Pearl Revealed This FACT About Modern Women
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss cheating in relationships, monogamy and open relationships. Is it ever okay to be open in a monogamous relationship? Is it okay to have an open relationship with your partner? What is monogamy? What are the benefits of open relationships and what are the downsides to open relationships? We discuss these questions and much more.
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what do you guys think would you if a guy had all the things you were looking for would you
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accept him stepping out from time to time i've thought about this before um yes no no let me
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answer the question um we have this notion that men cheap right and so the thing is like if you've
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already built and spent so many years and you've invested so much of your life with this person
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and they've stepped out and if you genuinely believe that men cheat if you leave to go to
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find another mountain then aren't you just going to end up repeating the cycle again anyway so are
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you not are you not better off just staying in the position and working it through but i don't
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condone it and i do not respect it and you have to understand that my behavior towards you may
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change slightly as a result yeah i'd like to always remain naive to the fact that he's cheated i think
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if he brings it to my doorstep i think it's more about the disrespect more than anything i think
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men cheat i think women women take back men that don't tick all their boxes so to me it's not that
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i'm condoning because i don't yeah and i don't accept it but if i'm going to take back somebody
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who doesn't tick all my boxes then i'm going to take back somebody who does yeah i think if we have
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like is it monogamous where it's just like you're monogamous to him but he he's okay yeah every now and
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then no no does it have to stay like that so that's why i'm saying like if it's a monogamous
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maybe if we've agreed to not do that and he then did that yeah then we would i don't know i feel like
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at that stage you either have to say whether you want to work through it you really love context
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sorry sorry um if you agreed so you think you're gonna sit down with your man and you're gonna say
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well we're not gonna cheat and it's gonna be a yes dear i think it's like a continual conversation
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i think like especially nowadays like if you're 20 years in i'll get it if you're 20 years in yeah
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you're gonna keep telling him i hope you know we don't cheat here
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but the conversation like has your mind changed are we still doing exactly yeah that kind of conversation
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like are we opening up the relationship no but it depends on your your values like what
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annoying though yeah because a lot of women forget this and i understand that you know words have
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power and because you're reaffirming the words that it might mean something but you have to remember
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when it comes to monogamy men conform to a woman's reproductive strategy your reproductive strategy is
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more catered towards monogamy whilst ours is scattergun so what you're actually asking a man to do is go
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against his own biological impulses to cater to you so it's actually unfair to ask that and expect that
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when you're more naturally catered to behave that way when a man isn't this is what i'm saying
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like when you're having kids when you're having kids it might be like cool we're monogamous right
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like it's just us two but then afterwards maybe once the kids have fled the home you then might want
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to open up that conversation and be like cool like shall we open it up would you be okay to have an
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open relationship then i think i would consider it yeah i have a what for
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i have i have a question you know she's a feminist no it's not even about being a feminist it's just
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like my personal like what i'm okay with like so i think i would too i haven't been in a 20 year
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relationship so i can't tell you you know until i've got you do open both ways kit i think if we'd
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had kids been together for a long time yeah i'd probably see this i'll try it yeah kids or no kids
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i will get my immune system will shut down i'll die on the spot bro i don't mind i think like if
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we've been together if i got like got married tomorrow if we had kids and like i'm like 50
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whatever and we're like because thing is like the whole marriage thing i'm like well sometimes you
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might want to just explore yeah and to be honest like i don't i'm not that cuddle you knowing that
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her back got blown up oh my god and she's there saying baby i missed you and it's like a will and
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jayden yeah i don't know i think someone younger i'm more you i'll tell you what i started i think
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it comes to an arrogant place because i think if she's with me and she's the one that she's chosen
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then she ain't finding better than me anyway so it's almost like her going to another guy
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no but what i mean i'm talking like that's what i said after kids and everything i'm saying if we've been
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together yeah but let me tell you yeah but after kids and age and all of that she's with she may
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be with you out of loyalty not because your sex is good no no no that's not what i'm saying that's
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not what i'm saying because you're saying that she may not find better than you no no no no i'm
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saying better me as a package like that's yeah but that's after she's had kids and they're a lot
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older yeah when basically her values her values gone down listen she asked me when i do it i said
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these are the conditions she's gonna find a brother that's 20 years old yeah that's gonna slam
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her up and he probably looked like you when you was younger maybe and you're gonna see him and
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i'm gonna think raw nah that i don't think honestly i think at that point like i don't think i would
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care because i'd be like well if we want to go to explore let's explore i don't think i find a
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20 year old honestly i feel like if if my husband let me let me explore that's the end of the
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relationship for me yeah i think he's like he no longer feels love for me he no longer cares about
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me he shouldn't want to that's how i'd want to remain territorial yeah that's how i'd feel yeah
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well i'm an exception i think a lot of the time it's the seat you know not the actual act i think it's
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the deceit yeah like you're going into the relationship saying i'm going to be um what's
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the word and then and then you go and do something different like just be open and honest about it
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like yeah i'm coming to a relationship i'm not promising again girls will say this and it's all
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well and good saying it but in act acting it out it doesn't work i don't know it depends on your
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maturity i think it depends on the maturity the most gangster thing i've ever heard a girl saying it's
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similar to what you said i remember being talking to a woman at work and she's like she's been with
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a boyfriend for 14 years and they're due to get married and i just put into a problem and just
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poke holes i bet you know he's probably cheating you a few times she goes listen i know but he's
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never he's never he's never brought that problem home i think and i don't know about it i'm happy
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so as long as i remain happy and i don't know and i never see it i'm okay with what he does but that's
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a mature woman's mind i think that most women don't go in there thinking oh yeah this guy is just for
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me i don't think isn't that what you just said that you have to have that conversation i think you
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do have to have that conversation like so why why is having the conversation a bad thing or why does
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it have to be like realistic because because we don't want honesty like let's just come on let's
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just be real but we don't want to know we don't i i don't care i think it shows you i would want to
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know other people yeah so i i have a question um so you you three you're you're single moms right
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do you feel like it's fair to accept this except monogamy um or to expect monogamy from someone
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when you've given someone else a child so they're not getting the youth and like the purity that they
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want i don't remember i don't agree with your beliefs so obviously i'm gonna say no i would say
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don't pick me in the first place yeah yeah oh i didn't realize you were kids too yeah i have one
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child oh do you me yeah okay um yeah no okay it depends on the guy doesn't it like because if he's
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like actually to be fair if you said no then fine but i think the higher value a man is the more
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likely a woman is going to accept that but if he's like just some average if you're gonna accept that
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you're gonna accept that anyway not because you've got kids not because that's what that's
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why i say no i think if a woman's gonna accept that she's gonna accept that but i think most women do
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accept it i mean i know i'm saying i'm saying like how do how do most relationships start nowadays
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situationship side chicks like if you're in a situation ship like that's how most relationships
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start is like talking okay okay and so i'm saying like like most girls start that's what you're starting at
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as a side chick i won't say me talking to someone automatically makes me a side chick
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i would think okay okay would you say would you say the majority of the time sex comes first or
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relationships which are sex definitely okay so when when you're having sex with someone you're not
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exclusive what are you i'm having sex with someone that i'm seeing yeah but i'm saying like he's also
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sleeping with other people so likely so i agree with you on that that i think you'll be very
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delusional to meet a guy today and the first time you've slept with him you think you're the only
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person he's sleeping with at that moment because you're just you've just come into the picture
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i don't know if i like you so he as in he's thinking that i don't know if i like you i'm just
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seeing where this goes and obviously you've allowed me to enter your sexual experience so i'm also
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going to experience this while i'm here but the sex is not going to determine if i'm going to be with you
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that's why you're that's why you should be selective and when you allow him to access yeah but like the
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point is you still start off as a side chick no for me is when there's many chicks and you're one
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for you to be a side you're going to have a main right you have a main chick and then you're inside
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and that's what you can only be that you can never be the main one of his side
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chicks is the main chick at one point in time she might not have the title right but he has a
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