JustPearlyThings - Pearl Revealed This FACT About Modern Women

00:00:00.000 what do you guys think would you if a guy had all the things you were looking for would you

00:00:03.680 accept him stepping out from time to time i've thought about this before um yes no no let me

00:00:11.600 answer the question um we have this notion that men cheap right and so the thing is like if you've

00:00:17.440 already built and spent so many years and you've invested so much of your life with this person

00:00:21.360 and they've stepped out and if you genuinely believe that men cheat if you leave to go to

00:00:25.280 find another mountain then aren't you just going to end up repeating the cycle again anyway so are

00:00:29.280 you not are you not better off just staying in the position and working it through but i don't

00:00:33.600 condone it and i do not respect it and you have to understand that my behavior towards you may

00:00:37.200 change slightly as a result yeah i'd like to always remain naive to the fact that he's cheated i think

00:00:43.440 if he brings it to my doorstep i think it's more about the disrespect more than anything i think

00:00:48.400 men cheat i think women women take back men that don't tick all their boxes so to me it's not that

00:00:55.920 i'm condoning because i don't yeah and i don't accept it but if i'm going to take back somebody

00:01:01.920 who doesn't tick all my boxes then i'm going to take back somebody who does yeah i think if we have

00:01:08.560 like is it monogamous where it's just like you're monogamous to him but he he's okay yeah every now and

00:01:15.600 then no no does it have to stay like that so that's why i'm saying like if it's a monogamous

00:01:23.600 maybe if we've agreed to not do that and he then did that yeah then we would i don't know i feel like

00:01:31.840 at that stage you either have to say whether you want to work through it you really love context

00:01:36.320 sorry sorry um if you agreed so you think you're gonna sit down with your man and you're gonna say

00:01:42.000 well we're not gonna cheat and it's gonna be a yes dear i think it's like a continual conversation

00:01:46.960 i think like especially nowadays like if you're 20 years in i'll get it if you're 20 years in yeah

00:01:53.680 you're gonna keep telling him i hope you know we don't cheat here

00:01:59.120 but the conversation like has your mind changed are we still doing exactly yeah that kind of conversation

00:02:03.920 like are we opening up the relationship no but it depends on your your values like what

00:02:09.120 annoying though yeah because a lot of women forget this and i understand that you know words have 1.00

00:02:14.240 power and because you're reaffirming the words that it might mean something but you have to remember

00:02:18.320 when it comes to monogamy men conform to a woman's reproductive strategy your reproductive strategy is

00:02:23.520 more catered towards monogamy whilst ours is scattergun so what you're actually asking a man to do is go

00:02:28.160 against his own biological impulses to cater to you so it's actually unfair to ask that and expect that

00:02:34.080 when you're more naturally catered to behave that way when a man isn't this is what i'm saying

00:02:38.480 like when you're having kids when you're having kids it might be like cool we're monogamous right

00:02:42.560 like it's just us two but then afterwards maybe once the kids have fled the home you then might want

00:02:47.680 to open up that conversation and be like cool like shall we open it up would you be okay to have an

00:02:55.280 open relationship then i think i would consider it yeah i have a what for

00:02:59.760 i have i have a question you know she's a feminist no it's not even about being a feminist it's just 1.00

00:03:06.480 like my personal like what i'm okay with like so i think i would too i haven't been in a 20 year

00:03:14.080 relationship so i can't tell you you know until i've got you do open both ways kit i think if we'd

00:03:19.200 had kids been together for a long time yeah i'd probably see this i'll try it yeah kids or no kids

00:03:24.080 i will get my immune system will shut down i'll die on the spot bro i don't mind i think like if 0.56

00:03:28.960 we've been together if i got like got married tomorrow if we had kids and like i'm like 50

00:03:34.800 whatever and we're like because thing is like the whole marriage thing i'm like well sometimes you

00:03:39.280 might want to just explore yeah and to be honest like i don't i'm not that cuddle you knowing that

00:03:44.880 her back got blown up oh my god and she's there saying baby i missed you and it's like a will and

00:03:50.480 jayden yeah i don't know i think someone younger i'm more you i'll tell you what i started i think

00:03:55.360 it comes to an arrogant place because i think if she's with me and she's the one that she's chosen

00:03:59.440 then she ain't finding better than me anyway so it's almost like her going to another guy

00:04:06.560 no but what i mean i'm talking like that's what i said after kids and everything i'm saying if we've been

00:04:10.560 together yeah but let me tell you yeah but after kids and age and all of that she's with she may

00:04:18.560 be with you out of loyalty not because your sex is good no no no that's not what i'm saying that's

00:04:22.720 not what i'm saying because you're saying that she may not find better than you no no no no i'm

00:04:25.920 saying better me as a package like that's yeah but that's after she's had kids and they're a lot

00:04:31.040 older yeah when basically her values her values gone down listen she asked me when i do it i said

00:04:38.160 these are the conditions she's gonna find a brother that's 20 years old yeah that's gonna slam

00:04:43.840 her up and he probably looked like you when you was younger maybe and you're gonna see him and

00:04:48.400 i'm gonna think raw nah that i don't think honestly i think at that point like i don't think i would

00:04:54.640 care because i'd be like well if we want to go to explore let's explore i don't think i find a

00:04:59.680 20 year old honestly i feel like if if my husband let me let me explore that's the end of the

00:05:08.880 relationship for me yeah i think he's like he no longer feels love for me he no longer cares about

00:05:14.560 me he shouldn't want to that's how i'd want to remain territorial yeah that's how i'd feel yeah

00:05:19.600 well i'm an exception i think a lot of the time it's the seat you know not the actual act i think it's

00:05:24.000 the deceit yeah like you're going into the relationship saying i'm going to be um what's

00:05:28.960 the word and then and then you go and do something different like just be open and honest about it

00:05:35.760 like yeah i'm coming to a relationship i'm not promising again girls will say this and it's all

00:05:40.240 well and good saying it but in act acting it out it doesn't work i don't know it depends on your

00:05:45.200 maturity i think it depends on the maturity the most gangster thing i've ever heard a girl saying it's 1.00

00:05:49.600 similar to what you said i remember being talking to a woman at work and she's like she's been with

00:05:52.800 a boyfriend for 14 years and they're due to get married and i just put into a problem and just

00:05:56.400 poke holes i bet you know he's probably cheating you a few times she goes listen i know but he's

00:06:00.080 never he's never he's never brought that problem home i think and i don't know about it i'm happy

00:06:04.320 so as long as i remain happy and i don't know and i never see it i'm okay with what he does but that's

00:06:08.320 a mature woman's mind i think that most women don't go in there thinking oh yeah this guy is just for 1.00

00:06:12.720 me i don't think isn't that what you just said that you have to have that conversation i think you

00:06:17.360 do have to have that conversation like so why why is having the conversation a bad thing or why does

00:06:23.440 it have to be like realistic because because we don't want honesty like let's just come on let's

00:06:29.440 just be real but we don't want to know we don't i i don't care i think it shows you i would want to

00:06:33.840 know other people yeah so i i have a question um so you you three you're you're single moms right

00:06:45.840 do you feel like it's fair to accept this except monogamy um or to expect monogamy from someone

00:06:51.680 when you've given someone else a child so they're not getting the youth and like the purity that they

00:06:56.640 want i don't remember i don't agree with your beliefs so obviously i'm gonna say no i would say

00:07:03.280 don't pick me in the first place yeah yeah oh i didn't realize you were kids too yeah i have one

00:07:07.680 child oh do you me yeah okay um yeah no okay it depends on the guy doesn't it like because if he's

00:07:17.440 like actually to be fair if you said no then fine but i think the higher value a man is the more

00:07:24.000 likely a woman is going to accept that but if he's like just some average if you're gonna accept that

00:07:29.120 you're gonna accept that anyway not because you've got kids not because that's what that's

00:07:33.440 why i say no i think if a woman's gonna accept that she's gonna accept that but i think most women do

00:07:37.760 accept it i mean i know i'm saying i'm saying like how do how do most relationships start nowadays

00:07:43.680 situationship side chicks like if you're in a situation ship like that's how most relationships 0.95

00:07:50.400 start is like talking okay okay and so i'm saying like like most girls start that's what you're starting at

00:07:55.760 as a side chick i won't say me talking to someone automatically makes me a side chick

00:08:00.720 i would think okay okay would you say would you say the majority of the time sex comes first or 0.82

00:08:07.280 relationships which are sex definitely okay so when when you're having sex with someone you're not

00:08:12.320 exclusive what are you i'm having sex with someone that i'm seeing yeah but i'm saying like he's also 0.61

00:08:19.280 sleeping with other people so likely so i agree with you on that that i think you'll be very 0.76

00:08:23.520 delusional to meet a guy today and the first time you've slept with him you think you're the only

00:08:26.720 person he's sleeping with at that moment because you're just you've just come into the picture

00:08:30.960 i don't know if i like you so he as in he's thinking that i don't know if i like you i'm just

00:08:35.440 seeing where this goes and obviously you've allowed me to enter your sexual experience so i'm also

00:08:40.480 going to experience this while i'm here but the sex is not going to determine if i'm going to be with you

00:08:45.120 that's why you're that's why you should be selective and when you allow him to access yeah but like the

00:08:51.920 point is you still start off as a side chick no for me is when there's many chicks and you're one 1.00

00:09:04.800 for you to be a side you're going to have a main right you have a main chick and then you're inside 0.99

00:09:08.720 and that's what you can only be that you can never be the main one of his side

00:09:14.160 chicks is the main chick at one point in time she might not have the title right but he has a 0.99

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JustPearlyThings - April 09, 2023

Pearl Revealed This FACT About Modern Women

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