JustPearlyThings - Pearl RED PILLS Modern Women

00:00:00.000 a woman that's been a victim of grape and she has to to to literally you know some women have to 1.00

00:00:06.160 you know someone made the decision to keep the child or you know or whatever case may be you

00:00:10.640 know me you know me my first question did she go to the police regardless regardless no no regardless 0.96

00:00:17.760 those are completely different situations but some women keep the child because maybe health 1.00

00:00:22.640 reasons you're talking about but getting pregnant yeah right right that's what we're talking yeah

00:00:26.800 so it's to raise a child you know some some women weren't great mothers or weren't made 1.00

00:00:31.520 to be great mothers it's a traumatizing event so what's your question so my question so what my

00:00:36.880 question is you're saying uh only the great women deserve i said the best the best women sorry sorry

00:00:43.040 the best women would have you know the options of you know getting you know having kids married 1.00

00:00:49.280 and whatever she would want that she would want that but some women don't necessarily want that 1.00

00:00:54.160 and they have fallen into that situation where they're having to take on a responsibility

00:00:59.360 and having to change their lifestyle in that way so if my brother was picking two girls and one um was

00:01:06.400 a virgin 22 and one was a single mother um from from grape i would say pick the 22 year old virgin

00:01:14.800 because i would say that's a better pick because you don't want to deal with all of the trauma that's

00:01:19.040 going to come with her i have a lot of empathy for her i think that's a sad situation to be in

00:01:24.000 but if i'm if i'm talking to my brother and i think most of you would probably say the same

00:01:29.280 thing that you don't want to raise 100 another dude's kid even though it's a really sad situation

00:01:34.640 that she was yeah big up to her for keeping the kid i think that takes a lot it takes a man though

00:01:39.280 to do that it depends on her personality and your connection though like that's what i think should

00:01:43.680 override it i get what you're saying i i don't think it should override it i think like the way we're

00:01:49.520 speaking right now is as if someone have a kid like you run out of time like you still have

00:01:54.800 time at the end of the day in your life you still have time to grow you still

00:02:00.160 we all live life we all live life with free will and choices if you choose to want to have a baby

00:02:04.960 today or next 10 years it's up to you it doesn't change the perception of who you was a woman as a

00:02:09.680 man it doesn't matter i think that's i think that's that's false i think that's false yeah

00:02:17.040 because i think that when if you have if you're a single mother men are less likely to date you

00:02:23.120 than if you're not a single mother i can understand that because you're more desirable you're more

00:02:29.280 you're more like okay i can build from someone from scratch i can get that but at the same time it

00:02:35.440 doesn't make a woman any less valuable or or desirable because she has an ex that she had a 0.95

00:02:43.440 child with well you just said it does make her less desirable you just contradicted yourself how

00:02:48.800 did i do that because you were just saying you understand why she would be less like wanted on the

00:02:53.520 marketplace yeah of course but at the same time it doesn't mean that she's actually like undesirable 0.99

00:03:01.040 to some men may have a higher expectation and think okay i want a woman as a virgin i want a 0.56

00:03:06.160 woman with no kids because maybe i have no kids or maybe i have kids and i and i want to start fresh 1.00

00:03:10.720 but it doesn't necessarily mean that a woman is undesirable to 99 of men but the reality part about

00:03:18.000 that is a man has to know if he can handle it before he go into a relationship of course yeah but you would 0.92

00:03:23.440 agree that in general men will pick no kids before they pick raising another man's kids it depends on

00:03:28.960 their situation you would say can we can we please please please my personal opinion in general i i

00:03:34.560 say i say it depends on the situation because i have kids and my partner has a kid so for me it was

00:03:40.960 a no-brainer for me to pick a woman that has no kids she might not be a good mother role to my child 1.00

00:03:47.600 so where does it leave me as a man knowing that this woman is left you i've left this woman with my child

00:03:53.440 and my child is not you know being taken care of like a mother would do or do you know what i mean

00:03:58.880 if you were if you were my brother you're and he was in your situation right i would still tell him

00:04:04.560 to pick the girl with no kids because she clearly has made a poor choice if she's in that situation 1.00

00:04:10.800 and so yeah but it doesn't matter we're all humans we make mistakes doesn't mean that we're less than

00:04:16.720 a person that made a better choice i would say that if you can you pick the people that have made

00:04:21.520 less mistakes no but the thing is more why would you want someone that's made more mistakes rather

00:04:27.360 than less mistakes i understand what you're saying but at the same time you got to look at your

00:04:32.400 situation it's it's like you know if you got a child it makes sense if you meet somebody that has a

00:04:37.920 child you can both relate on that okay you know what i mean so i will i will say that in my opinion

00:04:45.200 people with kids should date each other right i do somewhat agree however i think if a guy can swing

00:04:51.040 it if he's got kids and he can get a girl with no kids i would say pick no kids it's a bit different

00:04:56.320 for a man if you want to look at it that way because you know and another you know on another

00:05:01.040 hand you can say oh i'm a man that has no kids why should i raise another man's child why should i

00:05:06.800 pay for this man's child why should i put up with a man's you know the other thing too that you're in a 1.00

00:05:11.840 situation where like you can get close with like daughter son whatever and then you have no rights you

00:05:17.440 could raise that kid for 10 years you got no rights to it exactly so so they're the pros and cons

00:05:22.160 yeah so it's like so as a guy why would you pick that when you could pick not that but i feel like

00:05:27.760 a woman's values are a lot different than a man so like you know you know going back on topic on 0.53

00:05:34.400 you know i'm with somebody that has a child because she understands how to raise a child and come from a

00:05:40.240 family home not to say not to say that a woman that is single with no kids doesn't understand it 0.95

00:05:45.440 but in some respects she doesn't in a way you need to prioritize your children as well right so you

00:05:50.080 know in a way it's a no-brainer it's like you know women are naturally you know in my opinion i'm not 0.99

00:05:56.160 saying it's a fact don't shoot me but you know they tend to you know naturally be mothers it's some

00:06:02.480 somewhat mothers to some relationships as well you know so it's a no-brainer in a way to pick a woman 0.97

00:06:08.160 with a child well i'm not saying there's no single mothers that can be dated right and in

00:06:13.200 your situation sure but i still go back to if it was my brother i would tell him if he could swing

00:06:19.360 it pick the girl with no kids because you don't want to deal you want to deal with another if he 0.98

00:06:23.440 has a kid or if he doesn't both i would say if my brother has a child and he has the choice to date

00:06:30.560 not everyone has that choice but if he has a choice girl with no kid or girl with kid i would say no kid

00:06:35.200 but it won't because you just said before that you think that a guy with a child and a woman with

00:06:40.000 a child should date each other no i think that they should date each other in general i think we both

00:06:47.920 on both ends we should strive to date people with not kids i think it's like better it's easier however

00:06:55.360 i do think that if a man can swing a girl with no kids i would tell him to go pick the girl with no

00:07:00.960 kids because my my um my dad met my mom with my two brothers and he already had my sister before i

00:07:08.240 am the only child from my mom and i mean they're together over 30 years it's one of the best

00:07:14.400 relationships i've ever seen yeah they both had children before they met each other and that's it

00:07:20.240 right isn't it sometimes that you know in the day in the day and age that we live in sometimes

00:07:25.280 connection is is more important because to find someone that you actually truly connect with when you

00:07:29.520 have any type of anything with you've got to take that regardless of their past regardless of whatever

00:07:36.320 you take that opportunity i don't think connection overrides what's easier and better for a family

00:07:42.800 again i'm not saying you can't date someone with kids i'm saying like why would you pick someone with

00:07:47.760 a kid when you could pick someone without a kid yeah yeah of course if you have that option yeah of

00:07:52.640 course i understand yeah but at the same time it depends on the situation like for you know if

00:07:59.200 you're a i'm gonna speak for a man i'm a man so you know me as a man that i have kids you know i would

00:08:06.480 feel more not like more comfortable but if a woman has kids it will make my life a lot easier knowing 1.00

00:08:13.440 that she understands the experience she understands the pros and cons she understands the headache whereas

00:08:19.440 a woman that hasn't has kids would be like why do i need to put up with that yeah i don't need that 1.00

00:08:24.800 and a lot of women will show that emotion and it's a big toll on a man's life you know what i mean

00:08:29.440 what if she was motherly though what if she liked your kids and she was then that's no problem i'm not

00:08:33.840 i'm not ruling that out yeah i'm not ruling that out i'm just saying there's a potential chance that

00:08:38.640 a woman that has no kids she would be like well you know i'm not kids it won't be and it might put her 1.00

00:08:43.840 off even get having one yeah yeah you know let's be real let's talk facts about it

00:08:51.120 you know what i mean i'm not i'm i'm just saying if you got two girls exactly the same

00:08:56.240 one with child one without a child i don't know why you wouldn't pick no child yeah they're

00:09:01.040 exactly the same if they're exactly the same the whole time i've been saying this the whole time

00:09:06.000 i don't agree to you have your own child though as well because i want to like also wouldn't you be

00:09:12.160 more empathetic if we're classing it as a mistake if you've made a mistake i don't really think we

00:09:17.600 should be calling a mistake but anyway but if we are you should be more empathetic towards the

00:09:20.880 other person you shouldn't judge someone else for making well again i do judge the women a little

00:09:26.400 more because again again to make that mistake they had all these choices remember we broke that down

00:09:33.280 earlier the men didn't have all these choices and usually the woman leaves so i do judge the women 0.98

00:09:40.160 a bit more than the men because if they both make the first bad choice right the men doesn't really

00:09:45.920 get a say after that and especially if she leaves then like what what is he supposed to do he can't

00:09:51.600 make her can i ask you a question so say you had a little sister then and uh obviously i have all right

00:09:57.200 three okay so say one of your little sisters said oh i met a guy and he's got a kid or two kids

00:10:02.880 kids what would you say about that i would say they got no kids no i would say don't do that

00:10:11.520 that's not a good idea what if you know he treats her the best and like you know at the end of the

00:10:19.360 day you can't look at someone's situations it's like looking at someone's criminal record or someone's

00:10:23.600 past or someone's you know you gotta look at the current position or how they are and how they treat

00:10:28.000 that person i really do think you should look at like if if he had a criminal record i would also

00:10:32.720 say don't date him yeah but so i do i do think you should look at that um i do think you should look

00:10:39.040 at his past but that doesn't define the person i think that the best predictor of future behavior

00:10:45.680 is past behavior so if you did something for five years you're probably gonna do it in the future

JustPearlyThings - August 02, 2023

Pearl RED PILLS Modern Women

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