JustPearlyThings - Pearl Explains Why Dating Single Moms Is A Bad Idea

00:00:00.000 single mothers were responsible by and large then the most likely person to abuse the kid

00:00:05.440 wouldn't be the next man if it's not the mother it's actually the mother is the most likely but

00:00:10.160 second most likely is that the man you do hear a lot about guys who are on dating apps that they're

00:00:15.040 meeting single moms and the single mom is and the single mom is then like oh you know how do you 0.78

00:00:18.800 feel about you know i've got a kid and like and they're sort of angling for somebody to become

00:00:22.560 the new baby daddy you know i mean again that's not statistics but there's also men there's also

00:00:28.080 men that they aren't still active i would say there's also men that actually prey on single 0.63

00:00:34.160 mom yeah yeah because i think if we're being general i don't think a lot of men are out here

00:00:39.280 looking for single mothers i don't absolutely you're not looking for no i'm not like um i mean

00:00:44.080 i'm 33 years old and i've never i've never had any conversation with anyone any guy and they're going

00:00:50.560 oh you know what let's get out single single mother you're not looking for a single mom but there are 1.00

00:00:55.040 there are some that pray ominous men out here that they they prey on the high value

00:01:04.720 there's a lot of men out here that are just trying to bum off rich women as well

00:01:08.880 that's a new phenomenon yeah the nowadays i think men men they're like trying to women 0.88

00:01:14.400 women wanted equality i think that's admirable i mean i'm absolutely in the market for a sugar

00:01:27.680 mama for a hundred percent i mean i can always go to the gym i look good exactly but i would agree with

00:01:36.880 you i would agree with you i don't think there's many guys who are out there actively looking for

00:01:40.240 single mothers i think it's a bit more like you know you meet the girl and then she turns out to

00:01:43.840 be a single mother and you're like yeah well okay maybe i could overlook that after you breed her and 1.00

00:01:48.560 leave her exactly exactly if there's a connection then yeah you're open to whatever can happen but

00:01:54.240 you're not actively seeking a single mom yeah she just happens to be a single you're not actively

00:01:58.800 seeking a single mom but some men are i'm saying no no no no i've heard stories that don't want to

00:02:06.160 have it i understand what she's saying though i think what you're saying is the men are looking for

00:02:10.640 single mothers because they feel they want to set family yeah i'm not even saying it's an easy shag

00:02:15.920 i'm saying when she was doing when she was saying about the the the statistics and i was saying but

00:02:21.840 in that there are some men that actually prey on single women yeah because they want to be around

00:02:27.280 their kids yeah oh that's a small percentage of that's like a tiny percentage there's loads of

00:02:32.880 pedos out there mate yeah yeah yeah yeah but still a tiny percentage i actually i actually i think that

00:02:38.480 women actually prey on young men more than men prey on young women i disagree

00:02:49.440 young men always chase me and i'm just like i don't know someone they chase me

00:02:53.280 i'm talking about like um i i see it more commonly now where a woman gets in trouble for sleeping with 1.00

00:03:00.000 a student than vice versa you see them all the time in the news i think they're mentally ill because 0.59

00:03:05.200 i don't know why they would want to sleep with most of my friends growing up that that lost their

00:03:09.680 virginity as little kids all lost it to older women same with the guys i know as well yeah would you go

00:03:16.480 younger kelly then um i have dated younger but i wouldn't date someone underage or like not underage

00:03:22.960 if someone was juvenile to me god no what about 20 about 23 24 definitely not actually i have

00:03:29.360 i have a question i have a question kind of pertaining to this who's more sexual men or women

00:03:36.160 men women women women women women when they're older men when they're younger okay we have to go 0.99

00:03:42.640 one at a time one at a time one at a time and then tell me why you think that so here i would

00:03:46.480 say women because i think we're very sensual we're very emotional and i think that when we're

00:03:51.760 in the throes of passion we're kind of led by that sensuality oh yeah

00:03:59.440 go ahead i'm also saying women wow okay women why i think also emotionally we're just more attached to

00:04:05.760 that kind of stuff so okay i think men why right because men men can just have so many different

00:04:13.360 partners and have like so much sexually sexually yeah and i just think they could just go from one

00:04:19.520 to the other and just not even worry about that mental connection like yeah i would say men also

00:04:24.640 because i saw this um documentary where there was this woman that she was um like trans she wants to 1.00

00:04:30.080 trans into am i a male who lost but anyways that's what she was doing and um she said like as as a

00:04:41.680 woman her sex drive was healthy and then when she started um taking taking trust from just like oh my 1.00

00:04:48.160 god my sister went through the roof i think hormonally um men men are gonna feel more

00:04:54.320 um yeah sorry pale say what was the question again who's more sexual men or women okay men i

00:05:01.120 think definitely men i think you're right because they could just bang it bang bang bang

00:05:05.280 see okay this is this is what's got me i could honestly i could honestly be convinced either way

00:05:12.720 but i've started to think it's women yeah and the reason i think it's women this is just my thoughts

00:05:17.840 yeah we talk about relationships 24 7 it's like when we're with our friends and wine what do women 1.00

00:05:24.880 talk about boys but not sex though that's like power struggles that's like oh my god he didn't do

00:05:29.840 this or he did this well yeah but i think we seek attention and men seek sex and that's what we get

00:05:34.880 like that doesn't make us more sexual though does it i would say yes i think more emotional

00:05:40.080 i would say because the ways we seek attention is sexual and wearing tight clothes taking off our clothes

00:05:45.760 like dressing very sexually i would say is how women seek sexual attention oh yeah i think if you 0.84

00:05:52.240 go into a gym um that the clothes that women wear today would have been banned like 20 years ago 1.00

00:05:59.360 in some cities like vegas in america the women wear like stickers on their boobs you go to bikinis 1.00

00:06:06.160 like when i was growing up most people wore one pieces and then like the bikinis were kind of like

00:06:10.400 out there now we're in thongs people used to get sent off the beach for bikinis didn't they yeah 1.00

00:06:15.120 do you know the other thing as well i don't know if you guys have ever read the book uh

00:06:18.320 my secret garden by nancy friday but it was this book okay i think it's i think it came out in the

00:06:22.640 70s in the 80s but it's this book of sexual fantasies that this psychologist collected women's 0.53

00:06:27.440 sexual fantasies and i mean some of the stuff in there is frankly crazy you know this is some of the

00:06:32.240 stuff that am i able to google it yeah yeah my secret my secret garden by nancy friday it's really

00:06:37.440 it's really eye-opening to read and the other thing of course was the 50 shades of gray phenomenon you

00:06:41.280 know it's best selling book ever you know and it was this complete so i think that while i agree

00:06:46.640 on the point about testosterone and yeah guys like bang bang bang whatever but i think women 1.00

00:06:50.320 once they get into it they're really into it they're really into the whole fantasy side of

00:06:54.000 it the sensuality side of it i think probably more than men because let's be honest men want

00:06:58.240 to just get their end away and then have a cigarette and you know go go to sleep whereas

00:07:01.520 women they get much more bought into the whole you know the whole drama of the whole thing 1.00

00:07:05.520 there's a bit more depth in it with with women i think more passionate are you changing your answer

00:07:11.360 now no no no no i still say men i still say men you still say men okay what do you think kind of

00:07:16.800 women i was gonna say both but i do think it is women because i feel like i do think it's women

00:07:21.760 because i feel like with us it's true we use our our looks we use like obviously in terms of the way we

00:07:27.200 look um when a guy approaches us and then all of that we could be come across very seductive at times i think

00:07:34.800 i think it's women who breathed like that into the mic 1.00

00:07:48.640 i think it's just like if i talk to guy friends and they're like oh yeah i met this girl and you

00:07:53.280 know yeah she came back to mind and yeah we banged or whatever it's very sort of perfunctory and it's

00:07:58.160 like right yeah we did that with women and then when i deal with women it's very sort of like they go 1.00

00:08:03.040 into this hole and then he took me against the wall it's just even when i did when i when i've

00:08:08.560 dealt with women that i maybe i've dated and stuff like that like that there's just so much more to

00:08:12.640 it this is this whole like sexual like fantasy and this kind of imagination and everything

00:08:17.040 and he didn't just say good night babe he sent me a smiley emoji with hot eyes

00:08:21.200 it's got to be it's got to be the aubergine doesn't it the aubergine oh yeah oh yeah

00:08:28.640 because shops like i still think it's men because i feel like everything we've just described is

00:08:34.720 like a woman uses sex to get the emotional connection to get the spiritual connection 1.00

00:08:39.680 when we are in our bag we're so sensual because we're trying to get to that place

00:08:43.680 and i kind of rate men for being able to be like this is sex i'm gonna do it here it is love it all

00:08:48.800 right cool move on whereas women it's always like i'm doing this for this and that and this

00:08:52.320 and then it's not like about the sex yeah but no just out of interest do you genuinely think that

00:08:57.040 or do you not think that the women are actually getting off on that as well i think women are 1.00

00:09:00.800 sexier than men right but i think men are more sexual than women like if it was like a man's gonna 0.76

00:09:07.280 give me like the spiritual and emotional connection i thought i would get if i was having badass sex with

00:09:12.080 him then i would probably just do have that conversation what is what is the spiritual and emotional

00:09:16.800 connection that's when you're like looking at him and it's like this is it we are so connected

00:09:23.360 we are like you just look at a guy and you're like so it's like it's like bring adding more

00:09:29.440 meaning to everything because you're having this great time and it's like yeah so if you were to tell

00:09:35.520 a guy he says i want to make a spiritual and emotional connection how would you do that um if he just

00:09:41.200 like wanted to see he sat me down and he was like i'm just like so into you i think you're great and

00:09:46.640 i think we're gonna have this amazing life together and he just again the fantasy thing he he leaned into

00:09:51.280 all the fantasies of this wonderful life i want to live then i'd probably like just like do women 1.00

00:09:56.240 do women do women do women i'm not saying i don't need to question every question do women typically

00:10:02.560 like the men that like them or that don't like them um typically don't i would say okay so aren't you

00:10:08.880 giving them the wrong advice then giving who what the guys when i asked you how to give you a spiritual

00:10:14.480 and emotional connection for me oh for you for me i don't know about anyone else but for for me there's

00:10:21.280 gonna be a lot of boxes he needs to tick in the first place and then there's gonna be the life and the

00:10:25.920 fantasy and and the experience i want i think i think like with a lot of women's advice it's 0.59

00:10:30.960 probably you would want that but you would want that from a dude that you're already attracted to

00:10:35.280 oh hell yeah yeah yeah don't like chat me up on tinder and be like i'm gonna get into your mind

00:10:42.960 so if it's like chris hemsworth or whoever right and or whoever you like and he's coming out with

00:10:47.120 more chestnut and he's coming out with this stuff then you're going to be into that but

00:10:51.040 it's not in gardouche he doesn't shake my head i like it he went for thaw but that's the problem

00:10:56.880 that's that's the problem with female that's the problem with female dating advice though sometimes 1.00

00:11:00.640 when it's aimed at guys because women will say well we want a guy who's this we want a guy who's

00:11:04.560 honorable who's noble who does these things he's chivalrous blah blah blah and guys think right i've

00:11:08.880 just got to do those things but actually it's about so much more than that because women want it from 0.99

00:11:12.880 the guy they're already attracted to and i still want to have sex sorry and i still want to have 0.85

00:11:17.120 sex yeah well you want men that are good in bed yeah yeah and know how to like treat as well but 1.00

00:11:22.880 also in good but would i use it as much if i felt like i could connect with you on a different basis

00:11:27.920 i don't think men are capable of connecting the same way women can so i don't know if i would 1.00

00:11:31.760 well i feel like i'm more basic than that i actually think i feel like i actually think i think men

00:11:37.280 connect better than women yeah they're more straight way i think i think men are women are

00:11:44.720 a lot more heartless where men actually have hearts absolutely actually i think you're right

00:11:51.200 because i think men get upset because you can break their heart and sometimes i think men can take

00:11:57.200 things like really to their heart after they've broken yours yeah but women can just forget about it but 1.00

00:12:03.520 have you ever like let someone down and they're absolutely heartbroken and they really take it in

00:12:08.400 don't they when they're heartbroken what do they do when they take it in what is the characteristics

00:12:14.000 of a man that's taking something to heart yeah so tell me did you know when you've just like you know

00:12:19.680 you're not bothered with them and that you've they've taken you out on a date and you just they

00:12:23.280 are no i can't be bothered with him he's not my sort of type of guy and he's absolutely wounded

00:12:28.560 because they take it to heart you could tell you're speaking from personal experience here and

00:12:32.720 so there's some poor bloke who's watching this now going no

JustPearlyThings - November 16, 2023

Pearl Explains Why Dating Single Moms Is A Bad Idea

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