JustPearlyThings - October 13, 2023


Pearl Goes On A Rant On Modern Marriage


Episode Stats

Length

6 minutes

Words per Minute

189.46675

Word Count

1,150

Sentence Count

94

Misogynist Sentences

24

Hate Speech Sentences

11


Summary

In this episode, I talk about why men should be extremely cautious when it comes to getting married and why politicians need to stop pushing men to get married if they don t want to have kids. I also talk about a woman who accused her ex of cheating on her on a date.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 When I look at divorce rates, it seems to be roughly, at the lowest I've seen, 20%.
00:00:06.180 But let's say it's 5%, 10%.
00:00:10.520 Isn't that a big enough percentage that men should be extremely cautious when it comes to marriage?
00:00:16.720 Yet you still see conservative personalities saying to just blindly marry young, go get married.
00:00:23.920 You're not a real man if you don't get married.
00:00:26.800 Well, by this logic, Jesus isn't a real man.
00:00:29.820 And let's see what the comments say when talking about this story.
00:00:33.120 So what's the point of getting married if I got to pay for my ex after a divorce?
00:00:37.300 Jaiad says there's no point.
00:00:38.560 And this is the conclusion that many men are going to come to.
00:00:41.460 It doesn't matter what I say.
00:00:43.600 It doesn't matter what any other red pill or conservative commentator says.
00:00:47.420 You could say what sounds nice.
00:00:49.340 And it's much easier to have a nice sell where you can sound good to everybody and do the marriage and family trope.
00:00:56.960 But is it really nice when you're sending at least we can agree 5% to 10% of men onto basically suicide, really a suicide mission?
00:01:08.580 You know, all you're doing is sending the next generation of men to the cleaners, which is why it's so important that we change and reform divorce laws.
00:01:17.200 This needs to be the number one thing that all political commentators are talking about.
00:01:21.760 This needs to be the number one agenda to politicians.
00:01:24.560 The truth of the matter is men have more power than they realize and they think.
00:01:29.340 Men are the ones paying for everything.
00:01:30.980 Men pay the majority of the taxes.
00:01:32.520 They do the majority of the hard jobs.
00:01:34.260 Politicians need men to run society and men need to start demanding from politicians that they change some of these policies and make them more fair.
00:01:43.120 Now, I don't have all the answers.
00:01:45.200 I don't know if that means eliminating no-fault divorce.
00:01:49.200 I've toyed around with that idea.
00:01:51.040 It could mean giving men automatic custody of children.
00:01:54.340 It could mean making some of the alimony and child support payments more fair or even getting rid of them altogether.
00:02:02.000 I'm open to suggestions.
00:02:03.540 Maybe it's something the right and the left can come together on.
00:02:06.460 But the point of the matter is the way that we're doing marriage today is not marriage and it's not fair to men.
00:02:12.720 And until we make it more fair, I will never shame a guy for not wanting to sign up.
00:02:18.080 In fact, I would say to be extremely cautious when signing up for that system.
00:02:23.340 And the pushback I always get is, Pearl, don't you want to get married?
00:02:27.820 Well, I think most women have every incentive to want to get married.
00:02:31.600 I think marriage is a good thing for women, but it's a terrible thing for men in 2023.
00:02:37.520 I don't say this with a happy heart.
00:02:39.660 I don't say this because I'm happy about it.
00:02:41.860 I'm a Catholic.
00:02:42.920 And I do believe in the sanctity of marriage.
00:02:45.100 But until the institutions change, I see no indication that the women are going to get better and do the right thing.
00:02:51.680 So knowing that the women are getting worse and there's going to be more and more women that do the wrong thing,
00:02:56.960 isn't it a little bit irresponsible to push men into a system that royally fucks them?
00:03:03.420 Excuse my language.
00:03:04.580 And here's the thing.
00:03:07.140 I think that this power has actually made women worse.
00:03:11.360 It has made us ungodly, worse as a collective.
00:03:17.280 And you see this.
00:03:18.380 And I always say the media becomes real life soon enough.
00:03:21.560 So you might see a clip here or there and think those are just crazy ladies.
00:03:25.560 Well, they're crazy ladies until the crazy ladies start coming out to the suburbs.
00:03:30.180 Until the crazy ladies start coming out to the country, they go to school with your kids.
00:03:34.420 And until these systems change, really, you're just going to keep seeing more and more of the craziness.
00:03:40.640 So there's a woman that's going viral.
00:03:43.560 I think this clip is a couple years old, but I wanted to show you something that we can learn from it.
00:03:48.760 There's a woman that accuses a man of cheating and the other woman owns up to lying.
00:03:54.120 Let's play the clip.
00:03:55.160 What is like respectful in a relationship?
00:03:57.240 Trusting the person and not paying somebody to see if they would cheat.
00:03:59.660 But it happened.
00:04:00.400 Not true.
00:04:01.160 You went on a date with this girl.
00:04:02.520 It wasn't a date.
00:04:03.340 She literally told me that you took her out to eat.
00:04:05.680 No.
00:04:06.120 Yeah, and you guys hooked up.
00:04:07.280 You can't sit here and deny that.
00:04:08.660 I am denying because it's not true.
00:04:10.040 Okay, sure.
00:04:11.220 She's a client and after we were working out, we got food, which was across the street.
00:04:15.860 That's not what she told me.
00:04:16.780 That's what I'm telling you.
00:04:17.340 She told me you guys had sex.
00:04:18.820 I'm telling you we didn't.
00:04:20.460 So are you saying she's lying?
00:04:21.400 I'm saying she's lying.
00:04:22.920 Let's find out from her.
00:04:23.840 Okay.
00:04:25.800 Paula, can you tell him what you told me?
00:04:28.300 So I pretty much told her that he took me to this really fancy restaurant and afterwards,
00:04:34.800 we went back to my place and hooked up.
00:04:37.500 And that he came on to you in the car and you guys were kissing?
00:04:40.620 Yes.
00:04:41.440 Yeah, see?
00:04:41.860 Why would you sit here and lie?
00:04:44.340 I lied because...
00:04:45.900 So you weren't telling the truth?
00:04:48.400 I didn't think that she deserved you, so I lied.
00:04:51.540 Oh my God.
00:04:52.780 And look, so this is why I just think that women shouldn't really worry about cheating.
00:05:02.000 I think if a guy's going to cheat, he's going to cheat.
00:05:03.720 If he's not, he's not.
00:05:05.240 I don't really think if a guy cheats, that means he doesn't love you.
00:05:08.600 I think men will have sex with anything.
00:05:10.380 There's a reason that we have those phrases.
00:05:11.920 But what you get with women being told they need to worry about cheating all the time,
00:05:18.380 where we're just constantly pandered to and told them men are these dogs, they're always
00:05:22.900 going to be up to nonsense, is you have women doing crazier and crazier things to catch men
00:05:27.280 cheating, baiting men into cheating.
00:05:29.980 And honestly, I think if you bait a guy into cheating, you honestly deserve to get cheated
00:05:33.580 on.
00:05:33.860 Sorry.
00:05:34.320 I know.
00:05:34.740 They're going to clip that.
00:05:35.520 Whatever.
00:05:35.880 Don't care.
00:05:36.260 And I thought this was especially hilarious because that other girl, she kind of clocked
00:05:46.000 on that this was insane.
00:05:47.680 It's actually insane to get a girl to try to get your guy to cheat.
00:05:52.120 Like, ladies, this is not normal behavior.
00:05:55.140 Feminine women don't look for problems.
00:05:57.740 Feminine women don't try to create chaos.
00:06:00.420 You know, they would rather just stay out of all of that.