Pearl Says This About Modern Women
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about cheating in relationships and how to deal with cheating in a relationship. We also talk about why women cheat and what to do if your partner cheats on you and what you should do about it.
Transcript
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Yeah, but I think a lot of times as women, we just think we're the hot shit.
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And I just think we could use a little bit of humility and understanding.
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Men are, look at, what if men left us every time we sought attention from other men?
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Because how did we, like, to me, those are the same.
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Seeking attention from another guy is the same as getting sex from another girl.
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It's something that is hard for anyone to really get over.
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Like, how often do women go out in provocative clothes in a relationship?
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How often do women go out to a club in a relationship?
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My whole point is, men are programmed to sleep with anything.
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It's just the sex was there, or maybe it was you.
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And, you know, I just think it's about the kids.
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Regardless, even if you think that you're doing the best thing.
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But it's not something that every woman can accept.
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It would be so much easier to just accept being treated.
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Wouldn't it be easier to just accept it might happen?
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Because otherwise you're going to be at his phone, checking where he's doing.
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I feel like within the first year of a relationship, a man is tempted to cheat.
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Just to make sure that that girl is the girl that he wants to be with.
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But that's just my mentality of thinking of the relationship-wise.
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I always feel like it happens within the first year.
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And if it happens after the first year, yeah, there's something wrong with the woman.
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There's something wrong within the relationship.
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I just think sometimes when like a hoe is there and willing,
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I mean, I wouldn't say if a man cheats, then there's something wrong with the woman.
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Sometimes men cheat because they're just depressed.
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Yeah, I mean, some men cheat because they just don't feel...
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But then would you not class that as something as the woman is not giving him?
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Because why is your man depressed and you don't know your man is depressed
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Have you ever flirted with another guy in a relationship while you're in a relationship?
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Well, from when you're saying that putting certain pictures up
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is basically cheating, then I would have to say yeah.
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then it means I'm not getting attention from my man.
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If you're in a relationship, it's something that your man should be giving you anyway.
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And if he's not giving it to you, you're going to seek it elsewhere.
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Do you think men should break up with women that do that?
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Because I think if your woman cheats on you, to me it's done.
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But again, it depends on her definition of cheating.
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If it's like sexual, if she has sex with another man.
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I can work out a picture, but I can't work out her sex with another man.
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It's always very weird because if you think about it,
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if your woman is doing something that is affecting the relationship
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and you ask her to stop and she doesn't stop it immediately,
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I think some people have been doing that for since they were like 14.
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It's not even like they're doing it for attention anymore.
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Yeah, it's become something that they've been doing all their lives.
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This is what, I think women like got into therapy to like control men.
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Yeah, and I think the women will send the men to therapy to just confuse them.
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I'm sure there's like maybe it helped you personally.
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Well, I'm not, again, I'm not talking about you.
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But I think in general, when I hear the word trauma, when I hear the word therapy,
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I think women should, or men really shouldn't get like advice and like guidance from women.
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But I think that's your wife or your girlfriend's job.
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No, I think the women should be guided by the men.
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I think like that goes back to the, we're equal model.
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I think like, because the thing is that what they would do, and this happens in a lot of
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Christian like churches as they infiltrated the churches in the early, the late 1800s,
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early 1900s, and basically like weaponized scripture and like rewrote scripture to like
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That's why they'll be like submit to each other, all that bullshit.
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I was in Ghana holiday and actually found out the Ashanti tribe, actually the queen,
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like the king has to go to the queen for advice.
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So they make sure that the queen is older than the king and actually they have to be related.
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So in Ashanti tribe, your wife can't be your queen.
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It has to be your older sister or your auntie, someone that you can actually take advice from.
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Do you think tribes like that, like typically have stood the test of time across the world?
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Where, I mean, with their habitat and how their culturally maneuvers help them, I mean, they
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No, no, I'm saying like, like, do you think it's common for female-led societies to stand
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No, it's not a female-led, it's not a female-led society.
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Like if, let's say, another tribe came to invade, he, the king doesn't take advice from anyone
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But the queen is older than the king, so they've lived longer.
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And I guess they have more, I don't know, what women have, special stuff to women.
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So the king has like, if there's an invasion, the king doesn't-
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Consult his generals, he goes to consult a woman.
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He does consult with generals, but to make certain moves, the only person that can, that
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I think he just goes to, in private to go and sleep with her, bro.
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You can't, your wife is no, your wife is no queen if you are a king in Ashanti tribe.
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I just, I just know typically tribes that get wisdom from women haven't stood the test
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But what I'm trying to say is we've seen women tear down kingdoms.
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If they were not smart there, then they wouldn't be able to manipulate kings to kill each
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If you go back to Asian days, you've got women actually finesse, maneuvering, and literally
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ruling kingdoms by just cause manipulations and just-
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Men will kill each other over, oh, I want this piece of land.
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I get what you're saying, but what I'm saying is that, though.
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But you can't say you can't seek advice from your wife.
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I think if you trust her, that's why you picked her to be your wife, then you should be able to, in comfort, consult with her.
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She said you shouldn't get advice from your wife.
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So whatever that reason is, you should be able to go to her like, listen, I want to run the spy quickly.
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Like, you might consult the employee, but it's still like, is your boss really coming to you like that?
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No, but your partner is not necessarily your employee, I don't think.
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Well, when you say partner, that's an egalitarian model.
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Well, feminists have like ruined our language, and once you hear it, you can't unhear it.
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Because what does partner, like, what does that symbolize?
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Partnership doesn't mean you have to be equal, but you've got to be even.
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Look, I think that's a big, I think there's a difference between being even and being equal.
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I think the men should be superior, and the women are below them.
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I mean, that could work, but they have to be, it has to be even.
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They're all different sizes, but they're all equally respected.
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If someone came and said, which finger would you want to lose?
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They all work together, and that's what I'm trying to explain.