JustPearlyThings - October 14, 2023


Pearl Says This About Modern Women


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

213.96211

Word Count

2,078

Sentence Count

209

Misogynist Sentences

27

Hate Speech Sentences

27


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Yeah, but I think a lot of times as women, we just think we're the hot shit.
00:00:04.360 And I just think we could use a little bit of humility and understanding.
00:00:08.020 Men are, look at, what if men left us every time we sought attention from other men?
00:00:14.140 We would be so goddamn single.
00:00:16.480 Oh my God, in this generation.
00:00:18.500 Attention will step with other men.
00:00:20.320 Attention.
00:00:21.220 That's what I'm saying.
00:00:22.020 Because how did we, like, to me, those are the same.
00:00:24.760 Seeking attention from another guy is the same as getting sex from another girl.
00:00:28.780 Okay.
00:00:30.000 Well, yeah, it's not right.
00:00:31.620 It's just not right in any way.
00:00:33.640 It's something that is hard for anyone to really get over.
00:00:37.460 Like, how often do women go out in provocative clothes in a relationship?
00:00:41.480 How often do women go out to a club in a relationship?
00:00:44.360 We weren't virgins on our wedding days.
00:00:46.520 My whole point is, men are programmed to sleep with anything.
00:00:50.120 Guys have a hard time turning down easy sex.
00:00:53.260 It's probably not even you.
00:00:55.140 It's just the sex was there, or maybe it was you.
00:00:57.540 And, you know, I just think it's about the kids.
00:01:01.160 So, yeah, I would stick it out.
00:01:03.020 I believe every man will do their dirt.
00:01:05.620 I definitely believe it.
00:01:06.920 Regardless, even if you think that you're doing the best thing.
00:01:09.760 But it's not something that every woman can accept.
00:01:13.700 It's something mentally.
00:01:15.080 Wouldn't it be easier to just...
00:01:16.500 This is how I think about it.
00:01:18.120 Wouldn't it be easier to just accept it?
00:01:19.960 It would be so much easier to just accept being treated.
00:01:24.840 Yeah, I know.
00:01:25.500 Seriously, I was thinking about this.
00:01:27.000 Wouldn't it be easier to just accept it might happen?
00:01:29.920 I have a theory.
00:01:30.880 Because otherwise you're going to be at his phone, checking where he's doing.
00:01:33.960 Like, what are you going to do?
00:01:35.500 Mentally, it would disturb your brain.
00:01:36.900 I feel like...
00:01:37.520 You know, it's a choice.
00:01:39.060 It's a choice.
00:01:39.880 Go ahead.
00:01:40.080 I feel like within the first year of a relationship, a man is tempted to cheat.
00:01:44.480 Just to make sure that that girl is the girl that he wants to be with.
00:01:47.860 But that's just my mentality of thinking of the relationship-wise.
00:01:52.640 I always feel like it happens within the first year.
00:01:55.060 And if it happens after the first year, yeah, there's something wrong with the woman.
00:01:58.060 There's something wrong within the relationship.
00:02:00.260 I think men just like...
00:02:01.300 I just think sometimes when like a hoe is there and willing,
00:02:05.660 the guy's just like...
00:02:08.080 You know, a work trip, it's like...
00:02:11.300 Go ahead.
00:02:11.860 I mean, I wouldn't say if a man cheats, then there's something wrong with the woman.
00:02:15.100 Sometimes men cheat because they're just depressed.
00:02:17.040 It's just there.
00:02:17.680 Oh, depressed.
00:02:18.380 Yeah, I mean, some men cheat because they just don't feel...
00:02:22.020 They don't see any value.
00:02:23.120 But then would you not class that as something as the woman is not giving him?
00:02:26.420 Because why is your man depressed and you don't know your man is depressed
00:02:28.880 and you can't help him for it?
00:02:29.760 Okay, I have a question.
00:02:29.900 Have you ever flirted with another guy in a relationship while you're in a relationship?
00:02:34.860 Well, from when you're saying that putting certain pictures up
00:02:37.400 is basically cheating, then I would have to say yeah.
00:02:39.360 Yeah.
00:02:41.680 Okay, and did that really have to do with him?
00:02:44.860 Was he doing something wrong?
00:02:46.780 I would have to say yeah.
00:02:48.260 Because obviously if I'm seeking attention,
00:02:49.840 then it means I'm not getting attention from my man.
00:02:51.500 Okay, okay.
00:02:52.340 So you did it to like get back at him?
00:02:54.400 I wouldn't say as I get back,
00:02:56.060 but it's something that we crave as women.
00:02:58.440 We need that attention and we need that.
00:03:00.380 If you're in a relationship, it's something that your man should be giving you anyway.
00:03:03.320 And if he's not giving it to you, you're going to seek it elsewhere.
00:03:05.660 Do you think men should break up with women that do that?
00:03:08.700 Yeah.
00:03:09.020 No.
00:03:10.060 He's like, yeah.
00:03:11.680 Tell me why.
00:03:12.680 Because I think if your woman cheats on you, to me it's done.
00:03:15.760 It's no coming back.
00:03:16.380 But again, it depends on her definition of cheating.
00:03:19.100 That's why I was saying about pictures.
00:03:20.400 If it's like sexual, if she has sex with another man.
00:03:22.520 No, I'm saying like pictures.
00:03:24.320 No, no, no.
00:03:24.820 I think that we can work out.
00:03:26.260 Yeah.
00:03:26.740 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:03:27.540 But to me, that's the equivalent.
00:03:29.300 Like you can work out a picture.
00:03:31.160 No, no.
00:03:31.560 I can work out a picture, but I can't work out her sex with another man.
00:03:35.180 That's like.
00:03:35.580 Right.
00:03:37.060 But here's the thing about women.
00:03:38.780 You can't.
00:03:40.420 I don't know.
00:03:41.480 It's always very weird because if you think about it,
00:03:44.580 if your woman is doing something that is affecting the relationship
00:03:48.840 and you ask her to stop and she doesn't stop it immediately,
00:03:52.160 I don't think there's anything to work out.
00:03:54.480 I mean, pictures, you can.
00:03:56.180 I think some people have been doing that for since they were like 14.
00:03:59.020 It's become a habit.
00:03:59.920 It's not even like they're doing it for attention anymore.
00:04:02.020 It's become like a, that's how they function.
00:04:04.740 Social media problem.
00:04:06.180 It's become a habit.
00:04:07.080 It's a cloud.
00:04:07.720 Yeah, it's become something that they've been doing all their lives.
00:04:10.280 So I think people just need to heal.
00:04:12.460 That's what I'll say.
00:04:13.200 Before you get in a relationship, just heal.
00:04:15.020 I agree.
00:04:15.360 I think women, I think we shouldn't heal.
00:04:18.800 I think we should.
00:04:19.640 No, no.
00:04:20.280 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:04:21.600 I'm a relationship here.
00:04:22.560 I'm a relationship here.
00:04:23.420 Yeah, this is, this is, no, no.
00:04:25.400 This is what, I think women like got into therapy to like control men.
00:04:32.240 Yeah, and just tell them.
00:04:33.580 Yeah, and I think the women will send the men to therapy to just confuse them.
00:04:37.120 Now, I'm not saying there's not exceptions.
00:04:39.080 I'm sure there's like maybe it helped you personally.
00:04:41.880 But I'm just talking.
00:04:42.740 That was a personal choice.
00:04:43.280 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:04:44.240 Well, I'm not, again, I'm not talking about you.
00:04:46.160 But I think in general, when I hear the word trauma, when I hear the word therapy,
00:04:52.800 I'm like red flag.
00:04:54.420 Why?
00:04:55.040 Because it's women led.
00:04:57.060 I think women should, or men really shouldn't get like advice and like guidance from women.
00:05:02.600 But I think that's your wife or your girlfriend's job.
00:05:05.540 What's the point of being with them?
00:05:06.720 No, I think the women should be guided by the men.
00:05:10.180 I think like that goes back to the, we're equal model.
00:05:12.580 So basically the obey.
00:05:13.740 The woman should basically obey.
00:05:15.560 She's getting it.
00:05:16.800 Yes, yes.
00:05:17.620 I think like, because the thing is that what they would do, and this happens in a lot of
00:05:22.520 Christian like churches as they infiltrated the churches in the early, the late 1800s,
00:05:28.060 early 1900s, and basically like weaponized scripture and like rewrote scripture to like
00:05:33.040 go towards a more egalitarian model.
00:05:35.280 That's why they'll be like submit to each other, all that bullshit.
00:05:38.240 It's like rewritten.
00:05:39.380 But you know what?
00:05:40.420 I went to Ghana.
00:05:41.300 I was in Ghana holiday and actually found out the Ashanti tribe, actually the queen,
00:05:45.560 like the king has to go to the queen for advice.
00:05:48.180 So they make sure that the queen is older than the king and actually they have to be related.
00:05:52.140 So in Ashanti tribe, your wife can't be your queen.
00:05:54.440 It has to be your older sister or your auntie, someone that you can actually take advice from.
00:05:59.220 So I wouldn't say take.
00:06:00.520 Do you think tribes like that, like typically have stood the test of time across the world?
00:06:06.020 Typically.
00:06:06.420 Where, I mean, with their habitat and how their culturally maneuvers help them, I mean, they
00:06:12.560 still, they're still functioning.
00:06:14.180 No, no, I'm saying like, like, do you think it's common for female-led societies to stand
00:06:19.260 the test?
00:06:19.560 No, it's not a female-led, it's not a female-led society.
00:06:21.060 It's still the king.
00:06:21.680 The king is still the king.
00:06:22.680 Okay.
00:06:22.980 But I'm talking about advice.
00:06:24.300 Okay.
00:06:24.680 Like if, let's say, another tribe came to invade, he, the king doesn't take advice from anyone
00:06:29.780 but the queen.
00:06:31.040 But the queen is older than the king, so they've lived longer.
00:06:33.280 And I guess they have more, I don't know, what women have, special stuff to women.
00:06:38.360 Trauma.
00:06:38.920 I think our person-
00:06:45.060 So the king has like, if there's an invasion, the king doesn't-
00:06:48.060 He does.
00:06:48.560 Consult his generals, he goes to consult a woman.
00:06:50.440 No, no, no, no, advice.
00:06:51.640 He does consult with generals, but to make certain moves, the only person that can, that
00:06:56.400 he goes to, in private, it's the queen.
00:06:59.080 So the queen says, okay, you know what?
00:07:00.740 I think he just goes to, in private to go and sleep with her, bro.
00:07:03.360 It's a sister.
00:07:04.260 That's what, it's a sister.
00:07:05.480 It's a sister.
00:07:06.180 Your family member is saying.
00:07:07.100 Yeah.
00:07:07.520 You can't, your wife is no, your wife is no queen if you are a king in Ashanti tribe.
00:07:11.960 What?
00:07:12.560 How big is this tribe?
00:07:14.220 It's Ashanti tribe.
00:07:15.220 I don't know anything about the Ashanti.
00:07:17.900 I don't, I'm sorry.
00:07:19.220 I'm not a-
00:07:19.880 Yeah, no, it's fine.
00:07:20.660 It's fine.
00:07:21.040 I just, I just know typically tribes that get wisdom from women haven't stood the test
00:07:25.620 of time.
00:07:25.820 No, they, I mean, they have.
00:07:26.980 The whole carnal score shot.
00:07:28.140 No, no.
00:07:28.460 I mean-
00:07:28.740 I'm saying in general.
00:07:30.620 Yeah, yeah.
00:07:31.220 I understand that.
00:07:31.820 But what I'm trying to say is we've seen women tear down kingdoms.
00:07:35.400 If they were not smart there, then they wouldn't be able to manipulate kings to kill each
00:07:39.100 other.
00:07:39.600 If you go back to Asian days, you've got women actually finesse, maneuvering, and literally
00:07:43.500 ruling kingdoms by just cause manipulations and just-
00:07:46.620 They're more likely to wage war, women queens.
00:07:49.240 Men kill each other over anything, bro.
00:07:50.620 No, no, no.
00:07:51.220 I'm talking about-
00:07:52.080 You've got people-
00:07:52.760 No, no.
00:07:53.180 Men will kill each other over, oh, I want this piece of land.
00:07:57.300 Like, men kill each other over anything.
00:07:58.840 So when people bring-
00:07:59.760 I'm talking about kingdoms, bro.
00:08:01.400 I'm talking about women actually-
00:08:02.780 Yeah, it's even kingdoms.
00:08:03.560 Men kill each-
00:08:04.340 Men invade kingdoms just to go and steal iron.
00:08:07.340 Just to go and steal stone.
00:08:09.100 Like, literally any-
00:08:10.720 That's not-
00:08:11.680 I just think that's not fair.
00:08:12.860 No, no.
00:08:13.320 I get what you're saying, but what I'm saying is that, though.
00:08:15.620 But you can't say you can't seek advice from your wife.
00:08:19.180 I think if you trust her, that's why you picked her to be your wife, then you should be able to, in comfort, consult with her.
00:08:25.400 No one is saying you shouldn't get advice.
00:08:27.380 What I was saying is like-
00:08:28.620 Well-
00:08:29.240 She said you shouldn't.
00:08:31.100 She said you shouldn't get advice from your wife.
00:08:32.600 And I'm saying that.
00:08:33.140 You picked her to be your wife for a reason.
00:08:34.760 So whatever that reason is, you should be able to go to her like, listen, I want to run the spy quickly.
00:08:37.980 What do you think?
00:08:39.860 I just think of a boss-employee relationship.
00:08:43.200 Like, you might consult the employee, but it's still like, is your boss really coming to you like that?
00:08:50.700 No, but your partner is not necessarily your employee, I don't think.
00:08:54.820 Well, when you say partner, that's an egalitarian model.
00:08:57.860 Well, feminists have like ruined our language, and once you hear it, you can't unhear it.
00:09:01.260 Because what does partner, like, what does that symbolize?
00:09:04.660 Partnership.
00:09:05.380 What does that mean?
00:09:06.600 Partnership doesn't mean you have to be equal, but you've got to be even.
00:09:09.540 Look, I think that's a big, I think there's a difference between being even and being equal.
00:09:12.980 I don't think-
00:09:13.880 Okay, all right.
00:09:14.580 I think the men should be superior, and the women are below them.
00:09:18.020 I mean, that could work, but they have to be, it has to be even.
00:09:22.580 Their respect has to be even.
00:09:23.460 They have to be equal.
00:09:24.420 For example, like our fingers-
00:09:25.620 What do you mean even?
00:09:26.620 I would-
00:09:27.620 Okay, sorry, go ahead, go ahead.
00:09:28.860 Look at our hands, for example, right?
00:09:30.100 All our fingers, right?
00:09:31.240 They're all different sizes, but they're all equally respected.
00:09:35.460 If someone came and said, which finger would you want to lose?
00:09:37.380 You said none, but they're not even, are they?
00:09:39.480 They all work together.
00:09:40.560 They all work together, and that's what I'm trying to explain.