 of women and then let's say they're a lot let's say
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they're big liars and we double it okay that's still two out of three that were virgins on their wedding
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nights and so like my question is are relationships in a better place today than they were 100 years
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ago because say say what you want about relationships 100 years ago you cannot tell me that the way
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relationships are today are working like half of our generation is afraid of getting married because
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of what we've seen in our parents yeah like that is a horrible place to stay together because they felt
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like they know they didn't our parents that's not true our parents are the most speak for your parents
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or my no no i'm talking about i'm talking about like generationally no for so long women didn't
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have the autonomy to say no and to ask for what they want and demand what they want and now women do
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they can say no i don't want that i don't want you you don't make me happy i want what makes me happy
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okay and that's why i think that is that what a relationship is about no i think it goes both ways
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100 i think the man gets to say no that doesn't make me happy but the thing is is it was only
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one-sided for so long i want to look at what outcomes have women had so not like personally
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anecdotally this is just in society what outcomes has this led to one in three women have had an
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abortion one in three women have an std 90 of women have been on contraceptives at one point in their
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life women are on antidepressants more than ever before what has promiscuity led to why are we
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magnifying us so well why can't we why can't we have a conversation about women without saying but
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men like we're just talking about the women now so we can come back to the men later i'm not saying
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men are perfect but i'm saying like if if we're so happy and promiscuity leads to great things why is
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it when our body counts go up where we have more stds more abortions we're on antidepressants more like
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it's not good antidepressants has anything to do with your body count yeah go ahead go ahead go ahead
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i personally don't think that it's just like oh yeah you should just whoever whenever at any time
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you want just legs wide open anyone can get in i don't think that that's necessarily healthy but i do
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think that it is your it's your life and your decision if you if i want to have more than one sexual
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partner in my life that's it i have and it hasn't like i'm okay on that topic let me just come in
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here for a sec pearl um if you want to have more than one sexual partner at a time uh what's the
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most you've had at one time oh at one time i don't think i've ever had more than one oh well then what
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are you arguing for no i mean in my life like if i don't want to only ever have sex with hold on
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one person thank you man appreciate it now that the u.s government has admitted that ufos are real
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and we are about a year from them admitting non-human intelligence is real and has visited us
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would you date outside your race alien would you date outside your your like
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i would i would definitely alien i would so alien but like if it was a humanoid alien you know
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but if it was like some fucking weird looking yeah but if it was like humanoid alien i'm down
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why are you looking at me that way she has no poker face i'm just picturing some kind of like
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giant spider with like fangs or some shit coming in like that's just not yeah i can't picture aliens
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it's like avatar like a blue app like the blue avatar avatar that's not how i'm gonna take my hair
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i need my extensions back y'all bro turbo you you wildin um who here would let's say it's like an
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alien but it it kind of looks like a human like a human shape and it's like got parts and shit but
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i don't know it's got like some weird i don't know i mean if it's hot and you'd
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fuck an avatar oh hell yeah who here would fuck an avi what the navi i think they're called
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yeah i don't know i don't know i i need to see like if he was cool if the alien was cool you'd
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fuck him yeah i'm a vibes girl you're all about the vibe okay all right i got it okay wow that was an
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interesting one okay we were talking about um you said you've only dated one person at the time yeah
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word there's never been any crossover no i actually it it like really stresses me out
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even when it comes for your friends are throwing you under the bus she just laughed at you there's
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been like three days you don't even know me that well that one does okay so you're saying that maybe
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there's like chas on sunday and gustavo it really stresses me out to try and juggle relationships so i
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really try to avoid it just one at a time yeah in a 72 hour period what's the most amount of guys that
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you've like ever ever hooked up with in a 72 hour period of time three days uh i think two two
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is she telling the truth yes i think so you think that i'm like 99.9 doesn't that contradict what you
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just said yeah but i when i was saying like sexual partners i meant more like relationship wise like if
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i am involved with someone i don't want to be involved with anybody else at the same time
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like i can't speak for everybody um i've had my nights where i got a little
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too fucked up and made poor decisions good times um what about in a fortnight what's the most in
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the fort in the fortnight it's like 14 days oh my goodness oh god i don't know because you said two
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and 72 hours wait clarify the two and 72 hours was it 48 hours yeah was it 24 hours was it seven hours
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was it one hour both at the same time or one right after the other just take the out oh what
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well just admit it's the amid the threesome that's not it would i think it would be worse if it was like
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one and then like 30 minutes later other dude you might as well just say yeah yeah okay
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that's not the worst thing to do well in terms of like the scale of like sexual ethics and morality
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which is uh whatever i feel like a threesome you think a threesome is better than i think a threesome
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would be better than back to back i i don't disagree like because they know about it yeah like because
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the second dude is just like just you know what i mean is this heron pearl um wait so but what about
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the fortnight what's the most in the fortnight and we're going around the table on this one
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so get ready i think it probably was within a fortnight so i'll say come on three yeah okay
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kiana kumani what is it 14 days four score and seven years ago how many people i've slept with
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in 14 days yeah we're in the porn industry what do you mean that's not fair civilian like civvies oh
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civilians civilians i'll laugh at you too i think three three yeah well i yeah in the 70 how much
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in the 72 hour period and then the fortnight two two and three two yeah for both or for just one i
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think two yeah two for 72 hours it was two and then well i was pissed at the first one so i kind
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of got back at him good times it was only two sure okay if you say so um wait so
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counting johnny sins how much or sorry not like just with the porn industry including in 14 days
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i've had i've had five shoots in 14 days before and one of those shoots was um a threesome so seven
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word okay um what about you what's the most in 72 hours i mean i think three and three three and three
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yeah 72 and fortnight what about you one for both yeah okay byronique what's up none honey i ain't
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had no dick since uh september it's dry and it's a hard desert i ain't never had no fortnight whatever
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toys are tired nothing dry rip okay um are you talking about like how many
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how many people you've hooked up with within a 72 hour period throughout your whole life
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and then also a 14 day period throughout my whole life i've already been over this i don't know my
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number are you talking about like my back in a 72 hour period oh um like in 72 hours yeah like at the
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most uh probably two wait uh chat really quick wait two in the 70 unless you're talking about threesomes
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because i wasn't a polyamorous relationship with a female at one point in my life and that was the
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last relationship i was in so sure okay yeah oh by the way chat can you let me know did flan life gift
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50 did he gift 50 because if so we need to do a fit check did we get a 50 gifted chat hello um okay and
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so in a fortnight two how many three no i said i said if we're are we counting threesomes because i had
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an ex-girlfriend sure okay because because i had an ex-girlfriend we um we had a we had a threesome
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um with well it's still it's still the same girl so do i count the same girl twice no no no just one
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time okay then because that's just one body because yeah okay we can skip mikaela because yeah um
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uh one i've only ever been with my husband so really yeah okay i highly hey i highly recommend it
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yeah you're waiting i would highly recommend it highly recommend really stressful otherwise
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so you said so like i don't know i think my 72 hours and then 14 i was like 19 i had a foursome with
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three girls in the back of my honda civic and then i don't know so i'd say 72 hours probably like
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five i was so young okay i didn't do a honda i don't know man i had some twister all really skinny
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out we were drunk as there was some in the front some in the back and the middle it was great how
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do you comfortably it was not comfortable we were drunk as i don't even know if we did it correctly
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i just know that coochies somebody was falling out of the window yeah somebody got to come from like
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the roof and yeah the sunroof you're just right in the center two weeks
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uh archduke franz fernand back there do you want to answer this
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are we doing a check just one in the set in the fortnight 14 days you sure about that okay
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