JustPearlyThings - October 13, 2023


Pearl Goes On A Rant On Modern Marriage


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Length

6 minutes

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189.46675

Word count

1,150

Sentence count

94

Harmful content

Misogyny

24

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Toxicity

12

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Hate speech

11

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In this episode, I talk about why men should be extremely cautious when it comes to getting married and why politicians need to stop pushing men to get married if they don t want to have kids. I also talk about a woman who accused her ex of cheating on her on a date.

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00:00:00.000 When I look at divorce rates, it seems to be roughly, at the lowest I've seen, 20%.
00:00:06.180 But let's say it's 5%, 10%.
00:00:10.520 Isn't that a big enough percentage that men should be extremely cautious when it comes to marriage?
00:00:16.720 Yet you still see conservative personalities saying to just blindly marry young, go get married.
00:00:23.920 You're not a real man if you don't get married.
00:00:26.800 Well, by this logic, Jesus isn't a real man.
00:00:29.820 And let's see what the comments say when talking about this story.
00:00:33.120 So what's the point of getting married if I got to pay for my ex after a divorce?
00:00:37.300 Jaiad says there's no point.
00:00:38.560 And this is the conclusion that many men are going to come to.
00:00:41.460 It doesn't matter what I say.
00:00:43.600 It doesn't matter what any other red pill or conservative commentator says.
00:00:47.420 You could say what sounds nice.
00:00:49.340 And it's much easier to have a nice sell where you can sound good to everybody and do the marriage and family trope.
00:00:56.960 But is it really nice when you're sending at least we can agree 5% to 10% of men onto basically suicide, really a suicide mission?
00:01:08.580 You know, all you're doing is sending the next generation of men to the cleaners, which is why it's so important that we change and reform divorce laws. 1.00
00:01:17.200 This needs to be the number one thing that all political commentators are talking about.
00:01:21.760 This needs to be the number one agenda to politicians. 0.99
00:01:24.560 The truth of the matter is men have more power than they realize and they think.
00:01:29.340 Men are the ones paying for everything. 1.00
00:01:30.980 Men pay the majority of the taxes. 0.95
00:01:32.520 They do the majority of the hard jobs.
00:01:34.260 Politicians need men to run society and men need to start demanding from politicians that they change some of these policies and make them more fair. 1.00
00:01:43.120 Now, I don't have all the answers.
00:01:45.200 I don't know if that means eliminating no-fault divorce.
00:01:49.200 I've toyed around with that idea.
00:01:51.040 It could mean giving men automatic custody of children. 1.00
00:01:54.340 It could mean making some of the alimony and child support payments more fair or even getting rid of them altogether.
00:02:02.000 I'm open to suggestions.
00:02:03.540 Maybe it's something the right and the left can come together on.
00:02:06.460 But the point of the matter is the way that we're doing marriage today is not marriage and it's not fair to men.
00:02:12.720 And until we make it more fair, I will never shame a guy for not wanting to sign up.
00:02:18.080 In fact, I would say to be extremely cautious when signing up for that system.
00:02:23.340 And the pushback I always get is, Pearl, don't you want to get married?
00:02:27.820 Well, I think most women have every incentive to want to get married. 1.00
00:02:31.600 I think marriage is a good thing for women, but it's a terrible thing for men in 2023. 0.83
00:02:37.520 I don't say this with a happy heart.
00:02:39.660 I don't say this because I'm happy about it.
00:02:41.860 I'm a Catholic.
00:02:42.920 And I do believe in the sanctity of marriage.
00:02:45.100 But until the institutions change, I see no indication that the women are going to get better and do the right thing. 0.99
00:02:51.680 So knowing that the women are getting worse and there's going to be more and more women that do the wrong thing, 1.00
00:02:56.960 isn't it a little bit irresponsible to push men into a system that royally fucks them? 0.99
00:03:03.420 Excuse my language. 0.80
00:03:04.580 And here's the thing.
00:03:07.140 I think that this power has actually made women worse. 1.00
00:03:11.360 It has made us ungodly, worse as a collective.
00:03:17.280 And you see this.
00:03:18.380 And I always say the media becomes real life soon enough. 0.94
00:03:21.560 So you might see a clip here or there and think those are just crazy ladies. 1.00
00:03:25.560 Well, they're crazy ladies until the crazy ladies start coming out to the suburbs. 1.00
00:03:30.180 Until the crazy ladies start coming out to the country, they go to school with your kids. 1.00
00:03:34.420 And until these systems change, really, you're just going to keep seeing more and more of the craziness.
00:03:40.640 So there's a woman that's going viral. 1.00
00:03:43.560 I think this clip is a couple years old, but I wanted to show you something that we can learn from it.
00:03:48.760 There's a woman that accuses a man of cheating and the other woman owns up to lying. 1.00
00:03:54.120 Let's play the clip.
00:03:55.160 What is like respectful in a relationship?
00:03:57.240 Trusting the person and not paying somebody to see if they would cheat.
00:03:59.660 But it happened.
00:04:00.400 Not true.
00:04:01.160 You went on a date with this girl.
00:04:02.520 It wasn't a date.
00:04:03.340 She literally told me that you took her out to eat.
00:04:05.680 No.
00:04:06.120 Yeah, and you guys hooked up.
00:04:07.280 You can't sit here and deny that.
00:04:08.660 I am denying because it's not true.
00:04:10.040 Okay, sure.
00:04:11.220 She's a client and after we were working out, we got food, which was across the street.
00:04:15.860 That's not what she told me.
00:04:16.780 That's what I'm telling you. 0.81
00:04:17.340 She told me you guys had sex.
00:04:18.820 I'm telling you we didn't.
00:04:20.460 So are you saying she's lying?
00:04:21.400 I'm saying she's lying.
00:04:22.920 Let's find out from her.
00:04:23.840 Okay.
00:04:25.800 Paula, can you tell him what you told me?
00:04:28.300 So I pretty much told her that he took me to this really fancy restaurant and afterwards,
00:04:34.800 we went back to my place and hooked up.
00:04:37.500 And that he came on to you in the car and you guys were kissing?
00:04:40.620 Yes.
00:04:41.440 Yeah, see?
00:04:41.860 Why would you sit here and lie?
00:04:44.340 I lied because...
00:04:45.900 So you weren't telling the truth?
00:04:48.400 I didn't think that she deserved you, so I lied.
00:04:51.540 Oh my God.
00:04:52.780 And look, so this is why I just think that women shouldn't really worry about cheating. 1.00
00:05:02.000 I think if a guy's going to cheat, he's going to cheat.
00:05:03.720 If he's not, he's not.
00:05:05.240 I don't really think if a guy cheats, that means he doesn't love you. 0.91
00:05:08.600 I think men will have sex with anything. 0.99
00:05:10.380 There's a reason that we have those phrases.
00:05:11.920 But what you get with women being told they need to worry about cheating all the time, 0.98
00:05:18.380 where we're just constantly pandered to and told them men are these dogs, they're always 0.95
00:05:22.900 going to be up to nonsense, is you have women doing crazier and crazier things to catch men 1.00
00:05:27.280 cheating, baiting men into cheating. 0.96
00:05:29.980 And honestly, I think if you bait a guy into cheating, you honestly deserve to get cheated
00:05:33.580 on.
00:05:33.860 Sorry.
00:05:34.320 I know.
00:05:34.740 They're going to clip that.
00:05:35.520 Whatever.
00:05:35.880 Don't care.
00:05:36.260 And I thought this was especially hilarious because that other girl, she kind of clocked
00:05:46.000 on that this was insane.
00:05:47.680 It's actually insane to get a girl to try to get your guy to cheat. 0.94
00:05:52.120 Like, ladies, this is not normal behavior. 1.00
00:05:55.140 Feminine women don't look for problems. 1.00
00:05:57.740 Feminine women don't try to create chaos. 1.00
00:06:00.420 You know, they would rather just stay out of all of that.