JustPearlyThings - July 22, 2023


Pearl DROPS This Red Pill On CHEATING


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9 minutes

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195.05981

Word count

1,761

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

8

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Toxicity

1

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7

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In this episode, we talk about cheating and how it can affect a relationship and the consequences of cheating. We also talk about how cheating is different for men and women and the difference between emotional and physical cheating in a relationship.

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00:00:00.000 sure i know right do you think cheating is different for men and for women yeah it is
00:00:04.080 and i saw it as a child like my father was traveling a lot because of work and this and that
00:00:08.960 and he even got child's spread around and he was coming back home that's like nothing happened or
00:00:15.280 anything like this and somehow i understand him you know i'm not saying that that was right you
00:00:20.960 know but i think it works differently he could go back home and he was with another one and another
00:00:25.440 one and it was working for him i think men can manage and get some detachment from that and be
00:00:31.200 something like just physical and things like this whereas for women i think we get more attached like
00:00:37.280 things like so i think it works different did your mom know about it she found out yes she found out
00:00:42.880 and she still worked on the relationship for a very very long time because of the kids and also like
00:00:48.320 values and things like this so she stayed yeah and are you grateful she did um i think it was
00:00:55.360 worth it because but it got to a point that my father had other things like domestic violence
00:01:02.560 and things like this and actually she broke up because one day she was taking me to school and
00:01:07.840 there was a lot of domestic violence right so it was a mix of things and i told her like i was six
00:01:12.480 years old to say like why don't you you know because it was the point that was very like yeah it was
00:01:18.240 putting her life in danger basically uh but i'm very proud and through that she made me like a lot of
00:01:24.720 examples and i know the consequences as well when cheating and things like this that's why like
00:01:29.280 i don't cheat because i still have these memories and i know how especially like in a marriage or
00:01:33.920 things i did it's how it affects women and the kids you know and also my father nowadays he regrets
00:01:40.480 because he's alone yeah and he regrets what what he did so i think in marriage and things like this
00:01:46.320 is it more sensitive like it's more delicate the situation of course what about you is cheating
00:02:01.200 i was cheating different for men and for women um i don't really understand how you mean this but
00:02:07.200 what i understand is it's different if if a man can do it to a woman then woman can do it to man if
00:02:14.400 you don't if you don't if you don't like um someone to do something to you don't do it i feel i feel
00:02:21.040 it's the same feeling and and me personally i'm just gonna show you how it feels and if you like it
00:02:28.240 my question is do men and women get equally emotionally attached during sex i don't know because i'm not
00:02:34.480 every woman i just talk about myself and i feel a few it's not just in your experience is it equal or
00:02:39.680 is it not equal it's equal okay you you think the same feeling okay so you can just have sex with a 0.90
00:02:45.280 guy and feel nothing yeah just just to show you how it feels would you but i believe you always been
00:02:51.360 like that where you could just have sex with no feelings or did that come over time uh okay basically
00:02:57.200 i truly believe that when it when it comes for you to cheat you just need to go but i've been in
00:03:03.440 situation when i told the guy i did it and they don't want to leave they say okay cool i did it
00:03:10.240 as well so we're good now okay it's insane what i'm hearing from you seriously no i really don't
00:03:20.400 understand first of all i don't understand how you can say like i want you no i don't understand i want
00:03:25.760 you to explain how for a man and a woman is the same it's the same like the same feeling i don't know
00:03:31.600 i don't know about other women i'm saying about me i'm saying about me if so if my partner can go
00:03:37.280 and do it i'm just gonna close my eyes and go and do it you just need to feel the same feeling
00:03:41.680 i'm not just gonna accept you okay cool you're a man you did it and i'm gonna be okay fine but what
00:03:46.560 do you what do you get out of that you just finish it off yeah but i'm saying like you just finish it
00:03:52.320 off equally it's a bit immature i know i know that's why i don't have no relationship i don't believe in
00:03:58.720 a relationship right now i don't believe none of that stuff do you do you know that woman that's 0.99
00:04:03.680 a study i've read i don't know if it's true or not do you know that woman who goes with many men 0.97
00:04:08.080 it's very difficult for them to find stability after because they keep comparing with other men
00:04:12.240 from the past did i say i got i went with too many men this is what i said i said if i'm cheated i'm gonna
00:04:19.680 cheat oh you know i think he's he's i think he's asking because you you said that you can have sex 0.93
00:04:25.280 without emotions i think every woman can i think anybody can have sex without emotion and it's 0.55
00:04:31.840 happened to anybody in any situation i'm sorry like if you go and mostly girls when they drink 0.83
00:04:39.200 we know what happens you just gonna you don't even know what you just want that thing so that's
00:04:44.880 without emotions you're drunk animal instinct you want to get the urge out and then you realize oh
00:04:50.880 i came but now i came to my senses you get it and i don't i don't even i don't even believe like um
00:04:57.840 women cheat because all emotionally all of that stuff women should because they upset women should 1.00
00:05:02.720 because because they didn't get enough attention women just gonna cheat over you don't you don't 1.00
00:05:08.480 need to get connected with someone you don't need to you're just gonna be upset you're gonna go
00:05:13.920 you're gonna you're gonna feel like it's the like what do you like when you do it
00:05:17.840 do what if you if you cheat on the guy who cheated on you do you like the the outcome do you get
00:05:22.560 something out of it you're not really but you do you just feel okay i'm not that hurt no more
00:05:27.440 because i did it too and you move on you i don't believe you should go back so i don't believe my
00:05:32.320 my question is more were you always like this where you could have sex without emotions or did that come
00:05:38.960 over time like like the first time you had sex do you think you could have sex without emotions
00:05:45.120 or did that come later um i think it just it just builds with um with time like with time and like
00:05:54.000 you expecting this is not this then you just get quotes yeah yeah no that's that's that's yeah yeah
00:06:00.640 okay um cheating different for men and for women i think so i mean i do agree i do think girls can
00:06:07.120 have sex and just be like no don't have any emotions just be like i don't have sex yeah and like i got 0.66
00:06:13.040 what i want bye don't see you again um but i think if it comes like proper cheating i think indeed
00:06:19.280 like i think what was said before there's a build-up for girls like there's a build-up of that talking
00:06:26.160 and like you know um at least i can speak for myself and i know some yeah others but for guys
00:06:31.520 there's exceptions yeah yeah yeah i think i think for guys i think age ever guys i think quite often it
00:06:36.560 could be like yeah just sex um i also think for guys quite often can be insecurity i think a lot of
00:06:42.960 guys cheat because of insecurity they need constant that constant attention women and i think it can 0.91
00:06:48.640 also i think it also could have to do with the fact i think women cheap out of insecurity 0.69
00:06:57.920 i think we're like a lot of guys at least what i've also heard from like friends and others like
00:07:01.680 where guys they feel insecure especially for example if they're in a relationship with a
00:07:06.400 pretty strong woman a woman who like she got her together she got a job she got like she's 1.00
00:07:11.120 successful she doesn't need him the fact when guys i think everyone guys sometimes like i think it's
00:07:16.160 usually those women just degrade their the guy they're with why would you think that because in 1.00
00:07:21.520 my experience the women that say those things typically degrade the guy they're with because 1.00
00:07:26.000 they feel like they're better than him that's just a trend i've noticed they'll downsize him
00:07:30.160 yeah i wanna can i ask a question you agreed that men who are insecure would cheat can i ask why
00:07:36.880 because i'm unfamiliar with this concept in my mind uh not from my personal experience because i've never
00:07:43.200 felt in any way insecure not because my size my shape my color my form what language i speak i've never
00:07:48.800 felt insecure so it never let me to cheat if i decided to cheat is because it was once upon a time and i had no
00:07:56.480 understanding of what was concept of emotion feeling or even relationship so based on what like
00:08:03.360 you agree on this statement because i'm trying to understand now yeah i agree from what i've heard
00:08:08.640 people's experiences but then again not everyone has the same experience not everyone has the same
00:08:14.640 upbringing the same
00:08:16.080 situations because in my understanding a man who has like lack of confidence or he is insecure
00:08:25.120 he's most likely to suffer with this same woman and she will cheat on him internal he will suffer
00:08:32.000 he will suffer internally and he will keep taking abuse but he'll bite his tongue and he'll be like you 0.57
00:08:37.520 know what i'm gonna try my best i'm gonna do everything possible and then unfortunately in some situations
00:08:43.840 either it doesn't work out and she leaves or it seems like it's working out but in reality
00:08:49.760 the foundation is deteriorating and it's just a matter of time before the building collapse